Self-judgment is sneaky. It doesn’t always sound like “I’m terrible.” Sometimes it sounds like, “Why can’t I get it together?” or “I should be better than this.”
In this episode, I’m sharing the deeply personal story of how self-judgment quietly ran my life for 30 years—fueling anxiety, depression, an eating disorder, addiction, and constant conflict in my home. I truly believed my harsh thoughts about myself were facts. Universal truth. Just who I was.
It wasn’t until a life-changing coaching experience at a retreat that I began to see how self-judgment was keeping me stuck—and how it was impacting my relationship with my autistic son in ways I didn’t even realize.
This episode goes far beyond “just be nice to yourself.” We break down:
- What self-judgment actually is (it’s more than negative self-talk)
- How self-judgement keeps you stuck
- How judging your feelings creates an exhausting emotional loop
- Why self-judgment is like pressing the gas and brake at the same time
- The surprising connection between judging yourself and judging others
- The moment that changed everything in my family
You’ll also learn the simple awareness exercise I give my clients to uncover just how often self-judgment is running in the background—and how to begin interrupting the pattern.
If you’ve ever wondered:
- Why you feel stuck no matter how hard you try
- Why you’re so hard on yourself
- Why confidence feels out of reach
- Or why your relationships feel tense or heavy
This episode is for you.
(Pro tip: Skip the first 3 minutes of the first video and watch at 1.5x speed 😉 The content will change your life.)
The longest relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.
Let’s start taking better care of it.
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