In this week's episode, Braden and Matt discuss the importance of doing accountability properly so that it can be a powerful tool in breaking free from a porn addiction! They'll work through four pro-tips for how to do powerful accountability well.
Here is a brief summary of the episode.
Accountability is key if we want freedom!
We need accountability to move towards healing and away from addiction. The shame and lies that porn use breeds work against us by keeping us from deep relationships with others. Powerful accountability is how we move away from isolation so that we surround ourselves with a community that helps us break the chains of addiction.
One of the reasons we become frustrated with accountability is that we look for the wrong people to help us. This usually occurs when we find an accountability partner who is also struggling with porn. This is a problem because the fellow 'struggler' doesn't have firsthand knowledge about how to break free, so they can't help us in making a game-plan towards getting porn out of our lives. We need to find someone who is free from addiction because they know what it takes to get there, having already gone on their own journey to healing and freedom. We need to find a model - someone who is free that we want to become like!
Tip # 2: Empty the Suitcase
Tip #3: Use Someone Else's Muscles!
When we have porn in our lives, the very real temptation is to try and deal with it on our own. We want to beat the addiction ourselves instead of exposing it and bringing other people in to our lives to help us. But the truth is, we don't have the strength to overcome it on our own. Addiction isn't something that we can beat on our own because that is not the way that God designed healing. Healing is a relationship-based process. Inviting others into the journey and leaning on God to get porn out of our lives are absolute necessities. We can't do it alone!
Tip #4: Partner with Software
Software is intended to be a tool used with powerful accountability. It is important as it gets us in the game. It gets you started on your journey to freedom and makes access to porn more difficult. It creates a physical and mental obstacle that slows down our thoughts at a time when our emotions are taking over. Establish in your thinking to view accountability software as a partner in your journey, rather than an obstacle that you're going to get around. It represents a choice that you are making to get help, to get healing, and to get porn out of your life. Determine in your mind that when you see the app on your device, it triggers a thought in your mind that says 'I am getting free, this reminded me that I need to go do...(something else)." It is also great for helping your accountability partner know what you are looking at and helps them understand your patterns.
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Next week, Matt and Braden will invite their first guest onto the show! Mary Derkson shares the unique experiences she encountered as a woman finally confessing a secret porn addiction.
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