Pod Guide:
Four Quarters:
FIRST: What your anger is really saying (awareness)
SECOND: Winning in the Moments of Anger (self-control)
THIRD: 5-Steps to process anger in a healthy way
FOURTH: Living free by Giving and Receiving Grace
Quarter 1: What Your Anger Is Really Saying (Awareness)
- Anger is not random—it’s revealing something deeper.
- What if your anger isn’t the problem—but your failure to understand it is?
- Anger is often a secondary emotion (fear, shame, grief, exhaustion)
- Sometimes it’s spiritual… sometimes it’s physiological (HALT: hungry, angry, lonely, tired)
Action Ideas
- Name It Before You Act
- Track Your Triggers for 1 Week
- Look for patterns: same people, same situations, same insecurities
Quarter 2: Winning the Moment (Self-Control)
- The battle is won in the space between stimulus and response
- “Righteous anger” is often disguised pride
- You are responsible for your response, no matter what was done to you
Action Ideas
- Practice the Pause Rule
- Use a Reset Phrase
- Delay Important Conversations
Quarter 3: Processing Anger the Right Way (Formation)
The 5-Step Anger Process (this is your action step for this quarter - learn this)
1. Pause it
“I’m getting angry—don’t react yet.”
2. Name It
“What am I actually feeling underneath this?”
3. Find it (the root of the issue for you)
Pride? Shame? Fear?
4. Move It (your body)
Walk, lift, breathe—get it out of your body
5. Choose it (your next step)
Let it go, address it, set a boundary, or forgive
Quarter 4: Living Free by Giving and Receiving Grace
- Anger is a signal, not a master
- Your anger will either become a weapon that wounds others—or a tool that forces you to transform.
- Scorekeeping creates a prison
- Grace breaks the cycle of resentment
Action Ideas
- Release One Person This Week
- Replace Scorekeeping with Gratitude
- Pray for the Person You’re Angry With