Listen to Bonnie Ragan share her experience of working through betrayal trauma in her life and marriage so that she can now lead other wives and through their husband's lustful behaviour.
There is a process of grief that a women will usually experience when finding out she's gotten 'Betrayal Trauma' stemming from her husband's porn use. Knowing the process can put her more at ease with what she's feeling and the questions she's asking herself. A wife will almost always feel that she is not good enough for her husband when finding out he's been engaging in sexual outlets outside of the marriage covenant.
You have to TALK!
When the husband is the one with the issue, it's easy for everyone to think he needs to work on things, but ignore the pain that the wife is experiencing from the sexual betrayal. Wives, find someone trustworthy to talk to. They don't have to have gone through the same trauma, though it might be advantageous to you if they have. Don't bottle it up. Lean into the Lord and talk to Him about your feelings as well. Tell Him all of your feelings and thoughts - no matter how irrational or crazy they may seem.
There is hope!
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Next week, Matt and Braden share the not-so-dirty details of what God deems 'good' in the marriage bed.
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