WEBVTT

NOTE
This file was generated by Descript 

00:00:00.101 --> 00:00:03.551
Joe: The root of this physical
urge is a spiritual one.

00:00:03.719 --> 00:00:07.953
The longing for an end to duality,
a return to the state of wholeness.

00:00:08.070 --> 00:00:12.780
Sexual union is the closest you can get
to this state on the physical level.

00:00:12.941 --> 00:00:16.391
This is why it is the most
deeply satisfying experience

00:00:16.661 --> 00:00:18.281
the physical realm can offer.

00:00:18.486 --> 00:00:22.116
But sexual union is no more
than a fleeting glimpse of

00:00:22.116 --> 00:00:24.326
wholeness, an instant of bliss.

00:00:24.489 --> 00:00:28.389
As long as it is unconsciously
sought as a means of salvation,

00:00:28.617 --> 00:00:30.567
you are seeking the end of duality.

00:00:31.077 --> 00:00:33.747
On the level of form
where it cannot be found.

00:00:34.006 --> 00:00:36.316
You were given a tantalizing
glimpse of heaven.

00:00:36.532 --> 00:00:38.272
But you are not allowed to dwell there.

00:00:38.446 --> 00:00:40.846
And you find yourself
again in a separate body.

00:00:40.987 --> 00:00:43.477
That's from Eckhart Tolle
from The Power of Now.

00:00:43.615 --> 00:00:48.295
I've always had the sense when it
comes to sex, that it's more than just.

00:00:48.955 --> 00:00:51.325
A couple of animals, rotting.

00:00:51.467 --> 00:00:53.807
They always seem to be
a lot more going on.

00:00:54.257 --> 00:00:55.667
In that realm for me.

00:00:55.797 --> 00:00:56.997
And I do think.

00:00:57.093 --> 00:00:58.743
It is a sense of oneness.

00:00:58.819 --> 00:01:00.529
The self dropping away.

00:01:00.650 --> 00:01:03.118
a merging with another person.

00:01:03.258 --> 00:01:07.618
A deep connection that I really
haven't found in any other way.

00:01:07.824 --> 00:01:09.354
But also maybe I'm wrong.

00:01:09.474 --> 00:01:15.816
Maybe I'm putting too much on sex, and it
is just a physical act with no meaning.

00:01:15.995 --> 00:01:19.295
But when I found this piece of
writing, it really spoke to me.

00:01:19.459 --> 00:01:20.059
About.

00:01:20.193 --> 00:01:21.453
My experience.

00:01:21.550 --> 00:01:22.300
Have sex.

00:01:22.507 --> 00:01:26.347
But as he says, it's no more than
a fleeting glimpse of wholeness.

00:01:26.489 --> 00:01:27.689
An incident of bliss.

00:01:27.803 --> 00:01:29.663
There's a much greater oneness.

00:01:29.895 --> 00:01:31.395
That's quite hard to talk about.

00:01:31.450 --> 00:01:34.540
The can be referred to as non-duality.

00:01:34.660 --> 00:01:36.917
A sense of nothing being separate.

00:01:37.072 --> 00:01:39.097
A sense of only the world.

00:01:39.177 --> 00:01:42.526
The entire world existing,
in this present moment.

00:01:42.560 --> 00:01:45.800
Which is really what the book,
The Power of Now is all about.

00:01:45.800 --> 00:01:47.360
And it is a book I've re-read.

00:01:47.542 --> 00:01:49.072
About four times now.

00:01:49.213 --> 00:01:51.703
He does a good job of
talking about something.

00:01:51.777 --> 00:01:53.607
That's very hard to put into words.

00:01:53.731 --> 00:01:56.611
But I really believe from
my own experience that.

00:01:56.703 --> 00:01:57.783
It's duality.

00:01:57.933 --> 00:01:59.103
That is the illusion.

00:01:59.223 --> 00:02:00.333
And it's oneness.

00:02:00.483 --> 00:02:01.473
That is the truth.

00:02:01.644 --> 00:02:04.674
So all the separateness and loneliness.

00:02:04.812 --> 00:02:06.732
And apartness that I feel.

00:02:06.884 --> 00:02:08.354
It's actually an illusion.

00:02:08.442 --> 00:02:12.866
And that brief glimpse of heaven
that can happen during sex.

00:02:12.949 --> 00:02:15.169
It's actually a glimpse of reality.

00:02:15.302 --> 00:02:17.582
It's actually breaking
out of the illusion.

00:02:17.695 --> 00:02:22.945
But I know for myself, it can become
obsessive to pursue those moments.

00:02:23.040 --> 00:02:26.761
And then I head into something
which is more like addiction.

00:02:26.901 --> 00:02:30.381
And at that point, I'm even
further away from the oneness.

00:02:30.579 --> 00:02:32.949
That I'm seeking than I ever was before.

00:02:33.094 --> 00:02:34.864
I think there's an incredible power

00:02:35.057 --> 00:02:36.587
around sex and love.

00:02:36.732 --> 00:02:39.942
And I think that I'm
someone who's been sold.

00:02:40.030 --> 00:02:42.390
a crock, in terms of romanticism.

00:02:42.483 --> 00:02:43.863
And the idea that.

00:02:43.903 --> 00:02:45.763
The right person will complete me.

00:02:45.860 --> 00:02:46.970
Make me feel whole.

00:02:47.300 --> 00:02:48.560
And resolve everything.

00:02:48.705 --> 00:02:51.135
So it's this tricky balance for me of.

00:02:51.287 --> 00:02:53.687
Seeing the spirituality in six.

00:02:53.820 --> 00:02:57.839
But realizing that for me,
It's my spiritual life.

00:02:57.869 --> 00:03:01.079
That's going to give me that
sense of wholeness and oneness

00:03:01.109 --> 00:03:02.789
and connection with the universe.

00:03:02.874 --> 00:03:04.704
And if I keep trying to find it.

00:03:04.763 --> 00:03:06.653
In fleeting moments of place.

00:03:06.720 --> 00:03:08.070
I'm only gonna end up.

00:03:08.186 --> 00:03:09.146
On satisfied.

00:03:09.232 --> 00:03:11.782
I know what it is to go towards oneness.

00:03:11.901 --> 00:03:12.951
It's not something.

00:03:13.311 --> 00:03:15.021
It's easy for me to explain.

00:03:15.155 --> 00:03:16.685
But I know what it feels like.

00:03:16.800 --> 00:03:21.513
And for me, it's really about saying
through the illusions and seeing through.

00:03:21.754 --> 00:03:24.363
150 years of romanticism.

00:03:24.414 --> 00:03:27.294
And seeing through
Hollywood and advertising.

00:03:27.465 --> 00:03:28.695
And everything that's.

00:03:28.805 --> 00:03:30.545
Gave me to believe that.

00:03:30.655 --> 00:03:32.845
The only way to find happiness.

00:03:32.981 --> 00:03:33.881
And contentment.

00:03:34.012 --> 00:03:35.662
Is to find the one.

00:03:35.807 --> 00:03:37.187
But the reality is.

00:03:37.328 --> 00:03:39.637
I'm the one pub always been looking for.

00:03:39.799 --> 00:03:42.259
And home has always been right here.

00:03:42.427 --> 00:03:44.707
And when I've looked for now, the places.

00:03:44.763 --> 00:03:46.263
Other than deep down within.

00:03:46.359 --> 00:03:47.349
It's caused me.

00:03:47.476 --> 00:03:48.526
So much pain.

00:03:48.666 --> 00:03:52.536
Really the majority of pain I've had
in my life has been in this area.

00:03:52.625 --> 00:03:54.065
But the heart is a bit high too.

00:03:54.167 --> 00:03:58.337
I guess for me, developing a spiritual
life is about reassessing everything.

00:03:58.533 --> 00:04:00.033
Starting from scratch.

00:04:00.259 --> 00:04:01.909
And a rating like this really.

00:04:02.118 --> 00:04:05.118
Really makes me question a lot of
things that I took for granted.

00:04:05.472 --> 00:04:07.452
But also explain some things to me.

00:04:07.696 --> 00:04:11.356
Like, why have always seen sex
is so profound and meaningful.

00:04:11.519 --> 00:04:14.519
When I know to a lot of
people, it's just a bit of fun.

00:04:14.626 --> 00:04:16.036
And it's really no big deal.

00:04:16.159 --> 00:04:19.849
For me, I have unconsciously
sold it as a means of salvation.

00:04:20.000 --> 00:04:20.900
And I really hope.

00:04:21.046 --> 00:04:23.356
That I can start looking somewhere else.

00:04:23.469 --> 00:04:24.939
Probably deep down within.

00:04:25.092 --> 00:04:26.832
For that feeling of okayness.

00:04:26.945 --> 00:04:28.773
Connection oneness.

00:04:28.944 --> 00:04:29.724
And hopefully.

00:04:30.144 --> 00:04:30.834
Peace of mind.