1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,570 Carol Cox: This is an excellent roundtable discussion 2 00:00:02,570 --> 00:00:04,880 all about leading with story in your talks, 3 00:00:04,880 --> 00:00:07,250 both in your content and in your delivery. 4 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:09,230 On this episode of the Speaking Your Brand 5 00:00:09,230 --> 00:00:16,060 podcast. More and more women are making an 6 00:00:16,060 --> 00:00:18,760 impact by starting businesses, running for 7 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:21,640 office and speaking up for what matters. 8 00:00:21,670 --> 00:00:23,920 With my background as a TV political 9 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:26,770 analyst, entrepreneur and speaker, I 10 00:00:26,770 --> 00:00:29,260 interview and coach purpose driven women to 11 00:00:29,260 --> 00:00:31,750 shape their brands, grow their companies, 12 00:00:31,750 --> 00:00:34,390 and become recognized as influencers in 13 00:00:34,390 --> 00:00:37,750 their field. This is speaking your brand, 14 00:00:37,750 --> 00:00:40,240 your place to learn how to persuasively 15 00:00:40,240 --> 00:00:43,630 communicate your message to your audience. 16 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,070 Diane Diaz: Hi there and welcome to backstage with 17 00:00:48,070 --> 00:00:49,750 Speaking of Brand, or I should say, welcome 18 00:00:49,750 --> 00:00:52,030 back to backstage with Speaking of Brand. 19 00:00:52,060 --> 00:00:54,580 I'm Diane Diaz and I am lead speaking coach 20 00:00:54,580 --> 00:00:55,750 at Speaking Your Brand. 21 00:00:55,780 --> 00:00:59,470 I am thrilled to bring you today three of 22 00:00:59,470 --> 00:01:02,470 the women who attended our live in-person 23 00:01:02,470 --> 00:01:04,420 speaking retreat here in Orlando back in 24 00:01:04,420 --> 00:01:08,050 February. And during these three days, they 25 00:01:08,050 --> 00:01:11,500 went through trainings, group activities and 26 00:01:11,500 --> 00:01:13,180 filming their speaking engagements or 27 00:01:13,180 --> 00:01:15,460 speaking segments on our stage. 28 00:01:15,460 --> 00:01:18,610 And they all really, really delivered. 29 00:01:18,610 --> 00:01:20,470 And it was amazing to see how much they grew 30 00:01:20,470 --> 00:01:22,720 over the three days to the final delivery of 31 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:23,860 those segments of their talks. 32 00:01:23,860 --> 00:01:25,120 They did amazing. 33 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:27,310 So today we are going to chat with them 34 00:01:27,310 --> 00:01:29,200 about why they decided to attend the 35 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,990 retreat, how they used storytelling in their 36 00:01:31,990 --> 00:01:35,200 talks using the stage and body movement, 37 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,420 which is part of active storytelling and 38 00:01:37,420 --> 00:01:39,040 engaging storytelling. And then what it was 39 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:42,580 like to practice their talks and get filmed. 40 00:01:42,580 --> 00:01:45,550 So let me introduce you to these wonderful 41 00:01:45,550 --> 00:01:46,780 women that we have here today. 42 00:01:46,780 --> 00:01:50,350 So we have Darcy Foster, Danny Einsohn, and 43 00:01:50,350 --> 00:01:51,970 Terri Reuter. 44 00:01:51,970 --> 00:01:53,890 I think I'm saying that correctly, I hope 45 00:01:54,310 --> 00:01:57,490 so. Darci is an interior designer and a 46 00:01:57,490 --> 00:01:59,560 women's workshop facilitator for women who 47 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:01,810 are making big life shifts, both 48 00:02:01,810 --> 00:02:03,430 professionally and personally. 49 00:02:03,430 --> 00:02:06,850 Dani is a certified women's empowerment Life 50 00:02:06,850 --> 00:02:08,470 coach who works with women to help them 51 00:02:08,470 --> 00:02:11,290 pursue their dreams and goals, and Teri is 52 00:02:11,290 --> 00:02:13,690 an executive coach, wellbeing counselor, and 53 00:02:13,690 --> 00:02:16,510 learning experience facilitator, and a 54 00:02:16,510 --> 00:02:18,730 former Jazzercise instructor, which is fun. 55 00:02:18,730 --> 00:02:21,040 So we'll talk a little bit about that later. 56 00:02:21,550 --> 00:02:24,670 Um, so let me get started first with you, 57 00:02:24,670 --> 00:02:28,270 Teri. Uh, we'll start by just talking about 58 00:02:28,270 --> 00:02:30,250 why you decided to attend the in-person 59 00:02:30,250 --> 00:02:32,080 retreat in February. What brought you to 60 00:02:32,080 --> 00:02:34,420 that decision, and what were you hoping to 61 00:02:34,420 --> 00:02:35,440 get from that? 62 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,480 From that, uh, coming to the retreat. 63 00:02:37,660 --> 00:02:40,210 Teri Reuter: So what I was hoping to get is what I got. 64 00:02:40,210 --> 00:02:43,690 I really wanted to do something in 2024 that 65 00:02:43,690 --> 00:02:45,640 was going to be uncomfortable for me. 66 00:02:46,780 --> 00:02:48,610 So, you know, every year for my own 67 00:02:48,610 --> 00:02:50,650 development, especially being a coach, I 68 00:02:50,650 --> 00:02:52,060 feel like I have to walk the walk. 69 00:02:52,060 --> 00:02:55,150 I try to do something to pursue that. 70 00:02:55,150 --> 00:02:58,300 And I had done coaching with you and Carol a 71 00:02:58,300 --> 00:03:00,520 couple of years ago, and then this year I 72 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:03,460 was looking for something and I wanted to, 73 00:03:03,460 --> 00:03:06,490 um, challenge myself. 74 00:03:06,490 --> 00:03:08,980 Carol and you had talked about the idea of 75 00:03:08,980 --> 00:03:10,810 how many women's voices we have in our 76 00:03:10,810 --> 00:03:14,020 lives. And I realized as a Jazzercise 77 00:03:14,020 --> 00:03:16,630 instructor, current, although actually, I 78 00:03:16,630 --> 00:03:19,150 found that my music library didn't have that 79 00:03:19,150 --> 00:03:20,290 many female artists. 80 00:03:20,290 --> 00:03:22,960 And on my bookshelves, while I have a lot of 81 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:25,420 women who've written fiction that I've read, 82 00:03:25,450 --> 00:03:27,070 a lot of the business books weren't women, 83 00:03:27,070 --> 00:03:30,700 and I work primarily with men, and I really 84 00:03:30,700 --> 00:03:33,130 wanted to do something that I was going to 85 00:03:33,130 --> 00:03:34,480 be surrounded with women's voices. 86 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:38,470 I thought the atmosphere would be, um, safe, 87 00:03:38,470 --> 00:03:40,840 maybe helpful to get to learn from them and 88 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:42,100 to feel good about something I was 89 00:03:42,100 --> 00:03:44,740 uncomfortable with and everyone delivered in 90 00:03:44,740 --> 00:03:45,880 such an amazing way. 91 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:49,210 It was. It was, I think, just hearing from 92 00:03:49,210 --> 00:03:51,430 everybody else and hearing their stories. 93 00:03:51,790 --> 00:03:54,340 Uh, let me try out some things that were 94 00:03:54,340 --> 00:03:56,950 uncomfortable. So thank you to all of you. 95 00:03:57,670 --> 00:03:59,020 Diane Diaz: Oh, I love that, Teri. 96 00:03:59,020 --> 00:04:00,940 I love that idea of making yourself 97 00:04:00,940 --> 00:04:02,860 uncomfortable, getting outside your comfort 98 00:04:02,860 --> 00:04:05,920 zone and trying something that's new and 99 00:04:05,920 --> 00:04:08,260 different. And I think you probably got that 100 00:04:08,260 --> 00:04:10,120 too, with the improv that we did. 101 00:04:10,120 --> 00:04:12,580 So that might have I mean, that pushes me 102 00:04:12,580 --> 00:04:14,230 outside my comfort zone every time I do it, 103 00:04:14,230 --> 00:04:16,600 because I'm not the biggest fan, but so 104 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:17,740 thank you for sharing that. 105 00:04:17,740 --> 00:04:20,380 And by the way, I just want to add anybody 106 00:04:20,380 --> 00:04:21,970 who's watching this live. 107 00:04:21,970 --> 00:04:24,160 If you're watching on our YouTube channel on 108 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:26,830 LinkedIn, go ahead and pop your questions 109 00:04:26,830 --> 00:04:29,710 there into the comments, and we'll try to 110 00:04:29,710 --> 00:04:30,940 get some of those answered too. 111 00:04:30,970 --> 00:04:33,340 If you have any questions for our women here 112 00:04:33,340 --> 00:04:35,200 today, let us know. 113 00:04:35,380 --> 00:04:38,650 All right. So, Darci, now you and I worked 114 00:04:38,650 --> 00:04:40,810 together first in a strategy session, which 115 00:04:40,810 --> 00:04:42,580 was interesting, what we worked on. 116 00:04:42,580 --> 00:04:44,110 You can maybe talk a little bit about that, 117 00:04:44,110 --> 00:04:46,660 but then you join the Thought Leader Academy 118 00:04:46,660 --> 00:04:48,700 and you were all in. 119 00:04:48,700 --> 00:04:51,070 So you then signed up for the retreat. 120 00:04:51,070 --> 00:04:54,190 What led that to that decision for you to 121 00:04:54,190 --> 00:04:56,110 come to the retreat? And what was your 122 00:04:56,110 --> 00:04:57,880 experience like at the retreat? 123 00:04:58,390 --> 00:05:01,540 Darci Foshay: Well, I have to say that I think that my real 124 00:05:01,540 --> 00:05:04,780 reason for coming is all about like my 125 00:05:04,780 --> 00:05:06,190 personal enrichment. 126 00:05:06,190 --> 00:05:09,400 And, um, like Terry said, doing things 127 00:05:09,400 --> 00:05:11,050 outside of your comfort zone. 128 00:05:11,050 --> 00:05:13,840 And that's what my that's what I'm all. 129 00:05:13,980 --> 00:05:16,650 About. I'm all about women embracing change 130 00:05:16,650 --> 00:05:19,410 and thriving, especially in midlife. 131 00:05:19,410 --> 00:05:21,900 And for me, this was something that thought 132 00:05:21,900 --> 00:05:24,390 Leader Academy was just wonderful. 133 00:05:24,390 --> 00:05:26,730 I loved every minute of it, and so it was a 134 00:05:26,730 --> 00:05:30,330 natural progression for me to go to the 135 00:05:30,330 --> 00:05:32,970 retreat, and I wanted to be in person 136 00:05:32,970 --> 00:05:35,790 because the Thought Leader Academy was via 137 00:05:35,790 --> 00:05:37,170 zoom, and I loved it. 138 00:05:37,170 --> 00:05:40,320 But I did want to be in person to meet other 139 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:41,850 women that are going through similar 140 00:05:41,850 --> 00:05:43,980 situations that I'm going through. 141 00:05:43,980 --> 00:05:49,110 And, um, and I just found it wonderful 142 00:05:49,110 --> 00:05:50,280 personal enrichment. 143 00:05:50,280 --> 00:05:52,410 I just enjoyed every single minute of it. 144 00:05:52,410 --> 00:05:54,090 Enjoyed everybody that I met. 145 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:56,520 We've now made this text ring called The 146 00:05:56,520 --> 00:06:01,110 Sisterhood, and I just feel so lucky, lucky 147 00:06:01,110 --> 00:06:02,700 to have been involved in that. 148 00:06:03,390 --> 00:06:05,400 Diane Diaz: Now I'm so happy to hear that, Darci. 149 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:07,410 And, you know, I'm glad you mentioned the 150 00:06:07,410 --> 00:06:09,750 in-person component because yes, we do a lot 151 00:06:09,750 --> 00:06:11,670 of of course, the Thought Leader Academy is 152 00:06:11,670 --> 00:06:13,500 virtual online on zoom. 153 00:06:13,500 --> 00:06:15,390 And we do a lot of that stuff now because, 154 00:06:15,390 --> 00:06:16,830 you know, since the pandemic, we've all 155 00:06:16,830 --> 00:06:17,940 become very virtual. 156 00:06:17,940 --> 00:06:19,980 But it's so nice to be able to go to things 157 00:06:19,980 --> 00:06:22,110 in person and make those human connections, 158 00:06:22,110 --> 00:06:26,340 which as speakers, is why we're doing these 159 00:06:26,340 --> 00:06:28,710 speaking engagements on stages, in person, 160 00:06:28,710 --> 00:06:31,230 in front of people live, because there's 161 00:06:31,230 --> 00:06:33,150 definitely a deeper connection that can be 162 00:06:33,150 --> 00:06:34,830 made when you're in person and you can see 163 00:06:34,830 --> 00:06:37,410 facial expressions, you can react to what 164 00:06:37,410 --> 00:06:38,670 people are saying. 165 00:06:38,670 --> 00:06:41,010 You can engage with people more personally. 166 00:06:41,010 --> 00:06:42,810 So I'm glad that you brought that up because 167 00:06:42,810 --> 00:06:45,030 it's a it's a really good point. 168 00:06:45,300 --> 00:06:48,360 Um, and so, Dani, for you now, you told a 169 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:51,840 really powerful story at our retreat. 170 00:06:51,840 --> 00:06:55,380 And I think you your story really hit 171 00:06:55,380 --> 00:06:57,720 everybody. It was I mean, it was incredibly 172 00:06:57,720 --> 00:06:59,400 powerful and meaningful. 173 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:01,590 And so we'll talk a little bit more about 174 00:07:01,590 --> 00:07:04,860 that in a bit. But what led to your decision 175 00:07:04,860 --> 00:07:06,990 to attend the retreat and what were you 176 00:07:06,990 --> 00:07:09,810 hoping to find from that experience? 177 00:07:09,810 --> 00:07:13,590 Dani Einsohn: So yeah, as you mentioned, I have this story 178 00:07:13,590 --> 00:07:16,320 and it's what prompted me to go into 179 00:07:16,320 --> 00:07:19,800 coaching, um, in this third third of my 180 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:23,010 life. Uh, you know, kind of at a late date. 181 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:25,440 Um. I. 182 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:29,160 When I started my coaching business, I had a 183 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:32,010 business coach and he heard my story and he 184 00:07:32,010 --> 00:07:33,480 said, you have to tell this story. 185 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:34,770 It's very important. 186 00:07:34,770 --> 00:07:36,870 Go out there and tell your story. 187 00:07:36,870 --> 00:07:39,780 So I had a couple of opportunities through 188 00:07:39,780 --> 00:07:42,600 women's networking groups here locally where 189 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:48,060 I got to tell the story, and I connected so 190 00:07:48,060 --> 00:07:50,310 much with the audience, or they connected 191 00:07:50,310 --> 00:07:55,260 with me. And, um, it was such a powerful 192 00:07:55,260 --> 00:07:59,700 experience to be seen, to be heard, to have 193 00:07:59,700 --> 00:08:02,430 them recognize themselves in my story. 194 00:08:02,430 --> 00:08:08,250 So I came running home and I went back to my 195 00:08:08,250 --> 00:08:10,650 coach after one of these experiences, and I 196 00:08:10,650 --> 00:08:12,960 said, I think I want to do this every day 197 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:14,400 for the rest of my life. 198 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:17,790 And she said, okay, in true coach like form, 199 00:08:17,790 --> 00:08:19,470 how are you going to make that happen? 200 00:08:19,470 --> 00:08:21,420 And I said, I need a speaking coach. 201 00:08:21,420 --> 00:08:23,670 And she said, I have one for you. 202 00:08:24,150 --> 00:08:26,520 So she introduced me to Carol and I heard 203 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:29,100 about the retreat, which was just coming up, 204 00:08:29,100 --> 00:08:31,890 and I already had the basis of the talk 205 00:08:31,890 --> 00:08:34,860 down. Um, but I wanted to polish it. 206 00:08:34,860 --> 00:08:38,520 I wanted to make sure that because it's such 207 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:41,850 an intimate, um, a little bit, there's some 208 00:08:41,850 --> 00:08:44,010 graphic stuff in there, a little bit. 209 00:08:44,010 --> 00:08:47,940 And I wanted to be able to tell the story in 210 00:08:47,940 --> 00:08:51,810 a way that doesn't put people off, but helps 211 00:08:51,810 --> 00:08:54,090 women identify and connect. 212 00:08:54,090 --> 00:08:57,540 And, um, so I was able to get that. 213 00:08:57,540 --> 00:09:00,540 And the bonus was to be with all these 214 00:09:00,540 --> 00:09:04,560 amazing women, uh, and to have that support 215 00:09:04,560 --> 00:09:08,310 and camaraderie and learning together and 216 00:09:08,310 --> 00:09:11,040 having fun together and being wackadoodle 217 00:09:11,040 --> 00:09:12,600 crazy with each other. 218 00:09:13,050 --> 00:09:14,580 Courtesy of you. 219 00:09:16,110 --> 00:09:17,670 So, yeah. 220 00:09:17,670 --> 00:09:22,470 So that's that was why I went and, um, and I 221 00:09:22,470 --> 00:09:25,590 got so much out of it besides just learning 222 00:09:25,590 --> 00:09:27,180 how to polish my talk. 223 00:09:28,700 --> 00:09:30,530 Diane Diaz: Well, I think you just called me crazy, and I 224 00:09:30,530 --> 00:09:31,640 resemble that remark. 225 00:09:33,560 --> 00:09:35,600 I said yes, crazy. 226 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:37,190 Yes. Wackadoodle. 227 00:09:37,190 --> 00:09:39,980 We had a lot of fun in addition to the hard 228 00:09:39,980 --> 00:09:41,360 work that everyone did. 229 00:09:41,360 --> 00:09:43,100 We did have a lot of fun at the retreat. 230 00:09:43,100 --> 00:09:46,880 And you know, we because it can be so heavy 231 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:49,040 at times because our stories, you know, some 232 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:50,150 of the stories are fun, but some of the 233 00:09:50,150 --> 00:09:51,350 stories are very serious. 234 00:09:51,350 --> 00:09:54,230 And so we do a lot of dance breaks and 235 00:09:54,230 --> 00:09:57,260 activities that break up all of that, you 236 00:09:57,260 --> 00:10:00,500 know, hard work and diving deep into those 237 00:10:00,500 --> 00:10:02,540 uncomfortable stories and the vulnerability. 238 00:10:02,540 --> 00:10:05,150 And so speaking of that, you know, I know, 239 00:10:05,150 --> 00:10:07,520 you know, you're telling that story with a 240 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:09,170 vulnerable component to it. 241 00:10:09,170 --> 00:10:11,990 So I'm curious if you could share with us, 242 00:10:11,990 --> 00:10:14,390 did you ever have what we call a 243 00:10:14,390 --> 00:10:16,460 vulnerability hangover from telling that 244 00:10:16,460 --> 00:10:18,770 story? Did you ever think maybe the next day 245 00:10:18,770 --> 00:10:20,030 or after you told it? 246 00:10:20,030 --> 00:10:22,460 Oh, I don't know. Was it too much or did 247 00:10:22,460 --> 00:10:23,120 that ever come up? 248 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:24,500 Dani Einsohn: Every single time. 249 00:10:25,340 --> 00:10:26,750 Diane Diaz: Oh, interesting. 250 00:10:26,900 --> 00:10:29,600 Dani Einsohn: Time. Because it sort of when I'm telling the 251 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:33,290 story, number one, it takes me back and I 252 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:36,860 have to, you know, repeat the history that 253 00:10:36,860 --> 00:10:38,900 I'm talking about and the feelings that I 254 00:10:38,900 --> 00:10:42,380 felt. Um, but I also am wondering, you know, 255 00:10:42,380 --> 00:10:45,440 I'm watching the audience for horror or 256 00:10:45,440 --> 00:10:49,100 dismay or some other kind of discomfort, and 257 00:10:49,100 --> 00:10:51,230 I don't want them to be comfortable, I want 258 00:10:51,230 --> 00:10:53,570 uncomfortable, I want them to be inspired. 259 00:10:53,570 --> 00:10:57,260 So yes, I feel that hangover every time, 260 00:10:57,260 --> 00:10:59,000 like, oh, I shouldn't have said that. 261 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:00,590 Oh, is this too much? 262 00:11:00,590 --> 00:11:02,210 Oh, am I too much? 263 00:11:02,420 --> 00:11:04,910 Which is kind of what happened. 264 00:11:05,850 --> 00:11:08,340 Diane Diaz: Yeah, it is a really great point. 265 00:11:08,370 --> 00:11:12,120 Um, but I will say that from the segment of 266 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:13,650 your talk that you gave, you did a really 267 00:11:13,650 --> 00:11:16,890 great job of also, while it's a heavy topic, 268 00:11:16,890 --> 00:11:18,450 what you were talking about with that 269 00:11:18,450 --> 00:11:20,550 particular story, you did a great job of 270 00:11:20,550 --> 00:11:22,800 integrating little moments of humor. 271 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:26,100 And I don't mean that in a to make light of 272 00:11:26,100 --> 00:11:28,020 what the situation that you were sharing, 273 00:11:28,020 --> 00:11:31,140 but little humorous things that you injected 274 00:11:31,140 --> 00:11:33,150 into it just to sort of break the tension, 275 00:11:33,150 --> 00:11:34,680 which was extremely effective. 276 00:11:34,680 --> 00:11:38,100 So good job on you for the way that you 277 00:11:38,100 --> 00:11:40,230 managed that, because I think it it let the 278 00:11:40,230 --> 00:11:42,870 audience know that you are okay. 279 00:11:42,870 --> 00:11:45,930 So if we know that you're okay, then we're 280 00:11:45,930 --> 00:11:47,610 okay hearing the story because we know 281 00:11:47,610 --> 00:11:48,720 you're you're okay now. 282 00:11:48,720 --> 00:11:51,060 So I think it accomplished that. 283 00:11:51,060 --> 00:11:53,370 So well done now. 284 00:11:53,370 --> 00:11:57,960 So um, let's talk a little bit about body 285 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:00,150 movement using the stage. 286 00:12:00,150 --> 00:12:04,650 And so during the practice sessions, uh, you 287 00:12:04,650 --> 00:12:06,330 know, when we first everybody started, first 288 00:12:06,330 --> 00:12:08,070 started practicing, we noticed everybody's 289 00:12:08,070 --> 00:12:10,350 kind of stuck in the same spot or maybe 290 00:12:10,350 --> 00:12:12,180 moving around too much because they weren't 291 00:12:12,180 --> 00:12:13,200 quite sure what to do. 292 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:16,980 So, um, Terry, maybe you can speak to how it 293 00:12:16,980 --> 00:12:20,850 felt trying to incorporate maybe a new way 294 00:12:20,850 --> 00:12:22,680 of moving that you hadn't tried before or 295 00:12:22,680 --> 00:12:24,210 just moving in general. 296 00:12:24,210 --> 00:12:26,400 What did that feel like as you were 297 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,440 practicing? Did it feel comfortable? 298 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:29,610 Uncomfortable? Strange? 299 00:12:29,610 --> 00:12:30,660 What was that like? 300 00:12:30,810 --> 00:12:35,340 Teri Reuter: Uncomfortable. But, you know, I think what I 301 00:12:35,340 --> 00:12:38,370 got from it is that what we're looking for 302 00:12:38,370 --> 00:12:40,410 is movement with intention. 303 00:12:40,410 --> 00:12:45,060 So it's not just movement as many times as 304 00:12:45,060 --> 00:12:47,640 you ask participants or suggested that we 305 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:49,980 try movements, you also suggested other 306 00:12:49,980 --> 00:12:51,870 people quiet those movements. 307 00:12:51,870 --> 00:12:54,990 And I think it seemed to be dependent on on 308 00:12:54,990 --> 00:12:56,820 two things. One, the personality of the 309 00:12:56,820 --> 00:13:00,240 person. So some people were quieter in their 310 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:03,030 bodies, and that suited really well. 311 00:13:03,030 --> 00:13:05,340 And other people needed to have more 312 00:13:05,340 --> 00:13:08,640 movement. And so for myself, I was guided to 313 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:13,350 block out various pieces, which I did and 314 00:13:13,350 --> 00:13:15,240 felt uncomfortable. When I was able to watch 315 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,460 the recording, I realized that I had some 316 00:13:17,460 --> 00:13:20,430 natural movements that the next time I'm 317 00:13:20,430 --> 00:13:22,680 actually going to block those movements, 318 00:13:22,680 --> 00:13:26,220 which it showed me that the some of the 319 00:13:26,220 --> 00:13:28,560 intended movements looked a lot more natural 320 00:13:28,560 --> 00:13:30,780 than they felt, and some of the natural 321 00:13:30,780 --> 00:13:32,940 movements looked like I was fidgeting. 322 00:13:32,940 --> 00:13:35,340 And so that was a really interesting. 323 00:13:35,340 --> 00:13:38,130 At one point I referenced rowing, like 324 00:13:38,130 --> 00:13:40,920 rowing, and in the video I just sort of went 325 00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:42,810 like this, but you couldn't tell. 326 00:13:42,810 --> 00:13:45,510 And other points where I was instructed. 327 00:13:45,510 --> 00:13:47,850 I had a much more specific movement. 328 00:13:47,850 --> 00:13:51,840 So that that was interesting, that the plan 329 00:13:51,840 --> 00:13:54,300 actually looks more natural. 330 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:57,090 So I continue with that. 331 00:13:57,090 --> 00:13:58,140 Diane Diaz: That's so interesting. 332 00:13:58,140 --> 00:14:00,630 And I think I think that's where the video 333 00:14:00,630 --> 00:14:02,580 comes in handy, because to everybody 334 00:14:02,580 --> 00:14:04,260 watching this and listening later on the 335 00:14:04,260 --> 00:14:08,040 podcast, also, we had all the attendees 336 00:14:08,040 --> 00:14:10,050 record themselves on their phones during the 337 00:14:10,050 --> 00:14:12,150 practice sessions too, so they could even go 338 00:14:12,150 --> 00:14:14,700 back and watch those to get a little bit 339 00:14:14,700 --> 00:14:16,650 more comfortable with where it might, like 340 00:14:16,650 --> 00:14:18,150 Terry just said, where it might make sense 341 00:14:18,150 --> 00:14:21,330 to put in intentional movements versus maybe 342 00:14:21,330 --> 00:14:23,820 quieting movements where it made sense, 343 00:14:23,820 --> 00:14:25,500 maybe in a quieter part of the story. 344 00:14:25,500 --> 00:14:27,840 And so, you know, all of the feedback given 345 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:29,100 was with that in mind. 346 00:14:29,100 --> 00:14:30,960 And so I think that's where the video does 347 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:33,540 help, you know, you to see where it makes 348 00:14:33,540 --> 00:14:36,120 the most sense. And then hopefully over time 349 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:38,670 and practice, all the movements just become 350 00:14:38,670 --> 00:14:40,830 natural. And they don't feel like they're 351 00:14:40,830 --> 00:14:42,720 being kind of wedged in or something that 352 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:44,880 you're not naturally doing or comfortable 353 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:45,600 with. 354 00:14:45,960 --> 00:14:49,290 Teri Reuter: Um, I think it's also trust in who you're 355 00:14:49,290 --> 00:14:52,320 watching because you can't know what your 356 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,570 impact is on a listener when you're the 357 00:14:54,570 --> 00:14:57,600 deliverer. And so really, I felt like we all 358 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:00,300 just trusted and we did what you said and 359 00:15:00,300 --> 00:15:03,570 that. So Darcy and Danny, you would know 360 00:15:03,570 --> 00:15:05,130 just to lean into that. 361 00:15:05,130 --> 00:15:06,330 It sort of relieves you. 362 00:15:06,330 --> 00:15:09,090 So having someone to practice with is super 363 00:15:09,090 --> 00:15:09,870 helpful. 364 00:15:10,500 --> 00:15:12,810 Diane Diaz: That is such a great, such a great point. 365 00:15:12,810 --> 00:15:15,390 And so to that point about stage movement 366 00:15:15,390 --> 00:15:19,500 and practice, I'll, I'll ask you, Darcy, how 367 00:15:19,500 --> 00:15:22,440 did it feel to do the improv exercises to 368 00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:24,750 get you kind of more comfortable with moving 369 00:15:24,750 --> 00:15:26,610 around, get you out of your out of your 370 00:15:26,610 --> 00:15:28,830 head, out of your body and feeling a little 371 00:15:28,830 --> 00:15:30,150 bit more free. 372 00:15:30,630 --> 00:15:31,560 What was that like? 373 00:15:32,130 --> 00:15:35,610 Darci Foshay: I loved it, um, I loved it. 374 00:15:35,610 --> 00:15:39,060 I was so surprised that I did love it, but 375 00:15:39,060 --> 00:15:42,090 I, like Terry was saying, I think that we 376 00:15:42,090 --> 00:15:44,430 all just felt so comfortable with each other 377 00:15:44,430 --> 00:15:47,700 immediately that I just felt like, all 378 00:15:47,700 --> 00:15:49,500 right, whatever is going to come to mind, 379 00:15:49,530 --> 00:15:52,860 I'm just going to do it, say it, act it out. 380 00:15:53,100 --> 00:15:56,310 Um, now, when I was on stage, I felt like it 381 00:15:56,310 --> 00:16:00,360 surprising how much you have to think about 382 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:01,890 what your movement is going to be. 383 00:16:01,890 --> 00:16:03,240 I was surprised at that. 384 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:04,770 How? Like. 385 00:16:04,770 --> 00:16:07,140 All right. I'm. I'm working on my speech. 386 00:16:07,140 --> 00:16:08,250 I'm delivering my speech. 387 00:16:08,250 --> 00:16:09,690 Now. I got to think about how I'm going to 388 00:16:09,690 --> 00:16:12,840 move. And so sometimes it just fell a little 389 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:17,040 disconnected. Um, but the improv was so 390 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:19,650 good. Um, because it got you out of your 391 00:16:19,650 --> 00:16:21,750 comfort zone, got you to say and do things 392 00:16:21,750 --> 00:16:23,910 that you wouldn't normally do. 393 00:16:23,910 --> 00:16:28,080 And dancing, you know, just dancing to fun 394 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:30,750 music. Like whenever you girls would just 395 00:16:30,750 --> 00:16:32,730 throw the music on, we'd have to get up and 396 00:16:32,730 --> 00:16:34,770 dance, you know, and it was just. 397 00:16:34,770 --> 00:16:36,660 And you look over at other people and you 398 00:16:36,660 --> 00:16:38,400 go, if they're doing it, I'm going to do it. 399 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:40,620 You know, I love it. 400 00:16:40,620 --> 00:16:43,590 I thought the improv was hysterical. 401 00:16:43,590 --> 00:16:45,990 And when I came home and told my husband 402 00:16:45,990 --> 00:16:47,940 about it, he's like, he just rolled his 403 00:16:47,940 --> 00:16:48,690 eyes. 404 00:16:50,010 --> 00:16:52,440 Diane Diaz: Well, interestingly, um, so I'm glad you 405 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:53,640 enjoyed it first of all. 406 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:55,620 Now I will say and carols. 407 00:16:55,620 --> 00:16:58,200 Carols here. I saw her in the comments so 408 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:00,870 she knows she and I have a love hate 409 00:17:00,870 --> 00:17:03,390 relationship with improv, but what we do 410 00:17:03,390 --> 00:17:05,280 love about it is that it does. 411 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:10,170 It does get you out of your head, and it 412 00:17:10,170 --> 00:17:12,360 does make you better able to think on your 413 00:17:12,360 --> 00:17:15,270 feet because you that is going to come up 414 00:17:15,270 --> 00:17:16,710 when you're speaking right. 415 00:17:16,710 --> 00:17:18,810 And then it makes the thinking on your feet 416 00:17:18,810 --> 00:17:20,940 feel more natural, so that it doesn't feel 417 00:17:20,940 --> 00:17:23,730 so much like you're thinking about it, 418 00:17:23,730 --> 00:17:25,710 because it just sort of comes to you now. 419 00:17:25,710 --> 00:17:29,160 So, Darcy, you because you used props, you 420 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:32,670 had printed out props for the tarot cards 421 00:17:32,670 --> 00:17:34,260 that were part of the segment of your talk 422 00:17:34,260 --> 00:17:36,030 that you were filming. And so there was 423 00:17:36,030 --> 00:17:38,070 movement involved in going to get those how 424 00:17:38,070 --> 00:17:41,310 to show them. And so I think maybe doing 425 00:17:41,310 --> 00:17:44,340 improv and of course, practicing that really 426 00:17:44,340 --> 00:17:46,080 helped you because that when you got to the 427 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:49,020 filming portion, it was seamless and smooth. 428 00:17:49,350 --> 00:17:50,490 Oh, it worked out. 429 00:17:50,490 --> 00:17:51,840 It worked out so beautifully. 430 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:53,160 So, yes. 431 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:55,920 So I do think that the improv, it helps with 432 00:17:55,920 --> 00:17:57,450 things like that, where you need to know how 433 00:17:57,450 --> 00:17:59,640 to move around on the stage in a way, like 434 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:01,170 Terry was saying, that's intentional. 435 00:18:01,170 --> 00:18:03,780 And that doesn't take away from what you're 436 00:18:03,780 --> 00:18:06,570 talking about. So so kudos to you for loving 437 00:18:06,570 --> 00:18:09,630 improv. I still do not, but but I do know 438 00:18:09,630 --> 00:18:11,700 the value of it to everybody. 439 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:14,820 Um, let's talk a little bit about practicing 440 00:18:14,820 --> 00:18:17,280 then. And then we'll also talk about what it 441 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:18,360 was like getting filmed. 442 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:22,390 So. You know, Carol and I are looking at 443 00:18:22,390 --> 00:18:24,700 this from the outside, as you know, the 444 00:18:24,700 --> 00:18:26,800 speaking coaches. And we're seeing you on 445 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:29,710 day one and then all the way through to day 446 00:18:29,710 --> 00:18:33,100 three. And so we can see huge 447 00:18:33,100 --> 00:18:35,410 transformations in everybody. 448 00:18:35,530 --> 00:18:37,390 So many things about how you deliver your 449 00:18:37,390 --> 00:18:40,450 talk comfort level using the stage, just 450 00:18:40,450 --> 00:18:42,760 just confidence all of it. 451 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:44,350 But I'm curious. 452 00:18:44,350 --> 00:18:46,300 And so we'll go to you, Danny. 453 00:18:46,330 --> 00:18:48,940 How did those practice sessions feel. 454 00:18:48,940 --> 00:18:51,220 And also because for you, you're repeating 455 00:18:51,220 --> 00:18:53,560 that same story over and over again. 456 00:18:53,740 --> 00:18:56,020 But how how did the practice sessions feel 457 00:18:56,020 --> 00:18:56,830 for you? 458 00:18:58,450 --> 00:18:59,890 Dani Einsohn: I. They felt good. 459 00:18:59,890 --> 00:19:02,500 The first one was so awkward because it was 460 00:19:02,500 --> 00:19:04,990 almost like we were introducing ourselves to 461 00:19:04,990 --> 00:19:07,540 each other. In fact, that was the exercise, 462 00:19:07,540 --> 00:19:09,130 right? Tell us your story. 463 00:19:09,130 --> 00:19:13,780 So. And then we had some time to craft it a 464 00:19:13,780 --> 00:19:17,080 little bit and some time to talk to you or 465 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:20,320 to Carol. And I think that really helped me 466 00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:24,010 because I had the whole thing written. 467 00:19:24,010 --> 00:19:25,960 And of course, I wasn't working from a 468 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:29,110 script. I was inhabiting it. 469 00:19:29,110 --> 00:19:31,000 I don't know how else to put it. 470 00:19:31,030 --> 00:19:33,190 It was just becoming part of me. 471 00:19:33,190 --> 00:19:36,100 I wrote the words, but seeing the words came 472 00:19:36,100 --> 00:19:38,230 from my heart, from my soul. 473 00:19:38,770 --> 00:19:41,890 Um, but there were things that I knew I had 474 00:19:41,890 --> 00:19:47,170 to tweak, and I got to talk to Carol. 475 00:19:47,170 --> 00:19:50,230 And so then getting up and doing it over and 476 00:19:50,230 --> 00:19:54,370 over again, um, each time it was easier and 477 00:19:54,370 --> 00:19:57,250 easier. I did not like filming it, though. 478 00:19:57,250 --> 00:20:02,560 I, I hated it, made me so nervous, even with 479 00:20:02,560 --> 00:20:03,640 my own camera. 480 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:04,600 Yeah. 481 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:06,340 Diane Diaz: To really? 482 00:20:06,460 --> 00:20:07,840 And why? I'm curious. 483 00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,040 Why do you think that is? 484 00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:09,400 Um. 485 00:20:10,420 --> 00:20:13,390 Dani Einsohn: Just my own feelings about, you know, how I 486 00:20:13,390 --> 00:20:15,730 would look, how I would sound. 487 00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:18,480 Diane Diaz: Yes, yes. 488 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:20,310 And so I will say I'm glad you mentioned 489 00:20:20,310 --> 00:20:22,230 that, Danny, because. 490 00:20:22,890 --> 00:20:24,840 We can have all the confidence in the world 491 00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:26,100 and the words that we are saying. 492 00:20:26,100 --> 00:20:28,260 But I think, and this isn't just you, this 493 00:20:28,260 --> 00:20:29,910 is all almost all of us. 494 00:20:29,910 --> 00:20:33,270 I don't know a woman on earth that isn't 495 00:20:33,270 --> 00:20:36,150 being filmed. And then thinking, never mind 496 00:20:36,150 --> 00:20:38,220 the message, like, how am I going to look? 497 00:20:38,370 --> 00:20:39,780 What do I sound like? 498 00:20:39,900 --> 00:20:41,190 None of us like to hear the sound of our own 499 00:20:41,190 --> 00:20:45,750 voice. But what I can say too, is that over 500 00:20:45,750 --> 00:20:49,170 time, I used to hate watching myself on 501 00:20:49,170 --> 00:20:51,720 video or listening to myself. 502 00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:53,520 Like if I go back and listen to a podcast 503 00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,500 that I'm on, I just. I used to hate it. 504 00:20:55,620 --> 00:21:01,170 But over time that goes away and we become 505 00:21:01,170 --> 00:21:04,260 more. I have become more interested in how 506 00:21:04,260 --> 00:21:07,200 did my message come across and less 507 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:08,940 thoughtful about, like, what did I look 508 00:21:08,940 --> 00:21:10,320 like? What did I sound like? But it's so 509 00:21:10,320 --> 00:21:13,230 normal to feel that way so I can completely. 510 00:21:13,230 --> 00:21:14,940 I was just curious, you know why? 511 00:21:14,970 --> 00:21:17,070 Because of course, I don't think about it as 512 00:21:17,070 --> 00:21:18,990 much now, but I can see where that would be 513 00:21:18,990 --> 00:21:22,950 the case. And also, you're in a small group. 514 00:21:23,010 --> 00:21:24,480 It's not. It's not like you're in front of 515 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:26,640 500 people. You're in a small group and all 516 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,830 eyes, including the camera, are on you. 517 00:21:29,250 --> 00:21:29,700 Yes. 518 00:21:29,700 --> 00:21:32,610 Dani Einsohn: And as far as the small group went, I felt 519 00:21:32,610 --> 00:21:35,010 totally safe with the other. 520 00:21:35,010 --> 00:21:35,490 Diane Diaz: Are. 521 00:21:35,850 --> 00:21:37,440 Dani Einsohn: I really, really did. 522 00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:40,380 And that happened very early, like within 523 00:21:40,380 --> 00:21:44,070 the first day. Um, there was that that sense 524 00:21:44,070 --> 00:21:46,050 of we are in this together. 525 00:21:46,050 --> 00:21:48,180 We are here for each other. 526 00:21:48,180 --> 00:21:53,580 And so every time I got up, I was not afraid 527 00:21:53,580 --> 00:21:56,040 of the audience. I was just afraid of me. 528 00:21:59,670 --> 00:22:01,110 Diane Diaz: You know, that's so interesting. 529 00:22:01,110 --> 00:22:02,610 Maybe that is our biggest. 530 00:22:02,610 --> 00:22:04,770 Our biggest nemesis is ourselves. 531 00:22:04,770 --> 00:22:06,750 Dani Einsohn: And that's kind of what my talk was about 532 00:22:06,750 --> 00:22:08,310 also. Yeah. 533 00:22:08,340 --> 00:22:09,390 Yes. 534 00:22:09,390 --> 00:22:11,520 Diane Diaz: Interestingly, I think it all comes full 535 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:12,030 circle. 536 00:22:12,030 --> 00:22:13,260 Dani Einsohn: Thing, you know. 537 00:22:13,260 --> 00:22:14,940 Diane Diaz: Yes, yes. 538 00:22:14,940 --> 00:22:17,520 Well, and so we touched a little bit on the 539 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:18,720 idea of getting feedback. 540 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:22,140 And so each of you throughout the three days 541 00:22:22,140 --> 00:22:24,120 and just the two days of practice, got 542 00:22:24,120 --> 00:22:26,280 feedback on the delivery of your talk, 543 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:27,900 feedback on a variety of things, stage 544 00:22:27,900 --> 00:22:30,420 movement, saying things, or maybe say it 545 00:22:30,420 --> 00:22:31,830 this way, maybe that would be better. 546 00:22:31,830 --> 00:22:33,720 Maybe shorten this part, maybe focus more 547 00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:37,230 here. So Terry, how did it feel for you? 548 00:22:37,230 --> 00:22:38,310 Because you speak a lot. 549 00:22:38,340 --> 00:22:40,680 You do already do a lot of training 550 00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:43,140 workshops, all sorts of speaking. 551 00:22:43,140 --> 00:22:46,050 How did it feel to get that feedback during 552 00:22:46,050 --> 00:22:48,510 the practice sessions and then incorporate 553 00:22:48,510 --> 00:22:51,660 it sometimes on the fly, but also into your 554 00:22:51,660 --> 00:22:53,220 final delivery that was filmed? 555 00:22:53,220 --> 00:22:54,780 How did what was that like? 556 00:22:55,570 --> 00:22:57,250 Teri Reuter: Oh, it was fantastic. 557 00:22:57,250 --> 00:22:59,830 I think because of the kind of work I do, 558 00:22:59,830 --> 00:23:03,130 I'm often my role is to focus on someone 559 00:23:03,130 --> 00:23:07,360 else, to really lean in, and I lose myself 560 00:23:07,360 --> 00:23:08,800 in what my clients are doing. 561 00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:11,260 I help people prepare sometimes for 562 00:23:11,260 --> 00:23:14,080 presentations they're making, and at first 563 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,180 it was weird to have someone focus on me. 564 00:23:16,180 --> 00:23:19,780 That's not usually my role, and it was 565 00:23:19,780 --> 00:23:23,380 really nice to hear, you know, both the 566 00:23:23,380 --> 00:23:25,240 praise of things that were working, but also 567 00:23:25,270 --> 00:23:27,010 the redirection of things that could be 568 00:23:27,010 --> 00:23:28,120 different or better. 569 00:23:28,120 --> 00:23:32,380 And I, I really I was really appreciative of 570 00:23:32,380 --> 00:23:34,120 every little piece that I got so that you 571 00:23:34,120 --> 00:23:35,770 could try out something different. 572 00:23:35,770 --> 00:23:38,110 And, and I think it was and it was 573 00:23:38,110 --> 00:23:40,390 interesting too, because we all got to do 574 00:23:40,390 --> 00:23:42,640 it, not in a vacuum with ourselves, but we 575 00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:45,160 got to hear the feedback that each of us, 576 00:23:45,190 --> 00:23:47,200 that that were for each of us. 577 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,140 And I think that while maybe we were saying 578 00:23:50,140 --> 00:23:52,510 something to Darcy, you can look at yourself 579 00:23:52,510 --> 00:23:54,820 and say, oh, I could incorporate that too. 580 00:23:54,820 --> 00:23:57,520 Or, you know, so it was just such a 581 00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:59,170 multidimensional experience. 582 00:23:59,170 --> 00:24:03,490 I think the environment of the feedback was 583 00:24:03,490 --> 00:24:04,930 exactly what you would hope. 584 00:24:04,930 --> 00:24:06,790 You know that expression, all feedback is a 585 00:24:06,790 --> 00:24:08,200 gift. It really felt like that the whole 586 00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:09,310 time we were together. 587 00:24:09,310 --> 00:24:12,160 Diane Diaz: Oh, I'm so thrilled to hear that because, you 588 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,410 know, I do love, of course, you know, Carol 589 00:24:14,410 --> 00:24:16,090 and I are giving feedback, but I love that 590 00:24:16,090 --> 00:24:18,670 the other women feel comfortable giving 591 00:24:18,670 --> 00:24:21,580 feedback as well to whoever's practicing, 592 00:24:21,580 --> 00:24:23,440 because everybody's receiving it a little 593 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,570 bit differently. Everybody keys in on 594 00:24:25,570 --> 00:24:27,160 something different based on whatever, you 595 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:28,810 know, maybe what they speak about, what 596 00:24:28,810 --> 00:24:30,520 their industry is or what their experience 597 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,950 is. And so all of the feedback that 598 00:24:32,950 --> 00:24:35,860 everybody gave was so good. 599 00:24:35,860 --> 00:24:39,400 I felt and a number of you kind of worked on 600 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,400 your frameworks kind of on the fly like, 601 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:44,260 well, I don't have a framework like help me, 602 00:24:44,260 --> 00:24:45,280 help me with this framework. 603 00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,070 And so during during the practice time and 604 00:24:48,070 --> 00:24:50,680 the working on your segments time, some of 605 00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:52,570 us like I pulled out my laptop, let's pull 606 00:24:52,570 --> 00:24:54,580 up, you know, let's try look for a word for 607 00:24:54,580 --> 00:24:57,730 this or you know, we'd go around the room 608 00:24:57,730 --> 00:24:58,780 and just give feedback. 609 00:24:58,780 --> 00:25:01,150 And then I think other women were giving 610 00:25:01,150 --> 00:25:02,950 each other feedback and working together on 611 00:25:02,950 --> 00:25:07,090 things. So it was I agree, like the feedback 612 00:25:07,090 --> 00:25:10,240 in a setting like that, it all is a gift, 613 00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:12,820 right? Because it's really when we got to 614 00:25:12,820 --> 00:25:15,520 the filming day, which we'll talk about now, 615 00:25:15,700 --> 00:25:19,300 the I wish that we had like a full day 616 00:25:19,300 --> 00:25:21,100 filming of day one and then a full day 617 00:25:21,100 --> 00:25:23,380 filming of day three, just to see Side by 618 00:25:23,380 --> 00:25:28,000 Side the difference, because in my brain, 619 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:31,120 when I think about it, it always blows me 620 00:25:31,120 --> 00:25:34,450 away. I don't know if I could make that much 621 00:25:34,450 --> 00:25:38,440 improvement, but you guys, not that you were 622 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:41,650 bad on day one, but just the the polish that 623 00:25:41,650 --> 00:25:44,110 you had on day three was just mind blowing 624 00:25:44,110 --> 00:25:47,530 because it's just the delivery was 625 00:25:47,530 --> 00:25:50,530 incredible. The stories were incredible, the 626 00:25:50,530 --> 00:25:52,210 impact was incredible. 627 00:25:52,210 --> 00:25:55,810 It was just a beautiful everybody's delivery 628 00:25:55,810 --> 00:25:57,160 was beautiful. 629 00:25:57,160 --> 00:25:59,980 So Danny, maybe you could talk a little bit. 630 00:25:59,980 --> 00:26:01,120 Well you talked a little bit about the 631 00:26:01,120 --> 00:26:03,040 filming being uncomfortable but. 632 00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:06,440 What did it feel like once you finished your 633 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:09,470 filming? How did you feel once you were done 634 00:26:09,470 --> 00:26:09,830 with that? 635 00:26:09,860 --> 00:26:13,220 Dani Einsohn: Um, I was relieved that that was over. 636 00:26:13,220 --> 00:26:16,070 It had been a lot of, you know, is it going 637 00:26:16,070 --> 00:26:17,990 to be okay? Am I going to be okay? 638 00:26:17,990 --> 00:26:20,240 And then as I'm walking off the stage, I'm 639 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:22,250 like, damn, I missed. 640 00:26:22,250 --> 00:26:25,670 I forgot to say, I didn't say that. 641 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:30,140 So it was I mean, it was fine when it was 642 00:26:30,140 --> 00:26:33,320 happening. Like it wasn't obtrusive in any 643 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:37,850 way. Like, I, I enjoyed the the little zing 644 00:26:37,850 --> 00:26:39,140 of adrenaline. 645 00:26:40,190 --> 00:26:43,100 Um, and I think that it helped. 646 00:26:43,740 --> 00:26:46,410 It helped me enjoy the experience more 647 00:26:46,410 --> 00:26:49,020 because I felt like I was really performing. 648 00:26:49,020 --> 00:26:52,410 And I think for many of us, yes, we learned 649 00:26:52,410 --> 00:26:55,140 that speaking is performing and. 650 00:26:56,830 --> 00:26:58,600 Diane Diaz: Absolutely. Darcy. 651 00:26:58,600 --> 00:26:59,710 For you. 652 00:26:59,740 --> 00:27:02,200 You. Of course, I mentioned that you used 653 00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:07,540 props and, you know, that can cause 654 00:27:07,540 --> 00:27:09,190 sometimes discomfort. 655 00:27:09,190 --> 00:27:11,380 You seemed totally natural at it. 656 00:27:11,380 --> 00:27:14,650 So how was your filming experience? 657 00:27:14,650 --> 00:27:15,820 What was that like? 658 00:27:15,820 --> 00:27:17,950 How did you did you have any nerves? 659 00:27:17,950 --> 00:27:20,170 If you did, how did you handle those? 660 00:27:20,740 --> 00:27:23,890 Darci Foshay: Well, it's so funny that when you when we 661 00:27:23,890 --> 00:27:25,960 were talking earlier, I was thinking about 662 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:29,800 how, um, there is a lot of improvement from 663 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,710 the first day to the last, but in my 664 00:27:32,710 --> 00:27:36,100 situation, I have to get over the fact that 665 00:27:36,100 --> 00:27:39,610 the first time I deliver my my talk, I'm 666 00:27:39,610 --> 00:27:42,670 looking for that shock value. 667 00:27:42,670 --> 00:27:46,960 And I'm looking for that laughter because, I 668 00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:50,620 mean, my my talk has a specific meaning to 669 00:27:50,620 --> 00:27:54,100 encourage women to embrace change, but it is 670 00:27:54,100 --> 00:27:56,950 the whole talk is taking stories from 671 00:27:56,950 --> 00:28:00,610 ordinary life and and mixing it up and 672 00:28:00,610 --> 00:28:02,770 turning around, turning it around on its 673 00:28:02,770 --> 00:28:05,200 head and making it fun and funny. 674 00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,780 So the first time that I did it, of course 675 00:28:07,780 --> 00:28:09,340 no one knows what you're going to say. 676 00:28:09,340 --> 00:28:11,050 So it is fun and funny. 677 00:28:11,050 --> 00:28:13,570 And then after you do it twice a day for 678 00:28:13,570 --> 00:28:16,330 three days on that third day, when it comes 679 00:28:16,330 --> 00:28:19,420 to filming, I have to try to remind myself 680 00:28:19,420 --> 00:28:21,340 that they're not going to think it's as 681 00:28:21,340 --> 00:28:23,860 funny when they they've heard it for the 682 00:28:23,860 --> 00:28:25,750 eighth time, you know? 683 00:28:25,750 --> 00:28:26,350 Yeah. 684 00:28:26,830 --> 00:28:29,020 Teri Reuter: You were funny on the eighth time to Darcy. 685 00:28:29,050 --> 00:28:29,560 Thank you. 686 00:28:29,950 --> 00:28:31,510 Dani Einsohn: Every minute Darcy. 687 00:28:31,750 --> 00:28:33,880 Diane Diaz: Kitten chops never gets old. 688 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:34,990 Darci Foshay: Never gets old. 689 00:28:34,990 --> 00:28:38,620 No she doesn't, but I think that I have to 690 00:28:38,620 --> 00:28:42,250 remember that that it is a performance. 691 00:28:42,250 --> 00:28:45,790 And you do have to, um, bring up that 692 00:28:45,790 --> 00:28:49,030 excitement and enthusiasm to tell that story 693 00:28:49,030 --> 00:28:50,890 again, even though, you know, people have 694 00:28:50,890 --> 00:28:53,050 heard it several times, like, you still have 695 00:28:53,050 --> 00:28:55,870 to say it in a really fresh way so that 696 00:28:55,870 --> 00:28:58,450 people really enjoy it, because I really 697 00:28:58,450 --> 00:29:01,360 enjoy telling it, and I don't want to look 698 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:03,550 at the audience and think that they're not 699 00:29:03,550 --> 00:29:06,280 enjoying it, you know, as much as they could 700 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:07,810 be because they'd already heard it or 701 00:29:07,810 --> 00:29:10,060 whatever. Yes. So I think that just takes 702 00:29:10,060 --> 00:29:13,300 practice. And we got a lot of practice. 703 00:29:13,300 --> 00:29:16,000 And, you know, I just again, I just loved 704 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:17,470 every single minute of it. 705 00:29:17,710 --> 00:29:18,730 Diane Diaz: Good, good. 706 00:29:18,730 --> 00:29:20,650 I'm so glad to hear that. And so if you like 707 00:29:20,650 --> 00:29:22,600 to get laughs, you might need to do a stand 708 00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:25,030 up comedy set because then you will get the 709 00:29:25,030 --> 00:29:26,560 laughs you were looking for. 710 00:29:26,980 --> 00:29:29,500 Well, so much more fun than improv. 711 00:29:29,500 --> 00:29:30,790 So much more fun. 712 00:29:31,570 --> 00:29:34,600 Darci Foshay: I'm thinking maybe I might I might want to do 713 00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:36,010 it. I have a little inner. 714 00:29:36,010 --> 00:29:39,280 It's either a little Lucille Ball or Rodney 715 00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:42,160 Dangerfield. I don't know what it is, but I 716 00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:42,370 have. 717 00:29:42,370 --> 00:29:42,760 Dani Einsohn: A little. 718 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:48,310 Diane Diaz: Dangerfield. Definitely do that. 719 00:29:48,310 --> 00:29:52,330 Well, okay, so, um, Terry, now you led us 720 00:29:52,330 --> 00:29:56,440 through a really fun dance segment in your 721 00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:59,920 talk, which I loved, and I, I can really see 722 00:29:59,920 --> 00:30:04,210 you doing that talk and that bit with the 723 00:30:04,210 --> 00:30:07,120 dance part in a large group, because imagine 724 00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:09,550 a huge audience standing up and doing that 725 00:30:09,550 --> 00:30:13,000 would be so incredibly powerful. 726 00:30:13,330 --> 00:30:17,620 Um, how do you feel about your confidence in 727 00:30:17,620 --> 00:30:20,080 leading an audience in an exercise like 728 00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,660 that? Maybe a big audience and getting them 729 00:30:22,660 --> 00:30:24,310 involved and really getting them into the 730 00:30:24,310 --> 00:30:25,210 message? 731 00:30:25,780 --> 00:30:28,750 Teri Reuter: Um, well, I will say I feel very comfortable. 732 00:30:28,750 --> 00:30:30,190 I've done that before. 733 00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:35,800 Uh, in so speaking, I do sometimes as a 734 00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:38,530 speech, like what we worked on, but speaking 735 00:30:38,530 --> 00:30:40,750 in front of groups, I do on a very regular 736 00:30:40,750 --> 00:30:43,210 basis, and sometimes people are surprised 737 00:30:43,210 --> 00:30:46,300 who I can get up to move. 738 00:30:46,300 --> 00:30:49,690 But so far I've never had an audience, uh, 739 00:30:49,690 --> 00:30:51,190 that has not gotten up. 740 00:30:51,190 --> 00:30:52,930 I think the most reluctant. 741 00:30:52,930 --> 00:30:55,240 I was in Dallas last week, and I worked with 742 00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,850 a group of about 40 people over two days 743 00:30:57,850 --> 00:31:00,850 that were in their late 20s, early 30s. 744 00:31:00,850 --> 00:31:04,000 It's the only group that I work with that I 745 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,280 think of as like sort of my kids. 746 00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:08,950 Everybody else is more sort of my cohort 747 00:31:08,950 --> 00:31:12,460 anyway. They were the most reluctant, but I 748 00:31:12,460 --> 00:31:14,710 got them. I have a couple of different 749 00:31:14,710 --> 00:31:17,470 things we do a thing that I bring out the 750 00:31:17,470 --> 00:31:22,660 song bust a move to, and um, so we use a 751 00:31:22,660 --> 00:31:27,370 particular personality, uh, assessment and 752 00:31:27,370 --> 00:31:30,970 to help them remember the, the quadrants of 753 00:31:30,970 --> 00:31:33,880 the assessment, we do a dance and, uh, the 754 00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:36,250 first go round, they were like, we came back 755 00:31:36,250 --> 00:31:38,140 after the second break and somebody actually 756 00:31:38,140 --> 00:31:39,700 said, can we dance again? 757 00:31:39,700 --> 00:31:40,240 Oh. 758 00:31:41,020 --> 00:31:42,670 Diane Diaz: That's a rousing endorsement. 759 00:31:42,940 --> 00:31:46,150 Teri Reuter: But I have to say, people, you know, we spend 760 00:31:46,150 --> 00:31:48,460 more time at work than we do doing anything 761 00:31:48,460 --> 00:31:51,580 else. And so if you can just bring a little 762 00:31:51,580 --> 00:31:54,010 bit of a lightness to work, I think people 763 00:31:54,010 --> 00:31:55,450 welcome it. So. 764 00:31:55,830 --> 00:31:58,860 I do feel really comfortable doing that, but 765 00:31:58,860 --> 00:32:00,930 I think it's a little bit like what Danny 766 00:32:00,930 --> 00:32:02,550 said or what you were saying to Danny about 767 00:32:02,550 --> 00:32:04,380 the filming. It's something you have to get 768 00:32:04,380 --> 00:32:06,180 used to. It's practice. 769 00:32:06,180 --> 00:32:07,680 I mean, I've been doing this for 20 770 00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:10,140 something years and incorporating movement, 771 00:32:10,140 --> 00:32:12,960 and so now I don't care if people think it's 772 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,380 silly. Where before I might have wondered, 773 00:32:16,890 --> 00:32:20,040 uh, so it's an invitation to people to join 774 00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:21,180 me if they'd like. 775 00:32:21,180 --> 00:32:23,070 Diane Diaz: Yeah. No, it's a really good point, because I 776 00:32:23,070 --> 00:32:25,530 think if you do anything enough times, it's 777 00:32:25,530 --> 00:32:26,760 going to start to feel natural and 778 00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:29,430 comfortable. And so really and that's why 779 00:32:29,430 --> 00:32:31,320 the practice that we did at the retreat, 780 00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:34,170 right, was so important is to just repeat it 781 00:32:34,170 --> 00:32:36,060 and repeat it so that it starts to feel more 782 00:32:36,060 --> 00:32:39,000 comfortable. So on filming day, everybody 783 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,130 seemed natural that everybody seemed like 784 00:32:41,130 --> 00:32:42,690 they had been giving this talk for a long 785 00:32:42,690 --> 00:32:45,660 time. The nobody looked uncomfortable, 786 00:32:45,660 --> 00:32:46,890 nobody looked like they didn't have 787 00:32:46,890 --> 00:32:48,600 confidence. So even if they were faking the 788 00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:51,240 confidence, it came through and it felt 789 00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:54,630 real. And so everybody I thought just really 790 00:32:54,630 --> 00:32:55,890 knocked it out of the park. 791 00:32:55,890 --> 00:32:58,350 So kudos to to you three. 792 00:32:58,350 --> 00:33:00,030 But to everybody at the retreat for 793 00:33:00,030 --> 00:33:02,490 delivering, you know, for growing so much 794 00:33:02,490 --> 00:33:04,620 and just building that confidence and 795 00:33:04,620 --> 00:33:06,240 learning how to use the stage and telling 796 00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,070 stories and making that audience engagement. 797 00:33:08,070 --> 00:33:11,400 It was beautiful, such a wonder to behold. 798 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,650 I love the retreat so much. 799 00:33:13,650 --> 00:33:16,530 So it was really just incredible watching 800 00:33:16,530 --> 00:33:17,610 everybody grow. 801 00:33:17,610 --> 00:33:20,670 And so now I want to know what is next. 802 00:33:20,670 --> 00:33:22,860 So I'll start with you, Darcy, why don't you 803 00:33:22,860 --> 00:33:25,650 tell us what you're speaking topics are 804 00:33:25,650 --> 00:33:28,110 about, and then tell us what your plans are 805 00:33:28,110 --> 00:33:30,600 for your next speaking endeavors. 806 00:33:31,770 --> 00:33:34,260 Darci Foshay: Oh, boy. You know, I do have to say, as soon 807 00:33:34,260 --> 00:33:37,920 as I got home from the the retreat, I wrote 808 00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,530 down a little snippet of what everybody had 809 00:33:40,530 --> 00:33:43,950 talked about in their in their speech and 810 00:33:43,950 --> 00:33:48,030 then like little fun things that we had, you 811 00:33:48,030 --> 00:33:50,580 know, chatted about in between, you know, 812 00:33:50,580 --> 00:33:52,230 just getting to know each other a little bit 813 00:33:52,230 --> 00:33:54,840 more. And I think I sent it out to everybody 814 00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:56,370 and just said, you know, we could make a 815 00:33:56,370 --> 00:33:58,650 play about this and it could be really 816 00:33:58,650 --> 00:34:01,050 funny. It really could be. 817 00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:02,910 It could be really good. 818 00:34:03,090 --> 00:34:04,740 Um, I have a couple things that I'm going to 819 00:34:04,740 --> 00:34:08,310 do. I just had another workshop recently and 820 00:34:08,310 --> 00:34:09,630 it went very, very well. 821 00:34:09,630 --> 00:34:11,670 I did a little recap about what we had done 822 00:34:11,670 --> 00:34:14,490 in the first workshop, and so just really 823 00:34:14,490 --> 00:34:16,860 fun. And a lot of women are making 824 00:34:16,860 --> 00:34:19,320 connections. The the next thing I'm going to 825 00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,660 do is in June and it's going to be called 826 00:34:21,690 --> 00:34:22,950 Talk and SIP. 827 00:34:22,950 --> 00:34:25,440 And people are coming out to Peaks Island. 828 00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,360 We're going to do a wine tasting in 829 00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:30,780 different parts of the island and um, and 830 00:34:30,780 --> 00:34:32,820 recap what we've been talking about in these 831 00:34:32,820 --> 00:34:36,780 last few workshops and, um, yeah, a couple 832 00:34:36,780 --> 00:34:39,240 things. There's there's one big idea that I 833 00:34:39,240 --> 00:34:42,570 have brewing that I'd like to bring to 834 00:34:42,570 --> 00:34:44,130 fruition. I have to figure out how I'm going 835 00:34:44,130 --> 00:34:47,550 to do it. But there was a video made a while 836 00:34:47,580 --> 00:34:49,680 back called The Empowerment Project. 837 00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:50,970 I don't know if you've heard of it, but it 838 00:34:50,970 --> 00:34:53,070 was wonderful and it was about women in 839 00:34:53,070 --> 00:34:55,770 their journey, and I would like to do that. 840 00:34:55,770 --> 00:34:59,430 I'd like to create a film and talk to all of 841 00:34:59,430 --> 00:35:02,670 us and and other women that have made these 842 00:35:02,670 --> 00:35:05,760 big shifts in their life and taking chances 843 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:10,530 and, and just done some self empowerment of 844 00:35:10,530 --> 00:35:11,580 their own. 845 00:35:11,580 --> 00:35:14,550 And so I'd like to I'd like to interview 846 00:35:14,550 --> 00:35:16,380 women that have done that and make a little 847 00:35:16,380 --> 00:35:18,150 empowering film about it. 848 00:35:18,150 --> 00:35:20,580 Dani Einsohn: So anyway, Darcy. 849 00:35:20,580 --> 00:35:22,380 Diane Diaz: If there's anything that I know about you, 850 00:35:22,380 --> 00:35:23,880 it's that you will do that. 851 00:35:24,150 --> 00:35:29,760 I feel I 100% believe that in six months a 852 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:31,380 year you will contact me and say, guess 853 00:35:31,380 --> 00:35:32,910 what? My film's coming out. 854 00:35:33,510 --> 00:35:36,000 I'm doing it. I have a distinct feeling 855 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,670 about that. So we will definitely look for 856 00:35:38,670 --> 00:35:39,630 that. Either that or we're. 857 00:35:39,630 --> 00:35:41,010 Dani Einsohn: All going to Broadway. 858 00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:43,340 Oh, exactly. 859 00:35:43,340 --> 00:35:45,110 It's something we might be doing. 860 00:35:45,110 --> 00:35:46,760 Darci Foshay: Both might be doing both. 861 00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:48,170 Dani Einsohn: Because I think that play would. 862 00:35:48,170 --> 00:35:51,050 Darci Foshay: Be so fun. I can already see the opening act. 863 00:35:51,050 --> 00:35:52,400 I can already. 864 00:35:52,460 --> 00:35:54,320 Diane Diaz: See. I told you, she's already got the 865 00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:55,610 opening act planned out. It's going to 866 00:35:55,610 --> 00:35:57,740 happen, you guys. It's only going to happen. 867 00:35:57,740 --> 00:35:59,870 Okay. So then, Danny, what about you? 868 00:35:59,870 --> 00:36:02,120 What are your topics that you speak on and 869 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,580 what's on the horizon for you speaking wise 870 00:36:04,610 --> 00:36:05,300 or anything? 871 00:36:05,450 --> 00:36:10,640 Dani Einsohn: Yeah, I came home just jumping out of my skin 872 00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:14,270 wanting to or find other places to speak. 873 00:36:14,270 --> 00:36:18,050 So while I'm doing that, I'm creating sort 874 00:36:18,050 --> 00:36:24,530 of a list of ways that I can craft the the 875 00:36:24,530 --> 00:36:27,800 basic message of my talk about women feeling 876 00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:28,970 good enough. 877 00:36:28,970 --> 00:36:32,690 And no matter what happens to you, you can. 878 00:36:32,690 --> 00:36:34,940 You are resilient and you're powerful and 879 00:36:34,940 --> 00:36:36,050 you're good enough. 880 00:36:36,530 --> 00:36:41,060 Um, so I'm, I'm sort of crafting different 881 00:36:41,060 --> 00:36:43,250 messages for different types of groups that 882 00:36:43,250 --> 00:36:44,750 I might approach. 883 00:36:45,050 --> 00:36:47,480 I'm also going to take the wonderful video, 884 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,480 thank you very much and sort of edit that 885 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,120 and create a speaker reel to help me launch 886 00:36:53,150 --> 00:36:55,010 that part of my business. 887 00:36:55,010 --> 00:36:58,520 And I'm working on a coach, um, on a 888 00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:02,480 coaching class workshop for, again, midlife 889 00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:06,770 women just like Darcy, uh, on similar topics 890 00:37:06,770 --> 00:37:11,120 about the transition and not letting your, 891 00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:14,750 your, your limiting beliefs stop you from 892 00:37:14,750 --> 00:37:15,980 going where you want to go. 893 00:37:17,380 --> 00:37:19,690 Diane Diaz: Oh, wonderful. Well, that's very needed. 894 00:37:19,690 --> 00:37:22,720 This. As we all know, this midlife area can 895 00:37:22,720 --> 00:37:25,720 be challenging, so I think that's something 896 00:37:25,720 --> 00:37:27,580 that's definitely needed. 897 00:37:27,580 --> 00:37:30,520 So, Terri, then what about you? 898 00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:34,150 What are your speaking topics and what is on 899 00:37:34,150 --> 00:37:36,220 the horizon for you for speaking? 900 00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,120 Teri Reuter: So, uh, last year, the year before, I had 901 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,550 focused more on speaking and had ended up 902 00:37:42,550 --> 00:37:45,370 doing more speaking on mental health at 903 00:37:45,370 --> 00:37:48,550 work, which I find very important. 904 00:37:48,700 --> 00:37:51,250 Uh, and I was brought into that because I 905 00:37:51,250 --> 00:37:52,660 have a background in psychology. 906 00:37:52,660 --> 00:37:57,490 And somehow when we did the retreat, I 907 00:37:57,490 --> 00:38:00,040 decided to come without a topic because I 908 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,020 really wasn't interested in furthering 909 00:38:02,020 --> 00:38:04,480 speaking. Each one of those presentations or 910 00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:05,530 speeches that I had done before. 911 00:38:05,530 --> 00:38:07,450 They gave me so much anxiety before I did 912 00:38:07,450 --> 00:38:09,430 them that I decided I didn't want to do that 913 00:38:09,430 --> 00:38:11,740 anymore, and I only came to the retreat to 914 00:38:11,740 --> 00:38:14,980 be with you all. And then as we got through, 915 00:38:14,980 --> 00:38:17,110 I mean, Diane sitting with you that very 916 00:38:17,110 --> 00:38:20,170 first day, it you helped me put together a 917 00:38:20,170 --> 00:38:23,380 framework that frames a lot of what I do 918 00:38:23,380 --> 00:38:27,310 completely. And so it renewed an interest in 919 00:38:27,310 --> 00:38:29,560 even wanting to be on the stage, you know, 920 00:38:29,560 --> 00:38:31,060 working with groups of people as a 921 00:38:31,060 --> 00:38:32,710 facilitator and facilitating their 922 00:38:32,710 --> 00:38:35,350 experience is something that I will continue 923 00:38:35,350 --> 00:38:36,370 to do. 924 00:38:36,370 --> 00:38:38,860 So now I'm contemplating whether or not I 925 00:38:38,860 --> 00:38:42,130 want to try to build out that part of my 926 00:38:42,130 --> 00:38:43,540 business of being a speaker. 927 00:38:43,540 --> 00:38:47,110 I will say I'm still undecided, but from the 928 00:38:47,110 --> 00:38:49,120 framework, I've already started putting 929 00:38:49,150 --> 00:38:51,820 together a multi-day course that would take 930 00:38:51,820 --> 00:38:55,000 people through this idea and perhaps 931 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,040 primarily women for some groups, but for 932 00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,620 people in general who feel overwhelmed by 933 00:38:59,620 --> 00:39:02,380 their self-doubt, uh, how they can really 934 00:39:02,380 --> 00:39:04,780 show up to, like, what Danny was talking 935 00:39:04,780 --> 00:39:07,900 about, you know, being able to, even in 936 00:39:07,900 --> 00:39:11,080 uncertainty, lean into their potential. 937 00:39:11,470 --> 00:39:14,470 And so, uh, this course is being built out 938 00:39:14,470 --> 00:39:17,590 to be a couple of day experience to move 939 00:39:17,590 --> 00:39:20,320 through, understanding themselves to how 940 00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:22,420 they can use their language for their inner 941 00:39:22,420 --> 00:39:23,950 voice and an outer voice. 942 00:39:24,910 --> 00:39:26,440 Diane Diaz: I love to hear that. 943 00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:29,410 So to everybody listening and watching, that 944 00:39:29,410 --> 00:39:31,630 is the power of having a framework that you 945 00:39:31,630 --> 00:39:36,190 can take it from a part of your talk to a 946 00:39:36,190 --> 00:39:40,210 workshop, a course, even bigger content, a 947 00:39:40,210 --> 00:39:41,350 whole program. 948 00:39:41,350 --> 00:39:43,180 That's what a framework can turn into. 949 00:39:43,180 --> 00:39:45,940 So having that framework, whatever it is, 950 00:39:45,970 --> 00:39:47,620 and however you incorporate it into your 951 00:39:47,620 --> 00:39:49,900 message and your talk can become so much 952 00:39:49,900 --> 00:39:51,790 more. So it has legs, right? 953 00:39:51,790 --> 00:39:54,130 It grows. I love to hear that you're doing 954 00:39:54,130 --> 00:39:55,510 that. So yay! 955 00:39:55,900 --> 00:39:57,580 Um, good for you. 956 00:39:57,580 --> 00:39:59,890 All right. Well, as you all know, 957 00:39:59,890 --> 00:40:02,560 storytelling and vulnerability are super 958 00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:04,660 important and powerful in a talk. 959 00:40:04,660 --> 00:40:06,130 And that's what connects with the audience. 960 00:40:06,130 --> 00:40:08,350 And you, you all have such amazing stories, 961 00:40:08,350 --> 00:40:10,510 and you did such a great job at the retreat, 962 00:40:10,510 --> 00:40:12,730 incorporating those stories, telling them, 963 00:40:12,730 --> 00:40:14,530 being vulnerable with everybody at the 964 00:40:14,530 --> 00:40:16,420 retreat, but also getting filmed. 965 00:40:16,420 --> 00:40:18,460 Right. And then now you've got that on film. 966 00:40:18,460 --> 00:40:20,950 And so being vulnerable can be hard and 967 00:40:20,950 --> 00:40:23,530 challenging. But that is the the beautiful 968 00:40:23,530 --> 00:40:25,330 part of someone's message is the 969 00:40:25,330 --> 00:40:27,670 vulnerability and how that connects with 970 00:40:27,670 --> 00:40:30,550 everybody else. So thank you to all of you 971 00:40:30,550 --> 00:40:32,320 for coming to the retreat and spending your 972 00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:34,240 time with us, and for being vulnerable and 973 00:40:34,240 --> 00:40:36,610 for supporting the other women as they were 974 00:40:36,610 --> 00:40:37,720 doing the same. 975 00:40:37,720 --> 00:40:40,270 And so for those of you who are watching and 976 00:40:40,450 --> 00:40:43,150 listening and or listening, be sure to 977 00:40:43,150 --> 00:40:45,640 connect with Danny, Darcy and Terry on 978 00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:47,260 LinkedIn. If you're listening to this on the 979 00:40:47,260 --> 00:40:49,090 podcast, you can go to the show notes page 980 00:40:49,090 --> 00:40:51,100 and get their connection information there. 981 00:40:51,100 --> 00:40:52,690 But go to LinkedIn, make sure you connect 982 00:40:52,690 --> 00:40:56,110 with them, comment to them, and just let 983 00:40:56,110 --> 00:40:57,340 them know that you appreciate the work that 984 00:40:57,340 --> 00:41:00,250 they're doing. Um, and so again, thank you 985 00:41:00,250 --> 00:41:02,020 to all of you for being here. 986 00:41:02,020 --> 00:41:05,260 Now, for everybody else, if you want to work 987 00:41:05,260 --> 00:41:07,180 with us to develop your thought leadership 988 00:41:07,180 --> 00:41:10,120 message, create your signature talk and 989 00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:11,290 learn the business of speaking. 990 00:41:11,290 --> 00:41:12,610 That's exactly what we do in the Thought 991 00:41:12,610 --> 00:41:15,400 Leader Academy. So make sure that you reach 992 00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:16,450 out to us. You can. 993 00:41:16,450 --> 00:41:18,190 The next Thought Leader Academy starts on 994 00:41:18,190 --> 00:41:19,690 April 2nd. So if you want to learn more 995 00:41:19,690 --> 00:41:21,550 about that, you can go to speaking your 996 00:41:21,550 --> 00:41:24,400 brand.com/academy. Again that's speaking 997 00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:26,500 your brand.com/academy. 998 00:41:26,500 --> 00:41:28,480 And then of course the best way to stay up 999 00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:30,850 to date on all things speaking your brand is 1000 00:41:30,850 --> 00:41:33,010 to go to speaking your brand.com/join and 1001 00:41:33,010 --> 00:41:34,960 you can get on the email list. 1002 00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:38,020 So once again thank you Danny, Darcy and 1003 00:41:38,020 --> 00:41:40,570 Terry for taking the time to come on 1004 00:41:40,570 --> 00:41:42,430 backstage to share with everybody who is 1005 00:41:42,430 --> 00:41:45,340 watching and just for being so generous and 1006 00:41:45,340 --> 00:41:46,990 vulnerable with all of us. 1007 00:41:46,990 --> 00:41:48,220 We appreciate you. 1008 00:41:48,220 --> 00:41:50,230 So thank you for your time today. 1009 00:41:50,860 --> 00:41:51,370 Dani Einsohn: You're welcome. 1010 00:41:51,370 --> 00:41:52,510 Darci Foshay: Thank you so much. 1011 00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:54,430 Dani Einsohn: We appreciate you. 1012 00:41:55,300 --> 00:41:56,890 Diane Diaz: Oh, thank you so much. 1013 00:41:56,890 --> 00:41:58,960 All right. Well have a great rest of your 1014 00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:00,010 day. Bye. 1015 00:42:00,430 --> 00:42:02,530 Carol Cox: That was so much fun and so many useful 1016 00:42:02,530 --> 00:42:04,420 insights that they shared that you can start 1017 00:42:04,420 --> 00:42:06,580 using in your own presentations. 1018 00:42:06,580 --> 00:42:08,740 Until next time, thanks for listening.