In this episode, Amelia and Lilly dive into the infatuation-filled fog of new relationships—also known as the honeymoon phase… or, as they lovingly call it, boyfriend sickness. They explore what happens when all your time, energy, and identity start orbiting a new partner—and what that shift means for your friendships, your autonomy, and your group chats that have suddenly gone quiet.
With stories like Amelia’s grandma’s dating escapades and Lilly’s lessons on merging partner and friend worlds, they break down the emotional whiplash of early love, the loss of “I” language, and why some of your best friendships might quietly take a hit during those first few months of romantic bliss.
This one’s a must-listen if you’ve ever felt torn between being obsessed with someone and accidentally ghosting your best friends.
Therapy-Informed Takeaways:
- The honeymoon phase is exciting—but intense connection can unintentionally isolate you.
- “Boyfriend sickness” is real: infatuation often pulls focus from friends and routines.
- If everything becomes “we,” check in with yourself—and your people.
- Friendships can stretch, but they still need care and communication.
- Different relationship stages (like long-distance or 24/7 closeness) impact how this phase feels.
- Healthy check-ins help you avoid resentment before it builds—on either side.
- You’re allowed to be in love and still make space for the ones who’ve been there all along.
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Hosted by Amelia and Lilly, two licensed therapists based in Chicago, Illinois, Dating in Your 20s dives into the chaos, comedy, and complexity of modern dating — all through a therapeutic lens. As two women in their 20s, Amelia and Lilly are in the trenches themselves, navigating everything from bad Hinge dates and ghosting to social media comparison and the pressure of modern relationships.
With a mix of humor, honesty, and clinical insight, each episode blends real-life dating experiences with psychological frameworks like attachment theory, emotional regulation, communication styles, and more. Whether you're healing from heartbreak, stuck in a situationship, or just wondering why dating feels so complicated right now, Amelia and Lilly are here to help you feel a little less alone — and a lot more understood.