1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:11,833 --> 01:00:13,791 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday 4 01:00:13,791 --> 01:00:15,250 and happy Valentine's 5 01:00:15,250 --> 01:00:16,416 Day to everyone out there. 6 01:00:16,708 --> 01:00:19,000 Well, in addition to capitalism's call 7 01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:20,541 for selling more cards and 8 01:00:20,541 --> 01:00:22,166 flowers for our loved ones, 9 01:00:22,666 --> 01:00:23,666 Valentine's Day celebrates 10 01:00:23,666 --> 01:00:25,250 the feast of Saint Valentine. 11 01:00:25,791 --> 01:00:28,041 And he was a priest and physician who was 12 01:00:28,041 --> 01:00:29,916 martyred in the year of 270 in Rome. 13 01:00:30,583 --> 01:00:32,583 And the tradition of exchanging greetings 14 01:00:32,583 --> 01:00:34,250 of love on Valentine's Day 15 01:00:34,416 --> 01:00:37,166 is based on the legend that Valentine had 16 01:00:37,166 --> 01:00:39,166 signed a letter to his jailer's daughter 17 01:00:39,791 --> 01:00:41,500 from whom he had fallen in love. 18 01:00:41,958 --> 01:00:43,000 And he signed it, 19 01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:44,000 quote, "From your Valentine." 20 01:00:44,583 --> 01:00:46,041 Well, I guess that's kind of sweet. 21 01:00:46,916 --> 01:00:48,583 But if your heart feels like it's 22 01:00:48,583 --> 01:00:50,666 breaking today, get yourself to a doctor. 23 01:00:51,583 --> 01:00:52,916 Today is also Congenital 24 01:00:52,916 --> 01:00:54,625 Heart Defect Awareness Day. 25 01:00:55,375 --> 01:00:57,500 Education and prevention are paramount. 26 01:00:58,291 --> 01:01:00,875 And if it's too late for you, it's also 27 01:01:00,875 --> 01:01:02,333 National Organ Donor 28 01:01:02,333 --> 01:01:04,208 Day, a final gift of love. 29 01:01:04,958 --> 01:01:06,708 Wow, that really took a dark turn, so 30 01:01:06,708 --> 01:01:07,666 let's end this on a 31 01:01:07,666 --> 01:01:08,916 little bit of a sweeter note. 32 01:01:08,916 --> 01:01:10,541 It's also National 33 01:01:10,541 --> 01:01:12,041 Cream-filled Chocolate Day. 34 01:01:12,541 --> 01:01:14,083 Chocolate makes everything better. 35 01:01:14,583 --> 01:01:16,291 Okay, let's go ahead and jump right into 36 01:01:16,291 --> 01:01:18,000 today's episode with today's quotes. 37 01:01:18,250 --> 01:01:19,916 One fun, nostalgic quote, and then a 38 01:01:19,916 --> 01:01:21,541 second quote to tease our book review 39 01:01:21,541 --> 01:01:22,375 later in the episode. 40 01:01:23,000 --> 01:01:24,541 Hopefully, one of these quotes will speak 41 01:01:24,541 --> 01:01:25,750 to you and jumpstart your 42 01:01:25,750 --> 01:01:27,500 Friday in a positive direction. 43 01:01:28,166 --> 01:01:30,083 All right, the first quote today is from 44 01:01:30,083 --> 01:01:31,875 Sir Anthony Hopkins, who said, 45 01:01:32,208 --> 01:01:34,250 "The most valuable thing you have in your 46 01:01:34,250 --> 01:01:35,500 life is your time and 47 01:01:35,500 --> 01:01:37,250 energy, and both are limited. 48 01:01:38,041 --> 01:01:39,958 When you give your time and energy, it 49 01:01:39,958 --> 01:01:41,375 will define your existence." 50 01:01:41,833 --> 01:01:42,166 End quote. 51 01:01:42,791 --> 01:01:43,708 It's so true. 52 01:01:44,083 --> 01:01:45,750 The dash is everything. 53 01:01:46,625 --> 01:01:48,000 Make it count and spend 54 01:01:48,000 --> 01:01:49,250 it on what's important. 55 01:01:50,083 --> 01:01:51,333 What's the dash, you ask? 56 01:01:52,208 --> 01:01:54,125 It's what's between your birthday and 57 01:01:54,125 --> 01:01:55,916 your death day on your tombstone. 58 01:01:56,458 --> 01:01:58,000 That dash is your life. 59 01:01:58,583 --> 01:01:59,166 Make it count. 60 01:01:59,916 --> 01:02:01,250 My mom gave me that one, 61 01:02:01,250 --> 01:02:02,541 so credit goes to my mom. 62 01:02:03,416 --> 01:02:05,083 Today's teaser quote from the book review 63 01:02:05,083 --> 01:02:07,041 is, "When we are wrong, we 64 01:02:07,041 --> 01:02:08,375 may admit it to ourselves, 65 01:02:09,000 --> 01:02:10,708 and if we are handled gently and 66 01:02:10,708 --> 01:02:13,083 tactfully, we may admit it to others." 67 01:02:13,583 --> 01:02:13,958 End quote. 68 01:02:14,500 --> 01:02:16,125 As usual, we'll go ahead and unpack that 69 01:02:16,125 --> 01:02:16,875 here in just a few 70 01:02:16,875 --> 01:02:18,041 minutes during the book review 71 01:02:18,208 --> 01:02:20,000 segments, but first, let's jump into our 72 01:02:20,000 --> 01:02:21,416 usual dose of fun and 73 01:02:21,416 --> 01:02:23,125 historic facts from this day 74 01:02:23,125 --> 01:02:23,583 in history. 75 01:02:24,708 --> 01:02:25,583 Today's news, facts, and 76 01:02:25,583 --> 01:02:28,291 birthdays are for February 14th. 77 01:02:28,958 --> 01:02:31,333 Going back in 1779, Captain James Cook 78 01:02:31,333 --> 01:02:32,125 was killed by 79 01:02:32,125 --> 01:02:34,083 Hawaiians in a dispute over the 80 01:02:34,083 --> 01:02:35,125 theft of a cutter. 81 01:02:35,916 --> 01:02:37,708 I was actually just swimming in that bay 82 01:02:37,708 --> 01:02:39,458 about six months ago. 83 01:02:39,458 --> 01:02:40,791 Wish I was still there right now. 84 01:02:41,791 --> 01:02:45,416 In 1876, Alexander Graham Bell, you might 85 01:02:45,416 --> 01:02:46,833 recognize that name, he 86 01:02:46,833 --> 01:02:48,125 applied for the patent 87 01:02:48,458 --> 01:02:49,291 for the telephone. 88 01:02:50,250 --> 01:02:52,750 Then in 1920, Carrie Chapman Catt, she 89 01:02:52,750 --> 01:02:53,791 formed the League of 90 01:02:53,791 --> 01:02:55,250 Women Voters in Chicago. 91 01:02:56,291 --> 01:02:59,541 Ten years later, also in Chicago, in 1929 92 01:02:59,541 --> 01:03:01,708 on this date, the St. 93 01:03:02,083 --> 01:03:03,083 Valentine's Day Massacre 94 01:03:03,250 --> 01:03:03,583 occurred. 95 01:03:04,250 --> 01:03:05,833 Recall, it included members of Al 96 01:03:05,833 --> 01:03:06,750 Capone's gang of 97 01:03:06,750 --> 01:03:08,583 bootleggers shooting up a rival gang 98 01:03:08,583 --> 01:03:09,666 during the Prohibition era. 99 01:03:10,708 --> 01:03:13,583 In 1973, the Miami 100 01:03:13,583 --> 01:03:14,875 Dolphins won the Super Bowl. 101 01:03:15,458 --> 01:03:17,291 What's interesting about that one is they 102 01:03:17,291 --> 01:03:18,666 capped off the only 103 01:03:18,666 --> 01:03:20,541 undefeated season in NFL 104 01:03:20,625 --> 01:03:20,833 history. 105 01:03:22,166 --> 01:03:24,750 Then in 1991, the psychological thriller 106 01:03:24,750 --> 01:03:26,208 The Silence of the Lambs, 107 01:03:26,208 --> 01:03:27,416 it was released in American 108 01:03:27,416 --> 01:03:28,708 theaters on this day. 109 01:03:29,125 --> 01:03:30,916 Funny that it was on Valentine's Day. 110 01:03:31,416 --> 01:03:33,166 It was widely regarded as a classic. 111 01:03:33,416 --> 01:03:35,125 It won five Academy Awards, including 112 01:03:35,125 --> 01:03:36,375 Best Picture, Best 113 01:03:36,375 --> 01:03:38,416 Actor, Best Actress, and the 114 01:03:38,416 --> 01:03:38,875 Best Director. 115 01:03:39,750 --> 01:03:42,916 Then in 2003, Dolly the Sheep was put to 116 01:03:42,916 --> 01:03:43,791 death after showing 117 01:03:43,791 --> 01:03:45,291 signs of premature aging and 118 01:03:45,333 --> 01:03:46,625 contracting various diseases. 119 01:03:47,291 --> 01:03:48,625 You'll remember Dolly, right? 120 01:03:48,666 --> 01:03:50,750 She was the first mammal to be cloned. 121 01:03:51,666 --> 01:03:55,208 Then finally in 2005, Steve Chin, Chad 122 01:03:55,208 --> 01:03:57,625 Hurley, and Jod Karim, they 123 01:03:57,625 --> 01:03:59,041 registered a website called 124 01:03:59,083 --> 01:04:00,916 YouTube for sharing videos. 125 01:04:01,291 --> 01:04:02,500 I think they ended up doing okay. 126 01:04:02,916 --> 01:04:03,708 In fact, you might be 127 01:04:03,708 --> 01:04:05,250 watching me on YouTube right now. 128 01:04:06,166 --> 01:04:07,333 Well, happy birthday if 129 01:04:07,333 --> 01:04:08,416 today is your birthday. 130 01:04:08,416 --> 01:04:09,750 You share a birthday with 131 01:04:09,750 --> 01:04:11,208 Teller of Penn and Teller. 132 01:04:11,458 --> 01:04:12,083 He's 77. 133 01:04:13,083 --> 01:04:15,083 Simon Pegg, you might know him from the 134 01:04:15,083 --> 01:04:16,208 Mission Impossible films. 135 01:04:16,583 --> 01:04:17,291 He's 55. 136 01:04:18,250 --> 01:04:20,750 And singer Rob Thomas, he's 53 today. 137 01:04:21,583 --> 01:04:24,041 And the number one song on this day was a 138 01:04:24,041 --> 01:04:25,291 song that I picked in 139 01:04:25,291 --> 01:04:26,708 honor of Valentine's, 140 01:04:26,958 --> 01:04:27,666 The Day of Love. 141 01:04:28,083 --> 01:04:29,250 And oftentimes it's a 142 01:04:29,250 --> 01:04:30,583 bit of a sexy day too. 143 01:04:31,083 --> 01:04:33,583 So the number one song on this date back 144 01:04:33,583 --> 01:04:36,333 in 1992 was I'm Too 145 01:04:36,333 --> 01:04:38,291 Sexy by Wright Said Fred. 146 01:04:38,666 --> 01:04:39,875 No doubt you remember that one. 147 01:04:40,166 --> 01:04:42,208 It has to be one of the worst number one 148 01:04:42,208 --> 01:04:43,416 songs of all time, 149 01:04:43,416 --> 01:04:44,625 although it was very catchy. 150 01:04:45,333 --> 01:04:47,833 Surprisingly, this was Wright Said Fred's 151 01:04:47,833 --> 01:04:48,875 first song on their 152 01:04:48,875 --> 01:04:50,083 first album and it went 153 01:04:50,083 --> 01:04:51,083 straight to number one. 154 01:04:51,625 --> 01:04:54,083 But maybe not surprisingly, it was their 155 01:04:54,083 --> 01:04:55,166 only number one hit. 156 01:04:55,875 --> 01:04:58,000 Perhaps the number two song on that date 157 01:04:58,000 --> 01:04:59,916 was also appropriate for Valentine's Day. 158 01:05:00,333 --> 01:05:01,333 And that was I Love 159 01:05:01,333 --> 01:05:02,958 Your Smile by Shanice. 160 01:05:04,041 --> 01:05:06,000 And the number one movie on this date 161 01:05:06,000 --> 01:05:08,166 back in 2001 is another 162 01:05:08,166 --> 01:05:09,625 movie that I picked that 163 01:05:09,625 --> 01:05:11,375 was inspired by Valentine's Day. 164 01:05:11,791 --> 01:05:12,666 And it was Hannibal. 165 01:05:13,208 --> 01:05:14,666 This is the movie starring Anthony 166 01:05:14,666 --> 01:05:16,708 Hopkins as Dr. Hannibal Lecter. 167 01:05:17,208 --> 01:05:18,291 And it's the sequel to 168 01:05:18,291 --> 01:05:19,583 The Silence of the Lambs. 169 01:05:19,916 --> 01:05:21,625 And before your mind gets too morbid 170 01:05:21,625 --> 01:05:23,375 here, I picked this movie 171 01:05:23,375 --> 01:05:24,958 for Valentine's Day because 172 01:05:24,958 --> 01:05:26,708 some of you are headed out for a nice 173 01:05:26,708 --> 01:05:28,375 Valentine's Day dinner tonight. 174 01:05:28,833 --> 01:05:30,750 And I thought this would serve as a nice 175 01:05:30,750 --> 01:05:33,500 reminder to pair your wine wisely. 176 01:05:34,041 --> 01:05:36,708 As Hannibal said, I ate his liver with 177 01:05:36,708 --> 01:05:39,000 some fava beans and a nice Chianti. 178 01:05:41,083 --> 01:05:42,541 Alright, well let's go ahead and move on 179 01:05:42,541 --> 01:05:43,208 to some personal 180 01:05:43,208 --> 01:05:44,458 growth in the book review 181 01:05:44,458 --> 01:05:45,708 segment of Morning Serial. 182 01:05:46,250 --> 01:05:47,833 This is where we take a few moments to 183 01:05:47,833 --> 01:05:49,000 reflect on lessons learned 184 01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:49,875 from the current book we're 185 01:05:49,875 --> 01:05:50,166 reading. 186 01:05:50,666 --> 01:05:52,000 And currently, we're still reading 187 01:05:52,000 --> 01:05:53,500 through Dale Carnegie's How to Win 188 01:05:53,500 --> 01:05:54,333 Friends and Influence 189 01:05:54,583 --> 01:05:54,708 People. 190 01:05:55,250 --> 01:05:57,208 As you all know, say it together with me, 191 01:05:57,208 --> 01:05:59,041 it's a timeless book that is consistently 192 01:05:59,041 --> 01:06:00,625 in all the must read lists. 193 01:06:01,041 --> 01:06:02,708 And it's packed with rock solid advice 194 01:06:02,708 --> 01:06:04,000 and actions for us all 195 01:06:04,000 --> 01:06:05,083 to use and build healthy 196 01:06:05,083 --> 01:06:06,791 foundational concepts to live by. 197 01:06:07,625 --> 01:06:09,500 We're still making our way through Part 2 198 01:06:09,500 --> 01:06:12,708 and Chapter 2 of Part 2, entitled A Sure 199 01:06:12,708 --> 01:06:13,916 Way of Making Enemies 200 01:06:13,916 --> 01:06:15,333 and How to Avoid It. 201 01:06:15,791 --> 01:06:17,833 And Carnegie began this chapter by 202 01:06:17,833 --> 01:06:19,666 revealing the art in conversations, 203 01:06:19,916 --> 01:06:20,541 whether we are right 204 01:06:20,541 --> 01:06:21,000 or wrong. 205 01:06:21,625 --> 01:06:23,458 We're learning that it's difficult to 206 01:06:23,458 --> 01:06:24,625 change someone's way of 207 01:06:24,625 --> 01:06:25,833 thinking and their beliefs. 208 01:06:26,208 --> 01:06:27,791 And that's because they're deeply held 209 01:06:27,791 --> 01:06:28,625 and they're associated 210 01:06:28,625 --> 01:06:29,916 with their self-esteem. 211 01:06:30,625 --> 01:06:32,125 And as such, people will 212 01:06:32,125 --> 01:06:34,083 cling to them, even unreasonably. 213 01:06:34,875 --> 01:06:37,125 So we need to artfully approach these 214 01:06:37,125 --> 01:06:38,625 conversations, looking for 215 01:06:38,625 --> 01:06:40,125 the facts and looking for common 216 01:06:40,291 --> 01:06:42,250 ground, looking for the other person's 217 01:06:42,250 --> 01:06:43,625 perspective, and then 218 01:06:43,625 --> 01:06:45,375 openly admitting to it if we're 219 01:06:45,375 --> 01:06:45,625 wrong. 220 01:06:46,750 --> 01:06:48,750 Today, we'll jump right into a Carnegie 221 01:06:48,750 --> 01:06:50,291 story, illustrating the 222 01:06:50,291 --> 01:06:51,500 art of this perspective. 223 01:06:52,125 --> 01:06:54,791 As the story goes, Carnegie had hired an 224 01:06:54,791 --> 01:06:56,291 interior decorator to make 225 01:06:56,291 --> 01:06:57,666 some draperies for his home. 226 01:06:58,291 --> 01:06:59,958 And when he received the bill, he was 227 01:06:59,958 --> 01:07:02,041 shocked at how much he had been charged. 228 01:07:02,833 --> 01:07:04,125 A few days later, a friend 229 01:07:04,125 --> 01:07:05,916 came by and the price came up. 230 01:07:06,250 --> 01:07:07,458 And the friend said, "What? 231 01:07:07,916 --> 01:07:08,375 That's awful. 232 01:07:08,916 --> 01:07:10,791 I'm afraid he put one over on you." 233 01:07:11,583 --> 01:07:12,708 And here's the lesson 234 01:07:12,708 --> 01:07:13,583 in this short story. 235 01:07:14,250 --> 01:07:16,333 Carnegie's friend had told the truth, and 236 01:07:16,333 --> 01:07:18,291 Carnegie even agreed with what the friend 237 01:07:18,458 --> 01:07:18,708 said. 238 01:07:19,375 --> 01:07:20,375 However, here it is. 239 01:07:20,833 --> 01:07:23,000 The truth that the friend spoke to the 240 01:07:23,000 --> 01:07:24,541 high price, well, that 241 01:07:24,541 --> 01:07:26,750 comment reflected on Carnegie's 242 01:07:26,750 --> 01:07:28,416 judgment in a negative way. 243 01:07:29,125 --> 01:07:32,083 And Carnegie, human as he is also, and as 244 01:07:32,083 --> 01:07:33,875 we all are, naturally, 245 01:07:33,875 --> 01:07:35,083 human nature made him 246 01:07:35,250 --> 01:07:36,125 feel defensive. 247 01:07:36,750 --> 01:07:38,875 He felt the need to defend his judgment 248 01:07:38,875 --> 01:07:40,083 of the price he paid, 249 01:07:40,458 --> 01:07:41,416 even though he agreed it 250 01:07:41,416 --> 01:07:42,250 was way too much. 251 01:07:42,916 --> 01:07:44,625 So Carnegie, instead of just agreeing 252 01:07:44,625 --> 01:07:45,583 with his friend, he 253 01:07:45,583 --> 01:07:47,083 tried to defend the price he 254 01:07:47,083 --> 01:07:49,416 paid by talking about the quality and the 255 01:07:49,416 --> 01:07:50,416 money he'd save over 256 01:07:50,416 --> 01:07:51,750 time for the overpriced 257 01:07:51,916 --> 01:07:52,208 curtains. 258 01:07:53,458 --> 01:07:55,333 Alternatively, Carnegie had another 259 01:07:55,333 --> 01:07:57,416 friend who also came over and was 260 01:07:57,416 --> 01:07:58,333 admiring the curtains. 261 01:07:58,958 --> 01:08:01,666 And, "bubbled over with enthusiasm and 262 01:08:01,666 --> 01:08:02,833 wished she could afford 263 01:08:02,833 --> 01:08:04,291 such exquisite creations 264 01:08:04,291 --> 01:08:05,083 for her home." 265 01:08:06,166 --> 01:08:07,375 And this time, Carnegie 266 01:08:07,375 --> 01:08:08,833 reacted totally different. 267 01:08:09,291 --> 01:08:11,041 He told his friend he couldn't afford 268 01:08:11,041 --> 01:08:12,500 them himself and that he 269 01:08:12,500 --> 01:08:14,083 paid too much and he wished 270 01:08:14,083 --> 01:08:15,333 he had not ordered them. 271 01:08:16,083 --> 01:08:18,875 Carnegie says, "When we are wrong, we may 272 01:08:18,875 --> 01:08:19,916 admit it to ourselves. 273 01:08:20,541 --> 01:08:22,375 And if we are handled gently and 274 01:08:22,375 --> 01:08:24,250 tactfully, we may admit it 275 01:08:24,250 --> 01:08:25,708 to others and even take pride 276 01:08:25,958 --> 01:08:28,125 in our frankness and broad-mindedness. 277 01:08:28,958 --> 01:08:31,166 But not if someone else is trying to ram 278 01:08:31,166 --> 01:08:32,625 that unpalatable fact 279 01:08:32,625 --> 01:08:33,916 down our esophagus." 280 01:08:34,416 --> 01:08:36,166 And that's right on. 281 01:08:36,166 --> 01:08:37,958 We usually know when we are wrong, we 282 01:08:37,958 --> 01:08:39,416 don't like to admit it, 283 01:08:39,416 --> 01:08:40,833 unless it's a safe environment 284 01:08:41,541 --> 01:08:42,791 and we surely don't like 285 01:08:42,791 --> 01:08:43,958 to be told we are wrong. 286 01:08:44,541 --> 01:08:46,083 Carnegie next highlights a man who wrote 287 01:08:46,083 --> 01:08:47,208 many letters complaining, 288 01:08:47,833 --> 01:08:49,083 ridiculing and personally 289 01:08:49,083 --> 01:08:51,125 attacking President Lincoln, trying to 290 01:08:51,125 --> 01:08:52,875 get the president to change his policies. 291 01:08:53,541 --> 01:08:54,041 And did it work? 292 01:08:54,458 --> 01:08:54,666 No. 293 01:08:55,583 --> 01:08:58,708 He says, "Ridicule and abuse never do." 294 01:08:59,875 --> 01:09:02,208 Carnegie has often called on the journey 295 01:09:02,208 --> 01:09:03,250 of Benjamin Franklin, 296 01:09:03,500 --> 01:09:04,666 who had to learn the art 297 01:09:04,666 --> 01:09:07,000 of dealing with people, growing from a 298 01:09:07,000 --> 01:09:08,958 combative youth to a suave 299 01:09:08,958 --> 01:09:10,250 diplomat as he got older. 300 01:09:10,958 --> 01:09:13,083 And Carnegie points to a passage in 301 01:09:13,083 --> 01:09:14,083 Franklin's autobiography 302 01:09:14,083 --> 01:09:15,666 about the turning point for 303 01:09:15,666 --> 01:09:15,958 him. 304 01:09:16,500 --> 01:09:17,416 And here's that passage, 305 01:09:18,250 --> 01:09:20,500 "Ben, you are impossible. 306 01:09:21,083 --> 01:09:23,125 Your opinions have a slap in them for 307 01:09:23,125 --> 01:09:24,583 everyone who differs with you. 308 01:09:25,125 --> 01:09:25,916 They have become so 309 01:09:25,916 --> 01:09:27,958 offensive that nobody cares for them. 310 01:09:28,416 --> 01:09:30,041 Your friends finally enjoy themselves 311 01:09:30,041 --> 01:09:31,583 better when you are not around. 312 01:09:32,458 --> 01:09:33,791 You know so much that no 313 01:09:33,791 --> 01:09:35,125 man can tell you anything. 314 01:09:35,833 --> 01:09:38,041 Indeed, no man is going to try, for the 315 01:09:38,041 --> 01:09:39,333 effort would lead only to 316 01:09:39,333 --> 01:09:41,000 discomfort and hard work. 317 01:09:41,625 --> 01:09:44,041 So you are not likely ever to know any 318 01:09:44,041 --> 01:09:45,291 more than you do now, 319 01:09:45,500 --> 01:09:46,375 which is very little." 320 01:09:48,125 --> 01:09:50,583 And Franklin took that to heart and made 321 01:09:50,583 --> 01:09:52,250 an about-face that day 322 01:09:52,250 --> 01:09:54,375 saying, "made a rule to 323 01:09:54,375 --> 01:09:57,291 forbear all direction, contradiction, to 324 01:09:57,291 --> 01:09:58,541 the sentiment of others." 325 01:09:59,500 --> 01:10:01,333 And he altered the way he spoke to people 326 01:10:01,333 --> 01:10:02,250 so that he didn't 327 01:10:02,250 --> 01:10:03,708 speak with fixed opinions 328 01:10:03,833 --> 01:10:04,083 anymore. 329 01:10:04,583 --> 01:10:05,708 He didn't make lashing 330 01:10:05,708 --> 01:10:07,000 points with certainty. 331 01:10:07,583 --> 01:10:10,250 Instead, he would say, "I imagined," or 332 01:10:10,250 --> 01:10:11,583 he wouldn't tear others' 333 01:10:11,583 --> 01:10:13,458 ideas apart, suggesting 334 01:10:13,458 --> 01:10:15,000 potential differences in their 335 01:10:15,000 --> 01:10:16,666 perspectives, modestly 336 01:10:16,666 --> 01:10:18,000 introducing his opinion. 337 01:10:18,541 --> 01:10:19,500 And this worked for Franklin. 338 01:10:20,083 --> 01:10:21,500 He was less embarrassed when he was 339 01:10:21,500 --> 01:10:22,708 wrong, and others were 340 01:10:22,708 --> 01:10:24,166 more open to seeing his way 341 01:10:24,166 --> 01:10:24,916 when he was right. 342 01:10:26,041 --> 01:10:27,791 Franklin also mentions that it took 343 01:10:27,791 --> 01:10:28,916 discipline for him to 344 01:10:28,916 --> 01:10:30,750 change these habits in overtime. 345 01:10:31,541 --> 01:10:32,625 But over time, it 346 01:10:32,625 --> 01:10:34,125 became very natural for him. 347 01:10:34,708 --> 01:10:36,541 In this art of interaction that he 348 01:10:36,541 --> 01:10:37,958 mastered over his life, 349 01:10:37,958 --> 01:10:39,083 along with his character and 350 01:10:39,083 --> 01:10:41,166 his integrity, he said helped him 351 01:10:41,166 --> 01:10:42,541 generally prevail with 352 01:10:42,541 --> 01:10:45,208 his points despite being "a 353 01:10:45,375 --> 01:10:48,333 bad speaker, never eloquent, subject to 354 01:10:48,333 --> 01:10:49,541 much hesitation in my 355 01:10:49,541 --> 01:10:51,333 choice of words, hardly 356 01:10:51,416 --> 01:10:52,666 correct in his language." 357 01:10:53,833 --> 01:10:55,583 Well, I can definitely relate with that. 358 01:10:56,083 --> 01:10:58,083 Okay, tomorrow we're going to finish 359 01:10:58,083 --> 01:10:59,041 chapter two of part 360 01:10:59,041 --> 01:11:00,333 three, and we're going to learn 361 01:11:00,333 --> 01:11:02,291 Carnegie's next principle in a chapter 362 01:11:02,291 --> 01:11:03,958 entitled, "A Sure Way of 363 01:11:03,958 --> 01:11:05,833 Making Enemies, How to Avoid 364 01:11:05,875 --> 01:11:06,250 It." 365 01:11:06,916 --> 01:11:09,000 Well, no doubt, you've not made enemies. 366 01:11:09,416 --> 01:11:10,416 You've made loved ones. 367 01:11:10,833 --> 01:11:12,500 And I hope you get to spend tonight with 368 01:11:12,500 --> 01:11:13,833 them, and if not with 369 01:11:13,833 --> 01:11:15,791 them, honoring and remembering 370 01:11:15,791 --> 01:11:16,708 the many great 371 01:11:16,708 --> 01:11:18,083 memories you had with them. 372 01:11:18,625 --> 01:11:19,708 Thanks for listening today. 373 01:11:20,166 --> 01:11:22,125 Have a wonderful weekend and a fantastic 374 01:11:22,125 --> 01:11:23,375 day, and we'll see 375 01:11:23,375 --> 01:11:24,250 you back here on Monday. 376 01:11:25,583 --> 01:11:28,041 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 377 01:11:28,041 --> 01:11:28,666 the Morning Serial 378 01:11:28,666 --> 01:11:30,791 Podcast on the One Life Live 379 01:11:30,791 --> 01:11:31,291 It channel. 380 01:11:31,750 --> 01:11:33,750 You can find more episodes and videos by 381 01:11:33,750 --> 01:11:35,416 visiting our YouTube channel and the 382 01:11:35,416 --> 01:11:37,000 website at Shawningless 383 01:11:37,416 --> 01:11:39,583 and at 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