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Do you ever feel that you have very little control over your life? Do you feel like everything is always against you? Or that things never turn out good for you? Sometimes, we don’t recognize that we get stuck in a victim mentality. Victim mentality refers to a self-sabotaging mindset that could be formed from trauma or messages we received or experienced in the past. It is a perspective that serves as an avoidance of responsibility for our own thoughts and actions. This mentality can cause significant emotional distress and a lot of anxiety because there is a sense of feeling helpless, pessimistic, angry, and afraid. Individuals who struggle with it often have a difficult time seeing their part in it because our thoughts about an event create the reality we have about that event. And yet, it was just an event where you were not happy with the outcome. So, how do we get ourselves out of this mindset? First, we need to recognize the choice we are making of how we are thinking about something. Once we recognize that choice, we can become aware and accept the responsibility for our thoughts and actions. Secondly, we should anchor into the concept of self-compassion. Treat yourself with empathy and kindness over judgment. And the third would be to start looking into your inner child, where the victim mentality may have begun. Instead of reliving those past experiences, look at them from a different lens. Victim mentality is really about understanding and recognizing when something is present for you. It’s not about judging it but recognizing your thoughts of “this is happening to me” and to shift it towards thinking of “this is happening for me”. That shift takes us from victimhood to taking ownership of our lives and being in charge of creating our own happiness. Continue Your Growth Journey: Kaminiwood.com
Do you ever feel that you have very little control over your life? Do you feel like everything is always against you? Or that things never turn out good for you? Sometimes, we don’t recognize that we get stuck in a victim mentality. Victim mentality refers to a self-sabotaging mindset that could be formed from trauma or messages we received or experienced in the past. It is a perspective that serves as an avoidance of responsibility for our own thoughts and actions.
This mentality can cause significant emotional distress and a lot of anxiety because there is a sense of feeling helpless, pessimistic, angry, and afraid. Individuals who struggle with it often have a difficult time seeing their part in it because our thoughts about an event create the reality we have about that event. And yet, it was just an event where you were not happy with the outcome.
So, how do we get ourselves out of this mindset? First, we need to recognize the choice we are making of how we are thinking about something. Once we recognize that choice, we can become aware and accept the responsibility for our thoughts and actions. Secondly, we should anchor into the concept of self-compassion. Treat yourself with empathy and kindness over judgment. And the third would be to start looking into your inner child, where the victim mentality may have begun. Instead of reliving those past experiences, look at them from a different lens.
Victim mentality is really about understanding and recognizing when something is present for you. It’s not about judging it but recognizing your thoughts of “this is happening to me” and to shift it towards thinking of “this is happening for me”. That shift takes us from victimhood to taking ownership of our lives and being in charge of creating our own happiness.
Continue Your Growth Journey:
Kamini Wood works with high achievers on letting go of stress, overwhelm and anxiety that comes with trying to do everything, and trying to do it all perfectly