1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:12,208 --> 01:00:14,416 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:16,708 For some of us, that was only a four-day 5 01:00:16,708 --> 01:00:18,958 work week, but why does that sometimes 6 01:00:18,958 --> 01:00:21,541 feel like it's a longer week? It feels a 7 01:00:21,541 --> 01:00:23,291 bit hard to get back to the grind. It's 8 01:00:23,291 --> 01:00:25,208 like when you go back to work after a 9 01:00:25,208 --> 01:00:26,958 long vacation. It's a heavy lift 10 01:00:26,958 --> 01:00:27,458 sometimes. 11 01:00:28,458 --> 01:00:30,250 Nevertheless, we've all made it yet 12 01:00:30,250 --> 01:00:33,166 again to another Friday and it's National 13 01:00:33,166 --> 01:00:36,250 Sticky Bun Friday too. So let's just make 14 01:00:36,250 --> 01:00:38,375 this Friday that much sweeter and grab 15 01:00:38,375 --> 01:00:40,583 your best friend because today is also 16 01:00:40,583 --> 01:00:44,833 no one eats a lone day. Alright, let's go 17 01:00:44,833 --> 01:00:46,208 ahead and just jump into today's 18 01:00:46,208 --> 01:00:48,333 episode with the quotes. One fun 19 01:00:48,333 --> 01:00:50,333 nostalgic quote and then a second quote 20 01:00:50,333 --> 01:00:52,291 to tease our book review later in the 21 01:00:52,291 --> 01:00:54,375 episode. Hopefully one of these quotes 22 01:00:54,375 --> 01:00:56,083 will speak to you and kickstart your day 23 01:00:56,083 --> 01:00:58,833 in a positive direction. Alright, the 24 01:00:58,833 --> 01:01:01,125 first quote is from Jennifer Garner who 25 01:01:01,125 --> 01:01:04,125 said, "Believe in yourself and all 26 01:01:04,125 --> 01:01:06,125 that you are. Know that there is 27 01:01:06,125 --> 01:01:07,750 something inside you that is greater 28 01:01:07,833 --> 01:01:10,750 than any obstacle." End quote. And 29 01:01:10,750 --> 01:01:11,583 today's teaser quote 30 01:01:11,583 --> 01:01:12,791 from the book review is, 31 01:01:13,125 --> 01:01:15,958 "Gentleness and friendliness were always 32 01:01:15,958 --> 01:01:19,083 stronger than fury and force." End quote. 33 01:01:19,666 --> 01:01:21,500 And as usual, we'll unpack those here in 34 01:01:21,500 --> 01:01:22,875 just a minute during the book review 35 01:01:22,875 --> 01:01:25,208 segment, but first let's jump into our 36 01:01:25,208 --> 01:01:27,541 usual dose of fun and historic facts from 37 01:01:27,541 --> 01:01:29,833 this day in history. In today's news, 38 01:01:29,833 --> 01:01:30,541 facts and birthdays 39 01:01:30,541 --> 01:01:32,541 are for February 21st. 40 01:01:33,291 --> 01:01:36,083 Starting way back in 1804, that's when 41 01:01:36,083 --> 01:01:38,666 the world's first steam locomotive ran 42 01:01:38,666 --> 01:01:39,875 for the very first time 43 01:01:39,875 --> 01:01:41,625 along a tramway in Wales. 44 01:01:42,666 --> 01:01:46,416 Then in 1878, the world's first telephone 45 01:01:46,416 --> 01:01:48,541 book is issued in New Haven, Connecticut. 46 01:01:49,291 --> 01:01:51,583 The directory consisted of a single piece 47 01:01:51,583 --> 01:01:53,833 of cardboard and it comprised of 48 01:01:53,833 --> 01:01:58,416 only 50 numbers. Then in 1885, the 49 01:01:58,416 --> 01:02:00,541 Washington Monument was dedicated on the 50 01:02:00,583 --> 01:02:02,666 grounds of the mall in Washington, DC. 51 01:02:03,708 --> 01:02:05,791 Then jumping all the way up to 1958, 52 01:02:06,458 --> 01:02:09,375 that's when the peace symbol was designed 53 01:02:09,375 --> 01:02:13,625 by Gerald Holtham. Then in 1972, the US 54 01:02:13,625 --> 01:02:16,083 President Richard M. Nixon, he paid a 55 01:02:16,083 --> 01:02:18,000 state visit to the People's Republic of 56 01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:20,583 China and that ended a 21-year 57 01:02:20,583 --> 01:02:22,291 estrangement between the communist 58 01:02:22,375 --> 01:02:25,000 country and the United States. And 59 01:02:25,000 --> 01:02:27,416 surprisingly, Nixon was the very first 60 01:02:27,458 --> 01:02:31,041 US President to visit China. Then in 61 01:02:31,041 --> 01:02:34,208 1990, the Batman theme by Danny Elfman, 62 01:02:34,208 --> 01:02:36,541 it won a Grammy Award for the best 63 01:02:36,541 --> 01:02:39,000 instrumental composition at the 32nd 64 01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:42,166 annual Grammy Awards. Then in 1995, 65 01:02:42,458 --> 01:02:44,208 American businessman and adventurer 66 01:02:44,291 --> 01:02:46,333 Stephen Fawcett, you might remember this 67 01:02:46,333 --> 01:02:48,541 on the news, but he became the first 68 01:02:48,541 --> 01:02:50,916 person to fly solo across the Pacific 69 01:02:50,916 --> 01:02:53,666 Ocean in a balloon. It was the first of 70 01:02:53,666 --> 01:02:58,041 his many aviation records. Then in 2003, 71 01:02:58,458 --> 01:03:00,166 Bill Mayer's political talk show, 72 01:03:00,166 --> 01:03:02,500 Real Time with Bill Mayer, it debuted on 73 01:03:02,500 --> 01:03:04,791 HBO. And then finally 74 01:03:04,791 --> 01:03:07,583 in 2004, Simon Cowell, 75 01:03:07,583 --> 01:03:09,833 he was set to appear in a new episode of 76 01:03:09,833 --> 01:03:12,750 The Simpsons and the idol judge played a 77 01:03:12,750 --> 01:03:15,000 nursery boss who gets punched in the face 78 01:03:15,000 --> 01:03:18,708 by Homer Simpson. Well, happy birthday if 79 01:03:18,750 --> 01:03:20,666 today is your birthday. You share a 80 01:03:20,666 --> 01:03:23,333 birthday with Kelsey Grammer, he's 70 81 01:03:23,458 --> 01:03:26,500 today, and Jennifer Love Hewitt, she's 82 01:03:26,500 --> 01:03:30,250 46. And the number one movie on this date 83 01:03:30,250 --> 01:03:34,000 back in 2003 was Daredevil. It's a movie 84 01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:36,291 about the comic book superhero, which 85 01:03:36,291 --> 01:03:38,375 starred Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner. 86 01:03:39,166 --> 01:03:40,666 And during the filming, the two became 87 01:03:40,666 --> 01:03:43,083 closer friends, which eventually turned 88 01:03:43,083 --> 01:03:46,625 romantic in 2004. And then the number one 89 01:03:46,666 --> 01:03:49,791 song on this date back in 1980 was Do It 90 01:03:49,791 --> 01:03:52,291 To Me One More Time by Captain and 91 01:03:52,291 --> 01:03:55,375 Tennille. This is a great love song. And 92 01:03:55,375 --> 01:03:57,666 apparently the sexual tension of the 93 01:03:57,666 --> 01:04:00,791 song was in stark contrast to the husband 94 01:04:00,791 --> 01:04:03,833 and wife's very public persona of being 95 01:04:03,833 --> 01:04:07,000 quote, "aggressively wholesome." In fact, 96 01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:08,958 the husband and wife team were described 97 01:04:08,958 --> 01:04:12,291 as this, quote, "White bread wasn't just 98 01:04:12,291 --> 01:04:14,625 a part of the duo's menu, it was their 99 01:04:14,666 --> 01:04:17,750 entire meal," end quote. Well, the duo 100 01:04:17,750 --> 01:04:19,833 enjoyed one week at the number one spot 101 01:04:19,833 --> 01:04:22,041 and it was the second and the last of 102 01:04:22,041 --> 01:04:25,416 their two number one hits. Okay, let's 103 01:04:25,416 --> 01:04:27,250 move on to some personal growth in the 104 01:04:27,250 --> 01:04:29,125 book review segment of Morning Cereal. 105 01:04:29,541 --> 01:04:31,083 This is where we take a few moments to 106 01:04:31,083 --> 01:04:32,666 reflect on lessons learned from the 107 01:04:32,666 --> 01:04:34,291 current book we're reading. And as you 108 01:04:34,291 --> 01:04:35,791 all know, currently we're still reading 109 01:04:35,833 --> 01:04:37,875 through Dale Carnegie's How to Win 110 01:04:37,875 --> 01:04:40,000 Friends and Influence People. It's a 111 01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:42,041 timeless book that is consistently on all 112 01:04:42,041 --> 01:04:43,625 the must-read lists and it's packed 113 01:04:43,750 --> 01:04:46,458 with rock-solid advice and actions for us 114 01:04:46,458 --> 01:04:47,708 all to use and build healthy 115 01:04:47,708 --> 01:04:49,500 foundational concepts to live by. 116 01:04:50,541 --> 01:04:53,791 Yesterday we began chapter 4 of part 3, 117 01:04:54,166 --> 01:04:57,083 which is entitled A Drop of Honey. And 118 01:04:57,083 --> 01:04:59,083 Carnegie threw us straight into the fire, 119 01:04:59,083 --> 01:05:01,458 suggesting we avoid the fight, we avoid 120 01:05:01,458 --> 01:05:04,000 the argument, avoid telling people 121 01:05:04,000 --> 01:05:06,583 outright that they are in the wrong and 122 01:05:06,583 --> 01:05:08,208 that we should take the time to 123 01:05:08,250 --> 01:05:10,958 understand our differences, take time to 124 01:05:10,958 --> 01:05:13,875 understand the person. Then there is the 125 01:05:13,875 --> 01:05:15,583 likelihood that we can find some common 126 01:05:15,583 --> 01:05:18,708 ground to agree on, but cool heads must 127 01:05:18,708 --> 01:05:21,083 prevail and tact must be utilized. 128 01:05:22,083 --> 01:05:24,000 Carnegie reminds us that, quote, "a drop 129 01:05:24,000 --> 01:05:26,416 of honey catches more flies than a gallon 130 01:05:26,416 --> 01:05:27,625 of gall," end quote. 131 01:05:28,458 --> 01:05:29,458 And Carnegie starts us 132 01:05:29,458 --> 01:05:31,625 off today by saying, quote, "If a man's 133 01:05:31,625 --> 01:05:33,916 heart is wrinkling with discord and ill 134 01:05:33,916 --> 01:05:36,458 feeling towards you, you can't win him to 135 01:05:36,458 --> 01:05:37,958 your way of thinking with all the 136 01:05:38,000 --> 01:05:39,916 logic and Christendom," end quote. 137 01:05:40,583 --> 01:05:42,000 Carnegie gives two more 138 01:05:42,000 --> 01:05:43,333 examples of avoiding the 139 01:05:43,333 --> 01:05:45,500 fight. The first story relates to the 140 01:05:45,500 --> 01:05:48,000 account of another strike for more pay 141 01:05:48,000 --> 01:05:50,416 and acceptance into the Union for auto 142 01:05:50,416 --> 01:05:52,916 workers. And at that time, and as we 143 01:05:52,916 --> 01:05:54,541 learned yesterday about the Rockefeller 144 01:05:54,541 --> 01:05:56,625 strike, these strikes could be very 145 01:05:56,625 --> 01:05:59,333 cantankerous and even violent. The 146 01:05:59,333 --> 01:06:00,958 president of the company, instead of 147 01:06:00,958 --> 01:06:03,291 condemning and threatening the workers in 148 01:06:03,291 --> 01:06:04,958 this current strike, the president 149 01:06:05,208 --> 01:06:07,375 praised them for being peaceful and he 150 01:06:07,375 --> 01:06:09,541 bought them baseball bats and gloves and 151 01:06:09,541 --> 01:06:11,375 he rented out a bowling alley for them to 152 01:06:11,375 --> 01:06:12,250 pass the time. 153 01:06:13,250 --> 01:06:14,541 Carnegie says, quote, "This 154 01:06:14,541 --> 01:06:16,250 friendliness on the part of the president 155 01:06:16,250 --> 01:06:18,083 of the company did what 156 01:06:18,083 --> 01:06:20,833 friendliness always does. It begot 157 01:06:20,833 --> 01:06:23,458 friendliness. And the strikers settled 158 01:06:23,458 --> 01:06:25,583 in under a week and even cleaned up the 159 01:06:25,583 --> 01:06:27,291 grounds around the factory while they 160 01:06:27,291 --> 01:06:29,916 were striking." And in the second story, 161 01:06:30,125 --> 01:06:32,083 Carnegie cites a lawyer, Daniel Webster, 162 01:06:32,666 --> 01:06:34,500 that was famous for giving some of the 163 01:06:34,500 --> 01:06:35,083 most powerful 164 01:06:35,083 --> 01:06:36,833 arguments with friendly remarks 165 01:06:36,875 --> 01:06:39,541 like, quote, "It will be for the jury to 166 01:06:39,541 --> 01:06:42,541 consider," or "This may perhaps be worth 167 01:06:42,541 --> 01:06:45,083 thinking of," or "You, with your 168 01:06:45,083 --> 01:06:46,000 knowledge of human 169 01:06:46,000 --> 01:06:47,583 nature, will easily see the 170 01:06:47,583 --> 01:06:49,375 significance of these facts," end quote. 171 01:06:50,166 --> 01:06:52,416 Webster did not bulldoze, he didn't 172 01:06:52,416 --> 01:06:54,458 pressure or force his opinions on the 173 01:06:54,458 --> 01:06:55,875 jury, but he used a 174 01:06:55,875 --> 01:06:57,333 soft-spoken, quiet and 175 01:06:57,375 --> 01:07:00,041 friendly approach. For those of us that 176 01:07:00,041 --> 01:07:02,000 aren't company presidents or famous 177 01:07:02,041 --> 01:07:04,708 lawyers, Carnegie next gives an account 178 01:07:04,708 --> 01:07:06,541 of a man that was looking to get his rent 179 01:07:06,583 --> 01:07:09,250 reduced. The man wrote the landlord 180 01:07:09,250 --> 01:07:11,291 telling him of his intent to leave at 181 01:07:11,291 --> 01:07:13,125 the end of his lease, although he really 182 01:07:13,125 --> 01:07:14,875 wanted to stay if he could reduce his 183 01:07:14,875 --> 01:07:17,583 rent. And when the landlord came to visit 184 01:07:17,583 --> 01:07:19,750 him, the man met him at the door, quote, 185 01:07:19,750 --> 01:07:21,625 "with a friendly greeting. I fairly 186 01:07:21,625 --> 01:07:22,708 bubbled over with 187 01:07:22,708 --> 01:07:23,833 goodwill and enthusiasm," 188 01:07:24,333 --> 01:07:27,083 end quote. The man looking to reduce his 189 01:07:27,083 --> 01:07:29,250 rent went on to complement the building 190 01:07:29,250 --> 01:07:31,666 and how it was ran, and you recall from 191 01:07:31,666 --> 01:07:32,625 earlier in the book, 192 01:07:33,166 --> 01:07:34,250 he was, quote, "hardy 193 01:07:34,250 --> 01:07:36,125 in his approval and lavish in his 194 01:07:36,125 --> 01:07:38,000 praise," end quote. He 195 01:07:38,000 --> 01:07:38,875 said he'd love to stay 196 01:07:38,875 --> 01:07:41,250 another year but just couldn't afford it. 197 01:07:41,791 --> 01:07:43,750 And the landlord, after hearing all this, 198 01:07:43,958 --> 01:07:45,708 hardly even knew how to handle this nice 199 01:07:45,708 --> 01:07:48,000 reception, and he started to open up 200 01:07:48,000 --> 01:07:49,666 about his troubles with the other tenants 201 01:07:49,666 --> 01:07:51,208 that were constantly complaining 202 01:07:51,583 --> 01:07:54,041 about this and that. And the landlord 203 01:07:54,041 --> 01:07:55,958 found it a relief to have a tenant like 204 01:07:55,958 --> 01:07:58,000 this man who was just being friendly and 205 01:07:58,000 --> 01:08:00,333 complementary. And the landlord offered 206 01:08:00,333 --> 01:08:02,208 him a rent reduction to entice him to 207 01:08:02,208 --> 01:08:04,666 stay. The man said it was the, quote, 208 01:08:04,708 --> 01:08:06,750 "friendly, sympathetic, appreciative 209 01:08:06,750 --> 01:08:09,583 approach that won," end quote. Here, 210 01:08:09,750 --> 01:08:11,666 Carnegie gave two other short accounts of 211 01:08:11,666 --> 01:08:14,541 how the same friendly approach gained 212 01:08:14,750 --> 01:08:17,875 another positive outcome. Following that, 213 01:08:17,875 --> 01:08:19,958 he then cites a fable about the sun and 214 01:08:20,000 --> 01:08:23,000 wind fighting over who is stronger. The 215 01:08:23,000 --> 01:08:25,708 wind blew and blew to try and get a coat 216 01:08:25,708 --> 01:08:27,875 off of a man, nearly reaching 217 01:08:27,875 --> 01:08:28,916 tornado-forced winds, 218 01:08:29,250 --> 01:08:30,583 but the man just held 219 01:08:30,583 --> 01:08:33,541 on tighter. The wind eventually gave up 220 01:08:33,541 --> 01:08:35,583 and then the sun came out and smiled on 221 01:08:35,583 --> 01:08:37,875 the old man, who wiped the sweat off his 222 01:08:37,875 --> 01:08:40,291 brow and took off his coat. This fable 223 01:08:40,333 --> 01:08:42,708 ends with, quote, "gentleness and 224 01:08:42,708 --> 01:08:45,041 friendliness were always stronger than 225 01:08:45,041 --> 01:08:48,125 fury and force," end quote. And Carnegie 226 01:08:48,125 --> 01:08:50,166 says this simple philosophy is 227 01:08:50,166 --> 01:08:52,833 demonstrated, quote, "day after day by 228 01:08:52,833 --> 01:08:54,958 people who have learned that a drop of 229 01:08:54,958 --> 01:08:57,916 honey catches more flies than a gallon of 230 01:08:57,916 --> 01:08:58,833 gall," end quote. 231 01:08:59,666 --> 01:09:00,958 Well, believe it or not, 232 01:09:00,958 --> 01:09:02,583 that brings us to the end of chapter 233 01:09:02,583 --> 01:09:03,500 four, which is 234 01:09:03,500 --> 01:09:04,916 entitled "A Drop of Honey." 235 01:09:05,625 --> 01:09:08,083 And Carnegie's principle number four is, 236 01:09:08,500 --> 01:09:11,625 "Begin in a friendly way." So there you 237 01:09:11,708 --> 01:09:14,583 have it. And to recap thus far what we've 238 01:09:14,583 --> 01:09:16,041 covered in part three, which is 239 01:09:16,041 --> 01:09:18,583 entitled "How to Win People to Your Way 240 01:09:18,583 --> 01:09:20,875 of Thinking," Carnegie's first four 241 01:09:20,875 --> 01:09:24,250 principles are this. Number one, the only 242 01:09:24,250 --> 01:09:26,500 way to get the best of an argument is to 243 01:09:26,500 --> 01:09:29,541 avoid it. Number two, show respect for 244 01:09:29,541 --> 01:09:30,250 the other person's 245 01:09:30,250 --> 01:09:31,666 opinions. Never say you 246 01:09:31,666 --> 01:09:34,208 are wrong. Number three, if you are 247 01:09:34,208 --> 01:09:35,583 wrong, admit it 248 01:09:35,583 --> 01:09:36,833 quickly and emphatically. And 249 01:09:37,416 --> 01:09:39,875 number four today, begin in a friendly 250 01:09:39,875 --> 01:09:43,250 way. Okay, on Monday we'll begin chapter 251 01:09:43,333 --> 01:09:45,166 five, which is entitled "The Secret of 252 01:09:45,166 --> 01:09:47,458 Socrates." So you know that will be an 253 01:09:47,500 --> 01:09:49,208 interesting chapter, so join us on Monday 254 01:09:49,208 --> 01:09:51,875 for that. Well, you've done it. You've 255 01:09:51,875 --> 01:09:53,708 made it to Friday and the weekend is just 256 01:09:53,708 --> 01:09:55,500 around the corner, as is warmer 257 01:09:55,583 --> 01:09:58,291 weather. So over the next few days look 258 01:09:58,291 --> 01:10:00,000 for the opportunities to take the 259 01:10:00,000 --> 01:10:02,583 friendly and the high road, and we'll 260 01:10:02,583 --> 01:10:04,583 reconvene and share stories about it on 261 01:10:04,625 --> 01:10:07,000 Monday. Alright, thanks for joining. Have 262 01:10:07,000 --> 01:10:09,291 a great weekend and have a fantastic day. 263 01:10:11,458 --> 01:10:13,208 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 264 01:10:13,208 --> 01:10:13,833 the Morning Serial 265 01:10:13,833 --> 01:10:15,458 podcast on the One Life 266 01:10:15,625 --> 01:10:16,458 Live It channel. 267 01:10:17,000 --> 01:10:18,916 You can find more episodes and videos by 268 01:10:18,916 --> 01:10:20,583 visiting our YouTube channel and the 269 01:10:20,583 --> 01:10:22,208 website at seaningless 270 01:10:22,541 --> 01:10:24,708 and at seaningless.com, where you can 271 01:10:24,708 --> 01:10:26,041 also follow our other 272 01:10:26,041 --> 01:10:27,583 podcast, the Mr. and Mrs. 273 01:10:27,583 --> 01:10:28,750 Inglis podcast and the 274 01:10:28,750 --> 01:10:29,750 Life Happens podcast. 275 01:10:30,583 --> 01:10:32,250 In these other podcasts, we'll dive 276 01:10:32,250 --> 01:10:33,625 deeper into everyday issues, 277 01:10:33,916 --> 01:10:34,666 self-improvement and 278 01:10:34,666 --> 01:10:37,166 well-being, business and finance, and we 279 01:10:37,166 --> 01:10:38,416 welcome special guests too. 280 01:10:38,916 --> 01:10:39,666 So join us. 281 01:10:39,666 --> 01:10:41,000 It'll be a good time, I promise. 282 01:10:41,708 --> 01:10:42,541 Thanks again for listening. 283 01:10:42,791 --> 01:10:44,333 Have a fantastic day and 284 01:10:44,333 --> 01:10:44,916 we'll see you tomorrow.