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Hello and welcome to Pickleball Therapy,

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the podcast dedicated to your Pickleball improvement.

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We are all about helping you achieve your Pickleball goals with

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a focus on the mental part of your game.

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No matter what you're trying to accomplish in Pickleball,

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Pickleball therapy is here for you.

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My name is Tony Roy,

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I am your host and it's a pleasure to be with

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you here for this episode.

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Last week we talked some practicality,

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right? We talked about what do we do in open play

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when we are partnered with a player who may be,

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create a little bit of an imbalance on the court in

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terms of being a quote unquote weaker player on the court

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and being targeted.

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How do we deal with that?

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We have a chance to check that one out.

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Go back and check that one out,

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give you some tips on how to deal with those situations.

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And it's not all,

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all hope isn't lost when you're playing in an imbalance situation

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out there.

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This week,

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we're going to shift gears back to the back,

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to the mind,

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and back to how we perceive our relationship with this sport,

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right? When we're playing and there's,

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it's a common trap that we fall into,

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which is,

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what did we do wrong there?

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Right? And we're gonna talk about that 'cause,

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you know,

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we did something wrong.

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We always do something wrong.

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Ah, we don't.

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But we're gonna get into this week's podcast.

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Before we jump into the podcast,

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a couple of quick notes.

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Number one,

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we have a course in our academy that deals with unforced

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errors. So if you're worried about hitting,

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making unforced errors,

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and listen,

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we all make unforced errors.

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It's part of the game.

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What we,

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all we can do is reduce the unforced errors in our

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game. If you wanna learn some really good tips on how

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to reduce round force errors,

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check out that course inside the Pickleball Academy,

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we're trying to bring you some courses that will help you,

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in particular parts of the game,

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specific parts of the game.

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And these courses are supplemental or adjunct,

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if you want to think about it that way.

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To our Pickleball system course.

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Pickleball system being everything you need to know to play awesome

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Pickleball, step by step.

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And the academy being,

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you know,

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more specialized kind of detail areas that,

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that we explore a little further.

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You can think about almost like,

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you know,

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you go to college,

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you get your degree,

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that's a Pickleball system.

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You wanna go get a PhD course or a master's degree

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or something like that.

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You can go check out courses inside the academy,

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and Unfor services is no exception.

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So you can check that one out at better Pickleball dot

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com. And if you have a second,

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it really helps us out.

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If you rate and review the podcast,

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if you've already done it,

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may benefit from hearing the words in our podcast.

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Alright, let's dive into the subject this week,

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which is,

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I kinda like the title of it,

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right? So,

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you know,

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what, what,

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what you did wrong,

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right? What you,

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because you certainly did something wrong,

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right? I mean,

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that's how we're always seeing things out there.

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And, and I,

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I'll tell you a a a funny story that,

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that a funny educational story,

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right? That learning story that happens in every camp that we

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teach. You know,

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we're, we're in our Tampa camps right now,

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and if you're ever interested in one of our camps,

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we have have,

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this year,

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we're gonna have more camps than we did last year.

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We're doing some camps in Folsom.

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I know we have some camps in Tahoe,

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obviously, and there may be some other ones out there.

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We'll see.

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But right now,

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those are the ones that you have available to you.

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You can go check that out at better Pickleball dot com.

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But what happens at all our camps is we'll have a

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coach play session on day two.

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And coach play means,

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you know,

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we, we give instructions.

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We, we play very controlled the deliberate games that are intended

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to teach the subject that we're working on,

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right? To focus on that and to see how players are

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doing with it.

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And, and CJ myself and the Better pickle,

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better, better Pickleball coaching team will walk around and,

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and, and assess right,

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what's going on and get feedback.

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So what'll happen is towards the end of day two,

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I'll walk around and I'll see a situation where the play,

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the play was awesome,

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right? I mean,

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it was nice rally,

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good rally,

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10, 12,

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13, 14 shots,

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rally ended,

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right? All rallies have to end and I'll walk onto the

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court and I'll bring everybody to the net.

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the campers already know that,

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that's part of the process.

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So I'll come out to the court,

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everybody comes out to the net,

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and I'll just ask open ended.

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I'll say,

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alright, what,

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what went wrong there?

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What happened?

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Right? And it's almost without,

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without fault,

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without exception,

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I should say that all four players on the court say,

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they look at me and they're like,

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what did I do wrong?

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right, of all four players is,

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I did something wrong.

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I wonder what Coach Tony's gonna tell me I did wrong

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in that rally.

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right? That all four players are thinking that each one of

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them did something,

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must have done something wrong,

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right? Because of course they did.

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That rally ended and something,

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some mistake was made in those situations.

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What I'll tell the students is nobody did anything wrong.

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everything's fine,

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rally ended,

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certainly someone missed a shot or,

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or there was a put away or something,

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right? But that doesn't mean that somebody had to do something

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wrong. And it's,

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it's a framing kind of a thing,

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right? It's,

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it's, it's trying to always find fault in what we do

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and how we play.

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And I'm here to tell you that many times when you

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think that you did something wrong,

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you may not have done anything wrong.

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I'm not saying that mistakes,

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you're not gonna make mistakes,

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okay? That's,

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that'd be silly.

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And part of this process is accepting that mistakes are part

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of the game.

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And we're gonna commit mistakes.

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And I'm gonna talk about those in a second and give

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you some tips on how to process that information when you

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do, when you do make a mistake.

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But I want you to start from the premise that oftentimes

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when you're thinking I did something wrong or I made a

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mistake, it's a decent chance that you did not in fact

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make a mistake or do anything wrong,

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okay? And,

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and in these situations that I'm describing to you at the

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camps, these are situations where there's nothing to point out to

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any player.

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Everybody battled,

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everybody did their jobs.

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The rally just ended,

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yet all four players for a lot of times,

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sometimes it's three,

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but it's oftentimes all four are sitting there going,

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okay, I know I did something wrong.

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I I'm sure I did something wrong.

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And so there's this negative tendency or negative bent to it

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immediately. And that's something that can be damaging because if you're

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always looking for something wrong,

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that you did something wrong,

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every rally,

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it's just really difficult to play that way,

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right? And to have a good time.

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So start from the premise that was,

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I, did I really do something wrong there or not?

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an easy example of one that's oftentimes not the,

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not something you did wrong.

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And that is when you say to yourself,

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I needed to have my paddle ready.

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And I'll give you a,

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a quick real life example that happened a week ago when

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I was playing in that group.

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Good players,

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all four,

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five plus players,

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solid group.

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a, our opponents popped the ball up,

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one opponent popped the ball up,

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and the other opponent got smashed,

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got obliterated by my,

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my partner just smashed the ball and,

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you know,

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won the rally against the oth,

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not the player who popped it up,

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but the partner.

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And the partner's reaction was,

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I need to have my paddle ready,

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I gotta have my paddle ready.

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He kept on,

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you know,

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like he was upset at himself.

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And so me and my partner look at him and go,

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man, it nothing to do with you.

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That was,

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that was a slam ball at,

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you know,

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point blank range.

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And even his partner,

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I was like,

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you didn't do anything wrong.

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I fed him a,

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a pop-up and put it away.

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But the,

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in the instant reaction of the player who got slammed was,

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I needed to have my paddle ready.

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That's a really easy one.

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That's almost like,

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like just,

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it's almost like a trap plant.

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I don't know.

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Now I'm get into gardening,

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but it's like,

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it's like it,

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we're attracted,

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it's so easy to conclude that,

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right? That I needed to have my,

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I should have my paddle ready because I missed the shot

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coming my way,

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even though it was getting slammed at me at seven oh

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miles an hour at point blank range by a player.

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I had nothing to do with the situation that created that,

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but it's my fault because I didn't have my paddle ready.

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So that's a,

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that's an easy one to,

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to really question yourself if,

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you know,

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whenever you say,

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ah, I need to have my paddle up,

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I didn't have my paddle ready.

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Was that really the,

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the, the reason?

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So, you know,

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give yourself some a break.

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Give yourself a little bit of a break here when you

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think you might've made a a mistake.

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So I want you to start from the premise that you

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know, you,

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you're, you are gonna make mistakes.

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And then I want you to,

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the next step in this process is I'm gonna make mistakes,

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but did I really make a mistake that particular time?

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Or am I just projecting a mistake unto myself even though

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it wasn't really a mistake that I made?

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And I'm gonna here to tell you that you can lose

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a rally and not have made a mistake,

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not a mistake that needs to be addressed,

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right? Or needs to be thought about.

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And my case for this is a very simple case,

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which is pro play.

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When you watch pro play matches,

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and these are the best players on the planet there,

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rallies end,

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okay? Their rallies come to an end,

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they don't play indefinitely,

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right? And so if their rallies come to an end,

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does that mean by definition or by extension that one player,

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some player on the court is a knucklehead or they did

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something silly or s something like that.

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Oftentimes the answer is no.

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It's just nice rally.

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It had to end and it ended and we're done having

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the conversation about it.

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Now, there's a lot of other,

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there's a lot of other ways to kind of approach this

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in our camps and inside the Pickleball system,

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we, we give you a bunch of different ways to kind

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of think more constructively about how to analyze post game,

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post rally situations to determine whether you need to think further

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or whether you're done with the,

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with the analysis.

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But generally speaking,

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I'm here to tell you that there's a lot of times

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when you're trying to find fault somewhere yourself or anything or

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fault simply does not need to be found where everything is

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fine and the rally just ended.

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So, so start from those premises,

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okay? And then I want you to think about the fact

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that, that you know,

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that, that you are gonna make mistakes.

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The question is when you make a mistake and when you,

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when it is correct to keep thinking about it,

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right? So I made a mistake and I need to give

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some thought to this mistake,

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then what you want to do is be constructive with that

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process. It does not help you to simply say,

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I made a mistake,

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and then go down some path of I'm a terrible player,

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I'm an idiot.

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I can't believe I'm so stupid.

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Whatever, whatever damaging kind of language you may use,

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sometimes that's not helpful.

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I'm not gonna do anything for you.

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And it's certainly not gonna avoid you from making that mistake

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again in the future.

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You're just beating yourself up.

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Then what you wanna do to be constructive is you can

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do, I'm gonna give you two ideas.

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One is if it's a mistake that you can fix in

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the moment,

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if you know how to do that right?

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And inside the system we call that,

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you know,

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knowing how to fix your,

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your, your errors in real time,

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because I'm gonna go back and repeat this.

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Errors will happen,

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you'll make mistakes.

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There's no way to avoid that.

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Even the best players make mistakes in their game.

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If you know how to make,

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how to correct the mistake in real time,

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then correct the mistake in the,

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during the game.

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And what I mean by that is,

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let's say it's a mechanical error.

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So you missed a return of serve,

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you know,

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missing a return of serve a lot of times,

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yeah, that's one that you gotta introspect,

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right? 'cause it's a return of serve.

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You know,

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unless something really weird happened with the ball bounce or something,

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you know,

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you have control over that shot a lot of control over

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that shot.

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So that's something that you can influence.

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And if you miss return of serve,

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there's nobody else on the court who's involved in that other

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than you,

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again, assuming not a weird bounce or anything.

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So let's say you have a missed return of serve.

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So you're thinking,

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okay, I missed a return of serve step number one,

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I'm gonna observe,

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right? I observe that I missed a return of serve.

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I've now made the decision.

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Okay, I need to think about that for a second because

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that is something that is something that I,

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that's a mistake that I made and that's okay,

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but it's something that I can,

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I can do something about.

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And if I can do something about in that game,

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then what I'll do is I'll think to myself,

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okay, I missed return surf.

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Was it where I was standing?

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Was it my foundation?

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Was it my stroke mechanic?

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You go through a,

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a mechanical analysis where you break down the,

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the shot,

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and if you're a system member,

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you know how to do this.

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It's all inside your mechanical pillar.

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There's the steps in there.

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So you basically go through that,

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those, that process of thinking through the shot,

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and then you say it,

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you know,

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work backward to figure out the problem.

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And then you try and,

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and avoid making the same error the next time that you

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go return serve.

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Okay? So that's one way you can constructively deal with feedback

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that you made a mistake.

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The other thing that you can do is if you're not

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able to correct it in real time,

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meaning during that game,

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just make a note of it,

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right? Make a mental note,

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maybe after the game,

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make a little note on your phone or write it down

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on a pad or something,

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right? You know,

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I'm, I need to work on my return of serve.

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Then you will find the resources that will help you work

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on your return of serve.

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You'll put in the work and you'll work on your return

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of serve.

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That's a constructive way of dealing with the feedback that will

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naturally come when you invariably make a mistake.

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Because you will invariably make mistakes,

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even the best players on the planet.

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Make mistakes.

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What we wanna do is we wanna not blow it out

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of proportion.

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Think of that we're making mistakes all the time,

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because that is likely not the case.

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And we then wanna be constructive with how we deal with

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the feedback,

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or how we handle the feedback when we do in fact

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make a mistake.

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The key here is to not allow mistakes to become bigger

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than they are,

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right? That's why we keep perspective in terms of,

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you know,

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how often is this really happening?

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And also not to allow mistakes to become a negative in

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our game and in our relationship with Pickleball.

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Because at the end of the day,

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what this is about,

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it's about having the best and most and the best and

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healthiest relationship that we can with the sport that we love,

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which is the sport of Pickleball.

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I hope this podcast helps you next time you play,

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and if you're on your way to the court listening to

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it, fantastic.

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Try and apply that today.

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This is a podcast episode that you should probably bookmark because

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this is the kind of podcast episode.

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If you feel that you're a player that's always making mistakes

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and you're always messing up and you're just a disaster out

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there, and I,

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I say a disaster in terms of how you're viewing yourself.

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It's nothing to do how you're playing,

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right? 'cause you're,

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you're not seeing things clearly.

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This is a really good episode for you to bookmark and

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for you to come back to more than once so that

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you can work on this process of being more constructive with

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your mistakes.

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I hope you enjoyed this week's podcast.

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As always,

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share this podcast with your friends.

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There's a lot of players out there who could benefit from

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having a better understanding of the mistakes that they're making and

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how they're not as many as they think,

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and how to deal with 'em constructively.

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And if this podcast is helping you and making you feel

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better about your Pickleball,

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I'm gonna bet you it's gonna help them.

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As always,

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keep enjoying this beautiful gift,

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this beautiful game that we have that we call Pickleball.

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And I'll see you next time.