Questions To Ponder On The Path To Healing

Sub-text:  I had to ask myself these so I could heal from my Trauma Bond

Firstname,

We all are wanting to create homes where it feels like a sanctuary to be there.

Where relationships feel nourishing. 

It wasn’t until my last one ended, and I was all alone at the age of 43,

living with my dog, looking in the mirror…

I felt called to finally face the darkness within myself I was avoiding.

My relationships were always based on my fear of being alone.

And the person I chose to stay with— and felt energetically stuck to—

like I KNEW it wasn’t healthy— but I just COULDN’T leave. 

 I was too scared.

Then it hit me. 

I was there at Christmas time— all alone— afraid of dying alone, 

never having experienced love that was mutual

and nourishing— being in a home with someone I felt calm with.  

It was always tense. There was this inherent anxiety in seeing her.

We get into relationships for love.  

Why does it feel like a prison?

Fast forward to today. 

180 degrees difference.  

I’m not saying it was easy, but there were a few questions I started with,

that if you can relate to what I just shared— 

that helped me get out of my victim story and 

CREATE my own path. 

That’s essentially what it will take.  

The courage to be willing to look iNSIDE.

Ready?

!) Where do I want to be by this time next year?

(hit reply and let me know the answer if you want.  I read all my emails)

2) What has caused me to be disconnected from love and deserving for MYSELF?

In other words, “What parts of me have me showing up feeling like I don’t deserve mutual safe love?”

I was always suspecting that my anger and hurts from how I felt about my parents 

were at play within my relationships.  That my childhood wounding had something to do with it.

I just thought I had dealt with it already. 

 “Forgive and Forget”.

“It’s all in the past."

 You’ll notice when you take an honest look like I did, 

that our unresolved woundings from the past aren’t something we can forget.

These wounds are stored IN THE BODY.

If you’ve ever wondered why talk therapy hasn’t been getting to the root cause,

just realize your suspicions have been correct.

Unless the body is involved, we are on a hamster wheel living in Groundhog Day.

I discovered, when I finally had the courage to find the right guidance,

to be willing to have all my stories be confronted in a loving way,

to have the right feedback…

I finally was able to heal my attachment wounds playing out in my relationships,

and I now have a relationship that feels like a sanctuary.

I’m able to lead my family.

And when arguments and ruptures happen,

it’s not the end of the world.

There’s a confidence to repair, 

because I took the time to place a high value 

on the most important education I never received but craved:

How to have a secure relationship. 

My invitation is for you to ask yourself these questions, 

and hit reply and let me know what you come up with.

I’m always here to support and challenge you into fully loving all parts of you,

so you can create relationships that reflect that love back to you,

And children and families are raised in homes as a “fortress for well-being” 

instead of a toxic mess they want to run far away from.

What’s more important than that?

See you at the next perfect time.
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Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
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What is Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)?

Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast.
This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of
Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community.
These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen
to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy,
and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience,
heal from the past, and become active operators of our mind, body, and life.

This first season wasn’t designed to be a podcast, so you’ll notice the audio isn’t
Professional Studio Quality (like it is on season 2 as we’ve upgraded incrementally).

These trainings are designed to introduce and deepen you to the most critical 2 skills we’ve never been taught:
1) The skill and practice of taking our triggers (Nervous System Activations) and turning them into deeper safety and self-love,
2) The skill and practice of taking conflict (that happens in any relationship) and turning them into deeper intimacy between the parties involved.

Not learning these two critical skills at this time in history costs us dearly: Physical and Mental health is on the DECLINE.
Doing this deep level of healing work can break the cycle of Intergenerational Trauma that didn’t start with you.

It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you,
#Cyclebreaker.
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When you're ready, here's what we got:

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month)
If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships
https://drnima.com/lp/should-i-stay-or-go/?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming "Breathwork and Badassery" Live Event (Every month)
Regulate Your stress, deepen your connection to your inner child, process your stuck emotions and improve your capacity
https://go.drnima.com/bbvw?sl=transistor-podcast

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month)
Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.
https://go.drnima.com/oevw?sl=transistor-podcast

Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present)
https://drnima.com/discovery/application/?sl=transistor-podcast

Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof