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Hey Everybody, welcome back to episode 2
of Second Chance Queen podcast.

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I am Kristianna Mrjenovich, your Second
Chance Queen.

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And today's episode is lobster of my life
and we are going to have a very special

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guest tonight, who is my husband.

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Hi, Babe!

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Hey baby.

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welcome to the Second Chance Queen
podcast.

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It feels incredibly odd to say that from
across the house.

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But I'm so honored to have you as my very
first guest.

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We are on episode two, and our episode is
lobster of my life.

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So welcome to episode two.

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this episode, I would love to kind of run
down our story, share our story because we

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have a whopper of a story for everybody.

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think we should tell everybody how we

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kind of go from there.

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There's probably going to be so many
questions about

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out a little bit about how we met.

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But I haven't gone into detail.

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So we're gonna go back to 2021.

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very late night, like 11 o

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where we were both laying in bed.

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Nothing good ever happens on Omegle, but
we were laying in bed.

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And I got a chat from a stranger on Omegle
that said,

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Hi, ASL.

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And my response was,

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ASL question mark, I believe.

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And I was informed that ASL means age,
sex, location.

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So I thought it was American Sign
Language.

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I'll be honest But yeah, so I gave my age,
sex, and location.

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he was 26, male Illinois.

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we started talking

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we had a really good first conversation,
I'd say.

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It was a whole mix of random topics, but
it was, it caught, it kept our interest.

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we decided to take it to Snapchat of all
places because I was not about to give the

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stranger on Omegle my actual phone number.

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Let's

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starting off on Omegle may as well upgrade
to Snapchat of all things.

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Stranger danger internet

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went to Snapchat.

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I got called a catfish, I think.

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If I'm not mistaken.

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didn't say

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exactly say catfish but I said there's no
fucking way I'm this lucky to find

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somebody that looks like

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did not think that I was real.

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He did not think that I was real, but I
was very much real.

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said I love you the end of

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When you know, you know, like I feel like
that's the only way.

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Yeah, 1300 miles away, we just knew.

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And there it was there was a lot of
intricacies

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was in the middle of starting the divorce
proceedings from my previous marriage when

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we met

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How long did it take before you moved to
Florida?

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Tell me about this process.

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Tell our listeners about how this
happened.

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four months, four months and two days.

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And the only reason it took that long is I
had to get some finances in order and pay

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off some debt and feel comfortable.

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So financially provide for you when I got

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-May, you moved down here.

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And what was it like seeing me for the
first time when you saw me in

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gonna sound cliche, but it felt like I was
finally home.

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I finally felt like I was where I should

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I love that.

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I never get sick of hearing

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So that was mid May.

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When did we get married for the first
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days after I got here.

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May 28th, 2021, we got married at the
courthouse.

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I pretended to run away from you several
times standing in line at the courthouse.

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I was just like...

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But I did not and we got married.

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And then we went to the melting pot for
our dinner.

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And that has been a tradition in our
relationship.

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a wedding slash anniversary tradition.

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me about our second wedding.

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before I even moved down here, we had
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trip to Niagara Falls on 4th of July
weekend.

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Like we had a lot of it lined up, but it
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actually down here.

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And then we did the legal marriage, and we
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keep the Niagara Falls wedding.

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We're just gonna renewal sort of thing,
even though we're already married.

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We went up and had a small ceremony on the
falls or in the park next to the falls.

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And then we went to melt and pot again.

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on that melting pot.

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If you're listening melting pot.

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That is that is our our restaurant for
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Then we kind of did things backwards
because we went to Disney World the end of

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July.

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I did an official proposal because I knew
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growing up.

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So even though we were legally married and
had two weddings, I did not have an

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engagement ring yet.

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So he gave me my engagement ring at Disney
World in front of Cinderella's Castle.

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flash forward a little bit to Halloween of
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Where we were walking around and what do
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were a lot of babies everywhere.

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Okay, everywhere.

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Hang on.

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Hold that thought.

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Do you remember what our first costume

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were charity in P .T.

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Barnum from a million dreams scene of The
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first couple's costume ever.

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Yes, and Eli was baby Yoda and Aiden was
carnage and we hand painted that carnage

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costume.

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we were walking around Halloween and we
were actually walking around with my ex

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-husband and his girlfriend at the time.

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We love

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were walking around and James and I kept
seeing babies everywhere.

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a couple weeks after that, probably about
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we were still talking about all the
babies.

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And I remember saying, I'm not having a
baby with you until you tell me you want

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to have a baby with me because both of my
boys were under different circumstances

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and I wanted my next baby to be chosen and
planned and we were both going to be all

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in on

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what happened after that?

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You were in the kitchen cooking, I
believe, and I was sitting on the couch.

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And the second that came out of your
mouth, I stood up, walked over to you and

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grabbed you by the shoulders, looked you
right in the eye and said, I want to have

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a baby with you.

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he did.

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And that was, I think, like a Sunday or a
Monday, because I made an appointment for

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that Friday,

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And I got things handled so that we could
start trying for a baby.

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And so we started trying in December 2021

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we didn't give up.

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And then on our wedding day in 2022, May
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wedding anniversary of our courthouse
marriage, and the day that we had a big

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wedding planned for friends and family, we
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we found out that we were having our
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a bow that I had bought when we started
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and he tied it on my bouquet.

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So in our wedding pictures, if you spot
it, there is a pink bow with a Christmas

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tree on my bouquet.

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He knew it was going to be a girl.

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refuse to ever say anything about it being
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And it was.

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And now we have a year and a half old
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child.

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and she's the love of our lives.

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I feel like I speak for both of us.

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rewind just a little bit.

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One of our very first conversations was
you telling me you had always wanted a

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daughter and you were afraid that it would
never happen.

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And when I tried convincing you that it
would, what did I say?

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Or you asked why I was so sure.

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What did I say?

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asked why you're so sure and you said if
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daughter, it's too soon to tell.

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But I have a hunch.

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Just call it a hunch.

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So in our marriage, in our relationship,
when the rough gets going or we're having

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anxiety and we don't know.

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what's going on with something and ask the
other person for reassurance.

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Just call it a hunch is the reassurance
answer in our marriage.

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We are always just call it a hunch.

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now here we are is 2024.

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What do we do in January of this year?

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We built our brand new beautiful two story
house that you've always wanted.

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We did.

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reference, I grew up in a two -story house
and she was always jealous of it.

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She never had a two -story house but
always wanted one.

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I always want to go up and down the
stairs, up and down the stairs.

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So we built a house with a staircase
that's like two sets of stairs up one

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direction and then you got to go the other
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and this January it was finally done.

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Yeah, my hips already are angry at me.

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I have bad hips to begin with and my hips
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two story house you silly lady?

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But it's our dream house and I wouldn't
trade it for the world.

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you're missing right before that we went
to your or you had your first pageant out

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in Virginia I never thought I'd be a
pageant husband shit a pageant dad too

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Yes, that girl has more crowns than I do.

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Peachy has more crowns than mama does.

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Let's be real.

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She is the OG pageant queen.

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She got her first crown before me.

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Yeah, we are.

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We're in trouble with that girl.

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So the moral of the story, I guess, the
first thing I would tell anybody listening

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is, folks, do not try this at home.

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I do not recommend that you meet your
husband on Omegle of all places.

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I don't.

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I give it 10 stars.

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You will probably have negative five
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Do not recommend, don't

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don't do it like fresh off the tails of a
divorce because that has had its own set

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of obstacles, I think, for us as a couple
because Kristianna wants to be miss

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independent sometimes.

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She had 10 years of not making decisions
for herself.

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And so now the devil on her shoulder likes
to take control sometimes and drive.

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same time I let you take the reins and I
don't stop you from doing anything.

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No, he doesn't.

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My husband is an enabler.

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If it can be enabled, he is enabling.

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She's not wrong.

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But it works.

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So my first thing is don't meet your
spouse on a week.

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My second thing is if you are leaving an
abusive relationship, take time for

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yourself.

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I was fortunate in that when I left my
abusive marriage, there were several

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months before I met James where I had my
apartment.

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I was still interacting with my now ex
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that timeframe.

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I did a lot of healing in a short amount
of time.

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And the thing about long -term abusive
marriages that people don't realize is you

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check out or you start to check out a long
time before you leave that marriage.

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You emotionally, we as women,

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emotionally check out a long time before
we time before we take that plunge.

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It's a defense mechanism, I'd say.

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So I had a lot of time before that actual
marriage ended where I was bracing for

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that marriage to end.

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And I was giving that relationship the
second, third, fourth millionth chance and

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it just was not going to work.

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So I was preparing for that a long time
before I actually

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said I want the divorce and then the
months that lapsed where, you know, it was

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the holidays and everything was going on
and then, you know, right around the time

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we met is when I was like, okay, yeah, I
do want the divorce.

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We need to start the paperwork.

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And then you and I were, you know,
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It's very fair to say, I think for both of
us that our relationship started very much

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as a friendship.

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before it became a relationship.

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I feel like we both needed someone to talk
to, hence why we were on Omegle.

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We needed someone to talk to and someone
to listen and needed a friend.

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And so we met each other in that time span
where we needed that.

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And I feel like that has been the biggest

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part of our success as a couple has been
building off of a friendship.

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It was definitely the best

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....

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like, if you could be an animal, what
animal would it be?

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What is in your bank account right now?

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What do you spend money on?

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Like, are you an alcoholic?

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Are you, you know, like we got down to
hard conversations from the get go.

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I mean, it was everything from like, do
you snort night?

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I will smother you with a pillow to what
are your love languages?

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and we talked, I mean, sun up till sun
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We slept on the phone with each other.

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So I think that has been one of the
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What is the first movie that we watched?

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Nope.

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you had to give a piece of advice to
someone that was getting into a

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relationship with somebody that left an
abusive relationship.

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either somewhat recently or the last
relationship that they had was abusive.

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If you had to give one piece of advice to
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Honestly, the biggest thing is just be
patient.

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Understand that the other one's gonna be
healing.

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Let them do it on their timeline.

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If you rush it or try to push them, if it
doesn't hurt them more, it's gonna make

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things take longer to heal.

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Just be patient and supportive.

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That's the best thing you can do for them.

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like that's a great piece of advice and I
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healing is not linear it is it's five
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I would just put it as let them heal on
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Let them figure out their timeline.

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I think that's solid advice.

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My next question, this is important.

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If you could have anybody play me in our
movie, who would it be?

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you

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It's so horrible.

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I was thinking of it, but I almost didn't
want to say it.

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Blake Lively would have to she would have
to gain a few pounds though to play me.

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Blake Blake girl you would look stunning
fluffy and I think you would make an

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amazing me because my husband...

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Ryan Reynolds you have the personality of
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I feel like we could be played by Blake
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about the same.

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If you combine like You can't even say the
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very like on and off like toxic love like
they fight a lot and we don't fight If you

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could combine a really romantic movie with
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like we roast each other all the time like

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There are five love languages.

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The sixth one is roasting my husband.

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Being roasted by my husband.

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If we love all of those love languages.

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and then there's us.

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There's words of affirmation with a little
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And I feel like that's us.

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So I feel like Blake Lively and Ryan
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or Blake Lively and like Jensen Ackles.

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I probably have to lean more towards that.

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You give the Jensen Ackles vibes and I'm
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yeah, that's our story in a nutshell and

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I would say to anybody out there, if
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don't, number one, don't settle.

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And number two, find someone that is your
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Because I feel like our marriage would not
work nearly as well as it does if we

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weren't best friends.

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Like best friends.

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like.

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with that.

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Definitely try and start off on a
friendship level.

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Don't jump directly into romance.

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Like no, not even friendship.

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Best friends.

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When I tell you this man is my best
friend, like he knows things about me,

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nobody should know about me.

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But we keep it interesting.

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finish your thoughts a lot.

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You'll be mid -sentence and I'll finish
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creepy.

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It's very creepy.

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We have like telepathy.

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We're we're odd.

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We're very I feel like I could probably do
this podcast every day with him.

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And we would never run out of things to
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Like when we hang up this podcast, when
we're done with this podcast, we're I'm

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gonna walk to our bedroom.

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I'm in my office currently.

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I'm gonna walk to my bedroom.

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where he is and we're gonna keep talking
until he has to go to bed very soon for

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work in the morning.

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But we're gonna keep talking.

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Post -production is going to have to wait.

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Anyway.

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Thank you for coming on the Second Chance
Queen podcast.

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Is there anything else that you would like
to add, darling?

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Just trust your gut if you think they're
the person.

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they're definitely your person.

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And I would say...

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end things on a positive note don't ever
settle and don't think that you're asking

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for too much from somebody if you're
asking too much you're just asking the

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wrong person because this man he thinks I
walk on water he has me on this pedestal

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and I swear guys I'm not perfect but if
you ask him he will lie through his teeth

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and tell you that I'm the most perfect
human being out there

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I'm not, I'm flawed, but don't ask him
because he won't find any flaws for you.

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I'll tell you.

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But he is the type of person that will, if
I can give 5%, he will give 105 to add to

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my 5.

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And is everything that I ever dreamed of
in a partner and more.

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I'm trying not to make you cry on this
podcast.

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But they're out there.

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They're out there and find your best
friend.

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Thank you for having me out here.

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I'll come on any time to entertain him.

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I feel like we're gonna have to have a
weekly segment like husband lessons with

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second chance queens

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need to find like a cool name, but you can
give husband classes I trust you with that

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But

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with other people.

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do.

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You did.

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You did awesome.

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Thank you for sensing yourself today.

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Thank you for coming on, darling.

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I love you.

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And this is Second Chance Queen, your
Second Chance Queen, Kristianna

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Mrjenovich, signing off of episode two.

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So stay tuned for episode three, where we
will be.

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starting to, I think, brew some tea.

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So stay tuned, because I think we're going
to have a tea party.