1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,041 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,041 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,750 --> 01:00:09,833 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:09,833 --> 01:00:11,125 and welcome to Thursday. 5 01:00:11,541 --> 01:00:13,833 It is National Hat Day. 6 01:00:13,833 --> 01:00:14,791 For those of you that have 7 01:00:14,791 --> 01:00:15,791 been waiting for that one, 8 01:00:16,208 --> 01:00:18,916 whether it's a cowboy hat or a hard hat, 9 01:00:19,208 --> 01:00:21,333 or maybe you're wearing a CEO hat 10 01:00:21,333 --> 01:00:23,166 or the chief laundry duty hat, 11 01:00:23,500 --> 01:00:25,083 either way, it's a reminder that 12 01:00:25,083 --> 01:00:26,666 sometimes we all wear 13 01:00:27,125 --> 01:00:29,750 more than one roll or hat. 14 01:00:29,791 --> 01:00:30,458 You get it, right? 15 01:00:31,125 --> 01:00:34,000 Well, yesterday's trivia answer, Asia. 16 01:00:34,458 --> 01:00:36,208 Bananas originated in Asia. 17 01:00:36,833 --> 01:00:38,458 All right, now the essential vitamins 18 01:00:38,458 --> 01:00:39,416 in your morning cereal. 19 01:00:39,666 --> 01:00:41,416 Today's quote is from actress and 20 01:00:41,416 --> 01:00:43,250 birthday girl, Regina Keene, 21 01:00:43,250 --> 01:00:44,708 who said, quote, "I 22 01:00:44,708 --> 01:00:46,125 don't want to be fearless. 23 01:00:46,125 --> 01:00:47,958 "I want to be brave," end quote. 24 01:00:48,500 --> 01:00:49,375 And there's a little 25 01:00:49,375 --> 01:00:50,625 truthiness here, right? 26 01:00:51,000 --> 01:00:52,541 True strength isn't about 27 01:00:52,541 --> 01:00:54,250 lacking fear, being fearless, 28 01:00:54,500 --> 01:00:56,250 but it's about acting despite 29 01:00:56,250 --> 01:00:58,041 fear, and that's being brave. 30 01:00:58,708 --> 01:01:00,041 All right, you've heard enough from me, 31 01:01:00,041 --> 01:01:01,958 so let's pour in the let 32 01:01:01,958 --> 01:01:03,458 them theory from Mel Robbins. 33 01:01:04,000 --> 01:01:06,500 Today's focus is the ABC loop again, 34 01:01:06,500 --> 01:01:07,708 but we're in part two, 35 01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:09,500 which is the prep work 36 01:01:09,875 --> 01:01:12,375 using the five whys, okay? 37 01:01:13,166 --> 01:01:14,833 Robbins explains that most 38 01:01:14,833 --> 01:01:16,500 difficult conversations fail 39 01:01:16,666 --> 01:01:17,791 before they begin, not 40 01:01:17,791 --> 01:01:18,916 because of what is said, 41 01:01:18,916 --> 01:01:21,250 but because of unexamined emotion. 42 01:01:21,875 --> 01:01:23,541 The five whys method 43 01:01:23,541 --> 01:01:24,875 forces you to understand 44 01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:26,791 what's really bothering you. 45 01:01:27,208 --> 01:01:28,875 She writes, quote, "Most reactions are 46 01:01:28,875 --> 01:01:29,916 about something older 47 01:01:30,375 --> 01:01:32,708 "and deeper than the moment itself, 48 01:01:32,708 --> 01:01:34,250 "and by asking why 49 01:01:34,250 --> 01:01:36,791 repeatedly, you uncover fear, 50 01:01:37,458 --> 01:01:40,166 "unmet expectations, or past experiences 51 01:01:40,333 --> 01:01:42,208 "that are influencing your response. 52 01:01:42,916 --> 01:01:44,875 "Now, this preparation, it matters." 53 01:01:45,416 --> 01:01:46,958 Robbins reminds us that, quote, 54 01:01:46,958 --> 01:01:48,708 "When you understand yourself first, 55 01:01:49,416 --> 01:01:51,541 "conversations become calmer and more 56 01:01:51,541 --> 01:01:52,791 productive," end quote. 57 01:01:53,208 --> 01:01:55,583 So without prep, conversations turn into 58 01:01:55,708 --> 01:01:57,166 emotional unloading 59 01:01:57,166 --> 01:01:59,125 rather than problem solving. 60 01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:01,291 So the goal isn't to be 61 01:02:01,291 --> 01:02:03,000 perfect, it's clarity. 62 01:02:03,375 --> 01:02:04,958 Knowing your emotional drivers, 63 01:02:05,041 --> 01:02:06,000 that prevents 64 01:02:06,000 --> 01:02:08,000 overreaction and defensiveness. 65 01:02:08,583 --> 01:02:09,958 All right, it's a short one today, 66 01:02:09,958 --> 01:02:12,666 so your Thursday takeaway is, 67 01:02:13,375 --> 01:02:14,083 clarity before 68 01:02:14,083 --> 01:02:17,000 conversation creates better outcomes. 69 01:02:17,500 --> 01:02:19,625 So today, wear whatever hat you need to 70 01:02:19,625 --> 01:02:21,875 to get the job done, but just don't wear 71 01:02:21,875 --> 01:02:23,250 someone else's expectations. 72 01:02:24,333 --> 01:02:25,458 Now, the prize from 73 01:02:25,458 --> 01:02:26,250 the bottom of the box, 74 01:02:26,250 --> 01:02:27,041 the morning cereal 75 01:02:27,041 --> 01:02:28,500 trivia question of the day. 76 01:02:29,083 --> 01:02:32,458 How many keys does a standard piano have? 77 01:02:33,000 --> 01:02:33,541 That's probably an 78 01:02:33,541 --> 01:02:34,625 easy one for most of you. 79 01:02:35,083 --> 01:02:36,166 But we will see you 80 01:02:36,166 --> 01:02:37,708 tomorrow for the answer to that 81 01:02:37,708 --> 01:02:39,333 and for more sugar for the soul. 82 01:02:39,625 --> 01:02:41,500 Have a fantastic day. 83 01:02:42,666 --> 01:02:44,208 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 84 01:02:44,208 --> 01:02:45,541 to the Morning Cereal podcast 85 01:02:45,958 --> 01:02:47,666 on the One Life Live It channel. 86 01:02:48,250 --> 01:02:49,916 You can find more episodes and videos 87 01:02:49,916 --> 01:02:50,916 by visiting our YouTube 88 01:02:50,916 --> 01:02:52,041 channel and the website 89 01:02:52,375 --> 01:02:55,250 at seanenglis and at seanenglis.com, 90 01:02:55,500 --> 01:02:56,333 where you can also 91 01:02:56,333 --> 01:02:57,750 follow our other podcast, 92 01:02:58,083 --> 01:02:59,291 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 93 01:02:59,833 --> 01:03:01,000 and the Life Happens podcast. 94 01:03:01,833 --> 01:03:03,958 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 95 01:03:03,958 --> 01:03:05,916 into everyday issues, self-improvement, 96 01:03:05,916 --> 01:03:07,500 and well-being, business and finance, 97 01:03:08,000 --> 01:03:09,666 and we welcome special guests too. 98 01:03:10,166 --> 01:03:11,125 So join us, it will be 99 01:03:11,125 --> 01:03:12,208 a good time, I promise. 100 01:03:12,916 --> 01:03:13,500 Thanks again for 101 01:03:13,500 --> 01:03:15,125 listening, have a fantastic day, 102 01:03:15,416 --> 01:03:16,125 and we'll see you tomorrow.