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00:00 In This Episode
00:35 Introducing Dr. Harry Reis
01:08 The Signs That You Are Loved
02:02 Love Causing Sadness
02:43 The Key to Happiness
03:38 The Answer to Pain and Being Unloved
04:57 Writing with Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky
05:46 Why Relationships Must Come First
07:38 The Happiest Countries (Not the USA)
08:55 Feeling Unloved Vs. Feeling Lonely
10:55 Healing the Pain of Loneliness
11:44 Harry's Pioneering Relationship Research
14:44 Where to Look for Love
17:15 Red Flags In Finding Love
19:44 Relationships With Dangerous People
24:02 What to Share With People
25:50 How to Listen Well. Attention Is Key.
28:24 How to Learn to Connect With People
30:30 The Cost of Talking With AI Chatbots
31:50 The Seesaw: Mutual Support
34:42 Gut Feelings and Trust
37:00 Gut Feelings and Breaking Up
38:22 Gut Feelings and Implicit Cognition
42:09 Gut Feelings and Love at First Sight
43:39 Multiplicity: We've All Done Bad Things
48:09 Distressed Marriages and Feeling Loved
48:51 How Much Should We Tolerate In a Relationship?
51:33 Cognitive Dissonance and Feeling Loved
54:02 Sincere Apologies and Lying
59:57 How to Recognize a Liar
57:23 Finding Love After Pain
59:14 The Cost of Being Alone
1:00:21 How to Find Love After a Loss
1:02:32 Reappraisal: The Cure for Rumination
1:05:45 Don't Give Up On Relationships
1:07:33 The Risk and Pain of Divorce
1:08:35 Put Away Your Phone
1:10:11 Love Languages
1:11:38 find Dr Harry Reis online
1:12:28 Teaching the World About Relationships
1:13:47 Further Recommendations
RESOURCES
Interview with Jennifer R. Young: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI
Harry Reis's book: https://amzn.to/4ycIgVC
Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq
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Dr. Harry Reis explains how to distinguish genuine love from manipulation tactics such as love-bombing and deception that ultimately lead to toxic relationships.