The Gift of Dentistry

If you have ever stood in a store paralyzed over whether the candle is enough, whether the wine communicates something terrible about how little you care, whether showing up without something is worse than showing up with the wrong thing: there is a name for that. Tommy found it. Dr. Melissa Colt calls it trauma-based giving, which is the clinical way of saying you are not choosing a gift so much as you are paying a ransom.

Pete's dentist, when Pete was a kid, gave him more metal fillings than any child with freshly grown adult teeth could possibly need. Every visit, something new to fill. It was, as Pete now recognizes, a textbook case of dental overtreatment. He responded the way anyone would: he avoided dentists entirely for the next seventeen years.

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All the Feelings, Season 11: Still Adulting—A Life-Long Course in Feeling Unprepared

You know that moment when you look around and realize, Oh no… I’m the adult in this room? Maybe it’s when you pretend to understand tax brackets. Or when your back starts to hurt because you "slept." Or when you stand in the grocery store, staring at asparagus, wondering if you should be investing in heavy greens futures.

Welcome to All the Feelings Season 10, where your able hosts, Tommy Metz III and Pete Wright, are going to tackle the unspoken truth of adulthood: nobody actually knows what they’re doing most of the time. This season, we’re diving into the emotional chaos of adulting—all the things that, by now, we should have mastered but somehow still make us feel like confused 12-year-olds wearing oversized suits.

We’ll explore the existential panic of estate planning (Wills: Now Featuring Your Inevitable Mortality!), the sheer absurdity of socializing as a grown-up (Why Is Making Friends Harder Than Filing Taxes?), and the shame spiral of arguing (Yes, You Can Still Lose a Fight in Your 40s!). We’ll unpack civic duty, grief, apologizing, and the delicate balance of managing time without feeling like you’re constantly failing an invisible test.

And of course, we’ll get real about the things that make adulthood straight-up weird: why is sleep suddenly a competitive sport? Why does gift-giving induce a full-blown identity crisis? And why does every conversation about homeownership involve so much sighing?

This season, Pete and Tommy are back to do what they do best: explore the emotional absurdity of being human. Because if adulthood is just a long series of pop quizzes, we might as well laugh about it together.