1 01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:02,958 (upbeat music) 2 01:00:05,041 --> 01:00:05,541 80s. 3 01:00:05,541 --> 01:00:06,666 If you are Gen X. 4 01:00:06,666 --> 01:00:07,958 If you grew up in the 80s, 5 01:00:07,958 --> 01:00:10,500 you sat backwards in a station wagon. 6 01:00:10,500 --> 01:00:10,750 Yeah, I-- 7 01:00:10,833 --> 01:00:12,208 Probably wood paneled. 8 01:00:12,333 --> 01:00:14,125 So, and it smelled like barf. 9 01:00:14,541 --> 01:00:16,250 And you said, "Roll down the window." 10 01:00:16,291 --> 01:00:16,500 Yeah. 11 01:00:16,583 --> 01:00:17,791 That big one window. 12 01:00:18,458 --> 01:00:19,291 Did you name your 13 01:00:19,291 --> 01:00:20,416 cars when you were a kid? 14 01:00:20,708 --> 01:00:21,791 No, I talked to my shoes, 15 01:00:21,791 --> 01:00:22,958 but I didn't name my cars. 16 01:00:23,541 --> 01:00:26,416 The cost for mistakes for this generation 17 01:00:26,625 --> 01:00:27,583 is way worse than the 18 01:00:27,583 --> 01:00:28,666 cost for mistakes in cars. 19 01:00:29,291 --> 01:00:32,333 But it is a beep to put up and down. 20 01:00:33,125 --> 01:00:33,166 (laughing) 21 01:00:33,208 --> 01:00:34,041 I want everyone to just 22 01:00:34,041 --> 01:00:35,583 have my Pollyanna type life 23 01:00:35,583 --> 01:00:36,375 that I had. 24 01:00:37,791 --> 01:00:40,291 Natural factory setting right now. 25 01:00:40,291 --> 01:00:41,000 Have you ever thought 26 01:00:41,000 --> 01:00:42,791 about being on a paper towel? 27 01:00:43,916 --> 01:00:45,000 I think about it all the time. 28 01:00:45,833 --> 01:00:47,875 Girls learn from a really young age 29 01:00:47,875 --> 01:00:48,750 how to play the game. 30 01:00:49,916 --> 01:00:50,958 Boys have no idea 31 01:00:50,958 --> 01:00:51,875 there's a game in people. 32 01:00:52,500 --> 01:00:53,541 So you're not rowing 33 01:00:53,541 --> 01:00:54,833 in the middle of swans, 34 01:00:54,833 --> 01:00:55,833 but that's all right. 35 01:00:56,583 --> 01:00:58,000 Everybody's already hung up anyways, so. 36 01:00:59,750 --> 01:00:59,958 Vinnie? 37 01:01:00,458 --> 01:01:01,500 Welcome to the Mr. and 38 01:01:01,500 --> 01:01:02,375 Mrs. English podcast. 39 01:01:02,875 --> 01:01:03,208 I'm Megan. 40 01:01:03,625 --> 01:01:04,208 And I'm Sean. 41 01:01:04,458 --> 01:01:05,500 We're here to talk about 42 01:01:05,500 --> 01:01:07,333 the wild ride of raising kids, 43 01:01:07,333 --> 01:01:09,458 growing careers, keeping life together 44 01:01:09,458 --> 01:01:10,666 in the middle of all the chaos. 45 01:01:11,416 --> 01:01:12,416 So buckle up, 46 01:01:12,750 --> 01:01:13,500 because we're all in 47 01:01:13,500 --> 01:01:14,750 this crazy journey together. 48 01:01:16,583 --> 01:01:20,250 Bippity boppity, bippity boppity boop. 49 01:01:21,875 --> 01:01:22,083 Boop. 50 01:01:22,583 --> 01:01:23,291 I got it right that time. 51 01:01:23,291 --> 01:01:24,375 Last time you called me on it, it was 52 01:01:24,375 --> 01:01:25,500 bippity boppity boop. 53 01:01:25,500 --> 01:01:27,791 I know, I had the call out to Cinderella. 54 01:01:29,291 --> 01:01:29,625 Cheers. 55 01:01:29,958 --> 01:01:30,125 Cheers. 56 01:01:31,333 --> 01:01:31,791 All right, we're 57 01:01:31,791 --> 01:01:32,875 actually on a weekend now. 58 01:01:32,916 --> 01:01:33,666 We're on a weekend. 59 01:01:33,666 --> 01:01:35,041 I feel like we were just doing this. 60 01:01:35,083 --> 01:01:35,916 We did, we just did 61 01:01:35,916 --> 01:01:36,875 it like three days ago. 62 01:01:37,875 --> 01:01:38,500 But three days can be 63 01:01:38,500 --> 01:01:39,458 like a week sometimes. 64 01:01:39,875 --> 01:01:40,375 Or a millennia. 65 01:01:41,000 --> 01:01:41,500 Or a millennia. 66 01:01:41,958 --> 01:01:43,166 In our, I don't know, 67 01:01:43,166 --> 01:01:44,541 anyone in our phase of life, 68 01:01:44,541 --> 01:01:46,375 I feel like sometimes those three days 69 01:01:46,375 --> 01:01:47,666 or whatever it's been, four days. 70 01:01:48,541 --> 01:01:51,041 Whoa, that was just four days ago? 71 01:01:51,083 --> 01:01:51,291 Yeah. 72 01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:53,125 But it wasn't that bad for me. 73 01:01:53,625 --> 01:01:54,625 Was it for you though? 74 01:01:55,333 --> 01:01:56,708 They were pretty busy days. 75 01:01:56,708 --> 01:01:57,708 Yeah, you had some busy work days. 76 01:01:58,166 --> 01:02:00,333 Yeah, it was just busy work days. 77 01:02:00,750 --> 01:02:01,958 Lots of, yeah. 78 01:02:02,166 --> 01:02:02,833 This weekend was not 79 01:02:02,833 --> 01:02:04,125 nearly as busy as last weekend, 80 01:02:04,375 --> 01:02:05,458 which nopes a little bit. 81 01:02:06,708 --> 01:02:08,625 We got to be productive instead. 82 01:02:09,708 --> 01:02:10,333 And now we get to 83 01:02:10,333 --> 01:02:11,666 enjoy, we get to imbibe. 84 01:02:12,333 --> 01:02:13,166 Get to imbibe again. 85 01:02:13,916 --> 01:02:15,666 I'm actually having an amaretto sour 86 01:02:16,083 --> 01:02:17,541 because it's about a 87 01:02:17,541 --> 01:02:19,750 thousand degrees in the studio. 88 01:02:20,208 --> 01:02:20,833 Yes it is. 89 01:02:20,875 --> 01:02:21,875 It's really hot in here. 90 01:02:21,875 --> 01:02:22,958 That is one thing we don't talk about 91 01:02:22,958 --> 01:02:24,000 is that the equipment in 92 01:02:24,000 --> 01:02:26,500 here makes it very hot. 93 01:02:26,958 --> 01:02:28,500 Yeah, it gets the morning sun there. 94 01:02:28,500 --> 01:02:29,791 So it's the afternoon now, 95 01:02:30,625 --> 01:02:32,000 but it is still very warm in here. 96 01:02:32,250 --> 01:02:32,875 Quite warm. 97 01:02:32,875 --> 01:02:34,375 It's got a lowered ceiling in it. 98 01:02:34,375 --> 01:02:35,250 Not that anybody cares, 99 01:02:35,500 --> 01:02:37,041 but I think that blocks some of the AC. 100 01:02:37,833 --> 01:02:37,875 Oh I see. 101 01:02:37,916 --> 01:02:39,250 Because they don't bring it down to that. 102 01:02:39,333 --> 01:02:39,625 Yeah. 103 01:02:39,625 --> 01:02:40,375 It's part of it too. 104 01:02:41,333 --> 01:02:42,250 I'm sure that's part of it. 105 01:02:42,250 --> 01:02:42,916 If we start sweating 106 01:02:42,916 --> 01:02:43,791 halfway through this, 107 01:02:43,791 --> 01:02:44,541 now you know why. 108 01:02:45,416 --> 01:02:45,875 (laughing) 109 01:02:46,541 --> 01:02:46,666 Yeah. 110 01:02:47,416 --> 01:02:48,916 Or sweating already, starting already. 111 01:02:49,333 --> 01:02:49,583 Maybe. 112 01:02:50,291 --> 01:02:50,416 Yeah. 113 01:02:51,583 --> 01:02:52,666 It's quite warm, but that's okay. 114 01:02:53,083 --> 01:02:54,000 We're used to it being warm. 115 01:02:54,375 --> 01:02:55,125 Whereas we live in Texas 116 01:02:55,583 --> 01:02:58,666 and we have not had many 100 degree days. 117 01:02:58,958 --> 01:02:59,166 No. 118 01:02:59,666 --> 01:02:59,916 Here? 119 01:03:00,750 --> 01:03:01,750 No, everybody will 120 01:03:01,750 --> 01:03:02,666 sweat through their shirt. 121 01:03:02,666 --> 01:03:04,250 You just kind of get used to it. 122 01:03:04,291 --> 01:03:04,666 Yeah, people are 123 01:03:04,666 --> 01:03:05,291 sweating through their shirts 124 01:03:05,291 --> 01:03:06,208 at the grocery store or 125 01:03:06,208 --> 01:03:07,625 shopping for avocados. 126 01:03:08,500 --> 01:03:09,291 Whatever it might be. 127 01:03:09,333 --> 01:03:11,166 Yeah, they had to walk in somehow. 128 01:03:11,166 --> 01:03:11,500 That's right. 129 01:03:11,500 --> 01:03:11,708 You know? 130 01:03:12,291 --> 01:03:14,333 I remember visiting my aunt Tana 131 01:03:15,500 --> 01:03:17,458 when I was younger, right? 132 01:03:17,458 --> 01:03:18,500 With my mom, we'd come down. 133 01:03:18,833 --> 01:03:19,375 When we lived in 134 01:03:19,375 --> 01:03:20,250 Colorado, they still lived here. 135 01:03:21,041 --> 01:03:22,041 And I just thought this 136 01:03:22,041 --> 01:03:23,958 was like hell on earth. 137 01:03:24,250 --> 01:03:24,833 It was so hot. 138 01:03:25,083 --> 01:03:26,750 You said, you made the comment, 139 01:03:26,750 --> 01:03:27,708 like moving, going from 140 01:03:27,708 --> 01:03:29,416 the car to like indoors. 141 01:03:30,250 --> 01:03:31,041 At that point, I was in 142 01:03:31,041 --> 01:03:31,833 high school or younger 143 01:03:32,500 --> 01:03:33,583 and I would just be like 144 01:03:33,583 --> 01:03:35,333 dripping sweat in those 30 feet. 145 01:03:35,750 --> 01:03:37,000 I just, I literally thought 146 01:03:37,000 --> 01:03:39,250 Dallas was like, you know, 147 01:03:39,250 --> 01:03:40,000 a living hell. 148 01:03:40,000 --> 01:03:41,125 It was so hot here, but 149 01:03:41,125 --> 01:03:42,416 I hadn't been to Houston. 150 01:03:42,875 --> 01:03:43,458 Yeah, I know. 151 01:03:43,833 --> 01:03:44,833 And then you went to Houston. 152 01:03:44,833 --> 01:03:46,458 And then I went to Houston, yeah. 153 01:03:47,000 --> 01:03:51,500 How people live in Houston, good night. 154 01:03:51,500 --> 01:03:52,041 I do not know. 155 01:03:52,875 --> 01:03:55,208 Like I won't go there. 156 01:03:55,500 --> 01:03:57,791 I don't, well, I have to, but it's just, 157 01:03:58,541 --> 01:03:59,708 I was like, I just waste 158 01:03:59,708 --> 01:04:01,541 time trying to make my hair 159 01:04:01,541 --> 01:04:02,333 look nice or whatever. 160 01:04:02,333 --> 01:04:04,125 Cause I am just drenched in sweat. 161 01:04:04,916 --> 01:04:06,458 Just walking to a car. 162 01:04:06,708 --> 01:04:07,708 Yeah, which is, it's 163 01:04:07,708 --> 01:04:09,166 more of a way of life 164 01:04:09,166 --> 01:04:09,916 down here, unfortunately. 165 01:04:10,208 --> 01:04:10,416 Yeah. 166 01:04:11,708 --> 01:04:12,041 That's right. 167 01:04:13,041 --> 01:04:13,875 Oh my gosh. 168 01:04:14,166 --> 01:04:15,875 But not as much this weekend. 169 01:04:15,875 --> 01:04:16,625 So it was kind of nice. 170 01:04:16,625 --> 01:04:17,583 We got some things done. 171 01:04:18,666 --> 01:04:20,125 Yeah, so people that 172 01:04:20,125 --> 01:04:21,000 have been to our house, 173 01:04:21,666 --> 01:04:22,958 speaking of that hot summer, 174 01:04:23,541 --> 01:04:25,125 we have instead of 175 01:04:25,125 --> 01:04:27,333 getting a pool membership 176 01:04:27,333 --> 01:04:29,541 or something like that, we ended up- 177 01:04:29,541 --> 01:04:29,791 Which we did. 178 01:04:30,208 --> 01:04:31,125 Oh, we did have that too. 179 01:04:31,166 --> 01:04:32,166 But we found it too hard 180 01:04:32,166 --> 01:04:33,250 because we were working 181 01:04:33,250 --> 01:04:33,916 during the day so we 182 01:04:33,916 --> 01:04:35,041 couldn't take the kids to the pool 183 01:04:35,041 --> 01:04:36,208 like during the day. 184 01:04:36,333 --> 01:04:36,708 Yeah. 185 01:04:36,750 --> 01:04:37,291 Cause we had to drive. 186 01:04:37,541 --> 01:04:37,791 That's right. 187 01:04:38,166 --> 01:04:39,000 So the background here 188 01:04:39,000 --> 01:04:39,833 is we rented the house 189 01:04:39,916 --> 01:04:40,958 across the street from 190 01:04:40,958 --> 01:04:41,875 the lot that we bought 191 01:04:41,875 --> 01:04:42,791 to build a house on, the 192 01:04:42,791 --> 01:04:43,875 one that we're living in now. 193 01:04:44,875 --> 01:04:47,000 And so it's a two acre lot here. 194 01:04:47,583 --> 01:04:48,875 And so what we thought was, 195 01:04:48,875 --> 01:04:49,750 you know what we're gonna do, 196 01:04:50,958 --> 01:04:53,750 let's just buy, like, it's gonna like, 197 01:04:53,750 --> 01:04:54,541 we started with the idea 198 01:04:54,541 --> 01:04:55,791 of like a blow up pool. 199 01:04:55,833 --> 01:04:56,166 Yeah. 200 01:04:56,250 --> 01:04:56,666 You know what I mean? 201 01:04:56,666 --> 01:04:58,458 So the kids just kind of come over here. 202 01:04:59,750 --> 01:05:00,833 Long and the short of it is 203 01:05:00,833 --> 01:05:01,875 if you've been to our house, 204 01:05:01,875 --> 01:05:04,416 we have like, I mean, 205 01:05:04,625 --> 01:05:07,750 this is a party city level, 206 01:05:08,416 --> 01:05:12,291 jumpy blow up slide. 207 01:05:12,666 --> 01:05:14,000 It's an inflatable water slide. 208 01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:14,625 It's what, 20 feet? 209 01:05:14,833 --> 01:05:15,833 Yeah, it was really hard. 210 01:05:16,125 --> 01:05:18,125 Inflatable water slide, two words on it. 211 01:05:18,625 --> 01:05:19,708 I had a really difficult 212 01:05:19,708 --> 01:05:21,000 time trying to find that word. 213 01:05:21,041 --> 01:05:22,583 It's okay, it's heat exhaustion, honey. 214 01:05:22,583 --> 01:05:23,166 Those words it is. 215 01:05:23,166 --> 01:05:23,791 It was a hot day. 216 01:05:24,458 --> 01:05:25,916 Anyway, so I look forward 217 01:05:25,916 --> 01:05:27,666 to, I don't look forward to, 218 01:05:27,666 --> 01:05:28,666 every year, if we put 219 01:05:28,666 --> 01:05:30,416 it up into our pool. 220 01:05:30,666 --> 01:05:31,791 So when we did it over here, 221 01:05:32,208 --> 01:05:32,875 initially it has a 222 01:05:32,875 --> 01:05:33,791 little pool at the end of it 223 01:05:33,791 --> 01:05:35,125 that we all broke our 224 01:05:35,125 --> 01:05:36,916 ankles, cause you fly down it. 225 01:05:36,916 --> 01:05:38,416 It's like, it's like 20 feet high. 226 01:05:38,416 --> 01:05:39,000 If you've been in it, 227 01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:40,500 it's like 15, 20, 18 feet, 228 01:05:40,500 --> 01:05:40,875 something like that. 229 01:05:40,916 --> 01:05:41,708 Something like that, yeah. 230 01:05:41,708 --> 01:05:42,958 And it's fast, it's fun. 231 01:05:42,958 --> 01:05:43,583 I mean, it's fun. 232 01:05:43,875 --> 01:05:45,791 It's a blast, adults, children alike. 233 01:05:46,041 --> 01:05:49,333 But it blasted this little pool. 234 01:05:49,333 --> 01:05:50,625 The first time I did it that time, 235 01:05:50,625 --> 01:05:51,500 I literally, I felt like 236 01:05:51,500 --> 01:05:52,458 I broke both my ankles, 237 01:05:52,458 --> 01:05:55,083 cause I just launched six 238 01:05:55,083 --> 01:05:56,416 feet across in this little pool. 239 01:05:56,958 --> 01:05:58,333 It didn't have water in it yet. 240 01:05:59,125 --> 01:06:00,958 Super hard, dead grass. 241 01:06:01,708 --> 01:06:02,750 Like, swimming. 242 01:06:03,208 --> 01:06:05,125 Yeah, so that didn't help either. 243 01:06:05,375 --> 01:06:06,333 You were gonna break your ankles 244 01:06:06,333 --> 01:06:07,875 or your tailbone by landing? 245 01:06:08,125 --> 01:06:09,000 Like, yeah. 246 01:06:09,041 --> 01:06:11,541 So now, we set it up, it's perfect. 247 01:06:11,541 --> 01:06:12,833 We set it up to go, and we built, 248 01:06:13,416 --> 01:06:14,500 literally, I designed 249 01:06:14,500 --> 01:06:16,333 the patio in the pool 250 01:06:16,666 --> 01:06:18,500 so that we could inflate this 251 01:06:19,208 --> 01:06:20,791 and have it up all summer long, 252 01:06:20,958 --> 01:06:22,375 and you can just go down the slide 253 01:06:22,375 --> 01:06:23,291 straight into the pool. 254 01:06:24,041 --> 01:06:26,750 And we put it up every summer since then. 255 01:06:27,291 --> 01:06:27,916 If you've been to a 256 01:06:27,916 --> 01:06:29,000 soccer party at the house, 257 01:06:29,000 --> 01:06:30,625 the kids have been on it, it's fun. 258 01:06:31,500 --> 01:06:32,916 It's fun for parents, I mean, jeez, 259 01:06:32,916 --> 01:06:34,125 we spent a lot of time on it. 260 01:06:34,166 --> 01:06:34,458 Oh yeah. 261 01:06:34,458 --> 01:06:35,833 Until your knee, you didn't this year. 262 01:06:35,833 --> 01:06:36,041 Right. 263 01:06:36,500 --> 01:06:39,583 But it is a beep to put up and down. 264 01:06:40,541 --> 01:06:40,583 (laughing) 265 01:06:40,625 --> 01:06:42,125 Right, it takes a lot 266 01:06:42,125 --> 01:06:42,916 of time, a lot of effort. 267 01:06:43,333 --> 01:06:43,500 Yes. 268 01:06:43,500 --> 01:06:46,000 Yeah, I made a reel about it this year. 269 01:06:46,000 --> 01:06:48,208 We're getting better at it. 270 01:06:48,416 --> 01:06:48,916 Yes. 271 01:06:48,958 --> 01:06:50,875 But it takes, it's effort. 272 01:06:51,166 --> 01:06:52,041 This year, we cleaned 273 01:06:52,041 --> 01:06:53,500 it, we had to wash it. 274 01:06:53,833 --> 01:06:55,166 Anyways, so that's what we did. 275 01:06:55,541 --> 01:06:56,958 With our downtime, 276 01:06:56,958 --> 01:06:57,916 that's what we did today. 277 01:06:57,958 --> 01:06:59,583 Yep, and we both have a 278 01:06:59,583 --> 01:07:01,125 sunburn back because of it. 279 01:07:01,208 --> 01:07:03,250 Yeah, that's right, at the end of August. 280 01:07:03,958 --> 01:07:06,791 I know, but it's worth it. 281 01:07:06,791 --> 01:07:07,875 That thing is so fun. 282 01:07:08,166 --> 01:07:08,750 Yeah, it is. 283 01:07:09,458 --> 01:07:10,583 Sorry, you didn't get to go down it. 284 01:07:10,625 --> 01:07:11,291 We didn't have it up 285 01:07:11,291 --> 01:07:12,916 since you got the green light. 286 01:07:14,250 --> 01:07:14,458 So. 287 01:07:14,791 --> 01:07:15,416 It does make me a 288 01:07:15,416 --> 01:07:16,416 little motion sick though, 289 01:07:16,416 --> 01:07:17,666 if I stay up there. 290 01:07:17,875 --> 01:07:19,041 You get so motion sick 291 01:07:19,041 --> 01:07:20,041 so easily, it's crazy. 292 01:07:20,250 --> 01:07:20,750 I know. 293 01:07:21,125 --> 01:07:22,500 Is that happening at an older age? 294 01:07:23,000 --> 01:07:24,125 Or have you just always had that? 295 01:07:24,708 --> 01:07:26,291 I've always gotten motion sick, but yeah, 296 01:07:26,291 --> 01:07:26,916 something like this would 297 01:07:26,916 --> 01:07:28,166 have never done that for me. 298 01:07:28,166 --> 01:07:29,500 Sorry, my ring keeps on thinking. 299 01:07:29,875 --> 01:07:30,750 I always got motion 300 01:07:30,750 --> 01:07:32,083 sick on certain things. 301 01:07:32,083 --> 01:07:33,708 I can't read in cars, right? 302 01:07:34,000 --> 01:07:35,041 Unless I'm driving, if I'm driving, 303 01:07:35,041 --> 01:07:35,875 I can totally read, that's fine. 304 01:07:37,083 --> 01:07:37,833 But in the passenger 305 01:07:37,833 --> 01:07:38,666 seat, I cannot read it, 306 01:07:38,666 --> 01:07:39,833 I'll get a car sick, big time. 307 01:07:40,625 --> 01:07:42,625 (laughing) 308 01:07:43,666 --> 01:07:44,708 I don't even know where to go. 309 01:07:44,708 --> 01:07:46,083 I think most people are like that though. 310 01:07:46,541 --> 01:07:49,333 You can do whatever you can in the car, 311 01:07:49,708 --> 01:07:50,250 while you're driving, 312 01:07:50,500 --> 01:07:51,333 doesn't get car sick. 313 01:07:52,125 --> 01:07:54,291 But on the cruise, you really 314 01:07:54,291 --> 01:07:55,500 had tough time on the cruise, 315 01:07:55,750 --> 01:07:57,041 because when we got to the land, 316 01:07:57,041 --> 01:07:58,958 you felt like you were on the cruise. 317 01:07:58,958 --> 01:08:00,000 I never once felt that. 318 01:08:00,291 --> 01:08:01,791 Yeah, I would get on land, I'd be like, 319 01:08:02,083 --> 01:08:03,208 but I was great on the cruise. 320 01:08:03,458 --> 01:08:04,083 And for like three weeks, 321 01:08:04,083 --> 01:08:05,375 you felt it afterwards too. 322 01:08:05,375 --> 01:08:06,833 Yeah, I did, I totally felt like I was. 323 01:08:06,875 --> 01:08:07,958 I don't know if that's the norm or not. 324 01:08:08,541 --> 01:08:09,708 I've never felt that way. 325 01:08:09,916 --> 01:08:11,416 But maybe that is normal, 326 01:08:11,416 --> 01:08:12,125 but I think you're a 327 01:08:12,125 --> 01:08:12,833 little sensitive to that. 328 01:08:12,833 --> 01:08:13,750 It's that inner ear thing. 329 01:08:13,750 --> 01:08:15,083 Oh yeah, yeah, I've always, 330 01:08:15,083 --> 01:08:15,875 like I used to get car 331 01:08:15,875 --> 01:08:17,000 sick when I was a kid. 332 01:08:17,375 --> 01:08:18,416 And we had the station wagon, 333 01:08:18,416 --> 01:08:19,750 where the seats faced backwards. 334 01:08:20,500 --> 01:08:22,625 Oh, you didn't, I mean, come on. 335 01:08:24,166 --> 01:08:25,250 You are a Gen X. 336 01:08:25,250 --> 01:08:26,541 If you grew up in the 80s, 337 01:08:26,541 --> 01:08:28,958 you sat backwards in a station wagon. 338 01:08:29,583 --> 01:08:31,000 Probably wood paneled. 339 01:08:32,208 --> 01:08:33,625 And you said, roll down the window, 340 01:08:33,833 --> 01:08:35,333 you had that big one window. 341 01:08:35,625 --> 01:08:36,416 I know, yeah. 342 01:08:36,500 --> 01:08:37,875 That you could just dive out. 343 01:08:39,333 --> 01:08:40,916 That was so not safe. 344 01:08:41,875 --> 01:08:42,625 It was like one year 345 01:08:42,625 --> 01:08:44,500 after they mandated seat belts 346 01:08:44,500 --> 01:08:45,416 in a car. 347 01:08:46,000 --> 01:08:46,541 I know. 348 01:08:47,500 --> 01:08:50,583 Like a grown human could 349 01:08:50,583 --> 01:08:51,708 climb out of that window. 350 01:08:51,708 --> 01:08:52,833 Like it didn't even have to be a kid 351 01:08:52,833 --> 01:08:54,166 being stupid in the back seat anyway. 352 01:08:54,500 --> 01:08:56,333 There's a reason why we say 353 01:08:56,333 --> 01:08:58,625 we are a strong generation. 354 01:08:59,000 --> 01:09:00,166 Yeah, we did not. 355 01:09:00,875 --> 01:09:01,875 My brother got, like 356 01:09:01,875 --> 01:09:04,583 he got, like his head, 357 01:09:04,583 --> 01:09:05,541 he was sticking his head out the window 358 01:09:05,541 --> 01:09:07,041 and my dad was rolling up the window 359 01:09:07,291 --> 01:09:08,625 and he got his head stuck, 360 01:09:09,250 --> 01:09:10,375 but no one ever actually 361 01:09:10,375 --> 01:09:11,625 tried to jump out in my family. 362 01:09:12,333 --> 01:09:13,291 Yeah, surprising. 363 01:09:14,666 --> 01:09:15,333 You know, they're 364 01:09:15,333 --> 01:09:16,458 adventure seekers, but yeah. 365 01:09:16,708 --> 01:09:18,166 Usually it was me in the 366 01:09:18,166 --> 01:09:19,583 back with one of my siblings. 367 01:09:21,666 --> 01:09:22,666 Yeah, so I would always 368 01:09:22,666 --> 01:09:23,500 have to take Dramamine. 369 01:09:24,208 --> 01:09:25,375 I think I've talked about that on here. 370 01:09:26,041 --> 01:09:27,666 Dramamine in the car, in the back. 371 01:09:28,000 --> 01:09:28,250 Yeah. 372 01:09:28,541 --> 01:09:29,250 Or road trips though. 373 01:09:29,250 --> 01:09:29,875 Or road trips. 374 01:09:29,875 --> 01:09:30,875 Not to school. 375 01:09:31,166 --> 01:09:32,375 Oh, no, no, no, no, no, yeah. 376 01:09:32,375 --> 01:09:33,250 Road trips, like anytime we 377 01:09:33,250 --> 01:09:34,291 went to our grandparents house 378 01:09:34,291 --> 01:09:34,875 or yeah. 379 01:09:35,125 --> 01:09:35,416 Yeah. 380 01:09:36,333 --> 01:09:37,166 I think that's the percent I had to take Dramamine. 381 01:09:37,458 --> 01:09:37,666 Yeah. 382 01:09:38,125 --> 01:09:38,625 Oh, I see. 383 01:09:38,666 --> 01:09:39,333 We've talked about road 384 01:09:39,333 --> 01:09:40,291 trips in here though, right? 385 01:09:40,458 --> 01:09:41,416 Like we're on this 386 01:09:41,416 --> 01:09:42,208 show, haven't we before? 387 01:09:42,458 --> 01:09:43,833 We're, we'd all just roll. 388 01:09:43,833 --> 01:09:45,666 I mean, the greatest thing about those 389 01:09:46,000 --> 01:09:48,125 was you just put all the seats down 390 01:09:49,250 --> 01:09:50,583 and we'd just lay out sleeping bags 391 01:09:50,583 --> 01:09:51,958 and we would just sleep back there 392 01:09:51,958 --> 01:09:53,708 on 18 hour road trips to Michigan. 393 01:09:54,000 --> 01:09:54,666 That was fantastic. 394 01:09:54,958 --> 01:09:57,375 Waking up at 2 a.m. in the gas stations. 395 01:09:57,375 --> 01:09:58,250 There's just, there's 396 01:09:58,250 --> 01:10:00,208 an ambiance, you know, 397 01:10:00,208 --> 01:10:01,791 and just a nice feel 398 01:10:01,791 --> 01:10:03,208 of getting up at 2 a.m. 399 01:10:03,208 --> 01:10:04,166 at a gas station. 400 01:10:04,291 --> 01:10:04,541 Yeah. 401 01:10:06,458 --> 01:10:06,625 Iowa. 402 01:10:08,250 --> 01:10:10,166 We didn't do the all nighters. 403 01:10:10,458 --> 01:10:10,958 Maybe Nebraska. 404 01:10:11,291 --> 01:10:14,541 We would stop and stay somewhere like, 405 01:10:15,125 --> 01:10:16,166 my parents were not doing 406 01:10:16,166 --> 01:10:17,208 what your parents were doing 407 01:10:17,208 --> 01:10:19,083 where they're just switching 408 01:10:19,083 --> 01:10:20,791 drivers while on a highway. 409 01:10:21,666 --> 01:10:21,833 Yeah. 410 01:10:21,833 --> 01:10:22,791 That's a little bit of that nature 411 01:10:22,791 --> 01:10:23,708 nurture thing for me, 412 01:10:23,708 --> 01:10:23,916 right? 413 01:10:25,166 --> 01:10:25,208 (laughing) 414 01:10:25,375 --> 01:10:26,666 That's probably a little bit of nurture. 415 01:10:27,083 --> 01:10:28,291 That's a lot of nurture. 416 01:10:28,708 --> 01:10:29,416 We gotta get there. 417 01:10:29,666 --> 01:10:30,500 We gotta get there. 418 01:10:30,750 --> 01:10:32,000 Oh, wow. 419 01:10:32,000 --> 01:10:32,666 No time to waste. 420 01:10:33,000 --> 01:10:33,625 There's no time to-- 421 01:10:34,041 --> 01:10:34,541 We're in a hotel. 422 01:10:36,333 --> 01:10:37,083 We can't even pull 423 01:10:37,083 --> 01:10:38,208 over to switch drivers. 424 01:10:38,416 --> 01:10:40,125 Like, we're gonna do it while driving 425 01:10:40,666 --> 01:10:42,625 70 miles an hour on a highway. 426 01:10:42,666 --> 01:10:43,791 It's so funny that they did that. 427 01:10:43,791 --> 01:10:44,458 At 30 seconds. 428 01:10:44,791 --> 01:10:45,958 Thank God for cruise control, that 429 01:10:45,958 --> 01:10:46,791 allowed them to do it. 430 01:10:46,916 --> 01:10:47,875 They put cruise control 431 01:10:47,875 --> 01:10:49,000 into that vehicle, I believe. 432 01:10:49,208 --> 01:10:50,500 It did not come with cruise control. 433 01:10:51,166 --> 01:10:51,791 Cruise control. 434 01:10:52,083 --> 01:10:52,958 That first station wagon. 435 01:10:53,541 --> 01:10:55,500 Oh, I'm pretty sure ours did not have-- 436 01:10:55,500 --> 01:10:55,708 Yeah. 437 01:10:56,083 --> 01:10:57,083 Did you name your 438 01:10:57,083 --> 01:10:58,125 cars when you were a kid? 439 01:10:58,291 --> 01:10:58,500 No. 440 01:10:59,000 --> 01:10:59,208 No? 441 01:10:59,500 --> 01:11:01,041 That's a thing, that's a you thing. 442 01:11:01,125 --> 01:11:01,375 Okay. 443 01:11:01,833 --> 01:11:02,958 My family always named their cars. 444 01:11:03,041 --> 01:11:04,000 I talked to my shoes, 445 01:11:04,000 --> 01:11:05,125 but I didn't name my cars. 446 01:11:06,875 --> 01:11:10,750 (laughs) You introduced your shoes to the school? 447 01:11:11,041 --> 01:11:11,375 Yeah. 448 01:11:12,000 --> 01:11:12,208 Like-- 449 01:11:12,500 --> 01:11:12,750 Yeah. 450 01:11:13,375 --> 01:11:15,500 But yeah, my mom always named cars. 451 01:11:16,125 --> 01:11:18,500 Anyway, Pegasus was the 452 01:11:18,500 --> 01:11:19,833 name of the station wagon, 453 01:11:20,083 --> 01:11:21,958 but I don't think Pegasus had-- 454 01:11:21,958 --> 01:11:23,208 It's a lot to live up to. 455 01:11:23,583 --> 01:11:24,041 (laughs) 456 01:11:24,125 --> 01:11:26,041 I don't think Pegasus had cruise control. 457 01:11:26,625 --> 01:11:27,041 Pegasus. 458 01:11:28,125 --> 01:11:28,333 Yeah, she called it-- 459 01:11:28,333 --> 01:11:28,666 She should have a 460 01:11:28,666 --> 01:11:29,458 transformer or something. 461 01:11:29,500 --> 01:11:29,958 She called it Peggy. 462 01:11:30,833 --> 01:11:31,958 Peggy, yeah. 463 01:11:32,583 --> 01:11:35,541 It was so ugly, and it smelled like barf. 464 01:11:37,583 --> 01:11:37,625 (laughs) 465 01:11:37,625 --> 01:11:40,625 Like that car reeked. 466 01:11:40,666 --> 01:11:41,791 There are two facts 467 01:11:41,791 --> 01:11:42,875 to know about this car. 468 01:11:43,583 --> 01:11:45,333 Its name is Pegasus Short Peggy. 469 01:11:45,541 --> 01:11:47,291 Number two, it smelled like barf. 470 01:11:47,958 --> 01:11:49,125 It totally did. 471 01:11:49,416 --> 01:11:49,666 Awesome. 472 01:11:50,500 --> 01:11:52,125 I wonder what happened in that car. 473 01:11:52,166 --> 01:11:53,250 I don't know. 474 01:11:53,916 --> 01:11:54,166 Yeah. 475 01:11:54,875 --> 01:11:57,000 I don't recall throwing up in the car. 476 01:11:57,833 --> 01:11:58,000 No. 477 01:11:58,333 --> 01:11:59,125 I think so. 478 01:11:59,791 --> 01:12:01,208 I mean, my mom would 479 01:12:01,208 --> 01:12:02,708 literally refer to the car as, 480 01:12:02,708 --> 01:12:04,083 oh, just go gettin' Peggy, you know? 481 01:12:04,750 --> 01:12:05,000 Yeah. 482 01:12:06,041 --> 01:12:06,666 I don't know that my 483 01:12:06,666 --> 01:12:07,791 dad's cars had names, though. 484 01:12:08,208 --> 01:12:09,875 Maybe it was just in my mom thing. 485 01:12:10,500 --> 01:12:10,958 Could be. 486 01:12:10,958 --> 01:12:12,041 If I unpack this a little bit. 487 01:12:12,708 --> 01:12:13,250 Could be. 488 01:12:13,916 --> 01:12:14,708 It's a therapy session. 489 01:12:15,166 --> 01:12:16,000 Yeah, interesting. 490 01:12:16,416 --> 01:12:16,625 Yeah. 491 01:12:16,958 --> 01:12:17,416 Or not. 492 01:12:17,750 --> 01:12:18,500 No, I'm just kidding. 493 01:12:19,708 --> 01:12:19,958 Snoozer. 494 01:12:20,500 --> 01:12:21,833 No, it's not at all, not at all. 495 01:12:22,125 --> 01:12:23,166 You were bringing up earlier, 496 01:12:23,166 --> 01:12:23,791 you said something 497 01:12:23,791 --> 01:12:26,416 about just the differences 498 01:12:26,625 --> 01:12:27,708 between when we were growing up 499 01:12:27,708 --> 01:12:29,083 and our kids were growing up, right? 500 01:12:29,583 --> 01:12:30,583 We were talking about that earlier, 501 01:12:31,041 --> 01:12:34,083 just how we face some of 502 01:12:34,083 --> 01:12:35,583 the very same challenges 503 01:12:36,708 --> 01:12:37,291 and some that are just 504 01:12:37,291 --> 01:12:38,416 very, very different. 505 01:12:38,958 --> 01:12:39,125 Yeah. 506 01:12:39,791 --> 01:12:41,250 And just how hard it is 507 01:12:41,250 --> 01:12:42,125 to deal with those things. 508 01:12:42,458 --> 01:12:42,625 Right. 509 01:12:43,708 --> 01:12:45,375 And I think some of 510 01:12:45,375 --> 01:12:47,583 it is you never realize 511 01:12:47,875 --> 01:12:50,791 that your parents went 512 01:12:50,791 --> 01:12:52,416 through some of the same stuff 513 01:12:52,416 --> 01:12:53,333 that you could be going through. 514 01:12:53,916 --> 01:12:55,083 Different context, maybe. 515 01:12:56,250 --> 01:12:58,000 Slightly different, but at the same time, 516 01:12:58,083 --> 01:13:00,000 I think kids just 517 01:13:00,000 --> 01:13:01,416 assume that their parents, 518 01:13:03,125 --> 01:13:03,666 I don't know, that 519 01:13:03,666 --> 01:13:04,750 they were always mature 520 01:13:04,750 --> 01:13:06,750 and that they always, you know, like. 521 01:13:07,041 --> 01:13:07,416 Yeah. 522 01:13:07,500 --> 01:13:08,041 That they didn't go 523 01:13:08,041 --> 01:13:10,500 through the same rite of passage 524 01:13:10,791 --> 01:13:11,625 that the kids go through. 525 01:13:12,375 --> 01:13:13,666 Yeah, it's one of those roll 526 01:13:13,666 --> 01:13:15,083 your eyes at us type moments. 527 01:13:15,375 --> 01:13:16,166 You know, like, oh, I 528 01:13:16,166 --> 01:13:17,125 know you've been there 529 01:13:17,125 --> 01:13:18,041 and now you did this. 530 01:13:18,583 --> 01:13:19,791 When you were a kid, you know. 531 01:13:20,416 --> 01:13:20,625 Yeah. 532 01:13:20,666 --> 01:13:22,375 But it's like, so hard, you want, 533 01:13:22,375 --> 01:13:23,875 you're like, yeah, I have actually. 534 01:13:24,708 --> 01:13:27,000 And I feel like we 535 01:13:27,000 --> 01:13:28,500 should, I could help you. 536 01:13:28,875 --> 01:13:29,166 Right. 537 01:13:29,166 --> 01:13:30,500 They don't want to hear it. 538 01:13:30,708 --> 01:13:30,833 No. 539 01:13:31,166 --> 01:13:32,375 You know, and it's like, I know, 540 01:13:32,708 --> 01:13:34,208 sometimes you just got to learn it. 541 01:13:34,208 --> 01:13:35,083 It's like the school of hard knocks. 542 01:13:35,583 --> 01:13:35,791 Yeah. 543 01:13:35,916 --> 01:13:38,041 Like, I know, dad, but let 544 01:13:38,041 --> 01:13:40,208 me just fall and break my leg. 545 01:13:40,500 --> 01:13:40,750 Yeah. 546 01:13:41,208 --> 01:13:42,291 Like, well, don't. 547 01:13:42,750 --> 01:13:43,625 Yeah, don't. 548 01:13:43,958 --> 01:13:45,166 First of all, that costs me money. 549 01:13:46,000 --> 01:13:46,291 Second off. 550 01:13:46,625 --> 01:13:47,208 Doesn't it always? 551 01:13:47,208 --> 01:13:48,083 It's a lot of pain for you. 552 01:13:48,583 --> 01:13:48,791 Yeah. 553 01:13:50,000 --> 01:13:50,250 Right. 554 01:13:50,583 --> 01:13:51,166 But we try to, you 555 01:13:51,166 --> 01:13:52,083 know, some of these things 556 01:13:52,083 --> 01:13:53,666 that they go through, I mean, today, 557 01:13:55,375 --> 01:13:56,541 I don't know, some of 558 01:13:56,541 --> 01:13:57,333 them are exactly the same. 559 01:13:57,541 --> 01:13:59,666 Like, we have a kid right now that's, 560 01:14:01,125 --> 01:14:01,958 you know, as you mature, 561 01:14:02,250 --> 01:14:03,833 and this is what I was telling them, 562 01:14:04,041 --> 01:14:05,833 was like, look, and 563 01:14:05,833 --> 01:14:07,166 they're different than I was. 564 01:14:07,416 --> 01:14:07,750 And I don't want to 565 01:14:07,750 --> 01:14:08,708 get too specific here, 566 01:14:08,708 --> 01:14:09,416 because it's, you know, 567 01:14:09,416 --> 01:14:10,875 it's a little fresh still, 568 01:14:11,166 --> 01:14:13,583 but it's, you know, when I was younger, 569 01:14:13,583 --> 01:14:15,708 I was very shy, everybody knows that I, 570 01:14:15,708 --> 01:14:16,250 that watches this 571 01:14:16,250 --> 01:14:18,166 regularly, painfully shy. 572 01:14:18,666 --> 01:14:19,333 Like, I don't know if 573 01:14:19,333 --> 01:14:20,041 I've said this on here, 574 01:14:20,041 --> 01:14:21,583 but like, in 575 01:14:21,583 --> 01:14:23,208 kindergarten, I didn't go play, 576 01:14:23,875 --> 01:14:24,291 like when it was 577 01:14:24,291 --> 01:14:25,916 playtime, I stood by the teacher 578 01:14:26,958 --> 01:14:28,541 in kindergarten, because I was so shy. 579 01:14:29,166 --> 01:14:30,416 I don't understand, I 580 01:14:30,416 --> 01:14:31,625 don't remember being that shy. 581 01:14:31,625 --> 01:14:32,750 I knew I was shy, but I 582 01:14:32,750 --> 01:14:33,625 don't remember being that shy. 583 01:14:35,833 --> 01:14:39,000 But I didn't have, I didn't 584 01:14:39,000 --> 01:14:40,375 make a lot of close friends, 585 01:14:40,375 --> 01:14:41,333 because I was so shy. 586 01:14:41,791 --> 01:14:42,708 You know, so I got a little bit old. 587 01:14:42,708 --> 01:14:43,666 I mean, I knew a lot of people, 588 01:14:43,666 --> 01:14:45,041 I was friendly with a lot of people. 589 01:14:46,000 --> 01:14:48,000 But I always had like, I was never like, 590 01:14:48,458 --> 01:14:49,791 I never had like 20 friends. 591 01:14:50,500 --> 01:14:51,750 You know, I would have one 592 01:14:51,750 --> 01:14:53,125 or two really good friends, 593 01:14:53,791 --> 01:14:55,208 and then the seasons would change, 594 01:14:55,541 --> 01:14:56,458 and I'd have another one 595 01:14:56,458 --> 01:14:57,500 or two really good friends, 596 01:14:57,708 --> 01:14:59,166 you know, but as I got older, 597 01:14:59,166 --> 01:15:00,583 and we talked about this a little bit, 598 01:15:01,208 --> 01:15:02,875 you know, those friends, 599 01:15:03,083 --> 01:15:03,708 you kind of start 600 01:15:03,708 --> 01:15:05,833 sharpening your pencil, right? 601 01:15:05,833 --> 01:15:07,125 That's a great way to say it. 602 01:15:07,791 --> 01:15:09,500 On who you choose to kind 603 01:15:09,500 --> 01:15:10,666 of spend that time with, 604 01:15:10,666 --> 01:15:12,916 and who those real close friends are. 605 01:15:13,333 --> 01:15:14,500 And I think some of our 606 01:15:14,500 --> 01:15:15,250 kids are going through that. 607 01:15:15,500 --> 01:15:16,375 Yeah, yeah. 608 01:15:16,875 --> 01:15:18,583 And it's, it takes a 609 01:15:18,583 --> 01:15:20,916 lot of maturity to see it 610 01:15:21,000 --> 01:15:23,500 from the perspective of, it's okay, 611 01:15:24,000 --> 01:15:25,708 I'm, you know, growing 612 01:15:25,708 --> 01:15:27,166 up, this is what I like. 613 01:15:27,833 --> 01:15:28,958 And maybe this person 614 01:15:28,958 --> 01:15:30,875 doesn't like that as much as I do, 615 01:15:30,875 --> 01:15:31,541 but this is something 616 01:15:31,541 --> 01:15:32,791 that's really important to me. 617 01:15:32,791 --> 01:15:35,625 And so I'm going to 618 01:15:35,625 --> 01:15:37,208 continue to grow in that way. 619 01:15:37,208 --> 01:15:38,333 And if you don't, it's okay 620 01:15:38,333 --> 01:15:42,125 then that we don't, you know. 621 01:15:42,250 --> 01:15:43,000 And maybe we're not as close. 622 01:15:43,000 --> 01:15:43,500 That we're not as 623 01:15:43,500 --> 01:15:44,625 close, that's exactly right. 624 01:15:44,625 --> 01:15:45,416 Yeah, yeah. 625 01:15:45,750 --> 01:15:48,333 Yeah, and I was, I was lucky. 626 01:15:48,333 --> 01:15:49,333 I don't know if it's 627 01:15:49,333 --> 01:15:50,666 lucky or unfortunate. 628 01:15:51,208 --> 01:15:53,250 I didn't really have 629 01:15:53,250 --> 01:15:54,416 too many close friends. 630 01:15:54,791 --> 01:15:55,666 I had one close 631 01:15:55,666 --> 01:15:56,750 friend and she definitely, 632 01:15:57,583 --> 01:15:58,750 probably more like, she 633 01:15:58,750 --> 01:15:59,708 was a year older than me. 634 01:15:59,708 --> 01:16:00,083 So it was pretty 635 01:16:00,083 --> 01:16:01,625 natural that we grew apart. 636 01:16:02,250 --> 01:16:02,958 She was really into 637 01:16:02,958 --> 01:16:04,666 marching band and, you know, 638 01:16:04,666 --> 01:16:06,833 I was never played marching. 639 01:16:06,833 --> 01:16:07,500 You were not. 640 01:16:07,500 --> 01:16:08,125 I was not. 641 01:16:08,708 --> 01:16:12,916 Like, and so we eventually grew apart, 642 01:16:12,916 --> 01:16:14,208 but, you know, other 643 01:16:14,208 --> 01:16:16,208 friends definitely came in 644 01:16:16,208 --> 01:16:17,500 and then they were like my staples. 645 01:16:17,750 --> 01:16:19,458 I know there's a lot of people that I'm still friends with, 646 01:16:19,916 --> 01:16:20,583 but it was always such 647 01:16:20,583 --> 01:16:22,000 a small circle for me. 648 01:16:22,833 --> 01:16:24,166 But once, like, it 649 01:16:24,166 --> 01:16:25,166 was like sophomore year, 650 01:16:26,666 --> 01:16:27,875 freshman sophomore year, it like 651 01:16:27,875 --> 01:16:29,958 solidified my good friends. 652 01:16:30,125 --> 01:16:31,458 Yeah, yeah. 653 01:16:31,541 --> 01:16:32,458 But before that it was 654 01:16:32,458 --> 01:16:33,875 like, okay, maybe for a year 655 01:16:33,875 --> 01:16:35,500 it was, you know, this couple. 656 01:16:35,916 --> 01:16:37,875 And then with a different year, 657 01:16:37,875 --> 01:16:38,500 it'd be like another 658 01:16:38,500 --> 01:16:39,916 couple girls, you know. 659 01:16:40,000 --> 01:16:41,208 Yeah, yeah. 660 01:16:41,708 --> 01:16:42,375 And you're right, 661 01:16:42,375 --> 01:16:43,666 because you made the point 662 01:16:43,791 --> 01:16:47,708 that it was very mature of this child 663 01:16:48,250 --> 01:16:49,291 to see this from a 664 01:16:49,291 --> 01:16:50,958 perspective at a young age of, 665 01:16:51,333 --> 01:16:53,041 it might be okay, you know, I mean, 666 01:16:53,291 --> 01:16:54,958 they're disappointed, I think, 667 01:16:55,500 --> 01:16:57,041 but they also understand that it's not 668 01:16:57,041 --> 01:16:58,000 the end of the world. 669 01:16:58,833 --> 01:17:00,875 That's why I was telling them, you know, 670 01:17:01,166 --> 01:17:02,625 we went to a therapist once, 671 01:17:03,166 --> 01:17:03,875 and this helped me a ton, 672 01:17:03,875 --> 01:17:04,291 I don't know if I've 673 01:17:04,291 --> 01:17:05,500 mentioned it on this before or not, 674 01:17:05,791 --> 01:17:07,958 but he told me that, 675 01:17:10,333 --> 01:17:14,958 you know, it's okay to identify people 676 01:17:15,625 --> 01:17:18,416 by how much they fill your cup, right? 677 01:17:18,791 --> 01:17:20,666 So for instance, you as 678 01:17:20,666 --> 01:17:22,083 my wife, my best friend, 679 01:17:22,458 --> 01:17:24,583 you fill my cup 100%, right? 680 01:17:25,000 --> 01:17:28,291 I know, I put everything in there, right? 681 01:17:28,291 --> 01:17:28,750 You fill 100. 682 01:17:29,750 --> 01:17:31,958 Whereas there's other people in my life 683 01:17:31,958 --> 01:17:33,916 that maybe they only fill my cup 75%, 684 01:17:34,875 --> 01:17:36,750 or maybe they only fill my cup 10%. 685 01:17:38,250 --> 01:17:41,250 But once I identify what 686 01:17:41,250 --> 01:17:42,833 that is that they are to me, 687 01:17:43,083 --> 01:17:43,958 now I'm not expecting 688 01:17:43,958 --> 01:17:45,416 that other 90% out of them. 689 01:17:46,041 --> 01:17:46,750 So they're not letting me 690 01:17:46,750 --> 01:17:49,500 down, I'm not feeling let down, 691 01:17:49,916 --> 01:17:51,500 I'm not feeling like they're, 692 01:17:52,500 --> 01:17:54,208 like I need more from that, 693 01:17:54,500 --> 01:17:55,291 because that's all I'm 694 01:17:55,291 --> 01:17:57,000 expecting from that, you know? 695 01:17:57,166 --> 01:17:58,708 And I was trying to, you know, 696 01:17:59,750 --> 01:18:01,916 I've passed that along to our kids, 697 01:18:01,916 --> 01:18:03,875 because I think that was, you know, 698 01:18:03,875 --> 01:18:04,500 that was an epiphany 699 01:18:04,500 --> 01:18:06,625 moment for me, you know, 700 01:18:06,666 --> 01:18:08,291 of just like, it's okay that not 701 01:18:08,291 --> 01:18:09,708 everybody has to be 100%. 702 01:18:10,083 --> 01:18:11,041 And that's what I was saying, 703 01:18:11,666 --> 01:18:12,041 that kind of goes 704 01:18:12,041 --> 01:18:12,833 back to when I was a kid, 705 01:18:13,125 --> 01:18:14,083 like when I was all 706 01:18:14,083 --> 01:18:15,791 in, I was all in, man. 707 01:18:15,791 --> 01:18:16,416 You were like, we're best 708 01:18:16,416 --> 01:18:17,583 friends, we're best friends. 709 01:18:18,500 --> 01:18:19,291 You know what I mean? 710 01:18:19,291 --> 01:18:20,916 And it's not like I was like suffocating. 711 01:18:21,916 --> 01:18:23,458 But it was like, hey, we're best friends, 712 01:18:23,458 --> 01:18:24,083 we're, you know, like I'm 713 01:18:24,083 --> 01:18:24,958 gonna go to your house today, 714 01:18:24,958 --> 01:18:26,041 you're gonna come over to my house today, 715 01:18:26,041 --> 01:18:26,541 you know what I mean? 716 01:18:27,875 --> 01:18:28,666 That sounds like very 717 01:18:28,666 --> 01:18:29,750 suffocating, but you know, 718 01:18:29,750 --> 01:18:30,708 in a healthy way. 719 01:18:31,791 --> 01:18:33,791 But I was always very focused on that. 720 01:18:33,791 --> 01:18:35,083 Whereas as I'm older now, 721 01:18:35,083 --> 01:18:35,750 it's like, you know what, 722 01:18:35,750 --> 01:18:36,541 I can have a friend 723 01:18:36,541 --> 01:18:38,583 that's like, you know, 25%. 724 01:18:39,000 --> 01:18:40,333 We're not gonna hang out all the time. 725 01:18:40,333 --> 01:18:40,875 But when I see you, 726 01:18:40,875 --> 01:18:41,583 man, you're a great kid, 727 01:18:41,583 --> 01:18:42,375 you're a great person. 728 01:18:42,458 --> 01:18:42,708 Yeah. 729 01:18:42,750 --> 01:18:43,750 You know what I mean, type thing. 730 01:18:43,833 --> 01:18:44,125 Mm-hmm. 731 01:18:44,916 --> 01:18:47,250 I was that way too, like, I don't know, 732 01:18:47,250 --> 01:18:50,333 I was really shy and I will never forget, 733 01:18:50,333 --> 01:18:51,083 I think I've told you 734 01:18:51,083 --> 01:18:52,250 this, I had one lunch, 735 01:18:52,583 --> 01:18:54,666 we had a weird rotating schedule. 736 01:18:55,583 --> 01:18:58,500 And I had nobody in 737 01:18:58,500 --> 01:18:59,333 that lunch that I knew. 738 01:19:00,541 --> 01:19:00,916 Nobody. 739 01:19:01,541 --> 01:19:04,625 Imagine an entire lunchroom full of kids, 740 01:19:05,458 --> 01:19:06,375 and I didn't know one about it. 741 01:19:06,416 --> 01:19:07,458 What grade is this? 742 01:19:07,458 --> 01:19:08,208 Paint the picture a little bit. 743 01:19:08,250 --> 01:19:08,916 That was eighth grade. 744 01:19:08,958 --> 01:19:09,750 Eighth grade, okay. 745 01:19:09,916 --> 01:19:10,458 Eighth grade. 746 01:19:10,458 --> 01:19:10,708 Yeah, three. 747 01:19:11,958 --> 01:19:13,625 And it just so happened that-- 748 01:19:13,666 --> 01:19:14,041 A number of years. 749 01:19:14,291 --> 01:19:16,208 There was a girl in the, 750 01:19:16,458 --> 01:19:18,166 I mean, I hated this day, 751 01:19:18,166 --> 01:19:19,416 because every seven days or 752 01:19:19,416 --> 01:19:20,791 whatever, I had this lunch, 753 01:19:20,791 --> 01:19:23,625 and it was just like, just sit by myself. 754 01:19:23,875 --> 01:19:24,416 And it's kind of, I 755 01:19:24,416 --> 01:19:25,375 mean, it's embarrassing, 756 01:19:25,625 --> 01:19:26,333 because you don't 757 01:19:26,333 --> 01:19:26,916 want to sit by yourself. 758 01:19:28,125 --> 01:19:29,125 I'll never forget though, 759 01:19:29,125 --> 01:19:31,000 that there was one other girl 760 01:19:31,291 --> 01:19:32,333 that sat by herself too. 761 01:19:32,541 --> 01:19:34,833 And so one day, we just 762 01:19:34,833 --> 01:19:35,791 happened to sit across 763 01:19:35,791 --> 01:19:37,333 from each other at the same table. 764 01:19:38,541 --> 01:19:39,541 It turns out that 765 01:19:39,541 --> 01:19:41,583 later, like two years later, 766 01:19:41,583 --> 01:19:43,375 we ended up, she was one of the twins. 767 01:19:43,958 --> 01:19:45,541 And my high school 768 01:19:45,541 --> 01:19:46,541 best friends were twins. 769 01:19:47,500 --> 01:19:50,291 And it was just, it 770 01:19:50,291 --> 01:19:51,041 took another two years 771 01:19:51,041 --> 01:19:51,708 for us to become 772 01:19:51,708 --> 01:19:53,125 super, super good friends. 773 01:19:53,500 --> 01:19:55,000 Yeah, those were tough years. 774 01:19:55,250 --> 01:19:57,166 I mean, seventh, eighth, ninth grade, 775 01:19:57,166 --> 01:19:58,166 I mean, those were formative years. 776 01:19:59,250 --> 01:20:00,791 And those are big deals. 777 01:20:00,833 --> 01:20:02,250 I mean, I remember, you 778 01:20:02,250 --> 01:20:04,916 know, cafeteria, where you sit, 779 01:20:04,916 --> 01:20:05,916 who you sit with, 780 01:20:05,916 --> 01:20:06,625 those are all big things. 781 01:20:06,625 --> 01:20:07,500 I mean, I would have, 782 01:20:08,500 --> 01:20:09,791 luckily I was friends with, 783 01:20:09,791 --> 01:20:10,500 you know, all the sports 784 01:20:10,500 --> 01:20:11,625 guys or whatever it was. 785 01:20:11,625 --> 01:20:12,208 I had plenty of friends. 786 01:20:12,208 --> 01:20:13,250 Like I said, I always 787 01:20:13,250 --> 01:20:14,291 knew lots of people, 788 01:20:15,083 --> 01:20:16,666 and I was friendly with lots of people. 789 01:20:16,666 --> 01:20:18,000 But I think, I may have 790 01:20:18,000 --> 01:20:19,041 mentioned it on here before too, 791 01:20:19,041 --> 01:20:20,458 I don't know, I know you 792 01:20:20,458 --> 01:20:21,208 and I have talked about it, 793 01:20:21,208 --> 01:20:22,625 but I always felt like 794 01:20:22,625 --> 01:20:25,083 people thought I was stuck up, 795 01:20:25,958 --> 01:20:28,375 because I was, I was 796 01:20:28,375 --> 01:20:29,375 known for being an athlete, 797 01:20:30,083 --> 01:20:31,208 for being a top athlete. 798 01:20:31,208 --> 01:20:33,333 So I think a lot of people, because I 799 01:20:33,333 --> 01:20:34,375 didn't talk to them, 800 01:20:34,375 --> 01:20:36,583 and I had that kind of side to my life, 801 01:20:36,875 --> 01:20:37,500 I think they thought I 802 01:20:37,500 --> 01:20:38,541 was too good for everybody. 803 01:20:39,083 --> 01:20:40,125 Like, oh, I'm Mr. 804 01:20:40,500 --> 01:20:42,541 All-Star this, I'll state this. 805 01:20:43,041 --> 01:20:44,625 I'm not taught, I don't talk to people. 806 01:20:44,625 --> 01:20:45,916 No, it wasn't it. 807 01:20:45,916 --> 01:20:47,791 I was so shy, I didn't 808 01:20:47,791 --> 01:20:48,916 know how to talk to people. 809 01:20:48,916 --> 01:20:50,208 I didn't know how to approach people. 810 01:20:50,208 --> 01:20:52,083 I was scared of people, right? 811 01:20:52,291 --> 01:20:53,875 So, but I always lived in 812 01:20:53,875 --> 01:20:57,125 this kind of self-formed prison 813 01:20:57,416 --> 01:20:59,916 that I think people think I'm stuck up, 814 01:21:00,416 --> 01:21:02,958 but I don't know how to break that, 815 01:21:02,958 --> 01:21:03,375 because I'm sure it's 816 01:21:03,375 --> 01:21:04,833 not gonna go talk to them. 817 01:21:04,833 --> 01:21:05,250 I know. 818 01:21:05,500 --> 01:21:05,833 You know? 819 01:21:06,500 --> 01:21:06,625 Yeah. 820 01:21:06,750 --> 01:21:08,541 And that was really hard. 821 01:21:08,541 --> 01:21:10,625 So luckily, I mean, I had lots of 822 01:21:10,625 --> 01:21:12,791 friends, acquaintances. 823 01:21:13,000 --> 01:21:13,958 I knew everybody, I was 824 01:21:13,958 --> 01:21:15,041 friendly with everybody. 825 01:21:15,583 --> 01:21:17,666 From like a high level. 826 01:21:18,416 --> 01:21:20,458 But it was just very one-offs 827 01:21:20,458 --> 01:21:21,791 that I had good friends with. 828 01:21:21,791 --> 01:21:24,291 Really, I was more close to girlfriends 829 01:21:24,291 --> 01:21:25,958 than I was guy friends. 830 01:21:26,541 --> 01:21:28,125 As I got to older years. 831 01:21:28,708 --> 01:21:30,291 And you started having girlfriends 832 01:21:30,291 --> 01:21:33,958 at a younger age than really our kids. 833 01:21:35,125 --> 01:21:36,083 Well, I mean, not 834 01:21:36,083 --> 01:21:37,416 really, kind of, I guess. 835 01:21:37,708 --> 01:21:39,416 Like a real girlfriend, yeah. 836 01:21:39,708 --> 01:21:40,916 My first real girlfriend 837 01:21:40,916 --> 01:21:42,000 was probably in eighth grade. 838 01:21:42,083 --> 01:21:42,333 Yeah. 839 01:21:43,041 --> 01:21:44,500 So I mean, that's not that old. 840 01:21:45,125 --> 01:21:45,416 Yeah. 841 01:21:45,458 --> 01:21:48,875 But I mean, she was, we dated 842 01:21:48,875 --> 01:21:50,333 for a year, two years probably 843 01:21:50,708 --> 01:21:52,333 and whatnot, but I mean, 844 01:21:52,333 --> 01:21:53,583 you know all about her. 845 01:21:54,541 --> 01:21:55,500 I still think, I still 846 01:21:55,500 --> 01:21:56,708 wish you guys would meet 847 01:21:56,875 --> 01:21:58,375 because I just think you 848 01:21:58,375 --> 01:21:59,250 guys would get along so well. 849 01:21:59,250 --> 01:22:00,250 I think you guys are very similar. 850 01:22:00,625 --> 01:22:02,000 But I say those things sometimes. 851 01:22:02,291 --> 01:22:02,875 Like we were watching 852 01:22:02,875 --> 01:22:04,333 Yellowstone and I'm like, 853 01:22:04,333 --> 01:22:05,708 oh, you were so much like her. 854 01:22:05,916 --> 01:22:06,708 What's the lady that goes like this? 855 01:22:06,708 --> 01:22:08,333 Oh my God, you thought I was Beth. 856 01:22:08,541 --> 01:22:09,083 Oh yeah, like I was 857 01:22:09,083 --> 01:22:09,708 like, you were so like Beth. 858 01:22:09,958 --> 01:22:11,250 Because she's a strong woman. 859 01:22:11,708 --> 01:22:13,708 But then, you know, as 860 01:22:13,708 --> 01:22:15,125 I zoom out a little bit, 861 01:22:15,500 --> 01:22:16,416 maybe not so much. 862 01:22:17,333 --> 01:22:17,375 (laughs) 863 01:22:17,375 --> 01:22:18,625 Maybe not so much. 864 01:22:19,541 --> 01:22:21,375 Like fine line between 865 01:22:21,375 --> 01:22:23,500 strong woman and like-- 866 01:22:23,833 --> 01:22:25,000 Like intelligent woman, yeah. 867 01:22:26,291 --> 01:22:27,416 Borderline psychotic, 868 01:22:27,916 --> 01:22:29,541 like with no impulse control. 869 01:22:29,916 --> 01:22:32,000 Like I like to think I have. 870 01:22:33,458 --> 01:22:34,166 That's too funny. 871 01:22:35,375 --> 01:22:36,000 That's too funny. 872 01:22:36,833 --> 01:22:38,791 So I say that you guys would be friends. 873 01:22:38,791 --> 01:22:39,500 I think you guys would. 874 01:22:39,708 --> 01:22:40,500 I mean, it's not like 875 01:22:40,500 --> 01:22:41,708 I know her that well. 876 01:22:42,625 --> 01:22:44,041 We've had breakfast 877 01:22:44,041 --> 01:22:46,166 once or twice since then. 878 01:22:47,625 --> 01:22:48,958 I think she grew up to be a good person. 879 01:22:49,125 --> 01:22:50,458 I know you are a good person. 880 01:22:51,375 --> 01:22:51,916 Well, thank you. 881 01:22:52,958 --> 01:22:54,875 Anyways, but yeah, that's 882 01:22:54,875 --> 01:22:56,041 tough for the kids, you know? 883 01:22:56,041 --> 01:22:56,583 I mean, like they're 884 01:22:56,583 --> 01:22:57,875 trying to do these things. 885 01:22:58,250 --> 01:23:00,083 And in this day, we 886 01:23:00,083 --> 01:23:00,791 were talking about this, 887 01:23:01,375 --> 01:23:02,166 these friends. 888 01:23:04,250 --> 01:23:06,166 Social media just changes the game. 889 01:23:07,375 --> 01:23:07,750 Completely. 890 01:23:07,750 --> 01:23:08,666 Can you imagine having that? 891 01:23:08,666 --> 01:23:09,625 Changes the game. 892 01:23:09,833 --> 01:23:10,791 Again, this is one of those things 893 01:23:10,791 --> 01:23:13,083 where we're showing our years. 894 01:23:13,583 --> 01:23:16,000 And that wasn't even a, I mean, 895 01:23:16,250 --> 01:23:17,000 cell phones didn't exist 896 01:23:17,000 --> 01:23:18,333 when we were in school. 897 01:23:19,166 --> 01:23:19,416 No. 898 01:23:19,458 --> 01:23:20,875 I mean, even in college, 899 01:23:20,875 --> 01:23:22,083 they basically didn't exist. 900 01:23:23,166 --> 01:23:25,333 So there was nothing to, you know, 901 01:23:25,750 --> 01:23:27,875 MySpace maybe came on the 902 01:23:27,875 --> 01:23:29,750 scene at the end of college. 903 01:23:30,916 --> 01:23:32,125 I don't know that it did. 904 01:23:32,375 --> 01:23:33,083 I don't remember 905 01:23:33,083 --> 01:23:35,250 MySpace until we were dating 906 01:23:35,541 --> 01:23:37,333 and I was 25 years old. 907 01:23:37,333 --> 01:23:38,166 Wow, yeah. 908 01:23:38,166 --> 01:23:39,250 I mean, I was in the 909 01:23:39,250 --> 01:23:40,541 dorm room and you know, 910 01:23:40,541 --> 01:23:42,958 it was the dial up for internet. 911 01:23:43,541 --> 01:23:44,458 Oh, 100%. 912 01:23:44,791 --> 01:23:46,083 In fact, when I went to college, 913 01:23:47,375 --> 01:23:48,708 I went to college with like 914 01:23:48,708 --> 01:23:51,416 this handful of phone cards 915 01:23:51,875 --> 01:23:53,666 to call long distance. 916 01:23:53,666 --> 01:23:57,625 Yes, I had a long distance phone card. 917 01:23:57,666 --> 01:23:58,250 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 918 01:23:58,333 --> 01:23:59,750 Oh, I had ones that each 919 01:23:59,750 --> 01:24:00,791 had like 10 minutes on them 920 01:24:00,791 --> 01:24:01,541 or something like that. 921 01:24:01,541 --> 01:24:02,208 You had one that had-- 922 01:24:02,250 --> 01:24:03,375 I had like a sprint card, yeah, or 923 01:24:03,375 --> 01:24:04,000 something like that. 924 01:24:04,041 --> 01:24:04,833 I don't know what that is. 925 01:24:05,041 --> 01:24:06,000 But yeah, we had a whole ton of, 926 01:24:06,000 --> 01:24:08,375 I mean, that's our age, right? 927 01:24:08,375 --> 01:24:09,541 So I mean, there's none of that stuff, 928 01:24:09,541 --> 01:24:10,833 obviously, that we had to worry about. 929 01:24:11,000 --> 01:24:11,166 No. 930 01:24:11,500 --> 01:24:12,916 Whereas here, I mean, you could, 931 01:24:14,500 --> 01:24:15,125 because we were 932 01:24:15,125 --> 01:24:17,833 talking about it with friends 933 01:24:18,500 --> 01:24:19,041 and I had to make some, 934 01:24:19,041 --> 01:24:20,458 I've made some tough choices in my life 935 01:24:20,458 --> 01:24:21,166 with friends, right? 936 01:24:21,500 --> 01:24:24,708 I had very tough junior high 937 01:24:24,708 --> 01:24:25,666 high school years at the house. 938 01:24:25,916 --> 01:24:26,875 There's a lot going on there. 939 01:24:27,333 --> 01:24:29,750 And so I turned outward to 940 01:24:29,750 --> 01:24:31,000 try to find where I fit in, 941 01:24:31,541 --> 01:24:32,750 girlfriends or other friends. 942 01:24:34,625 --> 01:24:35,708 And my family was going 943 01:24:35,708 --> 01:24:36,291 through their own thing. 944 01:24:36,291 --> 01:24:36,916 So I'm not trying to throw 945 01:24:36,916 --> 01:24:38,500 anybody under the bus here. 946 01:24:39,208 --> 01:24:40,083 They were going through their own thing 947 01:24:40,083 --> 01:24:40,958 and it just happened to 948 01:24:40,958 --> 01:24:41,875 be during my high school 949 01:24:41,875 --> 01:24:43,750 and junior high years and made it tough. 950 01:24:43,750 --> 01:24:45,750 And so I went elsewhere to find family 951 01:24:45,750 --> 01:24:48,166 and where I fit in and find that love. 952 01:24:49,083 --> 01:24:50,833 And I know, I'm not trying 953 01:24:50,833 --> 01:24:51,791 to make you feel bad, mom. 954 01:24:54,250 --> 01:24:54,375 (both laughing) 955 01:24:54,750 --> 01:24:56,916 She's gonna hear that and be like, 956 01:24:56,916 --> 01:24:57,625 "Oh, I feel so bad." 957 01:24:58,125 --> 01:24:59,083 My mom was great. 958 01:24:59,083 --> 01:24:59,791 She was going through some, 959 01:25:00,500 --> 01:25:01,500 they were going through their own things. 960 01:25:02,333 --> 01:25:05,208 But I got in with crowds 961 01:25:05,208 --> 01:25:05,708 that weren't the right 962 01:25:05,708 --> 01:25:07,041 crowds to get in with. 963 01:25:07,708 --> 01:25:09,291 And there was a time when I 964 01:25:09,291 --> 01:25:10,708 had to break off from that crowd 965 01:25:11,666 --> 01:25:12,250 because I knew it. 966 01:25:12,250 --> 01:25:13,208 Because deep down, I've 967 01:25:13,208 --> 01:25:14,000 always been a rule follower. 968 01:25:14,416 --> 01:25:15,375 I knew those were 969 01:25:15,375 --> 01:25:16,500 things I shouldn't be doing. 970 01:25:16,500 --> 01:25:17,416 I didn't want to be doing. 971 01:25:18,375 --> 01:25:19,458 And I had to break off from that crowd. 972 01:25:19,458 --> 01:25:22,000 And I paid a social price 973 01:25:22,000 --> 01:25:24,708 for that in high school. 974 01:25:25,708 --> 01:25:27,000 Because they were the popular kids 975 01:25:27,708 --> 01:25:29,416 and I just wasn't willing to do 976 01:25:29,416 --> 01:25:33,250 what was required from drugs 977 01:25:33,750 --> 01:25:36,083 and just the way they acted. 978 01:25:38,375 --> 01:25:39,375 I wasn't willing to be that. 979 01:25:39,958 --> 01:25:42,166 And I paid the social price for that. 980 01:25:42,666 --> 01:25:43,541 I felt like I did at least. 981 01:25:44,958 --> 01:25:46,333 But that's way easier today. 982 01:25:46,375 --> 01:25:48,541 You can have your whole social image 983 01:25:48,541 --> 01:25:50,208 can be crushed in one post. 984 01:25:51,083 --> 01:25:51,583 One post. 985 01:25:52,583 --> 01:25:55,041 And it's just, it's so scary to be like, 986 01:25:55,375 --> 01:25:57,958 and because you're a kid and you don't, 987 01:25:57,958 --> 01:25:59,500 I mean, as you talk to your kids, 988 01:25:59,500 --> 01:26:00,958 you do want to keep in mind, 989 01:26:00,958 --> 01:26:02,375 like they are still just children 990 01:26:02,375 --> 01:26:04,791 and there should be some level of mistake 991 01:26:05,000 --> 01:26:06,041 that they can make. 992 01:26:06,833 --> 01:26:09,083 But I feel like the cost for 993 01:26:09,083 --> 01:26:10,750 mistakes for this generation 994 01:26:11,000 --> 01:26:11,875 is way worse than the 995 01:26:11,875 --> 01:26:12,958 cost for mistakes in ours. 996 01:26:13,833 --> 01:26:14,041 Yeah. 997 01:26:14,875 --> 01:26:15,666 I think you're right. 998 01:26:16,208 --> 01:26:17,416 That I think is where 999 01:26:17,416 --> 01:26:19,291 so much of the stress 1000 01:26:19,500 --> 01:26:22,333 that they feel and all of that comes in. 1001 01:26:22,708 --> 01:26:22,916 Yeah. 1002 01:26:23,166 --> 01:26:24,583 I mean, the dumbest 1003 01:26:24,583 --> 01:26:26,625 things we did was like, 1004 01:26:29,291 --> 01:26:30,875 you're gonna break a bone or something. 1005 01:26:30,875 --> 01:26:32,083 You're gonna get hurt physically. 1006 01:26:32,500 --> 01:26:33,083 You know what I mean? 1007 01:26:33,083 --> 01:26:34,708 That's really the dumbest things we did. 1008 01:26:35,833 --> 01:26:37,208 At least in my circles. 1009 01:26:37,583 --> 01:26:37,875 Yeah. 1010 01:26:38,500 --> 01:26:39,958 I didn't do anything though. I didn't do anything that 1011 01:26:39,958 --> 01:26:41,333 was gonna destroy my career. 1012 01:26:41,333 --> 01:26:41,791 I didn't have any 1013 01:26:41,791 --> 01:26:43,333 pictures that were out there 1014 01:26:43,333 --> 01:26:44,750 or videos that would, you know. 1015 01:26:45,041 --> 01:26:45,875 I didn't do anything. 1016 01:26:45,875 --> 01:26:47,125 Even if they were videoed. 1017 01:26:47,458 --> 01:26:48,125 No. Somebody might've said, 1018 01:26:48,125 --> 01:26:50,250 "That's an idiot 19 year old kid. 1019 01:26:51,208 --> 01:26:52,291 What a stupid kid." 1020 01:26:52,791 --> 01:26:53,000 Yeah. 1021 01:26:53,000 --> 01:26:54,166 You know, like that's dangerous. 1022 01:26:54,916 --> 01:26:56,000 But outside of that, I 1023 01:26:56,000 --> 01:26:57,750 mean, nowadays it's just, 1024 01:26:58,250 --> 01:26:59,333 they're just so exposed. 1025 01:26:59,500 --> 01:27:00,333 And we talked about it in 1026 01:27:00,333 --> 01:27:02,541 our early, early M&M episode 1027 01:27:02,541 --> 01:27:06,291 of just all the scary 1028 01:27:06,291 --> 01:27:07,125 stuff that's on the internet 1029 01:27:07,125 --> 01:27:08,458 that they're exposed to too. 1030 01:27:08,500 --> 01:27:08,708 Oh yeah. 1031 01:27:08,708 --> 01:27:11,333 That's even a whole nother level. 1032 01:27:11,666 --> 01:27:11,875 Yeah. 1033 01:27:13,041 --> 01:27:15,708 I mean, it's so different. 1034 01:27:15,916 --> 01:27:17,000 I was so lucky. 1035 01:27:18,083 --> 01:27:19,208 I didn't have to make 1036 01:27:19,208 --> 01:27:20,583 tough choices with my friends 1037 01:27:20,666 --> 01:27:22,541 because my friends made good choices. 1038 01:27:23,375 --> 01:27:25,875 So I made good choices. 1039 01:27:26,750 --> 01:27:27,750 I would've been the only 1040 01:27:27,750 --> 01:27:29,791 one doing something bad 1041 01:27:30,708 --> 01:27:32,750 out of my tiny group of friends. 1042 01:27:33,833 --> 01:27:36,875 Now I knew girls that were. 1043 01:27:37,416 --> 01:27:39,250 And I just remember being like, "What? 1044 01:27:39,791 --> 01:27:41,166 I was so naive." 1045 01:27:42,666 --> 01:27:43,291 I really was. 1046 01:27:45,125 --> 01:27:49,250 But it worries me that it's like, 1047 01:27:49,500 --> 01:27:50,291 I want everyone to just 1048 01:27:50,291 --> 01:27:51,875 have my Pollyanna type life 1049 01:27:51,875 --> 01:27:52,666 that I had. 1050 01:27:53,041 --> 01:27:54,500 Yeah, right, right. 1051 01:27:55,083 --> 01:27:57,125 And they likely will not. 1052 01:27:57,541 --> 01:27:57,875 No. 1053 01:27:57,875 --> 01:27:58,708 I don't think that, I don't 1054 01:27:58,708 --> 01:28:00,041 know that that'll exist ever 1055 01:28:00,125 --> 01:28:01,083 again, because the 1056 01:28:01,083 --> 01:28:02,125 innocence is what's taken 1057 01:28:02,125 --> 01:28:03,041 out of everything. 1058 01:28:03,125 --> 01:28:03,458 Yes. 1059 01:28:03,500 --> 01:28:03,666 Right? 1060 01:28:03,875 --> 01:28:05,666 I mean, there's just so much exposure. 1061 01:28:05,666 --> 01:28:07,333 You have to worry about people, 1062 01:28:08,375 --> 01:28:09,916 even with the child right now, 1063 01:28:10,166 --> 01:28:11,833 I think that's having friend issues. 1064 01:28:11,833 --> 01:28:12,791 I think there's things 1065 01:28:12,791 --> 01:28:13,791 that are going around 1066 01:28:13,791 --> 01:28:14,875 that might not be true. 1067 01:28:15,708 --> 01:28:17,708 Because there's issues 1068 01:28:17,708 --> 01:28:18,708 happening with friends 1069 01:28:19,083 --> 01:28:20,875 that our child doesn't even know why. 1070 01:28:21,625 --> 01:28:23,375 It's like, I don't know. 1071 01:28:25,250 --> 01:28:26,416 Clearly somebody 1072 01:28:26,416 --> 01:28:28,583 somewhere has said something, 1073 01:28:28,583 --> 01:28:29,583 made something up, 1074 01:28:29,833 --> 01:28:31,041 misinterpreted something, 1075 01:28:31,541 --> 01:28:32,750 or our child said something 1076 01:28:32,750 --> 01:28:33,833 that doesn't want to admit it, 1077 01:28:33,833 --> 01:28:35,208 but somewhere in 1078 01:28:35,208 --> 01:28:36,541 there, something happened. 1079 01:28:37,541 --> 01:28:39,541 And now friendships are 1080 01:28:39,541 --> 01:28:41,125 being broken from that. 1081 01:28:41,125 --> 01:28:43,916 Now it also could be other personalities 1082 01:28:43,916 --> 01:28:46,666 that just want to throw 1083 01:28:46,666 --> 01:28:47,750 grenades and walk away. 1084 01:28:48,208 --> 01:28:49,833 Or other personalities that have, 1085 01:28:51,833 --> 01:28:53,083 they're dealing with their own stuff 1086 01:28:53,083 --> 01:28:56,625 and have low self-esteem and they want, 1087 01:28:56,625 --> 01:28:58,458 you know, like, and this 1088 01:28:58,458 --> 01:28:59,208 is how they make themselves 1089 01:28:59,208 --> 01:28:59,958 feel better. 1090 01:28:59,958 --> 01:29:02,541 I don't know because, but it's 1091 01:29:02,541 --> 01:29:04,083 so hard to parent through it. 1092 01:29:04,625 --> 01:29:08,083 And it's so hard to, I 1093 01:29:08,083 --> 01:29:09,750 feel like you have to play 1094 01:29:09,791 --> 01:29:10,875 you have to play 1095 01:29:10,875 --> 01:29:12,666 chess and have like these, 1096 01:29:13,041 --> 01:29:14,458 it's almost like a strategic 1097 01:29:14,458 --> 01:29:16,125 conversation with your kid. 1098 01:29:17,000 --> 01:29:18,958 It's exhausting to find the right words 1099 01:29:18,958 --> 01:29:20,875 and oftentimes you don't have them. 1100 01:29:21,625 --> 01:29:22,958 And you can't tell 1101 01:29:22,958 --> 01:29:25,708 them exactly what to do 1102 01:29:25,708 --> 01:29:27,541 because at some point 1103 01:29:27,541 --> 01:29:28,375 they have to figure it out 1104 01:29:28,375 --> 01:29:29,125 on their own. 1105 01:29:30,083 --> 01:29:32,916 It just, it's absolutely exhausting. 1106 01:29:33,500 --> 01:29:34,083 I think that's why 1107 01:29:34,083 --> 01:29:35,166 I'm so tired right now. 1108 01:29:35,833 --> 01:29:36,458 It could be. 1109 01:29:36,458 --> 01:29:37,125 I was talking to somebody 1110 01:29:37,125 --> 01:29:38,541 this week where it was like, 1111 01:29:38,666 --> 01:29:41,416 you can do, and I'm not suggesting we do, 1112 01:29:41,416 --> 01:29:42,500 but as a parent, you 1113 01:29:42,500 --> 01:29:44,166 can show the right roads. 1114 01:29:44,166 --> 01:29:46,375 You can do everything you possibly can 1115 01:29:47,333 --> 01:29:49,166 to just shove them in 1116 01:29:49,166 --> 01:29:50,041 the right direction. 1117 01:29:50,125 --> 01:29:50,375 Yeah. 1118 01:29:50,916 --> 01:29:52,375 And the second they get out that door, 1119 01:29:52,375 --> 01:29:53,500 they could just bang, you know, 1120 01:29:53,500 --> 01:29:55,583 take a hard left hand turn and you know, 1121 01:29:55,583 --> 01:29:56,541 and it's like all of it's 1122 01:29:56,541 --> 01:29:57,791 for nothing to some degree. 1123 01:29:58,000 --> 01:29:58,916 Yeah, yeah. 1124 01:29:59,500 --> 01:30:00,791 You know, and you just hope. 1125 01:30:02,458 --> 01:30:03,916 It's like roulette. 1126 01:30:04,458 --> 01:30:05,333 You just never know. 1127 01:30:06,041 --> 01:30:06,458 You know, I mean, 1128 01:30:06,458 --> 01:30:07,291 like, it took me a while 1129 01:30:07,375 --> 01:30:08,291 to get on the right path. 1130 01:30:08,708 --> 01:30:09,333 And you know, that's a 1131 01:30:09,333 --> 01:30:10,750 struggle that I've been fairly open 1132 01:30:10,750 --> 01:30:12,875 with with some people and on the website 1133 01:30:12,875 --> 01:30:13,583 and stuff like that. 1134 01:30:13,583 --> 01:30:14,416 It took me a while. 1135 01:30:14,666 --> 01:30:14,791 Right. 1136 01:30:15,375 --> 01:30:17,250 You know, but I eventually came around, 1137 01:30:17,250 --> 01:30:18,125 but you and I have talked about, 1138 01:30:18,875 --> 01:30:20,625 I truly, to my core, 1139 01:30:21,333 --> 01:30:23,250 feel like I always had 1140 01:30:24,125 --> 01:30:26,625 the right intentions, work ethic, 1141 01:30:26,875 --> 01:30:28,291 where I wanted to be in life, what I 1142 01:30:28,291 --> 01:30:29,208 wanted to do in life. 1143 01:30:29,208 --> 01:30:30,291 Now, did I always make the right choices? 1144 01:30:30,500 --> 01:30:30,833 No. 1145 01:30:31,416 --> 01:30:33,208 Was I always, you know, no. 1146 01:30:34,166 --> 01:30:35,625 You know, I did a lot of things wrong. 1147 01:30:35,625 --> 01:30:36,833 I did a lot of things the hard way. 1148 01:30:36,875 --> 01:30:37,750 I wasn't great. 1149 01:30:37,750 --> 01:30:38,666 I didn't make the best 1150 01:30:38,666 --> 01:30:39,541 decisions all the time. 1151 01:30:40,333 --> 01:30:42,000 But I was always aware of 1152 01:30:42,000 --> 01:30:44,333 where that North Star was 1153 01:30:45,041 --> 01:30:46,875 and trying to get there. 1154 01:30:47,041 --> 01:30:47,208 Yeah. 1155 01:30:48,291 --> 01:30:49,875 And that wasn't even close to perfect. 1156 01:30:50,333 --> 01:30:50,833 But it took me a while. 1157 01:30:50,833 --> 01:30:51,500 I'm not close to perfect 1158 01:30:51,500 --> 01:30:52,208 now, I'm saying either. 1159 01:30:53,125 --> 01:30:56,333 But it was not a just, bing, made it. 1160 01:30:56,333 --> 01:30:57,333 Whereas that was a 1161 01:30:57,333 --> 01:30:58,458 little bit more of your, 1162 01:30:59,791 --> 01:31:00,541 you know, we talk about our 1163 01:31:00,541 --> 01:31:01,666 lives where I'm always like, 1164 01:31:01,666 --> 01:31:02,041 ding, ding, ding, 1165 01:31:02,041 --> 01:31:02,750 ding, ding, all that place, 1166 01:31:02,750 --> 01:31:03,500 doing all this stuff. 1167 01:31:03,500 --> 01:31:04,500 Like a ping pong ball. 1168 01:31:04,541 --> 01:31:06,750 Yeah, you know, with like, you know, 1169 01:31:06,750 --> 01:31:07,875 just extracurricular or this 1170 01:31:07,875 --> 01:31:09,416 or that or, you know, risks. 1171 01:31:10,291 --> 01:31:11,000 And you're just kind of 1172 01:31:11,000 --> 01:31:12,875 steady, Eddie's rowing, you know, 1173 01:31:12,875 --> 01:31:15,250 and now it's, life's good, 1174 01:31:15,250 --> 01:31:16,958 but I'm still like making it, 1175 01:31:17,958 --> 01:31:19,500 you know, I'm not sitting 1176 01:31:19,500 --> 01:31:22,083 back and just rowing backwards 1177 01:31:22,083 --> 01:31:25,125 with the swans on the, you know. 1178 01:31:25,625 --> 01:31:27,750 I'm picturing that movie right now. 1179 01:31:27,750 --> 01:31:28,541 What's the movie? 1180 01:31:28,541 --> 01:31:29,375 It was Ryan Gosling 1181 01:31:29,375 --> 01:31:31,000 and you just watched it. 1182 01:31:31,000 --> 01:31:31,708 Notebook, the notebook. 1183 01:31:31,708 --> 01:31:33,500 Oh, the notebook, yes, yes. 1184 01:31:33,916 --> 01:31:34,875 And that pond with all 1185 01:31:34,875 --> 01:31:37,666 the, right before it rains. 1186 01:31:37,666 --> 01:31:39,041 Right before it rains, yeah. 1187 01:31:39,541 --> 01:31:41,500 It's great, yeah. 1188 01:31:42,625 --> 01:31:43,666 So you're not rowing 1189 01:31:43,666 --> 01:31:44,958 in the middle of swans, 1190 01:31:44,958 --> 01:31:46,000 but that's all right. 1191 01:31:46,875 --> 01:31:48,666 No one, I don't know that anyone is. 1192 01:31:49,625 --> 01:31:51,333 Yeah, that's the thing 1193 01:31:51,333 --> 01:31:52,333 we've talked about a lot too. 1194 01:31:53,000 --> 01:31:53,166 Yeah. 1195 01:31:53,750 --> 01:31:56,541 Is just how hard it is, 1196 01:31:56,541 --> 01:31:57,375 and I know I bring it up 1197 01:31:57,375 --> 01:31:58,375 on here, but it's just true. 1198 01:31:58,375 --> 01:32:00,083 It's so true, but I'm, you know, I'm 48. 1199 01:32:00,750 --> 01:32:01,291 And I'm still feel like 1200 01:32:01,291 --> 01:32:02,083 I'm figuring out life. 1201 01:32:02,416 --> 01:32:02,875 You know what I mean? 1202 01:32:04,041 --> 01:32:05,541 Yeah, life's biggest lie is that you're 1203 01:32:05,541 --> 01:32:06,500 gonna figure it out. 1204 01:32:06,500 --> 01:32:07,833 It's like, nope, you're not. 1205 01:32:08,375 --> 01:32:09,041 Yeah, and it's like, 1206 01:32:09,041 --> 01:32:09,750 you think your parents 1207 01:32:09,750 --> 01:32:10,958 are just like, got it together. 1208 01:32:11,666 --> 01:32:13,125 And I've been pretty open with our kids, 1209 01:32:13,125 --> 01:32:13,916 like with where we're 1210 01:32:13,916 --> 01:32:14,958 at, what we're doing, 1211 01:32:14,958 --> 01:32:15,916 all that kind of stuff. 1212 01:32:15,916 --> 01:32:17,000 Cause I want them to know like, 1213 01:32:17,000 --> 01:32:18,208 struggle's okay, change is 1214 01:32:18,208 --> 01:32:19,708 okay, taking risks is okay, 1215 01:32:19,708 --> 01:32:22,166 but have a plan, you know. 1216 01:32:22,666 --> 01:32:23,666 And it's okay to fail. 1217 01:32:24,000 --> 01:32:25,333 Cause in our household, 1218 01:32:25,500 --> 01:32:26,208 I'm sure everybody feels 1219 01:32:26,208 --> 01:32:26,958 like this in their household, 1220 01:32:26,958 --> 01:32:28,625 everybody's got high expectations, right? 1221 01:32:29,875 --> 01:32:31,208 I know everybody on our soccer teams, 1222 01:32:31,458 --> 01:32:32,166 those parents have high 1223 01:32:32,166 --> 01:32:33,458 expectations of their kids. 1224 01:32:33,458 --> 01:32:33,666 They do. 1225 01:32:33,708 --> 01:32:34,708 Cause it's a high level 1226 01:32:34,708 --> 01:32:36,291 soccer team, you know? 1227 01:32:36,583 --> 01:32:39,041 And sometimes it feels 1228 01:32:39,041 --> 01:32:40,000 like it's not okay to fail. 1229 01:32:40,416 --> 01:32:40,625 Right. 1230 01:32:41,333 --> 01:32:41,875 But it is. 1231 01:32:42,291 --> 01:32:43,125 It totally is. 1232 01:32:43,125 --> 01:32:44,208 In fact, the coach even 1233 01:32:44,208 --> 01:32:46,666 said like, I want them. 1234 01:32:46,666 --> 01:32:48,041 And how did he phrase it? 1235 01:32:48,041 --> 01:32:48,666 Cause I was like, I need 1236 01:32:48,666 --> 01:32:50,500 to, I need to remember this. 1237 01:32:50,916 --> 01:32:52,083 They need to develop a good 1238 01:32:52,083 --> 01:32:53,291 relationship with failure. 1239 01:32:54,500 --> 01:32:55,166 And that's like a 1240 01:32:55,166 --> 01:32:56,416 great way to put it, right? 1241 01:32:56,416 --> 01:32:56,916 Because your 1242 01:32:56,916 --> 01:32:58,166 relationships are not always, 1243 01:32:59,833 --> 01:33:01,166 they don't always go one way, right? 1244 01:33:02,083 --> 01:33:03,458 There's a give and a take, right? 1245 01:33:03,458 --> 01:33:05,208 I failed, okay, I need to learn from it. 1246 01:33:05,208 --> 01:33:06,000 I need to get better. 1247 01:33:06,833 --> 01:33:08,791 And it needs to be healthy. 1248 01:33:09,500 --> 01:33:11,833 It needs to be like, I need 1249 01:33:11,833 --> 01:33:13,500 to feel like it's okay to fail, 1250 01:33:13,500 --> 01:33:14,625 but I also need to know 1251 01:33:14,625 --> 01:33:15,625 that I need to get better 1252 01:33:15,708 --> 01:33:16,583 because of it. 1253 01:33:16,875 --> 01:33:18,083 And I was like, 1254 01:33:18,083 --> 01:33:20,458 that's a fantastic phrase. 1255 01:33:21,625 --> 01:33:22,416 Probably going to start using 1256 01:33:22,416 --> 01:33:23,791 it a lot more with our kids. 1257 01:33:23,791 --> 01:33:24,250 So thank you. 1258 01:33:24,625 --> 01:33:25,208 Thank you, coach. 1259 01:33:25,833 --> 01:33:26,041 Yeah. 1260 01:33:27,125 --> 01:33:28,041 On and off the field. 1261 01:33:28,541 --> 01:33:28,750 Yeah. 1262 01:33:29,541 --> 01:33:30,541 Cause I think that's the 1263 01:33:30,541 --> 01:33:31,708 thing in this day and age. 1264 01:33:31,708 --> 01:33:32,791 I mean, everywhere you 1265 01:33:32,791 --> 01:33:34,458 look, you see perfection. 1266 01:33:35,083 --> 01:33:36,000 Like, you know, I mean, it's not, 1267 01:33:36,291 --> 01:33:37,041 people don't post 1268 01:33:37,041 --> 01:33:37,958 things if it's not perfect. 1269 01:33:38,333 --> 01:33:38,541 Oh. 1270 01:33:39,666 --> 01:33:41,250 I'm not the guy who takes 100 selfies 1271 01:33:41,625 --> 01:33:42,750 before I find one to, 1272 01:33:43,291 --> 01:33:44,041 I guess I don't think I've 1273 01:33:44,041 --> 01:33:46,500 ever taken a selfie of myself. 1274 01:33:47,500 --> 01:33:50,500 I've taken selfies of the family a lot, 1275 01:33:50,500 --> 01:33:51,250 but never of myself. 1276 01:33:51,666 --> 01:33:52,125 You know, but I've heard 1277 01:33:52,125 --> 01:33:53,791 people will take like a 200 of them 1278 01:33:53,791 --> 01:33:54,750 to get the right one. 1279 01:33:55,583 --> 01:33:56,291 That's insanity. 1280 01:33:57,000 --> 01:33:57,958 I mean, I get it. 1281 01:33:58,750 --> 01:34:00,333 I get what's going on with these people, 1282 01:34:00,791 --> 01:34:01,375 but that's, 1283 01:34:03,541 --> 01:34:05,375 my point is they're doing 1284 01:34:05,375 --> 01:34:06,416 it so they can post something 1285 01:34:06,416 --> 01:34:07,750 that they think is perfect. 1286 01:34:08,375 --> 01:34:09,916 And then our kids go on 1287 01:34:09,916 --> 01:34:12,208 and see this perfect picture. 1288 01:34:12,833 --> 01:34:14,291 And everybody's like, oh my God. 1289 01:34:14,291 --> 01:34:14,875 And so everybody's trying 1290 01:34:14,875 --> 01:34:16,166 to be this perfect thing. 1291 01:34:16,166 --> 01:34:17,875 And again, it's just this, 1292 01:34:19,750 --> 01:34:21,500 this veil of reality 1293 01:34:22,708 --> 01:34:23,291 that everybody thinks 1294 01:34:23,291 --> 01:34:24,125 they have to be perfect. 1295 01:34:24,125 --> 01:34:25,458 And I know our kids feel that way 1296 01:34:25,750 --> 01:34:26,875 because we have high expectations. 1297 01:34:28,041 --> 01:34:29,208 Not perfection. 1298 01:34:29,416 --> 01:34:30,166 We tell them that all the time. 1299 01:34:30,166 --> 01:34:31,000 We don't need to be perfect, 1300 01:34:31,000 --> 01:34:32,375 but do we have high expectations? 1301 01:34:32,916 --> 01:34:33,083 Yeah. 1302 01:34:34,166 --> 01:34:34,375 Yeah. 1303 01:34:34,583 --> 01:34:35,875 High expectations within 1304 01:34:35,875 --> 01:34:38,208 what we know you can achieve. 1305 01:34:40,166 --> 01:34:40,541 Absolutely. 1306 01:34:41,333 --> 01:34:41,666 Absolutely. 1307 01:34:42,333 --> 01:34:44,583 You know, not, you 1308 01:34:44,583 --> 01:34:46,083 know, if they go to Harvard, 1309 01:34:46,083 --> 01:34:46,833 they're not, you know, 1310 01:34:46,833 --> 01:34:47,750 they're not doogie-hauser. 1311 01:34:48,125 --> 01:34:48,625 You know, I'm not gonna 1312 01:34:48,625 --> 01:34:50,250 expect them to be an MD at 16, 1313 01:34:50,958 --> 01:34:52,833 you know, operating on people. 1314 01:34:53,166 --> 01:34:53,416 Right. 1315 01:34:54,416 --> 01:34:57,666 That to me doesn't seem to fit with them. 1316 01:34:57,750 --> 01:34:58,750 Yeah, I'm a great throwback by the way. 1317 01:34:58,791 --> 01:34:59,083 Yeah. 1318 01:34:59,083 --> 01:34:59,500 Doogie. 1319 01:34:59,500 --> 01:35:00,458 Gotta love Doogie. 1320 01:35:00,500 --> 01:35:00,750 Yeah. 1321 01:35:00,750 --> 01:35:01,750 What was his best friend's name? 1322 01:35:03,375 --> 01:35:03,500 Vinny? 1323 01:35:03,541 --> 01:35:04,666 Vinny, that might've been it. 1324 01:35:04,708 --> 01:35:05,500 I don't know. 1325 01:35:05,500 --> 01:35:06,625 Someone can call me on that one. 1326 01:35:06,625 --> 01:35:07,000 I don't know. 1327 01:35:08,250 --> 01:35:10,333 You know, but it's within reason. 1328 01:35:10,333 --> 01:35:13,166 It's like, I know you can get all A's. 1329 01:35:13,166 --> 01:35:16,250 Or I know you can, whatever it is. 1330 01:35:16,791 --> 01:35:17,750 I know you can't. 1331 01:35:17,833 --> 01:35:20,166 I think dad's maybe more than mom's. 1332 01:35:20,166 --> 01:35:20,500 And maybe I'm 1333 01:35:20,500 --> 01:35:21,833 generalizing way too much there. 1334 01:35:23,958 --> 01:35:26,291 Push that line a little bit though to, 1335 01:35:27,708 --> 01:35:28,250 you don't have to be 1336 01:35:28,250 --> 01:35:30,000 perfect, but let's try to be. 1337 01:35:30,958 --> 01:35:31,583 You know what I mean? 1338 01:35:31,958 --> 01:35:32,708 It's like, but push 1339 01:35:32,708 --> 01:35:34,250 yourself to be the best you can be 1340 01:35:34,250 --> 01:35:35,541 because you also don't 1341 01:35:35,541 --> 01:35:36,458 want people that are like, 1342 01:35:36,458 --> 01:35:37,541 you know what, I'm a C 1343 01:35:37,541 --> 01:35:38,708 student and that's okay. 1344 01:35:39,333 --> 01:35:40,458 You know, if you're a C student 1345 01:35:40,458 --> 01:35:41,666 and that's the best you can do 1346 01:35:41,666 --> 01:35:42,250 because you're trying 1347 01:35:42,250 --> 01:35:43,666 your best, so be it. 1348 01:35:43,708 --> 01:35:44,000 So be it. 1349 01:35:44,000 --> 01:35:44,625 Good for you. 1350 01:35:45,166 --> 01:35:46,333 But if you're a C student, 1351 01:35:46,333 --> 01:35:47,000 even though you could 1352 01:35:47,000 --> 01:35:48,333 be a A and B student, 1353 01:35:49,708 --> 01:35:50,458 that's where I'm like, 1354 01:35:50,458 --> 01:35:52,083 I don't think you're applying yourself. 1355 01:35:52,666 --> 01:35:53,541 You know what I mean? 1356 01:35:53,583 --> 01:35:54,416 Yeah, yeah. 1357 01:35:54,958 --> 01:35:56,750 Oh my gosh, we had that last year, 1358 01:35:56,750 --> 01:36:00,041 like with our daughter and Spanish. 1359 01:36:00,375 --> 01:36:02,000 And it was just like, I 1360 01:36:02,000 --> 01:36:04,291 would spend four hours, 1361 01:36:04,875 --> 01:36:07,541 four hours going over like 1362 01:36:07,541 --> 01:36:08,625 an oral exam or whatever. 1363 01:36:09,541 --> 01:36:10,500 And at the end, you 1364 01:36:10,500 --> 01:36:11,333 know, she's getting tired. 1365 01:36:11,333 --> 01:36:12,458 I'm gonna fail. 1366 01:36:12,458 --> 01:36:14,291 And I was like, I don't care. 1367 01:36:14,875 --> 01:36:15,041 Like-- 1368 01:36:15,833 --> 01:36:16,583 You're prepared. 1369 01:36:16,583 --> 01:36:17,583 You've done everything you can. 1370 01:36:17,583 --> 01:36:19,583 You just prepared four hours for a quiz. 1371 01:36:19,791 --> 01:36:20,208 For a quiz. 1372 01:36:20,583 --> 01:36:22,458 Like you have done everything you could 1373 01:36:22,458 --> 01:36:24,041 to set yourself up for success. 1374 01:36:24,041 --> 01:36:25,000 And if at that point in 1375 01:36:25,000 --> 01:36:27,166 time, it doesn't yield success, 1376 01:36:28,208 --> 01:36:28,708 who cares? 1377 01:36:29,000 --> 01:36:30,541 And she'd come back the next day with 104 1378 01:36:30,750 --> 01:36:31,416 because she did the extra 1379 01:36:31,416 --> 01:36:32,833 credit too, just to make sure. 1380 01:36:32,958 --> 01:36:33,166 Yes. 1381 01:36:33,458 --> 01:36:34,166 And she got 104. 1382 01:36:34,666 --> 01:36:35,083 You know what I'm saying? 1383 01:36:35,833 --> 01:36:36,875 But you freaked out. 1384 01:36:37,125 --> 01:36:37,875 Like that level of 1385 01:36:37,875 --> 01:36:39,250 perfection, you don't have to have. 1386 01:36:39,500 --> 01:36:41,208 That expectation is not here. 1387 01:36:41,500 --> 01:36:42,000 Heck no. 1388 01:36:42,333 --> 01:36:43,875 Even though there's a lot of expectation, 1389 01:36:43,875 --> 01:36:44,583 that's not part of it. 1390 01:36:44,625 --> 01:36:45,416 Yeah, I think you 1391 01:36:45,416 --> 01:36:46,583 probably even heard me tell her, 1392 01:36:46,583 --> 01:36:47,458 like, I don't care. 1393 01:36:48,500 --> 01:36:49,416 That's a fine line though. 1394 01:36:49,416 --> 01:36:50,166 I just think that's a 1395 01:36:50,166 --> 01:36:51,583 fine line with everything. 1396 01:36:51,583 --> 01:36:52,541 And I know they feel that way 1397 01:36:52,541 --> 01:36:53,083 because we've had those 1398 01:36:53,083 --> 01:36:54,291 conversations with our children 1399 01:36:54,916 --> 01:36:56,500 that they do feel, not 1400 01:36:56,500 --> 01:36:57,916 necessarily even from us, 1401 01:36:58,333 --> 01:36:59,500 but from the world. 1402 01:36:59,541 --> 01:37:00,083 The world. 1403 01:37:00,208 --> 01:37:01,083 That that perfection, 1404 01:37:02,083 --> 01:37:03,166 that being the best, 1405 01:37:03,375 --> 01:37:04,250 has to be there. 1406 01:37:04,625 --> 01:37:05,083 You know what I mean? 1407 01:37:05,291 --> 01:37:08,708 And again, we're blessed with children 1408 01:37:09,166 --> 01:37:10,708 that excel at a high level 1409 01:37:11,000 --> 01:37:12,833 at their extracurricular activities. 1410 01:37:14,208 --> 01:37:16,083 You know, so when they're 1411 01:37:16,083 --> 01:37:18,875 not getting blue ribbons, 1412 01:37:19,666 --> 01:37:21,083 that's a failure to them. 1413 01:37:21,083 --> 01:37:21,375 Yeah. 1414 01:37:22,041 --> 01:37:26,208 And that's, yeah, that's special, 1415 01:37:26,208 --> 01:37:26,916 but that's also a 1416 01:37:26,916 --> 01:37:27,875 really hard place to live. 1417 01:37:28,166 --> 01:37:29,291 Yeah, it is because 1418 01:37:29,291 --> 01:37:30,875 you're not always going to. 1419 01:37:30,875 --> 01:37:31,416 There's always gonna be 1420 01:37:31,416 --> 01:37:32,500 someone bigger, better, faster. 1421 01:37:32,500 --> 01:37:33,541 It's just gonna happen. 1422 01:37:34,541 --> 01:37:34,958 What is it? 1423 01:37:34,958 --> 01:37:36,500 It's the Dr. Seuss book, right? 1424 01:37:36,958 --> 01:37:39,291 Like, and sometimes you 1425 01:37:39,291 --> 01:37:40,625 are in there will be times 1426 01:37:40,625 --> 01:37:41,250 when you don't, cause 1427 01:37:41,250 --> 01:37:41,916 sometimes you won't. 1428 01:37:42,208 --> 01:37:44,625 Like, it's just life. 1429 01:37:45,000 --> 01:37:46,541 And I don't know, it's hard. 1430 01:37:46,541 --> 01:37:48,291 I think it's harder for girls, honestly. 1431 01:37:49,750 --> 01:37:51,416 I think raising boys and 1432 01:37:51,416 --> 01:37:53,250 girls, I think for boys, 1433 01:37:53,250 --> 01:37:54,250 we see it in the boys, 1434 01:37:54,500 --> 01:37:56,166 like the pushing themselves 1435 01:37:56,416 --> 01:38:01,291 to succeed in sports and I think that, 1436 01:38:01,625 --> 01:38:03,000 but I think the pressure 1437 01:38:03,000 --> 01:38:05,500 on girls is even heavier 1438 01:38:06,375 --> 01:38:07,166 because they have to 1439 01:38:07,166 --> 01:38:09,291 look perfect on top of it 1440 01:38:09,291 --> 01:38:12,041 and they can't show that they're hurt 1441 01:38:12,041 --> 01:38:12,958 or that, like, there's 1442 01:38:12,958 --> 01:38:13,916 just something about. 1443 01:38:14,958 --> 01:38:16,791 I believe you're correct. 1444 01:38:18,208 --> 01:38:19,041 But I also think 1445 01:38:19,041 --> 01:38:23,041 another variable to that is 1446 01:38:24,500 --> 01:38:27,083 boys are idiots till they're 25. 1447 01:38:27,500 --> 01:38:29,250 Whereas, I mean, I'm not 1448 01:38:29,250 --> 01:38:30,208 calling our boys idiots. 1449 01:38:31,000 --> 01:38:31,416 No, they're not. 1450 01:38:31,875 --> 01:38:33,458 But there is a different 1451 01:38:33,458 --> 01:38:35,375 level of brain functioning, 1452 01:38:35,958 --> 01:38:38,958 emotionality, you know, emotional levels, 1453 01:38:38,958 --> 01:38:39,375 all those kind of 1454 01:38:39,375 --> 01:38:41,416 things from our daughter 1455 01:38:41,416 --> 01:38:43,250 than there are from our boys, right? 1456 01:38:43,333 --> 01:38:44,166 Cause she's just aware. 1457 01:38:44,750 --> 01:38:46,125 The testosterone just 1458 01:38:46,125 --> 01:38:47,166 takes over in the boys 1459 01:38:47,333 --> 01:38:48,875 till they're 25 to 30. 1460 01:38:49,083 --> 01:38:50,208 Oh my gosh. 1461 01:38:50,333 --> 01:38:50,625 Right? 1462 01:38:50,625 --> 01:38:51,666 And then they kind of come 1463 01:38:51,666 --> 01:38:52,833 back and like, you know what? 1464 01:38:54,041 --> 01:38:58,041 Maybe, you know, shaving and, you know, 1465 01:38:58,416 --> 01:38:59,458 and putting the other, I 1466 01:38:59,458 --> 01:39:00,125 mean, you know what I mean? 1467 01:39:00,333 --> 01:39:01,583 It truly is. 1468 01:39:01,583 --> 01:39:06,166 Like there is a lack of just awareness 1469 01:39:06,583 --> 01:39:11,500 of things that are going on around a boy 1470 01:39:11,666 --> 01:39:13,250 in these teenage years, right? 1471 01:39:13,291 --> 01:39:16,000 It's very like isolated 1472 01:39:16,000 --> 01:39:18,208 to the sports, friends, 1473 01:39:18,208 --> 01:39:18,541 girlfriend, like 1474 01:39:18,541 --> 01:39:21,333 there's nothing else outside 1475 01:39:21,333 --> 01:39:22,458 of kind of whatever is in 1476 01:39:22,458 --> 01:39:23,791 their own mind at that moment. 1477 01:39:24,125 --> 01:39:24,333 Yeah. 1478 01:39:25,083 --> 01:39:26,000 Like I cared about my 1479 01:39:26,000 --> 01:39:26,958 hair when I was a kid, 1480 01:39:27,250 --> 01:39:29,083 but not to the point where I 1481 01:39:29,083 --> 01:39:30,291 would obsess over it, right? 1482 01:39:30,291 --> 01:39:31,500 Like I wanted it to look good. 1483 01:39:31,791 --> 01:39:32,916 And I was aware of when 1484 01:39:32,916 --> 01:39:34,208 I had the windows down, 1485 01:39:34,208 --> 01:39:35,500 like I wanted to make sure it 1486 01:39:35,500 --> 01:39:36,750 was blowing it the right way, 1487 01:39:37,333 --> 01:39:38,833 you know, cause you have a 1488 01:39:38,833 --> 01:39:40,791 part back then, you know? 1489 01:39:40,791 --> 01:39:42,125 So I mean, but I would 1490 01:39:42,125 --> 01:39:43,875 never lose my mind over it. 1491 01:39:44,041 --> 01:39:44,750 Oh my gosh. 1492 01:39:45,125 --> 01:39:46,041 You say that. 1493 01:39:46,041 --> 01:39:48,166 Cause I never, never drove 1494 01:39:48,166 --> 01:39:49,916 with my windows down ever 1495 01:39:50,083 --> 01:39:50,750 because of that. 1496 01:39:51,166 --> 01:39:52,291 I don't have good hair. 1497 01:39:52,666 --> 01:39:53,541 I don't. 1498 01:39:53,541 --> 01:39:54,625 Like you all are actually 1499 01:39:54,625 --> 01:39:57,208 seeing it in its, you know, 1500 01:39:58,625 --> 01:40:01,041 natural factory setting right now. 1501 01:40:01,083 --> 01:40:02,458 I was surprised you did it too. 1502 01:40:02,458 --> 01:40:03,791 I wasn't even going to mention it. 1503 01:40:03,791 --> 01:40:04,333 Cause I don't want to. 1504 01:40:04,583 --> 01:40:06,250 This is the factory setting guys. 1505 01:40:06,666 --> 01:40:07,708 Like the real, sorry. 1506 01:40:08,083 --> 01:40:08,291 So. 1507 01:40:08,333 --> 01:40:09,000 It's still beautiful. 1508 01:40:09,583 --> 01:40:10,166 Well, thank you. 1509 01:40:10,500 --> 01:40:12,333 I don't. 1510 01:40:12,875 --> 01:40:14,166 But I'm glad that you do. 1511 01:40:15,458 --> 01:40:16,708 But I will never forget. 1512 01:40:16,708 --> 01:40:18,500 I was on a first date with somebody 1513 01:40:20,083 --> 01:40:20,500 and he had the 1514 01:40:20,500 --> 01:40:21,666 windows down and I was like, 1515 01:40:22,166 --> 01:40:23,750 I worked on my hair. 1516 01:40:24,000 --> 01:40:26,000 Like I looked pretty or, you know, 1517 01:40:26,000 --> 01:40:27,375 I probably thought I did anyway. 1518 01:40:27,666 --> 01:40:28,000 Yeah. 1519 01:40:29,458 --> 01:40:30,166 I remember if you 1520 01:40:30,166 --> 01:40:32,666 like, do I, like, I mean, 1521 01:40:32,666 --> 01:40:33,416 it's a first date. 1522 01:40:33,416 --> 01:40:34,833 Do I say like, hey, can we turn the, 1523 01:40:34,833 --> 01:40:36,833 can we roll the windows up and turn on 1524 01:40:36,833 --> 01:40:37,416 the air conditioning? 1525 01:40:37,750 --> 01:40:38,041 Yeah. 1526 01:40:38,041 --> 01:40:38,666 And that would never have 1527 01:40:38,666 --> 01:40:39,541 gone through a guy's brain. 1528 01:40:40,125 --> 01:40:41,208 Not to their older. 1529 01:40:41,958 --> 01:40:42,375 No. 1530 01:40:42,375 --> 01:40:43,833 Not to their older for sure. 1531 01:40:43,916 --> 01:40:45,250 It was like to me, it 1532 01:40:45,250 --> 01:40:46,791 was devastating because 1533 01:40:47,625 --> 01:40:48,750 totally messed up my hair. 1534 01:40:48,750 --> 01:40:49,375 But that's why I think it 1535 01:40:49,375 --> 01:40:50,166 might be harder for girls 1536 01:40:50,166 --> 01:40:51,333 because they're just more aware. 1537 01:40:51,333 --> 01:40:52,000 They're just more mature. 1538 01:40:52,416 --> 01:40:53,625 They're just, they're just 1539 01:40:53,625 --> 01:40:56,416 more adult at a younger age. 1540 01:40:56,625 --> 01:40:56,791 Right? 1541 01:40:56,791 --> 01:40:58,583 They kind of, they kind of get it more. 1542 01:40:59,458 --> 01:40:59,625 Yes. 1543 01:40:59,750 --> 01:41:01,583 Someone once told me like 1544 01:41:01,583 --> 01:41:04,041 girls learn from a really young 1545 01:41:04,041 --> 01:41:05,416 age, how to play the game. 1546 01:41:06,458 --> 01:41:07,625 Boys have no idea there's 1547 01:41:07,625 --> 01:41:08,750 a game even being played. 1548 01:41:08,750 --> 01:41:09,000 Yeah. 1549 01:41:09,916 --> 01:41:11,041 They just, they don't. 1550 01:41:11,416 --> 01:41:12,000 I think that's true. 1551 01:41:12,875 --> 01:41:14,458 And it, I don't know. 1552 01:41:14,791 --> 01:41:15,750 So it's just. 1553 01:41:16,125 --> 01:41:17,291 I don't take offense to that either. 1554 01:41:17,791 --> 01:41:18,833 I mean, it's just, I mean, 1555 01:41:19,125 --> 01:41:20,291 I don't think guys should 1556 01:41:20,291 --> 01:41:21,250 take offense to that because I 1557 01:41:21,250 --> 01:41:25,000 mean, look at any male, 25 and under. 1558 01:41:25,625 --> 01:41:29,208 I mean, empirical data just, you know, 1559 01:41:30,166 --> 01:41:31,791 hung was a hundred percent hit rate. 1560 01:41:32,916 --> 01:41:35,250 Other than Maggie Dugiehouser, there's a 1561 01:41:35,250 --> 01:41:36,041 couple of standouts. 1562 01:41:37,041 --> 01:41:38,250 He's a fictional character. 1563 01:41:38,875 --> 01:41:39,041 Yeah. 1564 01:41:40,375 --> 01:41:40,708 So sure. 1565 01:41:41,083 --> 01:41:42,791 In a sitcom, maybe, you 1566 01:41:42,791 --> 01:41:44,875 know, you can do that, 1567 01:41:44,875 --> 01:41:46,916 but it's just, I don't know. 1568 01:41:49,500 --> 01:41:50,541 You got, I don't know 1569 01:41:50,541 --> 01:41:51,416 what to do about it. 1570 01:41:51,416 --> 01:41:53,083 It's hard raising boys and girls in 1571 01:41:53,083 --> 01:41:54,041 teenage years because 1572 01:41:55,041 --> 01:41:56,500 the struggles are so different. 1573 01:41:56,500 --> 01:41:56,750 Yeah. 1574 01:41:59,083 --> 01:42:02,291 It is, but all right, well 1575 01:42:02,291 --> 01:42:03,208 we're getting long already. 1576 01:42:03,958 --> 01:42:05,458 So we'll wrap it here. 1577 01:42:05,458 --> 01:42:06,208 We got coming up, 1578 01:42:06,250 --> 01:42:07,791 we've got another week 1579 01:42:07,791 --> 01:42:08,541 of school, obviously. 1580 01:42:08,875 --> 01:42:10,083 We've got some travel for soccer. 1581 01:42:10,416 --> 01:42:12,083 So some more soccer reels coming up. 1582 01:42:12,083 --> 01:42:12,916 We got some travel. 1583 01:42:12,916 --> 01:42:15,541 Maybe we'll do next week's episode, 1584 01:42:15,541 --> 01:42:16,333 probably be on the road. 1585 01:42:17,083 --> 01:42:17,291 Location. 1586 01:42:17,750 --> 01:42:18,250 Which would be fun. 1587 01:42:18,708 --> 01:42:19,041 Yeah. 1588 01:42:20,000 --> 01:42:21,375 Probably coming from Austin. 1589 01:42:22,041 --> 01:42:22,666 Austin, Texas. 1590 01:42:23,708 --> 01:42:24,083 That's right. 1591 01:42:24,291 --> 01:42:24,958 Teaser, I mean. 1592 01:42:25,875 --> 01:42:27,000 Are we staying in Austin proper? 1593 01:42:27,541 --> 01:42:29,125 I have no idea. 1594 01:42:29,125 --> 01:42:29,958 We haven't got there yet. 1595 01:42:29,958 --> 01:42:31,625 Future Sean and Megan will let you know. 1596 01:42:31,625 --> 01:42:33,375 Future Sean and Megan will figure it out. 1597 01:42:33,375 --> 01:42:34,166 I'm guessing there's a 1598 01:42:34,166 --> 01:42:35,458 reservation in your email. 1599 01:42:36,958 --> 01:42:37,916 I know. 1600 01:42:39,166 --> 01:42:41,000 Somehow we've managed, we just kind of. 1601 01:42:41,875 --> 01:42:43,833 I just go wherever Team Snap tells me. 1602 01:42:44,083 --> 01:42:44,333 Yeah. 1603 01:42:44,791 --> 01:42:46,208 And I go wherever Outlook tells me 1604 01:42:46,208 --> 01:42:47,875 because you put Team Snap into Outlook. 1605 01:42:48,458 --> 01:42:48,708 I do. 1606 01:42:49,625 --> 01:42:51,541 And you look at me and like, 1607 01:42:51,541 --> 01:42:53,000 where am I supposed to be at what time? 1608 01:42:53,375 --> 01:42:54,125 There's a new dad on 1609 01:42:54,125 --> 01:42:55,333 our oldest son's team. 1610 01:42:55,458 --> 01:42:55,833 Yeah. 1611 01:42:55,875 --> 01:42:58,291 Who he's texted me once or twice like, 1612 01:42:58,291 --> 01:42:59,333 "Hey, can you pick up?" 1613 01:42:59,791 --> 01:43:01,791 Or, "Can this kid get a ride with you?" 1614 01:43:01,791 --> 01:43:04,458 And I'm like, "Let me get with my wife." 1615 01:43:05,166 --> 01:43:05,750 Let me ask Megan what 1616 01:43:05,750 --> 01:43:06,708 the schedule looks like. 1617 01:43:07,000 --> 01:43:08,458 So like twice I push back like, 1618 01:43:08,833 --> 01:43:09,791 I've told you, I do 1619 01:43:09,791 --> 01:43:11,750 not handle the schedule. 1620 01:43:12,291 --> 01:43:15,375 I go where the calendar tells me to go. 1621 01:43:15,791 --> 01:43:15,958 Yeah. 1622 01:43:16,500 --> 01:43:19,791 You know, and I think he's figured it out 1623 01:43:19,791 --> 01:43:21,500 because now you and 1624 01:43:21,500 --> 01:43:22,875 the mom have connected. 1625 01:43:23,500 --> 01:43:25,250 Yeah, he also doesn't know the schedule. 1626 01:43:25,500 --> 01:43:26,625 Like it's the mom and I. 1627 01:43:26,625 --> 01:43:26,666 We've probably been texting him all day. 1628 01:43:26,666 --> 01:43:27,375 That's why I'm surprised 1629 01:43:27,375 --> 01:43:28,666 he's trying to take care of it. 1630 01:43:29,083 --> 01:43:30,583 She and I have probably been. 1631 01:43:30,625 --> 01:43:30,916 That's why I'm 1632 01:43:30,916 --> 01:43:32,916 surprised he's even texting me. 1633 01:43:32,958 --> 01:43:33,666 Like, I thought the 1634 01:43:33,666 --> 01:43:34,708 lady, I thought the moms, 1635 01:43:34,708 --> 01:43:36,125 I thought the ladies had this. 1636 01:43:36,708 --> 01:43:37,833 Yes, yeah. 1637 01:43:38,583 --> 01:43:41,291 The logistics are my thing. 1638 01:43:41,333 --> 01:43:43,791 I'm still just doing testosterone things. 1639 01:43:44,125 --> 01:43:45,083 Those testosterone things. 1640 01:43:45,416 --> 01:43:46,666 Those testosteroney? 1641 01:43:47,500 --> 01:43:48,833 Is that testosteroney? 1642 01:43:48,833 --> 01:43:49,833 Is that pepperoni? 1643 01:43:50,083 --> 01:43:52,625 I'm really not sure what that entails. 1644 01:43:53,166 --> 01:43:53,791 I don't know, that's a 1645 01:43:53,791 --> 01:43:54,666 man thing, you don't get it. 1646 01:43:56,250 --> 01:43:58,875 (laughing) Fair enough. 1647 01:43:58,875 --> 01:43:59,583 I'm doing men things. 1648 01:44:01,041 --> 01:44:02,500 I'm just a man doing men things. 1649 01:44:02,791 --> 01:44:04,166 By chopping wood or something. 1650 01:44:07,625 --> 01:44:08,875 Oh my gosh. 1651 01:44:09,541 --> 01:44:11,458 We could go so many places with that. 1652 01:44:12,500 --> 01:44:14,000 Have you ever chopped wood? 1653 01:44:14,250 --> 01:44:15,541 Yeah, you kidding me? 1654 01:44:16,041 --> 01:44:17,000 What have I not done? 1655 01:44:18,041 --> 01:44:18,625 That's manly. 1656 01:44:21,458 --> 01:44:22,666 Most people when they meet me say, 1657 01:44:22,666 --> 01:44:23,041 "Shawn, you're the 1658 01:44:23,041 --> 01:44:24,416 manliest man I've ever known." 1659 01:44:24,666 --> 01:44:26,291 All men, you're the manliest. 1660 01:44:26,541 --> 01:44:27,625 You're the manliest man. 1661 01:44:28,208 --> 01:44:30,041 I hear other men 1662 01:44:30,041 --> 01:44:31,291 telling you that all the time. 1663 01:44:31,333 --> 01:44:33,291 All the time, all the time, yeah. 1664 01:44:33,541 --> 01:44:34,458 So you've never won comments. 1665 01:44:34,500 --> 01:44:35,125 Have you ever thought 1666 01:44:35,125 --> 01:44:36,916 about being on a paper towel? 1667 01:44:37,750 --> 01:44:38,083 (laughing) 1668 01:44:38,083 --> 01:44:38,916 Like plastic wrap? 1669 01:44:40,666 --> 01:44:41,958 I think about it all the time. 1670 01:44:43,833 --> 01:44:46,875 (laughing) I've got a couple photos I can show you. 1671 01:44:47,541 --> 01:44:48,041 Mocked it up. 1672 01:44:50,166 --> 01:44:51,291 Oh my gosh, Photoshop's 1673 01:44:51,291 --> 01:44:52,375 amazing, by the way, yeah. 1674 01:44:52,625 --> 01:44:54,291 Yeah, no, I am not the most manly man, 1675 01:44:54,291 --> 01:44:55,416 and I'm totally okay with that. 1676 01:44:56,291 --> 01:44:59,000 You are perfectly manly. 1677 01:44:59,000 --> 01:45:00,416 Yeah, we've talked about it. 1678 01:45:00,458 --> 01:45:00,833 I was called 1679 01:45:00,833 --> 01:45:02,958 "metrosexual" for the longest time, 1680 01:45:02,958 --> 01:45:05,375 which just means I care 1681 01:45:05,375 --> 01:45:08,291 about being presentable 1682 01:45:08,916 --> 01:45:10,250 in personal hygiene. 1683 01:45:11,375 --> 01:45:13,291 Yeah, I mean like, oh 1684 01:45:13,291 --> 01:45:14,166 man, that's hurting. 1685 01:45:14,625 --> 01:45:16,083 Like, jeez. I know, oh, oh. 1686 01:45:16,083 --> 01:45:17,875 Take that, try it. Straight, yeah, 1687 01:45:18,375 --> 01:45:19,166 right to the heart. 1688 01:45:21,000 --> 01:45:24,416 If that's what it is, I will own it. 1689 01:45:24,458 --> 01:45:25,250 Yeah, that's right. 1690 01:45:26,375 --> 01:45:26,625 That's right. 1691 01:45:27,375 --> 01:45:28,125 All right, well let's let 1692 01:45:28,125 --> 01:45:30,583 these good, fine people go. 1693 01:45:30,583 --> 01:45:30,875 Yeah. 1694 01:45:31,708 --> 01:45:33,291 Oh, what's our, okay, so we 1695 01:45:33,291 --> 01:45:34,500 gotta do our word for this week. 1696 01:45:34,875 --> 01:45:35,833 This week, okay. 1697 01:45:35,833 --> 01:45:37,125 All right. Okay. 1698 01:45:38,291 --> 01:45:39,375 Okay, you thought of yours? 1699 01:45:39,375 --> 01:45:40,083 I thought of mine. 1700 01:45:40,125 --> 01:45:41,041 All right, we got mine. 1701 01:45:41,375 --> 01:45:41,583 Okay. 1702 01:45:41,958 --> 01:45:43,875 All right, one, two, three. 1703 01:45:44,625 --> 01:45:45,125 Endurance. Locomotion. 1704 01:45:47,750 --> 01:45:48,416 Locomotion. Yeah. 1705 01:45:49,291 --> 01:45:53,125 Like, are everybody, do the locomotion? 1706 01:45:53,125 --> 01:45:55,083 Do the locomotion for me. 1707 01:45:55,250 --> 01:45:56,250 Okay, like that? 1708 01:45:56,291 --> 01:46:00,458 We gotta raise your, come on, baby. 1709 01:46:01,666 --> 01:46:03,333 Do the locomotion for me. 1710 01:46:03,500 --> 01:46:04,458 Kylie Minogue, that's a great song. 1711 01:46:05,041 --> 01:46:06,125 I think she remade it, though. 1712 01:46:06,166 --> 01:46:06,916 She remade it, 1713 01:46:06,916 --> 01:46:07,958 because that's from the 50s. 1714 01:46:08,041 --> 01:46:09,125 I prefer the Kylie Minogue. 1715 01:46:09,583 --> 01:46:11,041 Oh, yeah. 1716 01:46:11,208 --> 01:46:13,708 I used to roller skate to that song. 1717 01:46:13,958 --> 01:46:15,458 Kylie Minogue or the original one? 1718 01:46:15,750 --> 01:46:16,750 Probably the original one. 1719 01:46:16,750 --> 01:46:17,291 You know, we should talk 1720 01:46:17,291 --> 01:46:20,041 about Skate City when we, 1721 01:46:20,333 --> 01:46:21,625 on the next one. Skate City, baby. 1722 01:46:22,625 --> 01:46:23,791 Skate City, baby. 1723 01:46:24,250 --> 01:46:25,458 Is that a thing? 1724 01:46:25,500 --> 01:46:26,541 I don't know. 1725 01:46:26,583 --> 01:46:27,291 Well, Skate City was a 1726 01:46:27,291 --> 01:46:28,500 roller rink in my skate group. 1727 01:46:28,541 --> 01:46:29,500 I totally felt like 1728 01:46:29,500 --> 01:46:30,541 that was a Dickie V moment. 1729 01:46:30,958 --> 01:46:31,666 I don't know why. 1730 01:46:31,875 --> 01:46:33,416 Dickie V, Skate City, baby. 1731 01:46:33,416 --> 01:46:34,833 That was Dickie V, got it. 1732 01:46:35,166 --> 01:46:36,083 That was really good. 1733 01:46:36,125 --> 01:46:38,750 Was my impression not great of Dickie V? 1734 01:46:39,375 --> 01:46:40,583 Well, I actually was going 1735 01:46:40,583 --> 01:46:41,750 to where some of our sons 1736 01:46:41,916 --> 01:46:44,833 go to with how they talk 1737 01:46:44,833 --> 01:46:46,041 about some of the soccer players. 1738 01:46:46,083 --> 01:46:46,666 Yes, yes. 1739 01:46:46,666 --> 01:46:49,125 And their soccer coach that they mimic. 1740 01:46:49,583 --> 01:46:50,291 Yes, they do. 1741 01:46:51,333 --> 01:46:52,833 One man, one man. 1742 01:46:55,500 --> 01:46:56,541 All right, endurance. 1743 01:46:57,125 --> 01:46:57,416 Endurance. 1744 01:46:58,416 --> 01:47:00,666 I feel like we're in the midst 1745 01:47:00,666 --> 01:47:04,041 of like a long distance race. 1746 01:47:04,583 --> 01:47:05,000 I know. 1747 01:47:05,250 --> 01:47:05,916 We always are though. 1748 01:47:05,916 --> 01:47:06,625 This is just life. 1749 01:47:06,625 --> 01:47:07,125 This is very good. 1750 01:47:07,541 --> 01:47:08,750 The little, life 1751 01:47:08,750 --> 01:47:10,041 happens in me at the moment. 1752 01:47:10,041 --> 01:47:10,833 The little moments. 1753 01:47:11,958 --> 01:47:12,208 We are. 1754 01:47:12,500 --> 01:47:15,041 Like great, like long distance from 1755 01:47:15,500 --> 01:47:17,000 cross country running. 1756 01:47:18,916 --> 01:47:20,416 Sorry, but the locomotion. 1757 01:47:20,708 --> 01:47:21,541 My name is locomotion. 1758 01:47:22,000 --> 01:47:23,333 I was going to say lotion for the motion. 1759 01:47:24,375 --> 01:47:25,375 This is more of like, 1760 01:47:25,375 --> 01:47:26,625 we're just going with it, man. 1761 01:47:26,625 --> 01:47:27,875 It totally sounds dirty. 1762 01:47:28,500 --> 01:47:29,541 It probably is dirty. 1763 01:47:31,416 --> 01:47:31,708 Okay. 1764 01:47:32,083 --> 01:47:32,583 I don't know. 1765 01:47:32,916 --> 01:47:34,125 It's a saying and it rhymes 1766 01:47:34,125 --> 01:47:35,250 and I'm just sucker for rhyming. 1767 01:47:35,625 --> 01:47:36,666 You love rhyming. 1768 01:47:36,708 --> 01:47:38,000 I love rhyming so much. 1769 01:47:38,375 --> 01:47:38,541 Yeah. 1770 01:47:39,125 --> 01:47:40,625 I think the phrase that my PT 1771 01:47:40,625 --> 01:47:43,166 told me was motion is lotion. 1772 01:47:43,458 --> 01:47:45,000 Not lotion for the motion. 1773 01:47:45,833 --> 01:47:47,250 Either way, I think it goes both ways. 1774 01:47:48,500 --> 01:47:50,208 My point was we're moving. 1775 01:47:50,416 --> 01:47:52,250 Like we're the cogs, we're 1776 01:47:52,250 --> 01:47:53,708 turning and we're moving. 1777 01:47:54,000 --> 01:47:54,583 We're just moving. 1778 01:47:55,916 --> 01:47:57,583 We're keep on moving down the track. 1779 01:47:58,166 --> 01:48:00,166 So similar, similar like. 1780 01:48:00,500 --> 01:48:02,125 Similar, similar, you're right. 1781 01:48:03,291 --> 01:48:05,166 Mine's just kind of like designed to, 1782 01:48:05,166 --> 01:48:06,416 we're just keeping it going. 1783 01:48:06,625 --> 01:48:09,083 Mine's like head down, keeping the pace, 1784 01:48:09,083 --> 01:48:09,916 let's keep going. 1785 01:48:10,625 --> 01:48:13,166 Yours is like kind of pumping yourself up 1786 01:48:13,166 --> 01:48:14,541 and you gotta keep it going. 1787 01:48:14,875 --> 01:48:15,291 Keep going. 1788 01:48:16,583 --> 01:48:16,916 Doing it. 1789 01:48:17,875 --> 01:48:21,875 Doing it baby. 1790 01:48:23,291 --> 01:48:24,166 We're doing it baby. 1791 01:48:25,208 --> 01:48:25,750 Here we have it. 1792 01:48:27,041 --> 01:48:27,583 More of it's good. 1793 01:48:28,083 --> 01:48:28,583 All right, now we're 1794 01:48:28,583 --> 01:48:29,416 just doing inside jokes. 1795 01:48:29,708 --> 01:48:30,375 Nobody's gonna love that. 1796 01:48:31,125 --> 01:48:31,958 Nobody's with us anyways. 1797 01:48:32,625 --> 01:48:33,666 Everybody's already hung up anyways. 1798 01:48:34,250 --> 01:48:34,583 Yeah. 1799 01:48:35,416 --> 01:48:35,750 All right. 1800 01:48:36,041 --> 01:48:36,750 Well, that's it. 1801 01:48:36,958 --> 01:48:37,750 That's all we got. 1802 01:48:38,083 --> 01:48:38,833 That's all we got, 32. 1803 01:48:39,500 --> 01:48:40,208 Next week will be a 1804 01:48:40,208 --> 01:48:41,291 big one though, it's 33. 1805 01:48:41,666 --> 01:48:44,000 And when I met Megan, I was obsessed. 1806 01:48:44,708 --> 01:48:45,916 This is again, one of those things where 1807 01:48:45,916 --> 01:48:46,583 you just don't wake, 1808 01:48:46,583 --> 01:48:48,583 you don't grow up as a man, enough. 1809 01:48:49,291 --> 01:48:51,000 But my number of basketball was 33 1810 01:48:51,833 --> 01:48:52,916 and it was Trey, Trey. 1811 01:48:53,750 --> 01:48:54,875 And anytime I saw the 1812 01:48:54,875 --> 01:48:58,000 number 33, it was Trey, Trey. 1813 01:48:58,000 --> 01:48:58,625 Trey, Trey. 1814 01:48:59,000 --> 01:48:59,416 Every time. 1815 01:48:59,708 --> 01:49:00,750 I pointed out like. 1816 01:49:01,458 --> 01:49:02,666 I mean, for the first like 1817 01:49:02,666 --> 01:49:05,416 eight years we were together. 1818 01:49:05,708 --> 01:49:06,291 Yeah, that's why that 1819 01:49:06,291 --> 01:49:08,375 tattoo, that 33 tattoo on my back. 1820 01:49:08,708 --> 01:49:09,625 I regret that. 1821 01:49:11,291 --> 01:49:11,416 (laughing) 1822 01:49:11,833 --> 01:49:13,166 But, look at how old 1823 01:49:13,166 --> 01:49:14,250 the sun wears it, so. 1824 01:49:14,875 --> 01:49:15,250 You mean something. 1825 01:49:15,625 --> 01:49:15,833 Yeah. 1826 01:49:17,000 --> 01:49:19,333 (laughing) All right, let's sign out of here. 1827 01:49:19,500 --> 01:49:20,041 All right. 1828 01:49:20,041 --> 01:49:21,083 All right, we'll see you next time. 1829 01:49:21,208 --> 01:49:21,583 Thanks for joining. 1830 01:49:21,875 --> 01:49:22,291 Ciao ciao. 1831 01:49:22,541 --> 01:49:22,875 See ya.