Finding Your Joy Spot - Episode: When Finding Your Voice Requires a Shovel
Episode Summary
In this episode, Leona explores why women often silence themselves, play small, or soften their edges in both personal and professional settings. Drawing from evolutionary psychology and her own Lioness Project research, she discusses how our ancient brain wiring still impacts how we show up today—and what we can do about it.
Leona shares practical reflection exercises to help listeners excavate old patterns, heal childhood wounds, and step into their full power with courage and compassion.
Key Topics Discussed
- Why women experience safety differently and how it impacts our behaviour
- The evolutionary wiring that keeps us playing small
- The difference between "pushing through" and doing the deeper excavating work
- How childhood experiences shape our adult patterns
- Practical exercises for healing and integration using Internal Family Systems principles
- Finding joy in courageous acts and making courage contagious
Reflection Exercises
Take these at your own pace—one a day, one a week, or all at once with strong coffee:
- Stream of consciousness writing: How did a difficult childhood situation impact you? Write for 2-5 minutes without stopping.
- Pattern recognition: What has that situation imprinted on you? How does it impact you now?
- Inner child work: Go back to that situation and comfort your younger self. Write from their voice—let them express their fear, sadness, or devastation.
- Compassionate acknowledgment: How has that moment shaped you? Write a compassionate note to that part of yourself.
- Strategy awareness: What did you learn from that pattern? What strategies did you develop to avoid feeling that way again?
- Integration: Welcome your younger self in. Remind them they don't need to keep you small anymore.
- Honouring: Ask how that younger part wants to be honoured—through play, creativity, or simple pleasures.
Resources Mentioned
Connect with Leona
Email: leona@leonadevinne.com
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Quote of the Episode
"The digging is about cultivating the soil of our hearts and lives to make room for our truth to grow. And when one has the courage to do that, there's often a spot of joy in those courageous acts."
What is Finding Joy?
Finding Joy is a podcast about what it means to truly live.
Because too many of us are building lives around who we think we should be instead of who we really are.
Hosted by speaker, leadership facilitator, coach, and author Leona deVinne, Finding Joy explores the conversations that help us reconnect with ourselves, find the courage to stop performing, and start living with authenticity, not apology.
Through honest conversations, powerful stories, and practical insights grounded in psychology, neuroscience, leadership, and lived experience, Leona explores what helps us live with greater clarity, confidence, courage, and meaning.
Some episodes feature ordinary people navigating extraordinary circumstances. Others unpack ideas around identity, resilience, burnout, confidence, boundaries, leadership, relationships and what it takes to create a life that actually feels like your own.
Because joy is not something we chase.
It is often what finds us when we finally own who we are.