1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:02,750 Good morning and 2 01:00:02,750 --> 01:00:04,625 welcome to Morning Syria. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:11,208 Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday. 4 01:00:11,500 --> 01:00:13,666 I hope you all had a great weekend, 5 01:00:13,708 --> 01:00:15,250 all rested and ready to 6 01:00:15,250 --> 01:00:16,791 hit this week head on. 7 01:00:17,125 --> 01:00:18,916 Well, if Mondays had a 8 01:00:18,916 --> 01:00:20,791 personality, which a lot of them do, 9 01:00:20,791 --> 01:00:21,875 today would be the one 10 01:00:21,875 --> 01:00:23,458 that wakes up grumpy, 11 01:00:23,791 --> 01:00:25,333 but secretly wants a hug. 12 01:00:25,625 --> 01:00:27,083 And that's perfect for today 13 01:00:27,250 --> 01:00:29,083 because today is do a 14 01:00:29,083 --> 01:00:30,916 grouch a favor day, all right? 15 01:00:31,125 --> 01:00:32,458 So if someone's giving you 16 01:00:32,458 --> 01:00:33,833 the side eye before coffee, 17 01:00:34,041 --> 01:00:35,541 congratulations, you've 18 01:00:35,541 --> 01:00:37,833 identified today is their holiday. 19 01:00:38,458 --> 01:00:39,541 Well, the answer to 20 01:00:39,541 --> 01:00:40,875 Friday's trivia question 21 01:00:41,375 --> 01:00:42,791 was Dr. Pepper. 22 01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:44,458 Dr. Pepper was introduced 23 01:00:44,458 --> 01:00:46,041 first in the United States 24 01:00:46,333 --> 01:00:49,333 before Coca-Cola, Pepsi-Cola and Squirt. 25 01:00:49,958 --> 01:00:51,166 All right, well, it's time 26 01:00:51,166 --> 01:00:52,291 for the essential vitamins 27 01:00:52,291 --> 01:00:54,333 in your morning cereal, today's quote. 28 01:00:54,750 --> 01:00:55,416 And it's from birthday 29 01:00:55,416 --> 01:00:57,041 boy turning 36 years old 30 01:00:57,833 --> 01:00:59,416 the weekend who said, quote, 31 01:00:59,916 --> 01:01:01,375 "Be loyal to your own 32 01:01:01,375 --> 01:01:03,083 peace of mind," end quote. 33 01:01:03,708 --> 01:01:05,458 Look, I am all for 34 01:01:05,458 --> 01:01:06,916 supporting people prioritizing 35 01:01:06,916 --> 01:01:08,708 their mental and emotional wellbeing. 36 01:01:09,333 --> 01:01:10,291 Protecting your inner 37 01:01:10,291 --> 01:01:12,000 peace, it's not selfish, 38 01:01:12,166 --> 01:01:13,583 but it's a vital aspect 39 01:01:13,583 --> 01:01:15,541 of self-care and respect. 40 01:01:16,291 --> 01:01:17,333 All right, well, let's go ahead and hear 41 01:01:17,333 --> 01:01:18,208 from the experts now. 42 01:01:18,541 --> 01:01:19,541 It's time to pour in some 43 01:01:19,541 --> 01:01:21,583 Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. 44 01:01:21,875 --> 01:01:23,750 And today's focus is the 45 01:01:23,750 --> 01:01:25,500 commitment conversation. 46 01:01:26,208 --> 01:01:28,666 And this chapter, it gets real fast. 47 01:01:29,666 --> 01:01:31,000 Robbins tackles one of the most 48 01:01:31,000 --> 01:01:32,041 uncomfortable truths 49 01:01:32,208 --> 01:01:33,458 in adult relationships. 50 01:01:34,083 --> 01:01:35,625 Many of us are exhausted, 51 01:01:35,625 --> 01:01:37,666 not because we're asking too much, 52 01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:38,750 but because we're 53 01:01:38,750 --> 01:01:40,208 avoiding the conversations 54 01:01:40,875 --> 01:01:42,833 that would clarify everything. 55 01:01:43,500 --> 01:01:44,291 She explains that 56 01:01:44,291 --> 01:01:46,166 commitment isn't about pressure 57 01:01:46,166 --> 01:01:48,833 or ultimatums, it's about honesty. 58 01:01:49,333 --> 01:01:50,458 According to Robbins, quote, 59 01:01:50,875 --> 01:01:51,875 "Commitment conversations 60 01:01:51,875 --> 01:01:53,125 aren't about controlling 61 01:01:53,291 --> 01:01:54,750 the outcome, they're about 62 01:01:54,750 --> 01:01:56,458 respecting your own time, 63 01:01:56,875 --> 01:01:58,541 energy, and future," end quote. 64 01:01:59,125 --> 01:02:00,916 Now that line hits because most of us 65 01:02:00,916 --> 01:02:02,000 would rather sit in 66 01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:05,250 confusion rather than risk rejection. 67 01:02:05,625 --> 01:02:06,958 Now, Robbins points out here 68 01:02:06,958 --> 01:02:09,750 how people stay stuck in situationships, 69 01:02:10,375 --> 01:02:13,416 half relationships, and emotional limbo 70 01:02:13,458 --> 01:02:15,500 because they're waiting for someone else 71 01:02:15,500 --> 01:02:17,208 to define the rules. 72 01:02:17,666 --> 01:02:20,250 But clarity doesn't magically arrive, 73 01:02:20,250 --> 01:02:21,750 it has to be invited. 74 01:02:22,250 --> 01:02:23,625 And she reminds us that when you avoid 75 01:02:23,666 --> 01:02:24,708 commitment conversations, 76 01:02:25,125 --> 01:02:25,833 you're actually 77 01:02:25,833 --> 01:02:27,500 committing to uncertainty. 78 01:02:28,041 --> 01:02:28,833 And uncertainty 79 01:02:28,833 --> 01:02:30,791 quietly drains confidence, 80 01:02:31,166 --> 01:02:32,333 joy, and momentum. 81 01:02:32,833 --> 01:02:34,125 As she puts it, quote, 82 01:02:34,291 --> 01:02:36,708 "If you don't speak up for what you want, 83 01:02:36,708 --> 01:02:38,291 you silently agree to 84 01:02:38,291 --> 01:02:39,875 what you get," end quote. 85 01:02:40,333 --> 01:02:41,500 This chapter also 86 01:02:41,500 --> 01:02:43,791 reframes rejection, right? 87 01:02:44,208 --> 01:02:45,125 Robbins argues that 88 01:02:45,125 --> 01:02:46,375 when someone can't meet you 89 01:02:46,375 --> 01:02:47,541 where you are, again, 90 01:02:47,541 --> 01:02:48,541 that's not a failure, 91 01:02:48,541 --> 01:02:49,291 it's information. 92 01:02:50,125 --> 01:02:52,291 And information, it sets you free. 93 01:02:52,791 --> 01:02:53,666 She writes, quote, 94 01:02:53,666 --> 01:02:55,041 "The right people don't 95 01:02:55,041 --> 01:02:56,583 get scared by clarity, 96 01:02:57,083 --> 01:02:58,875 they're relieved by it," end quote. 97 01:02:59,500 --> 01:03:00,916 So this applies far 98 01:03:00,916 --> 01:03:02,708 beyond romantic relationships. 99 01:03:03,083 --> 01:03:04,166 It applies to work, to 100 01:03:04,166 --> 01:03:05,833 friendships, to family dynamics. 101 01:03:06,250 --> 01:03:08,000 Anywhere expectations are fuzzy 102 01:03:08,416 --> 01:03:09,833 and resentment is brewing, 103 01:03:10,416 --> 01:03:10,791 commitment 104 01:03:10,791 --> 01:03:13,291 conversations are simple boundaries 105 01:03:13,458 --> 01:03:14,416 spoken out loud. 106 01:03:15,041 --> 01:03:17,166 So Mel emphasizes that these talks, 107 01:03:17,166 --> 01:03:18,166 they don't need drama, 108 01:03:18,375 --> 01:03:18,708 they don't need 109 01:03:18,708 --> 01:03:20,250 scripts or perfect timing, 110 01:03:20,666 --> 01:03:22,208 they need courage and calm. 111 01:03:22,875 --> 01:03:25,416 Not convincing, no chasing people down, 112 01:03:25,416 --> 01:03:28,250 just honesty, and then letting people 113 01:03:28,250 --> 01:03:29,583 show you who they are. 114 01:03:29,875 --> 01:03:32,666 All right, here is your Monday takeaway. 115 01:03:33,416 --> 01:03:35,000 Clarity is kindness and 116 01:03:35,000 --> 01:03:36,125 commitment conversations 117 01:03:36,416 --> 01:03:38,416 are how you stop negotiating 118 01:03:38,416 --> 01:03:40,500 against your own happiness. 119 01:03:41,291 --> 01:03:43,916 So today, do a grouch a favor, 120 01:03:43,958 --> 01:03:46,250 even if that includes yourself at times, 121 01:03:46,750 --> 01:03:48,125 by choosing honesty 122 01:03:48,125 --> 01:03:49,500 over guessing game, right? 123 01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:51,291 Now get out there and attack 124 01:03:51,291 --> 01:03:52,583 your Monday with intention. 125 01:03:53,000 --> 01:03:54,375 But first, the prize from 126 01:03:54,375 --> 01:03:55,500 the bottom of the cereal box, 127 01:03:55,791 --> 01:03:56,875 the morning cereal 128 01:03:56,875 --> 01:03:58,375 trivia question of the day. 129 01:03:58,666 --> 01:04:00,083 Here it is, how many 130 01:04:00,083 --> 01:04:02,458 kilometers are in a mile? 131 01:04:03,333 --> 01:04:04,958 All right, hey, thanks for listening to 132 01:04:04,958 --> 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