1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,083 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,083 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:11,166 Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday. 4 01:00:11,458 --> 01:00:12,791 I hope you had a great 5 01:00:12,791 --> 01:00:14,250 and a restful weekend 6 01:00:14,250 --> 01:00:16,625 and you're ready for five more days of 7 01:00:16,625 --> 01:00:17,625 getting things done. 8 01:00:17,625 --> 01:00:19,458 But first, happy Martin 9 01:00:19,458 --> 01:00:20,750 Luther King Day to you. 10 01:00:20,750 --> 01:00:22,791 Today we honor Civil Rights Day, 11 01:00:23,208 --> 01:00:26,083 a sometimes needed reminder of progress 12 01:00:26,083 --> 01:00:27,583 that we've earned through courage. 13 01:00:28,375 --> 01:00:29,708 All right, the answer to 14 01:00:29,708 --> 01:00:31,583 Friday's harder trivia question 15 01:00:32,208 --> 01:00:32,958 is Quark. 16 01:00:33,708 --> 01:00:35,708 Up, down, top, bottom, strange and charm 17 01:00:35,708 --> 01:00:37,375 are varieties of Quarks, 18 01:00:37,750 --> 01:00:39,833 the basic building box of matter. 19 01:00:40,500 --> 01:00:42,916 All right, and now the essential vitamins 20 01:00:42,916 --> 01:00:44,125 in your morning cereal. 21 01:00:44,166 --> 01:00:47,041 Today's quote is from Dolly Parton, 22 01:00:47,041 --> 01:00:48,500 birthday girl Dolly Parton who said, 23 01:00:48,750 --> 01:00:50,333 "If you don't like 24 01:00:50,333 --> 01:00:51,666 the road you're walking, 25 01:00:52,125 --> 01:00:53,500 "start paving another one." 26 01:00:54,416 --> 01:00:55,750 Now that's great news from Dolly. 27 01:00:56,041 --> 01:00:57,333 You're not stuck in 28 01:00:57,333 --> 01:00:59,291 life if your current path, 29 01:00:59,291 --> 01:01:01,041 your career, your habits, your situation, 30 01:01:01,500 --> 01:01:03,541 if that's not working or fulfilling you, 31 01:01:03,916 --> 01:01:05,000 you have the power, 32 01:01:05,500 --> 01:01:07,000 nay, the responsibility 33 01:01:07,500 --> 01:01:10,250 to actively create a new, better one 34 01:01:10,541 --> 01:01:12,083 through your own choices and effort, 35 01:01:12,750 --> 01:01:14,291 taking control and 36 01:01:14,291 --> 01:01:15,833 direction of your life, right? 37 01:01:16,375 --> 01:01:17,833 All right, you've heard enough from me. 38 01:01:17,833 --> 01:01:19,583 Let's pour in some Let 39 01:01:19,583 --> 01:01:20,750 Them Theory by Mel Robbins. 40 01:01:21,375 --> 01:01:22,458 And today we complete 41 01:01:22,458 --> 01:01:25,250 the ABC loop with step B, 42 01:01:25,833 --> 01:01:27,125 back off and observe. 43 01:01:27,750 --> 01:01:28,416 And then because we're 44 01:01:28,416 --> 01:01:29,375 feeling a little crazy today, 45 01:01:29,375 --> 01:01:31,750 we're gonna throw in step C as well. 46 01:01:32,250 --> 01:01:34,125 All right, this is celebrating progress 47 01:01:34,125 --> 01:01:36,333 while continuing to model change. 48 01:01:36,750 --> 01:01:38,916 And Robbins begins step B with an 49 01:01:38,916 --> 01:01:40,333 uncomfortable truth here. 50 01:01:40,333 --> 01:01:41,166 She likes to do that. 51 01:01:41,750 --> 01:01:43,750 Once you've apologized and asked 52 01:01:43,750 --> 01:01:45,125 open-ended questions, 53 01:01:45,583 --> 01:01:47,541 your job is not to manage the outcome. 54 01:01:48,000 --> 01:01:49,250 She writes this, quote, 55 01:01:49,666 --> 01:01:51,750 "Back off doesn't mean you give up. 56 01:01:51,750 --> 01:01:54,333 "It means stop controlling," end quote. 57 01:01:54,708 --> 01:01:55,500 This step requires 58 01:01:55,500 --> 01:01:56,583 patience and restraint, 59 01:01:57,416 --> 01:01:58,250 especially for people 60 01:01:58,250 --> 01:01:59,916 who want immediate results. 61 01:02:00,500 --> 01:02:02,625 Backing off allows others the space 62 01:02:02,625 --> 01:02:04,666 to choose change for themselves. 63 01:02:05,500 --> 01:02:06,458 Robbins explains that, quote, 64 01:02:06,458 --> 01:02:08,291 "People only change when they feel safe, 65 01:02:08,625 --> 01:02:10,250 "not pressured," end quote. 66 01:02:10,750 --> 01:02:11,750 And when you constantly 67 01:02:11,750 --> 01:02:13,708 monitor or correct or remind, 68 01:02:14,125 --> 01:02:16,500 you intentionally reinforce resistance. 69 01:02:17,375 --> 01:02:19,250 Step C then shifts the 70 01:02:19,250 --> 01:02:20,541 focus to reinforcement. 71 01:02:21,166 --> 01:02:23,083 Robbins emphasizes the importance of 72 01:02:23,083 --> 01:02:24,500 acknowledging effort 73 01:02:24,666 --> 01:02:26,166 and not perfection, quote, 74 01:02:26,375 --> 01:02:27,416 "What you celebrate 75 01:02:27,416 --> 01:02:28,958 gets repeated," end quote. 76 01:02:29,500 --> 01:02:30,791 Recognizing progress, 77 01:02:30,791 --> 01:02:32,000 even those small steps 78 01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:33,833 that builds momentum and trust. 79 01:02:34,500 --> 01:02:36,583 And at the same time, Robbins reminds us 80 01:02:36,583 --> 01:02:38,500 that modeling change never stops. 81 01:02:38,875 --> 01:02:40,541 You don't lecture, you don't demonstrate. 82 01:02:41,250 --> 01:02:44,333 Consistency matters more than intensity. 83 01:02:44,750 --> 01:02:46,875 So over time, your behavior becomes 84 01:02:47,416 --> 01:02:48,875 a reference point for others. 85 01:02:49,458 --> 01:02:51,666 So this final step is about balance, 86 01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:53,291 letting go of control 87 01:02:53,291 --> 01:02:54,708 while staying committed 88 01:02:54,708 --> 01:02:55,875 to your own growth. 89 01:02:56,291 --> 01:02:58,625 It's not passive, it's intentional. 90 01:02:59,083 --> 01:03:01,625 The ABC loop ends not with 91 01:03:01,625 --> 01:03:04,208 certainty, but with alignment. 92 01:03:04,666 --> 01:03:07,250 All right, here is your Monday takeaway. 93 01:03:08,083 --> 01:03:09,833 Step back, stay steady, 94 01:03:09,833 --> 01:03:11,708 and celebrate progress. 95 01:03:12,000 --> 01:03:14,000 Change grows in space, not pressure. 96 01:03:14,666 --> 01:03:15,666 All right, big change 97 01:03:15,666 --> 01:03:17,125 doesn't happen overnight, right? 98 01:03:17,125 --> 01:03:20,000 It pops slowly one kernel at a time. 99 01:03:20,083 --> 01:03:21,708 Oh, and that reminds me, 100 01:03:21,708 --> 01:03:24,166 today is also National Popcorn Day. 101 01:03:24,500 --> 01:03:25,916 My oldest son will love that one. 102 01:03:26,375 --> 01:03:27,083 Well, now the prize 103 01:03:27,083 --> 01:03:28,083 from the bottom of the box, 104 01:03:28,333 --> 01:03:29,208 the morning cereal 105 01:03:29,208 --> 01:03:30,458 trivia question of the day. 106 01:03:30,833 --> 01:03:33,500 What harp-like instrument is tied 107 01:03:33,833 --> 01:03:35,166 to ancient Romans and Greeks? 108 01:03:35,833 --> 01:03:36,750 All right, we will see 109 01:03:36,750 --> 01:03:37,583 you back here tomorrow 110 01:03:37,583 --> 01:03:38,791 for the answer and 111 01:03:38,791 --> 01:03:40,291 more sugar for the soul. 112 01:03:40,791 --> 01:03:41,375 Thanks for listening 113 01:03:41,375 --> 01:03:42,416 to Morning Cereal today. 114 01:03:42,791 --> 01:03:45,625 And until then, have a fantastic day. 115 01:03:46,750 --> 01:03:48,291 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 116 01:03:48,500 --> 01:03:49,875 to the Morning Cereal podcast 117 01:03:49,875 --> 01:03:51,833 on the One Life Live It channel. 118 01:03:52,333 --> 01:03:54,041 You can find more episodes and videos 119 01:03:54,041 --> 01:03:55,500 by visiting our YouTube channel 120 01:03:55,666 --> 01:03:58,375 and the website at seanenglishless and at 121 01:03:58,375 --> 01:03:59,375 seanenglishless.com, 122 01:03:59,625 --> 01:04:00,458 where you can also 123 01:04:00,458 --> 01:04:01,916 follow our other podcast, 124 01:04:02,208 --> 01:04:03,541 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 125 01:04:03,958 --> 01:04:05,125 and the Life Happens podcast. 126 01:04:05,958 --> 01:04:08,083 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 127 01:04:08,083 --> 01:04:09,000 into everyday issues, 128 01:04:09,250 --> 01:04:10,500 self-improvement and well-being, 129 01:04:10,750 --> 01:04:12,541 business and finance, and we 130 01:04:12,541 --> 01:04:13,833 welcome special guests too. 131 01:04:14,208 --> 01:04:15,250 So join us, it will be 132 01:04:15,250 --> 01:04:16,333 a good time, I promise. 133 01:04:17,041 --> 01:04:17,625 Thanks again for 134 01:04:17,625 --> 01:04:19,291 listening, have a fantastic day, 135 01:04:19,625 --> 01:04:20,250 and we'll see you tomorrow.