Because of traumatic past experiences, people often build protective walls around themselves to avoid getting hurt. The irony is that these walls make intimacy with another person impossible. In this episode, Oakley guides a client in a powerful heart activation that helps him break down barriers to finding love.
Show Notes
Have you ever heard the saying “You can’t love another person until you love yourself”? Oakley’s client, an adult in his mid 20s, has done his personal work. Now he’s ready to take the next step to find his romantic partner and commit to a relationship. But something is holding him back from being able to be vulnerable. So Oakley pulls from her enlightenment toolbelt and offers practical steps for reprogramming the patterns that keep his walls up so that he’s ready to receive his future partner when she comes along.
Vulnerability, or allowing another person to see the full breadth of your strengths and weaknesses, can be scary. To assist her client in working with the wall around his heart, Oakley leads him in a somatic practice that allows him to observe his blockages without judgment and tap into his own healing power. Through this practice, he is able to activate his heart center which clears him of any blocked energy that might prevent him from experiencing what he desires most: a safe, loving relationship where he feels comfortable being himself and can offer that same love to another person. By visualizing the life he wants, he slowly removes the limitations that prevent him from stepping fully into intimacy in relationships. This is how people are able to use the power of love to change old patterns and rewire neural pathways that keep them stuck. Everyone has the ability to work this magic on themselves, and it’s Oakley’s mission to bring these powerful tools to anyone willing to do the work.
Main Topics
- Oakley’s client shares his struggle with vulnerability and his desire for an intimate relationship (04:08)
- The role the past plays in our current relationship patterns (07:15)
- Vulnerability in relationships means asking to be seen (10:27)
- Oakley’s Give Back, Take Back strategy for transmuting old patterns (16:27)
- Using somatic body work to find and release energetic blockages (24:00)
- Quick explanation of the chakra system or energy centers in the body (34:50)
- Activating the torus, a measurable electromagnetic field around the heart, to change thoughts and behaviors (43:48)
- Reaching the realm of possibility in meditation to create new realities (46:33)
- Daily practice for activating the heart (51:25)
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Welcome to Sex Drugs & Enlightenment where we open the door and take down the walls of the therapy office—to gain tools, insights, support, and the experience of being heard and connected within the 21st century.
Hi, I’m Oakley Ogden, a psychotherapist and licensed counselor with over 17 years of experience working with young adults. In this podcast I unpack the profane with my guests to recognize how the tough stuff is the sacred stuff.
Join us as we explore it all—the taboo topics and otherwise, nothing is off limits. In this space of safety and love, let’s work it out and learn how we can all build resilience and strength of character to make each day count as we live our best life…and have fun doing it.