{ "version": "1.0.0", "segments": [ { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "0.0", "endTime": "23.255001", "body": "Have you been in a position where you're just about to lose your mind? Whether it's your finances, kids, your relationship, job, people are just getting on your nerves, and the situation is just so overwhelming that you think you're about to just lose your mind. Well, today, we're gonna go through 10 steps to keep you from losing your mind. I'm sitting here with my girl, Marnia Mitchell. Hey, Chris." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "23.255001", "endTime": "25.415", "body": "Hey. Thank you. Thank you." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "25.415", "endTime": "28.055", "body": "It's such a pleasure to have you once again." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "28.055", "endTime": "29.335", "body": "Thank you. Happy to be here" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "30.055", "endTime": "34.71", "body": "Let us know what has been up with you since the last time we saw you." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "34.71", "endTime": "81.645", "body": "I don't know why I came back. Because the two weeks after the last show, I lost my job. I had lost one earlier in the year, then I lost one two weeks after I did your last show, came out of the blue, notice. The blessing was I had a part time job that became a full time but from that, it just things spiraled from getting out of a place where my rent costs too much to trying to get a guarantor to help me with an apartment. I was scammed to eventually just moving everything in storage and moving in with a coworker and her family to running over a construction bolt in the road from the city of Decatur Roads and went through my wheel and now my car is sitting at a shop waiting for a tire to come a wheel to come from Germany." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "81.805", "endTime": "84.925", "body": "It just was one thing after the next the next the next." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "84.925", "endTime": "86.049995", "body": "So all hell" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "86.29", "endTime": "95.649994", "body": "All hell, like, just call me, instead of Job, it's Jobetta. Because I tell you, it just it never it just didn't seem like it wanted to end." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "95.649994", "endTime": "103.605", "body": "Now, I will own a lot of stuff. I will own my stuff. Mhmm. But look, it is not our fault. Alright?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "103.605", "endTime": "117.47", "body": "No. But I know, Mania, you have gone through hell and back. Just so much going on in your life. You talk about transitions Yes. Losing jobs and your car, and having to move, getting scammed." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "117.47", "endTime": "127.31", "body": "Yep. And, you know, all hell has been breaking loose. But, Marnia, one thing I've noticed though is that and I told you this. I said, hey, you know, you're going through a lot and we just go sing holy oil when you come here." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "127.31", "endTime": "127.71", "body": "Right. You" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "127.71", "endTime": "142.005", "body": "know? So you might be slipping out to see me or whatever. But, you know, one thing I've noticed is that you have had just a wonderful attitude. And to be honest with you, I don't know if I would have gone through everything that you've gone through because you gave us the hip hop version." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "142.005", "endTime": "142.24501", "body": "Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "142.24501", "endTime": "162.595", "body": "Yeah. Right? I don't know if I would have had the smile on my face necessarily that you've had every time I've talked to you, and you've just had a positive outlook. And so today, we're gonna go through some of the steps that you went through and some of the steps that I've gone through over time to not lose our mind when all hell is breaking loose. Exactly." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "162.595", "endTime": "163.715", "body": "So you ready to do this with me? I am" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "163.715", "endTime": "164.675", "body": "ready to do this. Alright." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "164.675", "endTime": "180.81", "body": "So we're gonna go through these steps. And I want you to let me know exactly, put your little color, your Mania spin on it. You know, your little color color to it. Let me know what you think about these. So number one, remove negative talk and influences." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "180.81", "endTime": "190.10501", "body": "Number one thing to do when you are going through hell and back to not lose your mind is to remove negative talk and influences. What do you think about that?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "190.825", "endTime": "233.97002", "body": "It for me, this was one of the most crucial things and essentially, for me not to have negative talk for myself in this situation. Prime example, trying to get out of a super expensive apartment and just finding like how rubber hits the road, I was paying two times more than a place I wanted to go. But because of just lingering divorce, low credit score, whatever, I needed to have a guarantor to help me. Trusted somebody on just the review and just in my heart, just wanted to believe somebody wasn't gonna be like negative, they weren't gonna scam me, they weren't gonna not come through on what they said they were gonna do. And I just continued to believe it's coming, it's coming, there's a lesson in this, it's coming, it's coming." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "234.05", "endTime": "265.49002", "body": "And but still to take steps to do positive things and to see, you know, other things going on around me in other people's lives, well, it's not that bad, it could be worse. And just to kind of keep my own level of hope. Mhmm. I mean, that's the only thing I could say and then intentionally see God winks during the midst of the day. Good little, you know, somebody calling for lunch or somebody blessing me with gas or just, I mean, somebody out of the blue thinking of me and and, you know, a check I wasn't expecting from a previous employer and just to think, God sees me." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "265.73", "endTime": "284.60498", "body": "If if he saw me in the midst of those things for those people to remember me, he sees me in this too. And I just had just to keep a base level if I say I believe how I believe, that was only so low I was gonna allow myself to go because how can I still be trying to move in a way Mhmm? But then be negative at the same time I'm contradicting myself." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "284.60498", "endTime": "290.7", "body": "Right. So So you were intentional about just any type of negative influences or talks and just saying, look, I'm not gonna" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "290.7", "endTime": "302.94", "body": "do I'm not receiving that. Yeah. Even had a loved one call me after he heard the news of me basically living with a coworker and her family being like, you're basically homeless. And it was a bit of a trigger because this was a beloved uncle. But I said, I bind that." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "302.94", "endTime": "328.08002", "body": "I don't receive that. I'm not homeless, I just am living in a non traditional environment right now, but I'm in a safe place, my dog is safe, my things are safe. So, it's transitional and it's temporary and I think that's the main thing is that this won't last always. Trouble doesn't last always as the old folks used to say. And to know that I keep putting one foot in front of the other, I can't cry over spilt milk." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "328.16", "endTime": "338.025", "body": "I think, you know, these old adages that our ancestors used to say are there for a reason, water under the bridge, because it'll keep moving and it'll keep going and we're not the only ones with drama and trauma." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "338.025", "endTime": "346.025", "body": "Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely. Well, good deal. I appreciate that because, you know, removing negative influences and negative talk is really I saw you do that." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "346.11", "endTime": "360.03", "body": "Right? Yeah. And I saw you walk it out. And, you know, even supporting you along the way, I just wanted to, you know, encourage you and just say, hey, you know, it's gonna be alright. And you actually inspired me with the smile on your face because I'm like, okay." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "360.375", "endTime": "371.415", "body": "Alright. She going through right now, but, you know, you don't wanna be negative as a support system. But also seeing how you were intentional about that really really gave me encouragement. Yeah. I appreciate it." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "371.415", "endTime": "371.895", "body": "Yeah. Definitely." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "371.895", "endTime": "372.695", "body": "What's the next one?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "372.695", "endTime": "375.175", "body": "Well, we're looking at recognize progress." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "375.73", "endTime": "396.32498", "body": "Wow. So recognizing progress for me, I think is important because a lot of people look for the big win, the big steps. And I like to believe in the power of compound action. Right? So there was an old movie that my mother used to watch called Women of Brewster's Place." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "396.32498", "endTime": "396.805", "body": "Oh, wow." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "396.805", "endTime": "407.205", "body": "Right? It was Yeah. Oprah Winfrey Yes. Way back in the day. And at the end of that movie, the women of this neighborhood, they were trying to tear down a wall." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "407.82", "endTime": "427.815", "body": "And they would just hit the wall. And it was just multiple actions. And so at some point, it looked like the wall would not fall or wouldn't crack, and the wall had been there for years. And then finally, somebody hits the wall and a big piece and a hole is now seen in the wall. They can see through." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "427.815", "endTime": "448.94998", "body": "Mhmm. And so, I believe in compound action because that was it was every hit actually made progress. Right? And it didn't look like it, but every hit making progress now, when you look at it at the end of it, there's one hit that now everything falls. And people think that's the hit that made it, but it was all the other hits" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "449.11", "endTime": "449.59", "body": "That's right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "449.66998", "endTime": "465.175", "body": "Right, that did it. So it's the it's it's like the progress of compound action. It's like recognizing progress, even the smallest wins, the smallest steps, and to know that, hey, I am making progress and that helps you to really have a better attitude." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "465.175", "endTime": "502.98", "body": "I agree. I would agree. Yeah. And I think also sharing where you are with other people, people, and that it's not about, oh, people are talking about me or know my business. Of course, pick your trap carefully and and with whom you share what, but those folks who may know somebody who can ask something and action is so critical and key and it's one little thing every day and to celebrate it, you know, even if it was just, you know, I got a call back from a place even it was a negative somebody heard my plea and my cry, you know, it just, okay, I can try this again and knowing if something worked for you in the past, it's not a wrong thing or a bad thing." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "503.13998", "endTime": "506.18", "body": "Let me try this in addition to adding something new to my arsenal." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "506.74", "endTime": "517.455", "body": "Yeah. Good deal. So the third one we got, serve someone else. Serve someone So this is interesting. What do you think about that?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "517.455", "endTime": "536.32495", "body": "In the midst of going through, the situation where I'm, you know, living with a family, someone else. I took myself back to a time where in the midst of my then marriage, a family member came and lived with us for seventy three days and, contributed very little. I brought that to the forefront." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "536.32495", "endTime": "538.165", "body": "Is that why you know how long they stayed?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "538.165", "endTime": "552.56", "body": "Yeah. Good boy. Oh lord. So I made it intentional, okay, I've mentioned this time and again, so I have my opportunity to be on Front Street now. So what am I gonna do differently?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "552.8", "endTime": "576.91", "body": "So I knew the type of special creamer my host liked. So if I'm out and about, I picked it up for her because it wasn't available in every grocery store. The special type of coffee with chicory, so I picked that up because I'm not being made to pay rent. I'm just it's a blessing and a grace. So, you know, being able to watch their little one while they go out on a date night, I offer, don't pay me, don't even bring me a meal bag, I've got this because you're helping me." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "577.14996", "endTime": "589.545", "body": "So, it literally has given me the opportunity to see areas and check myself like if somebody else were in that predicament and they were contributing, would my heart have been as generous as somebody else?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "589.545", "endTime": "590.02496", "body": "Wow." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "590.02496", "endTime": "599.545", "body": "So I think in the midst of all of my stuff, there's still opportunity to learn lessons and I've opened myself up for that and in serving and giving I've also been receiving." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "599.94495", "endTime": "605.29", "body": "And I've also heard and I've experienced too serving others takes the focus and the attention on what" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "605.29", "endTime": "616.495", "body": "people Yes, very much so. Right. It makes it, you know what, it's just a different kind of day. It's not necessarily when I'd be jumping up and down about the sunshine versus the rain, but you get both in life. Right." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "616.495", "endTime": "620.015", "body": "And I think you need both in life for a balanced life to a degree." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "620.015", "endTime": "622.17505", "body": "Right. Yeah. Yeah. Good thing. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "622.17505", "endTime": "623.455", "body": "Okay. What we got?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "623.455", "endTime": "628.95", "body": "Number four. Well, we're almost there. Give thanks. Wow. Give thanks." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "628.95", "endTime": "630.79", "body": "That sounds like an oxymoron, doesn't it?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "630.79", "endTime": "638.23", "body": "Yeah. I mean, especially when you're going through. Mhmm. Right? My mother used to tell me, there's always somebody worse off than you." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "638.23", "endTime": "639.35", "body": "Amen, brother. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "639.35", "endTime": "653.04504", "body": "And so I would I used to look for that person, you know, and be like, thank you brother, you know, worse off than me. Yeah. But it wasn't about that. It was really, I think she was trying to get me to be grateful for where I was and what I had what I did have. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "653.04504", "endTime": "669.1", "body": "And so one of the things that I try to do every single day is well, I always wake up and the first thing I say is thank you, father. Wow. Thank you, Lord, right, for waking me up. And then I go through, you know, what am I thankful for? Mhmm." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "669.1", "endTime": "689.77", "body": "Like, what am I grateful for in this moment? And I do that early in the morning, and I mentioned this on another podcast, but, I do that early in the morning because when I do it early in the morning, it helps set the tone for the day. Exactly. And and it it it puts me in a in a mode to where I'm now looking to be thankful." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "689.77", "endTime": "690.25", "body": "Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "690.25", "endTime": "690.57", "body": "Right?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "690.57", "endTime": "690.89", "body": "Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "690.89", "endTime": "705.845", "body": "And so I can pinpoint certain things and say, okay, today, this happened. I'm thankful that Marnia, you know, is on the show. I'm thankful for the people that's supporting. I'm thankful for this, you know. And so it it it allows me to go through the day looking for opportunities of thanksgiving Mhmm." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "705.925", "endTime": "711.925", "body": "As opposed to being reactive and and thinking about, oh, what am I thankful for today? And using the same, oh, I'm thankful for" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "712.325", "endTime": "713.045", "body": "Right. Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "713.045", "endTime": "714.08496", "body": "No. Let's go deeper." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "714.14", "endTime": "714.54", "body": "Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "714.54", "endTime": "718.38", "body": "Let's give thanks and really just open up and just, you know, have a heart of thanksgiving." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "718.38", "endTime": "770.515", "body": "And that's a great point, the depths. During this time, January 2, kind of through the present, a lot of that depth for me was I literally had a cousin drop dead one morning. She got up, she'd just gotten back from Rome, had a great time with her very talented son and his band that had the honor of playing for the Pope for New Year's and was back. I had just talked to her the Thursday prior about other family in the Los Angeles area to check and see if their homes were safe from the fires. Thankfully, they had sold that home in Anaheim that burned but they weren't there, they were not in harm's way and we laughed, told her I loved her and then I get a call like a few days later that she literally had dropped dead of a heart attack that morning And it affected me and hit me in such a way and she's someone who loved life and was such a giver and so creative and in the midst of all that I'm going through, I was just like, wow, I'm still here for some reason and yet this joy and this light was taken." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "771.13", "endTime": "782.49", "body": "So do you do you point to something though? Because, you know, give thanks, sometimes it's hard for people to be thankful when they're going through. Mhmm. Right? And you just brought a major Mhmm." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "782.49", "endTime": "791.375", "body": "Challenge. Yeah. Instantly losing someone Yeah. It's so unexpected. So, you know, how can you be thankful when you're going through?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "791.455", "endTime": "855.59503", "body": "I think the the one thing I went back on with her, in particular was that we had just spoken. And we had laughed and I told her that I loved her and same and we didn't see each other that often, but she was always such a giver and she was so non judgmental and whenever we got together, I just felt such unconditional love from her and I chose to honor that and that's where I found the most thanks in that I I got that from her no matter what and I chose to, if if it makes sense to shower that on myself at this time, not to be judgmental about the position that I'm in. Because yes, I had a part to play in some of the things that have happened. However, I chose just to go forth, showing love like she would and just knowing that, you know, the time that I had with her and the times that we shared were so incredibly beautiful. Yeah, and just to have a great feeling about that and to focus on her young son, 19 year old son that's left and making sure that I can give back and be in his life in some way." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "855.84", "endTime": "866.56", "body": "And that's something you mentioned about what you focus on. Mhmm. Right? It's like, a lot of times we may have we would be going through in one area of our lives Mhmm. Or maybe two areas of life." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "866.56", "endTime": "881.975", "body": "Yeah. But if you really are honest, like, life terrible or are we going through hell in every area of life? And I don't know if I've ever been going through hell in every area of life to where I couldn't give thanks. Mhmm. Right?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "881.975", "endTime": "910.60504", "body": "And if I was, let's just say I was, one of the first things I, which that I try to do to have a attitude of gratitude would is to just say thank you. Find somebody to say thankful Yeah. Thank you to. And, like, for example, if I'm in a restaurant and, you know, I've been in restaurants and I have been in a depressed state and the waiter is bringing over certain things and just a simple thank you. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "910.60504", "endTime": "917.13", "body": "Thank you for that. Or opening somebody open my door. Thank you. It starts putting you in an attitude of gratitude." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "917.13", "endTime": "950.92", "body": "It truly does and to be grateful even that some people right now, I mean, as expensive as things are, they can't even sit at a table to be served by someone and to recognize, you know, the difference in, you know, cost of living for somebody. And I think, you know, it's it's kind of like a cheap way of getting by but it's like you could always be worse. But I think when you when it's like what you focus on expands. Yeah. So focusing on something that you desire versus what you're in and it's it's not necessarily a fake it till you make it, but it's that, you know what, it could be a lot worse." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "951.48505", "endTime": "978.0", "body": "Somebody smiled at me, somebody let me in in the midst of awful traffic before I've gotten to a gas tank and there was actually money on it. I was like, oh my gosh, you know, somebody prepaid and pulled off or whatever. I mean, just good small good things and I call them Godwinks. And just to like expand on the good things that happen and I think literally you draw to yourself more of that even in the midst of whatever else is happening." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "978.105", "endTime": "979.70496", "body": "Yes. You gotta choose to" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "979.545", "endTime": "987.46497", "body": "You have to choose to focus on that. Yeah. And not saying that the bad won't come, but it's like, you know what? I'm I'm still breathing. I have great health." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "988.505", "endTime": "992.185", "body": "I know the day the sun's gonna rise tomorrow and another step forward." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "992.4", "endTime": "995.76", "body": "Right. Yeah. Good deal. Yeah. Is it my turn or your turn?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "995.76", "endTime": "996.80005", "body": "My turn to" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "996.80005", "endTime": "999.60004", "body": "tell you think it's my turn. It's my turn? I think it's my turn." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "999.60004", "endTime": "1000.80005", "body": "Yeah. Ahead." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1000.80005", "endTime": "1007.45496", "body": "Yeah. So number five, we have pause, meditate, pray. What's your take on that?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1007.45496", "endTime": "1015.77496", "body": "Pause, meditate and pray. One, I believe in slowing down. Okay. Right? Slowing life down." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1015.77496", "endTime": "1018.44", "body": "I think of the matrix, right? That bullet time." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1018.44", "endTime": "1021.16", "body": "It's like, shoot. Okay. Kianu. Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1021.16", "endTime": "1030.6799", "body": "Yeah. Just slowing life down and just taking a pause. Taking a pause allows you to really ask yourself some key questions. Mhmm. Right?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1031.5851", "endTime": "1049.56", "body": "How am I feeling right now? And, you know, how do I wanna respond right now? Is this appropriate right now? And start weighing the consequences of whatever, you know, benefits or consequences to whatever you you decide. But, you know, a lot of times, you know, I know growing up I I was told meditation was spooky." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1049.56", "endTime": "1052.92", "body": "Oh. Right. Oh. You know, if you're a Christian, don't meditate. Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1052.92", "endTime": "1061.825", "body": "You know? And I think that's I think that's the craziest thing because I have a daily practice of meditation and prayer." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1061.825", "endTime": "1062.3049", "body": "Okay." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1062.3049", "endTime": "1065.1849", "body": "And I said meditation and prayer. So" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1066.625", "endTime": "1069.6649", "body": "Do you do that in the mornings? In the mornings. Okay. First thing." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1070.065", "endTime": "1072.3049", "body": "Well, there's sometimes I do it both." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1072.3999", "endTime": "1072.96", "body": "Okay." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1072.96", "endTime": "1085.12", "body": "There's sometimes when all hell is breaking loose, I will stop, pause, and meditate and pray. There you go. Right? Depending on what it is. So but my daily practice is always I wake up, I have a period of meditation and prayer." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1086.225", "endTime": "1115.135", "body": "And I pray first, and, then I go into a period of meditation of just relaxing before I get the kids up and get them off to school and really just picturing how I want the day to go. There you go. And picturing not just how I want the day to go, I want to feel throughout that time at the end of the For example, the other day I was like, you know what, there's a lot going on but today I want to feel accomplished. Mhmm. Right?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1115.215", "endTime": "1126.095", "body": "And so I You set your intention. Set my intention Mhmm. Through meditation. When there's a lot going on, I may stop and I may say, okay. Let me just meditate for five minutes." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1126.095", "endTime": "1139.2699", "body": "Just quiet everything, the room, and not answer the phone, not answer anything, and just put on some music and just meditate and just breathe and just relax. A lot of times it gets rid of the anxiety," }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1139.27", "endTime": "1139.4299", "body": "right?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1140.0851", "endTime": "1156.4601", "body": "And and I continue to pray, God help me in this particular situation. So I believe that pausing, meditating, and prayer can be used at the beginning, in the middle, and at the end of your day to even help you get rest and prepare your body for rest?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1156.4601", "endTime": "1230.895", "body": "And I think in critical times, in the midst of being scammed for an apartment, moving in with a co worker, then eventually getting an apartment on my own, I had gone on an application and paid for in full my error, been scammed basically on getting a Murphy bed and I'm at my place, I've got a rental van, I'm on the clock waiting for them to come and I ended up, I was scammed, You know, they didn't show up, didn't respond to me anything and I started to have a panic attack. And I was like, God, I've gotten this far, I know you're in it. I literally just had to drop to my knees and just pray and take deep breaths and just say, you know what, it's not the end of the world, I gotta keep on with my day, I've got time constraints, other good things to happen and I just had to do that to silence myself and then I just got up, locked the door, got in the van and kept it rolling. And I think, sometimes, it's everything's crushing in on us. Yeah, I mean, it's it's, you know, middle of the day, beginning of the day, end of the day, anytime, you know, if it's something happens at work or you get news forever, pull the car over, say a quick prayer at work, go to the bathroom, get on your knees in a stall or not on your knees, but close enough, you know." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1230.895", "endTime": "1231.135", "body": "And then" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1231.135", "endTime": "1258.005", "body": "not And not installing work. Yeah. But but, you know, even if it's elevator and push hold, whatever, where you have to get to a quiet place and just get your breathing set, get a drink of water, hydrate yourself is important, get your thoughts together, think of good things, and just keep it moving. It's not the end of the world. It may feel like it you've just been targeted and it's just you, it's not a great feeling, but just think of something good and just keep it moving." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1258.005", "endTime": "1272.7", "body": "And I said a quick quick prayer for the person. I said, I pray they need this money and it does them some good. Mhmm. I have learned in the midst of being scammed twice now majorly, I have not cursed these people. My grandmother used to always say don't let people take you out of yourself because then they have the control." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1272.86", "endTime": "1292.8049", "body": "So I haven't cursed. Now I have said you're evil, you're unprofessional, this is dishonest, I've said those things and she got the meaning, but I've just let it go. I've just had to let it go because what we focus on expands and we draw that same thing right back to us and I don't have that leisure for that any more of that type of energy." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1292.805", "endTime": "1304.72", "body": "I found that prayer, meditation, that's been my go to Mhmm. Right, in my toughest times. Right. And it has really worked wonders for me." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1304.72", "endTime": "1304.96", "body": "Mhmm." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1304.96", "endTime": "1314.015", "body": "And so that's one that I just hang my hat on. Yeah. Indeed. What about number six? Get active, walk, or workout?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1314.015", "endTime": "1349.7449", "body": "So crucial. I mean, think in the midst of our minds being so active, a lot of times I found my mind is most active when I'm the most still physically. So if I get up, like when I lost my job right after I saw you in September, I made a ritual of getting up first thing in the morning, walking two miles with my dog, and just breathing, listening to a podcast, you know, calling a family member, an elderly family member who couldn't get out and say I love them. Just, you know, going by and maybe, picking up a little muffin or something just to have somebody else to talk to because I was at home. And then middle of the day, I do another walk in a different direction." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1349.985", "endTime": "1365.61", "body": "But I think it's so crucial and I found when my mind is like focused on the birds and literally something outside or even walking in the rain sometimes. I mean when things are bad it's like to be emotionally drained, drenched, pulls you outside of yourself" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1365.61", "endTime": "1371.825", "body": "even though a myself. I saw you. Walked kicking" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1371.825", "endTime": "1373.4249", "body": "in the rain. When" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1375.665", "endTime": "1378.705", "body": "you said that, like, I wish I could see my nigga walking in the rain." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1378.705", "endTime": "1379.985", "body": "Here we go. I don't know if" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1379.985", "endTime": "1380.705", "body": "that was a sister" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1380.705", "endTime": "1384.94", "body": "or maybe she had braids. The hair thing. I don't know. That part." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1386.06", "endTime": "1403.1849", "body": "No. I I I definitely, you know, that's one thing that I've been trying to get some of my friends to do, like get active, you know, and it really just strengthens, you know, your mental, you know, focus, you know, capabilities and everything. And I like to work out every morning." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1403.1849", "endTime": "1403.505", "body": "Okay." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1403.505", "endTime": "1413.3999", "body": "Right? And you don't have to do a a long workout. Right? Walking, I like to run. But I I'm not one of those people that's in the gym, like, for two hours." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1413.3999", "endTime": "1416.84", "body": "No. Right. I'm in there forty five minutes tops. Mhmm. In and I'm out." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1416.84", "endTime": "1422.0399", "body": "That includes stretching, everything. And that's another thing that I've made a habit of doing. As we get older, I stretch." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1422.0399", "endTime": "1422.6799", "body": "That's true." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1422.6799", "endTime": "1426.3251", "body": "Gotta stretch, you know, wake up, stretch, hydrate." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1426.3251", "endTime": "1426.645", "body": "Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1426.645", "endTime": "1449.22", "body": "You know, all of those things. It helps get your mind going, and it produces, you know, the endorphins and all of that that we need, and it's just really helpful from a mental standpoint. Mhmm. So I'm one that I I work out at least three to four times a week, and I have friends that I'm always encouraging. Go take a walk." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1449.22", "endTime": "1463.025", "body": "Go work out. Man, your gut is, you know I tell people, like, look, man, don't call me, you know, when you die because have you ever, you know, carried a fat person's casket? It's heavy. You know what I'm saying? So go work out." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1463.025", "endTime": "1466.785", "body": "And so, it just really helps us from a mental mental standpoint." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1466.785", "endTime": "1467.985", "body": "That's so true. So true." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1468.23", "endTime": "1469.91", "body": "Next up. I think it's your turn." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1469.91", "endTime": "1474.5499", "body": "Oh, let's see. Disconnect from social media." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1474.79", "endTime": "1485.465", "body": "Now I'm good at this. Okay. Real talk, I don't like it anyway. Okay. Yeah, I always make a practice of disconnect." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1485.465", "endTime": "1503.2", "body": "I go out there when I have to and because I can't continue to feed myself that. And especially with all the things people will send me and I'm laughing and I will get up and start scrolling and getting jokes and everything like that. And then next thing you know, an hour has gone by. Right. You know?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1503.2", "endTime": "1505.28", "body": "And I'm like, I could have done so much in there." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1505.28", "endTime": "1506.88", "body": "It's amazing how quickly that happens." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1506.88", "endTime": "1522.055", "body": "You know? So I just disconnect just from a time management standpoint and because I don't want it flooding my brain. Now some people I know may be addicted to it. I'm not addicted to social media, but I'm addicted to a game on my phone." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1522.055", "endTime": "1522.295", "body": "Oh," }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1522.295", "endTime": "1525.5751", "body": "wow. And I have to do a better job of disconnecting from that." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1525.5751", "endTime": "1526.135", "body": "Okay." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1526.6951", "endTime": "1531.47", "body": "And full transparency, the game is called Royal Match." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1531.47", "endTime": "1532.27", "body": "Okay, really?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1532.27", "endTime": "1537.71", "body": "Yes. And I have not met anybody that has passed me on any level yet." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1537.71", "endTime": "1542.35", "body": "That's the king that's gonna get through the maze and the different challenges. I" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1542.43", "endTime": "1555.6549", "body": "tend to take screenshots or pictures of my phone because I'm at level 10,400 something. So I have actually beat the game to continue. Got an update. That lets you know, got" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1555.6549", "endTime": "1559.74", "body": "a problem. Maybe it's therapy though for you. You keep winning. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1559.74", "endTime": "1565.82", "body": "But, you know, I get to disconnect sometimes. So that's just mine is not social media. Yeah. Mine is royal match. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1565.82", "endTime": "1568.5399", "body": "Right? So I am I have beat the king Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1568.62", "endTime": "1603.8749", "body": "A royal match. I've used social media at times like this for motivation. And then I have some podcasts that I choose to listen to that are motivational or even when we talked about movement, just really quick TikTok videos or YouTube videos or exercises that I can just do in a moment's notice. So I use that for myself. Yeah, I don't I don't think I sit and I listen because I've got a counter on my phone that lets me know how many hours a week I've actually been online and when that pops up sometimes it's just so embarrassing I'm like I spent how much time where?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1604.0349", "endTime": "1613.8099", "body": "And so I make it a challenge to reduce that week by week by week so that's something that you know I've I've tried to challenge myself with in the midst of all this." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1613.8099", "endTime": "1620.85", "body": "You need to help me because I'm like, shut up, fool. Yeah. I mean, I'm just going through. Yeah. Oh, cool." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1620.85", "endTime": "1627.985", "body": "The next one we have, and you sort of talked about this is change your talk. Things happen for you and not to you." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1628.225", "endTime": "1666.0599", "body": "I, you know, that that's that's one to kind of pull apart. When I ran over that bolt in the car and then I looked to my left and it was a Goodyear tire place right there. And so I I anchored right over, parked, put the key through the slot, thinking it's just a flat tire, had no idea it was a bolt that had gone through tire and wheel. So I thought, okay, I've got my new place now, I'm ready to move, didn't happen in Stockbridge where the memorial service had been for my cousin the morning of, it was in the city with lights, so I was like, okay, that's a good thing, I'm in front of a car place, that's a good thing, they sell tires, that's a good thing. So I'm checking off all the good things." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1666.22", "endTime": "1698.66", "body": "But then I'm like, I I still can't get out of my friend's house, like, I'm ready to go. And so I had to say, okay, there's still something else for me to learn. There's still a lesson for me to get from this. So, just looked at it was it was the for me thing and and it was something the other day where literally the family has been so kind to me, where the husband was like, hey, we're going to dinner later on tonight, if you're available, you were welcome to come to it's Valentine's family dinner. And it touched me so because I discovered another love language that I didn't think I had." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1698.66", "endTime": "1725.87", "body": "As an only child growing up with my grandmother, when I'd go home at holidays family wouldn't necessarily invite me to the things they were doing, they would just go and do it but I had a room and the key to come and go at the house but I wasn't necessarily always included included. Like I might not be interested or they just didn't operate that way. So for them to stop and think, hey, you're coming too. I I was just like, I teared up a little bit and I was like, oh my gosh. So I'm like, okay, the lesson continues." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1725.87", "endTime": "1737.525", "body": "I'm still learning something. So I'm not thinking of it as a negative. They're not rushing me away. But I know, okay, this time here has been there have been lots of lessons for me to learn. So that's the way I've chosen to look at it." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1737.525", "endTime": "1743.525", "body": "You've gotta be intentional, very intentional in that moment. Mhmm. Right? To say, okay, God, what can I get out of this? Yep." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1743.525", "endTime": "1757.99", "body": "Right? No matter what. Even when you gave the example of, you know, your relative dying and and passing away, you know, right after you talk to her. Right? So, you have to be really intentional about grabbing for that moment and saying, okay." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1757.99", "endTime": "1761.51", "body": "What can I what can I listen? And so well, what can I learn from this?" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1761.51", "endTime": "1761.91", "body": "Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1761.91", "endTime": "1777.115", "body": "And so it's not one of those moments, you know, where it's that easy. Correct. Right? It just really takes a lot of intentionality. And once you do it once, you do it twice, you start to get into a a habit and a routine Correct." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1777.115", "endTime": "1779.0", "body": "And it becomes a part of part of you." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1779.0", "endTime": "1801.225", "body": "And I think growth happens then too. I don't necessarily think that much growth happens in the good times. We can celebrate, we can enjoy and our senses are there but I think in the quote unquote bad times or when all hell is breaking loose in our lives, the heat and the fire, you know, you're I I think one being so much more intentional and our minds are so much open because we're in a comfortable place." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1801.225", "endTime": "1801.5449", "body": "Mhmm." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1801.5449", "endTime": "1803.8649", "body": "So I think the lessons stick better." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1803.865", "endTime": "1804.665", "body": "Yeah. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1804.665", "endTime": "1818.2", "body": "You know? And I really just think and look at the kindness of people who aren't necessarily professed Christians but and they don't look like you and me Mhmm. But they have been genuine and real and true and I'm just like, wow." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1818.2", "endTime": "1818.6", "body": "Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1818.6", "endTime": "1853.805", "body": "You know? And it it's really gotten me a bird's eye view of how people are living and and not to be so judgmental. Yeah. And even, you know, in my perspective of things, even while I was there, the husband's father had his vehicle repossessed because of, you know, some loans they owe on another investment they've done that hasn't necessarily panned out. And I'm thinking, oh my gosh, like, you know, they are twenty more years older than me and there's having bad stuff happen to them and he turned to me, he's like, see Marnia, it doesn't end, it's just not you." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1853.805", "endTime": "1854.365", "body": "Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1854.365", "endTime": "1865.3099", "body": "And it just made it more real for me because I think as a single individual, I've just only been in my world and what's been around me, but to see that it is real life happening to everybody." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1865.3099", "endTime": "1868.19", "body": "Right. Yeah. Yeah. That's a that's a good point." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1868.19", "endTime": "1875.8049", "body": "Yeah. That's a good point. Good deal. So for you, number nine, make God bigger than your problem." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1876.365", "endTime": "1886.605", "body": "Making God bigger than your problem. You know, I think this one we sort of touched on because on what you focus on. Mhmm. Right? Whatever you focus on is magnified as we said." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1886.765", "endTime": "1905.1951", "body": "Right? So the things that the way to make God bigger than your problem is to really not focus on the problem. Right. Right? And to understand through, you know, self talk and through understanding you know, I won't say I I try to assume that everybody knows the word of God, but they don't." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1905.1951", "endTime": "1905.5951", "body": "They don't." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1905.5951", "endTime": "1924.81", "body": "Right? So but but under and getting around listening to podcasts and those types of things that can actually feed you the word of God, They're just different things that I I do in thinking of making God bigger than my problem. Right? Just trying to extract the lessons, prayer, meditation. God, what is it you want me to get from this?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1925.255", "endTime": "1949.11", "body": "God, who can I even help while I'm going through this? Right? Because if I'm gonna make God my, bigger than my problem, I'm gonna focus on him and what he wants me to do. Even when I feel overwhelmed, I don't have time or anything like that, I just turn to God and say, God, in this moment I have this amount of hours I have to do x y z. Show me what it is you want me to focus on" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1949.35", "endTime": "1949.59", "body": "Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1949.59", "endTime": "1966.585", "body": "To prioritize so that I can be successful in your eyes. And that is a prayer that I pray in the midst of, you know, all hell breaking loose when I feel overwhelmed so that I don't continue to feel overwhelmed. It's like, hey, God, I need your help. Right. So I'm going I know you're a helper." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "1966.585", "endTime": "1979.96", "body": "I know you can help me. I know you can you can give me directions so I'm gonna lean on you to do so. So it's really just focusing on God for who he is and God to direct you at that moment. And so that's how I focus on God and make him bigger than my problem." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "1979.96", "endTime": "2025.84", "body": "Right. And I think, Chris, by you being obedient and obedient Stewart with that, by you taking that assignment of focusing on what he wants you to focus on, it, I think somehow quietly shows you you're still you, his child, his son outside of that problem. In the midst of all this, and I was never one to rely on somebody, it's like dropping off a rental vehicle, somebody coming to pick me up and relying on them and calling instead of calling an Uber, it really has been like, oh my gosh, I've immersed myself in allowing people to see my trauma, my drama, my issues, my faults. But when I get into the vehicle with said person, they had had some awful words with an in law. So I'm counseling them in the midst of my stuff, helping them see another way they could have done something." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2026.0", "endTime": "2063.515", "body": "So in allowing, you know, God, okay, you're showing me how to be less selfish, you're showing me how to be more giving in the midst of all the stuff I'm going through, you're showing me how to counsel and help somebody else and have a tone, well I'm an outsider, they will hear me outside of those familiar voices around them. So I'm taking that assignment on and he's showing me I can hold more than I think I can. So my vessel is expanding and it wasn't hardened, it's just in a growing position. And it's funny as I'm counseling somebody else, I'm also counseling myself. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2063.515", "endTime": "2065.515", "body": "And you're getting what you need Exactly." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2065.515", "endTime": "2068.875", "body": "In that moment. And I'm like, you wreak up, you know, right. Yeah." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2068.875", "endTime": "2076.77", "body": "Exactly what you need. Yeah. The last one I think is so important. Seek help." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2076.77", "endTime": "2087.09", "body": "But let me say, it's not that easy. And I think in the midst of this whole whole experience, it's it's hard, I think. You can tell people a little bit of something" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2087.33", "endTime": "2087.49", "body": "Mhmm." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2087.57", "endTime": "2102.895", "body": "But then to tell them all the things and pull back the full cover on everything, it's extremely vulnerable. And it's just a gift to have people around you that receive you as you are and not to pacify you" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2103.135", "endTime": "2103.375", "body": "Right." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2103.39", "endTime": "2123.065", "body": "I mean to call, you know, a spade a spade when something is really wrong and something is up, but also people who can offer you aid and assistance. Mhmm. I had a beloved relative call who basically was like, well you're homeless and da da da da and the way he was talking, it was to like dump his worry on me as opposed to how can I help you?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2123.065", "endTime": "2123.4648", "body": "Right." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2123.4648", "endTime": "2161.715", "body": "And it was triggering and it was hurtful but I was able to put a boundary up and it was like, I'm not homeless, I am in a transition and I'm moving to the next phase. It's not a traditional way to go. So I chose where I was going to get the help from that. I knew he meant love but it wasn't a helpful conversation. Whereas other people, Marnie, it's a transition, we've all gone through it and you're gonna move to the next da da da da da And they can offer help or offer a place to go or who to call or and I know God sees me just because of the people that have been in my life that have just I haven't heard from them in ages and here they are calling, emailing, whatever." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2161.955", "endTime": "2164.6602", "body": "And it's just been such such a grace." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2164.9001", "endTime": "2189.035", "body": "It's it's funny you mentioned that because it brought me to a time, well, when I was just going through my one of my lowest points. Mhmm. And I called a relative, and, you know, I felt like I had been wronged by somebody and, you know, it just really hurt me. And, the relative, I'm trying not tell which relative it is, but he he was just so angry. Right?" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2189.035", "endTime": "2198.19", "body": "And he was just so worried and concerned and he he was just dumping on me like and I like he was just like he was going through it." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2198.19", "endTime": "2198.67", "body": "Yes." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2198.67", "endTime": "2207.725", "body": "Yeah. And I had to be careful. I had to set that boundary like you said because I didn't want his emotional response to be my emotional response. Right? And and I'm like, oh, man." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2207.725", "endTime": "2209.405", "body": "I'm not even there. I'm going through" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2209.405", "endTime": "2209.885", "body": "it. Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2209.885", "endTime": "2223.3801", "body": "So, you know, is this even really real? Or are you just acting because you think you're supposed to be this upset? Like, you know what? I don't need this. You know, this is the this is not the help that I need." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2223.62", "endTime": "2241.5352", "body": "I need to be more mindful of, you know, positive, you know, people speaking positivity and life into me, speaking the word of God into me. And so all this whole angry thing, angry, angry black man and oh, let's go fight like, man, you know, you ain't gonna fight, man, you know, it's like," }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2241.5352", "endTime": "2277.35", "body": "what do you wanna do Don't feel guilty when you set your boundary up. Right. Because I think for some people, depending on who that person is that calls us, we've reverenced them for so long or they've been such a stabilizing feature in our lives that we feel like we can't put boundaries up and when we do for the first time it can be a little shaky and unnerving, I think it's the language we use and it's knowing that you know what, you need to focus on yourself right at this point in time and if there's no ill intent coming from you but you're just simply protecting as much as you can contain right now, you can't hold anymore and you're going in a different direction." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2277.35", "endTime": "2281.03", "body": "Yep. Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. Marnia, that is our top" }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2281.03", "endTime": "2282.6301", "body": "10 things to" }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2282.71", "endTime": "2306.8901", "body": "do keep from losing your So no matter what's going on in your life, finances, you've gone through your finance, transition, and scam, and car, and, everything you can think of. And we've both just shared some experiences. And I just wanna commend you, Marnead. You have truly walked this out. You're still walking it out as you're going through different things." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2306.8901", "endTime": "2320.515", "body": "So I just wanna thank you. One of the things that I think that to sum it all up is that if I were to really look at what we were saying, it was like, one, you have the opportunity to choose Correct. Whether or not you're gonna, you know, just go crazy." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2320.515", "endTime": "2320.835", "body": "Right." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2320.835", "endTime": "2336.9001", "body": "Right? So number one is a choice. And number two, you know, your inputs, what you take in will definitely shape your perspective, and your perspective will really serve as the anchor for the piece that you're that you're gonna have or not gonna have." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2336.9001", "endTime": "2337.22", "body": "Correct." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2337.22", "endTime": "2353.445", "body": "Right? Right. And so I I heard the choice. I heard that, you know, your inputs is important, but also what you focus on, what you decide to focus on. And we gave a little a few tricks on how to, you know, just some cheat codes." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2353.445", "endTime": "2371.625", "body": "Right? Like saying thank you and showing gratitude or go going to serve others naturally puts you in a proper, mindset to really help you go out and really conquer the challenges. And so, you know, I wanna thank you for everything that you've given. I wanna thank you for the support that you've given to show. I wanna Of course." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2371.625", "endTime": "2379.305", "body": "Of also congratulate you for everything that you're doing and for just pushing through. And just as we're closing, just let people know where they can find you." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2379.305", "endTime": "2394.34", "body": "Well, thank you again for having me, Chris. You know, you called me out of the blue as well. That was one of those great phone calls, but I'm available at gravely mitchell on IG. And yeah, so just it's it's this is real. I mean, I can't explain it sometimes." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2394.34", "endTime": "2405.4849", "body": "It's just just bust out laughing, you know, you just you just have to keep a vibrant, hopeful personality and just it's important to keep moving." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2405.4849", "endTime": "2405.9648", "body": "Right." }, { "speaker": "Marneia Gravely Mitchell", "startTime": "2405.9648", "endTime": "2416.06", "body": "You know, you can't sit there and stew in the thing. You've got there's a responsibility we have to take for ourselves, but just to keep moving and keep asking for help, and there are good, great people out there." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2416.22", "endTime": "2425.26", "body": "Absolutely. Yeah. So thanks again, Marnee Marneeya. Y'all, I wanna thank y'all for coming and checking us out on the When All Hell Breaks Loose podcast. I'm Chris King." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2425.26", "endTime": "2439.315", "body": "We've had our guest, Marneeya Mitchell. Go check us out on all the streaming platforms, also on our website, When All Hell Breaks These Podcast. Go out, tell your friends, tell your neighbors, even tell your enemies. Well, tell them we love to come check us out. Like us, subscribe us." }, { "speaker": "Chris King", "startTime": "2439.395", "endTime": "2455.55", "body": "You know? Also, make sure that you get with some people that will walk this out with you, that will speak positivity into your life. And I know that you can also get through because life is worth living and so are you. Y'all be blessed." } ] }