1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,375 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:12,958 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:12,958 --> 01:00:14,875 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:14,875 --> 01:00:16,875 Well I hope you're easing into this day 6 01:00:16,875 --> 01:00:18,208 and into this holiday 7 01:00:18,208 --> 01:00:20,041 week and I'm shooting here 8 01:00:20,041 --> 01:00:21,875 on location getting into the Christmas 9 01:00:21,875 --> 01:00:24,291 mood in that cool, clean mountain air. 10 01:00:24,750 --> 01:00:26,541 So let's get you in the mood to conquer 11 01:00:26,541 --> 01:00:27,583 this day with a quote 12 01:00:27,583 --> 01:00:29,583 from Holly Madison, who once 13 01:00:29,625 --> 01:00:32,416 said, "You don't have to fit into someone 14 01:00:32,416 --> 01:00:35,000 else's idea of who you should be." 15 01:00:35,708 --> 01:00:37,541 And that's a good reminder this time of 16 01:00:37,541 --> 01:00:38,833 year, especially when 17 01:00:38,833 --> 01:00:40,625 expectations start piling 18 01:00:40,791 --> 01:00:43,375 up like all those unopened Amazon boxes. 19 01:00:43,916 --> 01:00:45,208 Well here are your four moments that 20 01:00:45,208 --> 01:00:47,583 matter for December 23rd. 21 01:00:47,583 --> 01:00:48,500 Today's special day is 22 01:00:48,500 --> 01:00:51,375 National Christmas Movie Marathon Day. 23 01:00:51,375 --> 01:00:53,375 Okay, top Christmas movie for you. 24 01:00:53,583 --> 01:00:55,375 National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation? 25 01:00:55,791 --> 01:00:56,000 Elf? 26 01:00:56,208 --> 01:00:56,500 Home Alone? 27 01:00:56,833 --> 01:00:57,833 I don't know, you let me know. 28 01:00:58,500 --> 01:01:00,625 Today's historic moment on this day when 29 01:01:00,625 --> 01:01:01,750 artist Vincent van 30 01:01:01,750 --> 01:01:02,875 Gogh, he was struggling 31 01:01:02,916 --> 01:01:04,541 deeply with mental illness at the time. 32 01:01:04,875 --> 01:01:06,625 Well this is the day he famously injured 33 01:01:06,625 --> 01:01:08,291 his ear, later documenting 34 01:01:08,291 --> 01:01:09,625 the moment in his haunting 35 01:01:09,625 --> 01:01:11,875 self-portrait, The Bandaged Ear. 36 01:01:12,500 --> 01:01:14,041 Alright, the number one song on this day 37 01:01:14,041 --> 01:01:16,875 back in 2010 was Firework by Katy Perry. 38 01:01:17,416 --> 01:01:18,625 Now I'm not sure how to make this one 39 01:01:18,625 --> 01:01:20,041 into some holiday related fact. 40 01:01:20,541 --> 01:01:21,833 Oh, New Year's, it's 41 01:01:21,833 --> 01:01:22,916 just over a week away. 42 01:01:23,375 --> 01:01:24,708 Well happy birthday to you 43 01:01:24,708 --> 01:01:26,166 of today's your birthday. 44 01:01:26,750 --> 01:01:28,958 You share with author and media 45 01:01:28,958 --> 01:01:30,750 personality Holly Madison, she's 46 46 01:01:30,750 --> 01:01:32,166 today, musician Eddie 47 01:01:32,166 --> 01:01:35,250 Vetter, he's 61 today, and actress Susan 48 01:01:35,250 --> 01:01:37,041 Lucci, she's 79 today. 49 01:01:37,500 --> 01:01:39,208 That brings us to our book segment and we 50 01:01:39,208 --> 01:01:40,625 continue reviewing Mel 51 01:01:40,625 --> 01:01:41,500 Robbins, The Let Them 52 01:01:41,500 --> 01:01:41,750 Theory. 53 01:01:42,291 --> 01:01:44,291 In today's chapter is entitled, Wishing 54 01:01:44,291 --> 01:01:45,416 Someone Would Change. 55 01:01:46,416 --> 01:01:48,208 Robbins opens this section with a truth 56 01:01:48,208 --> 01:01:49,375 many of us recognize 57 01:01:49,375 --> 01:01:51,708 instantly, "Nothing drains 58 01:01:51,708 --> 01:01:54,166 your energy faster than wanting someone 59 01:01:54,166 --> 01:01:55,125 else to be different." 60 01:01:56,291 --> 01:01:58,458 And Mel explains that often we believe if 61 01:01:58,458 --> 01:01:59,541 another person would 62 01:01:59,541 --> 01:02:00,791 just change, they would 63 01:02:00,791 --> 01:02:03,791 be kinder, calmer, more responsible that 64 01:02:03,791 --> 01:02:05,000 our life would improve. 65 01:02:05,500 --> 01:02:06,208 But that belief 66 01:02:06,208 --> 01:02:08,333 quietly hands away our power. 67 01:02:08,833 --> 01:02:10,875 Mel writes, "The moment you expect 68 01:02:10,875 --> 01:02:12,333 someone else to change, you 69 01:02:12,333 --> 01:02:13,916 stop living your own life." 70 01:02:15,041 --> 01:02:16,958 And that expectation creates frustration, 71 01:02:17,250 --> 01:02:19,000 resentment, and emotional exhaustion. 72 01:02:19,750 --> 01:02:20,458 And the hardest part? 73 01:02:20,750 --> 01:02:21,916 We usually don't even 74 01:02:21,916 --> 01:02:23,291 realize that we're doing it. 75 01:02:23,833 --> 01:02:26,000 Now Robbins encourages a radical change, 76 01:02:26,000 --> 01:02:27,375 but a freeing mindset shift. 77 01:02:28,000 --> 01:02:29,875 Let them be who they are, not because 78 01:02:29,875 --> 01:02:31,166 it's easy, not because it's 79 01:02:31,166 --> 01:02:33,125 fair, but because resisting 80 01:02:33,125 --> 01:02:35,208 reality only creates suffering. 81 01:02:35,666 --> 01:02:37,541 She explains, "Acceptance is not 82 01:02:37,541 --> 01:02:38,666 agreement, acceptance 83 01:02:38,666 --> 01:02:40,083 is acknowledging what is. 84 01:02:40,458 --> 01:02:42,125 And this chapter is especially powerful 85 01:02:42,125 --> 01:02:43,083 during the holidays, 86 01:02:43,500 --> 01:02:44,916 when family dynamics, those 87 01:02:45,041 --> 01:02:46,916 old rules, and those old unmet 88 01:02:46,916 --> 01:02:48,583 expectations, they resurface. 89 01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:50,916 And Robbins reminds us that adults change 90 01:02:50,916 --> 01:02:52,416 only when they choose 91 01:02:52,416 --> 01:02:53,791 to, not when we lecture, 92 01:02:54,000 --> 01:02:55,375 or guilt, or hope harder. 93 01:02:55,875 --> 01:02:57,583 The turning point, it comes when she 94 01:02:57,583 --> 01:02:58,708 introduces the second 95 01:02:58,708 --> 01:02:59,750 half of the equation. 96 01:03:00,375 --> 01:03:00,750 Let me. 97 01:03:01,125 --> 01:03:02,750 Let me set boundaries. 98 01:03:02,750 --> 01:03:04,291 Let me protect my peace. 99 01:03:04,291 --> 01:03:05,750 Let me stop waiting." 100 01:03:06,291 --> 01:03:08,083 She writes, "When you stop wishing 101 01:03:08,083 --> 01:03:09,291 someone would change, you 102 01:03:09,291 --> 01:03:11,500 create space to change yourself." 103 01:03:12,041 --> 01:03:12,666 And that's where 104 01:03:12,666 --> 01:03:14,625 clarity and relief begin. 105 01:03:15,291 --> 01:03:16,958 Not by controlling others, but by 106 01:03:16,958 --> 01:03:18,458 choosing your response. 107 01:03:19,000 --> 01:03:20,708 Okay, here's your Tuesday takeaway. 108 01:03:21,500 --> 01:03:23,291 Stop waiting for someone else to change. 109 01:03:24,000 --> 01:03:25,791 Let them and choose you. 110 01:03:26,583 --> 01:03:28,750 So whether you're queuing up a holiday 111 01:03:28,750 --> 01:03:30,375 movie or navigating some 112 01:03:30,375 --> 01:03:32,500 complicated emotions, today 113 01:03:32,500 --> 01:03:33,541 is a chance to release 114 01:03:33,541 --> 01:03:34,750 what you can't control. 115 01:03:35,166 --> 01:03:36,166 Hey, thanks for spending part of your 116 01:03:36,166 --> 01:03:37,416 morning with Morning Serial today. 117 01:03:37,750 --> 01:03:39,916 We will have many episodes through the 118 01:03:39,916 --> 01:03:41,291 end of the year before 119 01:03:41,291 --> 01:03:42,375 resuming full episodes 120 01:03:42,375 --> 01:03:43,166 in the new year. 121 01:04:11,625 --> 01:04:12,500 We will see you back here again tomorrow 122 01:04:12,500 --> 01:04:13,208 on Christmas Eve, and until 123 01:04:13,208 --> 01:04:13,458 then, have a fantastic day. 124 01:04:13,500 --> 01:04:15,333 Self-improvement, well-being, business 125 01:04:15,333 --> 01:04:16,875 and finance, and we 126 01:04:16,875 --> 01:04:18,125 welcome special guests too. 127 01:04:18,666 --> 01:04:19,375 So join us. 128 01:04:19,375 --> 01:04:20,666 It'll be a good time, I promise. 129 01:04:21,416 --> 01:04:22,500 Thanks again for listening. 130 01:04:22,500 --> 01:04:23,625 Have a fantastic day, 131 01:04:23,916 --> 01:04:24,583 and we'll see you tomorrow.