1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:05,958 welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:11,833 --> 01:00:13,041 Okay good morning everyone 4 01:00:13,041 --> 01:00:14,500 and welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:14,958 --> 01:00:17,083 If you're weak or a movie, today is the 6 01:00:17,083 --> 01:00:18,333 part where the hero's 7 01:00:18,333 --> 01:00:19,250 going to be exhausted. 8 01:00:19,666 --> 01:00:22,083 It probably just started raining but hey, 9 01:00:22,416 --> 01:00:23,375 you're still pushing 10 01:00:23,375 --> 01:00:25,166 forward with a granola 11 01:00:25,166 --> 01:00:26,750 bar and some sarcastic 12 01:00:26,750 --> 01:00:28,000 determination, right? 13 01:00:28,500 --> 01:00:29,625 So let's just lean 14 01:00:29,625 --> 01:00:31,166 into this mid-week day. 15 01:00:31,666 --> 01:00:34,250 Now our quote to get you moving today is 16 01:00:34,250 --> 01:00:35,875 from Ed Sheeran who said 17 01:00:35,875 --> 01:00:37,083 quote, "Everything will 18 01:00:37,083 --> 01:00:38,166 be okay in the end. 19 01:00:38,583 --> 01:00:41,291 If it's not okay, it's not the end." 20 01:00:41,291 --> 01:00:41,666 End quote. 21 01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:44,625 Now I really like this perspective. 22 01:00:45,208 --> 01:00:47,125 Ed's emphasizing that as long as you are 23 01:00:47,125 --> 01:00:48,000 still experiencing 24 01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:50,833 struggles, your story isn't finished 25 01:00:51,208 --> 01:00:52,041 and you have the 26 01:00:52,041 --> 01:00:54,500 opportunity to keep moving forward. 27 01:00:54,833 --> 01:00:56,125 Now I love that. 28 01:00:56,625 --> 01:00:59,125 Alright, well here are your four moments 29 01:00:59,125 --> 01:01:01,000 that matter for December 3rd. 30 01:01:01,250 --> 01:01:05,000 First, back in 2019, Spotify says Drake 31 01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:06,750 was the most streamed 32 01:01:06,750 --> 01:01:09,375 star of the 2010s with 28 33 01:01:09,708 --> 01:01:12,666 billion streams while Ed Sheeran's Shape 34 01:01:12,666 --> 01:01:14,291 of You was the most 35 01:01:14,291 --> 01:01:17,208 streamed track with 2.4 billion 36 01:01:17,833 --> 01:01:18,041 streams. 37 01:01:18,833 --> 01:01:20,541 Alright, number two, today is National 38 01:01:20,541 --> 01:01:22,208 Green Bean Castle Roll 39 01:01:22,208 --> 01:01:23,916 Day and we all know why that 40 01:01:23,916 --> 01:01:24,250 is. 41 01:01:24,958 --> 01:01:26,666 Because you have so much of 42 01:01:26,666 --> 01:01:28,208 it left over from Thanksgiving. 43 01:01:28,750 --> 01:01:30,000 That is nobody's favorite. 44 01:01:30,458 --> 01:01:31,208 It's definitely not mine. 45 01:01:31,791 --> 01:01:33,291 Alright, number three, the number one 46 01:01:33,291 --> 01:01:34,500 song on this date back 47 01:01:34,500 --> 01:01:37,375 in 1988 was Look Away by 48 01:01:37,375 --> 01:01:37,916 Chicago. 49 01:01:38,416 --> 01:01:40,416 Now this song was on Chicago's Greatest 50 01:01:40,416 --> 01:01:42,416 Hits CD, which was one 51 01:01:42,416 --> 01:01:43,500 of the first CDs that I 52 01:01:43,500 --> 01:01:44,083 actually bought. 53 01:01:44,541 --> 01:01:47,000 Now every track on that CD is burned into 54 01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:48,250 my being and I bought 55 01:01:48,250 --> 01:01:49,291 that CD along with the 56 01:01:49,291 --> 01:01:50,583 Def Leppard hysteria CD. 57 01:01:51,208 --> 01:01:52,166 Alright, well number 58 01:01:52,166 --> 01:01:54,000 four, happy birthday to you. 59 01:01:54,000 --> 01:01:55,083 Today is your birthday. 60 01:01:55,500 --> 01:01:56,875 You share it with actress 61 01:01:56,875 --> 01:01:58,666 and singer Amanda Seifried. 62 01:01:59,000 --> 01:02:00,291 She's 39 today. 63 01:02:00,916 --> 01:02:01,833 Actor and the comeback 64 01:02:01,833 --> 01:02:03,083 king, Brendan Fraser. 65 01:02:03,625 --> 01:02:04,958 He's 57 today. 66 01:02:05,708 --> 01:02:06,500 Actress Julianna Moore. 67 01:02:06,750 --> 01:02:08,125 She's 65 today. 68 01:02:08,791 --> 01:02:11,875 And a rock legend, the late Ozzy Osbourne 69 01:02:11,875 --> 01:02:14,208 was born on this date back in 1948. 70 01:02:15,291 --> 01:02:17,333 Alright, well today in Mel Robbins, The 71 01:02:17,333 --> 01:02:18,541 Let Them Theory, in our 72 01:02:18,541 --> 01:02:20,875 book review, Robbins introduces 73 01:02:21,000 --> 01:02:23,125 the three pillars of friendship. 74 01:02:23,833 --> 01:02:26,041 And the clarity here is a 75 01:02:26,041 --> 01:02:28,000 breath of fresh air for all of us. 76 01:02:28,291 --> 01:02:29,875 And she opens with this grounding 77 01:02:29,875 --> 01:02:31,666 statement, "Friendship 78 01:02:31,666 --> 01:02:33,708 isn't magic, it's architecture." 79 01:02:34,416 --> 01:02:35,875 Now this is the idea that friendships, 80 01:02:36,125 --> 01:02:37,125 they just don't happen. 81 01:02:37,583 --> 01:02:39,750 They stand on foundational supports. 82 01:02:40,250 --> 01:02:42,166 And when those supports shift or when 83 01:02:42,166 --> 01:02:43,333 they weaken the 84 01:02:43,333 --> 01:02:45,208 friendships, they naturally change 85 01:02:45,291 --> 01:02:45,625 shape. 86 01:02:46,416 --> 01:02:48,458 And Robbins identifies the three pillars 87 01:02:48,458 --> 01:02:51,625 as proximity, timing, and energy. 88 01:02:52,166 --> 01:02:53,625 Each equally essential 89 01:02:53,625 --> 01:02:54,916 to a friendship, okay? 90 01:02:55,333 --> 01:02:57,333 She explains that most of the confusion 91 01:02:57,333 --> 01:02:58,583 we feel in adulthood 92 01:02:58,583 --> 01:03:00,791 comes from misreading one 93 01:03:00,791 --> 01:03:02,500 of these three categories. 94 01:03:03,000 --> 01:03:04,500 For example, you might deeply love 95 01:03:04,500 --> 01:03:06,041 someone, but if the timing 96 01:03:06,041 --> 01:03:08,083 is off, busy seasons, baby 97 01:03:08,083 --> 01:03:10,291 stress or career chaos, 98 01:03:10,750 --> 01:03:12,166 the closeness it fades. 99 01:03:12,750 --> 01:03:14,916 Not because anyone failed, but because 100 01:03:14,916 --> 01:03:17,625 the pillar wasn't strong at that moment. 101 01:03:18,458 --> 01:03:20,708 Now one line that hits especially hard is 102 01:03:20,708 --> 01:03:22,208 this one, "Good 103 01:03:22,208 --> 01:03:24,083 friendships survive distance, 104 01:03:24,541 --> 01:03:27,375 but close friendships require pillars." 105 01:03:28,666 --> 01:03:30,833 Now Robbins encourages readers to 106 01:03:30,833 --> 01:03:31,750 approach friendship 107 01:03:31,750 --> 01:03:34,000 without guilt, without pressure, 108 01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:34,458 or without these 109 01:03:34,458 --> 01:03:36,875 unrealistic expectations, okay? 110 01:03:37,208 --> 01:03:38,708 Instead, evaluate the pillars with 111 01:03:38,708 --> 01:03:40,250 honesty and kindness. 112 01:03:40,666 --> 01:03:41,625 Which ones are strong? 113 01:03:41,875 --> 01:03:42,958 Which ones are shaky? 114 01:03:43,583 --> 01:03:44,875 Which ones can you strengthen? 115 01:03:45,500 --> 01:03:47,833 Her biggest message in this chapter is, 116 01:03:47,833 --> 01:03:49,625 "If a friendship feels 117 01:03:49,625 --> 01:03:51,416 hard, it's not a character 118 01:03:51,500 --> 01:03:51,750 flaw. 119 01:03:52,125 --> 01:03:54,166 It's usually a pillar problem." 120 01:03:55,416 --> 01:03:57,708 Now this shift removes the drama and it 121 01:03:57,708 --> 01:03:58,708 brings in compassion. 122 01:03:59,291 --> 01:04:01,083 It helps us to see friendships more like 123 01:04:01,083 --> 01:04:02,750 living structures that need 124 01:04:02,750 --> 01:04:04,333 maintenance, not emotional 125 01:04:04,500 --> 01:04:05,250 mysteries, right? 126 01:04:05,625 --> 01:04:07,833 Okay, here is your hump day takeaway. 127 01:04:08,791 --> 01:04:09,750 Strong friendships stand on 128 01:04:09,750 --> 01:04:11,750 proximity, timing, and energy. 129 01:04:12,333 --> 01:04:14,041 Understand those pillars and you 130 01:04:14,041 --> 01:04:15,416 understand the friendship. 131 01:04:16,208 --> 01:04:18,583 Okay, Wednesday, we see you, but today, 132 01:04:19,208 --> 01:04:21,208 build the pillars that matter, okay? 133 01:04:21,416 --> 01:04:23,625 And let the rest fall where it may. 134 01:04:24,041 --> 01:04:25,041 Hey, thanks so much for listening to 135 01:04:25,041 --> 01:04:25,916 Morning Serial today. 136 01:04:25,916 --> 01:04:27,791 We will see you back here tomorrow and 137 01:04:27,791 --> 01:04:30,666 until then, have a fantastic day. 138 01:04:31,416 --> 01:04:33,875 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 139 01:04:33,875 --> 01:04:34,583 the Morning Serial 140 01:04:34,583 --> 01:04:36,625 podcast on the One Life Live 141 01:04:36,625 --> 01:04:37,041 It channel. 142 01:04:37,750 --> 01:04:39,583 You can find more episodes and videos by 143 01:04:39,583 --> 01:04:40,333 visiting our YouTube 144 01:04:40,333 --> 01:04:41,625 channel and the website 145 01:04:41,750 --> 01:04:43,625 at seanenglishless and at 146 01:04:43,625 --> 01:04:45,750 seanenglish.com, where you can also 147 01:04:45,750 --> 01:04:47,541 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