1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:12,083 --> 01:00:14,125 Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday. 4 01:00:14,791 --> 01:00:16,375 And also, welcome to March. 5 01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:19,208 And as I mentioned on Friday, we can look 6 01:00:19,208 --> 01:00:21,166 forward to March Madness this month. 7 01:00:21,166 --> 01:00:22,833 It's the NCAA basketball tournament. 8 01:00:23,083 --> 01:00:24,375 I'm sure everybody knows that. 9 01:00:24,583 --> 01:00:27,583 But because of that, March is also known 10 01:00:27,583 --> 01:00:29,000 as the worst month 11 01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:30,125 for worker productivity. 12 01:00:31,166 --> 01:00:33,416 And maybe better for our frame of mind, 13 01:00:33,416 --> 01:00:35,375 especially if you're a Jayhawk alum like 14 01:00:35,375 --> 01:00:37,166 me, March symbolizes 15 01:00:37,166 --> 01:00:39,541 new growth and transformation as we move 16 01:00:39,541 --> 01:00:40,625 from winter to spring. 17 01:00:41,583 --> 01:00:43,000 And that's a nice way to start the new 18 01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:44,500 work week, right, in the new month. 19 01:00:44,750 --> 01:00:46,708 But tomorrow, I'll tell you how March 20 01:00:46,708 --> 01:00:48,000 actually got its name. 21 01:00:48,416 --> 01:00:49,541 And it's not nearly as 22 01:00:49,541 --> 01:00:50,625 good of a feel-good story. 23 01:00:51,375 --> 01:00:52,541 Hey, happy clean Monday. 24 01:00:52,833 --> 01:00:54,000 It's also National 25 01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:55,291 Simplify Your Life Day. 26 01:00:55,666 --> 01:00:58,041 And national, I want you to be happy day. 27 01:00:58,750 --> 01:00:59,875 Prediction, this is 28 01:00:59,875 --> 01:01:00,916 going to be a great day. 29 01:01:01,250 --> 01:01:02,916 It's also going to be a great week and a 30 01:01:02,916 --> 01:01:04,208 great month for all of us. 31 01:01:04,625 --> 01:01:04,958 All right. 32 01:01:05,666 --> 01:01:07,250 Well, we're going to need some seriously 33 01:01:07,250 --> 01:01:09,541 positive quotes today to live up to that. 34 01:01:10,458 --> 01:01:12,125 One fun, nostalgic quote, and then a 35 01:01:12,125 --> 01:01:13,000 second quote to tease our 36 01:01:13,000 --> 01:01:13,916 book review later in the 37 01:01:13,916 --> 01:01:14,291 episode. 38 01:01:14,875 --> 01:01:16,125 Hopefully, one of these quotes will speak 39 01:01:16,125 --> 01:01:16,916 to you and jumpstart 40 01:01:16,916 --> 01:01:18,000 your day and your week 41 01:01:18,416 --> 01:01:19,583 in a positive direction. 42 01:01:20,750 --> 01:01:20,958 Okay. 43 01:01:21,375 --> 01:01:23,083 The first quote is, 44 01:01:23,083 --> 01:01:24,791 "Never bend your head. 45 01:01:25,291 --> 01:01:26,583 Always hold it high. 46 01:01:27,083 --> 01:01:29,250 Look the world straight in the eye." 47 01:01:29,625 --> 01:01:30,041 End quote. 48 01:01:30,958 --> 01:01:32,041 And you know who said this? 49 01:01:32,333 --> 01:01:34,625 This is a quote about standing tall, 50 01:01:34,625 --> 01:01:35,708 believing in yourself, 51 01:01:36,083 --> 01:01:38,000 confidently facing this world. 52 01:01:39,000 --> 01:01:40,875 This was a quote from Helen Keller. 53 01:01:41,833 --> 01:01:43,958 Look, if she can overcome and find 54 01:01:43,958 --> 01:01:45,041 success and find 55 01:01:45,041 --> 01:01:47,375 happiness, shouldn't we all be able 56 01:01:47,375 --> 01:01:48,250 to do that as well? 57 01:01:49,375 --> 01:01:51,291 And today's teaser quote from the book 58 01:01:51,291 --> 01:01:53,333 review is, "I had the 59 01:01:53,333 --> 01:01:54,750 satisfaction of controlling 60 01:01:54,875 --> 01:01:57,500 my temper, the satisfaction of returning 61 01:01:57,500 --> 01:01:59,125 kindness for an insult." 62 01:02:00,333 --> 01:02:02,708 And as usual, we'll unpack that here in 63 01:02:02,708 --> 01:02:03,791 just a few minutes during 64 01:02:03,791 --> 01:02:04,750 the book review segment. 65 01:02:05,291 --> 01:02:06,958 But first, let's jump into our usual dose 66 01:02:06,958 --> 01:02:07,916 of fun and historic 67 01:02:07,916 --> 01:02:09,041 facts from this day in 68 01:02:09,041 --> 01:02:09,375 history. 69 01:02:10,375 --> 01:02:11,291 Today's news facts and 70 01:02:11,291 --> 01:02:13,000 birthdays are from March 3rd. 71 01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:13,208 Okay. 72 01:02:13,750 --> 01:02:16,958 In 1887, Anne Sullivan, she began 73 01:02:16,958 --> 01:02:18,375 teaching six-year-old 74 01:02:18,375 --> 01:02:20,625 blind and deaf Helen Keller. 75 01:02:21,583 --> 01:02:23,833 Then in 1911, American actress Jean 76 01:02:23,833 --> 01:02:25,750 Harlow, she was born and she was 77 01:02:25,750 --> 01:02:26,833 considered the original 78 01:02:26,833 --> 01:02:27,791 blonde bombshell. 79 01:02:28,833 --> 01:02:31,333 Then on this date in 1923, the first 80 01:02:31,333 --> 01:02:33,250 issue of Time Magazine was published. 81 01:02:34,375 --> 01:02:36,666 On this date in 1931, the Star-Spangled 82 01:02:36,666 --> 01:02:37,916 Banner, written by 83 01:02:37,916 --> 01:02:39,500 Francis Scott Key during the War 84 01:02:39,500 --> 01:02:42,583 of 1812, well, it was officially adopted 85 01:02:42,583 --> 01:02:43,791 as the national anthem 86 01:02:43,791 --> 01:02:45,083 of the United States by 87 01:02:45,083 --> 01:02:45,958 an act of Congress. 88 01:02:47,083 --> 01:02:49,208 Then moving all the way up to 1985, on 89 01:02:49,208 --> 01:02:50,666 this date, the very 90 01:02:50,666 --> 01:02:52,208 first episode of the sitcom, 91 01:02:52,791 --> 01:02:53,500 Moonlighting. 92 01:02:53,500 --> 01:02:54,916 You remember this series, right? 93 01:02:54,916 --> 01:02:56,708 It was with Sybil Shepard and Bruce 94 01:02:56,708 --> 01:02:57,958 Willis, and it was a 95 01:02:57,958 --> 01:02:59,583 breakthrough role for Bruce Willis 96 01:02:59,583 --> 01:03:00,083 who played a 97 01:03:00,083 --> 01:03:01,541 wise-cracking private investigator. 98 01:03:02,791 --> 01:03:05,541 Then moving to 1991, on this date, you'll 99 01:03:05,541 --> 01:03:07,791 remember LA police officers. 100 01:03:08,166 --> 01:03:09,666 That's when they beat up Rodney King. 101 01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:12,291 Then in 2005 on this date, adventurer 102 01:03:12,291 --> 01:03:13,500 Steve Fawcett, we just 103 01:03:13,500 --> 01:03:14,750 mentioned him last week, 104 01:03:14,750 --> 01:03:17,083 but he became the first person to 105 01:03:17,083 --> 01:03:18,958 complete a solo nonstop 106 01:03:18,958 --> 01:03:20,500 circumnavigation of the globe 107 01:03:20,541 --> 01:03:21,833 without refueling. 108 01:03:22,083 --> 01:03:23,666 He landed in Kansas after 109 01:03:23,666 --> 01:03:25,708 more than 67 hours in flight. 110 01:03:26,708 --> 01:03:29,000 Then lastly, on this date, all the way 111 01:03:29,000 --> 01:03:31,958 back in 2024, Caitlin 112 01:03:31,958 --> 01:03:33,708 Clark, she became the all-time 113 01:03:33,708 --> 01:03:36,083 leading scorer in NCAA basketball, 114 01:03:36,666 --> 01:03:39,791 ultimately scoring 3,951 points. 115 01:03:40,500 --> 01:03:42,416 I guarantee she really wanted to get to 116 01:03:42,416 --> 01:03:43,875 that 4,000-point mark, 117 01:03:43,875 --> 01:03:45,541 but she surpassed Pete 118 01:03:45,541 --> 01:03:49,083 Maravich's record of 3,667 points. 119 01:03:49,666 --> 01:03:51,333 I think most people acknowledge the two 120 01:03:51,333 --> 01:03:52,166 are hard to compare 121 01:03:52,166 --> 01:03:53,458 because they came from different 122 01:03:53,583 --> 01:03:55,375 eras and there are different rules, but 123 01:03:55,375 --> 01:03:57,041 they are both incredible feats. 124 01:03:58,333 --> 01:03:59,541 Well, happy birthday to you. 125 01:03:59,541 --> 01:04:00,625 Today is your birthday. 126 01:04:00,916 --> 01:04:01,625 You share a birthday 127 01:04:01,625 --> 01:04:03,416 with singer Camila Cabello. 128 01:04:03,625 --> 01:04:04,583 She's 28 today. 129 01:04:05,833 --> 01:04:06,916 Actor Jessica Beale. 130 01:04:07,166 --> 01:04:07,958 She's 43. 131 01:04:09,291 --> 01:04:11,166 Actress Julie Bowen of Modern Family. 132 01:04:11,500 --> 01:04:12,208 She's 55. 133 01:04:13,250 --> 01:04:14,250 And former US track 134 01:04:14,250 --> 01:04:15,750 star Jackie Joyner-Kersee. 135 01:04:15,750 --> 01:04:16,958 She's 63 today. 136 01:04:18,625 --> 01:04:20,166 The number one movie on this date back in 137 01:04:20,166 --> 01:04:22,666 1995 was The Brady Bunch. 138 01:04:23,375 --> 01:04:24,541 Not sure if you saw that one. 139 01:04:24,541 --> 01:04:26,916 I'm pretty sure I saw it, but this was 140 01:04:26,916 --> 01:04:28,041 obviously a movie 141 01:04:28,041 --> 01:04:30,291 inspired by the popular 1970 show 142 01:04:30,291 --> 01:04:31,375 The Brady Bunch Sitcom. 143 01:04:32,125 --> 01:04:33,791 Now, that's a nostalgic throwback to 144 01:04:33,791 --> 01:04:34,791 being a kid and watching 145 01:04:34,791 --> 01:04:36,791 those zany Brady kids get 146 01:04:36,791 --> 01:04:37,708 in and out of trouble. 147 01:04:38,625 --> 01:04:39,375 So cheesy though. 148 01:04:39,666 --> 01:04:41,625 It was the highest level of cheesiness. 149 01:04:42,708 --> 01:04:44,250 Well, the number one song on this date 150 01:04:44,250 --> 01:04:45,916 back in 1983, and 151 01:04:45,916 --> 01:04:47,291 prepare yourselves, I'm going 152 01:04:47,291 --> 01:04:48,333 to say it, it's a classic. 153 01:04:49,416 --> 01:04:51,250 It's Billie Jean by Michael Jackson. 154 01:04:52,125 --> 01:04:53,500 It's hard not to have a lot of Michael 155 01:04:53,500 --> 01:04:55,166 Jackson nostalgia as the 156 01:04:55,166 --> 01:04:56,958 80s were his biggest decade 157 01:04:56,958 --> 01:04:58,125 and he put out some of the 158 01:04:58,125 --> 01:04:59,666 greatest songs of all time. 159 01:05:00,250 --> 01:05:01,875 Billie Jean being no different. 160 01:05:02,416 --> 01:05:04,083 This was actually the second song 161 01:05:04,083 --> 01:05:05,291 released off of Michael's 162 01:05:05,291 --> 01:05:06,875 Thriller album, which had 163 01:05:06,875 --> 01:05:09,083 other songs like "Beat It", "The Girl Is 164 01:05:09,083 --> 01:05:10,333 Mine", "Pretty Young 165 01:05:10,333 --> 01:05:12,000 Thing", "Wanna Be Starting 166 01:05:12,250 --> 01:05:13,333 Somethin'", and of 167 01:05:13,333 --> 01:05:14,833 course the song "Thriller". 168 01:05:15,416 --> 01:05:17,291 And the Thriller album is still 169 01:05:17,291 --> 01:05:18,916 considered the best selling 170 01:05:18,916 --> 01:05:20,500 album of all time with over 171 01:05:20,666 --> 01:05:22,875 70 million copies sold worldwide. 172 01:05:23,666 --> 01:05:25,750 Let's move on to some thrilling personal 173 01:05:25,750 --> 01:05:26,833 growth in the book 174 01:05:26,833 --> 01:05:28,125 review segment of Morning 175 01:05:28,291 --> 01:05:28,500 Serial. 176 01:05:29,083 --> 01:05:30,416 This is where we take a few moments to 177 01:05:30,416 --> 01:05:31,583 reflect on lessons learned 178 01:05:31,583 --> 01:05:32,625 from the current book we're 179 01:05:32,833 --> 01:05:34,416 reading and currently we're reading 180 01:05:34,416 --> 01:05:35,666 through Dale Carnegie's 181 01:05:35,666 --> 01:05:36,666 "How to Win Friends and 182 01:05:36,666 --> 01:05:37,500 Influence People". 183 01:05:37,791 --> 01:05:39,583 It's a timeless book that is consistently 184 01:05:39,583 --> 01:05:40,583 on all the must read 185 01:05:40,583 --> 01:05:42,083 lists and it's packed 186 01:05:42,083 --> 01:05:44,500 with rock solid advice and actions for 187 01:05:44,500 --> 01:05:45,291 all of us to use and 188 01:05:45,291 --> 01:05:46,250 build healthy foundational 189 01:05:46,250 --> 01:05:47,416 concepts to live by. 190 01:05:48,541 --> 01:05:50,166 Yesterday we finished up chapter 8 of 191 01:05:50,166 --> 01:05:51,375 part 3 and that chapter 192 01:05:51,375 --> 01:05:53,000 is entitled "A Formula 193 01:05:53,083 --> 01:05:54,750 That Will Work Wonders For You". 194 01:05:55,416 --> 01:05:57,500 And earlier in this book review we talked 195 01:05:57,500 --> 01:05:58,583 about understanding the 196 01:05:58,583 --> 01:05:59,708 other person's perspective 197 01:06:00,041 --> 01:06:01,458 and in this chapter Carnegie 198 01:06:01,458 --> 01:06:03,083 doubled down on that philosophy. 199 01:06:03,875 --> 01:06:05,333 Remember, every person we meet is 200 01:06:05,333 --> 01:06:06,833 primarily interested in 201 01:06:06,833 --> 01:06:07,958 their own world and in their 202 01:06:07,958 --> 01:06:09,166 own issues and concerns. 203 01:06:09,875 --> 01:06:11,916 The one thing Carnegie wants you to take 204 01:06:11,916 --> 01:06:13,166 away from this book is 205 01:06:13,166 --> 01:06:15,125 "an increased tendency 206 01:06:15,583 --> 01:06:17,416 to think always in terms of other 207 01:06:17,416 --> 01:06:19,083 people's points of view and 208 01:06:19,083 --> 01:06:20,583 see things from their angle 209 01:06:20,583 --> 01:06:21,666 as well as your own." 210 01:06:22,208 --> 01:06:25,250 In a chapter entitled "A Formula That 211 01:06:25,250 --> 01:06:26,208 Will Work Wonders For 212 01:06:26,208 --> 01:06:27,291 You", Carnegie's principle 213 01:06:27,416 --> 01:06:30,833 8 was "try honestly to see things from 214 01:06:30,833 --> 01:06:32,333 the other person's point of view." 215 01:06:33,250 --> 01:06:35,083 Which brings us to today and today we're 216 01:06:35,083 --> 01:06:36,416 beginning chapter 9 of part 217 01:06:36,416 --> 01:06:38,208 3 with that chapter entitled 218 01:06:38,208 --> 01:06:39,875 "What Everybody Wants". 219 01:06:40,958 --> 01:06:42,833 And Carnegie begins this chapter by 220 01:06:42,833 --> 01:06:44,291 giving us a magic phrase 221 01:06:44,291 --> 01:06:45,875 that will stop people in 222 01:06:45,875 --> 01:06:48,541 their tracks, it will calm them down, it 223 01:06:48,541 --> 01:06:49,916 will stop arguments, etc. 224 01:06:50,666 --> 01:06:53,541 And this is the magic phrase, "I don't 225 01:06:53,541 --> 01:06:54,958 blame you one eye Oda 226 01:06:54,958 --> 01:06:56,125 for feeling as you do. 227 01:06:56,500 --> 01:06:58,083 If I were you, I would 228 01:06:58,083 --> 01:07:00,750 undoubtedly feel just as you do." 229 01:07:01,666 --> 01:07:03,416 And Carnegie says this statement is as 230 01:07:03,416 --> 01:07:05,041 true as the ocean is blue. 231 01:07:05,666 --> 01:07:05,833 Why? 232 01:07:06,666 --> 01:07:07,875 Because if we were truly the other 233 01:07:07,875 --> 01:07:09,500 person, then we'd have 234 01:07:09,500 --> 01:07:11,583 had their experiences, we'd 235 01:07:11,583 --> 01:07:13,708 be in their environment, we've had their 236 01:07:13,708 --> 01:07:14,875 temperament, their 237 01:07:14,875 --> 01:07:17,208 perspective, and you would truly make 238 01:07:17,208 --> 01:07:18,416 the same decision or have 239 01:07:18,416 --> 01:07:19,791 the same feeling as them. 240 01:07:20,375 --> 01:07:22,458 Because you'd be them and not you. 241 01:07:22,708 --> 01:07:24,625 That reminds me of some saying from Ace 242 01:07:24,625 --> 01:07:26,708 Ventura, but I digress. 243 01:07:27,541 --> 01:07:29,041 Carnegie would suggest that each of us 244 01:07:29,041 --> 01:07:31,875 have very little to do with what we are. 245 01:07:32,208 --> 01:07:34,125 And Carnegie says, "And remember, the 246 01:07:34,125 --> 01:07:35,958 people who come to you irritated, 247 01:07:36,333 --> 01:07:37,958 bigoted, unreasoning, 248 01:07:38,208 --> 01:07:39,333 deserve very little 249 01:07:39,333 --> 01:07:41,166 discredit for being what they are. 250 01:07:41,708 --> 01:07:43,375 Feel sorry for the poor devils. 251 01:07:43,875 --> 01:07:46,166 Pity them, sympathize with them." 252 01:07:47,291 --> 01:07:49,208 Carnegie believes that the vast majority 253 01:07:49,208 --> 01:07:50,416 of people out there are 254 01:07:50,416 --> 01:07:51,916 just thirsting for sympathy 255 01:07:52,083 --> 01:07:53,541 and that we should give it to them. 256 01:07:54,416 --> 01:07:55,666 Carnegie tells a personal 257 01:07:55,666 --> 01:07:57,250 account here to illustrate. 258 01:07:58,083 --> 01:07:59,583 While Carnegie was on a radio show 259 01:07:59,583 --> 01:08:01,208 discussing the author of 260 01:08:01,208 --> 01:08:03,083 Little Women, Louisa May Alcott, 261 01:08:03,500 --> 01:08:05,583 he had twice mistakenly mentioned that 262 01:08:05,583 --> 01:08:06,833 she was from Concord, 263 01:08:06,833 --> 01:08:08,291 New Hampshire, when Concord 264 01:08:08,458 --> 01:08:10,166 is actually located in Massachusetts. 265 01:08:11,250 --> 01:08:13,791 Well, he received a lot of flack for the 266 01:08:13,791 --> 01:08:16,125 geographical blunder and one was 267 01:08:16,125 --> 01:08:17,583 particularly scathing. 268 01:08:17,833 --> 01:08:19,250 And Carnegie's humor comes out again 269 01:08:19,250 --> 01:08:20,333 saying of the woman that 270 01:08:20,333 --> 01:08:21,916 just tore him apart in a 271 01:08:22,166 --> 01:08:22,250 letter. 272 01:08:22,250 --> 01:08:24,125 He said, "Thank God I am 273 01:08:24,125 --> 01:08:25,500 not married to that woman." 274 01:08:26,625 --> 01:08:28,000 Even though Carnegie's first human 275 01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:29,500 impulse was to hit back 276 01:08:29,500 --> 01:08:30,666 and write her back telling 277 01:08:30,750 --> 01:08:33,041 her, "Although he had made a mistake in 278 01:08:33,041 --> 01:08:34,166 geography, she had 279 01:08:34,166 --> 01:08:35,500 made a far greater mistake 280 01:08:35,500 --> 01:08:36,541 in common courtesy." 281 01:08:37,458 --> 01:08:38,375 And then he would rip 282 01:08:38,375 --> 01:08:39,500 into her after that. 283 01:08:40,083 --> 01:08:42,375 But as many of Carnegie's principles have 284 01:08:42,375 --> 01:08:44,166 taught us, we shouldn't give in to those 285 01:08:44,208 --> 01:08:45,708 initial human impulses. 286 01:08:46,375 --> 01:08:48,583 We should be disciplined to act in a 287 01:08:48,583 --> 01:08:50,375 higher way, taking the higher road. 288 01:08:51,083 --> 01:08:53,083 Well, Carnegie decided to call the woman 289 01:08:53,083 --> 01:08:54,166 who wrote him the 290 01:08:54,166 --> 01:08:55,291 nasty note the next time he 291 01:08:55,291 --> 01:08:56,000 was in her town. 292 01:08:56,500 --> 01:08:57,250 And he was determined 293 01:08:57,250 --> 01:08:58,291 to make a friend of her. 294 01:08:58,916 --> 01:09:00,583 Carnegie actually states it was a bit of 295 01:09:00,583 --> 01:09:01,625 a game to him to see if 296 01:09:01,625 --> 01:09:02,541 he could win her over. 297 01:09:03,000 --> 01:09:05,000 And I'm sure there's some pathology in 298 01:09:05,000 --> 01:09:06,708 that, but we'll unpack that later. 299 01:09:07,500 --> 01:09:09,375 Carnegie gives an account of that call. 300 01:09:10,000 --> 01:09:12,250 And in summary, he right up front 301 01:09:12,250 --> 01:09:14,125 apologizes and he lays it 302 01:09:14,125 --> 01:09:16,375 on a bit thick that he could 303 01:09:16,375 --> 01:09:18,458 be so stupid to make the unforgivable 304 01:09:18,458 --> 01:09:19,958 mistake to say the wrong 305 01:09:19,958 --> 01:09:21,416 state on the radio show. 306 01:09:22,250 --> 01:09:24,208 And to thank her for taking the time out 307 01:09:24,208 --> 01:09:26,708 of her busy, important person's schedule 308 01:09:27,083 --> 01:09:29,250 to let him know and saying that he hopes 309 01:09:29,250 --> 01:09:30,375 she writes him again if 310 01:09:30,375 --> 01:09:31,416 he makes another blunder. 311 01:09:32,000 --> 01:09:33,916 I summarized that and there was some back 312 01:09:33,916 --> 01:09:34,750 and forth discussion 313 01:09:34,750 --> 01:09:35,875 between those highlights. 314 01:09:36,333 --> 01:09:38,291 But she was immediately embarrassed and 315 01:09:38,291 --> 01:09:40,333 backtracked, saying she was ashamed that 316 01:09:40,333 --> 01:09:41,166 she wrote the letter 317 01:09:41,166 --> 01:09:41,875 in those terms. 318 01:09:42,541 --> 01:09:44,083 She was proud of her state and her 319 01:09:44,083 --> 01:09:45,458 family's prominence there. 320 01:09:45,875 --> 01:09:47,458 And she was distressed that the author 321 01:09:47,458 --> 01:09:48,875 wasn't properly described 322 01:09:48,875 --> 01:09:50,125 as being from her state. 323 01:09:51,000 --> 01:09:52,916 So she apologized for losing her temper 324 01:09:52,916 --> 01:09:54,166 in the letter and she 325 01:09:54,166 --> 01:09:55,708 was impressed at how he 326 01:09:55,708 --> 01:09:57,000 accepted her criticism. 327 01:09:58,083 --> 01:09:59,958 Carnegie had apologized and sympathized 328 01:09:59,958 --> 01:10:01,583 with her and in return, 329 01:10:01,583 --> 01:10:03,375 she had apologized and 330 01:10:03,375 --> 01:10:04,208 sympathized with him. 331 01:10:04,875 --> 01:10:07,708 Carnegie said, "I had the satisfaction of 332 01:10:07,708 --> 01:10:08,500 controlling my 333 01:10:08,500 --> 01:10:10,166 temper, the satisfaction of 334 01:10:10,166 --> 01:10:12,125 returning kindness for an insult." 335 01:10:13,625 --> 01:10:15,916 And that that felt infinitely better than 336 01:10:15,916 --> 01:10:17,000 losing his temper and 337 01:10:17,000 --> 01:10:18,041 just telling her off. 338 01:10:18,916 --> 01:10:20,125 That high road is hard 339 01:10:20,125 --> 01:10:21,041 to take in the moment. 340 01:10:21,625 --> 01:10:24,000 But I agree there is some satisfaction in 341 01:10:24,000 --> 01:10:24,583 being the bigger 342 01:10:24,583 --> 01:10:26,291 person if handled correctly 343 01:10:26,833 --> 01:10:29,208 and maybe not handled like a Karen might 344 01:10:29,208 --> 01:10:31,583 want to handle it on their high road. 345 01:10:32,083 --> 01:10:32,500 There's a big 346 01:10:32,500 --> 01:10:34,083 difference between that, right? 347 01:10:34,083 --> 01:10:35,750 And what Carnegie is discussing here. 348 01:10:36,625 --> 01:10:38,208 Well we're going to finish chapter nine 349 01:10:38,208 --> 01:10:39,208 tomorrow and learn 350 01:10:39,208 --> 01:10:40,583 Carnegie's ninth principle. 351 01:10:40,833 --> 01:10:42,625 So come back for that tomorrow and 352 01:10:42,625 --> 01:10:43,666 apologies to all the 353 01:10:43,666 --> 01:10:44,625 Karens out there that I may have 354 01:10:44,625 --> 01:10:45,916 just offended, including 355 01:10:45,916 --> 01:10:47,125 our personal friend Karen. 356 01:10:47,333 --> 01:10:48,041 You know we love you. 357 01:10:48,916 --> 01:10:50,750 Well it's going to be a great day today. 358 01:10:51,250 --> 01:10:54,708 Helen Keller also said, "Optimism is the 359 01:10:54,708 --> 01:10:56,875 faith that leads to achievement. 360 01:10:57,333 --> 01:10:58,333 Nothing can be done 361 01:10:58,333 --> 01:11:00,208 without hope and confidence." 362 01:11:01,625 --> 01:11:02,916 Attack this Monday. 363 01:11:03,166 --> 01:11:04,291 Shoot, attack this life 364 01:11:04,291 --> 01:11:06,250 with optimism and confidence. 365 01:11:06,958 --> 01:11:08,041 Thanks for joining today. 366 01:11:08,250 --> 01:11:09,208 Come back 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