1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,041 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,041 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:09,750 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:09,750 --> 01:00:10,958 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:11,333 --> 01:00:12,125 Today is gonna be a 6 01:00:12,125 --> 01:00:14,083 great day because today is 7 01:00:14,125 --> 01:00:16,375 make your dream come true day, 8 01:00:16,583 --> 01:00:18,541 which it sounds a little bit ambitious, 9 01:00:18,875 --> 01:00:20,500 but no one said it had 10 01:00:20,500 --> 01:00:21,916 to happen before lunch. 11 01:00:22,458 --> 01:00:23,708 Well, the answer to Monday's trivia 12 01:00:23,708 --> 01:00:25,875 question is vitamin C. 13 01:00:26,375 --> 01:00:29,416 Vitamin C deficiency causes scurvy. 14 01:00:29,916 --> 01:00:31,916 Well, now the essential vitamins, 15 01:00:31,916 --> 01:00:33,291 which include vitamin C 16 01:00:33,291 --> 01:00:35,041 in your morning cereal, 17 01:00:35,666 --> 01:00:37,000 today's quote is from 18 01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:38,791 birthday boy, Orlando Bloom, 19 01:00:38,791 --> 01:00:39,958 who said, quote, "Don't 20 01:00:39,958 --> 01:00:41,166 be afraid to be vulnerable. 21 01:00:42,125 --> 01:00:44,041 "Vulnerability is a strength," end quote. 22 01:00:44,583 --> 01:00:45,541 Now that's a good 23 01:00:45,541 --> 01:00:47,375 reminder here that showing 24 01:00:47,375 --> 01:00:50,583 your true imperfect self, your emotions, 25 01:00:50,833 --> 01:00:51,875 your fears, your flaws, 26 01:00:52,166 --> 01:00:53,750 that is not a weakness, 27 01:00:54,166 --> 01:00:55,750 but it's a courageous act 28 01:00:55,750 --> 01:00:57,625 that builds deeper connections, 29 01:00:58,208 --> 01:01:00,708 more authenticity and resilience. 30 01:01:01,375 --> 01:01:02,791 You do you. 31 01:01:03,250 --> 01:01:03,708 All right, well, 32 01:01:03,708 --> 01:01:04,875 you've heard enough from me. 33 01:01:05,208 --> 01:01:06,458 Let's pour in some of the 34 01:01:06,458 --> 01:01:08,416 Let them theory by Mel Robbins. 35 01:01:09,000 --> 01:01:09,875 Today's sub-chapter 36 01:01:09,875 --> 01:01:11,916 is use your influence. 37 01:01:12,375 --> 01:01:15,458 Now, Mel reframes influence in a way here 38 01:01:15,541 --> 01:01:16,958 that's both freeing and 39 01:01:16,958 --> 01:01:18,708 challenging as she likes to do. 40 01:01:19,083 --> 01:01:21,083 She makes it clear from the start 41 01:01:21,083 --> 01:01:23,166 that influence is not about control, 42 01:01:23,458 --> 01:01:25,500 it's not about pressure or persuasion. 43 01:01:26,250 --> 01:01:27,666 In fact, she writes, quote, 44 01:01:27,916 --> 01:01:29,833 "The more you try to control people, 45 01:01:29,833 --> 01:01:32,083 "the less influence you have," end quote. 46 01:01:32,583 --> 01:01:34,041 Now that sentence alone, 47 01:01:34,041 --> 01:01:36,416 it forces a mindset shift. 48 01:01:37,083 --> 01:01:37,833 Robbins explains that 49 01:01:37,833 --> 01:01:39,125 influence doesn't come 50 01:01:39,125 --> 01:01:41,583 from convincing others to change, 51 01:01:42,041 --> 01:01:43,000 it actually comes from 52 01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:44,250 modeling the behavior 53 01:01:44,750 --> 01:01:45,833 you want to see. 54 01:01:46,333 --> 01:01:47,375 People are constantly 55 01:01:47,375 --> 01:01:48,875 watching how you show up, 56 01:01:49,291 --> 01:01:50,458 especially in moments 57 01:01:50,458 --> 01:01:52,333 of stress or disagreement 58 01:01:52,583 --> 01:01:53,916 or even uncertainty. 59 01:01:54,666 --> 01:01:56,166 And as she puts it, quote, 60 01:01:56,166 --> 01:01:57,041 "Your influence is 61 01:01:57,041 --> 01:01:58,583 built by what you tolerate, 62 01:01:58,916 --> 01:02:00,583 "what you model and what 63 01:02:00,583 --> 01:02:02,125 you repeat," end quote. 64 01:02:02,583 --> 01:02:03,333 Now, one of the most 65 01:02:03,333 --> 01:02:04,666 powerful points in this chapter 66 01:02:05,125 --> 01:02:07,208 is the idea of self-influence. 67 01:02:07,458 --> 01:02:08,458 Before you attempt to 68 01:02:08,458 --> 01:02:09,583 influence anyone else, 69 01:02:10,083 --> 01:02:11,000 well, you must be able 70 01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:12,125 to influence yourself, 71 01:02:12,791 --> 01:02:13,708 your habits, your 72 01:02:13,708 --> 01:02:15,791 reactions, your boundaries. 73 01:02:16,625 --> 01:02:18,000 Robbins writes, quote, 74 01:02:18,041 --> 01:02:20,291 "Every choice you make is teaching people 75 01:02:20,583 --> 01:02:22,041 "how to treat you," end quote. 76 01:02:22,500 --> 01:02:23,875 Now that includes how 77 01:02:23,875 --> 01:02:26,000 you respond to disrespect 78 01:02:26,208 --> 01:02:28,000 or inconsistency from others 79 01:02:28,000 --> 01:02:29,791 or just misalignment 80 01:02:29,791 --> 01:02:30,833 out there in the world. 81 01:02:31,375 --> 01:02:34,333 She also emphasizes patience here. 82 01:02:34,958 --> 01:02:37,166 Influence works slowly and quietly. 83 01:02:37,166 --> 01:02:38,625 It's not loud or dramatic. 84 01:02:38,625 --> 01:02:40,291 It grows through consistency, 85 01:02:41,083 --> 01:02:43,083 clarity and emotional steadiness. 86 01:02:43,833 --> 01:02:45,250 Robbins reminds us that, quote, 87 01:02:45,250 --> 01:02:46,250 "People don't change 88 01:02:46,250 --> 01:02:47,958 because you want them to, 89 01:02:48,250 --> 01:02:50,083 "they change because they see what's 90 01:02:50,083 --> 01:02:51,458 possible," end quote. 91 01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:53,333 So using your influence 92 01:02:53,333 --> 01:02:54,916 means releasing the need 93 01:02:54,916 --> 01:02:57,541 for immediate results and trusting that 94 01:02:57,833 --> 01:02:59,583 how you live speaks 95 01:02:59,583 --> 01:03:01,333 louder than how you explain. 96 01:03:01,833 --> 01:03:03,583 And this applies to leadership, right? 97 01:03:03,583 --> 01:03:06,166 It applies to relationships, to parenting 98 01:03:06,500 --> 01:03:08,416 and even your own personal goals. 99 01:03:08,750 --> 01:03:11,416 When your actions match your values, 100 01:03:12,041 --> 01:03:13,958 influence happens naturally. 101 01:03:14,458 --> 01:03:15,666 Dreams move forward, not 102 01:03:15,666 --> 01:03:17,583 when you force others to follow, 103 01:03:18,208 --> 01:03:20,583 but when you lead yourself first. 104 01:03:21,375 --> 01:03:24,125 All right, here is your Tuesday takeaway. 105 01:03:25,166 --> 01:03:27,083 Influence grows when you stop pushing 106 01:03:27,541 --> 01:03:28,833 and you start becoming. 107 01:03:29,625 --> 01:03:31,083 Okay, today, remember, 108 01:03:31,375 --> 01:03:33,958 dreams, they don't come true all at once. 109 01:03:33,958 --> 01:03:35,125 They move forward one 110 01:03:35,125 --> 01:03:37,000 honest step at a time. 111 01:03:37,500 --> 01:03:38,916 And now it's the prize from 112 01:03:38,916 --> 01:03:40,083 the bottom of the cereal box, 113 01:03:40,083 --> 01:03:40,875 the morning cereal 114 01:03:40,875 --> 01:03:42,250 trivia question of the day. 115 01:03:42,791 --> 01:03:43,333 Here it is. 116 01:03:43,750 --> 01:03:46,041 What protein is hair made of? 117 01:03:46,500 --> 01:03:47,375 All right, we will see 118 01:03:47,375 --> 01:03:48,000 you back here tomorrow 119 01:03:48,333 --> 01:03:49,833 for the answer to that and 120 01:03:49,833 --> 01:03:51,291 for more sugar for your soul. 121 01:03:51,666 --> 01:03:52,375 Hey, thanks for 122 01:03:52,375 --> 01:03:53,833 listening to Morning Cereal today 123 01:03:54,000 --> 01:03:57,083 and until then, have a fantastic day. 124 01:03:58,333 --> 01:03:59,875 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 125 01:03:59,875 --> 01:04:01,291 to the Morning Cereal podcast 126 01:04:01,583 --> 01:04:03,416 on the One Life Live It channel. 127 01:04:03,916 --> 01:04:05,541 You can find more episodes and videos 128 01:04:05,541 --> 01:04:07,041 by visiting our YouTube channel 129 01:04:07,208 --> 01:04:08,375 and the website at 130 01:04:08,375 --> 01:04:10,916 seaningless and at seaningless.com 131 01:04:11,291 --> 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