1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,125 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,125 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:10,083 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:10,083 --> 01:00:11,208 welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:11,625 --> 01:00:15,208 It is midweek and today is grandma day. 6 01:00:15,625 --> 01:00:18,250 It's a celebration of wisdom, of warmth 7 01:00:18,625 --> 01:00:20,708 and snacks you didn't ask for 8 01:00:20,708 --> 01:00:21,458 but you absolutely 9 01:00:21,458 --> 01:00:23,083 need it as a kiddo, right? 10 01:00:23,625 --> 01:00:24,833 Well, pick up the phone 11 01:00:24,833 --> 01:00:26,500 or give your grandma a hug 12 01:00:26,500 --> 01:00:27,333 if you're lucky enough 13 01:00:27,333 --> 01:00:28,375 to still have her around 14 01:00:28,833 --> 01:00:30,416 or just take a moment to 15 01:00:30,416 --> 01:00:32,125 remember how special she was. 16 01:00:32,583 --> 01:00:33,625 Okay, yesterday's 17 01:00:33,625 --> 01:00:35,500 trivia answer, the alpaca. 18 01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:37,458 The animal closely related 19 01:00:37,458 --> 01:00:39,333 to the llama is the alpaca. 20 01:00:39,833 --> 01:00:40,791 And now the essential 21 01:00:40,791 --> 01:00:42,458 vitamins in your morning cereal. 22 01:00:42,458 --> 01:00:44,791 Today's quote is from birthday girl 23 01:00:44,916 --> 01:00:47,541 turning 50 today, Spice Girl Emma Button, 24 01:00:47,791 --> 01:00:50,208 who said, quote, "Be kind to yourself. 25 01:00:50,583 --> 01:00:52,208 "It's a lifelong relationship." 26 01:00:52,541 --> 01:00:52,958 End quote. 27 01:00:53,500 --> 01:00:55,250 So don't forget to treat 28 01:00:55,250 --> 01:00:56,791 yourself with the same care, 29 01:00:56,791 --> 01:00:58,416 the same patience and compassion 30 01:00:58,916 --> 01:01:00,500 that you would offer a loved one. 31 01:01:00,875 --> 01:01:03,291 You will be your longest relationship. 32 01:01:03,791 --> 01:01:05,000 All right, you have heard 33 01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:06,208 more than enough from me. 34 01:01:06,208 --> 01:01:07,375 So let's pour in the let 35 01:01:07,375 --> 01:01:09,208 them theory by Mel Robbins. 36 01:01:09,750 --> 01:01:11,166 And today we're wrapping 37 01:01:11,166 --> 01:01:13,208 up chapter 15 with a summary 38 01:01:13,541 --> 01:01:16,416 of unlock the power of your influence. 39 01:01:16,583 --> 01:01:17,666 Now Robbins brings 40 01:01:17,666 --> 01:01:19,083 this whole chapter home 41 01:01:19,500 --> 01:01:20,625 by reminding us that 42 01:01:20,625 --> 01:01:22,500 influence is not loud. 43 01:01:22,833 --> 01:01:23,666 It's not aggressive. 44 01:01:23,666 --> 01:01:24,666 It's not controlling. 45 01:01:25,416 --> 01:01:27,333 True influence is quiet. 46 01:01:27,833 --> 01:01:28,458 It's consistent. 47 01:01:28,791 --> 01:01:29,625 And it's rooted in 48 01:01:29,625 --> 01:01:31,291 self-respect saying, quote, 49 01:01:31,541 --> 01:01:33,666 "The most powerful influence you have 50 01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:35,666 "is how you live your life." 51 01:01:35,875 --> 01:01:36,333 End quote. 52 01:01:36,833 --> 01:01:38,375 And Mel reinforces that 53 01:01:38,375 --> 01:01:39,541 people are not persuaded 54 01:01:39,541 --> 01:01:40,333 by lectures. 55 01:01:40,833 --> 01:01:43,041 In fact, they're inspired by examples. 56 01:01:43,333 --> 01:01:44,958 When you stop trying to fix others 57 01:01:44,958 --> 01:01:47,208 and focus on your own alignment, 58 01:01:47,625 --> 01:01:48,708 something then begins 59 01:01:48,708 --> 01:01:50,083 to shift saying, quote, 60 01:01:50,541 --> 01:01:52,208 "People don't follow words. 61 01:01:52,708 --> 01:01:53,833 "They follow energy. 62 01:01:54,125 --> 01:01:55,083 "They follow behavior." 63 01:01:55,541 --> 01:01:55,916 End quote. 64 01:01:56,500 --> 01:01:57,958 So this chapter, it's 65 01:01:57,958 --> 01:01:59,791 also emphasizing patience. 66 01:02:00,833 --> 01:02:01,916 Influence doesn't happen overnight. 67 01:02:02,458 --> 01:02:03,958 It's built through repetition, 68 01:02:04,500 --> 01:02:05,375 through boundaries and 69 01:02:05,375 --> 01:02:06,625 emotional steadiness. 70 01:02:07,250 --> 01:02:08,375 Robbins explains that, quote, 71 01:02:08,375 --> 01:02:10,583 "The moment you stop chasing approval 72 01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:13,083 "is the moment your influence grows." 73 01:02:13,375 --> 01:02:13,833 End quote. 74 01:02:14,333 --> 01:02:15,125 And she encourages 75 01:02:15,125 --> 01:02:17,250 readers to release outcomes. 76 01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:19,291 Influence is not control. 77 01:02:19,791 --> 01:02:20,541 It's invitation. 78 01:02:21,291 --> 01:02:22,291 When you trust people 79 01:02:22,291 --> 01:02:23,583 to find their own way, 80 01:02:24,000 --> 01:02:25,416 you show respect to them. 81 01:02:25,708 --> 01:02:27,666 And that respect, it builds trust. 82 01:02:28,375 --> 01:02:30,458 So summarizing this chapter reminds us 83 01:02:30,458 --> 01:02:31,666 that influence starts 84 01:02:31,666 --> 01:02:32,875 with self-leadership. 85 01:02:33,083 --> 01:02:34,250 The way you manage stress, 86 01:02:34,500 --> 01:02:35,750 the way you manage disappointment 87 01:02:35,916 --> 01:02:37,458 and setbacks in your own life, 88 01:02:37,875 --> 01:02:38,750 that becomes a 89 01:02:38,750 --> 01:02:40,583 blueprint that others observe. 90 01:02:41,083 --> 01:02:43,916 All right, your Wednesday takeaway is, 91 01:02:44,416 --> 01:02:45,291 influence grows when 92 01:02:45,291 --> 01:02:46,583 you focus on becoming, 93 01:02:47,083 --> 01:02:48,041 not convincing. 94 01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:51,833 So today, remember, wisdom doesn't rush. 95 01:02:51,833 --> 01:02:53,958 It shows up when it's needed the most. 96 01:02:54,416 --> 01:02:55,708 And now, the prize from 97 01:02:55,708 --> 01:02:56,750 the bottom of the cereal box, 98 01:02:57,083 --> 01:02:58,083 the morning cereal 99 01:02:58,083 --> 01:02:59,791 trivia question of the day. 100 01:03:00,375 --> 01:03:02,000 How many years ago did 101 01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:04,250 dinosaurs go extinct? 102 01:03:05,416 --> 01:03:06,291 All right, we will see 103 01:03:06,291 --> 01:03:07,083 you back here tomorrow 104 01:03:07,083 --> 01:03:08,541 for that answer and for 105 01:03:08,541 --> 01:03:09,708 more sugar for the soul. 106 01:03:10,208 --> 01:03:13,000 And until then, have a fantastic day. 107 01:03:14,375 --> 01:03:15,916 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 108 01:03:15,916 --> 01:03:17,250 to the Morning Cereal podcast 109 01:03:17,666 --> 01:03:19,458 on the One Life Live It channel. 110 01:03:19,916 --> 01:03:21,583 You can find more episodes and videos 111 01:03:21,583 --> 01:03:23,083 by visiting our YouTube channel 112 01:03:23,291 --> 01:03:26,958 and the website at seanenglish.com, 113 01:03:27,375 --> 01:03:28,041 where you can also 114 01:03:28,041 --> 01:03:29,458 follow our other podcast, 115 01:03:29,833 --> 01:03:31,125 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 116 01:03:31,541 --> 01:03:32,708 and the Life Happens podcast. 117 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