What if the reason your sex life feels stuck has nothing to do with what you're doing — and everything to do with what you're feeling?
In Episode 23, Scott and Brittney introduce one of the most powerful frameworks in intimacy: Core Desires. These are the emotional experiences you're actually craving during sex and closeness — and most people have never once named them out loud.
They walk through the major Core Desire feeling states (from Adored and Desired to Wild, Surrendered, Powerful, and Free), break down a practical three-step method for discovering your own, and tackle what to do when you and your partner want to feel completely different things in bed.
And then they get personal. Scott and Brittney each share their own Core Desires — what they are, when they finally recognized them, and what changed in their relationship the moment they named them honestly.
This episode is for anyone who's ever felt vaguely unsatisfied in intimacy without being able to explain why. The answer might be simpler than you think.
In this episode:
- Why talking about acts keeps couples stuck — and what to focus on instead
- A tour of the most common Core Desires and how to recognize yours
- The 3-step method to translate your turn-ons into feelings
- Scott & Brittney share their personal Core Desires
- What to do when your desires don't match your partner's
- Micro-intimacy: how small moments can meet big desires
- How to start this conversation with your partner tonight
Remember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.
Couples Intimacy Resources
Looking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?
Download Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.
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What is Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast?
Do You Feel That? is a couples intimacy and sex podcast about love, connection, desire, and building a stronger relationship in and out of the bedroom.
Hosted by Scott and Brittney, a married couple exploring modern intimacy, each episode blends honest conversations, personal stories, and practical tools to help couples improve communication, deepen emotional connection, and create better sex in long-term relationships.
We talk about:
• Marriage and intimacy
• Sexual communication
• Desire differences
• Erotic exploration
• Guided audio intimacy
• Confidence in the bedroom
• Reigniting passion after kids
• Sex toys, play, and connection
• Building emotional safety
• Strengthening relationships through intentional intimacy
Whether you’re navigating mismatched desire, looking to improve your sex life, or simply wanting to feel closer to your partner, Do You Feel That? offers grounded, real-world conversations to help couples grow together.
New episodes every week.