1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,375 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:12,500 Alright, good morning 4 01:00:12,500 --> 01:00:13,666 and welcome to a Tuesday. 5 01:00:14,000 --> 01:00:15,166 You did it, you made it through Monday. 6 01:00:15,458 --> 01:00:17,458 We're into the week now and it's Tuesday. 7 01:00:18,166 --> 01:00:19,458 And you're getting bold, right? 8 01:00:19,458 --> 01:00:20,041 You're feeling good 9 01:00:20,041 --> 01:00:21,000 about it, which is good. 10 01:00:21,583 --> 01:00:22,958 Stay bold because today is 11 01:00:22,958 --> 01:00:25,250 National Get Gnarly Day, right? 12 01:00:25,708 --> 01:00:26,416 Celebrating courage, 13 01:00:26,625 --> 01:00:28,125 creativity and taking chances. 14 01:00:28,916 --> 01:00:30,791 And if you're just kind of slowly getting 15 01:00:30,791 --> 01:00:31,708 your day started and 16 01:00:31,708 --> 01:00:32,583 you're not quite ready 17 01:00:32,583 --> 01:00:34,500 for that gnarly side of the day to get 18 01:00:34,500 --> 01:00:37,333 going, it's also National Lasagna Day. 19 01:00:37,750 --> 01:00:38,916 Spaghetti lasagna pasta. 20 01:00:39,375 --> 01:00:40,958 Why does pasta always sound 21 01:00:40,958 --> 01:00:42,125 good at any time of the day? 22 01:00:42,458 --> 01:00:43,750 Even in the morning like this. 23 01:00:44,083 --> 01:00:45,458 Well, let's go ahead and move on from 24 01:00:45,458 --> 01:00:47,625 mozzarella to motivation, right? 25 01:00:47,625 --> 01:00:48,083 See what I did there? 26 01:00:48,458 --> 01:00:50,041 With our quote of the day and it's from 27 01:00:50,041 --> 01:00:51,125 one of my favorite comedians. 28 01:00:51,416 --> 01:00:52,333 He's big right now. 29 01:00:52,333 --> 01:00:53,625 Love his podcast, obviously. 30 01:00:54,500 --> 01:00:56,583 Will Arnett who once said, quote, "Even 31 01:00:56,583 --> 01:00:57,416 if you make a mistake, 32 01:00:57,416 --> 01:00:58,416 you can go back and do 33 01:00:58,458 --> 01:00:59,250 the right thing." 34 01:00:59,250 --> 01:00:59,541 End quote. 35 01:00:59,916 --> 01:01:01,750 And it's a grounded reminder from Will 36 01:01:01,750 --> 01:01:03,375 that mistakes aren't final. 37 01:01:03,375 --> 01:01:05,083 They're just little pit stops on the road 38 01:01:05,083 --> 01:01:06,833 to doing better, to being better, right? 39 01:01:07,250 --> 01:01:09,458 And I'm sure Will would also tell you to 40 01:01:09,458 --> 01:01:10,625 lighten up a little bit, right? 41 01:01:10,958 --> 01:01:12,666 That no matter where you're starting from 42 01:01:12,666 --> 01:01:13,583 today, it's never too 43 01:01:13,583 --> 01:01:15,291 late to pivot in the 44 01:01:15,291 --> 01:01:15,916 right direction. 45 01:01:16,541 --> 01:01:16,833 All right. 46 01:01:16,833 --> 01:01:18,291 Well, let's go ahead and pivot to today's 47 01:01:18,291 --> 01:01:19,125 news facts and 48 01:01:19,125 --> 01:01:20,375 birthdays, which are for July 49 01:01:20,375 --> 01:01:21,750 29th. 50 01:01:21,750 --> 01:01:23,291 And we're going to start back in 1958. 51 01:01:23,708 --> 01:01:25,166 That's when US President Dwight D. 52 01:01:25,375 --> 01:01:27,291 Eisenhower, he signed the National 53 01:01:27,291 --> 01:01:28,208 Aeronautics and Space 54 01:01:28,250 --> 01:01:28,958 Act, right? 55 01:01:29,375 --> 01:01:31,000 You might know it better as NASA. 56 01:01:32,000 --> 01:01:35,291 Then in 1981 on this date, Prince Charles 57 01:01:35,291 --> 01:01:38,166 married Lady Diana Spencer, right? 58 01:01:38,541 --> 01:01:40,000 In one of the most watched televised 59 01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:41,500 events of the 20th century 60 01:01:41,500 --> 01:01:43,000 and one of the most watched 61 01:01:43,041 --> 01:01:45,166 couples of the 20th century, no doubt. 62 01:01:45,791 --> 01:01:48,375 Then moving up to 2005, astronomers 63 01:01:48,375 --> 01:01:51,375 announced that they discovered Eris. 64 01:01:51,375 --> 01:01:53,791 It's a dwarf planet larger than Pluto, 65 01:01:54,041 --> 01:01:56,541 triggering planetary identity crisis. 66 01:01:56,583 --> 01:01:58,041 There was a lot of back and forth of 67 01:01:58,041 --> 01:01:58,916 Pluto during that time. 68 01:01:58,916 --> 01:01:59,916 I think it might still be going. 69 01:02:00,125 --> 01:02:01,166 I think it's back in that 70 01:02:01,166 --> 01:02:02,541 we're back, still a planet. 71 01:02:03,625 --> 01:02:05,416 2016, I had to tie this back in this way. 72 01:02:05,916 --> 01:02:08,250 Comedian and actors, Amy Poehler and Will 73 01:02:08,250 --> 01:02:09,208 Arnett, they 74 01:02:09,208 --> 01:02:11,208 finalized their mother divorce 75 01:02:11,375 --> 01:02:12,625 after 12 years of marriage. 76 01:02:12,875 --> 01:02:13,750 Love both of them. 77 01:02:14,000 --> 01:02:15,000 They're still very close. 78 01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:16,291 I've heard them on their podcasts. 79 01:02:17,083 --> 01:02:17,541 Unfortunately, their 80 01:02:17,541 --> 01:02:18,416 marriage did not survive. 81 01:02:18,833 --> 01:02:19,791 Well, let's move to 82 01:02:19,791 --> 01:02:21,125 something happier, like birthdays. 83 01:02:21,541 --> 01:02:22,750 Happy birthday to you if 84 01:02:22,750 --> 01:02:23,625 today is your birthday. 85 01:02:24,125 --> 01:02:26,791 Do share a birthday with country music 86 01:02:26,791 --> 01:02:28,458 powerhouse, Martina McBride. 87 01:02:28,458 --> 01:02:29,541 She's 58 today. 88 01:02:30,291 --> 01:02:31,250 Stand by me, Star 89 01:02:31,250 --> 01:02:33,083 Trek actor, Will Wheaton. 90 01:02:33,291 --> 01:02:34,500 He's 52 today. 91 01:02:35,083 --> 01:02:36,500 You remember this guy, the documentary 92 01:02:36,500 --> 01:02:37,833 filmmaker and voice of 93 01:02:37,833 --> 01:02:41,208 PBS, Ken Burns, 71 today, and 94 01:02:41,208 --> 01:02:42,500 the late Peter Jennings. 95 01:02:42,750 --> 01:02:43,916 He was the legendary news 96 01:02:43,916 --> 01:02:45,375 anchor who was born in 1938. 97 01:02:45,958 --> 01:02:47,250 He would have been 86 today. 98 01:02:47,875 --> 01:02:49,583 Well, the number one song on this date 99 01:02:49,583 --> 01:02:52,000 back in 1985 was "Every 100 01:02:52,000 --> 01:02:53,416 Time You Go Away" by Paul 101 01:02:53,458 --> 01:02:53,666 Young. 102 01:02:54,000 --> 01:02:56,125 Now, this song, awesome song by the way, 103 01:02:56,375 --> 01:02:57,333 was originally 104 01:02:57,333 --> 01:02:59,125 written by Dear Hall of Hall 105 01:02:59,125 --> 01:02:59,791 of Notes, right? 106 01:03:00,041 --> 01:03:01,750 But this soulful bow that became a 107 01:03:01,750 --> 01:03:03,583 surprise hit when Young gave 108 01:03:03,583 --> 01:03:05,083 it more of a tender makeover 109 01:03:05,458 --> 01:03:07,500 and it captured the heartbreak of summer 110 01:03:07,500 --> 01:03:09,041 goodbyes and became the 111 01:03:09,041 --> 01:03:10,875 anthem of long distance love. 112 01:03:10,875 --> 01:03:11,791 And it remains one of the 113 01:03:11,791 --> 01:03:14,208 most iconic covers of the 80s. 114 01:03:14,208 --> 01:03:15,625 Again, another fantastic song. 115 01:03:16,416 --> 01:03:16,958 Well, we're not ready 116 01:03:16,958 --> 01:03:17,958 to go away just yet. 117 01:03:17,958 --> 01:03:18,833 We're going to move into 118 01:03:18,833 --> 01:03:19,916 our book segment, right? 119 01:03:20,000 --> 01:03:21,250 And we're still working through Steve and 120 01:03:21,250 --> 01:03:22,500 our CoV's, "The Seven 121 01:03:22,500 --> 01:03:23,708 Habits of Highly Effective 122 01:03:23,833 --> 01:03:24,208 People." 123 01:03:24,416 --> 01:03:26,458 And today we continue with habit four, 124 01:03:26,458 --> 01:03:28,083 okay, which is the think win-win, okay? 125 01:03:28,500 --> 01:03:30,125 And we're diving into the sub chapter, 126 01:03:30,583 --> 01:03:33,166 "Six Paradigms of Human Interaction." 127 01:03:33,416 --> 01:03:34,708 Now, there's a lot in this chapter and 128 01:03:34,708 --> 01:03:35,791 I'm condensing it quite 129 01:03:35,791 --> 01:03:36,791 a bit for you in here, 130 01:03:37,000 --> 01:03:37,083 right? 131 01:03:37,083 --> 01:03:37,916 Six paradigms. 132 01:03:37,916 --> 01:03:40,916 So, CoV explores all six approaches to 133 01:03:40,916 --> 01:03:42,916 how we interact with others, okay? 134 01:03:43,291 --> 01:03:45,000 Each with its own outlook on 135 01:03:45,000 --> 01:03:46,458 relationships and success. 136 01:03:46,958 --> 01:03:48,250 So maybe I'll come back another time and 137 01:03:48,250 --> 01:03:49,458 do each one of these individually. 138 01:03:49,958 --> 01:03:50,708 But here's kind of a 139 01:03:50,708 --> 01:03:51,791 summary of them for you. 140 01:03:51,791 --> 01:03:53,541 Here's number one, win-win. 141 01:03:54,083 --> 01:03:56,208 This is the golden standard, right? 142 01:03:57,041 --> 01:03:58,208 Mutual benefit and respect. 143 01:03:58,708 --> 01:04:01,041 Both parties feel good about the decision 144 01:04:01,041 --> 01:04:03,416 and they're committed to the action plan, 145 01:04:03,791 --> 01:04:04,000 okay? 146 01:04:04,458 --> 01:04:06,458 Number two, win-loops, okay? 147 01:04:06,583 --> 01:04:08,166 One person gets what they want at the 148 01:04:08,166 --> 01:04:10,000 expense of the other, right? 149 01:04:10,375 --> 01:04:11,833 This is often rooted in 150 01:04:11,833 --> 01:04:13,666 power, control, or ego. 151 01:04:14,333 --> 01:04:15,166 It's a common, but 152 01:04:15,166 --> 01:04:16,625 it's an unhealthy model. 153 01:04:17,375 --> 01:04:19,375 Number three, lose-win, okay? 154 01:04:19,708 --> 01:04:21,583 Now, you're sacrificing your needs or 155 01:04:21,583 --> 01:04:23,541 your values to avoid conflict. 156 01:04:23,875 --> 01:04:25,666 So you're losing while they win, while it 157 01:04:25,666 --> 01:04:27,041 might seem generous of you. 158 01:04:27,416 --> 01:04:28,791 It often builds resentment 159 01:04:28,791 --> 01:04:31,208 and it erodes trust over time. 160 01:04:31,833 --> 01:04:34,583 Okay, here's number four, lose-lose. 161 01:04:34,791 --> 01:04:35,625 No one likes this one. 162 01:04:35,625 --> 01:04:37,333 This one's pure sabotage, right? 163 01:04:37,583 --> 01:04:39,416 If I can't win, no one can win. 164 01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:40,750 It's the nuclear 165 01:04:40,750 --> 01:04:42,666 option of human interaction. 166 01:04:42,875 --> 01:04:44,250 It's often rooted in 167 01:04:44,250 --> 01:04:46,541 vengeance or despair, okay? 168 01:04:46,541 --> 01:04:47,875 Number five, win. 169 01:04:48,500 --> 01:04:51,666 Just focusing on your own success without 170 01:04:51,666 --> 01:04:53,416 even caring how it affects others. 171 01:04:53,875 --> 01:04:56,125 Now, this may look efficient, but it 172 01:04:56,125 --> 01:04:57,583 often leaves a ton of 173 01:04:57,583 --> 01:04:59,500 damage to relationships and 174 01:04:59,541 --> 01:05:01,458 others in its wake, okay? 175 01:05:01,791 --> 01:05:03,333 Here's the final one, number six, thanks 176 01:05:03,333 --> 01:05:04,125 for sticking in there. 177 01:05:04,833 --> 01:05:07,166 Win-win or no deal, okay? 178 01:05:07,500 --> 01:05:08,541 This is the ultimate 179 01:05:08,541 --> 01:05:10,000 expression of integrity. 180 01:05:10,750 --> 01:05:12,666 If a mutually beneficial agreement can't 181 01:05:12,666 --> 01:05:13,708 be reached, both 182 01:05:13,708 --> 01:05:15,500 parties walk away with their 183 01:05:15,500 --> 01:05:17,291 respect intact, okay? 184 01:05:18,083 --> 01:05:19,750 Kove emphasizes that a 185 01:05:19,750 --> 01:05:21,708 win-win is not a technique. 186 01:05:22,125 --> 01:05:24,041 It's a total philosophy of human 187 01:05:24,041 --> 01:05:25,291 interaction, end quote. 188 01:05:25,791 --> 01:05:28,208 And it requires character, okay? 189 01:05:28,791 --> 01:05:30,125 Relationships and systems 190 01:05:30,125 --> 01:05:31,875 built on trust and abundance. 191 01:05:32,375 --> 01:05:33,458 You can't fake it. 192 01:05:33,458 --> 01:05:35,458 It's not about surface level compromise, 193 01:05:35,458 --> 01:05:37,583 but deep, genuine collaboration. 194 01:05:38,250 --> 01:05:39,791 Okay, here's the takeaway. 195 01:05:40,541 --> 01:05:43,250 In work, life, and yes, even in choosing 196 01:05:43,250 --> 01:05:44,250 a restaurant with your 197 01:05:44,250 --> 01:05:46,291 partner, aim for win-win. 198 01:05:46,791 --> 01:05:49,750 If both people feel good, you're not just 199 01:05:49,750 --> 01:05:51,375 winning, you're leading. 200 01:05:52,208 --> 01:05:54,958 All right, you gnarly, gnarly go-getters 201 01:05:54,958 --> 01:05:55,875 who are probably 202 01:05:55,875 --> 01:05:56,958 planning to have lasagna for 203 01:05:56,958 --> 01:05:58,375 dinner tonight or maybe breakfast. 204 01:05:59,375 --> 01:06:01,083 That is a wrap on today's morning cereal. 205 01:06:01,583 --> 01:06:03,375 Take Will Arnett's advice and lighten up 206 01:06:03,375 --> 01:06:04,000 a little bit, right? 207 01:06:04,208 --> 01:06:05,750 Seriously, the world could use more 208 01:06:05,750 --> 01:06:07,375 smiles and fewer spreadsheets. 209 01:06:07,916 --> 01:06:08,375 Well, I love 210 01:06:08,375 --> 01:06:09,666 spreadsheets, so maybe not that one. 211 01:06:09,958 --> 01:06:11,750 But hey, let me just say thanks for 212 01:06:11,750 --> 01:06:12,750 hanging out with us today. 213 01:06:12,750 --> 01:06:14,125 Come back here tomorrow for more news, 214 01:06:14,125 --> 01:06:15,250 nostalgia, and some 215 01:06:15,250 --> 01:06:16,333 nuggets of wisdom, I hope. 216 01:06:16,583 --> 01:06:19,166 And as always, have a fantastic day. 217 01:06:20,333 --> 01:06:22,291 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 218 01:06:22,291 --> 01:06:23,000 the Morning Cereal 219 01:06:23,000 --> 01:06:25,041 podcast on the One Life Live 220 01:06:25,041 --> 01:06:25,500 It channel. 221 01:06:26,083 --> 01:06:28,000 You can find more episodes and videos by 222 01:06:28,000 --> 01:06:28,750 visiting our YouTube 223 01:06:28,750 --> 01:06:30,916 channel and the website at Shawn 224 01:06:30,916 --> 01:06:33,666 Inglis and at ShawnInglis.com, where you 225 01:06:33,666 --> 01:06:34,833 can also follow our 226 01:06:34,833 --> 01:06:36,250 other podcasts, the Mr. and 227 01:06:36,291 --> 01:06:37,791 Mrs. Inglis podcast and 228 01:06:37,791 --> 01:06:38,833 the Life Happens podcast. 229 01:06:39,666 --> 01:06:41,791 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 230 01:06:41,791 --> 01:06:42,708 into everyday issues, 231 01:06:43,000 --> 01:06:44,250 self-improvement, well-being, 232 01:06:44,500 --> 01:06:46,250 business and finance, and we 233 01:06:46,250 --> 01:06:47,500 welcome special guests too. 234 01:06:48,000 --> 01:06:48,750 So join us. 235 01:06:48,750 --> 01:06:50,125 It'll be a good time, I promise. 236 01:06:50,791 --> 01:06:51,875 Thanks again for listening. 237 01:06:51,875 --> 01:06:53,000 Have a fantastic day, 238 01:06:53,291 --> 01:06:53,958 and we'll see you tomorrow.