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Good morning and welcome

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to your morning cereal.

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Okay, good morning and welcome to Monday.

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I hope you had a fantastic weekend

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and you're here ready to start and

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conquer another week.

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Well, let's just say for some of us,

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conquering may look just

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a little bit different.

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It might be a little

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more on that quiet side.

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And today we celebrate us.

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Today is World Introvert Day,

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celebrating those who

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know how to self reflect,

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they have quiet

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strength, they're creative,

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and all my fellow

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introverts who recharge in solitude.

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Well, the answer to

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Friday's trivia was decoupage.

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That's the craft involving

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the cutting out of images

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and varnishing them

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onto an object, decoupage.

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And now the essential

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vitamins in your morning cereal.

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Today's quote is from

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birthday boy turning 52 today,

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comedian Dax Shepard, who said, quote,

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"The minute you stop

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needing someone else's approval,

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you reclaim your power," end

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quote, which feels freeing,

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right, sounds freeing and a little bit

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uncomfortable maybe,

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but you will achieve a new level of

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personal empowerment

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and self-sufficiency the

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moment you start to base

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your decisions and your

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self-worth and your actions

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on your own internal values,

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rather than the opinions or the

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acceptance of others.

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All right, good luck.

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Well, let's hear from the experts now.

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It's time to pour in

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some of the let them theory

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by Mel Robbins.

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And we are in the sub-chapter,

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stop bailing out other adults.

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Now, Mel Robbins delivers

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one of the most uncomfortable,

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but necessary truths

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here in the entire book.

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Helping too much can

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actually hold people back.

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She explains that when we

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repeatedly rescue other adults

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from consequences,

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financial, emotional, or logistical,

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we're not being kind to them.

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We're actually

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interfering with their growth.

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Mel writes, quote,

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"Bailing someone out might

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feel loving in the moment,

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but it steals their confidence in the

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long run," end quote.

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Now, that line lands because so many of

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us help out of care,

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out of guilt or habit,

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not realizing that we're

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quietly teaching people to rely

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instead of rise, right?

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So she goes on to explain

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that adults grow through

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experience, not protection.

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When we step in too quickly,

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we remove the very discomfort

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that builds resilience, okay?

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Mel points out that this pattern often

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shows up in families,

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in friendships, and

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even in the workplace,

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where one person

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consistently becomes the fixer

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while quietly burning out.

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Now, another powerful

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reminder from the chapter

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is when Mel says, quote,

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"When you carry someone

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else's responsibilities,

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you teach them they don't need to carry

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their own," end quote.

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Now, that's not

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support, that's substitution.

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And over time, it creates

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resentment on both sides.

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So Mel emphasizes that

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boundaries are not punishments.

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They are clarity for everyone.

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Saying no doesn't mean you don't care.

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It means you trust

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the other person enough

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to figure things out for themselves.

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Letting someone struggle

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doesn't make you heartless.

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It makes you respectful

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of their ability to grow.

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Now, she also addresses the guilt

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that comes along with

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stepping back from these situations.

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Mel reminds readers that

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discomfort is part of adulthood,

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right?

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And shielding people

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from it delays maturity

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rather than helping it out.

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So this chapter is

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ultimately about respect.

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Respect for your own time,

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respect for your own

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energy and emotional health,

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and also respect for other

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adults' abilities to learn,

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to adapt, and to succeed.

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All right, well, here

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is your Monday takeaway.

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Stop rescuing grown

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adults from consequences.

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Real support means trusting

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them to rise on their own.

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All right, well, today,

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remember that quiet

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strength still counts.

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Honor your pace today.

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Now, the prize from the

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bottom of the cereal box,

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the morning cereal

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trivia question of the day.

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Here it is.

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What volleyball position

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wears a distinct jersey?

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All right, hey, thanks for listening to

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morning cereal today.

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We will see you back here tomorrow

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for the answer to the trivia question

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and more sugar for the soul.

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And until then, have a fantastic day.

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It'll be a good time, I promise.

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Thanks again for listening.

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Have a fantastic day and

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we'll see you tomorrow.