1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,583 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:13,083 All right, everyone. 4 01:00:13,083 --> 01:00:15,375 Good morning and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:16,125 --> 01:00:18,541 Today is National First Responders Day 6 01:00:18,541 --> 01:00:20,250 and it's also National 7 01:00:20,250 --> 01:00:22,375 Chocolate Day, which feels 8 01:00:22,666 --> 01:00:23,375 pretty good putting 9 01:00:23,375 --> 01:00:24,250 both of those together. 10 01:00:24,250 --> 01:00:25,541 And it's a little poetic, right? 11 01:00:25,833 --> 01:00:28,375 One of them honors those who rush in when 12 01:00:28,375 --> 01:00:29,333 life gets really 13 01:00:29,333 --> 01:00:30,958 rough for us and the other 14 01:00:30,958 --> 01:00:32,166 one it helps the rest 15 01:00:32,166 --> 01:00:34,041 of us recover afterwards. 16 01:00:34,708 --> 01:00:37,000 So whether you're saving lives or saving 17 01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:38,375 your mood with a bar of 18 01:00:38,375 --> 01:00:39,875 dark chocolate, you're 19 01:00:39,875 --> 01:00:40,916 doing noble work. 20 01:00:41,166 --> 01:00:41,666 And thank you. 21 01:00:42,083 --> 01:00:43,916 Well, our quote this morning comes from 22 01:00:43,916 --> 01:00:45,541 the noble Julia 23 01:00:45,541 --> 01:00:48,000 Roberts who once said, "True 24 01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:49,625 love doesn't come to you. 25 01:00:49,625 --> 01:00:51,375 It has to be inside of you." 26 01:00:52,250 --> 01:00:54,500 Now that applies to more than just 27 01:00:54,500 --> 01:00:57,833 romance, kindness, patience, and calm. 28 01:00:58,000 --> 01:00:59,666 They all start from within. 29 01:01:00,208 --> 01:01:01,416 Now the world, it just 30 01:01:01,416 --> 01:01:03,916 mirrors what you bring to it. 31 01:01:04,291 --> 01:01:04,666 All right. 32 01:01:04,666 --> 01:01:06,500 Well, today's birthdays and news facts 33 01:01:06,500 --> 01:01:08,458 are for October 28th. 34 01:01:08,458 --> 01:01:09,833 Starting back in 1886, 35 01:01:10,291 --> 01:01:11,458 a big day for America. 36 01:01:11,750 --> 01:01:13,708 That's when the Statue of Liberty was 37 01:01:13,708 --> 01:01:16,166 dedicated by President Grover Cleveland 38 01:01:16,166 --> 01:01:17,375 and it was celebrated 39 01:01:17,375 --> 01:01:18,333 with the very first 40 01:01:18,333 --> 01:01:20,291 confetti parade in New York City. 41 01:01:20,791 --> 01:01:23,833 And then finally for today in 1965 on 42 01:01:23,833 --> 01:01:25,791 this date, the Gateway Arch 43 01:01:25,791 --> 01:01:27,500 in St. Louis was finished. 44 01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:28,916 Well, happy birthday to you. 45 01:01:28,916 --> 01:01:29,916 Today was your birthday. 46 01:01:30,125 --> 01:01:31,125 You share a birthday 47 01:01:31,125 --> 01:01:33,041 with actor Joaquin Phoenix. 48 01:01:33,041 --> 01:01:34,083 He's 51 today. 49 01:01:34,333 --> 01:01:35,125 Country singer Brad 50 01:01:35,125 --> 01:01:36,541 Paisley, he's just 53. 51 01:01:37,208 --> 01:01:38,333 Pretty woman and actress 52 01:01:38,333 --> 01:01:40,500 Julia Roberts, she's 58 today. 53 01:01:40,916 --> 01:01:42,916 The visionary and philanthropist and he's 54 01:01:42,916 --> 01:01:45,000 only worth 106 billion, which is good for 55 01:01:45,000 --> 01:01:46,416 top maybe 12 in the world. 56 01:01:47,041 --> 01:01:48,958 Bill Gates, he's 70 today. 57 01:01:49,708 --> 01:01:52,041 And Olympian and public figure, believe 58 01:01:52,041 --> 01:01:54,541 it or not, she's 75 59 01:01:54,541 --> 01:01:56,291 today, Caitlin Jenner. 60 01:01:56,875 --> 01:01:58,833 Well, the number one song on this date 61 01:01:58,833 --> 01:02:03,666 back in 1985 was "Take On Me" by Aha. 62 01:02:03,875 --> 01:02:06,166 Now, I know you remember this video if 63 01:02:06,166 --> 01:02:08,958 you ever turned on MTV in the 80s. 64 01:02:08,958 --> 01:02:11,375 Now Aha's innovative pencil sketch 65 01:02:11,375 --> 01:02:13,166 animation video, it became 66 01:02:13,166 --> 01:02:15,708 an MTV legend and it made 67 01:02:15,708 --> 01:02:18,125 the band Norwegian Superstars. 68 01:02:18,500 --> 01:02:20,208 The songs soaring falsetto and those 69 01:02:20,208 --> 01:02:21,208 hopeful lyrics, they 70 01:02:21,208 --> 01:02:22,750 still capture that 80s magic 71 01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:24,000 of running towards your 72 01:02:24,000 --> 01:02:25,833 dreams in slow motion. 73 01:02:26,416 --> 01:02:28,208 Okay, well, we've reached the book review 74 01:02:28,208 --> 01:02:29,291 segment and we are 75 01:02:29,291 --> 01:02:31,500 reading Mel Robbins, the 76 01:02:31,500 --> 01:02:32,416 Let Them Theory. 77 01:02:32,750 --> 01:02:35,208 And today's sub chapter is, "You have 78 01:02:35,208 --> 01:02:36,625 zero control over 79 01:02:36,625 --> 01:02:38,708 someone else's opinion of you," 80 01:02:39,291 --> 01:02:41,583 which I've confirmed is accurate. 81 01:02:42,166 --> 01:02:44,291 And Robbins opens this section with the 82 01:02:44,291 --> 01:02:46,208 truth we all need to hear. 83 01:02:46,375 --> 01:02:48,791 "You can't control what they think. 84 01:02:48,791 --> 01:02:49,916 You can only control what 85 01:02:49,916 --> 01:02:51,375 you believe about yourself." 86 01:02:52,583 --> 01:02:55,041 And Robbins explains that most of our 87 01:02:55,041 --> 01:02:56,750 daily stress comes not 88 01:02:56,750 --> 01:02:58,666 from people's opinions, but 89 01:02:58,791 --> 01:03:01,166 from our own efforts to manage those 90 01:03:01,166 --> 01:03:02,125 other people's opinions. 91 01:03:02,875 --> 01:03:05,125 Now, when we let others have their 92 01:03:05,125 --> 01:03:06,541 thoughts without trying to 93 01:03:06,541 --> 01:03:08,416 edit them, we start taking 94 01:03:08,458 --> 01:03:09,958 back a little bit of our piece. 95 01:03:10,708 --> 01:03:13,458 Robbins calls this "emotional ownership." 96 01:03:13,875 --> 01:03:16,583 Now, when you react defensively, you give 97 01:03:16,583 --> 01:03:17,458 someone else the keys 98 01:03:17,458 --> 01:03:18,458 to your self-esteem. 99 01:03:19,000 --> 01:03:20,750 But when you accept their view as simply 100 01:03:20,750 --> 01:03:22,666 their view, you keep 101 01:03:22,666 --> 01:03:24,583 those keys securely in your 102 01:03:24,583 --> 01:03:25,083 pocket. 103 01:03:25,666 --> 01:03:27,791 And she reminds us, "Confidence doesn't 104 01:03:27,791 --> 01:03:29,708 mean everyone likes you. 105 01:03:30,041 --> 01:03:32,833 It means you're okay if they don't." 106 01:03:33,666 --> 01:03:36,000 Now, this chapter also dives into how 107 01:03:36,000 --> 01:03:37,000 social media 108 01:03:37,000 --> 01:03:39,916 intensifies that approval trap. 109 01:03:40,791 --> 01:03:43,375 Every comment, every like can feel like a 110 01:03:43,375 --> 01:03:44,625 verdict on your life, 111 01:03:45,125 --> 01:03:46,750 until you decide your 112 01:03:46,750 --> 01:03:48,708 value is not negotiable. 113 01:03:49,166 --> 01:03:49,875 Her advice here? 114 01:03:50,375 --> 01:03:52,625 Observe, but don't absorb that. 115 01:03:53,291 --> 01:03:55,041 People are just projecting their own 116 01:03:55,041 --> 01:03:56,458 fears and their own filters. 117 01:03:56,791 --> 01:03:57,250 Let them. 118 01:03:57,666 --> 01:03:58,958 You focus on showing up 119 01:03:58,958 --> 01:04:00,625 authentically to yourself. 120 01:04:01,041 --> 01:04:02,708 Okay, here's your Tuesday takeaway. 121 01:04:03,458 --> 01:04:06,000 You can't change opinions, but you can 122 01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:08,666 choose self-respect over their approval. 123 01:04:09,250 --> 01:04:11,125 And that choice is freedom. 124 01:04:11,750 --> 01:04:12,916 Alright, so today, 125 01:04:13,416 --> 01:04:15,041 thank a first responder. 126 01:04:15,500 --> 01:04:17,291 Unwrap some of that Halloween chocolate 127 01:04:17,291 --> 01:04:18,166 you or your parents 128 01:04:18,166 --> 01:04:19,875 have ready to go, and just 129 01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:21,708 let go of what anyone else thinks. 130 01:04:22,250 --> 01:04:24,333 You've got way better things to do. 131 01:04:24,541 --> 01:04:27,500 And like always, have a fantastic day. 132 01:04:28,500 --> 01:04:30,666 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 133 01:04:30,666 --> 01:04:31,291 the Morning Serial 134 01:04:31,291 --> 01:04:33,416 Podcast on the One Life Live 135 01:04:33,416 --> 01:04:33,958 It channel. 136 01:04:34,416 --> 01:04:36,333 You can find more episodes and videos by 137 01:04:36,333 --> 01:04:38,041 visiting our YouTube channel and the 138 01:04:38,041 --> 01:04:39,666 website at Shawningless 139 01:04:40,041 --> 01:04:42,208 and at Shawningless.com, where you can 140 01:04:42,208 --> 01:04:43,500 also follow our other 141 01:04:43,500 --> 01:04:45,041 podcasts, the Mr. and Mrs. 142 01:04:45,041 --> 01:04:46,250 Inglis Podcast and the 143 01:04:46,250 --> 01:04:47,208 Life Happens Podcast. 144 01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:50,166 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 145 01:04:50,166 --> 01:04:51,083 into 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