1 01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:01,416 (upbeat music) 2 01:00:01,833 --> 01:00:02,791 The money doesn't buy happiness. 3 01:00:03,000 --> 01:00:03,750 But it kind of does. 4 01:00:04,166 --> 01:00:05,166 But it kind of does. 5 01:00:05,500 --> 01:00:06,583 I'm finding that that's a lie. 6 01:00:06,958 --> 01:00:08,000 Why didn't you do that? 7 01:00:08,833 --> 01:00:10,000 We did want to do that. 8 01:00:10,583 --> 01:00:11,750 No, I've started not 9 01:00:11,750 --> 01:00:12,666 caring quite as much. 10 01:00:13,416 --> 01:00:14,000 Well, that was such a 11 01:00:14,000 --> 01:00:15,000 quandary that I had. 12 01:00:15,291 --> 01:00:16,541 Over that time, you 13 01:00:16,541 --> 01:00:17,375 developed the strength 14 01:00:17,375 --> 01:00:18,375 to carry that weight. 15 01:00:18,416 --> 01:00:19,291 I do think that you 16 01:00:19,291 --> 01:00:20,750 appreciate the value of time 17 01:00:20,750 --> 01:00:21,958 as more time goes on. 18 01:00:21,958 --> 01:00:22,875 We're the crazy train. 19 01:00:22,875 --> 01:00:23,875 This is insanity. 20 01:00:24,291 --> 01:00:26,333 I mean, there's money everywhere. 21 01:00:27,083 --> 01:00:28,791 And so it's not like, it's true. 22 01:00:28,833 --> 01:00:30,208 More money, more problems. 23 01:00:30,250 --> 01:00:31,416 Okay, so now you're really 24 01:00:31,416 --> 01:00:33,000 gonna, you're gonna judge me. 25 01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:34,541 We're not that crazy, I 26 01:00:34,541 --> 01:00:35,500 don't think, but yeah. 27 01:00:36,083 --> 01:00:38,416 PDA on steroids. 28 01:00:38,666 --> 01:00:40,250 But weird. One time he bit her cheek to the point 29 01:00:40,250 --> 01:00:40,833 where I could see her 30 01:00:40,833 --> 01:00:42,166 skin like pulling away. 31 01:00:42,458 --> 01:00:43,333 It was weird. 32 01:00:43,916 --> 01:00:44,958 You go with your bad self. 33 01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:45,791 You go with it. 34 01:00:45,875 --> 01:00:46,541 Oh, they're always 35 01:00:46,541 --> 01:00:47,750 after me, Lucky Charms. 36 01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:48,458 See ya. 37 01:00:50,208 --> 01:00:51,333 In the can, is that what they say? 38 01:00:51,541 --> 01:00:52,166 (laughing) 39 01:00:52,208 --> 01:00:53,166 I don't know. 40 01:00:54,208 --> 01:00:55,125 I don't think so. 41 01:00:55,666 --> 01:00:56,333 I think that means 42 01:00:56,333 --> 01:00:57,125 you're in the bathroom. 43 01:00:57,708 --> 01:00:58,500 Welcome to the Mr. and 44 01:00:58,500 --> 01:00:59,416 Mrs. English Podcast. 45 01:00:59,875 --> 01:01:00,250 I'm Megan. 46 01:01:00,666 --> 01:01:01,208 And I'm Sean. 47 01:01:01,500 --> 01:01:02,541 We're here to talk about 48 01:01:02,541 --> 01:01:04,166 the wild ride of raising kids 49 01:01:04,166 --> 01:01:05,166 and growing careers, 50 01:01:05,500 --> 01:01:06,500 keeping life together 51 01:01:06,500 --> 01:01:07,708 in the middle of all the chaos. 52 01:01:08,416 --> 01:01:10,375 So buckle up because we're all 53 01:01:10,375 --> 01:01:11,708 in this crazy journey together. 54 01:01:13,500 --> 01:01:13,875 All right. 55 01:01:15,583 --> 01:01:15,875 You ready? 56 01:01:16,166 --> 01:01:16,750 I think I'm ready. 57 01:01:18,083 --> 01:01:19,333 Megan's been patiently 58 01:01:19,333 --> 01:01:21,333 sitting here for at least 30 seconds 59 01:01:21,333 --> 01:01:23,458 while I adjust my collar, 60 01:01:24,208 --> 01:01:26,166 adjust my sitting, my shirt. 61 01:01:26,416 --> 01:01:27,958 I gotta put my water over here. 62 01:01:27,958 --> 01:01:29,833 Oops, I better get my sleeves pulled up. 63 01:01:30,791 --> 01:01:30,833 (laughing) 64 01:01:30,916 --> 01:01:31,166 Welcome. 65 01:01:32,500 --> 01:01:32,666 Welcome. 66 01:01:33,500 --> 01:01:34,375 Oh my gosh. 67 01:01:34,875 --> 01:01:35,958 So you seem ready now. 68 01:01:36,750 --> 01:01:37,291 Do I? 69 01:01:37,291 --> 01:01:37,750 Good, yep. 70 01:01:38,250 --> 01:01:38,458 Awesome. 71 01:01:38,708 --> 01:01:39,541 We are always ready. 72 01:01:39,541 --> 01:01:40,458 I mean, if there's, I 73 01:01:40,458 --> 01:01:41,041 think there's one thing 74 01:01:41,041 --> 01:01:44,625 that people watch our podcast on YouTube 75 01:01:44,958 --> 01:01:47,000 and they're like, if nothing else, 76 01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:47,750 they just seem so 77 01:01:47,750 --> 01:01:49,125 prepared every time they sit 78 01:01:49,708 --> 01:01:50,333 in those chairs. 79 01:01:51,458 --> 01:01:52,416 It's like a lot of, 80 01:01:52,416 --> 01:01:53,000 because it does. 81 01:01:53,208 --> 01:01:54,750 I mean, I gotta think what? 82 01:01:56,291 --> 01:01:59,833 15 to 28 hours we spend planning these. 83 01:02:00,291 --> 01:02:00,916 Oh, easily. 84 01:02:01,541 --> 01:02:01,958 Easily. 85 01:02:02,583 --> 01:02:02,791 Yeah. 86 01:02:02,833 --> 01:02:04,916 And we record for about five hours. 87 01:02:05,291 --> 01:02:07,125 Sure, just to get, you know, 40. 88 01:02:07,416 --> 01:02:08,375 And we cut it way 89 01:02:08,375 --> 01:02:09,625 back to like 40 minutes. 90 01:02:09,708 --> 01:02:10,791 40 minutes of content. 91 01:02:10,791 --> 01:02:12,916 When we've specifically suggested 92 01:02:12,916 --> 01:02:15,083 we're trying to get ourselves to 30. 93 01:02:15,125 --> 01:02:16,125 I know, we're trying to keep 94 01:02:16,125 --> 01:02:17,375 it nice and short and sweet. 95 01:02:17,416 --> 01:02:18,583 Yeah, we're gonna get there today. 96 01:02:19,333 --> 01:02:20,208 Oh, I love that. 97 01:02:20,416 --> 01:02:21,000 Today's the day. 98 01:02:21,958 --> 01:02:22,500 You know what? 99 01:02:22,500 --> 01:02:22,875 It's a goal. 100 01:02:23,500 --> 01:02:24,333 You gotta have a goal. 101 01:02:24,958 --> 01:02:26,000 Yeah, yeah. 102 01:02:26,583 --> 01:02:28,083 So how are you since last week? 103 01:02:29,125 --> 01:02:31,041 I think I'm doing all right. 104 01:02:31,125 --> 01:02:31,416 Yeah. 105 01:02:31,416 --> 01:02:32,125 Yeah, it's been a 106 01:02:32,125 --> 01:02:33,708 little, like this week's been, 107 01:02:33,708 --> 01:02:35,000 it's flown by because 108 01:02:35,000 --> 01:02:36,791 we were in New York. 109 01:02:36,875 --> 01:02:37,458 Yeah, we've been in 110 01:02:37,458 --> 01:02:38,458 New York since last one. 111 01:02:38,500 --> 01:02:38,833 Yeah. 112 01:02:39,541 --> 01:02:41,541 And we've entered into 113 01:02:41,541 --> 01:02:42,750 spring break since the last one. 114 01:02:43,416 --> 01:02:44,708 Yeah, the biggest change 115 01:02:44,708 --> 01:02:45,958 for me over the last week, 116 01:02:46,291 --> 01:02:47,875 not only, we were obviously in New York, 117 01:02:47,875 --> 01:02:49,708 but we were in almost 90 118 01:02:49,708 --> 01:02:50,916 degree weather here in Texas. 119 01:02:51,291 --> 01:02:52,791 Oh goodness gracious, yes. 120 01:02:53,166 --> 01:02:55,333 Then in New York, it was snowing on us. 121 01:02:55,416 --> 01:02:56,291 Yeah, it was. 122 01:02:56,291 --> 01:02:57,583 Then we come back to Texas. 123 01:02:57,583 --> 01:02:58,958 Oh, thank God, it's 80 124 01:02:58,958 --> 01:03:00,041 degrees, it's beautiful. 125 01:03:00,375 --> 01:03:01,541 We had the doors open. 126 01:03:02,333 --> 01:03:02,958 And then the next 127 01:03:02,958 --> 01:03:05,416 day, the doors are cold, 128 01:03:05,875 --> 01:03:07,333 and I'm outside chasing 129 01:03:07,333 --> 01:03:10,041 down all of our lawn furniture. 130 01:03:11,125 --> 01:03:12,416 And the trampoline. 131 01:03:12,416 --> 01:03:13,458 And the trampoline, 132 01:03:13,916 --> 01:03:17,083 because it's like crazy windy. 133 01:03:17,166 --> 01:03:18,166 It was insanity. 134 01:03:18,791 --> 01:03:20,291 Rolling in cold weather, cold weather. 135 01:03:20,375 --> 01:03:21,000 Cold weather. 136 01:03:21,250 --> 01:03:22,833 I did the math based 137 01:03:22,833 --> 01:03:24,083 on when we took a walk 138 01:03:24,083 --> 01:03:25,541 and it was like 77, I was like, 139 01:03:25,541 --> 01:03:26,541 "It's almost hot out 140 01:03:26,541 --> 01:03:27,625 here," and blah, blah, blah. 141 01:03:27,666 --> 01:03:27,875 Yeah. 142 01:03:28,833 --> 01:03:31,375 By the time it was like dinnertime, 143 01:03:31,375 --> 01:03:31,958 I think it had dropped 144 01:03:31,958 --> 01:03:33,875 like 10 degrees every hour, 145 01:03:34,375 --> 01:03:35,833 because the real feel 146 01:03:35,833 --> 01:03:37,750 when I took the dog out at, 147 01:03:38,250 --> 01:03:38,625 That night. 148 01:03:38,625 --> 01:03:40,291 10 o'clock at night, yeah, that night, 149 01:03:40,833 --> 01:03:42,375 the real feel was 28 degrees. 150 01:03:42,708 --> 01:03:44,291 Yeah, we had a real discussion 151 01:03:45,083 --> 01:03:46,916 about why you weren't wearing sunscreen. 152 01:03:47,583 --> 01:03:48,500 Yeah, yeah. 153 01:03:48,541 --> 01:03:49,708 On our walk, because it was hot 154 01:03:49,750 --> 01:03:51,000 and it was beating down and all that. 155 01:03:51,500 --> 01:03:52,250 So it was super nice. 156 01:03:52,708 --> 01:03:56,083 And then I saw the real feel that night, 157 01:03:56,083 --> 01:03:57,208 like you were saying, it 158 01:03:57,208 --> 01:03:59,291 was still 50, what was it? 159 01:03:59,958 --> 01:04:00,458 It was 48. 160 01:04:00,916 --> 01:04:01,875 It was 46, it was 48? 161 01:04:01,875 --> 01:04:03,000 Oh, you just said that, right? 162 01:04:03,000 --> 01:04:03,708 Yeah, I think it was 48. 163 01:04:03,708 --> 01:04:04,875 It was 48, I'm like, 164 01:04:05,250 --> 01:04:06,833 but the real feel is 28. 165 01:04:07,500 --> 01:04:07,708 28. 166 01:04:07,875 --> 01:04:09,666 It blew in, so yeah, that is, 167 01:04:10,333 --> 01:04:11,250 I used to say Colorado 168 01:04:11,250 --> 01:04:12,333 weather's the craziest, 169 01:04:12,958 --> 01:04:14,500 and I still maybe stand by that, 170 01:04:14,500 --> 01:04:15,416 because you can get all 171 01:04:15,416 --> 01:04:17,000 the seasons within two hours. 172 01:04:17,000 --> 01:04:17,666 Yeah, yeah. 173 01:04:17,875 --> 01:04:18,583 There's not a lot of 174 01:04:18,583 --> 01:04:19,875 places you get all the seasons 175 01:04:19,875 --> 01:04:22,416 in two hours, but man, 176 01:04:22,416 --> 01:04:23,583 there's some drastic 177 01:04:23,583 --> 01:04:25,083 temperature changes here. 178 01:04:25,083 --> 01:04:26,125 It was crazy. 179 01:04:26,666 --> 01:04:28,000 The wind was so bad, 180 01:04:28,000 --> 01:04:29,166 so I was waiting for our 181 01:04:29,166 --> 01:04:30,250 youngest at a soccer practice, 182 01:04:30,250 --> 01:04:31,750 so I was just parked in a parking lot. 183 01:04:32,416 --> 01:04:34,041 I was getting motion sick, 184 01:04:34,500 --> 01:04:35,958 because the wind was 185 01:04:35,958 --> 01:04:38,125 blowing the car so much, 186 01:04:38,291 --> 01:04:39,250 just sitting there, 187 01:04:39,250 --> 01:04:40,166 that I got motion sick. 188 01:04:41,208 --> 01:04:41,416 Yeah. 189 01:04:41,791 --> 01:04:44,041 It was crazy. 190 01:04:44,666 --> 01:04:44,916 Yeah. 191 01:04:45,375 --> 01:04:46,416 And you know, like you 192 01:04:46,416 --> 01:04:47,333 can't drive on the highways, 193 01:04:47,375 --> 01:04:48,250 like my hands actually 194 01:04:48,250 --> 01:04:49,208 hurt from trying to drive 195 01:04:49,208 --> 01:04:50,291 on the highways and 196 01:04:50,291 --> 01:04:51,500 holding the car in the lanes. 197 01:04:51,833 --> 01:04:52,916 I know the feeling, I know the feeling. 198 01:04:53,375 --> 01:04:54,458 One thing I have to do 199 01:04:54,458 --> 01:04:55,916 from that, now that I know, 200 01:04:56,291 --> 01:04:56,958 well, hey, we've got 201 01:04:56,958 --> 01:04:58,750 the trampoline, you know, 202 01:04:58,750 --> 01:05:01,083 in the corner tied down to some degree. 203 01:05:01,083 --> 01:05:01,291 Yep. 204 01:05:01,625 --> 01:05:02,666 Well, I found one of 205 01:05:02,666 --> 01:05:04,583 our shingles in our yard. 206 01:05:04,666 --> 01:05:05,625 Yeah, that's not good. 207 01:05:06,416 --> 01:05:08,000 So, I'm like, I've never 208 01:05:08,000 --> 01:05:10,250 had one shingle fly off, 209 01:05:10,250 --> 01:05:10,958 so it's like, do I 210 01:05:10,958 --> 01:05:12,083 need to call the roof guy? 211 01:05:12,500 --> 01:05:14,250 Because this, we've been in our house 212 01:05:14,250 --> 01:05:14,750 about two and a half 213 01:05:14,791 --> 01:05:15,375 years. Yeah. 214 01:05:16,041 --> 01:05:17,625 And this is the year, 215 01:05:18,166 --> 01:05:20,333 like, I think I had a pool guy 216 01:05:20,333 --> 01:05:21,208 here today, I had a 217 01:05:21,208 --> 01:05:22,333 garage door guy here today, 218 01:05:22,333 --> 01:05:22,833 we had the roof 219 01:05:22,833 --> 01:05:24,416 people here two weeks ago, 220 01:05:24,875 --> 01:05:25,916 like the house is falling apart. 221 01:05:26,208 --> 01:05:28,166 And we got a new leak in my closet. 222 01:05:28,166 --> 01:05:28,666 Oh yeah, yeah. 223 01:05:29,375 --> 01:05:31,083 It's like, oh my gosh. 224 01:05:32,458 --> 01:05:33,250 And this guy's like, 225 01:05:33,250 --> 01:05:34,416 well, you know, it's a pool, 226 01:05:34,416 --> 01:05:35,083 this is what pools do, I 227 01:05:35,083 --> 01:05:36,208 was like, not my last pool. 228 01:05:36,208 --> 01:05:36,416 No. 229 01:05:36,625 --> 01:05:37,375 My last pool, I 230 01:05:37,375 --> 01:05:39,083 didn't spend one penny on. 231 01:05:39,083 --> 01:05:39,291 No. 232 01:05:39,500 --> 01:05:42,166 It just worked the whole time. 233 01:05:42,166 --> 01:05:42,375 All the time. 234 01:05:42,791 --> 01:05:43,208 I mean-- 235 01:05:43,208 --> 01:05:45,625 Never lost water, it never was-- 236 01:05:45,875 --> 01:05:47,000 I never even thought 237 01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:48,000 about it, other than getting 238 01:05:48,000 --> 01:05:49,083 leaves out of it, you 239 01:05:49,083 --> 01:05:50,541 know, skimmy and stuff. 240 01:05:51,125 --> 01:05:52,541 Right, the typical daily 241 01:05:52,541 --> 01:05:53,791 maintenance, but I mean, 242 01:05:53,791 --> 01:05:54,708 and we lived in that house 243 01:05:54,708 --> 01:05:56,208 for what, seven, eight years? 244 01:05:56,500 --> 01:05:57,583 And that pool was not new. 245 01:05:58,083 --> 01:05:59,250 We were not the first ones. 246 01:05:59,875 --> 01:06:01,583 It was at least nine years 247 01:06:01,583 --> 01:06:03,125 old before we even moved in. 248 01:06:03,125 --> 01:06:03,333 Right. 249 01:06:04,458 --> 01:06:05,833 Never had a problem, ever. 250 01:06:06,000 --> 01:06:07,625 But anyways, you know, 251 01:06:08,125 --> 01:06:08,666 what was I complaining 252 01:06:08,666 --> 01:06:09,916 to the garage door guy about? 253 01:06:10,666 --> 01:06:11,625 It was total, you 254 01:06:11,625 --> 01:06:12,708 know, first world problems. 255 01:06:13,333 --> 01:06:14,333 Oh, the spa, that's 256 01:06:14,333 --> 01:06:14,958 one of the other things. 257 01:06:15,041 --> 01:06:15,875 There's five things 258 01:06:15,875 --> 01:06:17,000 wrong in the pool right now. 259 01:06:17,916 --> 01:06:19,458 In the spa, when you 260 01:06:19,458 --> 01:06:20,916 heat the spa, it's draining 261 01:06:21,208 --> 01:06:21,916 instead of heating 262 01:06:21,916 --> 01:06:23,083 water, it's just draining. 263 01:06:23,500 --> 01:06:23,708 Yeah. 264 01:06:24,000 --> 01:06:26,291 Which is not what it's supposed to do. 265 01:06:26,958 --> 01:06:27,166 Really? 266 01:06:27,375 --> 01:06:27,666 Yeah. 267 01:06:27,666 --> 01:06:28,958 So when you say heat the spa, 268 01:06:28,958 --> 01:06:29,958 you don't mean drain the spa. 269 01:06:30,875 --> 01:06:31,416 Nope, heat. 270 01:06:31,666 --> 01:06:31,791 Heat. 271 01:06:31,833 --> 01:06:33,166 Heating is different than draining. 272 01:06:34,875 --> 01:06:36,291 Heating different, got it, got it. 273 01:06:36,291 --> 01:06:37,500 Yeah, I'll remember that next time. 274 01:06:37,708 --> 01:06:38,791 It is, it is. 275 01:06:39,083 --> 01:06:39,750 It's difficult. 276 01:06:40,333 --> 01:06:41,083 Like there was a time 277 01:06:41,083 --> 01:06:41,916 there when I was trying 278 01:06:41,916 --> 01:06:43,708 to drain our hot tub. 279 01:06:44,791 --> 01:06:46,125 I was sticking a whole 280 01:06:46,125 --> 01:06:48,083 bunch of hot pokers in it. 281 01:06:48,541 --> 01:06:49,333 Trying to heat it. 282 01:06:49,875 --> 01:06:50,458 And I'm like, why is 283 01:06:50,458 --> 01:06:51,458 this water not draining? 284 01:06:52,333 --> 01:06:53,375 Because I was heating it. 285 01:06:53,583 --> 01:06:54,625 Because you were heating it. 286 01:06:55,250 --> 01:06:58,250 You know, those are often confused. 287 01:06:59,458 --> 01:07:00,541 Anyways, anyways. 288 01:07:01,291 --> 01:07:02,916 Separate verbs entirely. 289 01:07:03,291 --> 01:07:04,958 Yeah, so first world problems. 290 01:07:04,958 --> 01:07:05,625 I mean, I get it. 291 01:07:06,041 --> 01:07:08,583 We're blessed, but it's, we were saying, 292 01:07:08,583 --> 01:07:09,958 it's just, it's a full-time job, 293 01:07:11,541 --> 01:07:12,750 outside of our full-time jobs. 294 01:07:13,208 --> 01:07:14,458 And I'm sure everybody else is like this, 295 01:07:14,500 --> 01:07:15,083 but they're houses, 296 01:07:15,375 --> 01:07:16,583 but in this new house, 297 01:07:17,250 --> 01:07:18,875 it's the biggest house we've ever had. 298 01:07:20,416 --> 01:07:22,250 It's just, there's constantly upkeep. 299 01:07:23,333 --> 01:07:23,791 And I remember our 300 01:07:23,791 --> 01:07:24,916 builder told me that too. 301 01:07:24,916 --> 01:07:26,041 He's like, at that size house, Sean, 302 01:07:27,083 --> 01:07:28,500 there's always something not working. 303 01:07:28,500 --> 01:07:29,000 But I think that was 304 01:07:29,000 --> 01:07:30,250 just builder speak too. 305 01:07:30,291 --> 01:07:31,000 I think so. 306 01:07:31,000 --> 01:07:32,333 To, you know, like, oh, 307 01:07:32,333 --> 01:07:33,333 you know, my job's done here. 308 01:07:33,333 --> 01:07:34,291 You got, whatever goes 309 01:07:34,291 --> 01:07:35,375 wrong from here on is yours. 310 01:07:35,666 --> 01:07:36,250 Yeah, yeah. 311 01:07:36,791 --> 01:07:37,500 Now that being said, 312 01:07:37,500 --> 01:07:38,500 they did step up recently 313 01:07:38,500 --> 01:07:40,958 on that little roof 314 01:07:40,958 --> 01:07:42,083 issue, which was nice. 315 01:07:42,375 --> 01:07:44,083 So very much appreciated to the builders. 316 01:07:44,875 --> 01:07:45,416 On that one. 317 01:07:46,583 --> 01:07:47,583 So, and maybe we've talked 318 01:07:47,583 --> 01:07:49,000 about this, but, you know, 319 01:07:49,000 --> 01:07:50,041 we've lived in quite a 320 01:07:50,041 --> 01:07:50,708 few different houses. 321 01:07:50,958 --> 01:07:52,083 And when we did, you know, there was 322 01:07:52,083 --> 01:07:53,000 always something there 323 01:07:53,000 --> 01:07:54,250 that you're like, I have no idea what 324 01:07:54,250 --> 01:07:55,500 this light switch does. 325 01:07:55,500 --> 01:07:56,625 It doesn't do anything. 326 01:07:56,625 --> 01:07:57,500 And you just kind of 327 01:07:57,500 --> 01:07:58,916 assume that it was the people 328 01:07:58,916 --> 01:08:00,666 who owned the house prior that broke it. 329 01:08:02,208 --> 01:08:03,208 All right, and we're back. 330 01:08:03,833 --> 01:08:04,958 You guys might not have known, 331 01:08:04,958 --> 01:08:06,041 but we left for about 15 332 01:08:06,041 --> 01:08:07,083 minutes and now we're back. 333 01:08:07,916 --> 01:08:09,208 We ran out of, what? 334 01:08:09,750 --> 01:08:11,291 Memory? Everybody now and then, 335 01:08:11,833 --> 01:08:12,583 there's a flub up. 336 01:08:13,000 --> 01:08:13,500 It's a flub up. 337 01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:15,916 And that's a word I used during the time 338 01:08:15,916 --> 01:08:17,083 we were not recording audio 339 01:08:17,083 --> 01:08:18,833 because we ran out of space. 340 01:08:19,416 --> 01:08:19,875 This space. 341 01:08:21,333 --> 01:08:22,666 So we had to go around another one. 342 01:08:23,083 --> 01:08:24,333 So we had a flub up. 343 01:08:24,750 --> 01:08:25,666 I had a flub up, which is 344 01:08:25,666 --> 01:08:27,041 a word I use to describe 345 01:08:27,250 --> 01:08:27,666 some of the things 346 01:08:27,666 --> 01:08:28,666 that happen in the house 347 01:08:29,333 --> 01:08:31,666 when these contractors flub up 348 01:08:31,666 --> 01:08:33,458 and things aren't done right. 349 01:08:33,875 --> 01:08:34,583 They flub up. 350 01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:36,375 And to your point, you're right. 351 01:08:37,416 --> 01:08:38,500 Things, there's things in 352 01:08:38,500 --> 01:08:39,500 this house that don't work 353 01:08:40,125 --> 01:08:41,333 that we wanted to work. 354 01:08:41,708 --> 01:08:42,666 And if somebody else 355 01:08:42,666 --> 01:08:43,916 came here, they'd be like, 356 01:08:44,708 --> 01:08:45,708 Why didn't you do that? 357 01:08:46,458 --> 01:08:47,666 We did want to do that. 358 01:08:48,375 --> 01:08:49,625 That's the answer, we did. 359 01:08:50,166 --> 01:08:52,000 It was just a flub up. 360 01:08:52,000 --> 01:08:53,833 So I wonder if those people before us 361 01:08:53,833 --> 01:08:54,708 in those other houses, I 362 01:08:54,708 --> 01:08:56,208 always had their flub ups as well. 363 01:08:56,291 --> 01:08:57,791 Yeah, I'm sure that's what it was. 364 01:08:58,625 --> 01:09:00,166 And if we stopped talking in the middle 365 01:09:00,166 --> 01:09:02,541 of talking about the pool, well, you 366 01:09:02,541 --> 01:09:03,166 didn't miss anything. 367 01:09:05,208 --> 01:09:05,250 (laughing) 368 01:09:06,416 --> 01:09:07,666 That's right, we did talk about the pool. 369 01:09:07,666 --> 01:09:08,500 A little bit before that. 370 01:09:08,875 --> 01:09:09,250 Yeah, yeah. 371 01:09:09,500 --> 01:09:10,166 So I don't know if we 372 01:09:10,166 --> 01:09:11,500 even got to that point yet. 373 01:09:11,791 --> 01:09:13,125 Either way, it's 374 01:09:13,125 --> 01:09:14,000 either gonna work or not. 375 01:09:14,333 --> 01:09:14,708 I know. 376 01:09:15,375 --> 01:09:16,125 Hey, you know what? 377 01:09:16,125 --> 01:09:17,500 That's why they give out Academy Awards 378 01:09:17,958 --> 01:09:19,791 for excellence in film editing. 379 01:09:20,125 --> 01:09:20,625 That's right. 380 01:09:20,625 --> 01:09:21,916 You should get that Academy Award 381 01:09:22,125 --> 01:09:22,500 because you're gonna 382 01:09:22,500 --> 01:09:23,458 have to piece this together 383 01:09:24,000 --> 01:09:24,833 to make sure it makes sense. 384 01:09:25,083 --> 01:09:26,250 Yeah, no, I've started 385 01:09:26,250 --> 01:09:27,916 not caring quite as much. 386 01:09:29,791 --> 01:09:30,333 Because that award did 387 01:09:30,333 --> 01:09:31,875 not, I didn't get nominated. 388 01:09:31,875 --> 01:09:32,708 You didn't even get a nod? 389 01:09:34,000 --> 01:09:34,708 I was even nominated. 390 01:09:35,041 --> 01:09:36,416 Oh man, I'm gonna have 391 01:09:36,416 --> 01:09:37,125 to talk to the Academy. 392 01:09:38,375 --> 01:09:38,916 I don't know that they 393 01:09:38,916 --> 01:09:40,416 have a podcast editing 394 01:09:41,500 --> 01:09:44,541 genre yet, but they did 395 01:09:44,541 --> 01:09:45,916 add casting this year. 396 01:09:45,916 --> 01:09:47,000 So I'm hopeful that they're 397 01:09:47,000 --> 01:09:48,041 gonna add it next year maybe. 398 01:09:48,333 --> 01:09:48,958 Let's hope. 399 01:09:50,875 --> 01:09:51,750 Well, what we thought we 400 01:09:51,750 --> 01:09:52,666 might talk about today, 401 01:09:53,041 --> 01:09:54,250 it was interesting is just, 402 01:09:54,500 --> 01:09:55,625 and we were talking about earlier, 403 01:09:56,125 --> 01:09:58,958 was just how different being an adult is 404 01:10:00,458 --> 01:10:01,750 as an adult from what 405 01:10:01,750 --> 01:10:02,500 you thought it might be 406 01:10:02,500 --> 01:10:03,916 when we were younger, right? 407 01:10:03,916 --> 01:10:05,541 And you were talking about how it's weird 408 01:10:05,541 --> 01:10:06,708 when you're the one 409 01:10:06,708 --> 01:10:08,291 kind of carrying the wisdom 410 01:10:08,875 --> 01:10:09,416 in the room now. 411 01:10:09,916 --> 01:10:12,333 Yeah, it is wild. 412 01:10:13,708 --> 01:10:15,333 Because I don't feel wise. 413 01:10:15,750 --> 01:10:16,750 You know, I'm like, I don't know, 414 01:10:16,750 --> 01:10:17,791 I'm just learning as I go. 415 01:10:19,625 --> 01:10:22,000 But I do remember being younger, 416 01:10:22,500 --> 01:10:24,541 and as a kid, you kind of 417 01:10:24,541 --> 01:10:26,416 assume adults know everything. 418 01:10:27,958 --> 01:10:30,333 So I kind of thought I'd know everything 419 01:10:30,333 --> 01:10:31,375 when I became an adult. 420 01:10:31,666 --> 01:10:31,958 Yeah. 421 01:10:33,291 --> 01:10:34,583 I also really wanted to 422 01:10:34,583 --> 01:10:35,500 know what I would look like. 423 01:10:36,041 --> 01:10:36,833 Is that a weird thing? 424 01:10:38,041 --> 01:10:38,541 What you would look 425 01:10:38,541 --> 01:10:39,375 like when you're an adult? 426 01:10:40,041 --> 01:10:41,250 Oh my gosh, as a kid, I'd be like, 427 01:10:41,250 --> 01:10:41,958 I wonder what I'm gonna 428 01:10:41,958 --> 01:10:43,166 look like when I'm an adult. 429 01:10:43,666 --> 01:10:43,875 Really? 430 01:10:44,500 --> 01:10:45,250 All the time. 431 01:10:45,291 --> 01:10:46,625 Did you think you would change a lot? 432 01:10:46,625 --> 01:10:47,458 Like how old were you when 433 01:10:47,458 --> 01:10:48,250 you would think this thought? 434 01:10:48,833 --> 01:10:51,416 Oh my gosh, fourth, 435 01:10:51,666 --> 01:10:52,833 fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, 436 01:10:52,833 --> 01:10:54,875 ninth grade, tenth grade, oh yeah. 437 01:10:55,083 --> 01:10:55,708 Was it in the high school? 438 01:10:56,083 --> 01:10:56,500 Oh yeah. 439 01:10:56,541 --> 01:10:58,041 You thought that that long, wow. 440 01:10:58,333 --> 01:10:58,625 Yeah. 441 01:10:59,125 --> 01:11:00,333 Well, I wonder if that had 442 01:11:00,333 --> 01:11:01,083 something to do with the fact 443 01:11:01,166 --> 01:11:03,916 that you did not have a 444 01:11:03,916 --> 01:11:05,875 good self image of yourself 445 01:11:06,083 --> 01:11:06,625 back then. 446 01:11:06,916 --> 01:11:08,333 You say you were an ugly duckling, 447 01:11:08,375 --> 01:11:10,875 that blossomed, but I don't, 448 01:11:11,083 --> 01:11:11,583 I look back at those 449 01:11:11,583 --> 01:11:13,041 pictures, I still see you in there. 450 01:11:13,041 --> 01:11:15,708 I mean, you're a kid for sure. 451 01:11:16,458 --> 01:11:18,500 But I would never call you ugly in those. 452 01:11:18,750 --> 01:11:20,250 I still think little Megan 453 01:11:20,250 --> 01:11:21,666 was a little cute, you know? 454 01:11:23,083 --> 01:11:25,208 I mean, I had some rough years. 455 01:11:25,875 --> 01:11:27,625 I don't think I really 456 01:11:27,625 --> 01:11:28,875 looked like myself though 457 01:11:29,000 --> 01:11:30,333 until probably my early twenties. 458 01:11:31,291 --> 01:11:32,416 Yeah, yeah. 459 01:11:32,458 --> 01:11:33,500 I looked very different. 460 01:11:33,500 --> 01:11:34,708 I mean, you could be like, yeah, that's-- 461 01:11:34,791 --> 01:11:36,541 I'd like to Photoshop your new hair 462 01:11:37,000 --> 01:11:39,875 under your old head and 463 01:11:39,875 --> 01:11:41,083 see what that looked like. 464 01:11:41,500 --> 01:11:43,250 But it's closer than you might think. 465 01:11:43,250 --> 01:11:43,791 I think you probably 466 01:11:43,791 --> 01:11:44,750 slimmed down a little bit 467 01:11:44,750 --> 01:11:47,875 because you weigh less, you know, 468 01:11:47,875 --> 01:11:48,750 for a long time you weighed less 469 01:11:48,750 --> 01:11:49,916 than you did probably in high school. 470 01:11:49,958 --> 01:11:50,833 Oh, for sure, yeah. 471 01:11:51,083 --> 01:11:51,583 Yeah, yeah. 472 01:11:52,041 --> 01:11:53,000 And so your face is 473 01:11:53,000 --> 01:11:54,000 probably a little bit thinner too. 474 01:11:54,333 --> 01:11:54,541 Yeah. 475 01:11:55,000 --> 01:11:55,625 That's interesting. 476 01:11:55,625 --> 01:11:56,291 I wonder if that's a 477 01:11:56,291 --> 01:11:58,291 female thing or a male thing. 478 01:11:58,833 --> 01:12:00,875 I don't know, because part of it is, 479 01:12:00,875 --> 01:12:02,083 if you would look at my baby pictures, 480 01:12:02,083 --> 01:12:02,416 you wouldn't 481 01:12:02,416 --> 01:12:04,666 necessarily guess that it was me. 482 01:12:04,708 --> 01:12:05,833 If you look at my baby 483 01:12:05,833 --> 01:12:07,500 pictures, toddler pictures really, 484 01:12:08,916 --> 01:12:10,333 maybe high school you're 485 01:12:10,333 --> 01:12:11,583 like, okay, fifth, sixth grade, 486 01:12:11,833 --> 01:12:13,666 maybe, okay, you're getting there. 487 01:12:13,708 --> 01:12:13,958 Right. 488 01:12:13,958 --> 01:12:15,000 But like, my baby 489 01:12:15,000 --> 01:12:16,333 picture, you know those things, 490 01:12:16,625 --> 01:12:18,000 like you'll do them at work or whatever 491 01:12:18,000 --> 01:12:18,666 if you're in a class 492 01:12:18,666 --> 01:12:19,125 and you're like, bring a 493 01:12:19,125 --> 01:12:19,875 baby picture of yourself 494 01:12:19,875 --> 01:12:20,541 and we try to match 495 01:12:20,541 --> 01:12:21,500 the adult with the baby. 496 01:12:22,125 --> 01:12:22,750 No one's gonna get-- 497 01:12:22,750 --> 01:12:23,083 No one's gonna get you. 498 01:12:23,166 --> 01:12:24,333 No one's gonna get you. 499 01:12:24,333 --> 01:12:26,625 You on the other hand, I 500 01:12:26,625 --> 01:12:27,916 mean, maybe not your baby, baby, 501 01:12:27,916 --> 01:12:29,916 but from the time you were about one, 502 01:12:32,166 --> 01:12:32,958 you looked the same. 503 01:12:34,208 --> 01:12:34,916 I would have definitely 504 01:12:34,916 --> 01:12:36,291 picked your one year old picture 505 01:12:37,375 --> 01:12:39,958 to match to your current age. 506 01:12:40,833 --> 01:12:41,375 Yeah, I agree. 507 01:12:41,750 --> 01:12:43,125 Kindergarten Sean's pretty close to-- 508 01:12:43,500 --> 01:12:43,708 Yeah. 509 01:12:45,000 --> 01:12:46,333 Am I kinda close? 510 01:12:46,583 --> 01:12:47,791 I'm already nine year old Sean. 511 01:12:47,791 --> 01:12:48,625 Is it really close? 512 01:12:50,666 --> 01:12:52,000 Just a little more mature, I guess. 513 01:12:53,541 --> 01:12:54,916 Yeah, I mean, so that's interesting. 514 01:12:55,666 --> 01:12:57,541 But that doesn't change. 515 01:12:57,791 --> 01:13:00,458 So did you, I don't know. 516 01:13:00,916 --> 01:13:02,458 Sorry, I totally pivoted there. 517 01:13:02,500 --> 01:13:03,125 That was a little bit 518 01:13:03,125 --> 01:13:04,166 of a pivot off that. 519 01:13:04,208 --> 01:13:05,625 Right, yeah, it just dawned on me. 520 01:13:05,916 --> 01:13:06,458 Like, oh, that was such 521 01:13:06,458 --> 01:13:07,625 a quandary that I had. 522 01:13:08,708 --> 01:13:10,166 But I just thought that 523 01:13:10,166 --> 01:13:12,666 adults knew everything. 524 01:13:13,416 --> 01:13:14,833 Like, they just had it figured out. 525 01:13:14,875 --> 01:13:15,791 Yeah, yeah. 526 01:13:16,750 --> 01:13:17,875 I'm finding that that's a lie. 527 01:13:18,291 --> 01:13:18,500 Yeah. 528 01:13:19,750 --> 01:13:20,333 We've talked about 529 01:13:20,333 --> 01:13:21,333 that before a little bit. 530 01:13:21,500 --> 01:13:22,583 Yeah, but what about you 531 01:13:22,583 --> 01:13:23,875 and what's really different? 532 01:13:24,625 --> 01:13:25,583 That's all, one point 533 01:13:25,583 --> 01:13:26,500 is all you had there. 534 01:13:27,458 --> 01:13:28,000 Let me just give you an 535 01:13:28,000 --> 01:13:28,916 example of what happened today. 536 01:13:28,916 --> 01:13:30,208 Here's a perfect example, right? 537 01:13:30,458 --> 01:13:32,458 Two things I can think 538 01:13:32,458 --> 01:13:33,333 of with our oldest son. 539 01:13:34,250 --> 01:13:35,541 When we were traveling, he called 540 01:13:35,666 --> 01:13:37,166 because the garage door wouldn't open up. 541 01:13:37,375 --> 01:13:38,541 It didn't open up all the way. 542 01:13:38,541 --> 01:13:40,458 It opened up halfway and that was it. 543 01:13:41,083 --> 01:13:41,791 So he called me and 544 01:13:41,791 --> 01:13:42,500 like, what am I gonna do? 545 01:13:42,500 --> 01:13:43,708 I'm late, I can't figure it out. 546 01:13:44,916 --> 01:13:46,541 And he didn't know, I had to walk him 547 01:13:46,541 --> 01:13:47,875 through via the phone 548 01:13:48,208 --> 01:13:49,541 how to release the garage door 549 01:13:49,541 --> 01:13:51,000 and then he could push all the way up 550 01:13:51,000 --> 01:13:52,041 and all that kind of stuff. 551 01:13:52,375 --> 01:13:54,000 So he still turns to me for those things 552 01:13:54,000 --> 01:13:55,666 that he's never encountered. 553 01:13:56,416 --> 01:13:57,583 But I've encountered a garage 554 01:13:57,583 --> 01:13:58,625 door that's not working before. 555 01:13:59,250 --> 01:13:59,791 You know what I mean? 556 01:14:00,000 --> 01:14:00,666 I don't know if 557 01:14:00,666 --> 01:14:01,375 that's one of those things 558 01:14:01,375 --> 01:14:02,750 that you're like, if he 559 01:14:02,750 --> 01:14:03,916 wouldn't have been able 560 01:14:03,916 --> 01:14:04,583 to get ahold of me, 561 01:14:04,583 --> 01:14:05,291 what would he have done? 562 01:14:05,666 --> 01:14:06,750 Would he have figured out eventually 563 01:14:06,750 --> 01:14:07,333 that you can 564 01:14:07,333 --> 01:14:08,958 disconnect it and push it up? 565 01:14:09,500 --> 01:14:11,250 I don't know, probably not. 566 01:14:11,708 --> 01:14:13,333 Because why would he know that? 567 01:14:13,458 --> 01:14:14,250 Why would he know that? 568 01:14:14,791 --> 01:14:17,083 Unless he chat GPT'd or Googled it. 569 01:14:17,333 --> 01:14:18,541 Right, nowadays you can Google it, 570 01:14:18,541 --> 01:14:20,000 but when we grew up, you couldn't tell, 571 01:14:20,000 --> 01:14:20,500 you just had to kind of 572 01:14:20,500 --> 01:14:21,333 like mess with things. 573 01:14:21,333 --> 01:14:21,916 You'd either break 574 01:14:21,916 --> 01:14:23,583 them or maybe stumble on 575 01:14:23,583 --> 01:14:24,375 to how they worked. 576 01:14:24,375 --> 01:14:24,666 Right. 577 01:14:25,333 --> 01:14:26,791 And then secondarily, like today, 578 01:14:27,125 --> 01:14:28,041 we actually had to go 579 01:14:28,041 --> 01:14:29,541 back and pick up his car 580 01:14:30,166 --> 01:14:31,333 because he was having some work done. 581 01:14:31,625 --> 01:14:32,875 And to his credit, he 582 01:14:32,875 --> 01:14:34,291 was nervous about doing it, 583 01:14:34,291 --> 01:14:36,583 dropping it off, because he's like, 584 01:14:36,583 --> 01:14:37,250 well, what do I say? 585 01:14:37,250 --> 01:14:37,708 What do I do? 586 01:14:37,708 --> 01:14:40,125 I just say, I've got a 587 01:14:40,125 --> 01:14:40,791 one o'clock appointment. 588 01:14:41,041 --> 01:14:42,916 My name's Inglis, here's the keys, 589 01:14:43,875 --> 01:14:44,916 and how long will it take? 590 01:14:45,291 --> 01:14:45,500 Yeah. 591 01:14:45,791 --> 01:14:46,750 And he did it, and they 592 01:14:46,750 --> 01:14:48,083 said it would take two hours, 593 01:14:48,083 --> 01:14:48,750 so I picked him up. 594 01:14:49,375 --> 01:14:50,708 But on the way back, he was like, 595 01:14:51,291 --> 01:14:52,666 I don't know, he's like, 596 01:14:52,666 --> 01:14:53,333 "Will you go in with 597 01:14:53,333 --> 01:14:54,250 me and pick up the car?" 598 01:14:54,250 --> 01:14:55,291 I was like, yeah, I'll go in with you. 599 01:14:55,583 --> 01:14:56,250 Because again, it's one of 600 01:14:56,250 --> 01:14:57,250 those things where it's like, 601 01:14:57,750 --> 01:14:59,166 he's just never been through that. 602 01:14:59,166 --> 01:14:59,458 Right. 603 01:15:00,041 --> 01:15:02,208 And for him just to watch me do it, 604 01:15:02,833 --> 01:15:04,541 he's learned now, when he does it, 605 01:15:04,541 --> 01:15:05,708 he's like, okay, I got that. 606 01:15:06,125 --> 01:15:07,166 Super easy, right? 607 01:15:07,500 --> 01:15:08,958 Just, we're here to pick up a car, 608 01:15:08,958 --> 01:15:10,250 the guy knew who I was. 609 01:15:10,250 --> 01:15:10,458 Yeah. 610 01:15:10,791 --> 01:15:11,250 And he's like, yeah, 611 01:15:11,250 --> 01:15:11,958 let me go grab the keys. 612 01:15:12,250 --> 01:15:12,750 He's like, I just need 613 01:15:12,750 --> 01:15:13,708 your signature here and here. 614 01:15:14,041 --> 01:15:14,458 There you go. 615 01:15:15,083 --> 01:15:15,291 Right. 616 01:15:15,333 --> 01:15:15,833 And that was it. 617 01:15:16,458 --> 01:15:18,291 Super easy, but now he's seen that. 618 01:15:19,166 --> 01:15:20,375 But from his eyes, 619 01:15:21,291 --> 01:15:22,250 and from maybe when I 620 01:15:22,250 --> 01:15:23,500 was a 16-year-old Shawn, 621 01:15:24,250 --> 01:15:26,500 learning those things is like, oh, okay. 622 01:15:27,333 --> 01:15:27,625 Yeah. 623 01:15:28,166 --> 01:15:29,708 I could probably do that next time. 624 01:15:30,125 --> 01:15:30,375 Right. 625 01:15:32,166 --> 01:15:33,000 That's really interesting. 626 01:15:33,000 --> 01:15:34,416 So my whole point to that was, 627 01:15:34,625 --> 01:15:35,541 and I want to throw it 628 01:15:35,541 --> 01:15:36,333 back to you on this one, 629 01:15:36,333 --> 01:15:36,750 because I want to see 630 01:15:36,750 --> 01:15:37,541 if this actually fits. 631 01:15:38,083 --> 01:15:39,583 I think part of that, the 632 01:15:39,583 --> 01:15:41,958 difference in knowing what to do, 633 01:15:41,958 --> 01:15:43,083 and it's a little bit of a pivot 634 01:15:43,083 --> 01:15:44,166 from what we were talking about, 635 01:15:44,166 --> 01:15:45,125 but knowing what to do, 636 01:15:45,125 --> 01:15:46,625 and we can get into it the other way too, 637 01:15:47,500 --> 01:15:49,416 is just having the confidence to fail, 638 01:15:49,666 --> 01:15:51,208 or at least just figure it out. 639 01:15:51,791 --> 01:15:52,000 Yeah. 640 01:15:52,041 --> 01:15:52,916 Even if you do fail, 641 01:15:53,500 --> 01:15:54,541 it's just confidence to talk 642 01:15:54,541 --> 01:15:56,375 to people and figure it out. 643 01:15:56,375 --> 01:15:56,583 Yeah. 644 01:15:57,166 --> 01:15:57,583 You know what I mean? 645 01:15:57,583 --> 01:15:58,625 Because even now we'll say, 646 01:15:59,625 --> 01:16:00,583 sometimes I'll just say that to you. 647 01:16:00,583 --> 01:16:02,458 I'm like, guys, figure it out. 648 01:16:02,458 --> 01:16:03,208 I can't, you know, 649 01:16:03,208 --> 01:16:04,375 we can't lead you to 650 01:16:04,375 --> 01:16:05,250 the water every time. 651 01:16:05,375 --> 01:16:06,333 Right, right. 652 01:16:07,333 --> 01:16:08,916 At some point you have to make your own 653 01:16:08,916 --> 01:16:10,375 doctor's appointment, 654 01:16:10,625 --> 01:16:13,875 or take your car in, or get gas. 655 01:16:14,458 --> 01:16:16,125 These are all things that eventually, 656 01:16:16,916 --> 01:16:18,583 someone probably modeled for you. 657 01:16:19,083 --> 01:16:19,791 You're probably nervous 658 01:16:19,791 --> 01:16:21,000 to do it the first time, 659 01:16:21,750 --> 01:16:24,833 but now it's just what you do, you know? 660 01:16:25,333 --> 01:16:25,583 Yeah. 661 01:16:25,958 --> 01:16:27,250 And so I think that was, 662 01:16:28,625 --> 01:16:29,083 when I was saying, 663 01:16:29,291 --> 01:16:30,208 I just thought that adults 664 01:16:30,208 --> 01:16:31,541 knew how to do everything. 665 01:16:32,125 --> 01:16:32,458 Yeah. 666 01:16:32,500 --> 01:16:33,375 And I completely 667 01:16:33,375 --> 01:16:36,333 discounted the learning process, 668 01:16:36,583 --> 01:16:38,750 and watching the modeling process, 669 01:16:39,208 --> 01:16:40,375 and how I was actually 670 01:16:40,375 --> 01:16:41,916 learning it along the way. 671 01:16:41,916 --> 01:16:43,000 Yeah, right. 672 01:16:43,541 --> 01:16:44,791 Because, I mean, 673 01:16:44,958 --> 01:16:47,625 I distinctly remember in my driver's ed, 674 01:16:48,166 --> 01:16:49,500 and driving around, 675 01:16:50,250 --> 01:16:52,458 and the car was all on gas, 676 01:16:53,000 --> 01:16:54,083 and my instructor's like, 677 01:16:54,083 --> 01:16:55,166 pull into the gas station, 678 01:16:55,166 --> 01:16:55,833 and he's like, I'm gonna 679 01:16:55,833 --> 01:16:56,833 teach you how to pump gas. 680 01:16:57,041 --> 01:16:57,291 Yeah. 681 01:16:58,000 --> 01:16:58,583 Driver's ed's totally 682 01:16:58,583 --> 01:17:00,125 different nowadays, you know? 683 01:17:01,000 --> 01:17:02,791 But the first time I ever needed gas, 684 01:17:03,000 --> 01:17:04,291 my parents weren't there to show me. 685 01:17:04,625 --> 01:17:06,500 So my instructor took me under his wing, 686 01:17:06,500 --> 01:17:07,791 and was like, here's what you do. 687 01:17:08,333 --> 01:17:08,916 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 688 01:17:09,375 --> 01:17:09,708 You know, so I was 689 01:17:09,708 --> 01:17:11,583 like, okay, I can do it. 690 01:17:11,583 --> 01:17:13,083 And I had then confidence to do it, 691 01:17:13,083 --> 01:17:13,750 when I actually 692 01:17:13,750 --> 01:17:14,750 needed to do it on my own. 693 01:17:15,166 --> 01:17:16,083 Yeah, and I think you're right. 694 01:17:16,083 --> 01:17:17,083 We've talked about it before in here, 695 01:17:17,083 --> 01:17:17,708 so I don't wanna be too 696 01:17:17,708 --> 01:17:19,000 redundant on, you know, 697 01:17:20,291 --> 01:17:21,500 you just think everybody 698 01:17:21,500 --> 01:17:23,041 as an adult has it together. 699 01:17:23,041 --> 01:17:23,291 Yeah. 700 01:17:23,583 --> 01:17:24,125 You know what I mean? 701 01:17:24,125 --> 01:17:25,083 As you're, now all of 702 01:17:25,083 --> 01:17:26,541 our peers are our same age. 703 01:17:27,250 --> 01:17:28,000 And you can see how some 704 01:17:28,000 --> 01:17:28,916 people do have it together, 705 01:17:28,916 --> 01:17:30,291 and some people don't have it together. 706 01:17:30,291 --> 01:17:32,125 Some people had it, and lost it, 707 01:17:32,125 --> 01:17:32,916 and you know, it's just, it's a little 708 01:17:32,916 --> 01:17:34,125 bit of an ebb and flow, 709 01:17:34,125 --> 01:17:35,791 it's a give and take, it's fluid, right? 710 01:17:36,250 --> 01:17:36,458 Yeah. 711 01:17:37,416 --> 01:17:38,958 And it's fluid with me too, you know? 712 01:17:38,958 --> 01:17:40,500 Where like, there's years where I'm like, 713 01:17:40,500 --> 01:17:41,666 man, this has been a great year. 714 01:17:42,000 --> 01:17:43,750 Like last year, I was a tough year. 715 01:17:44,041 --> 01:17:44,333 Yeah. 716 01:17:44,375 --> 01:17:44,750 You know? 717 01:17:46,583 --> 01:17:47,750 And again, we stayed 718 01:17:47,750 --> 01:17:49,625 blessed through it, you know? 719 01:17:49,666 --> 01:17:51,250 But it was more, it was a tougher year, 720 01:17:51,250 --> 01:17:52,791 so my point to that is just, 721 01:17:54,458 --> 01:17:57,041 the maturity to weather 722 01:17:57,041 --> 01:17:58,708 the ups and downs of life 723 01:17:59,625 --> 01:18:01,750 are part of maybe what I discounted, 724 01:18:01,750 --> 01:18:03,750 of how hard it is as an adult. 725 01:18:04,416 --> 01:18:04,708 Yeah. 726 01:18:05,083 --> 01:18:06,583 Of, there's just 727 01:18:06,583 --> 01:18:09,166 always that next horizon. 728 01:18:09,666 --> 01:18:11,083 There's just, you know what I mean? 729 01:18:11,625 --> 01:18:12,000 Mm-hmm. 730 01:18:12,500 --> 01:18:16,000 And, kind of just getting 731 01:18:16,000 --> 01:18:17,500 yourself set to the fact 732 01:18:17,500 --> 01:18:19,666 that this is a race that 733 01:18:19,666 --> 01:18:21,416 doesn't really have a finish line, 734 01:18:22,500 --> 01:18:23,250 is kind of a 735 01:18:23,250 --> 01:18:24,625 perspective that I figured out 736 01:18:24,625 --> 01:18:26,083 as I've gotten older, you know? 737 01:18:26,083 --> 01:18:28,416 It's not like you just, even, you know, 738 01:18:28,416 --> 01:18:29,041 we've got people that 739 01:18:29,041 --> 01:18:30,000 watch that are retired 740 01:18:30,250 --> 01:18:31,458 or at retirement age, 741 01:18:31,458 --> 01:18:32,291 but I mean, you know, 742 01:18:32,708 --> 01:18:33,500 that's not the finish 743 01:18:33,500 --> 01:18:34,500 line for them either. 744 01:18:34,500 --> 01:18:35,208 They still have to worry 745 01:18:35,208 --> 01:18:36,875 about, do I have enough money? 746 01:18:37,125 --> 01:18:38,041 What about my medical? 747 01:18:38,375 --> 01:18:39,250 What about the kids? 748 01:18:39,250 --> 01:18:39,666 And you gotta worry 749 01:18:39,666 --> 01:18:40,583 about your children now. 750 01:18:40,875 --> 01:18:42,500 Are my kids living a 751 01:18:42,500 --> 01:18:44,291 life that is, you know, 752 01:18:46,208 --> 01:18:47,916 that I'm comfortable with them? 753 01:18:47,958 --> 01:18:48,166 Right. 754 01:18:48,500 --> 01:18:50,000 You know, that you want them to have. 755 01:18:50,000 --> 01:18:51,208 Not that, you know, you know what I mean? 756 01:18:51,250 --> 01:18:51,875 Yeah, you-- 757 01:18:52,166 --> 01:18:52,916 Not being, I'm not 758 01:18:52,916 --> 01:18:54,125 talking from a proud standpoint 759 01:18:54,125 --> 01:18:55,041 or anything like that, but-- 760 01:18:55,416 --> 01:18:55,541 I think-- 761 01:18:55,666 --> 01:18:56,666 Everybody wants to see a kid struggle. 762 01:18:56,916 --> 01:18:57,833 That's exactly right. 763 01:18:58,333 --> 01:18:59,500 And it's probably harder, 764 01:18:59,500 --> 01:19:01,666 even, for someone of that age 765 01:19:01,666 --> 01:19:04,500 to see their adult child struggle, right? 766 01:19:04,500 --> 01:19:06,458 Because you don't have control there. 767 01:19:08,791 --> 01:19:09,375 So, you're right, 768 01:19:09,375 --> 01:19:10,958 it's not the finish line. 769 01:19:11,541 --> 01:19:11,750 Like-- 770 01:19:12,166 --> 01:19:12,291 Yeah. 771 01:19:13,000 --> 01:19:14,916 And so, how do you just 772 01:19:14,916 --> 01:19:16,250 kinda navigate through it? 773 01:19:16,916 --> 01:19:17,958 I'm with you, I completely 774 01:19:17,958 --> 01:19:19,541 discounted that too as a kid. 775 01:19:20,041 --> 01:19:21,791 Yeah, I'm trying to think back now. 776 01:19:21,791 --> 01:19:22,708 Like, as I was thinking 777 01:19:22,708 --> 01:19:25,000 through this question earlier, 778 01:19:25,291 --> 01:19:25,916 we were talking about 779 01:19:25,916 --> 01:19:26,458 this question earlier, 780 01:19:27,166 --> 01:19:29,000 you know, would 14 year 781 01:19:29,000 --> 01:19:30,583 old Shawn think about adults 782 01:19:30,875 --> 01:19:33,208 as like, oh, all they 783 01:19:33,208 --> 01:19:35,000 do is just, you know, 784 01:19:35,000 --> 01:19:36,208 they go to work and 785 01:19:36,208 --> 01:19:37,333 then they have parties 786 01:19:37,666 --> 01:19:38,375 or something like that. 787 01:19:38,375 --> 01:19:39,208 And not that that was my 788 01:19:39,208 --> 01:19:40,208 life, but you know, like-- 789 01:19:40,250 --> 01:19:40,458 Right. 790 01:19:41,083 --> 01:19:41,833 I don't know that I gave 791 01:19:41,833 --> 01:19:43,041 it that much of a thought 792 01:19:43,541 --> 01:19:45,000 because like I said, in our household, 793 01:19:46,083 --> 01:19:47,500 at least when I was 794 01:19:47,500 --> 01:19:49,291 of that age, you know, 795 01:19:49,541 --> 01:19:50,333 talking about our future 796 01:19:50,333 --> 01:19:51,458 wasn't something we did. 797 01:19:51,458 --> 01:19:53,208 We never talked about going to college. 798 01:19:53,625 --> 01:19:54,291 Like, that was not, 799 01:19:54,666 --> 01:19:55,791 education was not something 800 01:19:55,791 --> 01:20:00,666 that was overly, you know, influential 801 01:20:01,291 --> 01:20:02,333 in our day to day lives. 802 01:20:02,333 --> 01:20:03,083 And definitely going to 803 01:20:03,083 --> 01:20:03,916 college wasn't, I mean, 804 01:20:03,916 --> 01:20:04,916 I was literally the 805 01:20:04,916 --> 01:20:06,208 first person to go to college 806 01:20:06,708 --> 01:20:07,166 and to graduate. 807 01:20:07,375 --> 01:20:08,458 Actually, I tied with my sister 808 01:20:08,750 --> 01:20:11,750 because I got sidetracked along the way. 809 01:20:12,083 --> 01:20:12,875 So my sister and I were 810 01:20:12,875 --> 01:20:13,666 the first two to graduate 811 01:20:13,666 --> 01:20:16,166 in my family at a college level. 812 01:20:16,583 --> 01:20:16,750 Right. 813 01:20:17,750 --> 01:20:18,458 You know, so I just 814 01:20:18,458 --> 01:20:19,916 never really thought about, 815 01:20:21,291 --> 01:20:23,708 I don't, you know, maybe that's something 816 01:20:23,708 --> 01:20:25,333 that kids don't do. 817 01:20:25,333 --> 01:20:26,125 Did you actually think 818 01:20:26,125 --> 01:20:27,083 about it from that perspective? 819 01:20:27,083 --> 01:20:28,250 Like, oh, when I'm an adult, 820 01:20:28,250 --> 01:20:29,458 I'm gonna live in the city. 821 01:20:29,875 --> 01:20:30,750 I know you got there 822 01:20:30,750 --> 01:20:32,333 and I'm gonna drive a car 823 01:20:32,333 --> 01:20:33,791 and I'm gonna have friends and we're 824 01:20:33,791 --> 01:20:34,625 gonna go to parties. 825 01:20:35,083 --> 01:20:36,000 You're like, what did you 826 01:20:36,000 --> 01:20:37,125 think about that adulthood? 827 01:20:38,250 --> 01:20:40,125 You know, it depends on 828 01:20:40,125 --> 01:20:41,500 what age you pick me, you know? 829 01:20:41,833 --> 01:20:42,500 Like, at 14? 830 01:20:43,083 --> 01:20:44,166 No, probably not. 831 01:20:44,416 --> 01:20:44,833 I didn't-- 832 01:20:44,875 --> 01:20:45,791 Let's go with 18. 833 01:20:45,791 --> 01:20:46,583 Let's go with 18 so we 834 01:20:46,583 --> 01:20:47,458 get somewhat of a head 835 01:20:47,458 --> 01:20:48,333 on our shoulders. 836 01:20:49,000 --> 01:20:49,208 Absolutely. 837 01:20:49,375 --> 01:20:50,208 At that point in time, 838 01:20:50,208 --> 01:20:51,125 I was actually saying it 839 01:20:51,125 --> 01:20:51,666 when we were walking 840 01:20:51,666 --> 01:20:53,583 around New York this past week. 841 01:20:53,583 --> 01:20:54,666 I was like, yeah, I 842 01:20:54,666 --> 01:20:55,708 wanted to go to Boston College. 843 01:20:55,958 --> 01:20:57,958 I actually wanted to live in the city. 844 01:20:58,333 --> 01:20:59,916 And I mean, so absolutely 845 01:20:59,916 --> 01:21:02,708 that's how I pictured my life. 846 01:21:02,750 --> 01:21:03,000 Yeah. 847 01:21:04,583 --> 01:21:05,666 Whether it was walking to work 848 01:21:05,666 --> 01:21:07,708 or walking around the city, you know, 849 01:21:08,083 --> 01:21:09,833 going out for happy hour with friends. 850 01:21:11,458 --> 01:21:12,375 I did see that. 851 01:21:13,791 --> 01:21:13,833 Yeah. 852 01:21:13,833 --> 01:21:14,666 And you did do that. 853 01:21:14,708 --> 01:21:15,791 And I did that, yeah. 854 01:21:16,375 --> 01:21:17,041 I guess as you go 855 01:21:17,041 --> 01:21:19,166 further down that walk, right? 856 01:21:19,625 --> 01:21:23,166 I mean, I guess what 857 01:21:23,166 --> 01:21:24,375 you don't think about 858 01:21:24,625 --> 01:21:25,875 is just the layers of 859 01:21:25,875 --> 01:21:27,458 responsibility that just, 860 01:21:28,708 --> 01:21:31,666 you know, it's like layers of paint. 861 01:21:32,333 --> 01:21:32,500 Yeah. 862 01:21:33,083 --> 01:21:33,375 Right? 863 01:21:33,666 --> 01:21:34,500 You just start 864 01:21:34,500 --> 01:21:36,125 layering on responsibilities 865 01:21:36,833 --> 01:21:37,625 and you put more over 866 01:21:37,625 --> 01:21:38,500 that and more over that 867 01:21:38,500 --> 01:21:39,166 and they just get thicker 868 01:21:39,166 --> 01:21:40,000 and thicker and thicker. 869 01:21:40,333 --> 01:21:40,708 That's right. 870 01:21:41,541 --> 01:21:42,833 That's a beautiful 871 01:21:42,833 --> 01:21:46,000 analogy because it's true. 872 01:21:46,291 --> 01:21:50,916 I think about, I probably thought at 22, 873 01:21:51,875 --> 01:21:53,041 you know, living in the 874 01:21:53,041 --> 01:21:54,583 city, having a career, 875 01:21:55,833 --> 01:21:57,833 I probably thought I 876 01:21:57,833 --> 01:22:01,208 was overburdened with, 877 01:22:01,666 --> 01:22:02,750 you know, whatever 878 01:22:02,750 --> 01:22:04,083 that responsibility was. 879 01:22:04,083 --> 01:22:04,291 Yeah. 880 01:22:05,291 --> 01:22:07,875 And then you find out, well, no, 881 01:22:08,333 --> 01:22:09,375 actually we kind of keep 882 01:22:09,375 --> 01:22:11,500 adding to that and adding to, 883 01:22:11,500 --> 01:22:12,916 oh gosh, now I'm 884 01:22:12,916 --> 01:22:14,750 married, now I own a home, 885 01:22:15,083 --> 01:22:17,541 now I have children who need me. 886 01:22:17,541 --> 01:22:17,750 Right. 887 01:22:18,833 --> 01:22:19,916 You just kind of keep adding. 888 01:22:20,500 --> 01:22:21,375 Right, right. 889 01:22:21,666 --> 01:22:23,583 And I think that's the hardest part 890 01:22:24,625 --> 01:22:26,166 of what you just don't 891 01:22:26,166 --> 01:22:28,208 understand as a kid, you know? 892 01:22:28,208 --> 01:22:29,958 Because I guess when I was 893 01:22:29,958 --> 01:22:32,000 like 18, I had friends or 19 maybe 894 01:22:32,166 --> 01:22:33,041 and we were, you know, we 895 01:22:33,041 --> 01:22:34,000 would be on the golf course 896 01:22:34,250 --> 01:22:36,666 and be like, oh, one day, you know, 897 01:22:36,666 --> 01:22:39,000 I'm gonna make $100,000 a year 898 01:22:39,000 --> 01:22:39,791 and we're gonna be out 899 01:22:39,791 --> 01:22:42,791 here betting $1,000 a hole. 900 01:22:43,000 --> 01:22:43,583 You know what I mean? 901 01:22:43,833 --> 01:22:44,416 Yeah. 902 01:22:44,416 --> 01:22:46,208 And we're gonna be driving beemers. 903 01:22:46,708 --> 01:22:47,208 You know what I mean? 904 01:22:47,208 --> 01:22:48,000 That was like the 905 01:22:48,000 --> 01:22:50,458 depth of what adults did. 906 01:22:50,708 --> 01:22:51,250 You know what I mean? 907 01:22:51,250 --> 01:22:51,333 Of course, yeah. 908 01:22:51,375 --> 01:22:53,083 Because that's success at that age. 909 01:22:53,125 --> 01:22:53,458 Sure. 910 01:22:53,708 --> 01:22:54,291 You know what I mean? 911 01:22:54,291 --> 01:22:56,166 And it's just so much more than that. 912 01:22:56,916 --> 01:23:01,208 You know, it's just, at 913 01:23:01,208 --> 01:23:01,833 some point you flip over to, 914 01:23:02,375 --> 01:23:04,458 okay, that was kind of 915 01:23:04,458 --> 01:23:07,083 just like play adult, right? 916 01:23:07,125 --> 01:23:08,375 That was exactly what it is. 917 01:23:08,375 --> 01:23:09,375 Yeah, it's play adult. 918 01:23:09,375 --> 01:23:10,541 Now it's true adult 919 01:23:10,541 --> 01:23:11,166 and you start painting 920 01:23:11,166 --> 01:23:13,166 on these layers of, you know, 921 01:23:13,833 --> 01:23:14,458 and so that's where I 922 01:23:14,458 --> 01:23:15,291 was going with this was 923 01:23:15,291 --> 01:23:17,583 after you get so many of those layers, 924 01:23:17,583 --> 01:23:18,500 I think that's what 925 01:23:18,500 --> 01:23:19,333 you just don't realize 926 01:23:19,333 --> 01:23:22,750 when you're younger of the weight of that 927 01:23:22,750 --> 01:23:25,541 and how over that time 928 01:23:25,541 --> 01:23:26,625 you developed the strength 929 01:23:26,625 --> 01:23:27,708 to carry that weight. 930 01:23:28,041 --> 01:23:28,291 Yes. 931 01:23:28,708 --> 01:23:29,833 Because there's no way you 932 01:23:29,833 --> 01:23:30,833 could have that weight at 22. 933 01:23:31,708 --> 01:23:33,500 Without walking a mile 934 01:23:33,500 --> 01:23:34,583 in those shoes first. 935 01:23:34,958 --> 01:23:35,458 You know what I mean? 936 01:23:35,458 --> 01:23:35,875 Yeah. 937 01:23:36,125 --> 01:23:37,833 To throw in a whole nother metaphor. 938 01:23:37,875 --> 01:23:38,083 Right. 939 01:23:38,791 --> 01:23:39,416 There's no way. 940 01:23:39,416 --> 01:23:40,708 It's almost like weightlifting, right? 941 01:23:41,125 --> 01:23:43,166 Like you start small and it gets, 942 01:23:44,250 --> 01:23:46,291 you know, you gradually add the weight. 943 01:23:46,583 --> 01:23:47,000 That's good. 944 01:23:47,000 --> 01:23:48,125 You're doing another metaphor. 945 01:23:48,250 --> 01:23:48,708 There, I know. 946 01:23:48,750 --> 01:23:50,458 As many metaphors as we possibly get. 947 01:23:50,583 --> 01:23:51,000 Sticking with the 948 01:23:51,000 --> 01:23:51,916 painting, like, you know, 949 01:23:52,125 --> 01:23:56,291 that was a certain color in your life. 950 01:23:56,625 --> 01:23:57,250 You know what I mean? 951 01:23:57,291 --> 01:23:57,625 Right. 952 01:23:57,625 --> 01:24:00,000 And then another color, another era 953 01:24:00,458 --> 01:24:02,041 is another color and you 954 01:24:02,041 --> 01:24:04,375 paint that on, you know? 955 01:24:04,666 --> 01:24:06,166 And I think that's what's 956 01:24:06,166 --> 01:24:08,250 hard as an adult looking back 957 01:24:08,916 --> 01:24:11,833 is just, you always, at least in my life, 958 01:24:11,833 --> 01:24:12,500 and I don't know if 959 01:24:12,500 --> 01:24:13,166 other people watching this 960 01:24:13,166 --> 01:24:13,916 felt this way too, but 961 01:24:13,916 --> 01:24:16,000 it's just those false summits. 962 01:24:16,958 --> 01:24:18,208 And again, it's not like I'm just 963 01:24:18,208 --> 01:24:19,916 struggling with that, 964 01:24:19,916 --> 01:24:21,458 but I think everybody 965 01:24:21,458 --> 01:24:22,791 thinks you just get to this point 966 01:24:22,791 --> 01:24:24,041 in life where it's like, 967 01:24:24,291 --> 01:24:25,583 (sighs) 968 01:24:25,958 --> 01:24:27,208 you made it, you know? 969 01:24:28,000 --> 01:24:28,583 Because there's a lot 970 01:24:28,583 --> 01:24:29,500 of people that we know, 971 01:24:29,541 --> 01:24:29,750 there's a lot of 972 01:24:29,750 --> 01:24:30,666 people that might look at us 973 01:24:30,666 --> 01:24:32,625 and it looks like, oh, they've made it, 974 01:24:32,625 --> 01:24:33,458 or we've made it, or 975 01:24:33,458 --> 01:24:34,125 they've made it, you know? 976 01:24:34,125 --> 01:24:34,666 They've made it, yeah. 977 01:24:35,291 --> 01:24:38,291 And not that life is bad. 978 01:24:38,958 --> 01:24:40,333 No, gosh, no. 979 01:24:40,625 --> 01:24:41,416 Again, like we said today, 980 01:24:41,666 --> 01:24:43,166 like, there's not enough time. 981 01:24:44,458 --> 01:24:47,125 My time is way more valuable today 982 01:24:47,125 --> 01:24:49,250 than it was 10 years ago, right? 983 01:24:49,250 --> 01:24:50,000 I don't have enough 984 01:24:50,000 --> 01:24:51,208 time to do all the things 985 01:24:51,208 --> 01:24:54,000 that I have to do, let alone wanna do. 986 01:24:54,333 --> 01:24:54,958 Right, right. 987 01:24:55,875 --> 01:24:56,250 You know? 988 01:24:57,166 --> 01:24:58,208 I don't know, I talked a 989 01:24:58,208 --> 01:24:59,166 lot there for a second. 990 01:24:59,166 --> 01:25:00,375 Any thoughts? 991 01:25:01,208 --> 01:25:02,500 No, it's so true. 992 01:25:02,750 --> 01:25:04,125 And I do think that you 993 01:25:04,125 --> 01:25:05,583 appreciate the value of time 994 01:25:05,583 --> 01:25:06,833 as more time goes on. 995 01:25:06,875 --> 01:25:07,166 Yeah. 996 01:25:08,625 --> 01:25:11,166 Because there is that weight of 997 01:25:11,166 --> 01:25:12,583 responsibility and-- 998 01:25:14,041 --> 01:25:15,500 But I am curious if at some point 999 01:25:15,500 --> 01:25:16,833 that kinda comes back down, 1000 01:25:16,833 --> 01:25:17,166 because you think 1001 01:25:17,166 --> 01:25:18,541 about men in particular. 1002 01:25:19,916 --> 01:25:22,791 And I don't know this to be true, 1003 01:25:22,791 --> 01:25:24,333 because I've never been very close 1004 01:25:24,333 --> 01:25:27,166 to an older male figure in my life. 1005 01:25:27,166 --> 01:25:28,333 I don't really have that. 1006 01:25:28,875 --> 01:25:31,958 But I've heard of men 1007 01:25:31,958 --> 01:25:33,583 that are just really strong, 1008 01:25:33,583 --> 01:25:36,541 really hard-going in their younger years. 1009 01:25:37,000 --> 01:25:38,875 And as they got older, they got softer, 1010 01:25:39,166 --> 01:25:40,333 they chilled out, they 1011 01:25:40,333 --> 01:25:41,541 relaxed a little bit. 1012 01:25:41,541 --> 01:25:41,958 You know what I mean? 1013 01:25:42,083 --> 01:25:43,541 So that leads me to 1014 01:25:43,541 --> 01:25:45,333 believe that at some point, 1015 01:25:46,791 --> 01:25:48,375 maybe you do chip some of those layers. 1016 01:25:48,375 --> 01:25:49,291 Maybe you do take 1017 01:25:49,291 --> 01:25:50,875 some of those layers off. 1018 01:25:50,875 --> 01:25:52,291 I mean, definitely once the kids go, 1019 01:25:52,291 --> 01:25:54,583 and if they're not a 1020 01:25:54,583 --> 01:25:57,000 burden emotionally to you, 1021 01:25:57,666 --> 01:25:58,500 then maybe that is 1022 01:25:58,500 --> 01:25:59,958 paint layers you take off. 1023 01:26:00,791 --> 01:26:03,333 I think time comes back. 1024 01:26:03,333 --> 01:26:04,791 I don't know if the weight comes off. 1025 01:26:04,791 --> 01:26:06,333 I don't know, I'm not there yet. 1026 01:26:06,916 --> 01:26:09,791 But I think time slows down a bit. 1027 01:26:10,708 --> 01:26:11,625 I mean, we talk about it. 1028 01:26:11,625 --> 01:26:12,500 We're the crazy train. 1029 01:26:12,500 --> 01:26:13,625 This is insanity. 1030 01:26:15,000 --> 01:26:15,916 But with our oldest 1031 01:26:15,916 --> 01:26:19,333 driving, you do get time back. 1032 01:26:20,000 --> 01:26:21,250 It was like, oh my gosh. 1033 01:26:21,250 --> 01:26:22,083 We're at two and a half weeks of it now, 1034 01:26:22,083 --> 01:26:22,666 and it's been incredible. 1035 01:26:23,416 --> 01:26:23,625 Right. 1036 01:26:24,041 --> 01:26:25,958 I mean, here we were freaking out, 1037 01:26:26,041 --> 01:26:26,875 I still freak out. 1038 01:26:27,083 --> 01:26:29,000 Trust me, Live360 is amazing. 1039 01:26:29,625 --> 01:26:31,000 And sure, I am that mom 1040 01:26:31,000 --> 01:26:32,833 who tracks the entire drive. 1041 01:26:35,125 --> 01:26:37,625 But I mean, like he picked up his sister. 1042 01:26:37,833 --> 01:26:38,791 I was like, wow, I don't 1043 01:26:38,791 --> 01:26:39,916 really care what time you come home 1044 01:26:39,916 --> 01:26:41,000 because I don't have to go get you. 1045 01:26:41,000 --> 01:26:41,500 I'm just gonna send 1046 01:26:41,500 --> 01:26:42,541 your brother to go get you. 1047 01:26:44,000 --> 01:26:45,333 That is very freeing. 1048 01:26:45,625 --> 01:26:47,250 His car had to have 1049 01:26:47,250 --> 01:26:48,208 something, had a part. 1050 01:26:48,208 --> 01:26:49,208 I was ordered for it. 1051 01:26:49,625 --> 01:26:51,250 And you didn't even have to do it today. 1052 01:26:51,500 --> 01:26:52,625 He and I took care of it. 1053 01:26:52,833 --> 01:26:54,000 Because we needed two drivers to do it. 1054 01:26:54,041 --> 01:26:54,833 Or I didn't have to do it 1055 01:26:54,833 --> 01:26:56,375 by myself, an Uber back. 1056 01:26:56,458 --> 01:26:56,791 Right. 1057 01:26:56,791 --> 01:26:58,125 An Uber back, or sit 1058 01:26:58,125 --> 01:26:59,166 down there for two hours. 1059 01:26:59,166 --> 01:27:00,125 That's exactly right. 1060 01:27:00,208 --> 01:27:01,208 Yeah, so it's weird. 1061 01:27:01,500 --> 01:27:03,208 And so I think you do get 1062 01:27:03,208 --> 01:27:05,500 time because I was like, 1063 01:27:05,916 --> 01:27:07,000 I mean, I've flashed 1064 01:27:07,000 --> 01:27:09,791 forward now a few years, 1065 01:27:10,083 --> 01:27:12,250 quite a few years, and like, oh man, 1066 01:27:12,250 --> 01:27:13,000 what are Sean and I 1067 01:27:13,000 --> 01:27:14,291 gonna do when our kids drive? 1068 01:27:14,875 --> 01:27:18,291 Like, we can do things like on 1069 01:27:18,291 --> 01:27:20,041 our own if we want, you know? 1070 01:27:20,083 --> 01:27:20,583 Like for the soccer 1071 01:27:20,583 --> 01:27:21,833 games now, for his at least, 1072 01:27:21,833 --> 01:27:23,291 it's like we just meet him at the games. 1073 01:27:23,916 --> 01:27:24,708 Yeah, we don't have to go early 1074 01:27:24,708 --> 01:27:26,750 because you can get yourself there early. 1075 01:27:26,916 --> 01:27:27,083 Yes. 1076 01:27:27,875 --> 01:27:28,125 No. 1077 01:27:28,916 --> 01:27:29,916 And it's just that to 1078 01:27:29,916 --> 01:27:30,583 me is mind boggling. 1079 01:27:30,625 --> 01:27:32,041 It is mind-blowing. 1080 01:27:32,375 --> 01:27:33,000 But I don't know that 1081 01:27:33,000 --> 01:27:33,750 the weight ever changes. 1082 01:27:34,041 --> 01:27:37,333 I think once that weight goes on, 1083 01:27:37,583 --> 01:27:39,541 like that weight, especially as a parent. 1084 01:27:39,958 --> 01:27:40,166 Yeah. 1085 01:27:41,083 --> 01:27:43,416 The weight as a parent doesn't come off. 1086 01:27:43,500 --> 01:27:44,583 Yeah, yeah. 1087 01:27:44,666 --> 01:27:47,875 I just, I don't see that ever changing. 1088 01:27:48,208 --> 01:27:49,333 No, I don't think so. 1089 01:27:49,333 --> 01:27:50,916 And I don't know that 1090 01:27:50,916 --> 01:27:52,166 you get to, you know, 1091 01:27:52,208 --> 01:27:53,833 so I mean, gosh, I 1092 01:27:53,833 --> 01:27:55,583 mean, you know, monetarily, 1093 01:27:55,583 --> 01:27:56,083 that's probably the 1094 01:27:56,083 --> 01:27:56,708 other one that everybody, 1095 01:27:57,500 --> 01:27:58,500 you know, that adds a lot 1096 01:27:58,500 --> 01:28:00,000 of weight to a lot of people. 1097 01:28:01,416 --> 01:28:02,416 You and I are laughing about it 1098 01:28:02,416 --> 01:28:03,958 because someone said, you know, money 1099 01:28:03,958 --> 01:28:04,750 doesn't buy happiness. 1100 01:28:05,000 --> 01:28:05,666 What do they say though? 1101 01:28:05,875 --> 01:28:07,458 And they're like, but it kind of does. 1102 01:28:07,916 --> 01:28:08,916 But it kind of does. 1103 01:28:09,500 --> 01:28:12,791 This was after someone, she had an 1104 01:28:12,791 --> 01:28:13,791 opportunity to ride, 1105 01:28:13,791 --> 01:28:15,750 I don't know, on a private jet. 1106 01:28:15,750 --> 01:28:16,958 And then she got first class 1107 01:28:16,958 --> 01:28:18,875 because on a different flight 1108 01:28:20,083 --> 01:28:21,333 because she had enough points or 1109 01:28:21,333 --> 01:28:22,208 something like that. 1110 01:28:22,541 --> 01:28:24,500 She's like, I could get used to this. 1111 01:28:25,000 --> 01:28:25,208 Yeah, everybody 1112 01:28:25,208 --> 01:28:26,583 happens, but it kind of does. 1113 01:28:26,916 --> 01:28:27,833 It kind of does. 1114 01:28:28,250 --> 01:28:29,708 You know, as I 1115 01:28:29,708 --> 01:28:31,000 happen, because it is true, 1116 01:28:31,000 --> 01:28:34,833 it buys some experiences that are meant, 1117 01:28:35,750 --> 01:28:37,000 specifically what they're meant to do, 1118 01:28:37,000 --> 01:28:38,833 be more efficient and lighten the load 1119 01:28:38,833 --> 01:28:40,041 and make it easier than 1120 01:28:40,041 --> 01:28:41,041 sitting in the terminal 1121 01:28:41,041 --> 01:28:41,875 with thousands of people 1122 01:28:41,875 --> 01:28:42,833 that don't know how to fly. 1123 01:28:43,333 --> 01:28:43,916 Instead you're sitting 1124 01:28:43,916 --> 01:28:45,208 in a private, you know, 1125 01:28:45,208 --> 01:28:46,833 you get golf carted out to your jet 1126 01:28:46,958 --> 01:28:49,625 and you amongst five other people hop on. 1127 01:28:49,875 --> 01:28:50,208 Right. 1128 01:28:50,208 --> 01:28:51,416 Super easy, right. 1129 01:28:51,541 --> 01:28:52,833 No security or anything like that. 1130 01:28:53,000 --> 01:28:53,916 That's an efficiency 1131 01:28:53,916 --> 01:28:55,000 that comes along with money. 1132 01:28:56,041 --> 01:28:58,333 But if that were your whole life, 1133 01:28:59,000 --> 01:29:00,250 and I've seen this in our lives, 1134 01:29:00,250 --> 01:29:01,625 is we made more and more money, 1135 01:29:02,375 --> 01:29:03,333 it's not like it's like, oh 1136 01:29:03,333 --> 01:29:04,416 man, we're on the easy train. 1137 01:29:04,666 --> 01:29:06,708 It's like just more complex. 1138 01:29:07,083 --> 01:29:07,916 There's so much more 1139 01:29:07,916 --> 01:29:09,000 because money goes here, 1140 01:29:09,000 --> 01:29:09,583 money goes there, money 1141 01:29:09,583 --> 01:29:10,458 goes there, money goes here. 1142 01:29:10,791 --> 01:29:11,208 You know, even money 1143 01:29:11,208 --> 01:29:12,833 you're not spending is invested 1144 01:29:12,833 --> 01:29:13,916 and you gotta worry about the investments 1145 01:29:14,041 --> 01:29:14,791 and this and that. 1146 01:29:14,916 --> 01:29:17,000 I mean, there's money everywhere. 1147 01:29:17,708 --> 01:29:19,500 And so it's not like, it's true, 1148 01:29:19,500 --> 01:29:21,458 more money, more problems to some degree. 1149 01:29:21,458 --> 01:29:22,833 It's not like it may, and 1150 01:29:22,833 --> 01:29:24,333 we might be in that inertia, 1151 01:29:24,500 --> 01:29:25,333 we might be in that 1152 01:29:25,333 --> 01:29:27,291 still poor people, you know. 1153 01:29:27,333 --> 01:29:27,458 Fair. 1154 01:29:27,500 --> 01:29:28,375 You don't have so much 1155 01:29:28,375 --> 01:29:29,333 money that it's like, 1156 01:29:29,333 --> 01:29:30,291 ah, I don't even care. 1157 01:29:30,291 --> 01:29:31,541 I don't care, no, we're not there. 1158 01:29:31,583 --> 01:29:32,208 Because I do think there's 1159 01:29:32,208 --> 01:29:33,708 a certain point you get to 1160 01:29:33,708 --> 01:29:35,291 where you have so much money and it's 1161 01:29:35,291 --> 01:29:35,875 like, you know what? 1162 01:29:36,708 --> 01:29:38,041 I got that much money in the bank. 1163 01:29:38,583 --> 01:29:40,750 If the world blew up or my world blew up, 1164 01:29:40,750 --> 01:29:42,583 I lost everything, I can 1165 01:29:42,583 --> 01:29:44,000 live off that nest egg. 1166 01:29:44,333 --> 01:29:46,500 And nothing changes, I'm totally fine. 1167 01:29:46,958 --> 01:29:51,166 And I see people like that do live a 1168 01:29:51,166 --> 01:29:52,000 little bit differently 1169 01:29:52,416 --> 01:29:54,000 from a weight perspective. 1170 01:29:54,791 --> 01:29:56,000 And we're just regular Joes. 1171 01:29:56,000 --> 01:29:57,333 And we're just regular Joes, right? 1172 01:29:57,791 --> 01:29:59,500 But at the same time, so 1173 01:29:59,500 --> 01:30:00,291 many of the frustrations 1174 01:30:00,541 --> 01:30:02,791 that we have, like, you 1175 01:30:02,791 --> 01:30:04,208 know, sitting in traffic 1176 01:30:04,500 --> 01:30:06,166 on a regular day, no money 1177 01:30:06,166 --> 01:30:07,416 will get you out of that. 1178 01:30:08,583 --> 01:30:10,500 Like, unless you're just, 1179 01:30:11,333 --> 01:30:12,291 you're taking a helicopter 1180 01:30:12,500 --> 01:30:14,166 around the city, like, I 1181 01:30:14,166 --> 01:30:15,333 don't know why you're doing that. 1182 01:30:15,916 --> 01:30:17,000 Well, people don't have money to do that. 1183 01:30:17,000 --> 01:30:17,958 And we just talked about that. 1184 01:30:17,958 --> 01:30:18,541 We literally just 1185 01:30:18,541 --> 01:30:19,791 brought that up with, I mean, 1186 01:30:20,041 --> 01:30:21,833 Kobe did that because it's easier. 1187 01:30:22,416 --> 01:30:23,875 He was a celebrity and he had the money, 1188 01:30:24,083 --> 01:30:26,083 plenty of money to do that, you know? 1189 01:30:26,083 --> 01:30:27,791 And it was incredibly tragic. 1190 01:30:28,458 --> 01:30:29,625 That's a situation where 1191 01:30:29,625 --> 01:30:31,125 money afforded him that. 1192 01:30:31,458 --> 01:30:32,125 But money did-- 1193 01:30:32,125 --> 01:30:33,291 And it ended his life 1194 01:30:33,291 --> 01:30:35,291 early, sadly, tragically. 1195 01:30:35,625 --> 01:30:36,500 And it doesn't go with you. 1196 01:30:37,041 --> 01:30:37,958 Yeah, and it doesn't go with you. 1197 01:30:38,125 --> 01:30:40,000 But anyways, that was kind of 1198 01:30:40,000 --> 01:30:41,375 a sad note to end it on there 1199 01:30:41,458 --> 01:30:42,083 because we got to cut 1200 01:30:42,083 --> 01:30:43,500 it, we got to get down, 1201 01:30:43,958 --> 01:30:45,083 we got to cut these down. 1202 01:30:45,958 --> 01:30:46,416 Five hours. 1203 01:30:47,375 --> 01:30:47,708 I know. 1204 01:30:47,708 --> 01:30:48,375 We get down to four 1205 01:30:48,375 --> 01:30:49,333 hours or something like that. 1206 01:30:49,375 --> 01:30:50,458 Something like that, yeah. 1207 01:30:50,500 --> 01:30:51,416 Anyways, I mean, I just think, 1208 01:30:51,708 --> 01:30:52,500 how would you summarize 1209 01:30:52,500 --> 01:30:53,750 the way you thought it did? 1210 01:30:55,416 --> 01:30:56,458 Again, it goes back to, 1211 01:30:56,458 --> 01:30:57,916 I just, I thought adults 1212 01:30:58,291 --> 01:30:59,500 had it all together and that 1213 01:30:59,500 --> 01:31:01,041 they had it on Easy Street. 1214 01:31:01,083 --> 01:31:01,833 Yeah, yeah. 1215 01:31:02,250 --> 01:31:02,791 Do you still think 1216 01:31:02,791 --> 01:31:04,291 people that are adults, 1217 01:31:04,958 --> 01:31:06,000 older adults than us, 1218 01:31:06,291 --> 01:31:07,291 still have it that way? 1219 01:31:07,625 --> 01:31:07,916 No. 1220 01:31:08,166 --> 01:31:10,125 Yeah, you think of them differently now. 1221 01:31:10,333 --> 01:31:11,041 They're just going 1222 01:31:11,041 --> 01:31:11,708 through their own thing. 1223 01:31:12,000 --> 01:31:13,041 Yep, I think of it 1224 01:31:13,041 --> 01:31:14,166 completely differently. 1225 01:31:14,500 --> 01:31:16,833 I see through the veil 1226 01:31:16,833 --> 01:31:21,500 and it's more of a peer, 1227 01:31:22,083 --> 01:31:23,083 even though they have 1228 01:31:23,083 --> 01:31:24,500 more wisdom and all of that. 1229 01:31:25,958 --> 01:31:27,958 It's like, I know, I understand now. 1230 01:31:29,625 --> 01:31:30,916 I just understand you now. 1231 01:31:30,916 --> 01:31:32,833 I understand the battles that you fought 1232 01:31:32,833 --> 01:31:34,625 or continue to fight every day 1233 01:31:35,000 --> 01:31:36,166 because they're likely the same as mine. 1234 01:31:36,500 --> 01:31:38,208 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 1235 01:31:38,208 --> 01:31:38,875 I think that's right. 1236 01:31:39,208 --> 01:31:42,083 I just think it magnifies even more so 1237 01:31:42,083 --> 01:31:42,958 of what we talk about, 1238 01:31:42,958 --> 01:31:44,000 what I talk about a lot 1239 01:31:44,000 --> 01:31:46,000 and I worry about a lot in my life, 1240 01:31:46,541 --> 01:31:49,083 is just the enjoy today. 1241 01:31:50,125 --> 01:31:52,208 Because A, tomorrow's not promised, 1242 01:31:53,250 --> 01:31:54,500 but B, I mean, there's 1243 01:31:54,500 --> 01:31:55,875 always something to worry about. 1244 01:31:55,875 --> 01:31:57,375 There's always something to work on. 1245 01:31:59,125 --> 01:32:00,833 The new book we're reading, it talks, 1246 01:32:01,166 --> 01:32:01,541 I mean, I don't know if 1247 01:32:01,541 --> 01:32:02,250 we've gotten there yet 1248 01:32:02,458 --> 01:32:05,000 on real time on morning cereal yet, 1249 01:32:05,000 --> 01:32:06,125 but I mean, it talks about, 1250 01:32:06,833 --> 01:32:07,666 and that's why I love reading these 1251 01:32:07,750 --> 01:32:08,375 because it just kind of 1252 01:32:08,375 --> 01:32:09,375 opens your eyes to things 1253 01:32:09,625 --> 01:32:11,041 or maybe sharpens your 1254 01:32:11,041 --> 01:32:12,125 focus on it a little bit more. 1255 01:32:13,250 --> 01:32:15,500 But the author is talking 1256 01:32:15,500 --> 01:32:17,583 about how that process is, 1257 01:32:17,833 --> 01:32:18,625 everybody's so focused 1258 01:32:18,625 --> 01:32:21,416 on, I gotta run a marathon. 1259 01:32:21,791 --> 01:32:23,000 I gotta cross that finish line. 1260 01:32:23,000 --> 01:32:24,291 Or one that hit home with me is like, 1261 01:32:24,291 --> 01:32:25,083 I'm starting a business, 1262 01:32:25,083 --> 01:32:26,500 I gotta get that business successful, 1263 01:32:26,750 --> 01:32:27,250 you know what I mean? 1264 01:32:27,250 --> 01:32:28,416 And you're looking at these things 1265 01:32:28,416 --> 01:32:30,375 that are out in the future 1266 01:32:31,166 --> 01:32:31,583 and if you're 1267 01:32:31,583 --> 01:32:33,375 constantly focused on the future, 1268 01:32:35,000 --> 01:32:36,375 you're not ignoring the today. 1269 01:32:37,041 --> 01:32:38,791 Be sure you're not ignoring the today 1270 01:32:38,875 --> 01:32:40,625 because that future may 1271 01:32:40,625 --> 01:32:42,166 never come is what I'm saying. 1272 01:32:42,166 --> 01:32:43,333 That's a little morbid obviously, 1273 01:32:43,625 --> 01:32:45,208 but if you don't enjoy today, 1274 01:32:45,750 --> 01:32:47,750 the future is always 1275 01:32:47,750 --> 01:32:48,291 gonna be in the future. 1276 01:32:48,708 --> 01:32:50,000 It will always be in the future. 1277 01:32:50,041 --> 01:32:51,833 Gotta find time to enjoy today. 1278 01:32:52,250 --> 01:32:53,291 Now always be looking, 1279 01:32:53,291 --> 01:32:55,041 because that's the hardest thing for me 1280 01:32:55,541 --> 01:32:56,833 is always knowing I'm 1281 01:32:56,833 --> 01:32:58,125 looking for that next thing. 1282 01:32:58,833 --> 01:32:59,791 It's not like I'll be 1283 01:32:59,791 --> 01:33:01,458 happy if I can just do this 1284 01:33:01,458 --> 01:33:03,166 or I'll be happy when this just happens. 1285 01:33:03,500 --> 01:33:04,958 I'm not that type of a person, 1286 01:33:05,500 --> 01:33:07,458 but I'm definitely a person of like, 1287 01:33:07,583 --> 01:33:09,833 I'm looking forward to when this happens. 1288 01:33:09,875 --> 01:33:10,625 Yeah. You know what I mean? 1289 01:33:10,625 --> 01:33:12,625 And I'm not basing my happiness on that, 1290 01:33:13,041 --> 01:33:15,708 but it is a check mark for me 1291 01:33:16,833 --> 01:33:19,458 that's like maybe a little relieving. 1292 01:33:20,000 --> 01:33:21,625 Feel a little relief on that, right? 1293 01:33:21,916 --> 01:33:22,250 For sure. 1294 01:33:22,583 --> 01:33:24,000 And I think maybe those 1295 01:33:24,000 --> 01:33:26,125 check marks shouldn't be as big 1296 01:33:26,375 --> 01:33:27,791 and the journey to get there 1297 01:33:27,791 --> 01:33:28,625 should be enjoyed a 1298 01:33:28,625 --> 01:33:29,666 little bit more, potentially. 1299 01:33:30,541 --> 01:33:31,041 For sure. 1300 01:33:31,833 --> 01:33:34,250 And I think goal-oriented 1301 01:33:34,250 --> 01:33:36,041 people struggle with that. 1302 01:33:36,208 --> 01:33:37,833 Yeah, yeah. 1303 01:33:38,291 --> 01:33:40,916 As opposed to just enjoying the journey. 1304 01:33:41,708 --> 01:33:42,000 Yeah. 1305 01:33:42,541 --> 01:33:45,541 You know, it's like, I don't know. 1306 01:33:45,791 --> 01:33:46,833 Maybe that's not the case. 1307 01:33:47,125 --> 01:33:48,250 It doesn't help that my to-do list 1308 01:33:48,375 --> 01:33:49,791 literally has check boxes on them. 1309 01:33:50,458 --> 01:33:51,916 I know, mine does too, 1310 01:33:51,916 --> 01:33:54,083 and I absolutely love checking them off. 1311 01:33:54,083 --> 01:33:55,041 I do too, one note. 1312 01:33:56,458 --> 01:33:58,541 Yeah, and you just, oh, that click, 1313 01:33:58,916 --> 01:33:59,833 because I typed that 1314 01:33:59,833 --> 01:34:01,250 email, like, oh, that's amazing. 1315 01:34:01,625 --> 01:34:02,833 So here's the last shift off of that. 1316 01:34:03,083 --> 01:34:05,041 So when you click it, I 1317 01:34:05,041 --> 01:34:06,333 used to keep my one note, 1318 01:34:06,333 --> 01:34:06,875 everybody knows this 1319 01:34:06,875 --> 01:34:08,083 is so geekin' out here, 1320 01:34:08,083 --> 01:34:09,541 but on my one note, once 1321 01:34:09,541 --> 01:34:10,625 you put a new one on it, 1322 01:34:10,625 --> 01:34:11,416 pushes it down, put a new 1323 01:34:11,416 --> 01:34:12,041 one on it, pushes it down, 1324 01:34:12,291 --> 01:34:13,916 you go down, what's not 1325 01:34:13,916 --> 01:34:14,750 checked, and you check them. 1326 01:34:15,125 --> 01:34:15,958 Do you leave them there 1327 01:34:15,958 --> 01:34:16,875 and just let them grow, 1328 01:34:16,875 --> 01:34:18,500 go, go, go, go, go, grow, so you scroll, 1329 01:34:18,500 --> 01:34:19,666 or do you delete them 1330 01:34:19,666 --> 01:34:20,875 after you check them? 1331 01:34:22,375 --> 01:34:23,833 Okay, so now you're really gonna, 1332 01:34:23,833 --> 01:34:25,000 you're gonna judge me. 1333 01:34:25,000 --> 01:34:26,041 I am, because I want to know. 1334 01:34:26,583 --> 01:34:29,833 So, what I do is every week or so, 1335 01:34:30,833 --> 01:34:32,083 I keep my list for the week, 1336 01:34:32,708 --> 01:34:34,000 and then anything I've checked off, 1337 01:34:34,000 --> 01:34:34,875 I actually move to a 1338 01:34:34,875 --> 01:34:36,708 separate column of completed items 1339 01:34:36,875 --> 01:34:38,500 on the right-hand side of the-- 1340 01:34:38,500 --> 01:34:39,833 It goes down into infinity. 1341 01:34:40,041 --> 01:34:40,250 Infinity. 1342 01:34:41,000 --> 01:34:41,125 (laughing) 1343 01:34:41,166 --> 01:34:42,541 I used to do that. 1344 01:34:43,208 --> 01:34:43,416 (laughing) 1345 01:34:43,416 --> 01:34:46,958 I will never need to go back to things 1346 01:34:46,958 --> 01:34:47,958 that I checked off the 1347 01:34:47,958 --> 01:34:49,583 list a year and a half ago. 1348 01:34:50,208 --> 01:34:50,916 But you have it. 1349 01:34:51,166 --> 01:34:52,208 But, galdarn it, I got it. 1350 01:34:52,250 --> 01:34:52,708 When I was at the 1351 01:34:52,708 --> 01:34:53,500 bank, I did it that way. 1352 01:34:54,416 --> 01:34:55,416 So, how do you do it? 1353 01:34:56,125 --> 01:34:57,875 Well, at the bank, I did it that way. 1354 01:34:58,625 --> 01:35:00,166 I kept them separate, 1355 01:35:00,625 --> 01:35:02,000 and I would toggle them. 1356 01:35:03,208 --> 01:35:06,000 But now that I'm not at the bank, 1357 01:35:06,000 --> 01:35:07,041 and it's more my thing, 1358 01:35:07,041 --> 01:35:07,666 because I've got a 1359 01:35:07,666 --> 01:35:09,375 personal list and a business list, 1360 01:35:09,375 --> 01:35:10,708 that's like that now, and 1361 01:35:10,708 --> 01:35:11,750 it's just too many lists. 1362 01:35:12,500 --> 01:35:15,125 So, what I do is, I guess I 1363 01:35:15,125 --> 01:35:16,916 just enjoy the check mark, 1364 01:35:16,916 --> 01:35:18,291 and I leave it there for like a day, 1365 01:35:18,875 --> 01:35:19,708 seeing that I checked 1366 01:35:19,708 --> 01:35:22,000 it, knowing full well 1367 01:35:22,000 --> 01:35:23,625 that I could just erase it right then, 1368 01:35:23,625 --> 01:35:24,500 because I did it. 1369 01:35:24,583 --> 01:35:26,666 Yeah, but no, you gotta leave it there. 1370 01:35:27,125 --> 01:35:27,500 I gotta leave it 1371 01:35:27,500 --> 01:35:29,583 there, and then I delete it. 1372 01:35:30,416 --> 01:35:31,375 See, I gotta leave it 1373 01:35:31,375 --> 01:35:32,166 there for like a week. 1374 01:35:32,208 --> 01:35:33,416 Or sometimes, if there's 1375 01:35:33,416 --> 01:35:34,958 a second step to that one, 1376 01:35:35,666 --> 01:35:38,208 I'll tab and add a-- 1377 01:35:38,666 --> 01:35:39,708 Gotta add another check box. 1378 01:35:39,708 --> 01:35:42,375 Add another box to check under it. 1379 01:35:42,833 --> 01:35:43,083 100%. 1380 01:35:43,708 --> 01:35:49,291 Oh my gosh, talk about two type A 1381 01:35:49,375 --> 01:35:50,708 goal-oriented people here. 1382 01:35:52,166 --> 01:35:53,666 We're not that crazy, I 1383 01:35:53,666 --> 01:35:54,625 don't think, but yeah. 1384 01:35:55,208 --> 01:35:55,875 I'm sure lots of people 1385 01:35:55,875 --> 01:35:57,416 that use OneNote do that. 1386 01:35:57,625 --> 01:35:58,041 That's just been the 1387 01:35:58,041 --> 01:35:58,833 best, that's the best way 1388 01:35:58,833 --> 01:36:00,416 I've found to keep a to-do list. 1389 01:36:01,250 --> 01:36:02,958 Well, even when I was doing it on paper, 1390 01:36:03,333 --> 01:36:05,208 I would like to see 1391 01:36:05,208 --> 01:36:06,208 the things checked off, 1392 01:36:06,208 --> 01:36:07,291 and I still needed to see 1393 01:36:07,291 --> 01:36:08,458 that I got some things done. 1394 01:36:08,458 --> 01:36:09,500 Like, if I deleted immediately, 1395 01:36:09,708 --> 01:36:10,416 it's as though it never 1396 01:36:10,416 --> 01:36:11,500 happened, and I don't get that-- 1397 01:36:11,500 --> 01:36:11,750 Exactly. 1398 01:36:12,041 --> 01:36:13,000 Whatever that is, 1399 01:36:13,000 --> 01:36:15,583 dopamine rush from like, 1400 01:36:15,583 --> 01:36:16,958 I accomplished something. 1401 01:36:17,208 --> 01:36:17,958 Exactly, exactly. 1402 01:36:18,291 --> 01:36:20,500 All right, well, did you have any peabes? 1403 01:36:20,625 --> 01:36:22,416 I'm peabed from this last week. 1404 01:36:24,833 --> 01:36:27,041 Yes, now that I think about it-- 1405 01:36:27,041 --> 01:36:28,083 You were in New York. 1406 01:36:28,083 --> 01:36:30,541 We were in New York, and I will tell you, 1407 01:36:31,500 --> 01:36:33,791 and I tried to remind myself, like, 1408 01:36:34,041 --> 01:36:35,000 Megan, you were young 1409 01:36:35,000 --> 01:36:36,291 and in love one time, 1410 01:36:36,666 --> 01:36:38,791 like, you and Sean did PDA, 1411 01:36:38,791 --> 01:36:40,875 but there was a couple on the subway. 1412 01:36:41,291 --> 01:36:41,833 Oh yeah. 1413 01:36:41,916 --> 01:36:46,083 That this was PDA on steroids. 1414 01:36:46,291 --> 01:36:48,333 Like, it was absolutely disgusting. 1415 01:36:49,083 --> 01:36:50,125 I mean, he was freaking 1416 01:36:50,125 --> 01:36:51,791 eye boogers out of her eyes, 1417 01:36:52,000 --> 01:36:53,166 like, what? 1418 01:36:53,541 --> 01:36:53,833 That is-- 1419 01:36:54,333 --> 01:36:56,833 With his thumb, he would take her face, 1420 01:36:56,833 --> 01:36:58,208 and then with his thumb, he was like, 1421 01:36:58,208 --> 01:36:59,000 like she was a little puppy. 1422 01:36:59,500 --> 01:37:01,625 Oh my gosh, it was disgusting, 1423 01:37:01,916 --> 01:37:02,458 and then they'd like 1424 01:37:02,458 --> 01:37:03,625 be kissing and whatever, 1425 01:37:03,625 --> 01:37:04,500 and I was just like, in 1426 01:37:04,500 --> 01:37:05,208 front of her daughter, 1427 01:37:05,208 --> 01:37:06,375 I was like, I wanted to tell 1428 01:37:06,375 --> 01:37:08,333 her, like, this isn't normal. 1429 01:37:08,333 --> 01:37:09,750 He was like biting her face. 1430 01:37:09,750 --> 01:37:10,041 He would like-- 1431 01:37:10,083 --> 01:37:10,833 It was so weird. 1432 01:37:10,833 --> 01:37:12,250 One time he bit her cheek to the point 1433 01:37:12,250 --> 01:37:12,833 where I could see her 1434 01:37:12,833 --> 01:37:14,375 skin like pulling away. 1435 01:37:14,375 --> 01:37:15,375 It was weird. 1436 01:37:15,750 --> 01:37:16,416 Bite her chin. 1437 01:37:17,500 --> 01:37:19,041 So weird, they were weird. 1438 01:37:19,708 --> 01:37:21,000 Oh my gosh. 1439 01:37:21,500 --> 01:37:23,916 Like, keep the PDA, 1440 01:37:24,333 --> 01:37:26,875 like, at least G-rated. 1441 01:37:26,875 --> 01:37:28,208 I mean, I don't even know what this is. 1442 01:37:28,208 --> 01:37:30,666 This was just weird stuff. 1443 01:37:31,125 --> 01:37:31,958 Yeah, yeah. 1444 01:37:31,958 --> 01:37:32,833 It was weird. 1445 01:37:32,833 --> 01:37:34,125 You know, yeah it was, it was. 1446 01:37:34,375 --> 01:37:36,208 The best thing about New York City 1447 01:37:36,416 --> 01:37:37,500 is that they move fast, 1448 01:37:37,500 --> 01:37:39,291 and everybody there is just moving fast. 1449 01:37:39,291 --> 01:37:40,000 I love that. 1450 01:37:40,041 --> 01:37:40,416 I do. 1451 01:37:41,375 --> 01:37:41,875 People aren't waiting 1452 01:37:41,875 --> 01:37:43,291 on, you know, walk signs 1453 01:37:43,500 --> 01:37:44,250 when the cars are 1454 01:37:44,250 --> 01:37:45,166 gone, and there's a space, 1455 01:37:45,250 --> 01:37:45,916 boom, we're going. 1456 01:37:46,291 --> 01:37:46,916 I love it. 1457 01:37:46,916 --> 01:37:48,083 I have no problem with that. 1458 01:37:48,416 --> 01:37:49,250 It's like when there's a 1459 01:37:49,250 --> 01:37:50,416 safe, aggressive driver 1460 01:37:50,583 --> 01:37:51,333 that wants to get in 1461 01:37:51,333 --> 01:37:52,333 and move on in front of me 1462 01:37:52,333 --> 01:37:53,333 on a highway or something like that, 1463 01:37:53,541 --> 01:37:54,666 you go with your bad self. 1464 01:37:54,708 --> 01:37:55,541 You go with it, yeah. 1465 01:37:55,583 --> 01:37:57,000 And that's how New York is with people. 1466 01:37:57,583 --> 01:37:58,708 They're just like, I'm going. 1467 01:37:58,708 --> 01:37:59,416 If I'm too slow, 1468 01:37:59,416 --> 01:38:00,166 like, they're just going. 1469 01:38:00,916 --> 01:38:01,625 You know what I mean? 1470 01:38:01,625 --> 01:38:02,625 And I'm just going too. 1471 01:38:03,000 --> 01:38:04,416 And they're used to me cutting them off, 1472 01:38:04,416 --> 01:38:05,708 and they're used to cutting me off. 1473 01:38:06,083 --> 01:38:07,125 And everybody's okay with it, 1474 01:38:07,125 --> 01:38:08,083 because we're all just going. 1475 01:38:08,833 --> 01:38:10,291 I like that about New York. 1476 01:38:10,291 --> 01:38:10,875 I do too. 1477 01:38:10,875 --> 01:38:12,375 However, the only PDA I'll talk about 1478 01:38:12,541 --> 01:38:14,291 was the place we were at the Armory 1479 01:38:14,541 --> 01:38:15,541 with this big tracting. 1480 01:38:15,916 --> 01:38:18,041 It was too small of a facility. 1481 01:38:18,291 --> 01:38:20,125 I'm sure it's historic, 1482 01:38:20,458 --> 01:38:21,333 and everybody's been there. 1483 01:38:21,333 --> 01:38:22,541 The Track Hall of Fame's there. 1484 01:38:22,833 --> 01:38:23,500 So I'm sure it was 1485 01:38:23,500 --> 01:38:24,458 really cool being there. 1486 01:38:25,000 --> 01:38:26,500 But there are too many people. 1487 01:38:27,375 --> 01:38:28,916 They did not have a good system 1488 01:38:28,916 --> 01:38:30,333 to bring people in the front door. 1489 01:38:31,375 --> 01:38:33,166 And athletes to go one way. 1490 01:38:33,541 --> 01:38:34,166 Spectators have to get 1491 01:38:34,166 --> 01:38:35,125 their tickets one way. 1492 01:38:35,125 --> 01:38:36,166 You can't pre-buy them. 1493 01:38:36,166 --> 01:38:37,291 You all have to stand in one line. 1494 01:38:37,875 --> 01:38:40,416 Thousands of people through four doors. 1495 01:38:41,041 --> 01:38:44,708 I mean, it was a mess. 1496 01:38:45,416 --> 01:38:46,583 People didn't know where the lines were 1497 01:38:46,666 --> 01:38:48,833 and just kind of pushing in on the line, 1498 01:38:48,833 --> 01:38:49,875 even though it's clearly 1499 01:38:49,875 --> 01:38:51,416 kind of that there was a line. 1500 01:38:51,416 --> 01:38:52,333 Because I found it. 1501 01:38:52,958 --> 01:38:53,416 You know what I mean? 1502 01:38:53,958 --> 01:38:56,291 So that was frustrating that 1503 01:38:56,291 --> 01:38:58,166 they did not have that well. 1504 01:38:58,416 --> 01:38:58,916 Because I know they've 1505 01:38:58,916 --> 01:38:59,625 done this every year. 1506 01:38:59,625 --> 01:39:00,375 They do it every year. 1507 01:39:00,416 --> 01:39:01,416 It was insane. 1508 01:39:01,458 --> 01:39:03,375 And the coach said, she's like, 1509 01:39:03,375 --> 01:39:04,083 it's bad this year, I 1510 01:39:04,083 --> 01:39:04,750 don't know what's going on. 1511 01:39:04,791 --> 01:39:05,250 Yeah, she's like, I've 1512 01:39:05,250 --> 01:39:06,166 never seen it like this. 1513 01:39:06,166 --> 01:39:06,708 I've never seen it like this. 1514 01:39:06,958 --> 01:39:08,708 So I don't know what it was this year. 1515 01:39:08,708 --> 01:39:11,000 Yeah, people were pole vaulting poles, 1516 01:39:11,000 --> 01:39:12,000 like walking through, 1517 01:39:12,000 --> 01:39:13,166 excuse me, excuse me. 1518 01:39:13,791 --> 01:39:14,708 I mean, and it was, 1519 01:39:15,458 --> 01:39:18,875 this lobby was jam-packed. 1520 01:39:19,083 --> 01:39:21,250 I mean, there was no moving. 1521 01:39:21,250 --> 01:39:22,125 And yeah, when you're walking through 1522 01:39:22,125 --> 01:39:24,041 with a pole vault pole, 1523 01:39:24,708 --> 01:39:25,791 like, I don't know, real. 1524 01:39:25,916 --> 01:39:26,666 Or a pretty shoulder to 1525 01:39:26,666 --> 01:39:28,083 shoulder chest to back. 1526 01:39:28,708 --> 01:39:29,125 Yes. 1527 01:39:29,125 --> 01:39:30,041 I mean, it was just 1528 01:39:30,041 --> 01:39:32,083 smelling people, all that. 1529 01:39:32,083 --> 01:39:32,833 We were all wet because 1530 01:39:32,833 --> 01:39:34,041 it was rainy and cold. 1531 01:39:34,500 --> 01:39:34,833 Yeah. 1532 01:39:36,333 --> 01:39:38,166 Anyways, that kind of crowds, 1533 01:39:38,416 --> 01:39:39,666 when I feel like I'm a cow 1534 01:39:39,666 --> 01:39:42,583 mooing in those kind of cows, 1535 01:39:43,500 --> 01:39:45,958 that rose me the wrong way. 1536 01:39:46,250 --> 01:39:47,333 I'm not comfortable with that. 1537 01:39:47,333 --> 01:39:48,291 Yeah, yeah. 1538 01:39:48,291 --> 01:39:49,375 The single file lines, 1539 01:39:49,375 --> 01:39:50,583 like no matter where you went, 1540 01:39:50,583 --> 01:39:51,375 like there was only room 1541 01:39:51,375 --> 01:39:52,750 for like one person to walk. 1542 01:39:52,750 --> 01:39:53,958 Like it was a little crazy. 1543 01:39:54,333 --> 01:39:57,083 Yep, so anywho, all right, well good. 1544 01:39:57,375 --> 01:39:58,083 We're gonna try to keep 1545 01:39:58,083 --> 01:39:59,166 it short, try to keep it, 1546 01:39:59,166 --> 01:39:59,500 we've probably 1547 01:39:59,500 --> 01:40:00,958 already gotten close to 40. 1548 01:40:01,708 --> 01:40:01,875 Close. 1549 01:40:01,875 --> 01:40:03,833 But we'll keep it close. 1550 01:40:03,833 --> 01:40:04,541 Anything else that you 1551 01:40:04,541 --> 01:40:05,500 wanted to get out on? 1552 01:40:05,916 --> 01:40:07,666 Episode 56, it's a big one. 1553 01:40:07,666 --> 01:40:08,666 Today is actually St. 1554 01:40:08,666 --> 01:40:09,375 Patrick's Day that we're-- 1555 01:40:09,916 --> 01:40:11,416 Oh, happy St. Patty's Day. 1556 01:40:12,708 --> 01:40:13,000 You too. 1557 01:40:16,458 --> 01:40:17,583 He caught me off guard, like, 1558 01:40:18,500 --> 01:40:20,083 I don't know what to say back to that. 1559 01:40:20,958 --> 01:40:21,416 You too. 1560 01:40:22,125 --> 01:40:23,166 Oh, the stock, what did 1561 01:40:23,166 --> 01:40:23,916 you say the other day? 1562 01:40:24,125 --> 01:40:25,083 You're stealing me Lucky Charms. 1563 01:40:26,166 --> 01:40:28,208 Oh, they're always after me Lucky Charms. 1564 01:40:28,208 --> 01:40:29,583 Always after me Lucky Charms. 1565 01:40:30,458 --> 01:40:31,875 I can't do an Irish accent all that well. 1566 01:40:31,875 --> 01:40:33,125 I can't do any accents at 1567 01:40:33,125 --> 01:40:35,333 all, so we'll leave it at that. 1568 01:40:36,875 --> 01:40:37,291 All right. 1569 01:40:37,333 --> 01:40:38,708 All right, we've got 1570 01:40:38,708 --> 01:40:41,208 soccer, what, conference, 1571 01:40:41,291 --> 01:40:42,250 we got district playoffs. 1572 01:40:42,875 --> 01:40:43,375 District playoffs. 1573 01:40:43,416 --> 01:40:44,375 This week, so that's big. 1574 01:40:44,750 --> 01:40:45,000 Yes. 1575 01:40:45,500 --> 01:40:48,041 Our daughter is resting, 1576 01:40:48,041 --> 01:40:49,000 she feels a little bit better, 1577 01:40:49,000 --> 01:40:49,708 so hopefully she'll be 1578 01:40:49,708 --> 01:40:50,875 able to finish strong 1579 01:40:50,875 --> 01:40:52,708 coming back to her 1580 01:40:52,708 --> 01:40:54,083 school track meet days. 1581 01:40:54,541 --> 01:40:54,916 Yeah. 1582 01:40:55,000 --> 01:40:56,833 Our youngest is gearing up for some big 1583 01:40:57,083 --> 01:40:57,958 soccer tournaments coming 1584 01:40:57,958 --> 01:40:59,750 up, so we're getting there. 1585 01:41:00,041 --> 01:41:01,291 No travel for a few 1586 01:41:01,291 --> 01:41:02,375 weeks, which is fantastic. 1587 01:41:02,708 --> 01:41:03,583 Oh my gosh, thank goodness. 1588 01:41:03,625 --> 01:41:03,958 Love it. 1589 01:41:04,541 --> 01:41:05,291 That's amazing. 1590 01:41:05,958 --> 01:41:06,666 I'm actually looking 1591 01:41:06,666 --> 01:41:07,583 forward to the weekend. 1592 01:41:07,583 --> 01:41:08,875 Put the suitcase away, it was great. 1593 01:41:09,083 --> 01:41:10,500 It was really nice. 1594 01:41:11,500 --> 01:41:13,291 All right, well I think that's it. 1595 01:41:13,666 --> 01:41:14,166 All right. 1596 01:41:14,541 --> 01:41:16,125 Thanks for joining episode 56. 1597 01:41:16,666 --> 01:41:18,166 Happy Saint Paddy's Day, ciao ciao. 1598 01:41:18,583 --> 01:41:19,083 In the can. 1599 01:41:19,625 --> 01:41:21,166 All right, have a great one, see ya. 1600 01:41:22,750 --> 01:41:24,041 In the can, is that what they say? 1601 01:41:25,000 --> 01:41:27,833 I don't know, I don't think so. 1602 01:41:28,458 --> 01:41:29,041 I think that means 1603 01:41:29,041 --> 01:41:29,875 you're in the bathroom. 1604 01:41:30,416 --> 01:41:30,958 Yeah, I know. 1605 01:41:31,958 --> 01:41:34,208 (upbeat music) 1606 01:59:59,916 --> 02:00:01,333 (upbeat music) 1607 02:00:01,750 --> 02:00:02,708 Money doesn't buy happiness. 1608 02:00:02,916 --> 02:00:03,666 But it kind of does. 1609 02:00:04,083 --> 02:00:05,083 But it kind of does. 1610 02:00:05,416 --> 02:00:06,500 I'm finding that that's a lie. 1611 02:00:06,875 --> 02:00:07,916 Why didn't you do that? 1612 02:00:08,750 --> 02:00:09,916 We did want to do that. 1613 02:00:10,500 --> 02:00:11,666 No, I've started not 1614 02:00:11,666 --> 02:00:12,583 caring quite as much. 1615 02:00:13,333 --> 02:00:13,916 Well, that was such a 1616 02:00:13,916 --> 02:00:14,916 quandary that I had. 1617 02:00:15,208 --> 02:00:16,458 Over that time, you 1618 02:00:16,458 --> 02:00:17,291 developed the strength 1619 02:00:17,291 --> 02:00:18,291 to carry that weight. 1620 02:00:18,333 --> 02:00:19,208 I do think that you 1621 02:00:19,208 --> 02:00:20,666 appreciate the value of time 1622 02:00:20,666 --> 02:00:21,875 as more time goes on. 1623 02:00:21,875 --> 02:00:22,791 We're the crazy train. 1624 02:00:22,791 --> 02:00:23,791 This is insanity. 1625 02:00:24,250 --> 02:00:26,250 I mean, there's money everywhere. 1626 02:00:27,000 --> 02:00:28,708 And so it's not like, it's true. 1627 02:00:28,875 --> 02:00:30,083 More money, more problems. 1628 02:00:30,166 --> 02:00:31,333 Okay, so now you're really 1629 02:00:31,333 --> 02:00:32,916 gonna, you're gonna judge me. 1630 02:00:32,916 --> 02:00:34,458 We're not that crazy, I 1631 02:00:34,458 --> 02:00:35,416 don't think, but yeah. 1632 02:00:36,000 --> 02:00:38,333 PDA on steroids. 1633 02:00:38,583 --> 02:00:40,166 But weird. One time he bit her cheek to the point 1634 02:00:40,166 --> 02:00:40,750 where I could see her 1635 02:00:40,750 --> 02:00:42,208 skin like pulling away. 1636 02:00:42,333 --> 02:00:43,250 It was weird. 1637 02:00:43,833 --> 02:00:44,875 You go with your bad self. 1638 02:00:44,916 --> 02:00:45,708 You go with it. 1639 02:00:45,791 --> 02:00:46,458 Oh, they're always 1640 02:00:46,458 --> 02:00:47,666 after me, Lucky Charms. 1641 02:00:47,916 --> 02:00:48,416 See ya. 1642 02:00:50,125 --> 02:00:51,250 In the can, is that what they say? 1643 02:00:51,916 --> 02:00:52,041 (laughing) 1644 02:00:52,416 --> 02:00:53,083 I don't know. 1645 02:00:54,125 --> 02:00:55,041 I don't think so. 1646 02:00:55,500 --> 02:00:56,250 I think that means 1647 02:00:56,250 --> 02:00:57,041 you're in the bathroom.