1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,958 --> 01:00:06,041 And welcome to morning cereal 3 01:00:11,875 --> 01:00:13,416 Okay, good morning and 4 01:00:13,416 --> 01:00:14,208 welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:14,875 --> 01:00:16,208 You've made it to the middle of the week, 6 01:00:16,458 --> 01:00:17,375 and from what I understand, 7 01:00:17,583 --> 01:00:19,166 it's mostly downhill from here. 8 01:00:20,041 --> 01:00:20,833 Especially considering 9 01:00:20,833 --> 01:00:22,166 today's National Bagel Day, 10 01:00:22,458 --> 01:00:24,083 National Hat Day, and 11 01:00:24,083 --> 01:00:25,833 National Strawberry Ice Cream Day. 12 01:00:26,416 --> 01:00:27,500 So it seems like we've got 13 01:00:27,500 --> 01:00:29,250 a nice little Wednesday going for us. 14 01:00:29,791 --> 01:00:31,291 So let's just go ahead and jump straight 15 01:00:31,291 --> 01:00:32,458 into today's episode 16 01:00:32,666 --> 01:00:33,416 with today's quotes. 17 01:00:33,833 --> 01:00:34,708 You know how we do it. 18 01:00:34,708 --> 01:00:36,916 It's one fun, kind of nostalgic quote, 19 01:00:36,916 --> 01:00:37,791 and then a second quote 20 01:00:37,791 --> 01:00:38,833 to tease our book review 21 01:00:38,833 --> 01:00:39,750 later in the episode. 22 01:00:40,708 --> 01:00:41,708 Hopefully one of these 23 01:00:41,708 --> 01:00:42,708 quotes will speak to you 24 01:00:42,708 --> 01:00:43,666 and kickstart your day 25 01:00:43,666 --> 01:00:44,791 in a positive direction. 26 01:00:45,458 --> 01:00:46,916 All right, here's the first one. 27 01:00:46,916 --> 01:00:48,583 It's from Sir Paul McCartney, 28 01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:50,000 and he had a lot of really 29 01:00:50,000 --> 01:00:51,208 good quotes to choose from, 30 01:00:51,500 --> 01:00:53,666 but this is the one that I chose 31 01:00:53,666 --> 01:00:55,041 because it fits in so well 32 01:00:55,041 --> 01:00:56,125 with our book review right now. 33 01:00:56,375 --> 01:00:57,083 It's also probably 34 01:00:57,083 --> 01:00:58,041 one of his most famous. 35 01:00:58,291 --> 01:00:59,166 Here it is. 36 01:00:59,625 --> 01:01:02,333 Quote, "In the end, the love you take 37 01:01:02,708 --> 01:01:04,208 is equal to the love you make." 38 01:01:04,541 --> 01:01:04,875 End quote. 39 01:01:05,625 --> 01:01:06,875 Yeah, I think that fits pretty well 40 01:01:06,875 --> 01:01:07,875 into our book review right now 41 01:01:07,875 --> 01:01:09,083 if you're following along with us. 42 01:01:09,583 --> 01:01:11,083 Okay, let's go ahead and 43 01:01:11,083 --> 01:01:12,291 get in today's teaser quote. 44 01:01:12,791 --> 01:01:13,291 Here it is. 45 01:01:13,666 --> 01:01:14,416 If we want to make 46 01:01:14,416 --> 01:01:15,833 friends and influence people, 47 01:01:16,125 --> 01:01:17,416 let's put ourselves out to 48 01:01:17,416 --> 01:01:18,833 do things for other people, 49 01:01:19,291 --> 01:01:21,541 things that require time, energy, 50 01:01:21,750 --> 01:01:23,291 unselfishness, and thoughtfulness. 51 01:01:24,666 --> 01:01:27,125 Okay, as usual, we'll unpack that here 52 01:01:27,125 --> 01:01:27,875 in just a minute during 53 01:01:27,875 --> 01:01:28,875 the book review segment, 54 01:01:29,166 --> 01:01:30,083 but first let's go ahead 55 01:01:30,083 --> 01:01:31,208 and jump into our usual dose 56 01:01:31,208 --> 01:01:32,666 of fun and historic facts 57 01:01:32,666 --> 01:01:33,625 from this day in history. 58 01:01:34,625 --> 01:01:37,333 Today's news facts are for January 15th. 59 01:01:37,583 --> 01:01:39,541 All the way back in 1892, 60 01:01:40,041 --> 01:01:41,333 that's when the basketball rules, 61 01:01:41,541 --> 01:01:42,958 written by James Naismith, 62 01:01:43,166 --> 01:01:44,250 they were first published 63 01:01:44,250 --> 01:01:45,583 at the Triangle Magazine. 64 01:01:46,125 --> 01:01:47,500 They are now housed in the Kansas 65 01:01:47,500 --> 01:01:48,958 Jayhawks basketball arena, 66 01:01:49,250 --> 01:01:49,875 Allen Field House. 67 01:01:50,250 --> 01:01:51,458 That's at my alma mater at 68 01:01:51,458 --> 01:01:52,416 the University of Kansas, 69 01:01:52,791 --> 01:01:53,166 Rock Chalk. 70 01:01:53,833 --> 01:01:55,833 In 1919, a storage 71 01:01:55,833 --> 01:01:57,250 tank collapsed in Boston, 72 01:01:57,708 --> 01:01:58,750 sending more than two 73 01:01:58,750 --> 01:02:00,500 million gallons of molasses 74 01:02:00,708 --> 01:02:02,291 flowing through the city's north end. 75 01:02:02,666 --> 01:02:04,166 The Great Molasses Flood, 76 01:02:04,166 --> 01:02:05,125 as it became to be known, 77 01:02:05,375 --> 01:02:06,875 it caused extensive damage. 78 01:02:07,083 --> 01:02:08,583 It killed 21 people. 79 01:02:09,166 --> 01:02:10,791 Man, that is some serious syrup. 80 01:02:11,833 --> 01:02:13,791 In 1943, the world's 81 01:02:13,791 --> 01:02:15,166 largest office building, 82 01:02:15,166 --> 01:02:16,125 the Pentagon, it was 83 01:02:16,125 --> 01:02:18,083 completed to house the US military. 84 01:02:18,708 --> 01:02:20,208 The Pentagon is now actually 85 01:02:20,208 --> 01:02:20,916 the world's second 86 01:02:20,916 --> 01:02:22,041 largest office building. 87 01:02:22,416 --> 01:02:24,500 It's second to the Surat Diamond Bourse. 88 01:02:24,500 --> 01:02:27,458 That's a new 7.1 million square foot 89 01:02:27,458 --> 01:02:28,708 trading office in India. 90 01:02:29,291 --> 01:02:31,958 The Pentagon was 6.6 million square feet, 91 01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:32,833 so I think they are 92 01:02:32,833 --> 01:02:34,208 aiming to beat that first off. 93 01:02:34,708 --> 01:02:36,625 And by comparison, Apple's headquarters, 94 01:02:37,125 --> 01:02:38,708 it's 2.8 million square feet. 95 01:02:39,291 --> 01:02:41,791 Okay, in 1967, in the 96 01:02:41,791 --> 01:02:43,333 first Super Bowl game, 97 01:02:43,333 --> 01:02:44,958 the Green Bay Packers of 98 01:02:44,958 --> 01:02:46,416 the National Football League 99 01:02:46,583 --> 01:02:48,250 defeated the Kansas City Chiefs 100 01:02:48,250 --> 01:02:49,416 of the American Football 101 01:02:49,416 --> 01:02:51,833 League by a score of 35 to 10. 102 01:02:52,583 --> 01:02:53,583 Now, as a side note, my 103 01:02:53,583 --> 01:02:54,541 Broncos were knocked out 104 01:02:54,541 --> 01:02:55,875 of the playoffs this past weekend, 105 01:02:56,375 --> 01:02:57,416 so I'll have to go with 106 01:02:57,416 --> 01:02:59,083 my fellow AFC West team, 107 01:02:59,083 --> 01:02:59,666 the Kansas City 108 01:02:59,666 --> 01:03:00,583 Chiefs, the rest of the way. 109 01:03:01,041 --> 01:03:02,291 All right, 1974, 110 01:03:03,416 --> 01:03:04,416 that's when the American 111 01:03:04,416 --> 01:03:05,958 television series, Happy Days, 112 01:03:06,375 --> 01:03:07,666 a nostalgic comedy set 113 01:03:07,666 --> 01:03:09,583 during the 1950s and 60s, 114 01:03:09,583 --> 01:03:10,666 it premiered on ABC. 115 01:03:11,708 --> 01:03:13,333 Then in 1981, the police 116 01:03:13,333 --> 01:03:14,833 drama, Hill Street Blues, 117 01:03:15,083 --> 01:03:16,458 that premiered on NBC. 118 01:03:17,416 --> 01:03:19,333 Okay, in 2001, Wikipedia, 119 01:03:19,625 --> 01:03:20,708 the free internet based 120 01:03:20,708 --> 01:03:22,250 encyclopedia, it was launched. 121 01:03:22,750 --> 01:03:23,666 Dang, I really need to 122 01:03:23,666 --> 01:03:24,958 give them that $2 donation 123 01:03:24,958 --> 01:03:26,041 they keep asking for. 124 01:03:26,583 --> 01:03:28,750 And finally, in 2009, 125 01:03:28,750 --> 01:03:30,416 US Airways Flight 1549, 126 01:03:31,208 --> 01:03:32,250 piloted by Captain 127 01:03:32,250 --> 01:03:34,083 Chelsea Soli Solenberger III. 128 01:03:34,625 --> 01:03:35,583 It landed in the Hudson 129 01:03:35,583 --> 01:03:36,791 River after the plane flew 130 01:03:36,791 --> 01:03:37,875 into a flock of geese 131 01:03:37,875 --> 01:03:38,708 shortly after takeoff. 132 01:03:39,166 --> 01:03:39,833 Do you remember that? 133 01:03:39,833 --> 01:03:40,416 That was incredible. 134 01:03:40,750 --> 01:03:41,958 It's also a really good movie. 135 01:03:42,916 --> 01:03:43,583 All right, let's move 136 01:03:43,583 --> 01:03:44,500 on to the birthdays. 137 01:03:45,041 --> 01:03:45,625 Happy birthday. 138 01:03:45,916 --> 01:03:47,291 If today is your birthday, 139 01:03:47,291 --> 01:03:48,166 you share a birthday 140 01:03:48,166 --> 01:03:50,250 with Martin Luther King Jr. 141 01:03:50,666 --> 01:03:52,666 He was born on this date in 1929. 142 01:03:53,416 --> 01:03:54,666 You probably already knew that one. 143 01:03:55,166 --> 01:03:56,166 You may not have known though, 144 01:03:56,291 --> 01:03:57,375 that you also share a 145 01:03:57,375 --> 01:03:58,750 birthday with Regina King. 146 01:03:58,791 --> 01:04:01,041 She's 54 and Drew Brees. 147 01:04:01,333 --> 01:04:02,083 He's 46. 148 01:04:02,916 --> 01:04:04,000 Now to the music of the 149 01:04:04,000 --> 01:04:06,250 80s, the 90s and 2000s. 150 01:04:06,958 --> 01:04:09,583 This was the number one song in 1984. 151 01:04:10,375 --> 01:04:11,833 It was Say, Say, Say. 152 01:04:12,791 --> 01:04:13,083 That was a 153 01:04:13,083 --> 01:04:14,666 collaboration between Paul McCartney 154 01:04:14,666 --> 01:04:15,500 and Michael Jackson. 155 01:04:16,125 --> 01:04:17,041 This actually was not 156 01:04:17,041 --> 01:04:18,041 their first collaboration. 157 01:04:18,583 --> 01:04:20,625 Their first one was The Girl Is Mine. 158 01:04:21,166 --> 01:04:22,208 And that song peaked out 159 01:04:22,208 --> 01:04:23,375 on the Billboard top 100 160 01:04:23,375 --> 01:04:24,166 at number two. 161 01:04:25,000 --> 01:04:26,750 Michael Jackson wrote most of the lyrics 162 01:04:26,750 --> 01:04:28,250 for the song Say, Say, Say, 163 01:04:28,708 --> 01:04:29,666 while McCartney played 164 01:04:29,666 --> 01:04:30,791 the guitar, the bass, 165 01:04:31,125 --> 01:04:32,291 the synths and percussion. 166 01:04:32,791 --> 01:04:34,250 The song Say, Say, Say was 167 01:04:34,250 --> 01:04:35,541 number one for six weeks. 168 01:04:35,958 --> 01:04:36,958 And it was Jackson's 169 01:04:36,958 --> 01:04:39,166 seventh top 10 hit of 1983. 170 01:04:39,916 --> 01:04:40,875 That broke a record 171 01:04:40,875 --> 01:04:41,875 that was previously held 172 01:04:41,875 --> 01:04:43,083 by the Beatles and Elvis. 173 01:04:43,666 --> 01:04:45,208 There are a lot of interesting facts 174 01:04:45,208 --> 01:04:46,083 related to this song. 175 01:04:46,583 --> 01:04:48,208 In the video, Michael's love interest 176 01:04:48,208 --> 01:04:49,458 was played by his sister. 177 01:04:49,833 --> 01:04:50,791 Not surprising for the 178 01:04:50,791 --> 01:04:51,875 Jackson family, I suppose. 179 01:04:52,625 --> 01:04:54,000 And the video was filmed 180 01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:54,875 on what would eventually 181 01:04:54,875 --> 01:04:56,083 become Neverland Ranch. 182 01:04:56,750 --> 01:04:57,958 And lastly, McCartney 183 01:04:57,958 --> 01:05:00,250 apparently jokingly told Jackson 184 01:05:00,250 --> 01:05:01,333 to buy the publishing 185 01:05:01,333 --> 01:05:02,666 rights to the Beatles song 186 01:05:03,125 --> 01:05:04,416 if you wanted to secure a 187 01:05:04,416 --> 01:05:05,500 strong financial future. 188 01:05:06,166 --> 01:05:07,541 And Michael did just 189 01:05:07,541 --> 01:05:08,750 that a few years later. 190 01:05:09,125 --> 01:05:10,500 And that led to a falling out 191 01:05:10,500 --> 01:05:11,791 between Michael and McCartney. 192 01:05:12,750 --> 01:05:13,083 All right. 193 01:05:13,666 --> 01:05:16,208 The number one movie on this date in 1988 194 01:05:17,000 --> 01:05:18,125 was Three Men and a Baby. 195 01:05:18,625 --> 01:05:18,875 Okay. 196 01:05:19,375 --> 01:05:20,333 I know the very first 197 01:05:20,333 --> 01:05:21,583 thing that comes to my mind 198 01:05:21,583 --> 01:05:22,500 when you think of this movie. 199 01:05:22,791 --> 01:05:24,250 It's a good movie, funny movie, yes. 200 01:05:24,791 --> 01:05:25,916 But you know what I'm gonna say. 201 01:05:26,541 --> 01:05:27,458 The Ghost of the Dead 202 01:05:27,458 --> 01:05:28,541 Kid in the Curtains? 203 01:05:28,916 --> 01:05:29,750 How creepy was that? 204 01:05:30,291 --> 01:05:31,166 Don't tell me you didn't 205 01:05:31,166 --> 01:05:32,125 pause and rewind that scene 206 01:05:32,125 --> 01:05:33,750 a million times to see that creepy kid 207 01:05:33,750 --> 01:05:34,583 standing in the curtains. 208 01:05:35,333 --> 01:05:36,583 Still kind of gives me the chills. 209 01:05:37,041 --> 01:05:37,958 I know they say it was 210 01:05:37,958 --> 01:05:39,000 a cut out of Ted Danson, 211 01:05:39,208 --> 01:05:39,958 but I don't know. 212 01:05:40,208 --> 01:05:41,000 We may just need to get 213 01:05:41,000 --> 01:05:42,166 Josh Gates to investigate. 214 01:05:43,583 --> 01:05:43,791 Okay. 215 01:05:44,291 --> 01:05:45,125 Let's move on to some 216 01:05:45,125 --> 01:05:46,000 personal growth here 217 01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:46,583 in the book review 218 01:05:46,583 --> 01:05:47,541 segment of Morning Serial. 219 01:05:48,041 --> 01:05:49,291 This is where we take a few moments 220 01:05:49,291 --> 01:05:50,666 to reflect on lessons learned 221 01:05:50,666 --> 01:05:51,916 from the current book we're reading. 222 01:05:52,458 --> 01:05:53,166 And currently we're 223 01:05:53,166 --> 01:05:54,416 reading through Dale Carnegie's 224 01:05:54,500 --> 01:05:56,333 How to Win Friends and Influence People. 225 01:05:56,791 --> 01:05:58,583 It's a timeless book that is consistently 226 01:05:58,833 --> 01:06:00,125 on all the must read lists 227 01:06:00,625 --> 01:06:01,541 and it's packed with rock 228 01:06:01,541 --> 01:06:02,875 solid advice and actions 229 01:06:02,875 --> 01:06:03,916 for all of us to use 230 01:06:03,916 --> 01:06:04,666 and build healthy 231 01:06:04,666 --> 01:06:06,375 foundational concepts to live by. 232 01:06:07,208 --> 01:06:08,041 Now yesterday we 233 01:06:08,041 --> 01:06:09,708 continued part two, chapter one 234 01:06:09,791 --> 01:06:11,458 entitled Do This and You 235 01:06:11,458 --> 01:06:12,541 Will Be Welcome Anywhere. 236 01:06:13,083 --> 01:06:14,000 And Carnegie is walking 237 01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:15,083 us through the importance 238 01:06:15,083 --> 01:06:16,541 of taking a real 239 01:06:16,541 --> 01:06:18,000 genuine interest in people. 240 01:06:18,666 --> 01:06:19,416 Not just friending 241 01:06:19,416 --> 01:06:20,375 someone on social media, 242 01:06:20,375 --> 01:06:21,500 but the people that will show 243 01:06:21,500 --> 01:06:22,708 up when you need help moving 244 01:06:23,083 --> 01:06:24,333 or when you're sick or 245 01:06:24,333 --> 01:06:25,166 when you need a kidney. 246 01:06:25,666 --> 01:06:26,541 I know that's extreme, 247 01:06:26,750 --> 01:06:27,458 but Carnegie is 248 01:06:27,458 --> 01:06:28,750 wanting us to hone the skill 249 01:06:28,750 --> 01:06:30,583 of taking real interest in other people. 250 01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:32,083 And in turn, they 251 01:06:32,083 --> 01:06:33,125 will take interest in us. 252 01:06:33,458 --> 01:06:34,916 That's putting positivity out there 253 01:06:34,916 --> 01:06:36,083 and receiving it back, right? 254 01:06:36,750 --> 01:06:37,000 Okay. 255 01:06:37,583 --> 01:06:38,916 So we left off yesterday 256 01:06:38,916 --> 01:06:40,125 talking about how someone 257 01:06:40,125 --> 01:06:41,791 as important and busy as 258 01:06:41,791 --> 01:06:43,166 President Roosevelt was, 259 01:06:43,375 --> 01:06:45,375 but he still took the time to slow down 260 01:06:45,375 --> 01:06:46,375 and to be genuinely 261 01:06:46,375 --> 01:06:48,208 interested in the people around him, 262 01:06:48,541 --> 01:06:50,458 even his lowest level support employees. 263 01:06:51,250 --> 01:06:52,416 And in doing so, he won 264 01:06:52,416 --> 01:06:54,250 the admiration of them all. 265 01:06:55,125 --> 01:06:56,625 Carnegie continues on this point of 266 01:06:56,625 --> 01:06:58,083 taking time and interest 267 01:06:58,083 --> 01:06:58,625 in the quote, 268 01:06:58,958 --> 01:07:00,625 seemingly unimportant people 269 01:07:01,250 --> 01:07:02,291 who I would describe as 270 01:07:02,291 --> 01:07:03,500 more peripheral people, 271 01:07:03,958 --> 01:07:05,041 but Carnegie talks about 272 01:07:05,041 --> 01:07:06,625 an account of a salesperson 273 01:07:06,625 --> 01:07:08,125 who took the time to 274 01:07:08,125 --> 01:07:09,208 talk with the soda clerk 275 01:07:09,208 --> 01:07:11,041 and the sales clerk prior to heading back 276 01:07:11,041 --> 01:07:11,833 to talk with the owner. 277 01:07:12,583 --> 01:07:13,750 And one day when the 278 01:07:13,750 --> 01:07:15,250 salesman arrived, he said hello 279 01:07:15,250 --> 01:07:16,083 and he made the small 280 01:07:16,083 --> 01:07:17,125 talk with the soda clerk 281 01:07:17,125 --> 01:07:17,916 and the sales clerk 282 01:07:17,916 --> 01:07:19,833 before basically being tossed 283 01:07:20,041 --> 01:07:20,541 out of the store 284 01:07:20,541 --> 01:07:21,916 because the owner was upset 285 01:07:22,416 --> 01:07:24,208 that the salesman's company was selling 286 01:07:24,208 --> 01:07:27,250 to larger national chains and in turn, 287 01:07:27,250 --> 01:07:29,208 not supporting the smaller local stores. 288 01:07:29,625 --> 01:07:30,500 Well, after a few 289 01:07:30,500 --> 01:07:31,708 hours of thinking about it, 290 01:07:31,708 --> 01:07:32,541 the salesman decided 291 01:07:32,541 --> 01:07:33,666 to go back to the store, 292 01:07:34,208 --> 01:07:35,083 only to be welcomed 293 01:07:35,083 --> 01:07:36,208 by the owner this time. 294 01:07:36,666 --> 01:07:38,708 And when asked why, the owner said 295 01:07:38,708 --> 01:07:40,250 that the soda clerk came up to him 296 01:07:40,250 --> 01:07:41,041 after he previously 297 01:07:41,041 --> 01:07:42,291 kicked the salesman out, 298 01:07:42,625 --> 01:07:43,333 mentioning that the 299 01:07:43,333 --> 01:07:45,000 salesman was one of the very few 300 01:07:45,250 --> 01:07:47,083 that ever took the time to talk to him 301 01:07:47,375 --> 01:07:48,125 and that if anyone 302 01:07:48,125 --> 01:07:49,458 deserved the sale, it was him. 303 01:07:50,291 --> 01:07:51,333 The owner agreed and 304 01:07:51,333 --> 01:07:52,416 remained a loyal customer. 305 01:07:53,041 --> 01:07:54,750 And the salesperson said, quote, 306 01:07:54,833 --> 01:07:56,250 "I never forgot that to 307 01:07:56,250 --> 01:07:57,416 be genuinely interested 308 01:07:57,625 --> 01:07:58,916 "in other people is as 309 01:07:58,916 --> 01:08:00,250 most important a quality 310 01:08:00,250 --> 01:08:01,750 "for a salesperson to possess, 311 01:08:02,208 --> 01:08:03,083 "for any person for 312 01:08:03,083 --> 01:08:04,166 that matter," end quote. 313 01:08:05,166 --> 01:08:06,875 Following this account, Carnegie writes 314 01:08:06,875 --> 01:08:08,083 that he has, quote, 315 01:08:08,250 --> 01:08:09,833 "discovered from personal experience 316 01:08:09,916 --> 01:08:11,500 "that one can win the 317 01:08:11,500 --> 01:08:13,625 attention and time and cooperation 318 01:08:14,125 --> 01:08:16,000 "of even the most sought after people 319 01:08:16,458 --> 01:08:17,708 "by becoming genuinely 320 01:08:17,708 --> 01:08:19,291 interested in them," end quote. 321 01:08:19,916 --> 01:08:21,833 And I'd point out here that in line 322 01:08:21,833 --> 01:08:22,916 with being genuinely 323 01:08:22,916 --> 01:08:24,083 interested in people, 324 01:08:24,083 --> 01:08:25,416 we need to remember what we learned 325 01:08:25,416 --> 01:08:26,500 yesterday from Carnegie. 326 01:08:26,958 --> 01:08:28,541 And that is this concept of being 327 01:08:28,541 --> 01:08:30,666 genuinely, authentically, 328 01:08:31,000 --> 01:08:32,750 a person that is interested in putting 329 01:08:32,750 --> 01:08:34,000 positivity out there 330 01:08:34,041 --> 01:08:35,583 without expectation of gain, 331 01:08:35,958 --> 01:08:37,083 or just simple interest in 332 01:08:37,083 --> 01:08:38,375 people, it may fall flat. 333 01:08:38,916 --> 01:08:39,833 Recall the story of the 334 01:08:39,833 --> 01:08:41,125 editor who could identify 335 01:08:41,125 --> 01:08:41,916 if the writer of a 336 01:08:41,916 --> 01:08:43,375 story liked people or not. 337 01:08:43,916 --> 01:08:45,375 People will be able to discern 338 01:08:45,541 --> 01:08:47,541 how authentic your interest really is. 339 01:08:48,333 --> 01:08:49,416 So Carnegie illustrates 340 01:08:49,416 --> 01:08:50,541 this point through a story 341 01:08:50,541 --> 01:08:52,625 of when he was teaching a writing course 342 01:08:52,625 --> 01:08:53,208 at the Brooklyn 343 01:08:53,208 --> 01:08:54,750 Institute of Arts and Sciences, 344 01:08:55,125 --> 01:08:56,041 and he wanted some 345 01:08:56,041 --> 01:08:57,333 very distinguished authors 346 01:08:57,333 --> 01:08:59,041 to come to speak to the class 347 01:08:59,041 --> 01:09:00,208 and share their experiences. 348 01:09:00,916 --> 01:09:01,625 So he wrote to them 349 01:09:01,625 --> 01:09:03,041 saying he admired their work 350 01:09:03,041 --> 01:09:03,625 and was deeply 351 01:09:03,625 --> 01:09:05,166 interested in getting their advice 352 01:09:05,166 --> 01:09:06,750 and learning their secrets to success. 353 01:09:07,708 --> 01:09:09,541 And each letter was signed by the 150 354 01:09:09,541 --> 01:09:10,791 students in the class, 355 01:09:11,041 --> 01:09:11,583 and the letter 356 01:09:11,583 --> 01:09:12,916 mentioned how they realized 357 01:09:12,916 --> 01:09:14,458 how busy these other people must be. 358 01:09:14,958 --> 01:09:15,791 And they did not expect 359 01:09:15,791 --> 01:09:17,000 them to prepare a lecture, 360 01:09:17,333 --> 01:09:18,083 but instead they 361 01:09:18,083 --> 01:09:19,250 included a list of questions 362 01:09:19,250 --> 01:09:20,375 for them to answer about 363 01:09:20,375 --> 01:09:21,875 themselves and their work methods. 364 01:09:22,541 --> 01:09:23,833 Well, as you might've guessed, this 365 01:09:23,833 --> 01:09:24,750 method was successful. 366 01:09:25,250 --> 01:09:27,041 And not only did it work on the authors, 367 01:09:27,333 --> 01:09:28,541 but similarly, Carnegie 368 01:09:28,541 --> 01:09:29,916 was able to get such speakers 369 01:09:29,916 --> 01:09:31,458 as the Secretary of the 370 01:09:31,458 --> 01:09:33,125 Treasury and the Attorney General, 371 01:09:33,125 --> 01:09:35,041 among other prominent people, to come 372 01:09:35,041 --> 01:09:36,000 speak to his classes. 373 01:09:37,166 --> 01:09:38,750 Carnegie says that all of us, 374 01:09:38,750 --> 01:09:41,083 from factory workers to office workers, 375 01:09:41,083 --> 01:09:42,083 to stay-at-home parents, 376 01:09:42,083 --> 01:09:43,666 all the way up to presidents and kings, 377 01:09:44,333 --> 01:09:46,541 all of us like people who admire us. 378 01:09:47,250 --> 01:09:47,791 Carnegie tells a 379 01:09:47,791 --> 01:09:48,916 quick story to this point 380 01:09:48,916 --> 01:09:50,375 about the German Kaiser at 381 01:09:50,375 --> 01:09:51,750 the close of World War I. 382 01:09:52,291 --> 01:09:53,166 Carnegie says this 383 01:09:53,166 --> 01:09:54,375 about the Kaiser, quote, 384 01:09:54,791 --> 01:09:56,750 "He was probably the most savagely 385 01:09:56,750 --> 01:09:57,541 and universally 386 01:09:57,541 --> 01:09:59,125 despised man on this earth. 387 01:09:59,708 --> 01:10:01,541 Even his own nation turned against him 388 01:10:01,541 --> 01:10:02,625 when he fled over into 389 01:10:02,625 --> 01:10:03,708 Holland to save his neck. 390 01:10:04,083 --> 01:10:06,250 The hatred against him was so intense 391 01:10:06,666 --> 01:10:08,208 that millions of people would have loved 392 01:10:08,208 --> 01:10:09,583 to tear him limb from limb 393 01:10:09,583 --> 01:10:11,291 or burn him at the stake." 394 01:10:11,916 --> 01:10:13,000 But amongst all these 395 01:10:13,000 --> 01:10:14,083 people that hated him, 396 01:10:14,333 --> 01:10:15,541 apparently one little boy 397 01:10:15,541 --> 01:10:16,875 still admired the Kaiser, 398 01:10:17,166 --> 01:10:18,125 and he sent him a letter 399 01:10:18,125 --> 01:10:19,291 saying that he loved him, 400 01:10:19,291 --> 01:10:20,125 and no matter what, 401 01:10:20,375 --> 01:10:21,291 he would always be 402 01:10:21,291 --> 01:10:22,333 the little boy's Kaiser. 403 01:10:23,125 --> 01:10:24,583 Well, the Kaiser invited 404 01:10:24,583 --> 01:10:25,916 the boy to come meet him, 405 01:10:25,916 --> 01:10:27,583 and the boy came and so did his mother, 406 01:10:28,125 --> 01:10:30,500 and the Kaiser ended up marrying the mom. 407 01:10:31,166 --> 01:10:32,833 So the story maybe isn't a 408 01:10:32,833 --> 01:10:34,166 good example of good parenting, 409 01:10:34,625 --> 01:10:36,500 but it does illustrate for Carnegie how 410 01:10:36,500 --> 01:10:37,666 instinctive it can be 411 01:10:37,666 --> 01:10:38,708 for us to show interest 412 01:10:38,708 --> 01:10:40,208 in people and admire them. 413 01:10:41,000 --> 01:10:42,666 Carnegie sums it up well, saying, quote, 414 01:10:42,916 --> 01:10:43,916 "If we want to make 415 01:10:43,916 --> 01:10:45,625 friends and influence people, 416 01:10:45,708 --> 01:10:47,208 let's put ourselves out to 417 01:10:47,208 --> 01:10:48,666 do things for other people, 418 01:10:49,250 --> 01:10:51,541 things that require time, energy, 419 01:10:52,125 --> 01:10:53,000 unselfishness and 420 01:10:53,000 --> 01:10:54,333 thoughtfulness," end quote. 421 01:10:55,208 --> 01:10:56,291 And if you're like me, 422 01:10:56,291 --> 01:10:57,500 that sounds really nice, 423 01:10:57,500 --> 01:10:58,625 but it feels harder to 424 01:10:58,625 --> 01:10:59,708 implement on a daily, 425 01:10:59,958 --> 01:11:01,291 even an hourly basis. 426 01:11:01,958 --> 01:11:03,583 But that's the point of this book, right? 427 01:11:03,583 --> 01:11:04,833 To change our lives, to 428 01:11:04,833 --> 01:11:05,916 change the way we think, 429 01:11:06,250 --> 01:11:07,458 and God forbid for some 430 01:11:07,458 --> 01:11:08,541 personal growth, right? 431 01:11:09,166 --> 01:11:10,041 Okay, nice job. 432 01:11:10,458 --> 01:11:11,666 Come back tomorrow as 433 01:11:11,666 --> 01:11:13,166 Carnegie offers more insights, 434 01:11:13,666 --> 01:11:15,375 and we'll hear a story of how 435 01:11:15,375 --> 01:11:16,833 a small act of thoughtfulness 436 01:11:17,250 --> 01:11:18,375 earned someone a second 437 01:11:18,375 --> 01:11:19,666 chance at a first impression. 438 01:11:20,958 --> 01:11:23,541 Okay, take a moment today to do some 439 01:11:23,541 --> 01:11:24,708 small act of kindness 440 01:11:24,708 --> 01:11:26,208 for someone else, and 441 01:11:26,208 --> 01:11:27,166 do one for yourself too. 442 01:11:27,666 --> 01:11:28,958 You're halfway through the week, 443 01:11:29,208 --> 01:11:30,583 so just keep putting one 444 01:11:30,583 --> 01:11:31,625 foot in front of the other, 445 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