WEBVTT NOTE This file was generated by Descript 00:00:05.968 --> 00:00:09.058 Lindsay: Welcome, welcome to the Lifting Lindsay podcast. 00:00:09.058 --> 00:00:12.148 Today we are gonna be doing a fun fact Friday where I 00:00:12.148 --> 00:00:14.918 discuss, a fun fitness fact. 00:00:15.008 --> 00:00:16.748 That's the whole idea around it, right? 00:00:17.288 --> 00:00:22.013 So today we're gonna be talking about, uh, can children lift weights 00:00:22.313 --> 00:00:23.798 or will it stunt their growth? 00:00:23.948 --> 00:00:25.118 I'm sure you've heard that before. 00:00:25.948 --> 00:00:32.548 So, the other day on Instagram, I showed video of me teaching my 9-year-old and 00:00:32.548 --> 00:00:34.588 my 10-year-old how to lift weights. 00:00:34.588 --> 00:00:37.468 So this is one of our goals that we have for summer. 00:00:37.738 --> 00:00:41.938 I really wanna find ways to keep my kids active, but also they're showing 00:00:41.938 --> 00:00:45.118 interest in learning how to lift weights. 00:00:45.568 --> 00:00:48.748 And so I'm really excited about that and I'm just going to, I'm gonna go with it. 00:00:49.108 --> 00:00:49.768 Well, they got it. 00:00:49.768 --> 00:00:50.428 I'm gonna go with it. 00:00:50.428 --> 00:00:50.788 Right? 00:00:51.508 --> 00:00:53.548 So we had our first lesson. 00:00:54.508 --> 00:00:57.148 There's actually a few things I'm gonna talk about from that lesson, 00:00:58.558 --> 00:01:03.388 because I just put my camera on and I started recording a bunch of it. 00:01:03.958 --> 00:01:09.298 One, I want to show my daughters what they looked like when they started. 00:01:09.298 --> 00:01:13.348 Not physically people I'm talking about, like I wanna show them, 00:01:13.353 --> 00:01:15.838 look, you were lifting, you know? 00:01:16.753 --> 00:01:19.813 Five pounds doing this, this was your form. 00:01:19.813 --> 00:01:23.713 And then after three months, be like, now look at your form. 00:01:23.713 --> 00:01:25.243 Look at, you're doing 20 pounds. 00:01:25.243 --> 00:01:25.513 Right? 00:01:25.753 --> 00:01:30.943 So I want to show them that because that just fuels the 00:01:30.943 --> 00:01:33.193 fire of progress, I feel like. 00:01:33.673 --> 00:01:38.293 So I'm really excited to, to kind of document their progress. 00:01:38.293 --> 00:01:42.283 And we're gonna be writing down like their weights and I'm actually 00:01:42.283 --> 00:01:45.553 going to be sharing a, just a small. 00:01:46.078 --> 00:01:48.658 Program that I'm doing with my girls. 00:01:48.868 --> 00:01:52.108 So you can check that out in the show notes, what we're doing. 00:01:52.108 --> 00:01:56.608 But I'm gonna give some tips on lifting with children and teaching 00:01:56.608 --> 00:01:58.768 them how to lift after this. 00:01:58.978 --> 00:02:01.798 But I do want to discuss this idea. 00:02:02.038 --> 00:02:03.299 'cause when I posted this. 00:02:04.298 --> 00:02:09.188 I got a lot of people asking me like, I would love to spend the next two 00:02:09.188 --> 00:02:15.098 months with my kids doing stuff like this, but doesn't it stunt their growth? 00:02:15.218 --> 00:02:16.898 And the answer is no, it does not. 00:02:16.958 --> 00:02:23.318 So we now know all of the positive benefits that. 00:02:24.293 --> 00:02:32.573 It can have on children to learn to lift weights both mentally and physically. 00:02:33.203 --> 00:02:38.003 But we're going to discuss today specifically, where did this idea 00:02:38.008 --> 00:02:41.843 then come that it's gonna stunt? 00:02:42.263 --> 00:02:43.553 Children's growth. 00:02:44.003 --> 00:02:46.703 'cause usually there's, there's two main reasons why people 00:02:46.703 --> 00:02:48.683 are scared to teach children. 00:02:48.953 --> 00:02:54.563 One, it's gonna stunt their growth two, uh, because, uh, they don't 00:02:54.563 --> 00:02:56.783 want to get them to get injured. 00:02:57.323 --> 00:03:00.473 So, so let's talk, discuss those a little bit. 00:03:00.833 --> 00:03:02.573 The first one, the stunt growth. 00:03:03.053 --> 00:03:07.643 So do you know what it, it's really sad when you actually track down and find 00:03:07.643 --> 00:03:10.193 out where did this whole idea come from? 00:03:12.038 --> 00:03:17.738 It's almost like kind of shocking when you hear what it came from. 00:03:19.778 --> 00:03:29.408 Post World War ii, there was a study done on children that were doing hard labor. 00:03:29.978 --> 00:03:34.238 We're talking about 80 plus hours a week, hard labor. 00:03:35.738 --> 00:03:39.338 We're also looking at a group that was malnourished as well. 00:03:40.383 --> 00:03:48.363 And what they saw and what the researchers saw was these children had had their 00:03:48.363 --> 00:03:53.463 growth stunted and they jumped to this conclusion and everybody else did too. 00:03:54.243 --> 00:03:59.973 That it wasn't this compilation of malnourishment and. 00:04:00.903 --> 00:04:05.343 Hard labor, 8,000 plus hours a week. 00:04:05.686 --> 00:04:10.456 But it was that children shouldn't lift weights because 00:04:10.461 --> 00:04:11.596 it's gonna stunt their growth. 00:04:12.526 --> 00:04:12.856 Like what? 00:04:14.116 --> 00:04:16.996 You guys, I'm, I'm not, you can't make this stuff up. 00:04:17.356 --> 00:04:21.106 Well, I'm sure somebody out there could, but, but I didn't, I didn't make this up. 00:04:21.466 --> 00:04:23.461 This is where the idea came from. 00:04:25.156 --> 00:04:33.666 In the post World War II in Japan, where look at what happened to their 00:04:33.666 --> 00:04:41.106 economy, their, just the wreckage that they're dealing with as a nation, 00:04:41.796 --> 00:04:46.446 and, and let's do a study on, on hard labor, on children and malnourishment. 00:04:46.536 --> 00:04:50.556 And then let's walk away with it being like, and, and so no child 00:04:50.556 --> 00:04:51.096 should wait ever weightlift. 00:04:52.686 --> 00:04:54.726 Because that's actually, that's literally what happened. 00:04:54.726 --> 00:04:59.616 So every time somebody says that, now you can say, no. 00:04:59.676 --> 00:05:00.876 Nope, nope, nope. 00:05:02.196 --> 00:05:10.506 This was, this was a, another bad case of, of people thinking that correlation 00:05:10.511 --> 00:05:15.681 led to causation like this horrible, can't connect the dots very well kind of thing. 00:05:16.626 --> 00:05:20.196 So I don't know about you and your children, but um. 00:05:20.941 --> 00:05:27.276 It, it's hard enough to get my children to do 10 hours of hard labor a year, 00:05:27.426 --> 00:05:33.816 so I don't think that they're gonna be, I'm totally, I'm totally teasing, 00:05:33.816 --> 00:05:39.151 but I mean, I'm not, it is hard a week to get that out of them, but, 00:05:40.176 --> 00:05:43.986 but I'm teasing, but this is not. 00:05:44.406 --> 00:05:47.256 An issue that we have to worry about. 00:05:47.256 --> 00:05:51.426 It is not showing actually that it is stunting growth, but it 00:05:51.426 --> 00:05:54.366 is showing some great positive physical and mental benefits. 00:05:54.936 --> 00:06:00.696 I'm really excited for the mental benefits when I set up my camera to 00:06:00.701 --> 00:06:05.466 record, um, my girls so that I could, you know, show them their, their 00:06:05.466 --> 00:06:09.666 progress and how their lifts are improving, their strength is improving. 00:06:10.491 --> 00:06:17.331 I also caught this moment where my daughter, Hazel, uh, one minute 00:06:17.331 --> 00:06:20.991 was fine working hard on the lake press, and I was actually her, 00:06:21.141 --> 00:06:23.241 she was, she was doing me proud. 00:06:23.241 --> 00:06:26.451 She was like, gym face grunting. 00:06:26.481 --> 00:06:28.791 She's like giving it her all kind of thing. 00:06:28.791 --> 00:06:34.971 I was really excited and she went from that to one second later just stops. 00:06:35.271 --> 00:06:37.311 She's like, I can't, I can't. 00:06:39.486 --> 00:06:44.376 It was, it was actually this beautiful moment that I captured. 00:06:44.376 --> 00:06:48.936 I didn't share all of it out of respect for her. 00:06:49.686 --> 00:06:54.696 Um, but I shared just a, a tiny little bit because I wanted people to see, 00:06:55.296 --> 00:07:00.396 look, there's all these wonderful moments of me teaching something hard 00:07:00.396 --> 00:07:03.126 to my kids, and we can highlight those. 00:07:03.126 --> 00:07:04.716 And I think those are great to highlight. 00:07:05.451 --> 00:07:10.551 Social media, but I don't want you to think it was not without this, 00:07:10.971 --> 00:07:17.991 these moments too, where she just went in her head and I, I look at 00:07:17.991 --> 00:07:19.701 her and I'm like, what's going on? 00:07:19.701 --> 00:07:20.451 Where did you go? 00:07:20.511 --> 00:07:24.831 Now I know my daughter, um, I know where she goes. 00:07:25.461 --> 00:07:32.241 I know how fast it happens, and it is just so quickly goes into worst 00:07:32.586 --> 00:07:35.586 case scenario, stops, throws a fit. 00:07:35.676 --> 00:07:39.636 This, it's a, it's too hard and, and I'm not doing this. 00:07:39.636 --> 00:07:40.446 I'm not good at it. 00:07:40.446 --> 00:07:41.406 Nothing's working. 00:07:41.411 --> 00:07:45.486 And she, she starts expressing all these things. 00:07:47.046 --> 00:07:51.486 Somebody said to me, um, after they watched that, they said, 00:07:52.116 --> 00:07:54.246 my, my son does that too. 00:07:54.486 --> 00:07:57.876 How do you get him to listen to you when he's in that moment? 00:07:59.256 --> 00:08:02.106 And I'm not the best parent out there. 00:08:02.751 --> 00:08:04.221 Learn from my mistakes. 00:08:04.311 --> 00:08:04.731 Okay? 00:08:06.861 --> 00:08:09.621 The point isn't to get your child to listen to you. 00:08:10.311 --> 00:08:18.831 It's actually to pause and learn to listen to them, um, in that moment. 00:08:18.861 --> 00:08:23.421 So their prefrontal cortex has been hijacked, emotionally hijacked. 00:08:24.381 --> 00:08:29.421 If you jump into solution mode where when they have been emotionally hijacked. 00:08:30.756 --> 00:08:32.526 They're not gonna hear a word you're saying. 00:08:33.126 --> 00:08:37.206 It's gonna be a wasted breath, and then you're gonna walk away wondering, why 00:08:37.206 --> 00:08:39.636 couldn't I get them to listen to me? 00:08:40.356 --> 00:08:46.446 But if you change it just a bit, this is what I've learned with a whole 00:08:46.446 --> 00:08:49.836 bunch of, you know, trial and error, but a, but a whole bunch of error. 00:08:50.286 --> 00:08:50.676 Okay? 00:08:51.113 --> 00:08:55.883 if you change it to, how can I listen to them right now? 00:08:56.738 --> 00:09:03.638 How can I get them to, and, and a little bit of the, the footage that you saw 00:09:03.788 --> 00:09:09.728 or some of you saw was Hazel, you know, throwing this fit, being really angry. 00:09:11.108 --> 00:09:13.358 She didn't like how hard it was. 00:09:13.358 --> 00:09:16.298 She didn't like how she was being pushed into the hard because she 00:09:16.298 --> 00:09:19.028 has a mom who's a coach, and what am I gonna, what am I gonna do? 00:09:19.328 --> 00:09:19.688 Awesome. 00:09:19.688 --> 00:09:22.868 You're feeling it's hard now, now. 00:09:23.918 --> 00:09:27.518 To help with mental resilience, you're going to push into that hard. 00:09:28.088 --> 00:09:29.318 But what does life teach you? 00:09:29.438 --> 00:09:30.428 It's getting hard. 00:09:30.428 --> 00:09:31.388 Lean, no way. 00:09:31.868 --> 00:09:34.028 But here I am, telling her to lean into it. 00:09:34.358 --> 00:09:36.848 And that was hard, and she just stopped. 00:09:37.388 --> 00:09:42.218 Her walls went up, prefrontal cortex got emotionally hijacked. 00:09:42.788 --> 00:09:51.698 She immediately too just shut down, and it happened so quickly as it does with her. 00:09:52.195 --> 00:09:55.885 I kind of took a moment and I said, what, what happened? 00:09:57.085 --> 00:10:00.175 And are you teachable right now? 00:10:01.825 --> 00:10:02.635 And she's like, no. 00:10:03.625 --> 00:10:08.365 So you have to understand too, we've tried to be Coach Hazel through this a million 00:10:08.365 --> 00:10:10.795 times and we'll coach her through it. 00:10:10.795 --> 00:10:12.265 Another million, right? 00:10:12.265 --> 00:10:14.995 We'll keep doing this, but. 00:10:16.030 --> 00:10:21.430 In that moment, I knew once I knew she's not teachable, teaching her was pointless. 00:10:22.390 --> 00:10:30.580 But if I step into the emotion with her, then I can actually, it helps 00:10:30.670 --> 00:10:34.270 her step out of the emotions faster. 00:10:35.680 --> 00:10:41.620 So I leaned into it's, it's funny because here she is being 00:10:41.625 --> 00:10:43.030 asked to lean into the hard. 00:10:43.701 --> 00:10:45.111 And she retreats. 00:10:45.231 --> 00:10:47.031 And then, and what does that do? 00:10:47.031 --> 00:10:51.111 It makes me, as a parent now need to lean into the hard 'cause. 00:10:51.111 --> 00:10:52.191 It's hard being a parent. 00:10:52.371 --> 00:10:53.871 It's hard having the patience. 00:10:54.891 --> 00:11:02.481 It's hard sitting in and with a child who is not thinking logically or 00:11:02.481 --> 00:11:07.491 a, or just an adult, a person who's not thinking logically whatsoever. 00:11:08.301 --> 00:11:12.441 But yet you, you haven't been hijacked, so all you're doing is thinking logically. 00:11:12.681 --> 00:11:14.211 But that's actually annoying them. 00:11:14.211 --> 00:11:16.731 Who's not thinking logically, because what do they feel? 00:11:16.736 --> 00:11:18.831 They feel like they, they're not seen. 00:11:19.341 --> 00:11:20.271 They're not heard. 00:11:21.411 --> 00:11:26.091 So in order to help somebody back into a position where they can mentally 00:11:26.421 --> 00:11:32.691 become resilient and push themselves and think logically, again, you have to 00:11:32.691 --> 00:11:35.211 lean into that, that emotion with them. 00:11:35.781 --> 00:11:36.556 You have to sit in it. 00:11:37.881 --> 00:11:41.601 And then as a coach, you can guide them out. 00:11:42.321 --> 00:11:45.291 But the point is not actually in this moment to have her 00:11:45.296 --> 00:11:47.481 listen to me because she won't. 00:11:47.481 --> 00:11:47.991 She can't. 00:11:48.801 --> 00:11:51.051 And this isn't a 9-year-old thing. 00:11:51.291 --> 00:11:53.121 This is an an adult thing. 00:11:53.121 --> 00:11:54.081 This is a life thing. 00:11:54.086 --> 00:11:58.881 This is, this is what everybody does when they get emotionally, 00:11:59.391 --> 00:12:00.681 their brain gets hijacked. 00:12:01.836 --> 00:12:03.936 They're going through a really, really hard time and somebody 00:12:03.936 --> 00:12:05.436 comes in with pure logic. 00:12:05.676 --> 00:12:07.056 It's like, don't, don't. 00:12:07.236 --> 00:12:08.346 That's not how we connect. 00:12:09.546 --> 00:12:13.356 Get into the emotion with me and then we can talk about solutions, 00:12:13.361 --> 00:12:14.676 but I wanna feel seen and heard. 00:12:15.216 --> 00:12:19.023 So that has been one of the hardest things as a parent is 00:12:19.673 --> 00:12:22.883 learning to allow my children 00:12:23.768 --> 00:12:27.578 to have all sorts of emotions without me getting pulled into 00:12:27.908 --> 00:12:34.988 those emotions and become almost as childlike in my reaction as they are. 00:12:35.978 --> 00:12:36.368 Right. 00:12:36.638 --> 00:12:41.798 If I'm gonna teach them to be an emotionally mature adult, 00:12:41.798 --> 00:12:45.488 I have to, that's not fair. 00:12:45.548 --> 00:12:46.958 I don't wanna Right. 00:12:46.958 --> 00:12:47.738 No, it's hard. 00:12:47.948 --> 00:12:48.608 It's hard. 00:12:49.463 --> 00:12:54.983 It's really hard that I actually think is what's really hard about parenting. 00:12:55.313 --> 00:13:00.173 But right now I am reading a book and one of the things that I really 00:13:00.173 --> 00:13:04.733 like about this book is that they do talk about how our role really 00:13:04.738 --> 00:13:07.013 is one of counselor and coach. 00:13:07.673 --> 00:13:08.993 We can't do these things for 'em. 00:13:08.993 --> 00:13:10.643 It's called the self-driven child. 00:13:11.063 --> 00:13:12.743 So I would strongly encourage. 00:13:13.388 --> 00:13:14.498 You to listen to that. 00:13:14.858 --> 00:13:17.318 I've gotten a lot of little nuggets from it. 00:13:17.498 --> 00:13:20.468 It's not one of those books where you read and you wanna highlight every page. 00:13:20.798 --> 00:13:25.478 I love those books, but, but I have, there's been a few aha moments 00:13:25.478 --> 00:13:26.738 that I've really enjoyed from that. 00:13:27.518 --> 00:13:30.728 So anyways, just so you know, teaching your child 00:13:30.733 --> 00:13:33.158 weightlifting, it's gonna be hard. 00:13:33.998 --> 00:13:35.618 There's gonna be those up and downs. 00:13:36.338 --> 00:13:40.083 Um, but that's kind of what I showed the other day is this is. 00:13:40.553 --> 00:13:41.783 This is actually part of it. 00:13:41.993 --> 00:13:46.223 And then it was interesting because afterwards I showed another video of her 00:13:46.823 --> 00:13:51.353 where she was doing biceps curls, and she said she was doing really, really well. 00:13:51.353 --> 00:13:57.833 She's back to being positive, feeling capable, confident, and all a sudden 00:13:57.838 --> 00:13:59.723 she's performing really well again. 00:14:00.023 --> 00:14:03.683 And it was, it was really cute because I said, look at, 00:14:03.683 --> 00:14:04.973 you go, you're doing awesome. 00:14:05.453 --> 00:14:06.413 And she said, yes. 00:14:06.593 --> 00:14:07.463 I just needed a good song. 00:14:09.158 --> 00:14:12.998 To calm my mind and I was like, oh my goodness. 00:14:13.508 --> 00:14:14.648 Out of the mouth of babes. 00:14:14.648 --> 00:14:15.458 Isn't that true? 00:14:15.518 --> 00:14:16.298 Good song. 00:14:16.298 --> 00:14:17.078 Calm your Mind. 00:14:17.378 --> 00:14:20.018 It was so cute, but it was really funny. 00:14:20.018 --> 00:14:21.518 I decided to share afterwards. 00:14:21.518 --> 00:14:23.288 Let me share the whole story. 00:14:23.798 --> 00:14:27.338 It was, it was a wrestle, but do you know what? 00:14:27.338 --> 00:14:31.478 That wrestle, like I said, is not just one that children have, 00:14:32.048 --> 00:14:33.458 but it's, we have to learn. 00:14:34.688 --> 00:14:37.088 As adults to have that same wrestle. 00:14:37.238 --> 00:14:40.088 And one of the things that Hazel actually did is something that 00:14:40.088 --> 00:14:42.098 I see adults do very common. 00:14:42.578 --> 00:14:46.628 When we face that resistance, she immediately turned outside of herself. 00:14:46.868 --> 00:14:49.688 'cause I asked her, I just started asking her questions. 00:14:50.408 --> 00:14:51.368 What are you feeling? 00:14:51.698 --> 00:14:54.158 Do you wanna talk about What feelings are you having? 00:14:54.458 --> 00:14:55.238 Are you angry? 00:14:55.628 --> 00:14:56.408 Are you sad? 00:14:56.738 --> 00:14:57.638 Do you feel hurt? 00:14:57.968 --> 00:14:59.528 Do you like what's going on? 00:14:59.678 --> 00:15:03.998 And I just invited her without any shame, just to open up to feelings. 00:15:04.553 --> 00:15:08.168 And, and at first everything was, it's just not working. 00:15:08.468 --> 00:15:09.188 Everything's wrong. 00:15:09.218 --> 00:15:12.458 The, the pad on the back of the leg extension that was to 00:15:12.458 --> 00:15:17.078 blame, it was rattling and it was moving, so she couldn't do it. 00:15:17.078 --> 00:15:21.068 And she starts looking outside of herself and blaming all of 00:15:21.068 --> 00:15:22.463 these things outside of herself. 00:15:24.158 --> 00:15:26.798 You know, that's really common as adults to do that too. 00:15:27.098 --> 00:15:32.228 We quickly turn outside of ourselves in instead of taking, uh, extreme ownership 00:15:32.708 --> 00:15:36.728 of the attitude that we're showing up in the fact that we're looking for all 00:15:36.728 --> 00:15:41.348 of these, these people and things to blame instead of just taking extreme 00:15:41.348 --> 00:15:48.248 ownership and redirecting the story that we tell ourselves to be more positive. 00:15:49.103 --> 00:15:51.263 Hazel's words calming her mind. 00:15:51.353 --> 00:15:51.743 Right. 00:15:52.073 --> 00:15:57.863 So it was, it was a really cool thing to capture and then to talk about on, 00:15:57.923 --> 00:15:59.933 um, on social media the other day. 00:16:00.533 --> 00:16:06.053 Got a really positive and, and really good response from people saying, 00:16:06.058 --> 00:16:08.033 it's nice to see that this is. 00:16:09.023 --> 00:16:11.213 That other kids, uh, react the same. 00:16:11.213 --> 00:16:11.603 Right. 00:16:12.233 --> 00:16:16.943 And it's taken a lot of practice for me not to get pulled in to her emotions. 00:16:16.943 --> 00:16:20.123 And I, I still, every once in a while do right. 00:16:20.128 --> 00:16:21.713 But it, but I'm getting better. 00:16:22.253 --> 00:16:23.153 As she's getting better. 00:16:23.153 --> 00:16:23.873 It's a beautiful thing. 00:16:24.113 --> 00:16:24.383 Okay. 00:16:24.593 --> 00:16:26.093 Now let's move on to the next thing. 00:16:26.393 --> 00:16:27.983 What about the risk of injury? 00:16:29.168 --> 00:16:32.108 So it is interesting because people don't think twice about 00:16:32.108 --> 00:16:36.638 putting their kids into, you know, casual soccer at the age of four. 00:16:36.848 --> 00:16:45.098 Yet the risk of injury to those, those little sports teams is almost triple that 00:16:45.158 --> 00:16:50.168 of the same injuries that we're seeing young children who do weightlifting. 00:16:50.168 --> 00:16:52.358 But the funny thing is, young children who do weightlifting, their 00:16:52.358 --> 00:16:54.338 injuries are usually hand and feet. 00:16:54.548 --> 00:16:58.568 It's, it's them actually dropping things on hand and feet. 00:16:58.573 --> 00:17:03.038 So if we can be there to guide them and help them, that's gonna be really awesome. 00:17:03.638 --> 00:17:08.708 So now let me give some guidance on what I've done and every single 00:17:08.708 --> 00:17:14.258 child is so different, but what I've done and my suggestion and advice 00:17:14.288 --> 00:17:18.698 on getting kids into weightlifting, one, I don't think that they should 00:17:18.698 --> 00:17:21.698 feel pressured by parents to do it. 00:17:22.028 --> 00:17:27.938 I think that, uh, if parents are doing it and showing that it's fun and enjoyable, 00:17:28.208 --> 00:17:32.528 and also that it's not unhealthily taking over every moment of their life 00:17:32.618 --> 00:17:39.098 and dragging time, away from their kids, um, because their kids will see that 00:17:39.158 --> 00:17:43.268 and then maybe build up a resentment to it and then not want to do it because 00:17:43.808 --> 00:17:48.248 instead of spending time with me, my mom's always weightlifting, right? 00:17:48.458 --> 00:17:51.968 Can you see that how easily that resentment can be built? 00:17:52.748 --> 00:17:57.488 But if you are putting time and effort into your relationship with your 00:17:57.488 --> 00:18:02.378 child, and then on top of it, they are seeing you, uh, demonstrating 00:18:02.378 --> 00:18:04.178 mirror these, these healthy. 00:18:04.553 --> 00:18:09.713 Um, lifestyle choices there gets a point where they, they may become 00:18:09.953 --> 00:18:12.443 open and interested in learning more. 00:18:13.763 --> 00:18:16.763 I have not tried to force weightlifting on my children. 00:18:17.123 --> 00:18:18.383 Um, I. 00:18:18.383 --> 00:18:22.028 We talk about how fun it is, we talk about, um, what we can do. 00:18:22.028 --> 00:18:26.168 I, you know, I did X amount of weight on the leg press. 00:18:26.168 --> 00:18:27.578 It was so awesome. 00:18:27.583 --> 00:18:34.088 I did, uh, you know, I've built up to 18 pull-ups now, and my daughter at school, 00:18:34.328 --> 00:18:35.798 you know, is starting to do pull-ups. 00:18:35.798 --> 00:18:37.898 So she realizes, wow, that's awesome. 00:18:38.078 --> 00:18:39.398 Can you teach me how to do that? 00:18:39.398 --> 00:18:40.208 I wanna do that. 00:18:40.358 --> 00:18:40.598 Right? 00:18:40.598 --> 00:18:45.128 So she starts showing an interest and that's when I, um. 00:18:45.578 --> 00:18:46.328 Speak to that. 00:18:46.358 --> 00:18:48.038 I'm like, okay, then let's do it. 00:18:48.458 --> 00:18:52.358 And then I don't jump to some radical every day weightlift with me. 00:18:52.568 --> 00:18:56.978 It's like, no, how many times a week do you want to come train with me? 00:18:57.848 --> 00:19:02.078 And, um, so then we kind of come up with a plan together. 00:19:02.078 --> 00:19:03.998 So it's their idea. 00:19:04.298 --> 00:19:07.238 It's not me trying to force what I love on them. 00:19:07.838 --> 00:19:09.968 Uh, so that, that would be tip number one. 00:19:11.198 --> 00:19:14.378 Tip number two, people are like, well, what do you do with them in the gym? 00:19:15.173 --> 00:19:23.393 Usually I, um, I don't encourage starting with the most complex movements, so 00:19:23.393 --> 00:19:30.893 day one we did some, we did do some squats, but very, very, very simple. 00:19:31.373 --> 00:19:35.993 And they didn't have a bar on the back, on their back or anything like that. 00:19:36.173 --> 00:19:38.273 Yes, they do have children's bars. 00:19:38.273 --> 00:19:43.253 In fact, this Saturday, um, a five pound bar from Amazon, I'll share the link 00:19:43.253 --> 00:19:48.953 in the notes is showing up because I talked to my girls about doing deadlifts 00:19:48.958 --> 00:19:52.013 and showed 'em, and they wanna start working on strength and deadlifts. 00:19:52.018 --> 00:19:56.093 And so it's something that, once again, they're involved with this idea that would 00:19:56.183 --> 00:20:00.233 be fun to become strong in deadlifts. 00:20:00.353 --> 00:20:03.054 and another thing too is I am. 00:20:03.488 --> 00:20:10.538 I really am just adding a little fuel to the flame that they're bringing, 00:20:10.538 --> 00:20:11.978 the energy that they're bringing. 00:20:12.488 --> 00:20:18.968 Um, so my girls in school, they do things like pullups or they work on 00:20:18.968 --> 00:20:26.048 hangs or pushups or sprints or these different planks, these different 00:20:26.198 --> 00:20:28.238 exercises, crunches and stuff. 00:20:28.718 --> 00:20:29.138 Um. 00:20:29.963 --> 00:20:36.563 And so they have this desire next year to go back and be, you know, the girl 00:20:36.563 --> 00:20:41.633 who can do a bunch of pull-ups and do more than the boys and these, and this 00:20:41.633 --> 00:20:46.343 is stuff that, yeah, maybe I, I let that one slip like, oh, wouldn't it be cool? 00:20:46.343 --> 00:20:47.723 And they're like, yeah, let's do it. 00:20:47.723 --> 00:20:48.023 Right. 00:20:48.023 --> 00:20:51.503 So it's, so that was a little inception. 00:20:51.803 --> 00:20:53.993 That is what I'm doing a little inception. 00:20:53.993 --> 00:20:57.443 And then once it like comes to fruition, I'm like, awesome, I'm jumping on it. 00:20:58.198 --> 00:21:04.978 So their plans that I have for them right now, they have expressed this 00:21:04.978 --> 00:21:07.108 desire to do three times a week. 00:21:07.648 --> 00:21:12.238 So we're doing three times a week and during each one they get it. 00:21:12.268 --> 00:21:17.158 They get to sip on their Gatorade, and that's really 00:21:17.158 --> 00:21:18.628 exciting to 'em because we don't 00:21:19.553 --> 00:21:21.893 just have drinks around my house like that. 00:21:22.133 --> 00:21:26.393 And so they're really excited to sip on their cool fitness drink. 00:21:26.783 --> 00:21:32.783 And then when their friends are around, then their friends have actually come 00:21:32.783 --> 00:21:35.123 into the gym and done it with us before. 00:21:35.128 --> 00:21:37.703 That's a little bit distracting, but it's, but it's fun. 00:21:37.703 --> 00:21:40.703 So I make it fun and enjoyable. 00:21:41.003 --> 00:21:43.073 I'm also having them track things too. 00:21:43.883 --> 00:21:45.023 The first. 00:21:45.713 --> 00:21:54.653 Two sets of each basic exercise that we go through are focused on form 00:21:55.343 --> 00:21:59.393 and doing it correctly, and learning these new patterns of movement. 00:21:59.483 --> 00:22:01.973 Because once again, they are, they are newbies. 00:22:01.978 --> 00:22:05.753 They have no idea what they're doing, so they'll graduate out of this. 00:22:05.753 --> 00:22:12.623 But just this first phase is just teaching them form and just 00:22:12.623 --> 00:22:14.933 the, the pattern of movement. 00:22:16.118 --> 00:22:19.778 We're using benches, we're using the wall to keep their arms stable. 00:22:19.928 --> 00:22:23.138 So they'll put, I have a bench that has arms on it. 00:22:23.138 --> 00:22:23.858 It's really cool. 00:22:24.728 --> 00:22:30.668 But if you don't have that bicep curls, have them stand with their, their. 00:22:31.178 --> 00:22:34.838 Back right up against the wall so that they can learn how to 00:22:34.838 --> 00:22:37.478 do stable movements, right? 00:22:37.598 --> 00:22:40.778 If you ever put a weight in a child's hand, show 'em how to do a bicep curl, 00:22:40.778 --> 00:22:42.368 and you watch 'em and you're like, whoa. 00:22:42.848 --> 00:22:46.358 There's like, it, it just, they're just like moving that thing everywhere. 00:22:46.358 --> 00:22:49.718 Elbows are flying, shoulder blades going crazy. 00:22:49.718 --> 00:22:52.028 It's like, I didn't realize somebody could be so creative 00:22:52.028 --> 00:22:53.708 with a, a biceps curl right? 00:22:53.858 --> 00:22:57.698 So with my kids, we're focusing on the first. 00:22:58.493 --> 00:23:05.423 One to two sets are getting used to the motion going through good form. 00:23:05.873 --> 00:23:10.793 And then the third set, I'm like, okay, what weight do you think you can 00:23:10.793 --> 00:23:14.333 do for eight to 10 reps, or 10 to 12? 00:23:14.693 --> 00:23:17.873 And then they, they get really excited and they pick a weight, and then 00:23:17.873 --> 00:23:24.143 I let them, once again, these are simple movements, so if they're form. 00:23:25.013 --> 00:23:26.063 Goes haywire. 00:23:26.063 --> 00:23:29.843 It's actually not a big deal, but these are simple movements where 00:23:30.113 --> 00:23:34.163 they get to pick the weight and then they put their goal and then, then 00:23:34.403 --> 00:23:38.963 me and the other child just cheers 'em on like, yeah, you got this. 00:23:38.963 --> 00:23:39.263 Do it. 00:23:39.323 --> 00:23:41.513 And their form kind of goes out the wall. 00:23:41.518 --> 00:23:42.563 They get a little crazy. 00:23:42.568 --> 00:23:43.013 And do you know what? 00:23:43.018 --> 00:23:43.343 That's okay. 00:23:44.318 --> 00:23:44.678 Okay. 00:23:45.518 --> 00:23:47.918 We are pushing them, we're encouraging them. 00:23:48.218 --> 00:23:51.188 I want them to at least have that one set where they feel like they're 00:23:51.188 --> 00:23:55.718 giving it their all and they're working so hard and they're tapping into 00:23:55.723 --> 00:24:03.428 that mental piece of this is so hard and awesome and I'm doing it right. 00:24:04.148 --> 00:24:08.828 So obviously the more complex the exercise, you can't. 00:24:10.253 --> 00:24:13.493 If, when I'm doing deadlifts with them, 'cause I'm gonna start that 00:24:13.493 --> 00:24:18.503 next week, I'm not gonna have them do that kind of crazy thing. 00:24:18.563 --> 00:24:24.173 But I, I am really excited to slowly introduce new exercises. 00:24:24.383 --> 00:24:32.738 But in the notes you are going to have my first draft of what we're going to 00:24:32.738 --> 00:24:40.058 be doing together over the next month, and depending on how be, because my 00:24:40.058 --> 00:24:46.538 goal really is to have them learn to do something hard and learn to push 00:24:46.538 --> 00:24:54.788 into that hard and enjoy the hard and to have fun in learning how to lift. 00:24:55.058 --> 00:24:57.488 That is my number one goal right now. 00:24:58.253 --> 00:24:59.843 It's not teaching them perfect form. 00:25:00.233 --> 00:25:04.013 It's not having them know the difference between a glute max 00:25:04.013 --> 00:25:06.863 emphasis squat and a quad emphasis. 00:25:06.983 --> 00:25:08.213 So it is none of that. 00:25:08.633 --> 00:25:13.913 I want them, I want to light a fire under them of feeling strong, doing hard 00:25:13.973 --> 00:25:21.803 things, pushing themselves to appropriate levels of failure and fatigue, and I 00:25:21.803 --> 00:25:24.998 just wanna light that fire that gets 'em. 00:25:25.643 --> 00:25:29.153 To where they want to be active and feel strong and move. 00:25:30.173 --> 00:25:32.753 And so that's the whole point of it. 00:25:33.113 --> 00:25:36.653 So go ahead and download that in the show notes just to kind 00:25:36.653 --> 00:25:38.153 of see these basic things. 00:25:38.483 --> 00:25:42.713 I'm also gonna have a few notes in there as well of, of different 00:25:42.713 --> 00:25:44.153 things that, that we're trying. 00:25:44.633 --> 00:25:51.143 After four weeks I'm gonna look at it and we're gonna track all of their lifts. 00:25:51.698 --> 00:25:54.098 After four weeks, we'll look at it and I'll sit down with 'em and be 00:25:54.098 --> 00:25:56.708 like, what are your favorite exercise? 00:25:57.098 --> 00:25:58.478 I'll show them different exercise. 00:25:58.478 --> 00:26:00.398 Do you guys wanna do these ones? 00:26:00.638 --> 00:26:02.648 Get new goals with these exercises. 00:26:02.648 --> 00:26:04.028 These are some of my favorite. 00:26:04.028 --> 00:26:08.528 Do you want to, and I'm really going to pull them in because I don't, right 00:26:08.533 --> 00:26:12.578 now, it's not about like, well, we need to make sure that, you know, we are 00:26:12.578 --> 00:26:17.558 appropriately balancing out biceps and delts and back maneuvers and all this. 00:26:17.558 --> 00:26:20.558 It's like, no, we're lighting a fire under them. 00:26:21.093 --> 00:26:21.213 I. 00:26:21.213 --> 00:26:26.203 To love movement, love, feeling strong and et cetera. 00:26:26.743 --> 00:26:30.973 So anyways, just thought I would share where that myth came from. 00:26:31.393 --> 00:26:37.453 And no, it's not gonna stunt their growth and just some tips and things 00:26:37.453 --> 00:26:43.183 that I'm doing in my family to help teach my girls how to lift weights. 00:26:43.183 --> 00:26:46.153 Thank you so much for joining us today on The Lifting Lindsay Podcast. 00:26:46.153 --> 00:26:50.413 Hopefully this has been an interesting topic and I've given you some good 00:26:50.413 --> 00:26:57.193 ideas to get you training with your kids or maybe know where to start. 00:26:57.403 --> 00:27:01.875 If you have any questions, go ahead and send me a message on I. 00:27:03.690 --> 00:27:04.710 Lifting Lindsey. 00:27:05.010 --> 00:27:07.290 You can also check out my personal training. 00:27:07.290 --> 00:27:10.440 Be strong dot lifting lindsey.com. 00:27:10.500 --> 00:27:11.790 Join our community. 00:27:11.970 --> 00:27:13.650 We can talk about these things as well. 00:27:13.650 --> 00:27:19.140 I'm excited to get my community members to learn more about this and to start 00:27:19.140 --> 00:27:25.530 training their kids as well, or at least inviting them to start training just a 00:27:25.530 --> 00:27:27.360 little bit with them to light that fire. 00:27:27.630 --> 00:27:28.530 You guys are awesome. 00:27:28.530 --> 00:27:29.580 You have a wonderful week.