1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:06,583 welcome to Morning Cereal. 3 01:00:11,833 --> 01:00:13,208 Okay good morning and 4 01:00:13,208 --> 01:00:16,250 welcome to Tuesday and to Sicily. 5 01:00:16,833 --> 01:00:18,541 Well we're coming to you today from the 6 01:00:18,541 --> 01:00:19,541 sun soaked island of 7 01:00:19,541 --> 01:00:21,458 Sicily, the rugged heart of 8 01:00:21,458 --> 01:00:23,625 the Mediterranean with its ancient rooms, 9 01:00:23,833 --> 01:00:24,916 its seaside villages 10 01:00:24,916 --> 01:00:26,791 and food that deserves 11 01:00:26,791 --> 01:00:27,750 some mention for sure. 12 01:00:28,250 --> 01:00:30,375 Sicily is another living postcard in this 13 01:00:30,375 --> 01:00:31,375 part of the world where 14 01:00:31,375 --> 01:00:32,458 you can stroll through 15 01:00:32,458 --> 01:00:34,541 Greek amphitheaters in the morning, sip 16 01:00:34,541 --> 01:00:35,916 granada by afternoon and 17 01:00:35,916 --> 01:00:37,458 watch Mount Etna puff a 18 01:00:37,458 --> 01:00:39,000 little drama into the sky at dusk. 19 01:00:39,541 --> 01:00:40,500 It's a place where history 20 01:00:40,500 --> 01:00:42,250 and culture just don't whisper. 21 01:00:42,750 --> 01:00:43,666 They shout from every 22 01:00:43,666 --> 01:00:45,750 cobblestone street and linen grove. 23 01:00:46,083 --> 01:00:47,833 And yes, I can confirm the 24 01:00:47,833 --> 01:00:49,916 cannoli really are that good. 25 01:00:50,500 --> 01:00:52,708 Well let's move from those cobblestone 26 01:00:52,708 --> 01:00:54,583 streets to today's quote. 27 01:00:55,041 --> 01:00:57,125 And our quote today comes to us from 28 01:00:57,125 --> 01:00:58,750 Selena Gomez who once 29 01:00:58,750 --> 01:01:00,375 said, "You are not defined 30 01:01:00,375 --> 01:01:01,625 by an Instagram photo, 31 01:01:02,041 --> 01:01:03,791 by a like or by a comment. 32 01:01:03,791 --> 01:01:05,708 That does not define you." 33 01:01:05,708 --> 01:01:08,125 And it's a reminder that real confidence 34 01:01:08,125 --> 01:01:09,666 comes from within, not 35 01:01:09,666 --> 01:01:11,250 from a filter, a follower 36 01:01:11,291 --> 01:01:13,333 count or a comment thread. 37 01:01:13,541 --> 01:01:15,958 So be your own algorithm today. 38 01:01:16,500 --> 01:01:17,833 Well today's news facts and 39 01:01:17,833 --> 01:01:19,958 birthdays are for July 22nd. 40 01:01:20,166 --> 01:01:22,083 And we're going to start back in 1987 41 01:01:22,083 --> 01:01:23,625 when Guns N Roses released 42 01:01:23,625 --> 01:01:25,541 their debut album, Appetite 43 01:01:25,541 --> 01:01:26,666 for Destruction and 44 01:01:26,666 --> 01:01:28,250 Welcome to the Jungle People. 45 01:01:28,791 --> 01:01:30,875 Then American gangster John Dillinger was 46 01:01:30,875 --> 01:01:32,083 killed by FBI agents 47 01:01:32,083 --> 01:01:33,500 outside of Chicago cinema 48 01:01:33,625 --> 01:01:35,166 today in 1934. 49 01:01:35,791 --> 01:01:37,833 Then in 1991, Jeffrey Dahmer, he was 50 01:01:37,833 --> 01:01:40,208 arrested by Milwaukee police, later 51 01:01:40,208 --> 01:01:41,291 confessing to murdering 52 01:01:41,291 --> 01:01:43,041 17 men and boys. 53 01:01:43,791 --> 01:01:46,416 Then in 2005, the acclaimed documentary 54 01:01:46,416 --> 01:01:47,583 March of the Penguins, 55 01:01:48,083 --> 01:01:49,250 well it was widely released 56 01:01:49,375 --> 01:01:51,250 in the US and into our hearts. 57 01:01:51,625 --> 01:01:52,500 But man those penguins, 58 01:01:52,500 --> 01:01:53,666 they stink at the zoo, right? 59 01:01:54,375 --> 01:01:55,666 Well happy birthday if 60 01:01:55,666 --> 01:01:56,875 today is your birthday. 61 01:01:56,875 --> 01:01:58,375 You share a birthday with American 62 01:01:58,375 --> 01:02:00,291 actress and singer Selena Gomez. 63 01:02:00,291 --> 01:02:01,208 She's 32 today. 64 01:02:01,833 --> 01:02:02,791 American actor and comedian 65 01:02:02,791 --> 01:02:04,500 David Spade, he's 60 today. 66 01:02:05,166 --> 01:02:07,708 Actor John Leguziamo, he's 60 today. 67 01:02:08,125 --> 01:02:11,166 As is actor Danny Glover, he's 78 today. 68 01:02:11,750 --> 01:02:14,750 And William Defoe, he's 69 today. 69 01:02:15,375 --> 01:02:17,000 The number one song on this date back in 70 01:02:17,000 --> 01:02:19,291 1993 was "Can't Help 71 01:02:19,291 --> 01:02:21,083 Falling in Love" by UB40. 72 01:02:21,625 --> 01:02:24,583 Now UB40 had some great songs in the 80s 73 01:02:24,583 --> 01:02:26,166 and the 90s and this CD 74 01:02:26,166 --> 01:02:27,833 in particular had a great, 75 01:02:28,333 --> 01:02:29,583 lighthearted feel to it. 76 01:02:29,791 --> 01:02:31,958 And this reggae infused cover of an Elvis 77 01:02:31,958 --> 01:02:33,541 Presley classic gave 78 01:02:33,541 --> 01:02:35,041 the band a chart topping 79 01:02:35,041 --> 01:02:36,916 hit and helped cement 80 01:02:36,916 --> 01:02:39,000 UB40's cover song royalty. 81 01:02:39,625 --> 01:02:40,416 Well let's turn the 82 01:02:40,416 --> 01:02:41,500 page to our book segment. 83 01:02:41,875 --> 01:02:43,291 We're still reading through Steve and our 84 01:02:43,291 --> 01:02:44,000 COVID's, "The 7 85 01:02:44,000 --> 01:02:45,125 Habits of Highly Effective 86 01:02:45,208 --> 01:02:45,625 People." 87 01:02:46,125 --> 01:02:48,916 And today we're digging into habit four, 88 01:02:49,583 --> 01:02:50,875 think win-win, 89 01:02:51,125 --> 01:02:52,541 specifically the sub-chapter 90 01:02:52,916 --> 01:02:54,500 six major deposits. 91 01:02:55,708 --> 01:02:57,708 So COVID uses the metaphor of an 92 01:02:57,708 --> 01:02:59,250 emotional bank account that 93 01:02:59,250 --> 01:03:00,291 we talked about yesterday, 94 01:03:00,291 --> 01:03:00,500 right? 95 01:03:00,833 --> 01:03:02,083 To describe the level of 96 01:03:02,083 --> 01:03:03,416 trust in a relationship. 97 01:03:04,083 --> 01:03:05,541 And every interaction is 98 01:03:05,541 --> 01:03:07,375 either a deposit or a withdrawal. 99 01:03:08,083 --> 01:03:09,791 To build meaningful, effective 100 01:03:09,791 --> 01:03:11,708 relationships, you have to make 101 01:03:11,708 --> 01:03:14,166 consistent, genuine deposits. 102 01:03:15,000 --> 01:03:16,625 And here are the six major 103 01:03:16,625 --> 01:03:18,708 deposits that COVID outlines. 104 01:03:19,000 --> 01:03:21,375 Number one, understanding the individual. 105 01:03:21,833 --> 01:03:23,833 Take the time to truly listen and learn 106 01:03:23,833 --> 01:03:24,375 about the other 107 01:03:24,375 --> 01:03:26,250 person's values, their interest 108 01:03:26,250 --> 01:03:27,000 and their concern. 109 01:03:28,166 --> 01:03:29,291 Empathy is currency. 110 01:03:29,750 --> 01:03:32,041 All right, number two, attending to the 111 01:03:32,041 --> 01:03:33,041 little things, right? 112 01:03:33,250 --> 01:03:35,000 Small acts of kindness and respect. 113 01:03:35,791 --> 01:03:36,791 Those things matter. 114 01:03:37,041 --> 01:03:38,916 A thoughtful text or remembering 115 01:03:38,916 --> 01:03:40,541 someone's favorite coffee 116 01:03:40,541 --> 01:03:42,500 can go further than grand 117 01:03:42,541 --> 01:03:43,000 gestures. 118 01:03:43,750 --> 01:03:45,500 Number three, keeping commitments. 119 01:03:45,958 --> 01:03:47,833 Reliability breeds trust. 120 01:03:48,583 --> 01:03:50,250 Breaking promises, even small ones that 121 01:03:50,250 --> 01:03:52,208 erodes that account very quickly. 122 01:03:52,833 --> 01:03:55,208 Number four, clarifying expectations. 123 01:03:55,958 --> 01:03:57,666 Misunderstandings drain trust. 124 01:03:58,125 --> 01:03:59,833 Be upfront and honest about what you 125 01:03:59,833 --> 01:04:01,916 expect and what you can deliver. 126 01:04:02,500 --> 01:04:05,458 Number five, showing personal integrity. 127 01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:07,958 Living in alignment with your values 128 01:04:07,958 --> 01:04:09,041 isn't just good for you. 129 01:04:09,041 --> 01:04:10,000 It reassures others 130 01:04:10,000 --> 01:04:11,250 that you are trustworthy. 131 01:04:12,083 --> 01:04:16,083 And lastly, apologizing sincerely when 132 01:04:16,083 --> 01:04:17,458 you make a withdrawal, right? 133 01:04:17,666 --> 01:04:20,208 We all mess up sometimes, but a real, a 134 01:04:20,208 --> 01:04:21,583 humble apology can 135 01:04:21,583 --> 01:04:23,875 sometimes be a deposit in disguise. 136 01:04:24,750 --> 01:04:25,458 And COVID says, 137 01:04:25,458 --> 01:04:27,458 "Trust is the glue of life. 138 01:04:27,833 --> 01:04:30,125 It is the most essential ingredient in 139 01:04:30,125 --> 01:04:31,291 effective communication. 140 01:04:32,041 --> 01:04:34,458 It's the foundational principle that 141 01:04:34,458 --> 01:04:35,916 holds all relationships." 142 01:04:36,750 --> 01:04:37,583 So here's the takeaway. 143 01:04:37,583 --> 01:04:38,708 You don't have to be perfect. 144 01:04:39,583 --> 01:04:41,750 Just consistent, thoughtful, and honest. 145 01:04:41,750 --> 01:04:43,791 And when in doubt, make another deposit. 146 01:04:44,333 --> 01:04:44,625 All right. 147 01:04:44,958 --> 01:04:46,541 Well, whether you're lounging in a 148 01:04:46,541 --> 01:04:48,083 hammock in your backyard or 149 01:04:48,083 --> 01:04:49,916 just on the Sicilian coast, 150 01:04:50,583 --> 01:04:51,958 just know that confidence 151 01:04:51,958 --> 01:04:53,625 doesn't come from comparison. 152 01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:55,291 It comes from connection. 153 01:04:56,000 --> 01:04:57,416 Hey, thanks for spending part of your 154 01:04:57,416 --> 01:04:58,750 morning with Morning Cereal. 155 01:04:59,166 --> 01:05:00,833 Come back tomorrow to see where we will 156 01:05:00,833 --> 01:05:02,083 be broadcasting from then. 157 01:05:02,625 --> 01:05:05,166 And until then, have a fantastic day. 158 01:05:06,166 --> 01:05:08,666 Don't forget to follow and subscribe to 159 01:05:08,666 --> 01:05:09,416 the Morning Cereal 160 01:05:09,416 --> 01:05:11,416 podcast on the One Life Live 161 01:05:11,416 --> 01:05:11,958 It channel. 162 01:05:12,458 --> 01:05:14,375 You can find more episodes and videos by 163 01:05:14,375 --> 01:05:15,125 visiting our YouTube 164 01:05:15,125 --> 01:05:17,291 channel and the website at Shawn 165 01:05:17,291 --> 01:05:19,958 English and at ShawnEnglish.com, where 166 01:05:19,958 --> 01:05:21,208 you can also follow our 167 01:05:21,208 --> 01:05:22,583 other podcasts, the Mr. 168 01:05:22,583 --> 01:05:23,500 and Mrs. English Podcast 169 01:05:23,500 --> 01:05:25,000 and the Life Happens podcast. 170 01:05:26,041 --> 01:05:27,708 And these other podcasts, we'll dive 171 01:05:27,708 --> 01:05:29,083 deeper into everyday issues, 172 01:05:29,333 --> 01:05:30,583 self-improvement, well-being, 173 01:05:30,833 --> 01:05:32,416 business, and finance, and 174 01:05:32,416 --> 01:05:33,875 we welcome special guests too. 175 01:05:34,375 --> 01:05:35,125 So join us. 176 01:05:35,125 --> 01:05:36,416 It will be a good time, I promise. 177 01:05:37,125 --> 01:05:38,208 Thanks again for listening. 178 01:05:38,208 --> 01:05:39,416 Have a fantastic day, 179 01:05:39,416 --> 01:05:40,333 and we'll see you tomorrow.