If you’re anything like I was early in my Nice Guy recovery, you have a hard time setting boundaries. Especially with women. We tend to let a pretty woman walk all over us, afraid if we set boundaries she will walk away.
Over the years, working with hundreds of Nice Guys, I’ve noticed they struggle with boundaries too. I used to think boundaries were negative, that they made you rigid, and that people with boundaries were just selfish.
Then one day, I heard Dr. Glover say, “Boundaries are an act of love.” This threw me because I couldn’t see how love could be rigid. But he explained that boundaries show others what you will accept and what you won’t. Without boundaries, there’s no love, especially for yourself. And if you can’t respect yourself enough to have limits, how can you truly love others?