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Hello and welcome to Pickleball Therapy,

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the podcast dedicated to your Pickleball improvement.

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My name is Tony Roig.

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I am your weekly host of this podcast.

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This podcast is designed to help Pickleball players navigate the journey

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of Pickleball and give you a,

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a better perspective when you're out there playing on the mental

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aspect of Pickleball.

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On the mental side of Pickleball this week we're gonna talk

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about something that happens while we play.

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So we're gonna focus on the play part of our relationship

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with this game and the mental part of that aspect of

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it, and we're gonna focus on is scraping away some plaque

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that builds up sometimes in our minds and,

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and scraping away.

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This plaque will help us more clearly see what's going on

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when we're playing out there,

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because we won't be bogged down with the plaque that builds

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up in our minds and giving us the be a better

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ability to navigate a Pickleball game when we're playing.

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So that's our focus.

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This week we're gonna focus on,

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on, on looking for signs that that plaque has built up

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in our minds and trying to remove that as we play,

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because again,

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the, the cleaner that our,

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our minds are from this plaque that builds up the better

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we're gonna play.

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Before we dive into the podcast,

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week after you,

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the game like we do on the podcast,

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play your best Pickleball.

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Alright, what are we talking about here?

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What, what plaque?

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What's going on here?

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So recently I went to the dentist,

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right, for my regular cleaning.

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And if you know anything about,

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you know,

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the oral healthcare,

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what happens is over time plaque builds up on your teeth.

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That's why you go to the dentist and they use those,

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those metal instruments to scrape that stuff off.

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And don't worry,

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you can still eat your lunch or have your breakfast or

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whatever. I'm not gonna get too into detail on that stuff,

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but, but,

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you know,

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you need to remove the plaque.

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And the plaque is like a hardened substance,

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right? That gets on your,

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on your teeth,

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and when you remove it,

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your teeth are much healthier,

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right? It's just you,

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you're not under attack anymore.

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You're teton under attack.

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And what I've been thinking about this for about two weeks

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now, not about the plaque,

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but about this other thing.

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when I,

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when I went to the dentist and the plaque thing happened,

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and we were talking about all that stuff,

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it really clicked for me because what had happened was,

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I wanna say about a week or two ago,

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Jill and I had gone to Jill,

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my wife and I had gone to drill at our local

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courts. The courts are full,

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which is fantastic.

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We're, we're always happy when courts are full because that means

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that players Are enjoying this awesome sport.

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So we went over to the tennis court,

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next to the,

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the Pickleball courts that are there,

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and one of the courts that was playing next to us,

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the players were probably ranging the beginning to 2.0,

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you know,

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very early in the journey,

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right? Very early in their process.

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And it was awesome.

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They're out there all about the same level.

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They're batting the ball around,

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playing the game and having a good time.

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That's great.

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But one of the games finished and we happened to be

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taking a break from our drilling and having water.

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and I was able to hear the conversation and they went

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up to tap paddles and one of the players said that

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game sucked,

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right? And now the player didn't,

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I don't think meant anything really heavy by it,

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right? But I wanna address that because I think it's,

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it's important to be,

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it's important to be careful with our minds.

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And what I mean by this is,

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you know,

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okay, let's,

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like, you don't wanna miss a shot,

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right? You're out there and you want to focus on the

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ball. I get that right?

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We wanna focus on the ball,

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we wanna avoid popups,

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we wanna make sure we're in the right place on the

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court, all these things,

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right? So we wanna focus on the mechanics of our,

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our engagement with the sport.

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That's fantastic.

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I second that,

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that's great.

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But you know,

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you also wanna take care of your mind,

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right? You want to,

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you wanna spend some of your me mental bandwidth on protecting

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yourself from potentially negative mental habits.

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And this is one,

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and it's very common.

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That's why I bring it up.

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I'm not trying to pick on this player.

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You know,

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this is very common where,

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you know,

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a game ends and a player thinks,

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you know,

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we should have won that game.

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That game sucked.

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I made a mistake.

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Whatever it is,

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right? It's some negative,

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some negative reaction to the event that just occurred.

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And there's a lot to get into here,

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a lot to unpack.

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And that's why we have a,

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the book coming out that's gonna have a lot of this

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in detail.

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But here's what I wanna talk about in this podcast.

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Think about that as plaque that's building up on your teeth

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or on your arteries,

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however you want to think about it.

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Not good,

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right? That plaque,

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any, anywhere,

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unless there's a plaque that's hanging on your wall,

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but you know,

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any other kind of plaque that builds up in your,

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in your system,

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generally not something you're looking for.

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You also wanna not have plaque in your mind,

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right? And your mental processes.

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And when a game finishes and your reaction or the reaction

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of a player on the court is that game sucked.

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first of all,

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the player saying it,

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not good for them,

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right? Not good for them because,

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you know,

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it's, it's just not healthy,

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right? For them to,

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to feel that way.

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They just played Pickleball,

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right? It's an awesome sport.

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You got your bowl of ice cream,

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you got to play Pickleball.

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I mean,

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what could be wrong?

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So that's not great for that player,

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right? To,

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to have that framing.

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But it's also not great for the whole,

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the environment,

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right? For the,

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I mean the environmental,

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the environment of the game,

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right? Of the other players.

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Because usually the,

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the player who's saying that game sucked is the losing player,

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right? You don't have the winning player go like,

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well, that game sucked and we won,

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right? I mean,

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they do.

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That's, that's a different level of a wholeness.

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But usually it's the players saying like,

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that game sucked and it's the losing player,

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right? So what does that say to the other players on

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the court?

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Right? You know,

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the other three players who are playing not great,

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right? I mean,

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it's just not a good feeling.

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And I'll share a story here that,

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you know,

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personal story that happened to me many years ago.

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I was playing,

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again, I won't name names,

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but I was playing against a very good player,

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very good athletes,

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two very good athletes.

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We were playing in a tournament,

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me and a,

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and a good friend of mine.

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Now, if we played that same team today,

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my, I would put my money on the other team.

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'cause they,

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they have developed that much more in Pickleball,

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but at the time,

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they were still fairly new to our sport,

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to Pickleball.

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And so we played 'em in a tournament,

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and it was objectively,

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I thought it was a good match.

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Like, no,

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it was back and forth.

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And they,

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they battled,

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we battled,

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we ended up winning.

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So we get done.

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you know,

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you know,

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I thought it was a good match.

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So I come up and we tap paddles.

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I say,

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good game guys.

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Appreciate it.

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And one of the guys who we're friends now,

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but one of the guys and I,

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this first time I played him,

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first time I met him,

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he goes,

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no, I wasn't.

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And I was like,

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really? And so we had a conversation,

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I was like,

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you know,

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I, I said,

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I'm sorry you feel that way.

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You know,

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I thought it was a good match.

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I thought it was,

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it was a good match,

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you guys,

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we battled,

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right? But in,

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from, from this player's perspective,

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it was not a good match,

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right? The,

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and not just not a good match in their mind,

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right? Which shouldn't be the case anyway,

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but let me know that it,

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they didn't think it was a good match,

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right? So what does that do to me and my partner,

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right? In terms of our game,

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right? Our,

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you know,

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we had won the match,

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right? Well,

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I guess we didn't deserve it.

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I'm not sure,

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right? It's like,

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what, what signal are you sending me and my partner,

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right? And,

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and so,

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you know,

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I think it's really important when you're playing to be on

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the watch for those kinds of things,

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they seem silly,

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right? Like,

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well, they just said the game sucked and they wanted a

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different result.

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It's, it's a little more nefarious and a little bit more

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pernicious than that,

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right? Because that'll start that,

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that, that builds in your brain,

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right? This idea that that game sucked,

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or, or,

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you know,

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the result should have been different.

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And again,

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the same way that you focus on improving your shots,

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the same way that you focus on,

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you know,

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taking, keep tracking the ball,

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paying attention to what's going on when you're playing,

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trying to find the right strategy to play.

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Do the same thing with your mind,

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right? And so when you head out to the courts today,

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tomorrow, the next time you play,

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be aware of this kind of framing,

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right? Where,

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and I'll give it to you again.

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It's things like that game sucked.

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We should have won that game.

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You know,

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I messed that up.

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You know,

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sorrys. Now there's a,

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sorry, let's talk about sorrys for a second.

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I, I sorrys are a kind of thing in Pickleball.

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I think that,

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I think it's okay to say you're sorry,

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right? As like,

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it's almost like I,

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I don't know,

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like a knee jerk kind of a thing sometimes.

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That's okay,

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right? What you gotta be careful with is to say You're

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sorry, not carefully,

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but just it's not necessary right?

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For you to say,

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I'm sorry I missed that shot,

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right? Or I'm sorry,

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that like to mean it like,

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like heavily.

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Well, I'm really sorry,

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that was my fault,

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not the case,

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right? You play as a team,

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you're gonna do good things as a team.

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You're gonna do crappy things as a team.

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It, it happens both ways.

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And so,

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you know,

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let's move away from the negative.

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Let's move away from the framing that's going to undermine us,

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undermine our ability to play,

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undermine our,

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our friends,

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right? Our opponents on the court and our partners.

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And let's focus on the fact that a Pickleball is an

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amazing sport that we love.

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And we,

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we just want to get out there and play.

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I got,

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I was lucky to play this morning,

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so good day,

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right? I got to play Pickleball with some good friends and

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we, you know,

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we battled and won some,

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lost some.

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That's the way it's supposed to be.

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I hit some great shots,

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I hit some crappy shots,

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you know,

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I, I I hit some great defensive shots.

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They hit some great defensive shots.

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That's what you want.

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You want an all around,

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you know,

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battle where everybody gets to play a role in the activity

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that you're,

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that you're engaging in.

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So, you know,

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let's, let's be mindful of,

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of keeping it positive in terms of we play Pickleball.

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Let's also keep it positive in terms of understanding that it's

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a game.

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It's, it's a game where of,

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of, of ebbs and flows,

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right? You're gonna play great.

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Sometimes you're gonna play crappy sometimes.

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And so are your opponents and so is your partner.

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And so just,

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you know,

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keep that kind of framing in mind that there's all sorts

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of things that happen in Pickleball.

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We did a prior episode,

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I'll put a link in the show notes,

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but it's,

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Pickleball is messy.

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It is a messy game.

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You know,

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there's a lot of things that happen that you're like,

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you, you win points that you shouldn't have won.

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You lose points you should have won,

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you know,

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and you should have in quotes,

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right? But it's like these things that you're like,

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okay, I was,

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I was favored in that one 'cause I had the advantage.

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Lost it.

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I was in trouble over here,

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won this one.

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Sometimes you win when you should have won lose one,

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you should have won,

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et cetera.

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It's just part of the game.

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And so let's try and keep a positive perspective out there

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when we're playing.

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And I,

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I'm telling you this,

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not just for the feel good stuff,

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even though that's super valuable,

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right? To have a a,

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a good feeling when you're playing.

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I mean,

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why else play Pickleball?

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Why, you know,

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I go out there and feel like crap.

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That's just,

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you know,

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so, you know,

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have a good feel.

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It helps you with the feeling better.

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It also helps you play better.

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So be mindful of those types of things.

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If you,

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if you're playing with a partner or someone you know,

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well, and they make those kind of statements,

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I'm, again,

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I'm not gonna name names,

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but there's,

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there's if,

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if my local players are listening to this,

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they know who I'm talking about in terms of there's players

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here who I'll,

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I'll, you know,

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we'll finish a game and we lose the game and,

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and I'll have a conversation with 'em about,

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you know,

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'cause the,

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that the negative,

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there's a negative immediate reaction to it,

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which, which,

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you know,

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it, it,

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it diminishes the effort and the,

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the success that our opponents have had in that because we

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make it about ourselves.

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So be mindful of that the next couple times you play

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and see if it's out there.

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And if you see it,

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see if you can scrape off a little bit of it,

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right? Like that plaque kind of scrape off a little bit

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of it as you go.

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It'll free the mind,

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It'll, the mind will be able to feel better and also

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to play better Pickleball.

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All right,

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before we wrap this podcast,

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two quick notes.

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But you can go straight right now and sign up.

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Anyway, I'll put a link down in the show notes.

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It'll give you a,

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a, a more productive,

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more fuller way of looking at Pickleball.

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And if you haven't,

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if you've been to one of our workshops before,

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we, we,

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we always improve our,

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We're always make 'em better.

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We don't just sit on our laurels and,

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and continue to repeat the same thing over and over again.

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So you're gonna see a different presentation,

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a more polished presentation as always.

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'cause we're always moving forward with our coaching.

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As always,

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I'll be,

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have a great week.

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I'll see you next time and I hope to see if

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not all of you,

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Have a great week.