1 00:00:00,270 --> 00:00:00,929 Demons. 2 00:00:02,420 --> 00:00:08,790 Okay, for real 3 00:00:09,750 --> 00:00:12,875 If nothing else, at least we can, we can ourselves, right? 4 00:00:13,416 --> 00:00:13,926 Yes. 5 00:00:14,136 --> 00:00:15,066 Thank God. 6 00:00:15,186 --> 00:00:16,986 You wanna take a nice centering breath with me? 7 00:00:19,234 --> 00:00:20,524 There are ghosts next door. 8 00:00:20,524 --> 00:00:21,034 Alison, 9 00:00:21,933 --> 00:00:22,423 What? 10 00:00:23,103 --> 00:00:23,463 is a 11 00:00:23,914 --> 00:00:24,304 Yeah. 12 00:00:24,334 --> 00:00:26,834 I thought I would start something different instead of, Hi Alison. 13 00:00:26,884 --> 00:00:30,344 This time I would thought there are ghosts next door, Alison? 14 00:00:30,953 --> 00:00:32,793 Welcome to October. 15 00:00:32,894 --> 00:00:33,504 Mm-hmm. 16 00:00:33,774 --> 00:00:34,384 .Mm-hmm. 17 00:00:34,773 --> 00:00:39,383 I'm not gonna give you the, the scared reaction you were hoping for. 18 00:00:39,579 --> 00:00:43,959 Well, I mean, how scared would you be of ghosts that are happening in Chicago? 19 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:46,269 I hope you wouldn't be scared. 20 00:00:46,779 --> 00:00:49,479 I'm a pretty, I'm a pretty big wussy as we've discovered. 21 00:00:49,886 --> 00:00:50,186 Okay. 22 00:00:50,216 --> 00:00:50,546 Okay. 23 00:00:51,026 --> 00:00:51,266 All right. 24 00:00:51,484 --> 00:00:56,419 So I titled the, possible talk today, uh, How to Move Closer to Your Dreamy 25 00:00:56,419 --> 00:01:00,013 Career or Life Goals with ADHD. 26 00:01:00,476 --> 00:01:01,286 It's hard, isn't it? 27 00:01:01,843 --> 00:01:02,833 Yeah, it is hard. 28 00:01:02,833 --> 00:01:06,133 And honestly that sentence is hard because it doesn't mean 29 00:01:06,133 --> 00:01:07,483 exactly what I wanted to mean. 30 00:01:08,733 --> 00:01:12,413 I meant to say how to move closer to your dreams. 31 00:01:13,726 --> 00:01:14,896 When you have, 32 00:01:15,033 --> 00:01:20,553 have ADHD, cuz it does make it a little bit tougher, I think, 33 00:01:21,586 --> 00:01:21,856 Yeah. 34 00:01:21,903 --> 00:01:23,643 Based on personal experience. 35 00:01:24,084 --> 00:01:24,444 Yeah. 36 00:01:24,504 --> 00:01:25,344 It really, really does. 37 00:01:25,349 --> 00:01:31,254 And this is also fairly topical for me because this week I have been taking 38 00:01:31,259 --> 00:01:34,344 part in a manifestation mastery course. 39 00:01:34,424 --> 00:01:34,774 Yes, that's 40 00:01:35,054 --> 00:01:35,514 You have! 41 00:01:36,284 --> 00:01:41,244 That is all around kind of picking, you know, for the sake of the course. 42 00:01:41,244 --> 00:01:46,494 Of course, the goal is to move through life with this new set of tips and 43 00:01:46,494 --> 00:01:50,389 tricks, of creating whatever it is that you're trying to call in. 44 00:01:50,449 --> 00:01:54,019 So I just think it's funny that, you know, we didn't take that into account when we 45 00:01:54,019 --> 00:01:59,269 came up with this topic, but here it is, this week, this thing that I'm doing, and 46 00:01:59,269 --> 00:02:00,649 we're talking about it from another angle. 47 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:01,940 I like that. 48 00:02:01,945 --> 00:02:02,985 I think it's apropo. 49 00:02:02,995 --> 00:02:05,595 And I think, yeah, I think we were just kind of like, what 50 00:02:05,595 --> 00:02:06,735 are we gonna talk about today? 51 00:02:07,035 --> 00:02:12,675 And we've, we've had a lot of really fun ideas about this podcast this week. 52 00:02:12,895 --> 00:02:17,995 I have anyway about people that we'd love to be on this podcast. 53 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:22,855 Things we'd love to talk about, places we would love for it to take us if possible. 54 00:02:23,185 --> 00:02:24,985 I don't know, is that a thing? 55 00:02:24,985 --> 00:02:26,485 Is that a thing that people dream about? 56 00:02:26,535 --> 00:02:27,285 I think so. 57 00:02:27,555 --> 00:02:33,516 And you know, I think, that, the only thing about podcasting is. 58 00:02:34,446 --> 00:02:35,376 It doesn't pay you. 59 00:02:36,906 --> 00:02:38,766 It doesn't pay you right outta the gate anyway. 60 00:02:38,856 --> 00:02:40,506 And that's not something that we care about. 61 00:02:40,506 --> 00:02:43,266 That's, I mean, that's not, that's not why we're doing this. 62 00:02:43,366 --> 00:02:48,616 The reason I really, really love this podcast is that I get to 63 00:02:48,646 --> 00:02:52,396 speak with this level of honesty. 64 00:02:52,426 --> 00:02:55,240 And, just personalness. 65 00:02:55,750 --> 00:03:01,540 Anyway, I, Yeah, I just, I like this because we can talk about, 66 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:04,690 it's more like what you really what? 67 00:03:04,695 --> 00:03:05,380 Me too. 68 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:06,010 I love that. 69 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:10,240 And I think that people that have been listening to it and have said things to 70 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:13,750 us about that have felt that, and I like 71 00:03:13,823 --> 00:03:14,003 Mm-hmm. 72 00:03:14,530 --> 00:03:15,610 We're all learning, man. 73 00:03:15,730 --> 00:03:16,420 We're just learning. 74 00:03:16,433 --> 00:03:23,078 I think a lot of good things that happen to people, hopefully including the two 75 00:03:23,078 --> 00:03:28,868 of us, and all of our friends here in the ADHd20 community don't necessarily come 76 00:03:28,868 --> 00:03:31,538 from a place of I'm trying to make money. 77 00:03:31,568 --> 00:03:33,818 Like it's the things that you do in earnest because you really 78 00:03:33,823 --> 00:03:36,248 care about them that matter. 79 00:03:36,368 --> 00:03:40,628 Um, and I like, one thing that's kind of exhausting me right now that I'm 80 00:03:40,628 --> 00:03:46,718 realizing I didn't realize until maybe even this week, is hustle culture. 81 00:03:46,718 --> 00:03:50,618 Is everybody trying to turn everything they love into a business. 82 00:03:51,015 --> 00:03:51,135 Hmm. 83 00:03:52,113 --> 00:03:53,133 Where did we start that? 84 00:03:53,133 --> 00:03:54,993 It wasn't always this way, you know? 85 00:03:54,993 --> 00:03:59,673 And, and I don't know if it was the advent of the internet that like put these things 86 00:03:59,703 --> 00:04:01,443 that like suddenly I had control over. 87 00:04:01,443 --> 00:04:03,543 You know, it used to be only businesses could do these things. 88 00:04:03,543 --> 00:04:07,263 And now as a person, I can stand up a website or I can go onto Etsy or 89 00:04:07,268 --> 00:04:11,463 I can, you know, get a big TikTok following and, and, and make what 90 00:04:11,463 --> 00:04:14,043 I'm good at, what I love, my career. 91 00:04:14,043 --> 00:04:16,803 And it's left me personally questioning. 92 00:04:17,570 --> 00:04:18,020 Yeah. 93 00:04:18,033 --> 00:04:19,143 Am I allowed to say that here? 94 00:04:19,148 --> 00:04:23,703 Like, does everything, does everything have to be a side hustle? 95 00:04:23,703 --> 00:04:27,093 Does everything have to be a business or can you enjoy 96 00:04:27,123 --> 00:04:28,563 some things just for the sake? 97 00:04:29,433 --> 00:04:32,193 And that's not saying I don't want more people to listen to ADHd20 and 98 00:04:32,193 --> 00:04:35,403 to grow this community organically and to have lots of friends and for us 99 00:04:35,403 --> 00:04:37,083 to get to spend more time podcasting. 100 00:04:37,113 --> 00:04:38,313 That is not what I'm saying. 101 00:04:38,553 --> 00:04:41,703 I'm saying if you go into everything thinking it's gonna be your 102 00:04:41,913 --> 00:04:44,913 big money generator and you're, you know, this is, this is, it. 103 00:04:44,913 --> 00:04:46,803 I just, I don't know if that, how that, sits with me anymore. 104 00:04:47,650 --> 00:04:48,430 Well, that's interesting. 105 00:04:48,430 --> 00:04:54,717 No, I like that because I, I think that as a child of two artists especially 106 00:04:54,722 --> 00:05:02,443 one that is, was, very much about, you know, the way that she relates 107 00:05:02,443 --> 00:05:06,403 to you, to other people is what you're doing, what you're working on. 108 00:05:06,703 --> 00:05:07,693 You could do no wrong. 109 00:05:07,753 --> 00:05:11,203 It doesn't matter what you do, it doesn't matter what you say or do, but it's, 110 00:05:11,313 --> 00:05:15,543 you know, she reacts to the passion and the excitement of what you're doing. 111 00:05:15,783 --> 00:05:22,443 And so, in my mind, growing up, the way that I learned is that, Oh, I love this. 112 00:05:23,073 --> 00:05:28,323 Therefore this should probably be something that I try to do more and 113 00:05:28,328 --> 00:05:29,493 more and more and more and more. 114 00:05:29,973 --> 00:05:32,733 And it isn't that I don't have hobbies. 115 00:05:32,733 --> 00:05:34,143 I do, I have hobbies. 116 00:05:34,507 --> 00:05:35,647 You definitely have hobbies, 117 00:05:36,063 --> 00:05:36,933 I make pizza. 118 00:05:36,993 --> 00:05:41,193 I make really good pizza, but I don't wanna be a pizza person. 119 00:05:41,702 --> 00:05:45,002 You don't, I have never once heard you confess, 120 00:05:45,038 --> 00:05:46,503 I wanna be a pizza person. 121 00:05:47,042 --> 00:05:47,372 Uh 122 00:05:48,962 --> 00:05:50,692 Come get a Pizza Mattie! 123 00:05:51,092 --> 00:05:51,902 Um, 124 00:05:51,933 --> 00:05:52,353 A Pizza. 125 00:05:52,543 --> 00:05:53,913 B Yeah. 126 00:05:53,913 --> 00:05:55,863 I don't, I don't want to be a pizza person. 127 00:05:56,043 --> 00:05:59,860 Uh, there's lots of things that I love and I I would never want to do. 128 00:05:59,860 --> 00:06:02,950 And yet, every once in a while something speaks to me and I'm like, 129 00:06:05,350 --> 00:06:07,390 You know what, what if I could do this more? 130 00:06:07,490 --> 00:06:11,960 I think it's definitely Dungeons & Dragons or role playing games, or, 131 00:06:12,750 --> 00:06:17,160 creating worlds slash building things. 132 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:22,810 You know, I've, I've lived most of my life as a performer and I don't 133 00:06:22,815 --> 00:06:26,410 have that itch as much really. 134 00:06:26,785 --> 00:06:27,325 At all? 135 00:06:27,415 --> 00:06:28,165 Not much at all. 136 00:06:28,165 --> 00:06:30,475 I mean, I guess dungeon mastering is a performance like it. 137 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:30,895 It is. 138 00:06:30,985 --> 00:06:36,535 I guess it is, but not, not in the way that I just said, Oh, if I don't, if 139 00:06:36,535 --> 00:06:39,095 I'm not on stage, I'm going to die. 140 00:06:40,255 --> 00:06:40,975 I don't, feel that. 141 00:06:40,975 --> 00:06:41,905 I'm happy right now. 142 00:06:41,965 --> 00:06:42,865 It could change. 143 00:06:43,015 --> 00:06:44,035 I don't feel like that. 144 00:06:44,095 --> 00:06:47,905 And so it feels like there's something else brewing and I'm just 145 00:06:47,905 --> 00:06:51,685 kind of just going with excitements because I don't, I don't, know 146 00:06:51,698 --> 00:06:55,418 And that's, that's the much better way of saying exactly what I was trying 147 00:06:55,418 --> 00:06:59,468 to say, which is if you follow the excitement, if you follow the glee 148 00:06:59,468 --> 00:07:03,998 and the unbridled joy, that that's just going to serve you so much 149 00:07:04,003 --> 00:07:06,878 better than just following the hustle. 150 00:07:06,878 --> 00:07:10,268 Just making everything about making it bigger. 151 00:07:10,268 --> 00:07:13,678 Some things you can do for the joy of it, and if they become bigger, 152 00:07:14,843 --> 00:07:17,963 on their own naturally, organically, then they were meant to be bigger. 153 00:07:17,963 --> 00:07:19,433 And that's fantastic. 154 00:07:19,823 --> 00:07:21,473 Um, That's exactly, thank you. 155 00:07:21,473 --> 00:07:25,823 Cuz I was not, I was not the wor no good do words was happening in, in me 156 00:07:27,265 --> 00:07:29,775 No good do words. 157 00:07:32,783 --> 00:07:35,393 Yeah, I think we are actually saying something very similar, 158 00:07:35,543 --> 00:07:37,693 but you're right, We're 159 00:07:41,543 --> 00:07:48,113 You would not want to lose what we just did right now, which is barely 160 00:07:48,113 --> 00:07:52,763 makes sense for a good 10 minutes that you don't ever wanna lose. 161 00:07:52,763 --> 00:07:55,763 That's what you're telling me, and I'm with you. 162 00:07:56,060 --> 00:08:01,310 I don't wanna lose the right to, to not make sense on a podcast either, 163 00:08:01,980 --> 00:08:05,390 Alison, Especially with you, uh, 164 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:14,160 So in, in this manifest, can I share, can I share a quote with you? 165 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:15,780 I haven't shared this one with you yet. 166 00:08:15,780 --> 00:08:17,040 This is, gonna be a brand new one to you. 167 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:18,160 This broke my brain. 168 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:19,190 Do it. 169 00:08:19,260 --> 00:08:24,110 When you can learn that you can do more with less, then you will 170 00:08:24,110 --> 00:08:26,960 be able to do less and get more. 171 00:08:27,807 --> 00:08:28,297 Yeah. 172 00:08:28,657 --> 00:08:29,147 Yeah. 173 00:08:29,430 --> 00:08:30,510 Like, that's it right there. 174 00:08:30,565 --> 00:08:32,215 We're not asking to do more work. 175 00:08:32,215 --> 00:08:37,075 We're asking for our work to mean more and spend our time on the meaningful 176 00:08:37,075 --> 00:08:43,585 tasks instead of on the hamster wheel of fear and anxiety, um, and everything else 177 00:08:43,615 --> 00:08:45,475 that we experience in our human moments. 178 00:08:45,708 --> 00:08:49,988 And that was kind of the spirit in which we created today's topic, so if we 179 00:08:49,988 --> 00:08:52,758 wanna get back to our roots of ADHD&D&D 180 00:08:52,758 --> 00:08:53,228 D&D 181 00:08:53,228 --> 00:08:54,528 Please do. 182 00:08:54,578 --> 00:08:58,388 One of the things that I had said was, how do we become resistant 183 00:08:58,448 --> 00:09:04,418 and then ultimately immune to psychic damage from unsavory tasks. 184 00:09:04,423 --> 00:09:09,743 So how do we learn to like, stop being so emotionally attached to our work. 185 00:09:10,313 --> 00:09:14,453 Do the work that needs to get done without letting it affect us so much. 186 00:09:15,323 --> 00:09:20,123 Thus leaving us more open for the work that affects us in a great way. 187 00:09:20,153 --> 00:09:25,523 Because that's what I think you and I want, is to come to work and be stirred 188 00:09:25,523 --> 00:09:29,073 and shaken and, you know, I guess I wanna be a martini, I don't know. 189 00:09:29,725 --> 00:09:31,645 No, you'd be a great martini, man. 190 00:09:32,003 --> 00:09:32,633 Thank you. 191 00:09:32,963 --> 00:09:37,733 Other than no olives, but I'm, I'm a, I'm a, twist, not a, not a dirty, 192 00:09:37,965 --> 00:09:39,375 Yeah, I'm a dirty, but that's cool. 193 00:09:39,405 --> 00:09:40,035 That's cool, man. 194 00:09:40,123 --> 00:09:41,473 um, but that's okay. 195 00:09:41,573 --> 00:09:45,113 Let's, let's just do a little quick definition moment. 196 00:09:45,113 --> 00:09:48,253 What is psychic damage in the world of Dungeons & Dragons. 197 00:09:49,017 --> 00:09:53,967 Ooh, off the top of my head, it is, it's it's damage damage 198 00:09:53,967 --> 00:09:55,587 that you feel in your soul. 199 00:09:55,857 --> 00:09:57,117 It stuns you, right? 200 00:09:57,117 --> 00:10:00,657 So it's not like a physical slashing or piercing or bludgeoning, any of 201 00:10:00,657 --> 00:10:02,307 these, you know, boom, boom booms. 202 00:10:02,517 --> 00:10:07,497 But rather it's something that stops you in your tracks and may render 203 00:10:07,497 --> 00:10:09,867 you useless for an amount of time. 204 00:10:10,257 --> 00:10:15,747 It also may have an impact on what comes next? 205 00:10:15,747 --> 00:10:16,047 Right? 206 00:10:16,047 --> 00:10:19,437 Because if you don't have the mental and emotional wherewithal, then 207 00:10:19,437 --> 00:10:24,327 you can't think through taking your next turn or hopping on a reaction. 208 00:10:24,620 --> 00:10:28,580 If you're mentally damaged, man, you're not, you're not firing on all cylinders. 209 00:10:29,187 --> 00:10:30,937 I That was very well done. 210 00:10:30,937 --> 00:10:31,057 I. 211 00:10:31,492 --> 00:10:34,582 In Dungeons & Dragons psychic damage is harnessed mental 212 00:10:34,587 --> 00:10:36,142 energy used to harm others. 213 00:10:36,192 --> 00:10:36,612 Bing, bing. 214 00:10:36,612 --> 00:10:37,002 Bing, Bing. 215 00:10:37,132 --> 00:10:37,652 B B B. 216 00:10:38,328 --> 00:10:38,748 Yay. 217 00:10:41,627 --> 00:10:42,187 Uh, but yeah. 218 00:10:42,317 --> 00:10:43,037 Psychic damage. 219 00:10:43,100 --> 00:10:49,550 We take it and, and I think as those of the neuro divergent leanings, cuz 220 00:10:49,550 --> 00:10:57,230 it's probably not just ADHD, it stuns us when we feel that mental damage. 221 00:10:57,290 --> 00:11:01,700 We can't slash don't take the next steps. 222 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:02,889 We can't shake it off. 223 00:11:02,889 --> 00:11:03,669 Um, 224 00:11:03,746 --> 00:11:04,196 shake it off. 225 00:11:04,196 --> 00:11:07,046 It's, it's, First of all, for me at least, it's a, it's a much more 226 00:11:07,046 --> 00:11:12,386 emotional, it's, it starts psychic and then it goes straight to emotional. 227 00:11:12,386 --> 00:11:13,946 Like it's not logical. 228 00:11:14,436 --> 00:11:16,081 I get embarrassed about it. 229 00:11:16,171 --> 00:11:18,241 It's, it's not fun. 230 00:11:18,391 --> 00:11:23,251 There's no such thing for me as a job that I can just half-ass, I can't do it. 231 00:11:23,491 --> 00:11:25,321 And I don't know if that's ADHD or not. 232 00:11:25,574 --> 00:11:30,412 The emotional reaction to something though is, And so I get, I get just 233 00:11:30,412 --> 00:11:33,742 so, like, my day is either good or bad. 234 00:11:34,462 --> 00:11:38,062 , there's, there's no in between and it's just ridiculous. 235 00:11:38,152 --> 00:11:39,682 It's, it's exhausting. 236 00:11:40,558 --> 00:11:44,908 The ultimate goal may be to not be that mentally and emotionally 237 00:11:45,373 --> 00:11:47,623 damaged by these unsavory tasks. 238 00:11:47,623 --> 00:11:48,013 Right? 239 00:11:48,493 --> 00:11:50,953 But you and I have to think about like, the steps we're gonna need to 240 00:11:50,953 --> 00:11:55,543 take to get there, because we're not gonna start at point A and da da, nope. 241 00:11:55,543 --> 00:11:56,653 Doesn't bother me anymore. 242 00:11:57,223 --> 00:12:01,613 Um, so in the D&D world, you know, step one is resistance. 243 00:12:02,113 --> 00:12:05,113 So it still hits you, it still affects you, 244 00:12:05,390 --> 00:12:06,000 Mm-hmm. 245 00:12:06,133 --> 00:12:07,933 But not as bad, right? 246 00:12:08,023 --> 00:12:08,323 Yeah. 247 00:12:08,683 --> 00:12:10,453 You get a little half damage now, you know? 248 00:12:10,453 --> 00:12:13,333 So it's like, okay, that's our, that's our, that's our step forward. 249 00:12:13,723 --> 00:12:16,573 So how do we, you know, maybe resistant in the real world, if we're 250 00:12:16,573 --> 00:12:18,703 tying this back into real sterff. 251 00:12:19,693 --> 00:12:25,543 Is we take the damage, but it doesn't sideline our entire day. 252 00:12:26,443 --> 00:12:28,393 You know, we're, we're only shaken up for half a day. 253 00:12:28,453 --> 00:12:29,743 We're okay after lunch, 254 00:12:30,210 --> 00:12:30,570 Sure. 255 00:12:31,513 --> 00:12:34,153 You stand up and you have the dazed look in your eyes and you've 256 00:12:34,153 --> 00:12:38,143 got like the little baby chickens and stars circling your head. 257 00:12:39,373 --> 00:12:41,103 Where's your sound of that for that 258 00:12:41,970 --> 00:12:42,420 Damn it. 259 00:12:43,183 --> 00:12:43,333 The, 260 00:12:43,590 --> 00:12:43,920 I'll come. 261 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:44,670 I'll come up with it. 262 00:12:45,090 --> 00:12:45,450 I'll come 263 00:12:48,433 --> 00:12:51,253 That's my stunned approximation, 264 00:12:51,540 --> 00:12:52,080 Well, 265 00:12:59,906 --> 00:13:03,256 Anyways, so that's, it's like, that's, step, Well, step number one 266 00:13:03,261 --> 00:13:06,346 is where we are of, we get derailed. 267 00:13:06,446 --> 00:13:11,156 If I could become resistant to the psychic damage, maybe I could have 268 00:13:11,156 --> 00:13:13,256 gotten half a day's worth of work done. 269 00:13:13,306 --> 00:13:16,996 And then the ultimate goal is becoming, being so immune that I go, It's fine. 270 00:13:17,266 --> 00:13:21,976 And I just plow through that work, like, you know, whatever. 271 00:13:22,216 --> 00:13:24,166 it, it, It's not affecting me anymore. 272 00:13:24,406 --> 00:13:25,216 How do we get there? 273 00:13:25,576 --> 00:13:26,626 This is an open ended question. 274 00:13:26,626 --> 00:13:26,866 I'm not 275 00:13:27,068 --> 00:13:27,798 Oh, oh, oh. 276 00:13:27,798 --> 00:13:28,578 You don't have an answer. 277 00:13:28,578 --> 00:13:28,998 I'm sorry. 278 00:13:29,626 --> 00:13:31,869 No, Yes, Yes. 279 00:13:31,869 --> 00:13:33,759 That's what this podcast is about, Matt. 280 00:13:33,759 --> 00:13:35,079 All of the answers. 281 00:13:35,616 --> 00:13:42,025 We do not have the answer true, but, this idea of, having buffs, and armors 282 00:13:42,085 --> 00:13:45,385 and protection and resistances, Right? 283 00:13:45,385 --> 00:13:52,038 Like a buff in a role playing game is usually a spell of some kind, some 284 00:13:52,038 --> 00:13:58,172 kind of ward, a magic item, it's a term used in video games, to describe 285 00:13:58,202 --> 00:14:00,639 increases in the power of a game element. 286 00:14:00,639 --> 00:14:03,099 temporarily enhancing a player. 287 00:14:03,492 --> 00:14:03,852 Okay? 288 00:14:03,912 --> 00:14:04,332 Sure. 289 00:14:05,005 --> 00:14:05,755 I'm with ya. 290 00:14:06,082 --> 00:14:06,692 Mm-hmm. 291 00:14:06,889 --> 00:14:10,579 Anyway, it's something, it's something that you do before you go and, and 292 00:14:10,579 --> 00:14:16,219 take that project on or do that task related to that project that 293 00:14:16,224 --> 00:14:17,779 you kind of like, I can do this. 294 00:14:17,839 --> 00:14:20,789 You know, I have been, working on something that I came 295 00:14:20,789 --> 00:14:22,319 up with on this podcast. 296 00:14:22,659 --> 00:14:29,846 This very personal methodology as far as like organization of tasks and, uh, 297 00:14:29,876 --> 00:14:34,256 projects and stuff, and has been really helpful and fun for me to kind of, 298 00:14:34,539 --> 00:14:37,962 cloak it in, role playing game terms. 299 00:14:37,962 --> 00:14:41,022 So, one of the things about it that is interesting to me right now 300 00:14:41,022 --> 00:14:46,602 that seem to be helping a lot with ADHD is the idea of energy, right? 301 00:14:46,602 --> 00:14:51,816 Like you know, This is definitely not RPG specific, but a lot of people 302 00:14:52,149 --> 00:14:57,984 with ADHD have included that, extra parameter to choosing what to do 303 00:14:57,984 --> 00:14:59,994 next, how to do something next, right? 304 00:15:00,174 --> 00:15:04,524 So you look at a bunch of tasks and if you have the wherewithal when you're, 305 00:15:04,704 --> 00:15:08,960 when you're creating them and you say, This is going to take this much 306 00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:10,940 energy, this is gonna take this much. 307 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:18,590 And I think that if I'm like between two possibilities in a day and I haven't 308 00:15:18,595 --> 00:15:23,450 had my full rest, so my hit points are not, you know, back to full, right? 309 00:15:23,660 --> 00:15:28,754 And I know this and I have properly categorized these things that I have 310 00:15:28,754 --> 00:15:33,224 to do, I can choose the one that I, I can receive the least amount 311 00:15:33,224 --> 00:15:35,324 of psychic damage from, right? 312 00:15:35,324 --> 00:15:35,954 And. 313 00:15:35,954 --> 00:15:40,994 That is something that is really cool to discover. 314 00:15:41,084 --> 00:15:45,344 And it, it's weird that I'm discovering it in this very convoluted way, but 315 00:15:45,349 --> 00:15:48,584 it's not convoluted to me because it, it tends to be working, right. 316 00:15:49,074 --> 00:15:53,154 The other thing that I did today for the first time was pull these tasks 317 00:15:53,154 --> 00:15:58,090 together, number them, and roll the d6 318 00:15:58,114 --> 00:15:58,594 You 319 00:15:58,594 --> 00:15:59,450 happened to be six. 320 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:00,530 There happened to be six. 321 00:16:00,530 --> 00:16:04,340 But definitely going in, knowing the energy of, of what I needed to do, like, 322 00:16:04,340 --> 00:16:08,593 and also taking away the, decision, 323 00:16:09,507 --> 00:16:09,777 Yeah, 324 00:16:09,793 --> 00:16:12,853 Decision fatigue taking away it, I, I was like, I rolled it and I was 325 00:16:12,853 --> 00:16:13,963 like, Oh, I don't wanna do that one. 326 00:16:14,053 --> 00:16:15,013 I gotta do that one. 327 00:16:15,103 --> 00:16:15,913 But it was fine. 328 00:16:16,033 --> 00:16:16,663 It was great. 329 00:16:16,843 --> 00:16:17,353 I did it. 330 00:16:17,463 --> 00:16:17,803 It was done. 331 00:16:18,343 --> 00:16:22,153 I always have an easy time making decisions for other people and a 332 00:16:22,153 --> 00:16:24,253 terrible time, making them for myself. 333 00:16:24,253 --> 00:16:26,473 So analysis paralysis is 334 00:16:27,090 --> 00:16:27,660 That's it. 335 00:16:27,870 --> 00:16:28,560 And that's it. 336 00:16:28,610 --> 00:16:32,000 So one of the things that I've been working through this week is, uh, in 337 00:16:32,005 --> 00:16:36,460 this manifestation workshop is making sure that you're in energetic alignment. 338 00:16:37,070 --> 00:16:37,490 Right. 339 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:41,420 And a lot of the conversations that I've been having with you and Evan, 340 00:16:41,420 --> 00:16:46,760 and I think this is a very, very zoomed out, very very, macro buff, is making 341 00:16:46,760 --> 00:16:49,970 sure that the tasks that you're doing are something that cause some kind of 342 00:16:49,970 --> 00:16:54,020 genuine emotional reaction, some kind of excitement that is the ultimate buff. 343 00:16:54,025 --> 00:16:57,830 Because even if, and I think that's what people mean, we know when they say 344 00:16:57,830 --> 00:17:01,010 crap, like, if you love what you do, you'll never work a day in your life. 345 00:17:01,010 --> 00:17:02,390 Well, that's not, we know that's not true. 346 00:17:02,390 --> 00:17:05,600 If you love what you do, you're gonna work a billion percent 347 00:17:05,600 --> 00:17:07,850 harder because you love it so much. 348 00:17:08,350 --> 00:17:14,440 But you will be driven by that emotion, by that, that almost tangible excitement to 349 00:17:15,190 --> 00:17:16,750 push that task to the next level, right? 350 00:17:17,092 --> 00:17:17,512 Yes. 351 00:17:18,290 --> 00:17:21,520 That's the part that's so hard to justify, especially within the 352 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:24,340 confines of hustle culture, right? 353 00:17:24,430 --> 00:17:26,170 Because we're not, you know, it's not supposed to feel good. 354 00:17:26,170 --> 00:17:26,620 It's work. 355 00:17:26,620 --> 00:17:28,270 No, I'm throwing it out. 356 00:17:28,275 --> 00:17:30,460 I'm, I'm rewriting rescripting this. 357 00:17:31,030 --> 00:17:35,200 So one of the exercises, if you will, that we went through this week was all 358 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:37,150 around establishing your core values. 359 00:17:37,150 --> 00:17:42,260 Like just digging level down, level down, level down until you really 360 00:17:42,260 --> 00:17:44,300 get to the why of what drives you. 361 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:49,010 And so I went through the steps this week and this is a, a much longer process 362 00:17:49,010 --> 00:17:51,140 than we have time for in a, in a podcast. 363 00:17:51,190 --> 00:17:54,730 But I think it would be fun if we wanna take like one thing you want and just 364 00:17:54,730 --> 00:17:58,180 like drill for a quick second to see if we can get into kind of a core value of 365 00:17:58,180 --> 00:18:00,480 Matthew to see if we can assign that to 366 00:18:00,552 --> 00:18:00,612 Okay. 367 00:18:00,912 --> 00:18:01,152 Let's, 368 00:18:01,660 --> 00:18:04,450 So that way you and I kind of begin to have an idea of our buffs about 369 00:18:04,450 --> 00:18:08,980 what types of work we're, gonna be going after that are gonna be 370 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:10,630 the right match for our energy. 371 00:18:11,590 --> 00:18:14,434 So if you can, what's something you want, Matt? 372 00:18:15,305 --> 00:18:18,941 I want to have a home with my wife. 373 00:18:19,051 --> 00:18:24,651 And I, and I want that to be like the coolest us thing. 374 00:18:24,681 --> 00:18:28,131 Already our apartment is an extension of us, but I want there 375 00:18:28,131 --> 00:18:32,046 to be absolutely no hesitations. 376 00:18:32,096 --> 00:18:34,484 Like she's an extremely frugal person. 377 00:18:34,484 --> 00:18:35,594 She can be very thrifty. 378 00:18:35,655 --> 00:18:36,855 She does that for fun. 379 00:18:36,945 --> 00:18:39,165 I don't want her to have to be frugal. 380 00:18:39,315 --> 00:18:43,065 Like I want to just dream it up. 381 00:18:44,190 --> 00:18:45,930 Is that, does that fit into what you're asking me? 382 00:18:46,138 --> 00:18:50,158 I love this so much and the, like, you're without even being asked to the 383 00:18:50,158 --> 00:18:51,898 fact that you're already visualizing it. 384 00:18:52,388 --> 00:18:53,358 Yeah I for sure. 385 00:18:53,388 --> 00:18:53,448 You 386 00:18:53,467 --> 00:18:57,187 This is where with, again, within the confines of this here podcast, you can 387 00:18:57,187 --> 00:18:58,867 be as specific as you do or don't want. 388 00:18:59,047 --> 00:19:01,777 For anybody listening at home if you wanna go through this exercise, 389 00:19:01,957 --> 00:19:04,837 the more specific and the more of what Matt just did, the better. 390 00:19:04,897 --> 00:19:08,497 Like, if it's a house, go room by room and talk about the style 391 00:19:08,497 --> 00:19:11,227 of kitchen that you want and what you would do with your bonus room. 392 00:19:11,232 --> 00:19:14,287 And is there outdoor space and what colors would you put on the wall and 393 00:19:14,287 --> 00:19:17,107 what artwork would you adorn and, and what is gonna make your house special? 394 00:19:17,107 --> 00:19:20,587 What's the thing that when I arrive, I'm gonna say, if you and Lindsay 395 00:19:20,587 --> 00:19:23,107 weren't there to greet me, I would know that this is Matt and Lindsay's house. 396 00:19:23,157 --> 00:19:24,513 So this is what you want. 397 00:19:24,513 --> 00:19:26,283 This is what you were holding space for in your life. 398 00:19:26,283 --> 00:19:27,573 Why do you want that, Matt? 399 00:19:28,058 --> 00:19:34,628 I want that because I feel like there are, things that are kind of 400 00:19:34,688 --> 00:19:39,538 adult things and there are things that , I just don't, I don't have 401 00:19:39,538 --> 00:19:40,918 a lot of adult things in my life. 402 00:19:40,968 --> 00:19:41,778 I have my own business. 403 00:19:41,778 --> 00:19:42,858 I guess that's kind of it. 404 00:19:42,938 --> 00:19:46,178 I feel like having a home that could call my own. 405 00:19:46,291 --> 00:19:49,351 I'm ready to take that on, I think in my life. 406 00:19:49,356 --> 00:19:54,151 And I'm ready to walk out into my yard and say, That's on me. 407 00:19:54,156 --> 00:19:58,201 If it doesn't get done, that's like, I'm ready for that responsibility. 408 00:19:58,321 --> 00:20:00,859 And I think, I think that would be nice. 409 00:20:01,100 --> 00:20:05,735 So based on the lovely word picture that you painted us in question one, 410 00:20:06,225 --> 00:20:06,615 Mm-hmm. 411 00:20:06,795 --> 00:20:08,115 You have this, okay? 412 00:20:08,115 --> 00:20:08,655 It's here. 413 00:20:08,695 --> 00:20:13,580 You have the keys, you and Lindsay are in, you're working on making this mark. 414 00:20:13,930 --> 00:20:17,020 Tell me about the feelings that that's gonna bring you to have this. 415 00:20:17,637 --> 00:20:17,997 Okay. 416 00:20:18,577 --> 00:20:20,527 I think the feelings are gonna be security. 417 00:20:21,380 --> 00:20:21,560 Okay. 418 00:20:21,847 --> 00:20:22,387 I think. 419 00:20:22,447 --> 00:20:25,237 I think it's also going to imply something else. 420 00:20:25,237 --> 00:20:29,443 So in my mind, like I can dream big, I can dream super big, but 421 00:20:29,443 --> 00:20:34,153 I'm also not an extravagant person. 422 00:20:34,278 --> 00:20:35,748 Which is nice, lucky for me. 423 00:20:35,868 --> 00:20:42,036 But I feel like a house also signifies a, more secure future. 424 00:20:42,156 --> 00:20:45,906 If it's the house that I want where I walk in, it has like hardwood 425 00:20:45,906 --> 00:20:49,566 floors and it, and it probably is Victorian style in my mind. 426 00:20:49,710 --> 00:20:53,880 But inside it can be super modern and it can have all the technology, 427 00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:56,490 you know, kind of wrapped within. 428 00:20:56,730 --> 00:21:00,780 And I walk in, I start talking to some robot. 429 00:21:02,340 --> 00:21:03,600 Martini time. 430 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:05,100 How are you? 431 00:21:05,610 --> 00:21:07,530 How was your day? 432 00:21:08,010 --> 00:21:09,450 Welcome home. 433 00:21:13,111 --> 00:21:17,173 Uh, no, but that, that I would, that I would walk in and I could 434 00:21:17,173 --> 00:21:22,243 just see, that it felt, it feels like the homes that I've had in my 435 00:21:22,243 --> 00:21:23,893 past where I felt at home, you know? 436 00:21:24,077 --> 00:21:25,337 Okay, here we go. 437 00:21:25,817 --> 00:21:30,535 When I got married, I didn't think marriage was gonna change anything. 438 00:21:30,535 --> 00:21:32,035 It just just didn't matter. 439 00:21:32,115 --> 00:21:34,271 Like, whatever, it's, how's a paper gonna change? 440 00:21:34,311 --> 00:21:35,391 But it really does. 441 00:21:35,391 --> 00:21:36,501 I can't even put a finger on it. 442 00:21:36,501 --> 00:21:37,761 It's just a grounding. 443 00:21:38,361 --> 00:21:43,671 And I think that if I walk into the foyer of my house, that opens up into a 444 00:21:43,671 --> 00:21:45,801 living room with a fireplace, probably. 445 00:21:45,801 --> 00:21:49,791 And then the, dining room into a kitchen, a big kitchen that can actually 446 00:21:49,791 --> 00:21:51,531 fit more than one person at a time. 447 00:21:51,891 --> 00:21:55,671 Like that would be super grounding to me. 448 00:21:55,671 --> 00:21:57,201 Again, a very subtle difference. 449 00:21:57,261 --> 00:21:58,341 Cause I'm happy now. 450 00:21:58,341 --> 00:21:59,241 I'm happy where I live. 451 00:21:59,241 --> 00:21:59,961 I'm happy. 452 00:22:00,131 --> 00:22:02,241 I, I I have what I need. 453 00:22:02,271 --> 00:22:03,861 I don't need anything. 454 00:22:04,161 --> 00:22:06,261 And yet I bet I would feel the difference. 455 00:22:06,261 --> 00:22:06,951 I really would. 456 00:22:06,981 --> 00:22:11,241 I bet I feel the subtle difference and that's what I would really love to have. 457 00:22:12,021 --> 00:22:12,771 Is that a good answer? 458 00:22:14,031 --> 00:22:15,471 I'm not being a petulant toddler. 459 00:22:15,471 --> 00:22:16,361 Why do you want that? 460 00:22:16,933 --> 00:22:18,193 Why do I want the grounding? 461 00:22:18,883 --> 00:22:19,153 Okay. 462 00:22:20,143 --> 00:22:24,967 I want the grounding because I feel like kids of divorce maybe 463 00:22:24,967 --> 00:22:29,917 feel a little bit un-moored, right? 464 00:22:30,487 --> 00:22:34,567 I'm gonna say maybe kids whose parents die feel that way. 465 00:22:34,867 --> 00:22:41,197 I feel like there could be something I could lean into and relax into if I 466 00:22:41,887 --> 00:22:48,157 had the wherewithal to envision this place that was super safe and super 467 00:22:48,157 --> 00:22:50,827 secure and it meant a future, right? 468 00:22:50,970 --> 00:22:54,167 And the other year during the pandemic, the pandemic where we couldn't go 469 00:22:54,167 --> 00:22:55,960 anywhere, we got a Christmas tree. 470 00:22:56,170 --> 00:23:00,890 And I just felt this like, level of relaxation, this level of 471 00:23:01,220 --> 00:23:06,820 contentment because you know, parents got divorced, went to art school, 472 00:23:06,825 --> 00:23:11,080 didn't have money, went on the road, spent years without really a home. 473 00:23:11,393 --> 00:23:13,313 I never felt like I missed anything. 474 00:23:13,433 --> 00:23:18,263 But then got married, started to feel that something that you can lean into like a 475 00:23:18,263 --> 00:23:20,933 rock, which I feel like I was missing. 476 00:23:21,143 --> 00:23:26,453 So to me, having a home with Lindsay would be another, level of that rock. 477 00:23:26,663 --> 00:23:28,133 Do I still need to answer why? 478 00:23:29,001 --> 00:23:33,201 So I, I, I won't, I won't, torture you anymore on mic, but but this 479 00:23:33,201 --> 00:23:36,171 is exactly how you come up with your core values is that you, you 480 00:23:36,201 --> 00:23:37,971 keep, you start with a big idea. 481 00:23:38,271 --> 00:23:39,381 Why do I want that? 482 00:23:39,411 --> 00:23:40,401 What will that bring me? 483 00:23:40,461 --> 00:23:41,871 What will I feel like when I have it? 484 00:23:41,991 --> 00:23:43,311 Why is that important to me? 485 00:23:43,461 --> 00:23:46,191 And you just keep asking why. 486 00:23:46,761 --> 00:23:49,161 I'm not gonna tell you what your core values are. 487 00:23:49,371 --> 00:23:52,911 I'm hearing a lot of the same words repeated now, especially 488 00:23:52,916 --> 00:23:56,361 the deeper into this we've gotten most recently contentment. 489 00:23:56,411 --> 00:23:59,631 And that makes total sense knowing you and Lindsay and, and the 490 00:23:59,631 --> 00:24:02,961 type of lifestyle that really meshes with you and who you are. 491 00:24:03,531 --> 00:24:05,961 I'm hearing a lot about security. 492 00:24:05,991 --> 00:24:08,481 I'm hearing a lot about feeling grounded. 493 00:24:08,530 --> 00:24:11,350 That's important for us to know, I think as business partners, as 494 00:24:11,350 --> 00:24:13,930 friends, is that like, these are the things that make us tick. 495 00:24:13,980 --> 00:24:17,400 I am swirling when I am not feeling grounded. 496 00:24:17,405 --> 00:24:19,860 It's probably why you and Lindsay were drawn to each other. 497 00:24:19,860 --> 00:24:23,130 You know, it's like all of these different things, it explains so much. 498 00:24:23,190 --> 00:24:28,680 And so not to go too you know, meta on all of this in this podcast, but like, 499 00:24:28,980 --> 00:24:32,940 I think the better we can get to know ourselves, the better we can answer that 500 00:24:32,945 --> 00:24:37,110 question that I pose at the very top of it, which is, how do we come resistant to, 501 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:39,430 damages and what are these natural buffs? 502 00:24:39,450 --> 00:24:41,910 And for me, the answer is going to circle back to 503 00:24:42,571 --> 00:24:43,182 What's your 504 00:24:43,187 --> 00:24:43,351 core 505 00:24:43,650 --> 00:24:45,240 to, you know, what's your core value? 506 00:24:45,420 --> 00:24:45,990 so, 507 00:24:46,381 --> 00:24:50,551 So eventually, like if, if we did keep asking that question, 508 00:24:50,731 --> 00:24:52,201 I would eventually hit 509 00:24:52,201 --> 00:24:53,661 Well, Where you can't any further. 510 00:24:53,807 --> 00:25:01,817 Are there some on, on a list that are like definitive meaning like are there five and 511 00:25:01,822 --> 00:25:03,977 so eventually I would hit one of those? 512 00:25:03,977 --> 00:25:04,547 or, or. 513 00:25:05,233 --> 00:25:07,543 In the exercises that I'm going through, in the work that I'm doing, 514 00:25:07,548 --> 00:25:10,393 we've been, we've been tasked with coming up with between five and eight. 515 00:25:10,693 --> 00:25:13,573 I'll share with the listeners if it's, interesting, I came up with a list 516 00:25:13,603 --> 00:25:18,193 of seven was what I got to and my seven core values as I see it right 517 00:25:18,193 --> 00:25:26,083 now, are magic, community acceptance, spirit, ease, creativity, and love. 518 00:25:27,293 --> 00:25:30,263 When I think about all of that, that influences and I think that we 519 00:25:30,263 --> 00:25:34,888 will get to the place where we are creating our best work, if I can 520 00:25:34,888 --> 00:25:41,068 remember these core values and say, does this bring magic into my life? 521 00:25:41,092 --> 00:25:41,583 Mm. 522 00:25:41,646 --> 00:25:44,256 Does this does this bring love into my life? 523 00:25:44,286 --> 00:25:45,906 Is there a community in this? 524 00:25:45,936 --> 00:25:51,066 So that's a really big answer for a really big question that's probably, 525 00:25:51,066 --> 00:25:53,496 you know, chewier than we intended. 526 00:25:53,556 --> 00:25:58,626 Um, but it's also, it's also the real answer, you know, So I don't wanna 527 00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:04,660 I, I think it does fit in because it, it's, again, I think one thing that 528 00:26:04,900 --> 00:26:12,200 probably people with ADHD have at least I do, is, the inability to prioritize 529 00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:14,960 the executive dysfunction, right? 530 00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:19,460 To not know the difference between this task and this task. 531 00:26:19,460 --> 00:26:19,820 Right? 532 00:26:19,820 --> 00:26:24,140 So You're, you're doing what I was talking about earlier with just plain energy. 533 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:29,420 You are even refining that to, you know, okay, fine energy, 534 00:26:29,420 --> 00:26:31,490 fine, but what does that mean? 535 00:26:32,120 --> 00:26:35,240 Well, the energy, is this something that you're, you're going to be 536 00:26:36,290 --> 00:26:41,690 drawn to those core values, like you said, you're gonna be drawn to those 537 00:26:42,530 --> 00:26:44,360 even when you're exhausted, right? 538 00:26:44,360 --> 00:26:49,130 You can move forward and, and, and find those and, and get, and get to 539 00:26:49,135 --> 00:26:53,270 the places that you might need to be if you are moving in that direction. 540 00:26:53,270 --> 00:26:56,690 And so, yeah, that that makes total sense, 541 00:26:57,108 --> 00:27:00,768 When I am exhausted, these are the feelings that will reinvigorate me. 542 00:27:00,828 --> 00:27:04,998 Not even the ones I will be willing to do, exhausted, but the ones that 543 00:27:05,003 --> 00:27:07,668 will then turn that spark back on. 544 00:27:07,730 --> 00:27:08,340 Mm-hmm. 545 00:27:08,850 --> 00:27:09,460 Mm-hmm. 546 00:27:09,663 --> 00:27:11,613 Be my, and be my why's, right? 547 00:27:11,643 --> 00:27:13,773 I mean, that's what a core value is is it's your why. 548 00:27:13,773 --> 00:27:14,973 Like why was I put here? 549 00:27:15,333 --> 00:27:16,503 What is my purpose? 550 00:27:16,833 --> 00:27:18,663 All of those different things. 551 00:27:18,903 --> 00:27:21,093 It's your driving motivating force. 552 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:25,373 And I think that there will be uh, intersections and similarities. 553 00:27:25,613 --> 00:27:28,703 You know, especially when we talk about the ones around fun and D&D 554 00:27:29,303 --> 00:27:31,973 and, you know, self discovery and exploration and, things like that. 555 00:27:32,429 --> 00:27:34,739 You get queued up with the people you're supposed to be. 556 00:27:34,739 --> 00:27:36,929 And we were all supposed to play D&D together. 557 00:27:36,929 --> 00:27:45,779 We will in the meantime find alignment in gigs that make us feel grounded. 558 00:27:46,181 --> 00:27:50,441 That's gonna be more and more important I think, as we get older and as 559 00:27:50,441 --> 00:27:53,791 we're looking through all of these, big movements that we want to make. 560 00:27:53,791 --> 00:27:54,031 Right. 561 00:27:54,161 --> 00:27:54,251 I 562 00:27:54,354 --> 00:27:57,674 And to tie this all back into D&D 563 00:27:58,078 --> 00:28:02,068 I mean, the whole reason of, you know, you're in a campaign and you're 564 00:28:02,068 --> 00:28:06,118 traveling through and you're meeting, you know, the big bad evil guys along 565 00:28:06,118 --> 00:28:10,018 the road and you're fighting, and that's who's dealing the psychic damage. 566 00:28:11,218 --> 00:28:16,828 You're just trying to level up enough to live on, to fight another battle, right? 567 00:28:17,548 --> 00:28:20,758 Like it's all, it's all part of making you stronger so that way you 568 00:28:20,758 --> 00:28:24,388 can continue the journey and fight through whatever stands in your way. 569 00:28:24,778 --> 00:28:26,758 Um, and these are, that's what buffs are for. 570 00:28:26,758 --> 00:28:31,828 So you at the end of the day, can take the psychic damage and still stay standing 571 00:28:31,915 --> 00:28:32,525 Mm-hmm. 572 00:28:33,885 --> 00:28:34,875 fight another day. 573 00:28:35,638 --> 00:28:36,898 To fight another day, we shall. 574 00:28:38,798 --> 00:28:39,943 Thanks for getting weird with me. 575 00:28:39,943 --> 00:28:40,273 That was 576 00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:41,280 Yeah, man. 577 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,500 That That is fun. 578 00:28:43,530 --> 00:28:44,310 Getting weird. 579 00:28:44,310 --> 00:28:49,020 Getting weird with my friend AK getting here. 580 00:28:49,813 --> 00:28:51,853 Um, you know what we forgot to do though, 581 00:28:52,350 --> 00:28:54,241 We did, We did forget. 582 00:28:55,084 --> 00:28:56,414 I, you know, 583 00:28:57,001 --> 00:28:58,501 You remember every time though. 584 00:28:59,084 --> 00:29:04,124 I am proud of us for remembering this long and, and you know, I, so there 585 00:29:04,124 --> 00:29:06,644 are other things that we have said that we were gonna start doing along the 586 00:29:06,644 --> 00:29:08,414 way that fell off after one episode. 587 00:29:08,414 --> 00:29:09,524 So I'm 588 00:29:09,721 --> 00:29:13,411 Because they did not, they didn't speak to our core values is why. 589 00:29:13,544 --> 00:29:16,094 They didn't speak to our core values, but this one fit right in. 590 00:29:16,094 --> 00:29:20,114 And so we remembered at the end of the day, to do it. 591 00:29:20,114 --> 00:29:21,284 And that's what's important. 592 00:29:21,594 --> 00:29:26,584 It was episode number nine with our, our, our sweet friend Tey, 593 00:29:26,604 --> 00:29:29,274 that we debuted the ADHd100 table. 594 00:29:30,254 --> 00:29:30,944 What'd, What'd you role? 595 00:29:31,144 --> 00:29:32,954 I rolled a 59 596 00:29:33,798 --> 00:29:34,548 All right. 597 00:29:34,938 --> 00:29:37,788 59 oh, oh, I love this question. 598 00:29:37,878 --> 00:29:39,408 I think this might be a Fitz question. 599 00:29:40,038 --> 00:29:42,468 What PC do you wish you'd created? 600 00:29:43,064 --> 00:29:45,944 So either like one of us that you've played with or in a live 601 00:29:45,944 --> 00:29:47,444 stream that you've watched. 602 00:29:47,524 --> 00:29:47,794 Wow. 603 00:29:47,794 --> 00:29:49,084 That's a good question. 604 00:29:49,563 --> 00:29:49,983 Isn't it. 605 00:29:50,284 --> 00:29:54,124 What PC do I wish that I had created? 606 00:29:55,753 --> 00:29:58,093 You know, I'm gonna, I'm gonna have to go with the easy answer. 607 00:29:58,243 --> 00:30:01,753 And this is strange because I don't even know the show that well. 608 00:30:01,856 --> 00:30:04,056 But it's just tough to beat Jester. 609 00:30:04,176 --> 00:30:07,726 It's just to beat Jester. 610 00:30:07,746 --> 00:30:11,136 It really, really is. 611 00:30:11,136 --> 00:30:16,626 Like Jester just immediately fun, likable, complicated, layered. 612 00:30:16,798 --> 00:30:17,408 Mm-hmm. 613 00:30:17,458 --> 00:30:19,498 It's just, it's just delight. 614 00:30:19,498 --> 00:30:24,375 And we're talking about Jester, a character created by Laura Bailey of 615 00:30:24,375 --> 00:30:28,035 Critical Role Season Two, The Mighty Nein. 616 00:30:28,693 --> 00:30:29,413 So good? 617 00:30:30,343 --> 00:30:31,003 All right. 618 00:30:31,063 --> 00:30:31,963 Great answer. 619 00:30:31,968 --> 00:30:32,563 Fantastic. 620 00:30:33,043 --> 00:30:35,485 And my role is 18 621 00:30:35,917 --> 00:30:40,447 If you could only roll with one set of your dice for the rest of your 622 00:30:40,447 --> 00:30:42,877 life, which set would you choose? 623 00:30:43,116 --> 00:30:44,106 Holy. 624 00:30:44,481 --> 00:30:45,531 moly. 625 00:30:45,667 --> 00:30:49,747 And this is a good question for you, because I have like four 626 00:30:49,747 --> 00:30:54,517 beautiful sets, but you have way more than that at this point. 627 00:30:56,181 --> 00:30:57,531 You've named your sets, 628 00:30:58,234 --> 00:30:58,504 Yeah. 629 00:30:58,504 --> 00:31:01,594 Well, I buy, I buy my sets in honor of my care. 630 00:31:01,594 --> 00:31:06,844 Like I see and know like that, that fits this person, um, or have had them gifted 631 00:31:06,844 --> 00:31:09,754 to me in honor of, uh, of a character. 632 00:31:10,041 --> 00:31:10,541 That's sweet 633 00:31:11,314 --> 00:31:18,344 Um, so I think, I think the set that I always reach for, is my Sora set. 634 00:31:18,884 --> 00:31:23,654 So they're a beautiful set from Dispel Dice. 635 00:31:24,204 --> 00:31:28,434 They're just gorgeous, sharp edge resin dice, and they've got the, like gold mica 636 00:31:28,439 --> 00:31:30,924 flakes, and so they're blue and green. 637 00:31:31,144 --> 00:31:34,734 Sora is of course my little water genasi, um, swamp creature. 638 00:31:35,216 --> 00:31:37,028 I, do love, I do love dice. 639 00:31:37,838 --> 00:31:42,887 Well, we kinda, you know, decided to, to beep around and 640 00:31:42,908 --> 00:31:45,218 Today we swung for the fences. 641 00:31:45,430 --> 00:31:46,210 We did. 642 00:31:46,300 --> 00:31:47,260 I, I like it. 643 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:48,520 We got serious. 644 00:31:48,910 --> 00:31:51,970 We got, we got spiritual, we got spooky. 645 00:31:52,508 --> 00:31:53,318 Oh yeah. 646 00:31:53,323 --> 00:31:55,548 That's, the right vibe for, for October. 647 00:31:55,598 --> 00:31:56,228 It is, 648 00:31:56,346 --> 00:31:58,146 Passes the witchy vibe check. 649 00:31:58,538 --> 00:32:01,899 But it's not, it's really truly not that woo woo. 650 00:32:01,958 --> 00:32:04,928 Honestly, you're, you're asking questions that a therapist would ask. 651 00:32:04,928 --> 00:32:07,508 You're asking questions that friends would ask you. 652 00:32:07,598 --> 00:32:12,558 It's not just because you're, it, it involves like, being guided 653 00:32:12,558 --> 00:32:17,213 and, thinking about, like bringing things that you want into reality 654 00:32:17,213 --> 00:32:18,343 doesn't mean it's super woo woo. 655 00:32:18,503 --> 00:32:20,473 That's my, that's my last thought on that. 656 00:32:21,243 --> 00:32:21,743 love that. 657 00:32:21,903 --> 00:32:26,153 Not, there's nothing wrong with woo woo, I mean, isn't Dungeons & Dragons, 658 00:32:26,843 --> 00:32:30,631 basically as woo woo as you can go oo 659 00:32:30,631 --> 00:32:30,831 Whoa. 660 00:32:30,831 --> 00:32:31,684 Woo Girl, out. 661 00:32:32,351 --> 00:32:32,771 Woo. 662 00:32:33,191 --> 00:32:34,251 Woo out 663 00:32:34,251 --> 00:32:35,961 Does applause have some Woo woo. 664 00:32:37,264 --> 00:32:38,694 The first thing I heard was woo! 665 00:32:39,664 --> 00:32:40,161 we go. 666 00:32:49,081 --> 00:32:52,651 You've been listening to ADHD, 20 podcasts that you can listen 667 00:32:52,651 --> 00:32:55,141 to on all the podcasting things. 668 00:32:55,591 --> 00:32:58,891 You can support this podcast by joining our Patreon found 669 00:32:58,891 --> 00:33:02,101 at patreon.com/bivins brothers. 670 00:33:02,641 --> 00:33:07,061 If you like, please click on all the stars and thumbs and write nice things about us, 671 00:33:07,061 --> 00:33:11,471 where you can, and more importantly, share this with other people that might live in 672 00:33:11,471 --> 00:33:15,071 the intersection between ADHD and D and D. 673 00:33:15,551 --> 00:33:16,461 We appreciate ya!