1 01:00:01,125 --> 01:00:02,000 Good morning. 2 01:00:03,833 --> 01:00:05,791 And welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:11,750 --> 01:00:14,041 Okay, good Monday morning to you. It's 4 01:00:14,041 --> 01:00:15,500 the last Monday of the year 5 01:00:15,500 --> 01:00:17,875 and it's New Year's Eve. Eve. 6 01:00:18,458 --> 01:00:19,458 Today is actually 7 01:00:19,625 --> 01:00:21,916 National Resolution Planning Day. I guess 8 01:00:21,916 --> 01:00:23,916 for those of you who wanted to get a head 9 01:00:23,916 --> 01:00:25,833 start on setting goals for the next year. 10 01:00:26,541 --> 01:00:28,000 Truthfully, I haven't even thought of 11 01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:30,083 resolutions yet. I'm wondering if this is 12 01:00:30,083 --> 01:00:32,500 something everyone actually does or not. 13 01:00:32,833 --> 01:00:34,666 I started flossing every day as a New 14 01:00:34,666 --> 01:00:35,625 Year's resolution, so 15 01:00:35,625 --> 01:00:36,500 I guess they can work. 16 01:00:37,083 --> 01:00:39,500 Well, it's also National Bacon Day, so 17 01:00:39,500 --> 01:00:41,166 that's a great reason to have some tasty 18 01:00:41,166 --> 01:00:42,750 bacon with your eggs this morning, 19 01:00:43,041 --> 01:00:45,708 maybe a BLT for lunch, and a bacon 20 01:00:45,708 --> 01:00:48,166 cheeseburger tonight for dinner. Well, 21 01:00:48,291 --> 01:00:49,166 good luck with that diet. 22 01:00:49,833 --> 01:00:51,666 Alright, well, let's go ahead and jump 23 01:00:51,666 --> 01:00:53,500 into today's episode with today's quotes. 24 01:00:54,250 --> 01:00:56,208 One fun nostalgic quote from the 80s, 25 01:00:56,208 --> 01:00:58,375 90s, or 2000s, and then a second quote to 26 01:00:58,375 --> 01:00:59,250 tease our book review 27 01:00:59,250 --> 01:01:00,166 later in the episode. 28 01:01:00,916 --> 01:01:02,333 Hopefully one of these quotes will speak 29 01:01:02,333 --> 01:01:03,416 to you and jump start your 30 01:01:03,416 --> 01:01:04,291 day in a positive direction. 31 01:01:04,791 --> 01:01:07,416 Okay, the first quote is from Indiana 32 01:01:07,416 --> 01:01:09,166 Jones, and here it is. 33 01:01:09,666 --> 01:01:11,708 "I don't know. I'm making this up as I 34 01:01:11,708 --> 01:01:13,208 go." There's a lot of 35 01:01:13,208 --> 01:01:14,333 truth to this in real life. 36 01:01:14,625 --> 01:01:16,333 It's a real sign of maturity, I think, 37 01:01:16,333 --> 01:01:17,250 for us to admit it though. 38 01:01:18,166 --> 01:01:19,958 Okay, and the second teaser quote is from 39 01:01:19,958 --> 01:01:22,625 the book review, and that is, "The only 40 01:01:22,625 --> 01:01:24,666 way I can get you to do anything 41 01:01:24,666 --> 01:01:27,000 is by giving you what you want." As 42 01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:28,791 usual, we'll unpack that here in a minute 43 01:01:28,791 --> 01:01:29,750 during the book review segment, 44 01:01:30,000 --> 01:01:32,166 but first, let's jump into our usual dose 45 01:01:32,166 --> 01:01:33,291 of fun nostalgic facts 46 01:01:33,291 --> 01:01:34,375 from this day in history. 47 01:01:34,750 --> 01:01:36,833 Okay, today's nostalgic and historic news 48 01:01:36,833 --> 01:01:37,916 facts are for December 49 01:01:37,916 --> 01:01:40,958 30th. Starting back in 1922, 50 01:01:41,958 --> 01:01:45,041 the USSR was officially established. In 51 01:01:45,041 --> 01:01:47,666 1968, Frank Sinatra first 52 01:01:47,666 --> 01:01:49,416 recorded his song "My Way." 53 01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:52,750 In 1980, the wonderful world of Disney 54 01:01:52,750 --> 01:01:55,083 aired its final performance on NBC, 55 01:01:55,750 --> 01:01:57,208 marking the end of an era for 56 01:01:57,208 --> 01:01:58,541 a beloved television program. 57 01:01:59,166 --> 01:02:01,208 I definitely remember when we all used to 58 01:02:01,208 --> 01:02:02,166 sit around the TV at 59 01:02:02,166 --> 01:02:03,250 night for these episodes. 60 01:02:04,041 --> 01:02:06,625 Man, that's going a long ways back. Okay, 61 01:02:07,208 --> 01:02:09,583 in 1986, the sitcom "Alf" 62 01:02:09,833 --> 01:02:11,125 became a household favorite, 63 01:02:11,625 --> 01:02:13,125 reflecting the quirky humor of the 64 01:02:13,125 --> 01:02:15,583 decade. "Corky" is a word for it. "Alf" 65 01:02:15,583 --> 01:02:17,958 today would be a very funny show. 66 01:02:18,541 --> 01:02:21,791 In 1990, East and West Germany reunified, 67 01:02:21,791 --> 01:02:22,791 marking a significant 68 01:02:22,791 --> 01:02:24,250 milestone in European history 69 01:02:24,791 --> 01:02:28,333 and the end of the Cold War era. In 2006, 70 01:02:28,750 --> 01:02:29,666 Saddam Hussein's 71 01:02:29,666 --> 01:02:31,458 sentence was carried out for his 72 01:02:31,458 --> 01:02:33,000 conviction of crimes against humanity. 73 01:02:34,041 --> 01:02:35,875 Okay, well, on that low note, 74 01:02:35,875 --> 01:02:37,083 let's bring it back up here and 75 01:02:37,083 --> 01:02:38,833 talk about some birthdays. And happy 76 01:02:38,833 --> 01:02:40,458 birthday to you if today is your 77 01:02:40,458 --> 01:02:42,500 birthday. You share a birthday 78 01:02:42,500 --> 01:02:45,333 with a couple of big sports names, but 79 01:02:45,333 --> 01:02:49,291 first, Davy Jones of the Monkees was born 80 01:02:49,291 --> 01:02:51,041 on this day in 1945. 81 01:02:52,458 --> 01:02:55,291 Singer-songwriter Ellie Goulding is 38. 82 01:02:56,916 --> 01:02:58,416 Okay, now onto those big sports names 83 01:02:58,416 --> 01:02:59,541 with the birthday today. 84 01:02:59,541 --> 01:03:00,791 Perhaps you've heard of them. Tiger 85 01:03:00,791 --> 01:03:05,500 Woods, he's 49. LeBron James, he's 39. I 86 01:03:05,500 --> 01:03:06,416 mean, wasn't it just 87 01:03:06,416 --> 01:03:08,333 yesterday that LeBron was graduating high 88 01:03:08,333 --> 01:03:09,708 school? I'm gonna go on 89 01:03:09,708 --> 01:03:11,916 record here. MJ, Michael Jordan, 90 01:03:12,375 --> 01:03:14,333 he's the GOAT. But happy birthday to you, 91 01:03:14,333 --> 01:03:17,250 Mr. James. All right, 92 01:03:17,458 --> 01:03:18,875 well, onto my favorite segment 93 01:03:18,875 --> 01:03:21,416 of the morning serial, the music of the 94 01:03:21,416 --> 01:03:23,500 80s, 90s, and 2000s. The 95 01:03:23,500 --> 01:03:25,583 number one song from this date in 96 01:03:25,583 --> 01:03:28,291 1982. It's Another Day in Paradise by 97 01:03:28,291 --> 01:03:30,125 Phil Collins. This was Phil Collins 98 01:03:30,125 --> 01:03:32,000 actually his last number one 99 01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:34,500 song on really what a greatest hits 100 01:03:34,500 --> 01:03:36,458 record that is packed with a 101 01:03:36,458 --> 01:03:38,375 ton of great songs. And finally, 102 01:03:38,750 --> 01:03:40,500 Raiders of the Lost Ark was the number 103 01:03:40,500 --> 01:03:42,583 one movie on this date in 1981. 104 01:03:43,625 --> 01:03:44,541 Interestingly, you may or 105 01:03:44,541 --> 01:03:46,000 may not have known that the character 106 01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:47,375 Indiana Jones was named 107 01:03:47,375 --> 01:03:49,416 after George Lucas' dog named 108 01:03:49,416 --> 01:03:51,625 Indiana. This is actually the same dog 109 01:03:51,625 --> 01:03:53,416 that also inspired the character 110 01:03:53,416 --> 01:03:54,750 Chewbacca in Star Wars. 111 01:03:55,458 --> 01:03:57,208 Eventually, the movie went on to win five 112 01:03:57,208 --> 01:04:00,583 Oscars. Okay, well, let's 113 01:04:00,583 --> 01:04:01,833 move on to some enlightenment 114 01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:03,708 in the book review segment here of 115 01:04:03,708 --> 01:04:05,333 morning serial. This is where we take a 116 01:04:05,333 --> 01:04:06,500 few moments to reflect on 117 01:04:06,500 --> 01:04:08,041 lessons learned from the current book 118 01:04:08,041 --> 01:04:10,000 that we're reading. And currently, we're 119 01:04:10,000 --> 01:04:10,541 reading through Dale 120 01:04:10,541 --> 01:04:12,000 Carnegie's How to Win Friends and 121 01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:14,125 Influence People. It's a timeless book 122 01:04:14,125 --> 01:04:15,083 that is consistently 123 01:04:15,208 --> 01:04:17,500 on all the must read lists. And it is 124 01:04:17,500 --> 01:04:19,000 packed with rock solid advice 125 01:04:19,000 --> 01:04:21,000 and actions for all of us to 126 01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:22,916 use and build healthy foundational 127 01:04:22,916 --> 01:04:26,333 concepts to live by. So we finished up 128 01:04:26,333 --> 01:04:27,208 chapter one yesterday. 129 01:04:27,958 --> 01:04:29,500 And we're starting chapter two today, 130 01:04:29,750 --> 01:04:31,833 which is entitled The Big Secret of 131 01:04:31,833 --> 01:04:32,583 Dealing with People. 132 01:04:32,875 --> 01:04:34,500 We finished up chapter one learning 133 01:04:34,500 --> 01:04:36,375 Carnegie's principle number one, which 134 01:04:36,375 --> 01:04:37,291 was don't criticize, 135 01:04:37,666 --> 01:04:40,125 condemn or complain. We learned in the 136 01:04:40,125 --> 01:04:40,958 first chapter that 137 01:04:40,958 --> 01:04:42,625 everyone's behavior is based on 138 01:04:42,625 --> 01:04:44,500 their own perspectives and beliefs of 139 01:04:44,500 --> 01:04:46,041 their reality. And 140 01:04:46,041 --> 01:04:47,500 therefore, to properly interact 141 01:04:47,500 --> 01:04:48,833 with people, we need to try and 142 01:04:48,833 --> 01:04:50,625 understand their perspective because 143 01:04:50,625 --> 01:04:52,166 condemning or criticizing 144 01:04:52,333 --> 01:04:54,041 others given our different perspectives 145 01:04:54,041 --> 01:04:55,166 will generally just 146 01:04:55,166 --> 01:04:56,708 create even more negativity. 147 01:04:57,583 --> 01:04:59,333 And lastly, it takes time to learn these 148 01:04:59,333 --> 01:05:01,375 skills. And we need to practice self 149 01:05:01,375 --> 01:05:02,291 control as we implement 150 01:05:02,291 --> 01:05:03,958 these skills to interact with people in a 151 01:05:03,958 --> 01:05:06,541 positive manner. So don't criticize, 152 01:05:06,541 --> 01:05:07,250 condemn or complain. 153 01:05:07,666 --> 01:05:10,083 Principle number one. Okay, chapter two, 154 01:05:10,541 --> 01:05:11,625 the big secret in dealing 155 01:05:11,625 --> 01:05:13,750 with people. This begins with 156 01:05:13,750 --> 01:05:15,500 Carnegie saying that there's just one 157 01:05:15,500 --> 01:05:17,416 single way to get people to do anything. 158 01:05:17,916 --> 01:05:18,625 And that is by making 159 01:05:18,625 --> 01:05:20,708 the other person want to do it. And I 160 01:05:20,708 --> 01:05:22,000 would agree that I'm definitely more 161 01:05:22,000 --> 01:05:23,458 involved in an action or 162 01:05:23,458 --> 01:05:25,166 whatever it may be, if it's something 163 01:05:25,166 --> 01:05:26,875 that I want to do. And 164 01:05:26,875 --> 01:05:28,791 generally, how do you feel when you 165 01:05:28,791 --> 01:05:30,375 don't want to do something, but you have 166 01:05:30,375 --> 01:05:32,333 to do it anyways. I feel like we are 167 01:05:32,333 --> 01:05:33,500 faced with tasks all 168 01:05:33,541 --> 01:05:35,416 the time that we don't want to do, but we 169 01:05:35,416 --> 01:05:36,666 end up adulting as they 170 01:05:36,666 --> 01:05:38,125 say, and we do it anyways. 171 01:05:38,833 --> 01:05:40,666 And Carnegie does make this distinction 172 01:05:40,666 --> 01:05:42,458 that sure, we can get 173 01:05:42,458 --> 01:05:44,208 people to do what we want, say, 174 01:05:44,250 --> 01:05:47,208 if they are paid for like your job, or by 175 01:05:47,208 --> 01:05:48,541 threat of consequences, if 176 01:05:48,541 --> 01:05:50,250 they don't do something a little 177 01:05:50,250 --> 01:05:52,708 bit like our children live every day. And 178 01:05:52,708 --> 01:05:54,125 Carnegie suggests that 179 01:05:54,125 --> 01:05:55,583 although we can get our way with 180 01:05:55,583 --> 01:05:57,708 these methods, they are crude methods, 181 01:05:57,708 --> 01:06:00,291 they have the potential for sharply 182 01:06:00,291 --> 01:06:01,666 undesirable consequences. 183 01:06:02,333 --> 01:06:04,541 Doing things that we want to taps into 184 01:06:04,541 --> 01:06:05,875 some of our most deeply 185 01:06:05,875 --> 01:06:07,750 rooted basic desires and needs 186 01:06:08,083 --> 01:06:10,333 that Carnegie describes going all the way 187 01:06:10,333 --> 01:06:11,916 back to Freud and many 188 01:06:11,916 --> 01:06:13,375 psychologists since that time. 189 01:06:13,916 --> 01:06:15,750 And that speaks to people's hierarchy of 190 01:06:15,750 --> 01:06:16,958 needs, which we'll talk 191 01:06:16,958 --> 01:06:19,000 about on my other Life Happens 192 01:06:19,000 --> 01:06:22,125 podcast. But Sigmund Freud theorized that 193 01:06:22,125 --> 01:06:23,333 everything we do is 194 01:06:23,333 --> 01:06:24,500 derived from one of two 195 01:06:24,500 --> 01:06:26,791 basic motives, the sex urge and the 196 01:06:26,791 --> 01:06:29,166 desire to be great. Now that is really 197 01:06:29,166 --> 01:06:30,375 boiling it down to brass 198 01:06:30,416 --> 01:06:33,500 tacks, but surprise, Freud was on to 199 01:06:33,500 --> 01:06:34,833 something here. Carnegie 200 01:06:34,833 --> 01:06:36,500 quotes American philosopher John 201 01:06:36,500 --> 01:06:38,125 Dewey, who he believes sums up the 202 01:06:38,125 --> 01:06:40,500 deepest urge in human nature, even more 203 01:06:40,500 --> 01:06:41,750 succinctly by saying, 204 01:06:42,250 --> 01:06:44,541 the deepest urge in human nature is the 205 01:06:44,541 --> 01:06:45,750 desire to be important. 206 01:06:46,583 --> 01:06:47,750 Yeah, I'd say that's pretty 207 01:06:47,750 --> 01:06:50,041 accurate. Thinking about family, career, 208 01:06:50,375 --> 01:06:53,541 friends, legacy, being important is 209 01:06:53,541 --> 01:06:55,250 important to us. This 210 01:06:55,291 --> 01:06:57,833 is so simple, yet so profound that 211 01:06:57,833 --> 01:06:59,375 Carnegie asks the reader 212 01:06:59,375 --> 01:07:00,541 here to remember this phrase, 213 01:07:00,916 --> 01:07:04,125 the desire to be important, as it is 214 01:07:04,125 --> 01:07:05,333 significant and it's 215 01:07:05,333 --> 01:07:06,833 something we'll hear a lot more about 216 01:07:06,833 --> 01:07:09,833 in this book. So when Carnegie says the 217 01:07:09,833 --> 01:07:11,041 only way to get someone to 218 01:07:11,041 --> 01:07:12,250 do something is giving them 219 01:07:12,250 --> 01:07:15,000 what they want, well, the question then 220 01:07:15,000 --> 01:07:17,041 is what do we want? Carnegie 221 01:07:17,041 --> 01:07:18,541 goes on to make the point that 222 01:07:18,541 --> 01:07:20,041 there are a lot of things we'd like to 223 01:07:20,041 --> 01:07:22,458 have or want in this world. However, 224 01:07:22,458 --> 01:07:23,791 there are a few basic 225 01:07:24,000 --> 01:07:26,375 needs that we as humans crave with such 226 01:07:26,375 --> 01:07:28,791 intensity and insistence that 227 01:07:28,791 --> 01:07:30,083 we will do everything we can 228 01:07:30,083 --> 01:07:31,708 to be sure these certain needs are met. 229 01:07:32,708 --> 01:07:34,083 Carnegie lists eight such 230 01:07:34,083 --> 01:07:35,500 needs and I'll go ahead and list 231 01:07:35,500 --> 01:07:37,750 them out here for you. Number one, health 232 01:07:37,750 --> 01:07:38,625 and the preservation of 233 01:07:38,625 --> 01:07:41,125 life. Number two, food. Three, 234 01:07:41,291 --> 01:07:44,000 sleep. Four, money and the things money 235 01:07:44,000 --> 01:07:46,708 will buy. Five, life in 236 01:07:46,708 --> 01:07:48,833 the hereafter. Number six, 237 01:07:48,916 --> 01:07:51,541 sexual gratification. Number seven, the 238 01:07:51,541 --> 01:07:54,208 well-being of our children. And eight, a 239 01:07:54,208 --> 01:07:55,291 feeling of importance. 240 01:07:56,250 --> 01:07:58,208 Now, if you look back at the top seven of 241 01:07:58,208 --> 01:07:59,416 these, I think you'd agree 242 01:07:59,416 --> 01:08:00,625 that we all work pretty darn 243 01:08:00,625 --> 01:08:02,708 hard at making a life where we are safe 244 01:08:02,708 --> 01:08:04,791 and healthy, where we 245 01:08:04,791 --> 01:08:06,541 get good food and sleep, 246 01:08:07,166 --> 01:08:08,708 having enough money to provide for our 247 01:08:08,708 --> 01:08:10,458 family, ensuring the 248 01:08:10,458 --> 01:08:11,958 well-being of our children and so 249 01:08:11,958 --> 01:08:14,083 on. Yes, I'd have to agree that most of 250 01:08:14,083 --> 01:08:15,291 us would work our fingers to 251 01:08:15,291 --> 01:08:16,375 the bone to make sure these 252 01:08:16,416 --> 01:08:18,666 needs are met. But what about number 253 01:08:18,666 --> 01:08:19,791 eight, a feeling of 254 01:08:19,791 --> 01:08:22,291 importance? It's not something we can 255 01:08:22,291 --> 01:08:24,583 in general work hard for and receive back 256 01:08:24,583 --> 01:08:26,333 like a paycheck. Carnegie 257 01:08:26,333 --> 01:08:28,916 says, "Almost all of these 258 01:08:29,041 --> 01:08:31,583 wants are usually gratified, all except 259 01:08:31,583 --> 01:08:33,750 one. But there is one 260 01:08:33,750 --> 01:08:36,125 longing almost as deep, almost as 261 01:08:36,125 --> 01:08:39,375 imperious as the desire for food or 262 01:08:39,375 --> 01:08:40,958 sleep, which is seldom 263 01:08:40,958 --> 01:08:43,000 gratified. And it is what Freud calls 264 01:08:43,041 --> 01:08:45,208 the desire to be great and what Dewey 265 01:08:45,208 --> 01:08:46,541 calls the desire to be 266 01:08:46,541 --> 01:08:48,708 important." Well, that's a good 267 01:08:48,708 --> 01:08:50,541 stopping point for today and a good 268 01:08:50,541 --> 01:08:52,208 cliffhanger. Join us again 269 01:08:52,208 --> 01:08:53,500 tomorrow as we continue to hear 270 01:08:53,500 --> 01:08:55,208 from Carnegie about our desires to be 271 01:08:55,208 --> 01:08:58,000 important. Okay, go out there 272 01:08:58,000 --> 01:08:59,625 and have a great day. You've 273 01:08:59,625 --> 01:09:02,000 got this. Have the courage to just keep 274 01:09:02,000 --> 01:09:03,583 on swimming. Remember, 275 01:09:03,791 --> 01:09:04,875 life is what happens when 276 01:09:04,875 --> 01:09:07,083 you're busy making other plans. To make 277 01:09:07,083 --> 01:09:08,208 those in-between moments 278 01:09:08,208 --> 01:09:10,000 matter. 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So join us on those 292 01:09:37,333 --> 01:09:38,500 other podcasts as well. 293 01:09:38,958 --> 01:09:39,833 Thanks again for listening 294 01:09:40,166 --> 01:09:41,125 and have a fantastic 295 01:09:41,125 --> 01:09:42,583 day. We'll see you tomorrow.