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A lesson that I keep learning and relearning is how to let go

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of control and trust people. I

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struggle there. I struggle there big time. And

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what I don't trust, I know I try to control.

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I try to grab on with anxiety to situations. I get

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calculated in my interactions. I try to control responses.

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But I know I can't do life alone. I have to learn to

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delegate. Delegation is a challenge for me. And that is

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what we're going to talk about today. Effective Delegation

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Three steps Every leader should know

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I'm in a situation, well, a lot of situations where

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I need to trust. Well, I can trust and open up to people or I

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can try to control and there's a consequence to that. They don't flourish,

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they don't feel trusted, and the relationship

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doesn't grow. So it's trusting

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people on my team, trusting people that do contract work,

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trusting my accountant and bookkeeper and attorney,

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trusting my friends and my family. It goes on and

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on. So welcome to the Decide youe Legacy podcast. Today's

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episode is three steps every leader must know for

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effective delegation. By the end of this episode,

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you are going to be inspired to see that you can have a lot of

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freedom by learning to trust, that it's going to benefit you much more than cost

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you, that the results, even if you delegate poorly, are going to be better than

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not delegating at all. And that you can do some things, take

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action to delegate and get better at this skill. And it is a

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skill. I'm sharing this today because I am struggling greatly with

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delegating and letting go. So I have the hope that this podcast will

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help me to refine my process and to be reminded

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of the importance of delegation. You have to do that to grow

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a team. You can't go through life alone.

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When I realize that delegation is not going to kill me, that the

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consequences are not going to be so dramatic, that it's going to derail my business

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or my life or my health, then I'm more willing to actually delegate.

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It's not going to have huge consequences and I can do it incrementally with little

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things and go to bigger things. That's what good leaders do. A lot of times

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they test not in a bad way. It's just seeing if someone

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follows through. They're going to see if they can trust them with more things and

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more things. And that's how you can grow in your career, by being trustworthy

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consistently at a very high level. Consistency is key. Consistency

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in your integrity in your behaviors and your follow through and your communication,

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you can work on that. And I'm going to challenge you to work on that

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today. So I like to challenge everybody to face their fears. And. And I want

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to share one fear that I faced recently as I went to a 50th

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birthday party for a bunch of friends in Portland. Hadn't seen many of them in

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10 years. Had a great time, but I was afraid. I didn't necessarily want to

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do it. My inner roommate was talking me out of it. I trusted my gut

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intuition, followed through on my values of intentionality, relationships,

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connection, fun. Made the decision to go. It was a great decision. So

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I'm Adam Gregg. I'm your host of the Decide youe Legacy podcast.

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I'm the founder of Decide youe Legacy. I'm also a family Therapist of

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over 25 years and a legacy coach. Do speaking as well.

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My purpose in life and the purpose of Decide youe Legacy is to

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help businesses and people live

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courageously. You can take action to do so, and

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it will help your life tremendously when you do so. I struggle

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with delegating because I'm afraid that

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they could fail, that I could be embarrassed, that I make the wrong decision,

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that I trust somebody. They're not untrust, they're not trustworthy.

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I am afraid of the negative consequences

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when I delegate the cleanup, potentially if they don't do it well. And

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even I get a little bit afraid of all the interaction that needs to

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go on when I delegate. So I hire a new employee to delegate to them.

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And that requires a lot of interaction to get them up to speed. I'm afraid

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of that at times. I'll mess that up. I'll train them in the wrong way,

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I'll offend them, they won't like me. I mean, all these things can go through

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my head in those situations. But

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again, the benefit far outweighs the cost

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of not delegating at all. So it triggers a lot of fear in me.

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And the thing about delegating, too, is it triggers fear because I have

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been burned in the past. I have made bad decisions in the past to delegate.

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I have trusted people, and I've also trusted people that have been extraordinarily

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great assets in my life. And more people, as I look

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back, have been trustworthy than untrustworthy. It's just

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those few that have been extraordinarily untrustworthy can often get magnified

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in my central nervous system to

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protect me from getting hurt again. I don't want to live that way.

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It's not worth it. So three steps that are essential for a leader

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to learn how to delegate. Now, number one

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is to define what trust looks like.

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What does it look like specifically? So how would somebody know

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that you trust them? How would you interact with them differently?

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How would they behave in a trustworthy way that would tell

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you that they are being trustworthy. So if you can write that

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down, things are clear on paper, put it down on paper on

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purpose and see, like, if you hired this employee, this is what trust

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would look like. And, and for me, it would look like they're

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openly communicating with me. They're willing to share that they're struggling. They're

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willing to share that they don't know how to do something. They're willing to ask

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questions, even interrupt me, because they're asking questions. I

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like being interrupted with good questions from people on my team because

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I know they're learning and growing, and I know that they're doing something even in

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that situation that is uncomfortable. I don't always want to be interrupted. I mean, don't

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get me wrong. But if they're mustering up the courage to say, I don't know

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this, can you help me? That's a great thing. Define what trust looks like.

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Does it mean perfection? Well, hopefully not,

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because they're not going to be perfect in getting the project done. They're going

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to make mistakes just like you would. So

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does that definition require or does it mean that you are

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lighthearted around them and having fun? I mean, when you trust somebody, you're bantering,

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they're talking to you openly about their struggles. They're not looking for perfectionism.

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They're not trying to be perfect themselves. All those things to me, build

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trustworthiness. So. And then attention to detail. But admitting when you made

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a mistake, that's huge. I mean, a trustworthy person is going to say, I messed

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up here, I dropped the ball. I was wrong. No excuses.

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Admirable quality that I see again and again in people that I build

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trust with. Are they willing to own how they have made mistakes in

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the past? Even to say, look, I did this in the past, but I'm not

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going to do this now because I learned from it. And I had a

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situation one time where my daughter pointed out to me that she had addressed a

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sit. She had addressed a concern with me that

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didn't help her trust in me. And. And then.

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it again. And it related to trust. In fact, it was

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continuing to ask the same question again and again, not

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just Asking her how she had done studying her four

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finals. It was asking her multiple times. And. And she had shared,

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dad, hey, well, you know, I don't need to be asked multiple times. I got

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it taken care of. You can. I appreciate you sharing feedback with me, but I

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don't necessarily need you to ask me so many times. And then I would go

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ahead and do it again. And that would hinder the trust that she would have

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in me because I would say it multiple times. I had to step back in

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myself and say I don't need to be a nag.

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I'm trying to control someone's behavior in that situation. So I

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appreciate her sharing that I didn't correct it. Eventually I got the point message

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and I started to correct it. Big deal. So define what trust looks like

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so you can explain to them clearly what success looks like

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in this relationship. So if it's a project that

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they're working on, let's say I was just talking to our

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graphic designer about developing a bookmark that I

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give to clients that helps you shift your perspective. And we had to go through

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numerous iterations. So success as I defined it is that

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we have a deadline and that you're checking in with me midway through the

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project and that it's me asking for clarity in those

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areas. And then as I've worked with her and gotten to know her as a

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contractor, we've had good communication and good check in and there's ownership

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of when we make a mistake, both sides. When I'm too much involved,

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she has the freedom to say, dude, back off and trust me. But I don't

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want to just not give her the support she needs in the project because she

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needs enough information to create and succeed and make a winning pro,

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a winning completed project. But we had to define it. So that's what success.

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If you can define it for people, as I do with clients, any kind of

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contract, any coaching relationship, let's define specifically what success

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would look like. If we engage in this and if we can define it clearly,

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then we can focus on that and it's going to show you how much

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progress we're making on the journey towards getting

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that project done or establishing that employee employer relationship

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reaching our goals. It's crucial. I recently

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decided to revamp the whole Decide youe Legacy website. It needed a

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revamp that requires me to trust and delegate because I can't

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do the website. I think I can do some things and I'm pretty

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dangerous, actually. I'll mess it up pretty bad. And I need to trust people who

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have more expertise in this area than myself. So I hired somebody. He

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did our website, his company, the company did our web, completed our website in the

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past, they're gonna do it again, a great thing. And I have to let go.

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And it's scary to me. I feel even silly

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sharing how controlling I can be.

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And go to the worst case scenario. It's going to bankrupt our business, they're going

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to mess it up, it's going to look funky, I'm going to

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have the brands destroyed. I mean, all these things. And if you're hearing

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and listening to this, if you work for this company that I hired, forgive me

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because I trust you enough to hire you. And

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it's my problem, it's my issue. I am a control

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freak in recovery and I've made

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a lot of progress recently, but I got a lot of work to do.

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That is me. So second essential step to learn how to delegate is

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that you must provide clarity. And this is a little bit different

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than defining what trust looks like. The clarity means that

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you are taking the time to do the hard work that it takes to

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delegate. Well, because they won't know what to do unless

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you ask for what you want. And you spelling out what you want means

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having a job description or a project description, explaining

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to them what tools and resources they have, asking from them what

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they need, asking what questions they have and need answers to.

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So for this website project, he has to ask me

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specific questions, some of which I give him that I want

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addressed on the website and we talk it through. I have to take the time

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to step back and send the content over that I want on the website.

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I have to be able to share with him what ideas I

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have for the branding, what our niche is,

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who our target market is. Kind of the same thing, what makes

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us unique as an organization, what our values are and how I want those things

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expressed, and then to trust that he does what

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he does best, which is the creativity. And his team is a team of writers.

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I don't claim to be a skilled writer in that regard.

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Business, professional writing. I'm good in some ways

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maybe, but I'm not good in some ways. And the problem

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with me at times is my ego. I don't want to let go.

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That safety, ego function makes me want to control

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and protect and protect what I have and what is

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mine. And that's not healthy and good. And it creates a great deal of stress.

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So all this delegation from for you listening, I hope to inspire

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you to see that at the end of this episode, you're gonna see a path

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to freedom and actually a path to more success in your business, a path

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to more success in your relationships. You can do things specifically,

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that's gonna save your life potentially because you're letting go of

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things. So I was just talking to somebody today who's a friend and

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he's in his 80s and he struggles with some health

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areas and his spouse struggles as well. And that was the

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question I had is what can you let go of? Because he admits he's a

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control freak as well. And he has people trying to help him, but he's not

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letting them help him. And so the assignment for him in our conversation was

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what can you do to

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get some help? You know, And I challenged him too, because he's a good friend.

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I mean, it was like, hey, I had permission to push back and

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saying, you know, my perception of you at times is that when people give you

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a good idea that is requires getting help from somebody else, that

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you quickly go on to a new topic. Maybe I'm wrong here, maybe I'm

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off pace, but. And you have freedom to share with me if I am. But

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it ended up being a very productive, positive conversation about how

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to take care of aging family members in a healthy way without burning yourself

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out. He wants to get out of his house more. And he went to the

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casino with some people in his family and had a great time and was really

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energized by it. And I'm like, he likes to go to baseball games and sporting

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events and he can't get out because of his spouse at times. At least that's

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what he tells himself. But he has all these family members that would like to

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actually get him out and, and step in and help, but he's not and hasn't

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by his own self admission, been doing so really crucial thing.

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So you provide them clarity, and that can be checking in with

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them and giving them more clarity, sending an email, asking for an update. And there's

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a fine line at times between being nagging and controlling and being

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informative and being healthy in your discussion of the project's progress.

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Cause you're not gonna be a good leader too if you forget

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what they have committed to doing because you're paying them to do a certain task.

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So one of the big mistakes that I have made over the years in coaching

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clients, former coaching clients, people that know me, I apologize

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for this one, is not following up with clients on

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their commitments, commitments that they have made. Part of that is because

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I know there may be some pushback as to why they didn't get it done.

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shame, but they're ashamed that they didn't get the project done that they committed to.

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This is not necessarily contractors, but it can be. If you don't hear from a

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contractor on an assignment, there's a good chance that they got sidetracked and

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they're working on it to catch up and they don't really want to check in.

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I mean, but that may be a good reason to potentially check in. Not to

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shame them, but just to have some dialogue. Because maybe it opens up a

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conversation about how they're not managing their time well and you still

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believe in them, you still trust them, but you have a good, healthy conversation because

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they can admit, and they will admit, hopefully, in that situation, that they're

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not making the progress that they wanted to make. So the third

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essential is to let go. This is all about letting

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go, but to intentionally get to the point where you're making the decision

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that I've gotten to the place where I can let this thing go and

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give them a chance and believe in them. And when you let go, you gotta

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really let go. I mean, like, it's really essential. They feel in

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you, in your approach, that you're actually saying, I

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know you can do this. I believe in you potentially even more than you believe

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in yourself. I know you can do this. And I'm going to let go of

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the situation. And I've just talking about this. I have a great

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deal of areas where I need to let go more and to see what

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happens, but I need it. I need to make sure I do that. I asked

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one of the people on my team, a real key staff member today, like, what

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can I do to better let go? And

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the employees said they wanted to think about it. And I just got an email

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from them because I'm in a studio right now saying, hey, I want to talk

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to you more about that. I have more thoughts on it and I'm really excited

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about the conversation because I think it'll help me tremendously because they have very

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good insight. I need to let go. And so in recently, some ways that I

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have let go are by spending some money

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on things that I wouldn't normally spend money on. It's a letting go of my

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finances. Because you can let go there. You can let go of plans by

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letting someone else make the plans. And not that you're not sharing your opinion or

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anything, but you're trusting that they can do it. Well, it's a good reason to

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have a travel agent at times to trust them that they can do your agenda.

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I like that. I don't like overjamming my days. You can let

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go of your health, not to let go of your health and like not take

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care of your health, but trust medical advice that people

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give you. People that have more expertise on your health than

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you do. Like your primary care physician or trusting

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your financial accountant or planner on

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decisions because you've delegated that to them and then taking their

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advice on how to make that win and not thinking you have all the answers,

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which I can at times, trusting your attorney if you have one.

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Those are all ways to delegate. And then you learn in the process.

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And so what it means to let go is going to

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be. It's on the other side of anxiety. It's

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sort of close to anxiety, but there's going to be a sense

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of excitement with it. Like I'm letting go and I know they can do it.

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This is gonna be big. I may be let down, but I know people don't

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generally wanna let other people down. I mean, I find that if you delegate, there's

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people out there, they just wanna win. I mean they wanna let you, they want

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you to be excited about what they actually get done. Which will be

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very surprising to you if you're a control person like me. I mean,

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very surprising when you see somebody who, they see how you've

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let go and then they over exceed your expectations and then the business with

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them grows, the trust with them grows, they get promoted, they, they grow in their

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position and you see them succeed and that's very exciting.

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And so a little story here. I

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decided that I was going to delegate something to

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a person recently and it ended up

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being that they, they did a really good job on the project but. And they

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did a really good job in the situation. But they came back to me and

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they were going off and moving town and I knew that it would be a

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short term project but basically expressed that that

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it wasn't the healthiest dynamic and just be short and

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sweet. I hired my daughter and I said that on another podcast

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and Emerson, she came to me and she said

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and she's an adult and everything, but she had never actually worked as an

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employee of Decide youe Legacy. And I feel like she would be a great employee.

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I know she'd be a great employee and I think there's great

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potential in the future and Everything. But she came to me and she expressed

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that after I had delegated this stuff and she wasn't supervised by me, but

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expressed that she was at a place where she wanted more of a dad than

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a boss. She's going off to school. And I took that kind of hard. I

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mean, it was like I delegated something I trusted something I fully trusted. It

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was kind of. It was a risk and everything. And then it took me a

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couple days to bounce back out of that and think, and this again, I'm

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owning this right here. And then to just think, you know, that's really a valid

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point and that's a mature perspective. And. And as I went into

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it, I hadn't thought it through enough. I got overly excited about having her on

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the team and I didn't think it through enough to go through the process that

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I would go through in delegating to somebody else because I was so excited.

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So you can kind of jump in too quick. And I don't think I did

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jump in too quick. It was spontaneous. I'm really glad because I learned and I

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believe she learned and I believe my team learned. Our team grew in

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that whole process. So make a decision.

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You know, indecision is a decision. The worst thing you can do is make no

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decision. The best thing you can do is make the best decision. And

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the second best thing is to make a decision that doesn't go well. That's better

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than making no decision at all. So let that sink in. And if

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you found this content helpful, hit the link to Shatterproof yourself

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light. 7 small steps to a giant leap. To a giant leap in

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your life. Period. It's a 20 minute video, 25 minute

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video in a worksheet, four page worksheet you fill out as you watch the video.

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You want to write your answers down. I would encourage you to. Or type them

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in the fillable PDF. Download that. It's going to help you out and it's

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going to help you in one area specific to delegation and it's the

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emotional component. One of the sections is on how to own your

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emotions because that letting go is an emotional fear thing

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that you can actually do. There's an article that's linked that goes on with

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this, goes along with this episode as well. And it's on.

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It's on delegation steps. That article has not been written

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yet, but by the time it's been, this podcast has been published at

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least like a month after it's been published, there will be an article on this

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content. So that's a challenge to myself. I just delegated

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that to myself as I went through this episode. So nothing's going to make

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me happier than knowing you took an action based on this content to delegate.

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So please share with me in the comments how you have

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delegated because that's gonna inspire me and take one action.

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That's you applying something here that you learned in

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this podcast. Share it with your friends. I wanna delegate to you. Give it a

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rating and review on Apple or Spotify. Subscribe

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as well. Share it with other people. That helps it reach more people

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organically. And that's what we're in the business of doing, helping people

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live courageously. Delegation is a courageous act.

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Trusting is a courageous act. There's no positive change until you

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decide to change. To decide means you are eliminating other

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options and your legacy depends on you. Deciding the

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impact that your life has on others is your legacy. I want to close

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today the way I always do. Live the life today that you want to be

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remembered for. Ten years after you're gone. You decide your legacy.

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Nobody else. I appreciate you greatly and I'll see you next time.

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