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Cold plunge thoughts.

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No matter how good our intentions are, people are going to misjudge what we're doing.

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People are going to see some ulterior motive.

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People are going to judge us fairly or unfairly. And it's easy for us to do

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the same to other people.

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I found two strategies that have helped me deal with this.

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I've found two strategies that have helped me not judge people harshly.

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Number one, assume positive intent.

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Assume that people are doing the best they can with what they got,

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no matter what's going on.

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And number two, use blameless discernment instead of judgment.

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Blameless discernment is identifying what happened, keeping the emotions out

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of it, and just looking at the facts.

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If somebody cheated me out of something, then I can blamelessly discern that

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they cheated and it wasn't cool, and I can keep them at arm's length in the future.

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And I don't even have to judge them. I can just say, this was a bad situation.

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I should steer clear of that.

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The real issue with judging isn't that, though. The real issue with judging

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is when we assume we understand what their intentions were or why they were

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doing something that they did.

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So blamelessly discerning just identifies their actions without us taking into

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account why or how they did it, because we can't know that.

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Unless they explicitly tell us and we believe that they're being honest, we can't know.

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So, assume positive intent and blamelessly discern rather than judge others. It helps a lot.

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This is how I deal with people who wrong me.