1 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:16,600 Welcome Back to episode 43 of Working Towards Our 2 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:20,400 Purpose. Thank you for being here today. I want to talk about 3 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:24,320 the upper limit problem. And before we get into that, 4 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:28,000 I'm going to start the episode with some positive things from last week like I 5 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:31,750 did last week. So, first positive thing, my new 6 00:00:31,750 --> 00:00:35,510 single came out last Thursday, so that is on all streaming 7 00:00:35,510 --> 00:00:39,350 platforms if you are so inclined to check it out. 8 00:00:40,310 --> 00:00:44,070 I really like it. And yeah, a little bit of 9 00:00:44,070 --> 00:00:47,910 a new direction. But yeah, having fun with the singles project for 10 00:00:47,910 --> 00:00:51,590 2025 of recording, writing, releasing 11 00:00:51,590 --> 00:00:55,400 a new song for each month. So, yeah, 12 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:58,240 that was positive. I got that one out. It was my seventh of the year. 13 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:02,480 And I also was able 14 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:06,000 to revisit the library this week. 15 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:08,160 I had a library book that was 16 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:12,960 like over a year overdue. 17 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:17,760 It was this book that I took out and it was really good and 18 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:21,360 I initially wanted to record a 19 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:24,570 podcast with the author of that book and, and 20 00:01:26,090 --> 00:01:29,810 never really got around to it, but I kept the book thinking that I 21 00:01:29,810 --> 00:01:33,610 would one day. So I ended up rereading it and then returning it. 22 00:01:34,090 --> 00:01:37,770 And luckily the New Haven Public Library 23 00:01:37,770 --> 00:01:41,570 Systems does not have late fees, so as soon 24 00:01:41,570 --> 00:01:45,130 as I returned it, I was able to take out another book. And 25 00:01:45,770 --> 00:01:49,610 yeah, I think the library is like such a great resource that I always 26 00:01:49,610 --> 00:01:52,880 forget is there. Um, so I'm going to be 27 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:56,400 definitely using it more often. I took out another book 28 00:01:56,800 --> 00:02:00,240 and looking forward to trying to get it back in the 29 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:04,560 suggested time frame this time. Um, 30 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:07,159 so getting a little bit better at reading. I think I might be able to 31 00:02:07,159 --> 00:02:10,520 do it. Um, so yeah, looking forward to keep using the 32 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:14,160 library because I think it's such a great resource that is there for everyone 33 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:17,520 and yeah, want to, want to keep using it. 34 00:02:18,640 --> 00:02:22,400 And the other thing that was exciting from 35 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:26,140 last week, I found out that New Haven is 36 00:02:26,220 --> 00:02:30,020 doing a TEDx talk again this year and they 37 00:02:30,020 --> 00:02:33,420 did one a couple years back, maybe like three or four years ago. 38 00:02:33,660 --> 00:02:37,020 It was like right when I moved to New Haven and I went and it 39 00:02:37,020 --> 00:02:40,860 was cool. But so anyways, I saw a 40 00:02:41,340 --> 00:02:45,180 posting online for it and they were looking for speakers 41 00:02:45,580 --> 00:02:48,620 and at first I was like, oh, that'd be really cool if I could do 42 00:02:48,620 --> 00:02:52,060 it. Um, but then I quickly talk myself out of it, but then I 43 00:02:52,540 --> 00:02:56,140 then talk myself back into it. Um, so I think 44 00:02:56,540 --> 00:03:00,060 I will apply to be a TEDx speaker. 45 00:03:00,220 --> 00:03:03,900 I'm kind of coming up with my thesis 46 00:03:03,900 --> 00:03:07,620 now. I guess my. My like point of the talk and 47 00:03:07,620 --> 00:03:11,340 I have until the 15th of August to apply and 48 00:03:11,340 --> 00:03:14,220 yeah, kind of see where it goes from There. But I'm really excited. I think 49 00:03:14,910 --> 00:03:18,190 it could be a really good, challenging thing for me. 50 00:03:18,270 --> 00:03:22,030 Um, and, yeah, I think. I think I kind of have a 51 00:03:22,030 --> 00:03:25,670 topic. I'm just working on, narrowing it down. Um, so more to come on that, 52 00:03:25,670 --> 00:03:29,430 but really looking forward to applying to that and hopefully getting 53 00:03:29,430 --> 00:03:33,190 in because they actually work with you. They have, I 54 00:03:33,190 --> 00:03:37,030 guess, like, speaker coaches that kind of work with you a 55 00:03:37,030 --> 00:03:40,630 little bit to, like, hone in your topic and, you know, get you better at 56 00:03:40,630 --> 00:03:43,230 it and stuff like that. Um, so I think that that would be a really 57 00:03:43,230 --> 00:03:46,990 cool opportunity. And, yeah, it would just be a great thing to 58 00:03:46,990 --> 00:03:50,790 do, a good accomplishment. Um, and 59 00:03:51,270 --> 00:03:54,990 he also had a great weekend. It was beautiful 60 00:03:54,990 --> 00:03:58,790 weather this weekend, and I. I did a farmer's 61 00:03:58,790 --> 00:04:02,270 market this weekend for South Haven 62 00:04:02,270 --> 00:04:05,430 Farms. Stephanie at South Haven Farms, I covered for her this weekend 63 00:04:05,990 --> 00:04:09,550 and shout out for her for letting me do that and 64 00:04:09,550 --> 00:04:13,370 trusting me with selling her produce, because I had a 65 00:04:13,370 --> 00:04:17,130 great time. Got to see some familiar faces. It was the farmer's 66 00:04:17,130 --> 00:04:20,970 market that I managed last year. So it's just a really great day. 67 00:04:21,370 --> 00:04:24,890 I really enjoyed doing it, Enjoyed being back vending at farmer's 68 00:04:24,890 --> 00:04:28,610 markets, something I did in the past and always 69 00:04:28,610 --> 00:04:32,450 enjoyed doing farmer's markets. And then at the end of the 70 00:04:32,450 --> 00:04:36,170 day, Caitlin from Sunset Farms ended up giving 71 00:04:36,170 --> 00:04:39,390 Relished Roots a Me and my 72 00:04:40,110 --> 00:04:43,950 business partner Sam's company Relished Roots a bunch of cabbage 73 00:04:43,950 --> 00:04:47,710 for us to ferment into sauerkraut. So shout out 74 00:04:47,710 --> 00:04:50,990 to Caitlin for all of that cabbage that she gave us. I don't know how 75 00:04:50,990 --> 00:04:54,510 many pounds it was, but it was quite a bit. So 76 00:04:55,150 --> 00:04:58,310 looking forward to turning it into some kraut and to giving her some kraut for 77 00:04:58,310 --> 00:05:01,950 it. And it was kind of like a barter system. She was 78 00:05:01,950 --> 00:05:05,150 like, if I give you a bunch of this kraut, will you. Or if I 79 00:05:05,150 --> 00:05:07,590 give you a bunch of this cabbage, will you turn it into kraut and give 80 00:05:07,590 --> 00:05:11,290 me some? Because I just don't have the time. And I was like, yeah, definitely. 81 00:05:12,650 --> 00:05:16,450 So just a cool reminder, like the farmers market culture 82 00:05:16,450 --> 00:05:20,290 of bartering. I really. I really enjoy that, like, being able to 83 00:05:20,290 --> 00:05:24,090 give somebody something for something else. There's no money exchange, but kind 84 00:05:24,090 --> 00:05:27,770 of just trading of goods and services. I really like that 85 00:05:28,010 --> 00:05:31,810 model of taking money out of the equation. So. So, yeah, 86 00:05:31,810 --> 00:05:34,290 that was really cool. And it was really cool to just be back at the 87 00:05:34,290 --> 00:05:38,080 markets this weekend. And it was such a. Again, beautiful, beautiful weather 88 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:41,720 weekend. So, yeah, so a little bit more about 89 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:45,280 Microsoft later on. Have an example of 90 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:49,560 what we're going to talk about today. But yeah, to get 91 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:52,160 into the topic of today, the upper limit problem 92 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:57,080 is an idea that comes from this book that I 93 00:05:57,080 --> 00:06:00,320 read called the Big Leap and it's by Gay 94 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:04,080 Hendricks. And one of the, one of the 95 00:06:04,080 --> 00:06:07,520 major takeaways from this book is the upper limit problem 96 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:12,080 and like what it is and how it holds us back and 97 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:16,000 how we hold ourselves back. But to define 98 00:06:16,080 --> 00:06:19,760 like what the upper limit problem is, it's pretty 99 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:23,320 much like a sort of, you know, Hendrix 100 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:26,760 describes it in his book as this thermostat that we have for 101 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:30,400 ourselves that is like the 102 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,840 acceptable limit of love, success, 103 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:37,880 wealth, creativity and anything that you can like, you know, get in 104 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:41,520 life. It's this limit that we have on ourselves. Like this 105 00:06:41,840 --> 00:06:45,360 self imposed almost, we don't even really realize 106 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:49,320 limit that's there. And yeah, 107 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:53,080 basically, you know, this limit that we give 108 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:56,400 ourselves kind of limits us in our lives. So, 109 00:06:56,820 --> 00:07:00,620 you know, if, if we're doing well in one area or something good is happening 110 00:07:00,620 --> 00:07:04,340 to us, we tend to then kind of 111 00:07:04,340 --> 00:07:08,100 drive negativity towards us or you know, almost envision something 112 00:07:08,100 --> 00:07:10,900 bad happening to us, starting to feel bad about a situation. 113 00:07:12,260 --> 00:07:16,100 This upper limit problem basically turns down the positive feelings 114 00:07:16,100 --> 00:07:19,900 that we are getting from something that's happening to us, like a good 115 00:07:19,900 --> 00:07:23,400 thing that's happening. So you know, for example, 116 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:27,360 when I was a kid, I would always think anytime something good 117 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:31,080 happened, if we were going on a vacation or something 118 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:34,600 and I was feeling happy and I was like, oh, this is great, 119 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:39,320 this is a good thing that's happening. I would always kinda wait for 120 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:43,880 there would be a point at which I would be like, oh, a good thing's 121 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:47,240 happening, that means a bad thing's gonna happen next. And then I would kinda 122 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:50,720 then be afraid of this bad thing happening. And I don't know if you can 123 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:54,340 relate to that. But yeah, just this 124 00:07:54,580 --> 00:07:58,260 like impending thing, impending feeling of like, oh, 125 00:07:58,260 --> 00:08:02,020 there's going to be a bad thing happening because that there's a good thing happening. 126 00:08:02,260 --> 00:08:06,060 And what this book Big Leap describes is that that kind 127 00:08:06,060 --> 00:08:09,820 of comes from this inner feeling of you 128 00:08:09,820 --> 00:08:13,060 don't deserve good things or you're not worthy of good things. 129 00:08:14,420 --> 00:08:17,700 So, you know, a good thing happens to you and maybe you can feel 130 00:08:18,330 --> 00:08:22,010 happy and you know, be in the moment for a little bit. 131 00:08:22,090 --> 00:08:25,770 But then this voice starts to be like, subconscious voice, you know, 132 00:08:25,770 --> 00:08:29,250 you're not really thinking of it in this way, but the subconscious voice kind of 133 00:08:29,250 --> 00:08:32,930 tells you like, oh, you're not good enough, you don't deserve this. This Good 134 00:08:32,930 --> 00:08:36,250 thing. So then you start to bring yourself down, you start to feel bad, you 135 00:08:36,250 --> 00:08:40,090 start to have bad feelings. You start to, you know, in my example, 136 00:08:40,330 --> 00:08:43,770 worry about a negative thing that's going to happen. And. 137 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:48,600 Yeah, and in this book he kind of challenges you to think about 138 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:52,440 this limit that you have and to challenge it and to try 139 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:56,280 to increase the capacity of it. Because if you can increase 140 00:08:56,520 --> 00:09:00,240 your upper limit capacity, then you can increase the 141 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:03,960 amount of success, wealth, love that you 142 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:07,760 accept and that you accept for yourself. So it's kind of this 143 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:11,560 idea of, you know, I think it's a lot of, a lot 144 00:09:11,560 --> 00:09:14,800 of similar things that people have talked about before, 145 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:19,120 like knowing your worth, a lot of people say, and like things like that. 146 00:09:19,120 --> 00:09:22,720 But it kind of culminates it into a more tangible 147 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:26,480 idea, at least for me to think about, like this 148 00:09:26,480 --> 00:09:30,320 literal limit that you have on yourself. And you're 149 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:33,680 the one that's kind of put that there from whatever circumstances. 150 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:37,800 You know, maybe something happened to you as a kid or, you know, however you 151 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:41,510 interpreted it, maybe somebody, a parental figure told you 152 00:09:41,510 --> 00:09:45,310 to like, you know, worry about something or, you know, don't be 153 00:09:45,310 --> 00:09:48,790 too happy because bad things happen and, you know, just the sort of 154 00:09:49,190 --> 00:09:51,590 negative outlook on life that people can have 155 00:09:52,790 --> 00:09:56,470 and, you know, it can come from a protection sort of standpoint, but 156 00:09:57,590 --> 00:10:00,870 it really can affect you as far as this upper limit. 157 00:10:01,190 --> 00:10:04,870 And yeah, so this, this one idea of like increasing 158 00:10:05,410 --> 00:10:08,970 your upper limit can have a huge effect on your life 159 00:10:08,970 --> 00:10:12,370 and the amount of success that you 160 00:10:12,610 --> 00:10:16,170 can basically, what's the 161 00:10:16,170 --> 00:10:18,770 word? Like accept or withstand. 162 00:10:20,450 --> 00:10:24,170 So, yeah, I challenge you to notice that 163 00:10:24,170 --> 00:10:27,970 maybe, or to think about an example in the past of when 164 00:10:27,970 --> 00:10:31,780 a good thing has happened, were you able to kind 165 00:10:31,780 --> 00:10:35,420 of just enjoy it and like ride that good feeling into the next good 166 00:10:35,420 --> 00:10:39,100 feeling or, you know, did something come up that was negative? 167 00:10:39,660 --> 00:10:43,340 And, you know, another good example that comes up in the book is 168 00:10:43,340 --> 00:10:47,180 the example of lottery winners. A lot of people who 169 00:10:47,740 --> 00:10:51,140 win the lottery win like a, you know, a big sum of money in the 170 00:10:51,140 --> 00:10:54,620 lottery will tend to either lose it or, 171 00:10:55,900 --> 00:10:59,500 you know, a lot of them. I think there was stats on people 172 00:10:59,500 --> 00:11:02,980 who actually died after winning the lottery 173 00:11:03,140 --> 00:11:06,180 shortly after or lost everything. And 174 00:11:07,220 --> 00:11:09,300 yeah, kind of just this idea, I guess, of 175 00:11:10,660 --> 00:11:14,260 average people who win a crazy amount of money 176 00:11:14,260 --> 00:11:17,860 that they never imagined before. And 177 00:11:18,100 --> 00:11:21,620 now all of a sudden they have all this money and just this kind of 178 00:11:21,620 --> 00:11:24,980 guilt that you are perhaps have or 179 00:11:25,060 --> 00:11:28,580 maybe deep down you don't believe that you deserve this big sum of money. 180 00:11:28,740 --> 00:11:32,320 So then you start bad choices and you Start either spending it or 181 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:36,040 maybe doing risky behavior or something like that. And that's kind 182 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,800 of again, your upper limit problem. And it kind of goes into 183 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:43,080 different areas of your life too. So, like, if you are very 184 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:46,160 successful in monetary 185 00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:50,440 values, you get a lot of money, then maybe you might start 186 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:53,520 sabotaging other areas of your life, like your relationships. 187 00:11:54,560 --> 00:11:58,320 Another example is a lot of business owners that become very wealthy 188 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:02,560 will start to sabotage their relationships and maybe, you know, they'll 189 00:12:02,560 --> 00:12:06,200 cheat on their partner or, you know, just start to 190 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:09,280 sabotage the relationships that they have with people. 191 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:13,360 And it's, it's again, this upper limit problem of like, 192 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:17,240 okay, I got a bunch of money, but now I don't believe that I 193 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:20,960 can be wealthy and also like receive love from 194 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,210 relationships. So, 195 00:12:24,490 --> 00:12:28,250 yeah, this, this idea I've wanted to talk about on the podcast 196 00:12:28,250 --> 00:12:31,770 for a little bit, um, because I think it was hugely impactful for me 197 00:12:32,170 --> 00:12:35,850 and this weekend was kind of a good example, 198 00:12:35,850 --> 00:12:39,130 I think. And like, it reminded me of the upper limit so 199 00:12:40,330 --> 00:12:43,730 of the upper limit problem. So I, I had like a great time at the 200 00:12:43,730 --> 00:12:47,530 market this weekend and I was driving home and 201 00:12:47,530 --> 00:12:50,990 I was like feeling really good, really happy. Um, 202 00:12:51,550 --> 00:12:55,310 sort of like, I, I don't know how to describe it, but I, but I 203 00:12:55,310 --> 00:12:58,910 will try. Um, I was basically feeling like 204 00:13:00,350 --> 00:13:04,190 when you were like when I was a kid and I was like going on 205 00:13:04,190 --> 00:13:07,990 vacation or like maybe Christmas morning type feeling of like when you're like, 206 00:13:07,990 --> 00:13:11,310 just really happy. And I felt that for like 207 00:13:12,270 --> 00:13:16,030 maybe a minute. And then I kept driving and then I 208 00:13:16,030 --> 00:13:19,790 noticed that my thoughts were going towards negative things and 209 00:13:19,790 --> 00:13:22,950 I was like, oh, well, what about this thing that I have to do? Or 210 00:13:22,950 --> 00:13:25,750 how am I going to figure this other thing out? Or how am I going 211 00:13:25,750 --> 00:13:29,350 to do this? And then I automatically noticed that that feeling was gone. 212 00:13:29,430 --> 00:13:33,189 And it lasted for like, I don't 213 00:13:33,189 --> 00:13:37,030 know, probably less than a minute. And then I 214 00:13:37,030 --> 00:13:40,710 went down the negative rabbit hole for a little bit and then I realized 215 00:13:41,030 --> 00:13:43,630 that this was my upper limit problem. I was like, oh, I had a really 216 00:13:43,630 --> 00:13:47,150 good day, you know, like, ideal day. I got 217 00:13:47,310 --> 00:13:50,590 paid very well for the job that I did. And 218 00:13:50,990 --> 00:13:54,670 I immediately just started thinking like, oh, you know, that'll never happen 219 00:13:54,670 --> 00:13:58,430 again, or, you know, that was a one time thing, can't do that again. 220 00:13:59,390 --> 00:14:03,230 Just, you know, thinking of other things that didn't have to do with 221 00:14:03,390 --> 00:14:07,230 that moment in a negative way. And then I realized that like, 222 00:14:07,550 --> 00:14:10,510 okay, I'm hitting my upper limit problem here because I had a really good day. 223 00:14:10,850 --> 00:14:14,690 I really enjoyed the day, like, everything Went well. There was unexpected things 224 00:14:14,690 --> 00:14:17,010 that came towards me that I wasn't expecting. 225 00:14:18,850 --> 00:14:22,690 And then I was like, okay, I don't deserve this. Let's think about something 226 00:14:22,690 --> 00:14:26,450 bad so we could sabotage this feeling. And in real time, I 227 00:14:26,450 --> 00:14:30,130 was sort of facing this upper limit problem. So 228 00:14:30,130 --> 00:14:33,610 what I was able to do was kind of acknowledge that it was the upper 229 00:14:33,610 --> 00:14:37,170 limit problem. And I couldn't get that good feeling back, 230 00:14:37,540 --> 00:14:41,220 but at least I was able to still feel good. I wasn't, like, feeling 231 00:14:41,220 --> 00:14:45,020 amazing, but I was still feeling good about my day. So, yeah, 232 00:14:45,020 --> 00:14:48,620 it was just really interesting because it was, like I said, 233 00:14:48,620 --> 00:14:52,300 live sort of example scenario 234 00:14:52,300 --> 00:14:54,820 of me hitting my upper limit. 235 00:14:55,940 --> 00:14:59,700 So, yeah, just really interesting. And I think just being 236 00:14:59,700 --> 00:15:03,340 aware of this upper limit can really be helpful in situations like 237 00:15:03,340 --> 00:15:06,420 this, because I could have done maybe if I didn't read this book, I could 238 00:15:06,420 --> 00:15:10,220 have went down this rabbit hole of thinking about something negative. And by 239 00:15:10,220 --> 00:15:13,660 the time I got home, I could have been frustrated, annoyed, 240 00:15:13,900 --> 00:15:17,620 even mad, maybe about how I was feeling, but 241 00:15:17,620 --> 00:15:21,459 not even realizing why I started feeling bad, 242 00:15:21,459 --> 00:15:25,260 because I just felt great. So it's really nice to have this 243 00:15:25,260 --> 00:15:28,620 language, I think, around this sort of 244 00:15:28,860 --> 00:15:32,260 behavior that we can fall into as humans. And, 245 00:15:33,620 --> 00:15:37,260 yeah, I just wanted to share that idea. So maybe, you know, 246 00:15:37,260 --> 00:15:40,820 maybe it can help you if. If you notice this in your life 247 00:15:42,100 --> 00:15:45,940 and. And, yeah, and then, you know, the last thing is like, well, what do 248 00:15:45,940 --> 00:15:49,500 we do about it? Like, we know that that could be a problem. You know, 249 00:15:49,500 --> 00:15:53,220 you can read about it in this book, the Big Leap, and, you know, what 250 00:15:53,220 --> 00:15:56,420 do you do from there? And I'm not sure the book 251 00:15:57,090 --> 00:16:00,890 actually gave much advice. Maybe I'm forgetting. So forgive 252 00:16:00,890 --> 00:16:04,050 me, Hendrix, but I don't remember 253 00:16:04,370 --> 00:16:08,170 giving any specific. I could 254 00:16:08,170 --> 00:16:11,810 be wrong on that. But anyways, as I was kind of planning for this 255 00:16:11,810 --> 00:16:15,650 episode, I thought about, what do 256 00:16:15,650 --> 00:16:19,410 we do about that? How do we increase our ability 257 00:16:19,730 --> 00:16:23,490 to deserve more or feel like we're worthy of getting more? 258 00:16:24,970 --> 00:16:28,570 And one, I think, is acknowledging it and 259 00:16:28,570 --> 00:16:32,330 realizing that this is happening. And then I think the second thing we can do 260 00:16:32,330 --> 00:16:36,010 is to practice feeling good. And 261 00:16:36,090 --> 00:16:39,690 that kind of sounds simple, but I like to 262 00:16:40,170 --> 00:16:43,890 meditate. And perhaps we'll have a episode 263 00:16:43,890 --> 00:16:47,610 on meditation in the future. But 264 00:16:48,410 --> 00:16:52,250 while you're meditating, if you've never meditated before, basically the idea of it 265 00:16:52,250 --> 00:16:55,930 is to try to get rid of all your thoughts, to not think 266 00:16:55,930 --> 00:16:59,690 about the things that are constantly going through your head 267 00:16:59,690 --> 00:17:03,010 every single day. And there's, you know, I don't know how many 268 00:17:03,490 --> 00:17:07,330 thousands of thoughts or hundreds or whatever it is. But when 269 00:17:07,330 --> 00:17:10,570 you're meditating, you're supposed to like, acknowledge the thoughts and then let them go and 270 00:17:10,570 --> 00:17:13,330 try to just be still and in the present moment. 271 00:17:14,370 --> 00:17:18,050 So you kind of try to focus on like, maybe nothing. Um, 272 00:17:18,210 --> 00:17:22,050 but I think a good way of maybe trying 273 00:17:22,050 --> 00:17:25,370 to extend our upper limit is while you're 274 00:17:25,370 --> 00:17:28,770 meditating, focus on like a good feeling. Like focus on something 275 00:17:29,170 --> 00:17:32,210 in the past or, or maybe something that you're making up for the future, 276 00:17:33,010 --> 00:17:36,250 something that makes you feel good. And just focus on that as much as you 277 00:17:36,250 --> 00:17:40,050 can and try to like, feel what it feels like to feel good and 278 00:17:40,050 --> 00:17:43,500 to like, keep bringing yourself back to it so, you know, 279 00:17:43,900 --> 00:17:47,420 you can think about, like, for my example, like, think about that feeling I had 280 00:17:47,900 --> 00:17:51,580 as I was driving home before I sabotaged myself. Think about that feeling 281 00:17:51,740 --> 00:17:55,020 and just sit there and try to sit with that feeling and try to like, 282 00:17:55,020 --> 00:17:58,780 accept it. And that's what I did 283 00:17:58,780 --> 00:18:02,180 today when I meditated. I, like, tried to sit on that feeling and like, it 284 00:18:02,180 --> 00:18:04,540 would go away and then I'd remind myself of it and I'd come back to 285 00:18:04,540 --> 00:18:07,980 it. And to try to just like, practice accepting good 286 00:18:08,060 --> 00:18:11,410 and accepting like, positivity and feeling good and accepting. 287 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,840 Um, I think that that could be a really good way to 288 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:18,440 try to extend our upper limit into practice. 289 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:22,480 Um, so, you know, maybe, maybe that's something you can 290 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:26,280 go try if you meditate already or maybe if you've never meditated before. 291 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:30,200 I think it's a great, great thing to start. Always, always 292 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:32,520 a good thing to do. You, you don't need to know how to do it. 293 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:36,120 You can, you know, just sit there and, and try to not think about 294 00:18:36,120 --> 00:18:37,960 anything or let your thoughts go. 295 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:43,280 And. Yeah, so the idea isn't to like, not think about anything, but 296 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:45,120 to let the thoughts go. So 297 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:50,720 trying to just really focus on like feeling positive and what that feels like. 298 00:18:51,360 --> 00:18:54,800 So hopefully that made sense. Kind of went a little off course 299 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:58,240 describing meditation, but yeah, the idea of 300 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:02,640 this upper limit problem and us being the one that kind of 301 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:06,450 sabotages the goodness that can come to us, the positivity that can 302 00:19:06,450 --> 00:19:09,610 come to us, the success, love, wealth, all those things. 303 00:19:10,170 --> 00:19:13,770 And if we can sort of extend our 304 00:19:13,930 --> 00:19:16,730 limit to accept more, to 305 00:19:17,930 --> 00:19:21,770 think about like the world in an abundance mindset, 306 00:19:21,770 --> 00:19:25,570 instead of it being limited, then we 307 00:19:25,570 --> 00:19:29,410 can accept more good to us and we can look out and see more opportunities 308 00:19:29,410 --> 00:19:33,130 around us. And there's no telling what you can 309 00:19:33,130 --> 00:19:36,690 do with that or what you can build with that or, you know. 310 00:19:37,410 --> 00:19:41,010 Yeah, just so many possibilities, so many positive things. So I 311 00:19:41,010 --> 00:19:44,570 really like this idea of the upper limit problem that Gay Hendricks brought to us 312 00:19:44,570 --> 00:19:47,810 in this book the Big Leap. I'll link the book to 313 00:19:48,770 --> 00:19:52,490 I'll put a link to the book in the show notes so you can get 314 00:19:52,490 --> 00:19:56,290 to it if you want. I also did a little book 315 00:19:56,290 --> 00:19:59,570 review for the Big Leap on my sub stack. So 316 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:03,440 if you're interested in reading a little bit more about the book and what it 317 00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:06,920 does well, you can go to my substack, follow me on substack and 318 00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:10,760 read that article. And yeah, 319 00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:14,920 lastly, you can always sign up for a 320 00:20:15,799 --> 00:20:19,600 dream purpose chat with me. I'll leave a link in the show 321 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:23,360 notes. There should be a link in every episode where 322 00:20:23,360 --> 00:20:27,120 you can sign up for a free 30 minute chat and we just talk 323 00:20:27,120 --> 00:20:30,920 about your dreams and yeah what it is that you 324 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:35,280 want to chase. So always, always love talking to people 325 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:39,080 about what they're excited about. So yeah, if you want to do that you 326 00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:42,440 can sign up and I think that's all I got for you today. 327 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:45,960 Hopefully this was helpful. Thank you for listening as always 328 00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:48,040 and I will see you next. 329 00:20:58,740 --> 00:21:03,790 Oh.