1 01:00:01,250 --> 01:00:04,125 Good morning and 2 01:00:04,125 --> 01:00:05,916 welcome to Morning Serial. 3 01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:13,666 Okay, good morning 4 01:00:13,666 --> 01:00:15,166 and welcome to Tuesday. 5 01:00:15,583 --> 01:00:17,416 Now this might be the day where the 6 01:00:17,416 --> 01:00:18,875 coffee needs you just 7 01:00:18,875 --> 01:00:20,541 as much as you need it. 8 01:00:20,916 --> 01:00:22,916 But that being said, let's just jump 9 01:00:22,916 --> 01:00:24,125 straight into the quote of 10 01:00:24,125 --> 01:00:25,541 the day here with a thought 11 01:00:25,708 --> 01:00:27,708 from one of the most fascinating voices 12 01:00:27,708 --> 01:00:30,083 in film, John Malkovich 13 01:00:30,083 --> 01:00:32,416 once said, "If you don't 14 01:00:32,416 --> 01:00:33,416 believe in what you're 15 01:00:33,416 --> 01:00:35,583 doing, why would anyone else?" 16 01:00:36,458 --> 01:00:38,083 Now that's good to hear, right? 17 01:00:38,083 --> 01:00:40,125 It's a good reminder that your own 18 01:00:40,125 --> 01:00:42,375 convictions and beliefs, they are 19 01:00:42,375 --> 01:00:43,500 foundational, right? 20 01:00:43,750 --> 01:00:46,041 If you lack faith in yourself, your own 21 01:00:46,041 --> 01:00:47,125 work, your own products, 22 01:00:47,125 --> 01:00:48,500 or your goals, it's going 23 01:00:48,500 --> 01:00:50,791 to be impossible to convince or inspires 24 01:00:50,791 --> 01:00:52,541 others to believe in them too. 25 01:00:53,166 --> 01:00:55,291 All right, that being said, here are your 26 01:00:55,291 --> 01:00:56,458 four moments that 27 01:00:56,458 --> 01:00:58,166 matter for December 9th. 28 01:00:58,166 --> 01:00:58,625 Now we're going to start 29 01:00:58,625 --> 01:00:59,958 back on this day in history. 30 01:00:59,958 --> 01:01:02,875 In 1965, a Charlie Brown 31 01:01:02,875 --> 01:01:04,916 Christmas aired for the first time. 32 01:01:05,291 --> 01:01:06,541 Despite CBS executives 33 01:01:06,541 --> 01:01:07,833 nearly scrapping it, right? 34 01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:09,833 They thought the pacing was a little too 35 01:01:09,833 --> 01:01:11,083 slow, the music was a 36 01:01:11,083 --> 01:01:13,291 little too jazzy, and Linus' 37 01:01:13,291 --> 01:01:14,333 Bible verse, well, 38 01:01:14,333 --> 01:01:15,458 that was way too risky. 39 01:01:16,083 --> 01:01:18,750 Today, it's a beloved classic for some, 40 01:01:18,958 --> 01:01:20,458 but love it or hate it, 41 01:01:20,458 --> 01:01:21,875 it basically signals the 42 01:01:21,875 --> 01:01:23,250 start of the holiday season. 43 01:01:23,750 --> 01:01:24,958 Well, along with the Rudolph the 44 01:01:24,958 --> 01:01:26,583 Red-Nosed Reindeer stop animation. 45 01:01:27,166 --> 01:01:29,500 All right, today's special day, and this 46 01:01:29,500 --> 01:01:30,500 is a good reminder for 47 01:01:30,500 --> 01:01:31,250 those of you that might 48 01:01:31,250 --> 01:01:32,583 be a bit behind this year. 49 01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:35,125 Today, it's Christmas card day. 50 01:01:35,375 --> 01:01:38,041 Now, may your stamps be plentiful and 51 01:01:38,041 --> 01:01:39,416 your handwriting legible. 52 01:01:39,791 --> 01:01:41,666 All right, the number one song on this 53 01:01:41,666 --> 01:01:44,083 date back in 1990 was 54 01:01:44,083 --> 01:01:45,500 "Because I Love You," the 55 01:01:45,500 --> 01:01:47,250 postman song by Stevie B. 56 01:01:47,500 --> 01:01:49,083 Now, this was an eighth 57 01:01:49,083 --> 01:01:51,375 grade love song jam, no doubt. 58 01:01:52,083 --> 01:01:53,416 All right, well, happy birthday to you. 59 01:01:53,416 --> 01:01:54,458 Today is your birthday. 60 01:01:55,083 --> 01:01:57,416 You share a birthday with singer, host, 61 01:01:57,416 --> 01:01:58,791 and entertainer Donny Osmond. 62 01:01:59,000 --> 01:02:00,250 He's 68 today. 63 01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:02,625 Actor, director, and apparently a fashion 64 01:02:02,625 --> 01:02:04,333 designer, John Malkovich. 65 01:02:04,333 --> 01:02:05,708 He's 72 today. 66 01:02:06,458 --> 01:02:08,958 And finally, the legendary actress, a 67 01:02:08,958 --> 01:02:11,250 national treasure, Judy Dench. 68 01:02:11,500 --> 01:02:12,791 She is 91 today. 69 01:02:13,750 --> 01:02:15,125 All right, well, let's turn the page 70 01:02:15,125 --> 01:02:16,000 literally and 71 01:02:16,000 --> 01:02:18,041 metaphorically and talk about something 72 01:02:18,041 --> 01:02:19,208 we all experience. 73 01:02:20,083 --> 01:02:21,541 It's book review time of Mel 74 01:02:21,541 --> 01:02:22,666 Robbins, The Let Them Theory. 75 01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:25,583 Now, friendships that change soften, 76 01:02:25,583 --> 01:02:27,500 stretch, and they sometimes dissolve. 77 01:02:27,500 --> 01:02:28,875 We've been talking about that lately. 78 01:02:29,291 --> 01:02:32,041 Now, Mel Robbins opens chapter 12 with a 79 01:02:32,041 --> 01:02:33,750 deeply honest truth here. 80 01:02:34,500 --> 01:02:36,750 "Friendships don't always fade because 81 01:02:36,750 --> 01:02:38,291 someone did something wrong. 82 01:02:39,500 --> 01:02:41,250 Sometimes they fade because life moved 83 01:02:41,250 --> 01:02:43,000 you to different chapters." 84 01:02:43,375 --> 01:02:43,708 End quote. 85 01:02:44,208 --> 01:02:46,166 Now, in this section, Robbins gently 86 01:02:46,166 --> 01:02:47,583 dismantles the guilt that 87 01:02:47,583 --> 01:02:49,375 we often carry around these 88 01:02:49,375 --> 01:02:50,500 fading friendships. 89 01:02:51,083 --> 01:02:52,166 She reminds us that 90 01:02:52,166 --> 01:02:54,041 relationships aren't static. 91 01:02:54,458 --> 01:02:57,000 They're living ecosystems shaped by 92 01:02:57,000 --> 01:02:58,625 proximity, by timing, by 93 01:02:58,625 --> 01:03:00,833 energy, and a shared purpose. 94 01:03:01,416 --> 01:03:04,125 And as she puts it, "People grow in 95 01:03:04,125 --> 01:03:05,666 different directions, and 96 01:03:05,666 --> 01:03:06,541 that doesn't make either 97 01:03:06,541 --> 01:03:07,375 of you wrong." 98 01:03:07,375 --> 01:03:07,875 End quote. 99 01:03:08,583 --> 01:03:10,750 Robbins explains that friendship shifts 100 01:03:10,750 --> 01:03:12,291 are often not personal. 101 01:03:12,500 --> 01:03:13,250 They're practical. 102 01:03:13,875 --> 01:03:16,291 Moving away, changing jobs, having kids, 103 01:03:16,291 --> 01:03:17,708 shifting priorities, or 104 01:03:17,708 --> 01:03:19,458 entering just a new season 105 01:03:19,458 --> 01:03:21,875 in life that can naturally change the 106 01:03:21,875 --> 01:03:24,000 closeness that we once had with people. 107 01:03:24,583 --> 01:03:26,916 Robbins writes, "Letting friendships 108 01:03:26,916 --> 01:03:29,375 evolve doesn't mean you don't value them. 109 01:03:29,583 --> 01:03:31,083 It means you value yourself 110 01:03:31,083 --> 01:03:33,166 enough to accept reality." 111 01:03:33,500 --> 01:03:33,875 End quote. 112 01:03:34,375 --> 01:03:37,125 Now, Mel also reframes a painful but a 113 01:03:37,125 --> 01:03:38,416 liberating truth here. 114 01:03:38,791 --> 01:03:41,333 Maintaining every friendship from every 115 01:03:41,333 --> 01:03:43,958 era of life is simply impossible. 116 01:03:44,708 --> 01:03:47,375 We are not meant to carry dozens of 117 01:03:47,375 --> 01:03:49,583 deeply connected relationships forever. 118 01:03:50,125 --> 01:03:52,500 Instead, we form these seasonal 119 01:03:52,500 --> 01:03:54,000 friendships, these situational 120 01:03:54,000 --> 01:03:55,833 friendships, and there are 121 01:03:55,833 --> 01:03:58,583 also our forever friendships, each 122 01:03:58,583 --> 01:04:00,083 meaningful in their own ways. 123 01:04:00,500 --> 01:04:03,250 Now, Mel urges readers to release that 124 01:04:03,250 --> 01:04:05,000 pressure to keep up with 125 01:04:05,000 --> 01:04:07,333 everyone and instead honor 126 01:04:07,333 --> 01:04:09,166 the friendships that are alive and 127 01:04:09,166 --> 01:04:11,750 aligned with who we are today. 128 01:04:12,291 --> 01:04:14,916 "When you stop forcing connections, you 129 01:04:14,916 --> 01:04:16,208 create space for the 130 01:04:16,208 --> 01:04:17,875 right relationships to grow." 131 01:04:18,500 --> 01:04:18,958 End quote. 132 01:04:18,958 --> 01:04:20,458 Now, this section is ultimately about 133 01:04:20,458 --> 01:04:22,958 self-permission, permission to stop 134 01:04:22,958 --> 01:04:24,416 apologizing for growing, 135 01:04:24,833 --> 01:04:26,916 permission to let go without bitterness, 136 01:04:27,375 --> 01:04:28,375 and permission to 137 01:04:28,375 --> 01:04:30,041 cherish what was without 138 01:04:30,083 --> 01:04:32,000 forcing what isn't. 139 01:04:32,500 --> 01:04:33,791 Robbins ends the intro 140 01:04:33,791 --> 01:04:35,208 with a comforting reminder. 141 01:04:35,500 --> 01:04:37,333 Quote, "You haven't lost people. 142 01:04:38,250 --> 01:04:40,625 You've lived life alongside them." 143 01:04:40,625 --> 01:04:41,125 End quote. 144 01:04:41,500 --> 01:04:43,708 Now, here is your Tuesday takeaway. 145 01:04:44,375 --> 01:04:45,125 You don't have to hold 146 01:04:45,125 --> 01:04:46,083 on to every friendship. 147 01:04:46,708 --> 01:04:49,250 Honoring growth sometimes means allowing 148 01:04:49,250 --> 01:04:51,708 connections to naturally change or fade. 149 01:04:52,625 --> 01:04:53,000 All right. 150 01:04:53,458 --> 01:04:54,500 So send that Christmas 151 01:04:54,500 --> 01:04:55,541 card out today, people. 152 01:04:56,125 --> 01:04:57,958 Hold on to your boundaries and give 153 01:04:57,958 --> 01:04:59,000 yourself grace for the 154 01:04:59,000 --> 01:05:00,208 friendships that look different 155 01:05:00,291 --> 01:05:00,541 now. 156 01:05:00,958 --> 01:05:02,166 Hey, thanks for starting your morning 157 01:05:02,166 --> 01:05:02,875 with Morning Serial. 158 01:05:03,208 --> 01:05:05,041 We will see you back here tomorrow. 159 01:05:05,375 --> 01:05:08,416 And until then, have a fantastic day. 160 01:05:09,458 --> 01:05:11,916 Don't forget to follow and 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