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Well, here we are once again.
Joyce.
Wow, what a day we have outside today.
It doesn't make any difference what the weather is.
We woke up today. It's a good day. So.
Yes it is.
Hello, universe.
Thank you. Right. Right.
I say that,
I said that today
I can make a phone call if anyone's mayor from, literacy utility company.
Is it a phone call or is it a phone call or.
Oh, no.
Okay.
I was actually on my mind since last night, and,
And then I had to remind myself.
Okay.
You're going to change this around, and then I just said a prayer,
and I asked God to,
just make this come easy.
Like, the anointment of is the anointment of ease.
Yes. Yes.
And I must say yes.
Oh God forgive her. Oh what a way.
Yeah.
She was delightful.
She lived in Texas and she just started talking to me.
And I'll fix this for you.
And what happened towards the end, though, was my fault.
Call came in, and I thought I got rid of that call I got rid of.
Oh, it's like.
No, but.
And then I had to, like, call again and say, now I just.
It's all taken care of. Yeah. At the end of it.
So, Yeah.
You know, I remember my mom always saying
that even the priest has to read the Bible.
It's just you and I, you know, things happen.
They do.
No matter who you are.
And the thing is, if you're talking about that call, too,
sometimes you kind of dread it.
It's like a book that I read once called Eat the Bullfrog.
Ooh, that's an interesting.
And I mean, it's literally it's like, but
let's do something in the morning that you least want to do during that day.
Get it done in the morning, and then the rest of your day
goes a little bit easier.
So just find that task.
That's something you're dreading doing.
Take care of it first thing in the morning after you have a cup of coffee,
because coffee changes everything.
You can wake up groggy and miserable,
but the minute you had that cup of coffee, bam!
You feel good.
Take a deep breath.
Say a prayer like you did, and make that phone call.
And 95% of the time, it's not as difficult as we think.
You get that wonderful customer service
like that one woman from Texas you talk to, you could turn things around.
You can find a way to get it out more.
It reminds me of when I was a kid.
I would eat the worst thing on my plate.
It's kind of like eating the bullfrog, you know?
Right.
It just reminded me.
Oh, yeah.
Cause I wanted it. Savor that.
I wanted that to linger. Yes.
Like when I was a kid, I didn't like vegetables.
You know, we all know vegetables are good for us, but I just didn't like them.
Meat and potatoes.
This mommy potato.
Well, the thing is, right now, meat. You know. But.
But the thing is, I do love vegetables and fruit.
I'm just on a little bit of a different plant at the moment, but
I would eat something I didn't like first because mom and dad would make me eat it.
They would always say, oh, they're they're,
you know, children starving over in Ethiopia or whatever.
They would use that argument.
That's all I gotta eat is that I feel bad for those kid, you know, or said, tip
over to the kids in Ethiopia. Let them have this. I don't want it.
Reminds me of my brother
when I had a beloved Easter ham.
And he told me.
I said it was, 12:00,
but it was at 2:00, so he came in.
Really hungry.
You know, just complaining a little bit.
Yeah.
And I said, you know, in other countries,
they know what real hunger is.
You're not experiencing real hunger.
And he said to me, I don't give.
My breakfast right out of the empty.
And five hours.
He wasn't going for that argument. Right.
That went right over his head.
Right over his head.
Wow. But, But it's morning.
The one thing that I don't want to do is to eat that
bowl from is watch the news.
Totally agree.
Except for local news to get the weather right.
Sure. Right. You know just a little.
It's light. It's light.
But you're right.
The first thing in the morning like we talked about in the past,
many times you know, on and off. Yeah.
You and I, we want our day to begin with intentionality.
So we want to take control of our day the best way we can by,
you know, prayerful work, gratitude.
You know, and just focus on that.
Then a little bit later on, you can take a look at the news just to be aware.
We don't want to be ostriches with our heads in the sand.
We want to be aware so we can pray about the world.
Do I pray about the world no matter what?
Yeah.
My head in the sand.
Because.
Are things out of my control, right?
And I see enough of it on Facebook or Instagram.
Things will pop up.
And, But the more you do what we call our prayer,
prayerful work, which, you know, whatever it is for you.
For talking to it.
Just to the universe.
Sure.
You know, just, you know, putting it out there and
and you do get answers.
You really do.
So when we're sending stuff, our prayers,
our don't just pick up the same old anger.
Right? Right.
You have to really look and listen.
Because you will get answers.
People do show up.
Or there could be something really great to read.
Instead of getting angry.
You have angry conversation about things you think you don't
know, and that's really good choice to do that.
The thing is, we are we are getting signs all the time.
We just have to be aware of.
Get your antenna up right.
I'm always thinking about that
because, you know, being in the radio biz, I'm always thinking about frequency.
You know, being on the river.
159 or country 92 or 5.
The stations. I'm around.
If you're at 92, 3 or 157, you're not honing in on the frequency.
But once you get to 105 nine and you have to be intentional about,
go find all a sudden things.
So clear up and you're able to get that great signal.
Same thing if we go out there intentionally with our antenna up
looking for signs, they're everywhere.
It could be just looking out, seeing a beautiful sunset or sunrise.
It could be a message.
Or if somebody says something to you at the coffee shop
or the grocery store at the gas station, that could be a sign.
They're everywhere.
We just have to be looking for them.
And too many times we look but we don't see.
You know, or we're not or listening but we're really not hearing.
Right. Yeah.
And it's tough I mean we're not saying we're perfect is that we're far from it.
We're all imperfect you know creatures.
But we're just doing the best we can each and every day.
You know, but the one thing we do have control over,
and we'll say this over and over again, because I think you can't hear it enough.
I can't hear enough.
You have control over your thoughts. Yes.
You have control over your life.
And once you start on that path of really seeing that,
it does make a big difference in your life.
And when people say negative things
right it's hard right away.
Like the brain out of song cuts like a knife.
And words can really either bring people up or they could just slam you down.
And I've learned to practice the pause a lot more
because I have a tendency sometimes if I'm recording a radio show
or something, being totally transparent here,
and all of a sudden I get to the end of the of the voice track
and I screw up, which I do all the time, and I slip over my tongue.
I have a tendency sometimes to say a word which I don't want to repeat here.
You know, and a lot of us in the radio biz can relate to that as like,
you know, and I'm so I'm trying to work on being more intentional with
what I say and, and how I respond.
Yeah. And, it's not always easy. Right.
I know some people are laughing right now. Do you stub your toe.
You say something if you say oh Fu, it doesn't have the same kind of feel.
Oh fu. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
That doesn't seem to come out.
Yeah, but we're trying to work on that, you know?
Well, how we, you know.
So right on that that vibration,
you know, that, like that radio station, you know, when people say,
I want to listen to country, but why is this rock station on?
Because you turn to that freeway.
That's right.
So we have the power to change the frequency.
So, you know, and even speaking about prayers
when you scream at the universe,
God, you know, whatever you call it, it's
I need money.
It's really screaming like a boomerang.
It gives you like, more of that.
Like. Yes.
I would love to have this in my life because this is what I would do with it.
Right. Thank you so much for hearing me.
I don't go on complaining.
You know, out of your mouth is how am I going to pay the bills?
I'm going to do that.
Just say it'll show up.
A pastor, a pastor said that to me once. Joyce.
Before that, when you start complaining, I mean, God cares about us.
So the universe, whatever you want to say.
And but, you know, if you're going to complain all the time,
I think that's where you kind of crosses his arms, you know?
And it's just you. Okay, okay. You're done yet?
So the whole key is to follow that, follow that up
and I'll say, like, you know, I'm I talk to God like he's my friend.
You know, father, something here is bothering me, this and that.
But nevertheless,
I trust you.
And I always follow up with that.
Never the less, but never.
But nevertheless, I trust you.
I don't have to figure this all out.
All I have to do is believe I'm going to do my best today.
You take care of the rest.
It takes the pressure off us.
So it's like when someone gives you a gift,
God gives you what you ask for, and you kind of see it,
but you don't take it because you don't see it as a gift.
And it's given again and again and again. And you're right.
And it is like, I'm going to stop doing that.
And it does remind me of my uncle Art.
Uncle art. What happened?
Uncle Art, was diagnosed with diabetes,
and, my mother was quite the baker.
And you really, really.
And you're quite the baker, too.
So, Yes. right.
So my mom, being the baker, I remember her saying she's going to find a way
to make them that apple pie and you like, oh, apples.
Back in the day that there weren't a lot of recipes about that sugarless anything.
Right.
But she found a way to make this apple pie was his favorite.
So she makes this apple pie and she brings it over
and she never heard back from a vendor.
So my mom starts thinking
in disaster.
She made something else and left it with my aunt.
Yeah. And nothing came back.
So she's stopped making it now.
She died fairly young.
And just then she said to my mom,
I will never forget that apple pie.
It was the best time ever. Wow,
how devastating thing had she said that
I would have made it every week right?
So I guess since I'm saying how much I love your baked goods and Patty
this, we're going to get them every single week from now on.
And, you know, and I do remember Patty like the banana one that I made, right?
She liked them all, liked them all.
But sometimes I just make things up.
And then I don't know how to recreate.
It's all impromptu improvization.
It's all done with love. Exactly.
I love I was selling, you know, my my butterflies.
And when it became a business and then it was not the same.
It's not the same.
I kept that going on and off for almost 30 years.
Then I made the decision that I'm only going to make this
right, and that's it.
I have joy making it.
Yes, you have Joyce making it.
So to do things with different intentions.
Right. Yeah.
Same thing.
You know, I'm thinking, like, that'll be the last time
that when you see someone who is homeless or someone that needs something
and you do that second guess, like, oh, you probably deserve it, you're right.
But if your intention is good,
that's when we're blessed and you're blessed.
And we do have a tendency to get judgmental.
If you see the same person
to the same area all the time, like when we get out of church on Sunday,
we see that same person at the bottom of the hill every single week.
And I don't want to be judgmental because a lot of people say, oh, you know,
I saw this guy in a different corner another day and saw this person here.
Why don't they get a job?
There are jobs available for everyone, and I don't want to go down that route.
I don't want to be judgmental like that because I don't know his story.
Whether it's true or not, that's not up to me to decide.
But if I feel like giving to him, I'm going to give to him
and not feel guilty about it.
What he does with the money is not on me.
We don't own the money anyway, you know it's on loan.
Yeah, you know we don't own anything.
We're all stewards. So that's the way I look at it.
From a spiritual perspective, that's really true.
I saw a homeless man.
He had a sign, and it was a sign that I never saw before.
Maybe you have, but his sign said
I hate being in this position.
I hate begging you, but this is what I'm.
I'm up to at this time. In, in, out.
And I didn't have any money on me.
I drove by and I kept. Yes.
So I went to Dunkin Donuts where I had my credit card and I bought,
you know, a couple of sandwiches and that's great juice.
And I drove back and I handed it to him because I think, God bless you.
God bless you. Yeah.
He was on the corner.
I was going to turn the corner was zero traffic.
It was a very quiet day.
And as soon as I gave it to him, I pulled away.
I looked in my rearview mirror and I promise you, he was gone. Wow.
I didn't even give him enough time to cross the street or to go anywhere.
And it just. I thought,
okay, he's not here and I have that feeling.
So a few people had,
you know, and that from the Bible and it's one of my favorite stories.
You probably know exactly where it is.
I don't,
but I think when the Pharisees were saying, when are we ever talking to Jesus?
Right?
When are we ever seeing you hungry or homeless or in prison or sick?
We said, man, you don't do it to the least of these.
You're not doing it to me.
That's right.
And I had that feeling come over me
when that happened.
If you think about that, Joyce, I think about that
as I get older, a little bit more about once we go to the pearly gates someday.
And one thing we all have in common.
We'll never get out of this world alive, any of us.
And when you're face to face with Jesus,
remember that person you passed by on the street corner?
That was me. Yeah.
You know, but even if I don't have money like you,
there's a gentleman I see at the radio, right by the radio station
when I go up to Hartford at the end of the ramp.
And if I stop, it's not like one of these things
where I want to stop or try to go in the other lane
or put my head down like I'm busy. So I have to avoid him.
I still roll down the window and ask him, what's your name?
And that personalizes it.
And I said, then if I have time I'll say tell me your story.
Right. Well what happened. Yeah.
And it's like they look right at you like
why are you looking at me and look him in the eye.
Because you're still a human being.
You know, just for that short time.
You're there. You're there anyway.
At least show them respect. You don't know their story.
That could be you.
I mean, every single person we know.
Well, not every person, but a lot of people are only two or 3
or 4 paychecks away from losing their their home.
There's a lot of people that way.
So if we're going to be on our high horse all the time, I don't know.
Yeah.
And it doesn't have anything to do
with not working hard enough or whatever things people keep.
Prices go up and taxes, sure.
So, you know, I've been in a position, you know, I was told to,
find out where your your friends are, and I was I was in danger of that, too.
A couple of times.
I was in danger earlier in my life of, of bankruptcy,
I was in danger of losing my home.
I was in danger.
I had I had my car, you know, I towed away in the past.
I mean, this is real, folks. This is real. This is real life here.
We've lived through a lot of this.
We know. Yeah.
Sitting here on golden age today.
No, not and not at all.
And the thing is, when we, we said when we going to do this podcast
what's good that we're going to be transparent
and we are far from perfect people.
We're not here to preach to anybody,
but we're just here to say, hey, listen, we know how you feel and in many ways
and how you feel and, and we really do have inner peace.
But it's something that we work at.
Yeah.
You know, it's not something that we take for granted and,
and we want that for all of you.
And that's why we're, we're, we're doing this show to say that
we've been through a lot of stuff and we're still standing,
and we're standing
with a smile on her face and thankful every morning, every morning,
we can see when we get out of bed that, you know, whatever it is.
And that's right.
I mean, yesterday morning, for instance, you know, I mean, over the past
three weeks, you know, I, I, you know, I was,
at a doctor appointment and I came out there was a flat tire.
And on this particular car, with the all wheel drive,
you have to replace all four tires.
You can't replace just one choice.
So there was a big giant bill, and then a week later,
Patty went to an appointment.
She came up with a flat tire. Same thing.
Two weeks.
And then yesterday
we had someone come over to take a look at our water system, you know, yearly,
you know, checkup and said, okay, your tank is riding 1600 bucks.
And then for the service and everything else, 2100 bucks.
But we took a deep breath.
Patty and I said, God will provide.
God will provide.
And this could be a warning,
I mean, and then I said, babe, this is an investment in our house anyway.
Investment in our cars.
She always said, you look at the positive side.
Yeah, well I basically it's like our cars have brand new tires.
We're set for a while.
We got the new tank. We're gonna have to get it anyway.
We don't have to worry about, you know, the, the water being a bad quality.
We don't have to worry about the pressure going down.
You're in the middle of the shower, and all of a sudden it goes down.
You're washing your hair, and you got to wait,
you know, two minutes for the rinse off.
We don't have to worry about that anymore.
So I'm always trying to catch the positive.
But we all have those things, right.
That happened to us all the time.
And we it's how do we respond to it?
I know I've learned to say, because a lot of those things
have happened to me lately, especially with the accident.
Yes. Right.
And how fast I am able to say, especially if something happens with my house.
I need a roof with which I know, and I got this for you.
I get to have.
Yes, yes, these are rich people homes
because we have a house, so something goes wrong with the house.
So now I have a house, right?
I have a house that.
Yes, I still have a mortgage on it, but this is my my home.
So something needs to be fixed.
You know, I ask for the right people to show,
you know, and to know.
And that does happen.
You know, I was sitting in was talking about it.
This show was kind of about like the universe and and calling out.
And sometimes things happen super fast
with me to the point where I didn't write it in my book because I thought
people would leave this kind of the truth,
and I was going to send it from home.
I'm sitting in the parking lot and I am.
And while I'm in the parking lot, our mutual person, you know, you know,
Randy, I'll say.
Oh, he worked at the local theater.
Right. Great guy, great guy.
And a very, very spiritual. Yeah.
Yes, man.
And I happened to be.
And just before Easter and he called checking on me and and when we hung up.
And then it's still too early to go in, I said, no, let's go.
I'm really, you know, because I was I was raised
in the Catholic Church, not really raised by my parents.
They kind of just sent me to,
and I looked at the stained glass.
And I love I love the army to me too.
So I just sat there and I said, I would just love to connect
with the priest and talk to him and just get back into that.
That would be a great thing.
And then guess what
happens while I'm still in the car?
The woman I know who does marketing,
she said, hey Joyce, I just wanted to connect with it was Rene.
And she said, I'm sitting here with, Father Ed.
Oh, the father.
Ed. Whoa.
And he's looking for some help with marketing.
And I said, okay.
And, you know, given my number.
So he called me the next day and, and we had lunch.
And it was quite remarkable because he sat in the booth
and he looked at me like, John Seville, look at you.
And he didn't ask me what normal people asked me about marketing.
So here's what I got going on.
What could you do to me?
He looked at me and he said, tell me about jewels.
Wow. When he said that, I welled up.
How many people do that?
They don't.
Right?
I mean, how many people say, well, how is your how is your day?
The people are.
So you wait for the answer right people
to is he talking about their favorite subject was just in the cells.
And we're all guilty of that at times.
But when you ask somebody about them in their day, like Father Ed,
you know, we're going to get as a guest eventually.
By the way, as a guest, you just love this guy.
You give his full name there.
Joyce father and the doll.
Yeah.
He's got like a gazillion watt followers on TikTok.
He has over 2 million, 2 million, 2 million.
It's like number five, right?
So he's an amazing guy.
He really is.
Yeah.
But, he he he walks the talk.
Yeah. 100%.
So what we're having this breakfast together.
His phone kept ringing and I know he puts billboards up
throughout Connecticut and, and has a phone number on it.
And I realized
wait a minute, is that phone number on there.
You're so he said yes.
He said hey, how is it.
How are you dealing with all of this.
He says, no, I do.
I have a fact, everybody.
So what did they ask you for?
He said they usually ask for prayer.
We ask for forgiveness.
Or do you want me to go?
Oh. Oh, really?
Some people say that.
Oh for that.
But but he's.
But he's so real.
So he's so real. So.
Yeah, he calls me.
Always tells me he loves me. Yeah.
So am I ever going to see you before the second coming of Jesus?
Yeah, yeah.
That's right, I can't wait, I can't wait.
You know,
we need more and more people like him to put his cell phone number on there, too.
And I learned that, like, in business
with, with with my business is to my deejay business.
I will put my cell phone out there
on all my cars, but also on my radio commercials.
And when we did a billboard, we I did the same thing
because I want them to know that they're talking to the owner of the business.
So we we live in a world where customer service is kind of lacking,
right from what I hear.
But when you talk directly to the it's old school and I want them to talk to me,
knowing that it's not just, you know, my DJ
that I'm sending out to the event or me, you have access to the entire company.
We're all here to help you.
But but especially the owner of the business.
And I think that's cool. The father, Ed, does that right.
You know, I just say, wow, you really care enough to put that?
Yeah.
And we're going to get back to you right away. Yeah.
At least within 24 hours anyway.
I mean, people just need to know they matter.
We live in a very, very cold world, and people just think, God,
nobody cares anymore, you know, bother because of social media, right?
We're just talking online. You're talking text.
How many people?
You know, a lot of people talk at you, but not to you, right?
So just just what you were saying
when you get the thoughts, when you ask for something
to God,
to the universe, and you put it out there, you're speaking to the voice.
That's right. Exactly.
Because again, like we were saying before, we don't own anything.
We're stewards here.
We have complete access to the boss.
And that's a beautiful thing.
No matter where we are, we have access. So.
So the whole key,
joyous, is just to go out there and just, you know, always look for good,
always look for the good out there because it's easy to go down that negative.
The rabbit hole.
But you know, be a little bit more intentional.
And I know this is advice to myself to look for the good.
Yeah.
It's like a song by Jason Mraz.
Look it up. It's called Look for the good.
It's a great song, very, very positive.
It's got kind of a reggae feel to it.
But look for the Good by Jason Mraz.
Mira's It's a must every day.
Look for what's good in your life because there's always something good.
And what's good for me is I love when you say
a little prayer because when you send that to me,
it really impacts my day.
Amen. Until next time.
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