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Maarten,

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kijk

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daar!

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Bij

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die

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boom.

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Zo

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schattig.

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Hm?

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Oh,

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ja.

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Een

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verliefd

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stelletje.

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Ziet

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er

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gezellig

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uit.

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Gezellig?

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Het

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is

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pure

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romantiek!

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Dat

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is

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toch

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waar

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iedereen

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van

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droomt?

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Zo'n

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perfect

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moment

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waarop

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alles

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klopt.

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Ja,

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de

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`verwachting`

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is

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vaak

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perfect,

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hè.

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Maar

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de

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`realiteit`

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is

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meestal

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iets...

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normaler.

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Oh,

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daar

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is

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de

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leraar

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weer.

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Lekker

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praktisch.

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Maar

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serieus,

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die

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eerste

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fase,

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waarin

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alles

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nieuw

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en

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spannend

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is,

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die

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is

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toch

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fantastisch?

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Zeker,

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maar

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een

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relatie

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moet

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ook

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kunnen

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`veranderen`.

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Je

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kunt

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niet

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voor

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altijd

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in

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die

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eerste

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verliefdheidsfase

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blijven

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hangen.

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Dat

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zou

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uitputtend

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zijn.

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Haha,

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ja

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dat

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is

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waar.

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Maar

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je

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wilt

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toch

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wel

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dat

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het

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je

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leven

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blijft

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`verrijken`?

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Dat

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je

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iemand

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hebt

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die

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je

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uitdaagt

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en

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met

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wie

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je

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echt

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`verbonden`

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bent?

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Natuurlijk.

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Maar

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die

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verbondenheid

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ontstaat

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juist

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doordat

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je

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samen

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door

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verschillende

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fases

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gaat.

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Je

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moet

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je

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samen

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`ontwikkelen`,

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denk

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ik.

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Dat

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is

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een

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proces.

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Een

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proces,

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ja.

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Soms

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een

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langzaam

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proces.

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Ik

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had

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ooit

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een

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relatie

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waarin

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we

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na

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een

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jaar

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merkten

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dat

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we

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totaal

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verschillende

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dingen

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wilden.

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Onze

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verwachtingen

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kwamen

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niet

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meer

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overeen.

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Dat

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is

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pijnlijk.

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Maar

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wel

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een

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belangrijke

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les,

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denk

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ik.

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Het

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laat

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zien

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hoe

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belangrijk

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het

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is

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om

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te

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blijven

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praten.

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Ja,

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de

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`groei`

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die

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je

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samen

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doormaakt,

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dat

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misschien

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wel

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het

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mooiste.

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Oh

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wacht,

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ik

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zag

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laatst

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een

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film

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waarin

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een

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stel

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ruzie

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kreeg

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over

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de

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kleinste

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dingen.

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Dat

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was

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zo

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herkenbaar.

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Precies.

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Het

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gaat

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erom

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hoe

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je

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met

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die

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dingen

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omgaat.

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Dat

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je

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een

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`compromis`

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kunt

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sluiten

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en

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dat

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je

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constant

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met

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elkaar

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blijft

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praten.

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Dingen

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`afstemmen`.

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Pff,

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`afstemmen`.

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Klinkt

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zo...

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georganiseerd.

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Maar

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ik

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snap

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wat

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je

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bedoelt.

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Als

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je

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dat

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niet

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doet,

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groei

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je

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uit

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elkaar

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voordat

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je

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het

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doorhebt.

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Het

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is

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een

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beetje

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alsof

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je

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samen

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een

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project

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leidt.

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Een

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project,

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ja.

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Een

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levenslang

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project.

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En

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ik

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denk

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dat

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de

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Nederlandse

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nuchterheid

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daar

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wel

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bij

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helpt.

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We

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zijn

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niet

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van

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de

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overdreven

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grote

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gebaren.

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Zoals

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wie

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de

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rekening

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betaalt

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op

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de

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eerste

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date?

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Haha,

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bijvoorbeeld.

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Het

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idee

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dat

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je

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alles

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50/50

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doet,

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is

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omdat

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je

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vanaf

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het

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begin

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gelijkwaardig

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wilt

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zijn.

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Hoewel

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sommige

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mensen

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het

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onromantisch

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vinden,

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vind

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ik

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het

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juist

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een

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teken

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van

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respect.

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Hm,

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dat

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is

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waar.

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Ik

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heb

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er

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nooit

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zo

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over

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nagedacht.

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Voor

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mij

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voelde

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het

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soms

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een

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beetje

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gierig,

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alsof

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de

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ander

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niet

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investeren.

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andere

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interpretatie.

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`betekenis`

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positief.

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Het

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onafhankelijk

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samen

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Oké,

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overtuigd.

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Het

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`realiteit`

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van

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moderne

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relaties.

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Geen

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betaalt.

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Precies.

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Eerder

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partner

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bitterballen

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delen.

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Haha,

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ja,

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dat

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Nederlands.

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Maar

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toch

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maar

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praktische

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zaken?

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Uiteindelijk

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gewoon

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rust

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`diepgang`.

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Nee,

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natuurlijk

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niet.

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De

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`diepgang`

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jezelf

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zijn,

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zonder

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hoeft

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doen.

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Precies!

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Dat

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niet

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perfecte

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chaotische

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kanten.

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De

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`realiteit`

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precies.

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boom.

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Maar

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woorden

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gebruikte

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wel

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mooi.

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`Diepgang`

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en

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`verrijken`.

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Ja,

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woorden

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beschrijven

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relatie

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moeten

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doen.

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Het

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moet

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meer

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zijn

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dan

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maar

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gezelligheid.

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En

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dat

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woord...

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`afstemmen`.

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Dat

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klinkt

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heel

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technisch,

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maar

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eigenlijk

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gewoon

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superbelangrijk.

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Continu

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checken

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zit.

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Eigenlijk

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wel,

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Het

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hebben

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eigenlijk

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gehad

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Van

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eerste,

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perfecte

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`verwachting`

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tot

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soms

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chaotische

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`realiteit`

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van

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relatie.

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Ja,

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dat

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persoonlijke

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`groei`

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communicatie

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essentieel

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zijn.

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`compromis`

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sluiten

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gewoon

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bij

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hoort.

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Zelfs

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Nederland.

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Nou,

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mee?

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Ja,

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goed

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idee.

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Laten

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gaan.