Why Bitch Is the Word They Use to Keep You in Line
The word bitch gets thrown around the second a woman stands her fucking ground. And that is not an accident.
This episode is about why that word has so much power over so many of us, where it actually came from, and how it has been quietly running your decisions, your relationships, and your capacity line for most of your life without you even clocking it.
We get into the fawn response, the good girl programming that got handed to you before you were old enough to question it, and why that guilty shaky feeling you get when you try to hold your line is straight up conditioning that got baked in before you had any say in the matter.
We also talk about the invisible load. The energetic tabs your nervous system is carrying that have nothing to do with your calendar and everything to do with why rest does not restore you and why you can be sitting in a quiet house doing absolutely nothing and still feel like you are one thing away from completely losing it.
By the end of this one, you are going to understand exactly why holding your capacity line has felt so impossible. And you are going to stop blaming yourself for it.
What is Combative Calm?
This isn’t your sugary, sweet, diabetes-inducing healing podcast.
This is Combative Calm—where nervous system regulation meets rage rituals, somatic releases, and spicy affirmations laced with f-bombs to unfck your trauma responses.
Hosted by Sarai Speer—a trauma-informed yoga + meditation teacher, somatic healer, and high-energy bitch who tells it like it is—this show delivers real tools, not toxic positivity.
It’s trauma-informed, nervous system-rooted healing for the emotionally constipated, burnout-curious, high-functioning humans who are done pretending they’re fine.
It’s time to regulate your shit.