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Welcome back to the process of becoming
podcast.

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My name is Josh.

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And my name is No.

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Guys, if this is your first episode, the
process of becoming, let's explain that a

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little bit.

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So the idea of this podcast is Dino and I
have come to an understanding in life and

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we both live a life understanding that we
will never become that version of

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ourselves that we know we can become.

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And as you progress on your journey,
you're always going to want to become

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better.

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So hence the name, the process of
becoming, you're always gonna be in the

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process.

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This is not the process.

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You never knew the process.

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And I think the cool part about why we
started this is also we're in two

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different, I don't wanna say paths, but
two different lives, right?

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From where we came from, to what we do
now.

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And I think that's the best part about it
all is regardless of where you're at in

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life, regardless of what your goal is,
values, whatever it is, you can always get

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better at that, the entire people of life
that I think we miss out on a lot.

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But that's the journey.

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That's the fun part, right?

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And it's doing it together.

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So, yeah, dude, I'm excited.

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We got today.

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Me too.

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what do you want to kick this off with?

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Mr.

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Josh.

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kick it off with the first time.

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It's awesome to see your face in person.

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So, uh, we recorded an episode last
weekend.

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I was at a hotel down in, uh, where was I?

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Cape Gerardo.

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I was in Southern Missouri, uh, for a
volleyball tournament.

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Recorded an episode.

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Internet connection was terrible and
therefore the audio was terrible.

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So, yeah, it was a great episode though.

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Um, so we're going to kind of rehash that
topic and just give it to you real.

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Uh, we just spent about 45 minutes playing
with the audio.

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So.

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It's gonna be good, but how you been, man?

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You have a good week?

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Yeah, bro, absolutely, bro.

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I've been, I've been pretty good.

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Had a lot of personal stuff come up, but
nothing crazy.

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Just a lot of thinking.

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I was out actually one day, and one day, I
had a weird like headache or some shit,

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and it's the first time I think I've ever
had any allergies, and I didn't even know

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what allergies felt like, bro, because
I've never had them.

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So I had to ask some people.

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I took my Claritin and some other stuff,
and it worked, and I'm like, okay, this,

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okay, I understand this now.

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So that was a new.

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challenge.

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But yeah, dude, outside of that,
everything's been rocking.

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How about you, bro?

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How's life?

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from?

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Dude, that story reminds me of a buddy
that I had growing up in elementary

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school.

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He was born in Pennsylvania, but moved to
Louisiana before he really knew anything

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about life.

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He was maybe moved back from Louisiana in
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Amazing basketball player, by the way.

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But the first time we had frost on the
ground, he came outside with his hat and

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gloves, his sled, and he thought it was
like actual snow.

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And he was like all fired up.

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So I think it's really funny that you
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allergies were.

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Like it freaked me out.

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you mentioned like, dude, I didn't know
what allergies were.

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What that one makes you is that like the
allergies that you have nowadays, not so

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crazy, but it's just the company you get
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It's a little bit different.

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That is true.

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Fun fact, and I don't know why this made
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and it's interesting.

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But if you look at how many people have
peanut allergies now, it's insane.

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it's insane.

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But when you go backwards and you figure
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So whenever you're first like peanut
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the, when it kind of started to become
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So at the time it was like one in 4,000
kids or something would get it.

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So the school systems completely were
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And you would think like, Hey, if we
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In fact, because they removed the bad
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Um, so I just thought that was interesting
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you don't experience those things, but you
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better.

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It makes you get through that stuff.

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Right.

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It's like, dude, if you never go outside,
I think back to bench warmers.

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I don't know if you've ever seen that
movie, but that dude that locks himself in

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the closet and like afraid of sunlight.

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But it's like, dude, if you never go
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you're getting sick.

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You know what I mean?

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So it's like, you got to experience those
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So I don't know why that made me think of
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But first time for everything, right?

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Right.

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We're going to have to release a video for
this video.

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And you can take it.

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But that point, you know.

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there's like a big correlation of like as
we progress as a society to like all the

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illnesses and like the...

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the Celiac and all these other things.

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And when you think about it, when I was a
kid, now I'm aging myself, but we didn't

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have that now.

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I was in, I was out there playing in the
third year.

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I was getting exposed to all that stuff
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if you're a parent listening to this, like
let your kids be kids.

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Like my kid, I mean, freaking my babies,
we'd take them to target when they were

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little and they would sit there and lick
the cart and handle my wife's freaking out

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on my, if they're building their immune
system, you know what I mean?

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Like, I don't know what it is, but for me,
like I hardly ever get sick.

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Like once a year.

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And I think a lot of that is because I
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I think that makes 100% sense.

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But also because you, even though you're
not old, okay, I don't want to say it, but

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you're dad.

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I'm wise.

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You're wiser.

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You're more knowledgeable.

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But I think a lot of it is you don't have
to take care of yourself now too.

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But due to your point, I think that is a
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Like even my mom, she was more overly
protective, but even saying that doesn't

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sound right because she wasn't at the same
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You know what I mean?

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She's like, let me go outside.

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Let me do, let me make a lot of dumb
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And because of those things, it made me
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And into your point, if you're a parent
listening to this, I think you should let

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your kids go.

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Fuck, you know, get hurt a little bit
sometimes like let them let them go let

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them experience life.

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Because if you don't, and you shelter them
forever, they're never gonna learn how to

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handle problems as they grow up.

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So damn, son fire, bro.

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This is this is a good start.

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All right.

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true.

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You know, giving parenting advice over
there, is gonna be a great parent.

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Oh, I do call on that, bro.

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Hey, that's actually a big thing of my
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I'm gonna be a dad, I'm always gonna be a
dad.

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So.

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I actually take that.

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I know that might've been a joke, but I
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Like, thank you, bro.

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I appreciate that.

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Thank you.

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a gift of intuition and I've never, I
haven't talked about this in the podcast.

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I don't call it a skill because I believe
intuition can be a skill, but I actually

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have a gift of it.

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Like within a few seconds of meeting
somebody, I can tell you a lot about that

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human being just from like reading by, I
don't know how it all works, but it's just

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there.

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Like it's, I've only been wrong once or
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So pretty cool.

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So we will be a good dad.

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A lot of people who were born, were you
around?

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were you around people your whole life
kind of thing?

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Really?

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That makes it even more interesting.

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Because where my mind goes, it's like, if
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you know, you have to experience people
often, you know, or just know all these

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little cues.

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And to your point, that is actually a real
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you can be more intuitive of those things.

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But a lot of it is like, the little cues
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can tell a lot about a person.

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And it's funny because they don't even
know they're doing it.

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but they're giving you exactly what they
think or feel based on those cues, even

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though what they're saying might be
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But yeah, that's interesting, dude.

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That's fucking awesome.

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I made it up there for you.

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Mm, that explains it.

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I've been an observer my whole life.

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So like, even now, I've never been that, I
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excited that I can be that guy, but my
natural state, if I'm in a crowd, I'll

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just be quiet and I'll observe.

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You know?

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I love that.

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It's a way I've always been.

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And you learn, again, it's a skill, but
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it's so developed.

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Dude, I love that.

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I think there's a true science to that
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Of being the guy who's silent in the room
or person that's silent but pays

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I mean dude, even leaders, like as a
leader it's not just, oh you go in there

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and you talk all the time.

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You sit back and you actually pay more
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You know, there's a reason to that.

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right?

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Because then you get to see more things,
you get to really observe and break it

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down, right?

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Where I think a lot of times we don't do
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That's interesting, bro.

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It makes total sense though.

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Makes total sense.

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now and a husband, like it's created the
skill set of like being able to go into a

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restaurant.

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Like when I go into a restaurant, like I
don't have like an exact count, but I know

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how many people are in the room.

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I know where they're at.

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I know if they're like, I can pick up
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potential threat.

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Um, and obviously like most men experience
as well, like I know where all the exits

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are.

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It's wild.

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And it's like always on the top of my mind
is like, I, if shit were to go down right

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now, how would it play out and how like,
what's the safest exit?

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Get my family out of here kind of thing.

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Yeah, it's weird.

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It's just like.

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I always thought that females were more
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they're the protectors in a way of like,
not protect, like we're obviously more

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protectors, but they always go for worst
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They try to think through everything.

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So that's interesting, dude.

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I always look at life through a positive
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I don't think worst case, but it's always
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Subconsciously it's there.

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Makes sense.

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Wow.

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I love it.

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I think it's a skill as a dad too.

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Like it just, like when you have kids,
that just kicks in.

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It makes total sense.

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So I think it's you have to, right?

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Like, I mean it.

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it's one of those things where it's like,
when it's just you and you're working for

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you, like even if you have a wife, even if
you have a significant other, there's a

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bigger meaning when it's your kid.

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Because that is you, that is you point
two.

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And so I think it takes the meaning up
higher and the responsibility up higher,

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that like naturally your mind goes to
like, all right, what can I do?

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How do I protect them?

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how do i make them better like how do i
this is me how do i help me you know what

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i mean from the outer version of you so i
think that's where like your point was

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your dad at

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know before the podcast, obviously, Jay P
is running out of time.

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So Jay P, I think you're up.

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So, Jay P, I think you're up.

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He recorded an episode where he was
talking about a situation that happened in

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a restaurant with his family.

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His two daughters went to the bathroom and
he heard them screaming.

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He got up to go and he literally,
everything slowed down for him.

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He was walking, he saw a reflection of
somebody walking behind him in the salad

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bar glass.

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He knew there was a car idling right
outside the door.

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And he knew that like three minutes before
his daughter went to the bathroom, there

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was a guy working on the switcher.

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He said, I'm going that direction as well,
before he hit the street.

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back there.

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There's a men's and women's door.

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They're both locked.

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He knocks on the door and asks his
daughter, like, Hey, are you OK?

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No response.

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And then he's like counting down in his
head, like three seconds, like he's

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getting ready to kick this door in.

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Well, the guy in the blue sweatshirt comes
out and like of the men's room.

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And he's like.

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it's like also emotion making when they're
thinking of, like, putting the TV against

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the wall and putting the situation out.

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Or then right at the start, his daughter
is like, hey, daddy.

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And like, here's ice cream, because other
daughters are going to like him.

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you know, but no response.

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So like this all played out, but his Navy
SEAL training and his intuition, like it

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just like, that's the level I want to get
to is like everything slows down and it's

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like freaking deal.

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You know, I mean, I don't know.

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I'm a tool for that.

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bro, that's not true.

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You can do anything you say your mind to.

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But that's insane.

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Bro.

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Yeah.

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But the cool part, I think, is because
when you know JP and when you know where

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he came from to see that in action.

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And one piece I want to take out of that
is the slow it down.

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Dude, slow is smooth, smooth is fast.

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And I think no matter what situation,
especially when it's life or death, you

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have to like calm everything down.

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You know, if everything's moving too fast,
you're making the wrong decision.

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But I think that translates into life too.

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That is a very interesting story.

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Holy shit, I'd be scared.

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too, like he's like the reflection of the
dude following me was his son.

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So his son like picked up on it.

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Like dad's in, dad's in go mode and like I
need to be in go mode too.

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So it's like a power of observation.

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You know, kids are always watching and
they're going to catch more than you ever

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teach them.

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So, and obviously some of that might be
genetic because, you know.

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Yeah, we'll go with that one too.

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Dude, that's actually interesting.

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Yeah.

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How about you share the message for us,
please?

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Dude.

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All right.

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One thing I want to touch on, I kind of
hit on this before we went into this.

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I've been thinking about.

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pass it on here, I believe, and run it to
this.

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I've been thinking about, just from
experiences, you know, just hanging out

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with people, talking to people, one thing
I know that people do often is we judge

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people, right?

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Like we judge them based on what we think
is right or wrong.

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And we're so quick to question someone or
put someone down or if we disagree with

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something, or maybe it's not the life that
we would live, we're automatically like

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putting a term or judging someone
essentially for those things.

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And

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I've been thinking about that mentally and
I think a lot of problems come from stuff

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like that.

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Right, whereas, you know, especially when
we get into the topics of belief,

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visualizing the same life that you want, I
think when you judge, you're actually

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telling the world that

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you don't want to see yourself succeed,
right?

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Because judgment is a form of like,
essentially putting others down without

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telling them, but the world is yours,
everything, right?

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So I've been thinking about this piece,
because I'm like, dude, you know, one of

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the things I learned early on, and
especially from my mom,

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but as I got older it started to hurt
more.

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But when I noticed I judged people, it
actually impacted me more in a negative

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way than when I started to just accept it
and just be like, oh, okay, that's...

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yeah, I don't know why, but I'm like,
maybe there's a good reason.

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You know, and just saying maybe there's a
good reason or like having a little bit

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more of a positive outlet helped me see
things in a more positive light.

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And I think a lot of that played a role in
who I am today, but I think a lot of the

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problems we face is we judge people just
based off what we think is right or wrong.

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You know?

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I don't know if you've ever thought about
that or like delved into that, but like,

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what are your thoughts about that?

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Like, no, I agree with you wholeheartedly.

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It's, I want to say it's like a
fan-general, but I believe it's an

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academic insight and I think so can be
replaced with being a little bit.

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We paint this picture based on a very
small amount of information and we make it

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based on public space.

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So, I, a way to kind of fix that is you
live a life of genuine curiosity.

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right.

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Instead of being like, well, what the
hell, why did that guy do that?

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It's like, well, dude, why did he do that?

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Yeah, curious.

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Yeah, yeah, thousand percent.

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To that point, I actually heard a really
powerful speech the other day.

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It was talking about perspective as the
Alex.

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And a lot of people, you said that on the
show, but it kind of returned to the brain

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a little bit.

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Where it's like, ah, perspective as the
Alex, but it's not really true.

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Because...

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we see our life from our own perspective,
right?

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You see your life from your own
perspective.

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I'll never have your perspective.

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But where this comes into play to your
point is perception.

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Right?

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So it's like, all right, your perception
of me.

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and my perception of you, the way to kind
of get outside of your own perspective in

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life is to look at things from their
perception.

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So you step outside yourself and almost
see it from a third party.

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And it's like, instead of me judging you
for what you're doing, it's like, all

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right, well, I'm judging you against my
perspective of what I would do or what,

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how I would do it better versus like, all
right, well, why did he do it this way?

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And I'm looking outside myself.

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It's like, all right, well, I'm going to
look outside of this whole situation from

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a third party.

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Maybe he's doing it better than I could do
it.

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And maybe that way is the right way.

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Right.

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That's something here that I have to
consider on a daily.

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basis working with other leaders on big
projects, where it's like, no, my way is

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not necessarily the only way I have to
think about it from their standpoint.

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So when you get out of that judgment, and
it's just genuine curiosity, all right,

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well, you know, even to that point with
Abby stepping in, it's like, well, why

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does her brain go one way and mine's the
other?

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And then I think about it from an outside
perspective, and it makes a difference.

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And I think with what you said too, it's
like, you can't make a decision based on

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the information that you have, especially
if it's this tiny, because it's going to

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be the wrong one.

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And, you know, with also looking at it
from a third person point of view, I think

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you also have to step in that person's
shoes, right.

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And look at it from their perspective,
because I think that's where the real

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power is and also to your point too.

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It's like when you're talking about the
different leaders that you might be

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working with, it's easy to assume or think
that your view is right.

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But I think it's also important for it
works both ways.

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right?

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Because that's how you come to the
commonality of what is the right thing to

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do, what is the right action to take.

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And if you don't do that, you're missing
out on a huge piece, right?

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It's like a, I know in school we used to
do the diagrams, right, the three

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diagrams.

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Van diagrams, baby.

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Yep.

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But if you have only one circle and you're
trying to make a decision that requires

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three, right, to come to the commonality,

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to make the wrong one.

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So it's like, you got to almost look at it
from, okay, my circle, their circle.

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third person circle and then it's like
what's the commonality?

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I think if you do that you'll find the
answer that you're looking for at least

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the direction you go.

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But dude I agree with you I think social
media plays a big role in it and I think

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if the world

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would a hundred percent change and be
different, if we all chose to step in

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other people's shoes and just try to see
the world in their view, right?

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Like I think we solve a lot of problems
that way.

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You know, and that's actually one thing
I'm very thankful for that I picked up on

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early on because I've been around so many
different cultures, so many different

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people, so many different types of things.

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Right?

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Like, you know, you hear those people back
in the day when they're like, yeah, dude,

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I used to hang out with the drug dealers
and the gangsters and also the nerds,

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right?

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But I think there's some value to that
because you see all kinds of perspectives.

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Right.

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Now, reality becomes real, more real from
your view because you have those

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perspectives.

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So to your point, like perception is
reality.

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not necessarily.

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It's your reality.

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Reality is based on a bunch of different
factors.

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But again, if you have factors with
different kinds of groups, different kinds

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of thinking, you get to kind of form the
core belief or the core reality that we're

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living in.

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Yeah, I agree wholeheartedly.

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And I think that's a really positive
message that we can even spin and direct

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right to a marriage.

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awareness.

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Absolutely.

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So many people in this world, they are
only fair about their perspective and

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their point of view and problem.

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the discussion or the fight or whatever it
is.

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And it's like, that's people ask all the
time, like, why don't like, do you and Kim

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fight?

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No, we don't.

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Not a whole lot.

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Because like, it's easy for me to distract
my ego and be like, no, I want to see it

447
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from your point of view.

448
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And then instead of me trying to push my
point of view, it's like, let's look at

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what's what we actually know and what the
facts are.

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what the facts are.

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What happens when you remove ego and you
actually look at it from another

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perspective is, or their perception is an
invasive collaboration.

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Because hey, I'm not against you.

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I'm with you.

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There's even been fights that get in my
head.

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Hey, I'm on your team.

457
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Like, I want to figure this out.

458
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Like, I'm not trying to make you look bad
or feel bad.

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So that's something that you deal with on
a consistent basis.

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Or even if you just deal with humans, like
it's such a valuable point is like, Hey,

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remove judgment.

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with on that consistent base.

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00:17:26,823 --> 00:17:33,047
But even if you still think it's such a
valuable point, look at Noble and Tent.

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This person is probably not doing this
just because they're off, they're not

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thinking, I want to ruin Josh's life.

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They're just living their life with their
limited scope.

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And sometimes it just takes you as the
leader or the person controlling the

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situation to give them a better
perspective than to step into theirs.

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you work with, the people you're around,
if you do that, you start to appreciate

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them more.

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and watch how closer you guys get and bond
and watch how much they come become on

472
00:17:55,464 --> 00:17:57,986
your team, or like, they're part of your
team now.

473
00:17:57,986 --> 00:17:58,226
Right?

474
00:17:58,226 --> 00:18:03,330
Oftentimes, it's like two people competing
instead of like, hey, how do we get

475
00:18:03,330 --> 00:18:05,932
together, get on the same page and let's
push forward.

476
00:18:06,033 --> 00:18:06,373
Right?

477
00:18:06,373 --> 00:18:10,396
And I think a lot of that is, again, our
own ego.

478
00:18:10,914 --> 00:18:15,196
And removing that ego opens up so many
doors, regardless of if it's

479
00:18:15,196 --> 00:18:18,438
relationships, physical, mental,
spiritual, whatever you're working

480
00:18:18,438 --> 00:18:20,299
towards, but it opens up all these doors.

481
00:18:20,399 --> 00:18:21,658
But it changes your life.

482
00:18:21,658 --> 00:18:22,138
too.

483
00:18:22,138 --> 00:18:25,942
And I think it's kind of cool that we, we
just started talking about this because I

484
00:18:25,942 --> 00:18:29,905
do believe that is also the process of
becoming a better version of yourself.

485
00:18:30,085 --> 00:18:32,988
It's that you have to see the world in a
different light and your light is not

486
00:18:32,988 --> 00:18:33,990
always the correct one.

487
00:18:33,990 --> 00:18:34,370
Yep.

488
00:18:34,370 --> 00:18:35,911
It's good.

489
00:18:35,911 --> 00:18:37,793
Man, there's so many different directions
you can go with that.

490
00:18:37,793 --> 00:18:38,534
I agree.

491
00:18:38,534 --> 00:18:40,075
I want to throw out one thing here.

492
00:18:40,075 --> 00:18:40,415
I forget.

493
00:18:40,415 --> 00:18:41,476
I actually posted this.

494
00:18:41,476 --> 00:18:46,488
There was a Lex Breeden post and he put,
I'll pull it up and we'll figure it out.

495
00:18:46,488 --> 00:18:47,248
maybe clip it.

496
00:18:47,248 --> 00:18:48,309
We'll figure it out.

497
00:18:48,589 --> 00:18:52,951
But he talks about how even evil people
believe that they're doing right.

498
00:18:53,531 --> 00:18:57,573
And he's like, sometimes, you know, it's
like, that's why we as people need to step

499
00:18:57,573 --> 00:19:01,675
out and see like, hey, are we the evil
people that we think we're doing the right

500
00:19:01,675 --> 00:19:03,235
thing, but maybe we're not.

501
00:19:03,235 --> 00:19:06,353
And I know that's kind of crazy to say or
think, but it's true.

502
00:19:06,353 --> 00:19:09,958
A lot of the people that do that shit, the
evil people, they truly believe that

503
00:19:09,958 --> 00:19:11,379
they're doing something good.

504
00:19:11,740 --> 00:19:15,023
And that kind of makes you go, okay, hold
on, I gotta, what am I doing wrong here?

505
00:19:15,023 --> 00:19:15,884
You know?

506
00:19:16,044 --> 00:19:19,608
Like, I gotta step out and really see my
life, because I think it opens a lot more

507
00:19:19,608 --> 00:19:19,851
doors.

508
00:19:19,851 --> 00:19:23,234
that takes my brain is on the global
scale.

509
00:19:23,234 --> 00:19:26,998
Something I've been doing a lot over the
last year.

510
00:19:26,998 --> 00:19:29,592
It's like, and this is an interesting
perspective for you.

511
00:19:29,592 --> 00:19:34,894
you're not born in, you weren't born here
in this country, but like my whole life,

512
00:19:34,894 --> 00:19:38,975
like, and even now, like to this day, like
America is the best, America is awesome,

513
00:19:38,975 --> 00:19:40,976
America is the freedom fighters of the
world.

514
00:19:40,976 --> 00:19:42,996
Well, over the last year, I've been
questioning that a lot.

515
00:19:42,996 --> 00:19:45,677
And it's like, all right, we've been told
our whole lives that China and Russia are

516
00:19:45,677 --> 00:19:46,537
the enemy.

517
00:19:46,718 --> 00:19:49,542
Over the last year of my own research and
looking into it myself, Russia is not the

518
00:19:49,542 --> 00:19:49,983
enemy.

519
00:19:49,983 --> 00:19:53,308
Russia is the scapegoat for a lot of stuff
because they don't buy into the

520
00:19:53,308 --> 00:19:56,052
superpowers of that B and they do their
own thing.

521
00:19:56,072 --> 00:19:56,373
Right.

522
00:19:56,373 --> 00:19:57,213
And like

523
00:19:57,638 --> 00:20:01,179
the truth a lot, there's a lot of stuff to
get squashed so it makes me question

524
00:20:01,179 --> 00:20:04,341
everything and you look at all the
different things that are coming out and

525
00:20:04,341 --> 00:20:09,804
you're never going to see it again America
is exactly the child of the world of what

526
00:20:09,804 --> 00:20:10,972
we do and how we build things

527
00:20:10,972 --> 00:20:11,892
do things.

528
00:20:11,932 --> 00:20:16,916
So to that point, it's like, if it's on a
global scale, how much more so on like

529
00:20:16,916 --> 00:20:19,157
just a day to day, the things that you
believe in, the things that you've been

530
00:20:19,157 --> 00:20:21,039
told, you gotta start questioning stuff.

531
00:20:21,039 --> 00:20:23,020
You gotta start doing your own research,
thinking for yourself.

532
00:20:23,020 --> 00:20:24,875
And I think that I was-

533
00:20:24,875 --> 00:20:26,595
problem is us.

534
00:20:26,776 --> 00:20:28,356
It's the you version, right?

535
00:20:28,356 --> 00:20:32,819
Because to your point, if that's happening
on a global scale, bro, how many people is

536
00:20:32,819 --> 00:20:33,439
that affecting?

537
00:20:33,439 --> 00:20:36,300
And how much of us has it affected?

538
00:20:36,300 --> 00:20:36,900
And.

539
00:20:37,068 --> 00:20:39,889
if we don't take control ourselves, it
will never change.

540
00:20:39,889 --> 00:20:43,030
And I know it seems impossible when you
look at it from a global scale.

541
00:20:43,291 --> 00:20:45,692
But if you can change yourself, you can
change your family, you can change your

542
00:20:45,692 --> 00:20:49,534
family, you can change your town, your
country, your whatever, it grows but it

543
00:20:49,534 --> 00:20:50,914
starts with you.

544
00:20:50,914 --> 00:20:52,415
So dude, that's a...

545
00:20:52,655 --> 00:20:57,497
yeah man, it's an interesting view because
I'll be honest, as long as I've lived

546
00:20:57,497 --> 00:20:59,178
here, I love this place.

547
00:20:59,178 --> 00:21:01,780
It's allowed me to have the opportunities
that I have.

548
00:21:01,780 --> 00:21:04,140
allowed my family to have the
opportunities that we have.

549
00:21:05,101 --> 00:21:07,262
But I've always questioned a lot of those
things.

550
00:21:07,262 --> 00:21:10,604
It was funny, I had a conversation with my
dad and he was telling me about like 911

551
00:21:10,925 --> 00:21:11,765
conspiracies and shit.

552
00:21:11,765 --> 00:21:14,607
And I was like, dad, dude, I've studied
this since I was like 14.

553
00:21:14,607 --> 00:21:17,069
I was like, dog, you're a little late to
the game.

554
00:21:17,450 --> 00:21:20,752
But dude, I've always just had the
questioning just because of what I grew up

555
00:21:20,752 --> 00:21:21,212
in.

556
00:21:21,212 --> 00:21:25,135
And it was tough because it's like, if I
met you 20 years ago and had this

557
00:21:25,135 --> 00:21:28,438
conversation, me and you might've not
gotten along.

558
00:21:28,438 --> 00:21:29,458
You know what I mean?

559
00:21:29,638 --> 00:21:32,320
Just because we had those two types of
opposing views.

560
00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:32,960
But.

561
00:21:33,273 --> 00:21:34,935
I think that happens more often than we
could imagine.

562
00:21:34,935 --> 00:21:38,999
So like I'm grateful to have the type of
view that you have now.

563
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:43,266
Now it wasn't to this extent, like I don't
know all the stuff I know now back then,

564
00:21:43,266 --> 00:21:46,570
but there was always those question
abilities of like, I don't know, man, that

565
00:21:46,570 --> 00:21:47,531
kind of seems off.

566
00:21:47,531 --> 00:21:48,673
You know what I mean?

567
00:21:48,673 --> 00:21:51,016
But yeah, dude, it's a very interesting
thing.

568
00:21:51,016 --> 00:21:51,695
Very interesting thing.

569
00:21:51,695 --> 00:21:52,095
know what I mean?

570
00:21:52,095 --> 00:21:53,056
But yeah, it's a very interesting thing.

571
00:21:53,056 --> 00:21:54,217
I saw a meme last night made me laugh.

572
00:21:54,217 --> 00:21:56,098
It took me a second, but it made me laugh.

573
00:21:56,098 --> 00:22:00,421
It was a time traveler travels back in
time to September 1st, 2001.

574
00:22:01,378 --> 00:22:06,008
And he ends up talking to George Bush and
he says, hey, did the 9-11 attacks happen

575
00:22:06,008 --> 00:22:06,208
yet?

576
00:22:06,208 --> 00:22:07,730
And George Bush says, no, not yet.

577
00:22:10,766 --> 00:22:12,546
Oh, that's funny.

578
00:22:12,546 --> 00:22:13,007
I laughed.

579
00:22:13,007 --> 00:22:13,667
That is a good one.

580
00:22:13,667 --> 00:22:15,228
I actually shared it a couple of times.

581
00:22:19,230 --> 00:22:19,650
Oh, really?

582
00:22:19,650 --> 00:22:21,431
I haven't seen that because I've known it
the whole time.

583
00:22:21,431 --> 00:22:23,172
So I haven't been looking for
confirmation.

584
00:22:23,252 --> 00:22:23,933
Yeah.

585
00:22:24,553 --> 00:22:27,895
Did you see the thing where like the BBC
broadcast like talked about building seven

586
00:22:27,895 --> 00:22:30,637
coming down like two hours before it
actually came down and like actually aired

587
00:22:30,637 --> 00:22:31,617
footage of it?

588
00:22:31,977 --> 00:22:32,617
Yeah.

589
00:22:32,850 --> 00:22:33,210
Yeah.

590
00:22:33,210 --> 00:22:34,790
And like they, people are like, oh, it was
a time delay.

591
00:22:34,790 --> 00:22:38,451
I'm like, no, like there was people that
actually like went into it and looked at

592
00:22:38,451 --> 00:22:41,992
like, no, like they had the footage of
building seven coming down before it was

593
00:22:41,992 --> 00:22:43,412
like a possible thing.

594
00:22:43,412 --> 00:22:43,513
Yeah.

595
00:22:43,513 --> 00:22:45,153
It's a whole, it's crazy.

596
00:22:45,153 --> 00:22:50,094
I think we just changed your podcast name
to the impossible.

597
00:22:50,094 --> 00:22:50,194
Yeah.

598
00:22:50,194 --> 00:22:50,494
The truth.

599
00:22:50,494 --> 00:22:52,295
We need some of that X-Files music.

600
00:22:52,795 --> 00:22:53,075
All right.

601
00:22:53,075 --> 00:22:54,196
Let's dive into this.

602
00:22:54,196 --> 00:22:55,136
I don't want to scare everybody off.

603
00:22:55,136 --> 00:22:58,957
Cause I know not everybody is ready for
the conspiracy discussion, but today guys,

604
00:22:58,957 --> 00:23:01,557
we are going to be diving in and talking
about belief.

605
00:23:01,654 --> 00:23:01,974
Right?

606
00:23:01,974 --> 00:23:05,695
Belief is one of those things that we felt
like would be a great topic because, um,

607
00:23:05,695 --> 00:23:07,536
it's one of those things that ebbs and
flows through the journey.

608
00:23:07,536 --> 00:23:07,776
Right?

609
00:23:07,776 --> 00:23:12,018
So just starting out the discussion on
belief is understanding that belief is one

610
00:23:12,018 --> 00:23:14,779
of those things very similar to the
process of becoming that you're always

611
00:23:14,779 --> 00:23:16,539
going to be in the process of building.

612
00:23:16,540 --> 00:23:19,441
You're going to have days of high belief
days of low belief.

613
00:23:19,461 --> 00:23:22,922
Um, but really this, the punchline is that
you got to discontinue executing when

614
00:23:22,922 --> 00:23:24,463
beliefs higher beliefs low.

615
00:23:24,603 --> 00:23:27,244
Um, it's, it's like a muscle, you know,
the more you flex on it, the more you

616
00:23:27,244 --> 00:23:30,891
understand and live it intentionally and
intentionally understand how it works.

617
00:23:30,891 --> 00:23:35,373
to essentially and essentially understand
how it works.

618
00:23:35,373 --> 00:23:37,414
Mostly you'll be able to ask the question
and even more so you'll have that because

619
00:23:37,414 --> 00:23:37,654
you care.

620
00:23:37,654 --> 00:23:39,815
Dude, I love that you said it is a muscle
because it really is.

621
00:23:39,815 --> 00:23:41,656
And it's something you have to train.

622
00:23:41,676 --> 00:23:44,657
And where my mind goes, and I think this
is the best place to start, is where does

623
00:23:44,657 --> 00:23:46,218
that even belief come from?

624
00:23:46,218 --> 00:23:49,599
Because, you know, it's not like we don't
believe anything our whole lives, right?

625
00:23:49,599 --> 00:23:52,280
And then now we're like, oh, how do we
start believing, right?

626
00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:53,057
We're...

627
00:23:53,057 --> 00:23:57,579
We are at this point right now when we do
have beliefs that we have, regardless of

628
00:23:57,579 --> 00:24:01,242
if they're right, wrong, maybe on the dark
side, maybe not on the dark side, maybe

629
00:24:01,242 --> 00:24:03,943
more positive, whatever it is, but we
still have beliefs.

630
00:24:03,943 --> 00:24:07,426
And I think a good place to start with
this whole process is where do our beliefs

631
00:24:07,426 --> 00:24:08,626
come from?

632
00:24:08,626 --> 00:24:08,826
Right?

633
00:24:08,826 --> 00:24:13,569
Because I think a lot of us just assume
that what we have now is exactly the truth

634
00:24:13,569 --> 00:24:14,690
in who we are.

635
00:24:14,730 --> 00:24:14,870
Right?

636
00:24:14,870 --> 00:24:17,852
But you guys got to remember and it's, and
I say you guys got to remember, but all of

637
00:24:17,852 --> 00:24:18,892
us got to remember.

638
00:24:19,063 --> 00:24:22,239
that a lot of the beliefs we have now have
been built.

639
00:24:22,239 --> 00:24:25,661
trained through our experiences through
our life.

640
00:24:25,661 --> 00:24:26,041
Right.

641
00:24:26,041 --> 00:24:30,204
And also with this too, and this is what
makes it hard to switch out of is, you

642
00:24:30,204 --> 00:24:34,027
know, Rome wasn't built in a day and
neither was your thought patterns.

643
00:24:34,027 --> 00:24:35,748
Neither was your belief systems.

644
00:24:35,968 --> 00:24:39,871
When we say belief systems, it's, you
know, how where's your brain go and how

645
00:24:39,871 --> 00:24:42,773
are you believing and what are you
believing in and how'd you get there?

646
00:24:42,793 --> 00:24:46,596
But I think the whole purpose of where you
kind of have to start is how did you get

647
00:24:46,596 --> 00:24:47,956
to the belief you have now?

648
00:24:48,006 --> 00:24:48,726
now?

649
00:24:48,726 --> 00:24:49,946
Looking back at it, right?

650
00:24:49,946 --> 00:24:54,528
Like, hey, I believe this, but who else in
my life has made me talk with this or

651
00:24:54,528 --> 00:24:55,688
showed me this?

652
00:24:55,788 --> 00:24:58,809
And then now you record that, what can you
like, well, do they have the life that I

653
00:24:58,809 --> 00:24:59,549
want?

654
00:24:59,549 --> 00:25:00,869
Where are they at now?

655
00:25:00,969 --> 00:25:01,486
And...

656
00:25:01,486 --> 00:25:05,549
now you start to really put those, your
belief system to who kind of started it

657
00:25:05,549 --> 00:25:08,931
off for you and look at, Hey, does this
match to what I want to be or who I want

658
00:25:08,931 --> 00:25:09,131
to be?

659
00:25:09,131 --> 00:25:10,292
And does this make sense?

660
00:25:10,292 --> 00:25:12,894
And I think that's where you really have
to kind of start is like, where did your

661
00:25:12,894 --> 00:25:14,075
belief system start?

662
00:25:14,075 --> 00:25:16,736
You know, um, Josh, for you, when it comes
to.

663
00:25:17,275 --> 00:25:23,338
looking back and seeing that place of the
places that you learned those systems or

664
00:25:23,459 --> 00:25:27,041
those beliefs, what would you say to
someone or a tip or how do you kind of

665
00:25:27,041 --> 00:25:28,573
start breaking that mold?

666
00:25:28,573 --> 00:25:31,377
You know, like obviously I said, look back
and see where that started, but is there

667
00:25:31,377 --> 00:25:33,078
anything else that you would add to that?

668
00:25:33,180 --> 00:25:34,160
else that you would add to that?

669
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:37,561
I think that it's really important that if
you want to break the mold is to identify

670
00:25:37,561 --> 00:25:39,462
what molded you in the first place.

671
00:25:39,462 --> 00:25:39,702
Right.

672
00:25:39,702 --> 00:25:43,424
And then really look at it from the, you
kind of made the point of like, is that

673
00:25:43,424 --> 00:25:44,584
what you want to be?

674
00:25:44,765 --> 00:25:46,886
And understanding that you don't have to
be that way.

675
00:25:46,886 --> 00:25:50,507
You know, you see it all the time in the
world with, you know, people that may have

676
00:25:50,507 --> 00:25:52,528
grown up in inner city and they're pretty
isolated.

677
00:25:52,528 --> 00:25:56,169
They're around like the same thinkers or
the same thought patterns.

678
00:25:56,321 --> 00:25:58,522
and then they leave there and they become
very successful.

679
00:25:58,522 --> 00:26:00,162
You can see a lot of times with that.

680
00:26:00,162 --> 00:26:00,563
Absolutely.

681
00:26:00,563 --> 00:26:03,924
It's because they've been exposed to other
beliefs and then they just make a back-up

682
00:26:03,924 --> 00:26:07,786
decision of like, oh shit, they have a
choice to continue believing that or have

683
00:26:07,786 --> 00:26:11,067
a choice to open up their mind and have
that growth mindset.

684
00:26:11,067 --> 00:26:13,048
Like no, this is new.

685
00:26:13,048 --> 00:26:13,368
Absolutely.

686
00:26:13,368 --> 00:26:14,209
This is better.

687
00:26:14,209 --> 00:26:15,570
I'm gonna go this route.

688
00:26:15,570 --> 00:26:16,650
I don't need to teach that.

689
00:26:16,650 --> 00:26:18,691
Just give my friends hope that that's
true.

690
00:26:18,691 --> 00:26:20,552
And again, just come down and think of it
for yourself.

691
00:26:20,552 --> 00:26:23,273
A little bit of what we talked about was
like the whole global situation.

692
00:26:23,273 --> 00:26:24,293
Yep.

693
00:26:24,614 --> 00:26:25,633
The learning how to think,

694
00:26:25,633 --> 00:26:25,994
not.

695
00:26:25,994 --> 00:26:29,536
what to think, you know, and
unfortunately, we talk about the public

696
00:26:29,536 --> 00:26:31,036
education system all the time.

697
00:26:31,757 --> 00:26:34,178
It was intentionally set up that way,
right?

698
00:26:34,178 --> 00:26:35,999
So lots of documentation for it.

699
00:26:35,999 --> 00:26:39,541
So it's the reason why, you know, if you
are listening to this podcast, like we

700
00:26:39,541 --> 00:26:42,863
give you a lot of credit because you are
trying to learn how to think better.

701
00:26:42,863 --> 00:26:46,025
And again, I'll never, you know, I said
this the day I go to the grave, a personal

702
00:26:46,025 --> 00:26:48,346
development piece is so important because
you get to see other people's

703
00:26:48,346 --> 00:26:52,308
perspectives, and you get to have your
mind exposed to other people's beliefs.

704
00:26:52,308 --> 00:26:53,349
And then you get to make a decision.

705
00:26:53,349 --> 00:26:54,549
It's like, all right, well,

706
00:26:54,694 --> 00:26:55,394
that's awesome.

707
00:26:55,394 --> 00:26:59,416
I want that to my own, you know, so for
me, going back in retrospective and

708
00:26:59,416 --> 00:27:03,058
thinking about it, like, I believe this is
a bit of a honor, or that, like, hey, you

709
00:27:03,058 --> 00:27:05,959
just get to really sit in and see what the
future has in front of you.

710
00:27:05,959 --> 00:27:09,041
I didn't have a whole lot of positive
views because of the way I was brought up,

711
00:27:09,041 --> 00:27:12,923
but where I started to re-expose those
things was when I was 14.

712
00:27:12,923 --> 00:27:13,844
really athletic.

713
00:27:13,844 --> 00:27:17,325
And it was like, okay, well, my coaches
are telling me that I'm awesome.

714
00:27:17,325 --> 00:27:19,585
And then I go home and I'm getting told
I'm a piece of shit.

715
00:27:19,690 --> 00:27:21,451
But like I choose to believe that I'm
awesome.

716
00:27:21,451 --> 00:27:23,312
Like I want to live that, I want to do
that more.

717
00:27:23,312 --> 00:27:26,634
So that caused me to go out and excel in
sports more and to practice more and to

718
00:27:26,634 --> 00:27:29,576
put more into it, which only led to my
belief, right?

719
00:27:29,576 --> 00:27:31,898
So it's a very important piece there is
there's action involved.

720
00:27:31,898 --> 00:27:35,320
And I think it also broke the mold of what
you thought was right.

721
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:35,680
Yeah.

722
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:36,001
Right.

723
00:27:36,001 --> 00:27:39,643
And another thing you said too, it's like
there's also those athletes that are very

724
00:27:39,643 --> 00:27:43,706
successful or not necessarily maybe the
most successful, but they end up going

725
00:27:43,706 --> 00:27:48,549
backwards and ruining the opportunity they
have because they were still stuck a

726
00:27:48,549 --> 00:27:49,244
little bit.

727
00:27:49,244 --> 00:27:50,904
that past mindset.

728
00:27:51,224 --> 00:27:53,385
It's like they had the opportunity, worked
hard for it.

729
00:27:53,385 --> 00:27:57,466
They had some moments where they isolated
from that group, but because they continue

730
00:27:57,466 --> 00:27:59,946
to believe a lot of the same things that
were taught early on, they end up going

731
00:27:59,946 --> 00:28:02,507
back into it and all of a sudden their
life is ruined.

732
00:28:02,507 --> 00:28:03,507
Now they're getting fined.

733
00:28:03,507 --> 00:28:04,327
Now they're going to jail.

734
00:28:04,327 --> 00:28:05,387
Now something bad is happening.

735
00:28:05,387 --> 00:28:09,488
Now they're back to the bottom and they
were once at the top and it's like, what

736
00:28:09,488 --> 00:28:10,368
happened?

737
00:28:10,368 --> 00:28:11,128
Well they...

738
00:28:11,434 --> 00:28:15,596
got away from the big systems but got back
into them yeah right and i think your

739
00:28:15,596 --> 00:28:17,817
point is it's you have to

740
00:28:17,950 --> 00:28:21,132
be able to see all these different sides
of those things.

741
00:28:21,213 --> 00:28:21,413
Right.

742
00:28:21,413 --> 00:28:24,756
Because again, you know, what we just
touched on is, is changing your beliefs or

743
00:28:24,756 --> 00:28:29,099
what you think helps open your mind to a
new, new realm, new possibility, new, new

744
00:28:29,099 --> 00:28:33,183
person that you can become, you know, and,
and I think that's a big piece of it, man.

745
00:28:33,183 --> 00:28:37,466
Um, you know, one thing I even recommend
doing is, you know, writing all those

746
00:28:37,466 --> 00:28:38,607
stuff down, right?

747
00:28:38,607 --> 00:28:40,131
It's like, Hey, what are my beliefs?

748
00:28:40,131 --> 00:28:41,472
You know, and go journal and pull.

749
00:28:41,472 --> 00:28:42,713
It's like, all right, what do I believe?

750
00:28:42,713 --> 00:28:44,315
What do I believe about relationships?

751
00:28:44,315 --> 00:28:45,516
What do I believe about life?

752
00:28:45,516 --> 00:28:46,717
What do I believe about money?

753
00:28:46,717 --> 00:28:48,097
What do I believe about...

754
00:28:48,222 --> 00:28:48,682
sports?

755
00:28:48,682 --> 00:28:51,804
What do I, whatever it is, you know, when
you really start picking it apart.

756
00:28:51,965 --> 00:28:54,866
Because when it's there, now you can
question those things.

757
00:28:54,987 --> 00:28:57,488
You know, a lot of us try to work through
a lot of shit in our mind, but then we

758
00:28:57,488 --> 00:29:00,270
don't really get anywhere because it's too
much and then we stop and then all of a

759
00:29:00,270 --> 00:29:02,792
sudden, two weeks later, you're like,
damn, I was thinking about that and I

760
00:29:02,792 --> 00:29:04,193
stopped, I don't know what happened.

761
00:29:04,353 --> 00:29:07,855
So I highly recommend like writing that
stuff down because it's clear, you know,

762
00:29:07,855 --> 00:29:09,816
and then you can start challenging those
things.

763
00:29:10,055 --> 00:29:11,615
And dude, that's what I did too.

764
00:29:12,496 --> 00:29:15,377
Because early on, and I've talked about
this wherever...

765
00:29:15,541 --> 00:29:19,124
I really started to take soccer serious
because that is where a lot of my belief

766
00:29:19,124 --> 00:29:21,105
in life kind of started to change.

767
00:29:21,666 --> 00:29:25,770
But I started writing all that stuff down
and started questioning things that were

768
00:29:25,770 --> 00:29:27,411
normal to me.

769
00:29:27,411 --> 00:29:30,273
Like, hey, why I don't think I'm good
enough to do this?

770
00:29:30,273 --> 00:29:34,597
Or hey, why I don't try as hard in this
even though I know I'm capable?

771
00:29:34,597 --> 00:29:37,719
And it's just like all these questions
started to come about and I'm like, none

772
00:29:37,719 --> 00:29:39,312
of my thoughts actually make

773
00:29:39,312 --> 00:29:41,233
any fucking sense to what I want.

774
00:29:41,233 --> 00:29:41,853
want.

775
00:29:41,853 --> 00:29:42,733
You know what I mean?

776
00:29:42,733 --> 00:29:46,434
But again, it's all just built on the
ceilings that we have from the past.

777
00:29:46,455 --> 00:29:49,395
So yeah, man, it's a it's an interesting
thing.

778
00:29:49,395 --> 00:29:53,917
But I think there's a lot of a lot of
value to this piece, because I think it's

779
00:29:53,917 --> 00:29:56,917
like the glue that holds everything
together, you know, because it's like,

780
00:29:56,917 --> 00:29:59,698
yes, I do believe actions come before the
belief.

781
00:29:59,698 --> 00:30:02,959
But if you keep taking actions and actions
and actions, but then you never really try

782
00:30:02,959 --> 00:30:06,620
to believe or look for a way to believe in
something more, you kind of stay stuck

783
00:30:06,620 --> 00:30:07,940
there, you know,

784
00:30:08,016 --> 00:30:10,062
And I don't know what your thoughts are
about that.

785
00:30:10,062 --> 00:30:14,807
but I do think that you have to start
practicing certain things to start really

786
00:30:14,807 --> 00:30:15,607
seeing that life.

787
00:30:15,607 --> 00:30:18,510
But then you also have to train that
belief because again, belief is that

788
00:30:18,510 --> 00:30:19,571
centerfold in my opinion.

789
00:30:19,571 --> 00:30:19,671
Yeah.

790
00:30:19,671 --> 00:30:34,543
I think that a couple of things I want to
say on that is the whole idea of you

791
00:30:34,764 --> 00:30:35,774
probably

792
00:30:35,774 --> 00:30:37,236
Your mind knows exactly.

793
00:30:37,236 --> 00:30:37,636
It's weird.

794
00:30:37,636 --> 00:30:40,083
When you think about it, you get really
introspective on it.

795
00:30:40,083 --> 00:30:43,006
Your mind knows exactly what is going
through your back.

796
00:30:43,006 --> 00:30:44,767
Your mind knows.

797
00:30:44,767 --> 00:30:47,750
If you're trying to say something in your
mind, it's like, no, you better, your mind

798
00:30:47,750 --> 00:30:48,190
knows.

799
00:30:48,190 --> 00:30:50,672
And now you want to go back to your mind.

800
00:30:50,672 --> 00:30:52,894
It's really not a weird thing.

801
00:30:52,894 --> 00:30:53,695
It's wild, right?

802
00:30:53,695 --> 00:30:55,036
So that's why I bring you to time.

803
00:30:55,036 --> 00:30:56,718
So I'm going to visualize it.

804
00:30:56,718 --> 00:31:00,041
But at that point, your mind really goes
into it.

805
00:31:00,041 --> 00:31:05,084
And if you were raised in it, more or less
indoctrinated, you need something.

806
00:31:05,112 --> 00:31:06,733
it's going to take some time to get away
from that.

807
00:31:06,733 --> 00:31:07,553
You have to understand that.

808
00:31:07,553 --> 00:31:09,234
And it's going to be very intentional.

809
00:31:09,234 --> 00:31:10,896
thin, long, moving direction.

810
00:31:10,896 --> 00:31:13,800
So your point about access and taking
action.

811
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,684
So yeah, action comes before it goes into
a lot of work.

812
00:31:17,125 --> 00:31:17,365
Right.

813
00:31:17,365 --> 00:31:20,986
Because usually it's the action that
spurs, like the thought process of, okay,

814
00:31:20,986 --> 00:31:24,668
like I'm capable of more, which is the
spark of the belief.

815
00:31:24,668 --> 00:31:28,529
But then also you're kind of forced in
that process to come to a realization.

816
00:31:28,529 --> 00:31:32,791
Like, Hey, if I want to go and continue
doing this, I got to change the way that

817
00:31:32,791 --> 00:31:33,771
I've been talking to myself.

818
00:31:33,771 --> 00:31:37,333
I got to change my viewpoint on my past
experiences, you know, and just to tie

819
00:31:37,333 --> 00:31:39,233
that to a fitness journey, we see it all
the time.

820
00:31:39,242 --> 00:31:39,662
all the time.

821
00:31:39,662 --> 00:31:42,783
People say, I can't do this, okay, so my
parents are fat.

822
00:31:42,783 --> 00:31:45,485
And then we see them break through that
hole, they look under the ground, and they

823
00:31:45,485 --> 00:31:47,045
break their picture on the street.

824
00:31:47,045 --> 00:31:48,066
Right, I found that amazing.

825
00:31:48,066 --> 00:31:49,607
Yeah, every one of my family smoked.

826
00:31:49,607 --> 00:31:53,268
I was a non-smoker for such a long time, I
started smoking at only eight.

827
00:31:53,268 --> 00:31:56,470
And then it's at that realization, but I'm
not just a non-smoker, right?

828
00:31:56,470 --> 00:32:00,632
And I guess the biggest thing you save
yourself is health, and peace.

829
00:32:00,632 --> 00:32:01,652
They're all alive.

830
00:32:01,652 --> 00:32:03,893
So you have to change the story that
you're telling.

831
00:32:04,113 --> 00:32:06,283
You weren't born in the poverty and the
destine

832
00:32:06,283 --> 00:32:06,823
for poverty.

833
00:32:06,823 --> 00:32:08,564
Your future does not have to equal your
past.

834
00:32:08,564 --> 00:32:10,486
So like, what are you saying to yourself?

835
00:32:10,486 --> 00:32:13,148
And what are you, like, what's dictating
those beliefs that you have?

836
00:32:13,148 --> 00:32:15,769
Because the words you say to yourself and
your thought processes play a really big

837
00:32:15,769 --> 00:32:15,989
role in it.

838
00:32:15,989 --> 00:32:16,230
I like that.

839
00:32:16,230 --> 00:32:20,072
I think we undervalued the conversations
we have with ourselves, right?

840
00:32:20,072 --> 00:32:24,015
I think you hear this all the time, right?

841
00:32:24,015 --> 00:32:25,916
At least I've heard this all the time.

842
00:32:25,916 --> 00:32:32,681
But it's like, when you talk to yourself
the same way you talk to your best friend,

843
00:32:32,681 --> 00:32:34,093
the answer is no, you're doing something
wrong.

844
00:32:34,093 --> 00:32:34,562
Because you

845
00:32:34,562 --> 00:32:37,684
should not be talking to yourself in a way
where you're putting yourself down.

846
00:32:37,684 --> 00:32:38,285
Right?

847
00:32:38,285 --> 00:32:41,087
Your parents, I think, becomes even more
clear.

848
00:32:41,087 --> 00:32:41,287
Right?

849
00:32:41,287 --> 00:32:44,549
Because if I'm like, hey, John, the way
you talk to yourself negatively, would you

850
00:32:44,549 --> 00:32:45,470
talk to your kid that way?

851
00:32:45,470 --> 00:32:47,031
You're like, hell no.

852
00:32:47,051 --> 00:32:49,293
So why are you talking to yourself that
way?

853
00:32:49,293 --> 00:32:49,933
Yeah.

854
00:32:50,053 --> 00:32:50,333
Right?

855
00:32:50,333 --> 00:32:52,895
Because again, dude, that subconscious is
so powerful.

856
00:32:52,895 --> 00:32:55,677
And would you let anybody else talk to you
that way?

857
00:32:55,677 --> 00:32:56,638
Thousand percent.

858
00:32:56,638 --> 00:32:58,919
If it's a no, then why are you doing it to
yourself?

859
00:32:59,360 --> 00:32:59,580
Yeah.

860
00:32:59,580 --> 00:33:01,307
And it's kind of crazy because it's...

861
00:33:01,307 --> 00:33:05,068
it's, it's like, we're our own best friend
and our worst enemy at the same time.

862
00:33:05,204 --> 00:33:06,645
And we can choose which one we are.

863
00:33:06,645 --> 00:33:07,265
Yeah.

864
00:33:07,265 --> 00:33:11,128
But I think to your point with talking and
self-talk, it's such a big piece because

865
00:33:11,128 --> 00:33:15,030
the more you talk to yourself in a
positive way, you have maybe these

866
00:33:15,030 --> 00:33:18,693
affirmations that you're telling yourself,
you start building this tap of your brain

867
00:33:18,693 --> 00:33:23,956
where it's so much easier to walk down and
then subconsciously that's, that positive

868
00:33:23,956 --> 00:33:26,718
thought becomes a first thought and not a
negative thought.

869
00:33:26,718 --> 00:33:27,119
Yeah.

870
00:33:27,119 --> 00:33:27,699
Right.

871
00:33:27,699 --> 00:33:31,241
I, there's this example, but it's how the
brain works, right?

872
00:33:31,241 --> 00:33:31,625
Like.

873
00:33:31,625 --> 00:33:36,328
neurologically, if we do something so many
times and do it repetitively, it becomes

874
00:33:36,328 --> 00:33:36,788
engraved.

875
00:33:36,788 --> 00:33:37,729
Okay.

876
00:33:37,729 --> 00:33:42,011
And the best analogy that I've heard of
this is like, Hey, you see this big tall

877
00:33:42,011 --> 00:33:43,292
grass field, right?

878
00:33:43,292 --> 00:33:44,853
And the grass is like six feet tall.

879
00:33:44,853 --> 00:33:45,834
Okay.

880
00:33:45,834 --> 00:33:48,776
So the first time I walk through it, I
need a machete and I'm cutting through,

881
00:33:48,776 --> 00:33:51,017
I'm trying to make this path.

882
00:33:51,017 --> 00:33:52,318
And it's tough, right?

883
00:33:52,318 --> 00:33:52,618
Okay.

884
00:33:52,618 --> 00:33:53,839
Second time, it's a little bit clearer.

885
00:33:53,839 --> 00:33:56,400
I still need it to kind of cut some
branches, whatever.

886
00:33:56,816 --> 00:33:59,903
50th time, okay, well now the grass is
already planted.

887
00:33:59,903 --> 00:34:00,463
implanted.

888
00:34:00,463 --> 00:34:01,244
So it's a lot easier.

889
00:34:01,244 --> 00:34:02,465
I don't need my machete anymore.

890
00:34:02,465 --> 00:34:04,046
I don't need to cut down all these trees.

891
00:34:04,046 --> 00:34:05,687
I don't need to move all this stuff.

892
00:34:05,687 --> 00:34:07,848
It's, it's easier to walk by right now.

893
00:34:07,848 --> 00:34:10,070
The hundredth time I'm laying down stones.

894
00:34:10,070 --> 00:34:10,270
Okay.

895
00:34:10,270 --> 00:34:12,972
So now I'm making the path even easier to
walk through.

896
00:34:12,972 --> 00:34:17,075
It's not as tough anymore by the day 200,
300, 400.

897
00:34:17,475 --> 00:34:20,217
I have a whole entire walkway that's six
feet wide.

898
00:34:20,217 --> 00:34:23,179
I, it's a clear path to clear road, easy
to walk down.

899
00:34:23,380 --> 00:34:24,920
That's how our brain works.

900
00:34:24,998 --> 00:34:27,400
so when you're negatively talking to
yourself what you're doing is you're

901
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:29,961
building that type of path in the negative
ground

902
00:34:30,202 --> 00:34:32,563
But it also works in the positive, right?

903
00:34:32,563 --> 00:34:36,164
Like when you look at someone who's very
successful or people who do well in life

904
00:34:36,164 --> 00:34:39,365
and you think about their thoughts and how
they operate, it's like, what is the

905
00:34:39,365 --> 00:34:39,985
difference?

906
00:34:39,985 --> 00:34:40,985
It's positive.

907
00:34:40,985 --> 00:34:42,826
But why is it more positive?

908
00:34:42,826 --> 00:34:46,167
It's because they've walked down that path
thousands and thousands and thousands of

909
00:34:46,167 --> 00:34:48,287
times, just like Rome wasn't built in a
day.

910
00:34:48,287 --> 00:34:49,848
Neither was your mindset.

911
00:34:49,968 --> 00:34:50,188
Right.

912
00:34:50,188 --> 00:34:52,068
And it takes practice to do.

913
00:34:52,599 --> 00:34:56,941
And to that point, we talk about it all
the time, two most important days of your

914
00:34:56,941 --> 00:34:59,481
life or the day you're born or the day you
figure out why.

915
00:34:59,530 --> 00:35:02,371
Really cool thing is when you pave a path
like that, you now inspire other people to

916
00:35:02,371 --> 00:35:03,992
walk down that path, right?

917
00:35:03,992 --> 00:35:05,152
Which is really cool.

918
00:35:05,372 --> 00:35:06,433
This is interesting.

919
00:35:06,433 --> 00:35:08,954
I wasn't planning on bringing this up to
the next podcast that we recorded, but

920
00:35:08,954 --> 00:35:11,415
I'll bring it on now because it fits
perfectly in this conversation.

921
00:35:11,475 --> 00:35:15,157
Listening to a Tony Robbins audio book and
he was telling a story about his friend

922
00:35:15,157 --> 00:35:16,397
named Jerry Coffee.

923
00:35:16,658 --> 00:35:22,720
Jerry Coffee was a pilot in Vietnam and he
and two other men were shot down, right?

924
00:35:22,720 --> 00:35:25,401
They were held captive in Vietnam for
seven years.

925
00:35:25,494 --> 00:35:29,256
They were in a cage that was about as wide
as your body and it was six feet long so

926
00:35:29,256 --> 00:35:30,897
that you could lay down and sleep at
night.

927
00:35:30,897 --> 00:35:35,600
So seven years they were in captivity and
he made the decision very quickly after

928
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:37,381
like the initial shock of being caught.

929
00:35:37,381 --> 00:35:40,082
He made the decision that he was gonna
turn this into a positive experience.

930
00:35:40,082 --> 00:35:43,424
He started talking to God and he started
communicating with himself in a very

931
00:35:43,424 --> 00:35:46,966
positive way and looking at it as an
opportunity and a blessing.

932
00:35:46,966 --> 00:35:50,108
So every single day he would do push-up
sit-ups and he's barely being fed.

933
00:35:50,108 --> 00:35:52,729
He is getting beaten for literally seven
years.

934
00:35:52,990 --> 00:35:56,251
And when he ended up getting out of there,
he looked back on it and he said, I would

935
00:35:56,251 --> 00:35:59,352
not bring that up if I could do a thousand
times those out of the way.

936
00:35:59,492 --> 00:36:01,853
And he ended up going on with a very, very
positive life.

937
00:36:01,853 --> 00:36:06,294
Okay, second guy, kind of committed
suicide and he got to the end of his first

938
00:36:06,294 --> 00:36:07,054
year of time.

939
00:36:07,054 --> 00:36:10,175
Third guy, got out, he got rescued, and he
was in the hospital.

940
00:36:10,175 --> 00:36:13,198
Okay, so how did he do?

941
00:36:13,198 --> 00:36:13,878
with themselves.

942
00:36:13,878 --> 00:36:17,840
So like in that audio, um, Tony Robbins
paints the picture of like, if you want to

943
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:21,381
change your life, the only thing you gotta
change is how you communicate yourself,

944
00:36:21,381 --> 00:36:22,781
everything else will follow it.

945
00:36:22,798 --> 00:36:23,938
It's the most important thing.

946
00:36:23,938 --> 00:36:28,222
So like when it comes through the beliefs
guys, you have to understand that like, he

947
00:36:28,222 --> 00:36:31,404
could have easily believed that, Hey, this
is the worst thing that's ever happened

948
00:36:31,404 --> 00:36:32,585
and I'm probably going to die.

949
00:36:32,585 --> 00:36:32,766
Right.

950
00:36:32,766 --> 00:36:33,566
Every day.

951
00:36:33,566 --> 00:36:35,228
It was probably a subconscious thought,
but guess what?

952
00:36:35,228 --> 00:36:39,111
He retrained his subconscious to see it as
a positive and he made it out and lived a

953
00:36:39,111 --> 00:36:42,233
successful life afterwards and was able to
tell that story to inspire other people

954
00:36:42,233 --> 00:36:43,354
and to help people.

955
00:36:44,035 --> 00:36:44,755
Wow.

956
00:36:45,456 --> 00:36:45,956
Yeah.

957
00:36:45,956 --> 00:36:49,039
So it's all on how you communicate with
yourself and that, that is, it comes

958
00:36:49,039 --> 00:36:51,501
purely down to, Hey, I'm either going to
choose to believe this or I'm going to

959
00:36:51,501 --> 00:36:52,587
choose to believe this.

960
00:36:52,587 --> 00:36:55,128
Isn't it crazy that the power that we have
as humans?

961
00:36:56,029 --> 00:37:01,152
Man, it's, I always questioned why we just
don't figure it out.

962
00:37:01,152 --> 00:37:03,874
And I say, I question it, but I know,
right?

963
00:37:03,874 --> 00:37:05,194
It's the ego, man.

964
00:37:05,194 --> 00:37:05,795
It takes over.

965
00:37:05,795 --> 00:37:07,055
We like comfort.

966
00:37:07,496 --> 00:37:12,519
But if you really think about it, man, if
you spent 20 to 30 minutes, even just like

967
00:37:12,519 --> 00:37:17,462
dedicated time talking to yourself in a
nice way, it's better than not doing it at

968
00:37:17,462 --> 00:37:19,063
all, it'll change your life.

969
00:37:19,063 --> 00:37:21,344
If you just dedicate some time to.

970
00:37:21,581 --> 00:37:24,521
to talk to yourself in a way that you
would talk to someone else who you're

971
00:37:24,521 --> 00:37:27,622
trying to see when or be successful or do
something good.

972
00:37:28,062 --> 00:37:32,163
But it tells you how much power we have
and hold that we don't even see that we

973
00:37:32,163 --> 00:37:33,244
have in whole.

974
00:37:33,444 --> 00:37:37,925
And a lot of the times, man, we're looking
for external things to be our savior,

975
00:37:38,025 --> 00:37:38,225
right?

976
00:37:38,225 --> 00:37:41,966
Like to your point of Jeffrey Coffey, he
didn't look for external ways.

977
00:37:41,966 --> 00:37:45,567
He knew he was like, Hey, man, I'm in this
thing.

978
00:37:45,567 --> 00:37:45,847
Okay.

979
00:37:45,847 --> 00:37:47,228
Like I'm stuck here.

980
00:37:47,328 --> 00:37:48,488
What can I do?

981
00:37:48,968 --> 00:37:50,348
How can I take control?

982
00:37:50,645 --> 00:37:54,526
And it's like, dude, if you ask anybody,
hey man, would you ever want to go back

983
00:37:54,526 --> 00:37:58,408
and live seven years in basically a cell
where it just fits your body and you're

984
00:37:58,408 --> 00:38:00,369
able to just lay down enough?

985
00:38:00,369 --> 00:38:01,949
They'd be like, hell no, not a chance.

986
00:38:01,949 --> 00:38:03,450
I wouldn't even do it for a year.

987
00:38:03,630 --> 00:38:07,171
And the fact that this guy would go back
and do it all over again a thousand times

988
00:38:07,271 --> 00:38:10,033
and to see where he's come out of is mind
blowing.

989
00:38:10,033 --> 00:38:11,913
But it tells you the power that we have as
humans.

990
00:38:11,913 --> 00:38:14,594
And dude, this is the whole point of why
we're doing this.

991
00:38:14,594 --> 00:38:16,475
And by no means have we made it.

992
00:38:16,475 --> 00:38:18,556
By no means have we got to this
destination.

993
00:38:18,556 --> 00:38:18,876
Guess what?

994
00:38:18,876 --> 00:38:19,841
We never will.

995
00:38:19,841 --> 00:38:23,034
We're going to keep going and that's the
whole point of this is we're on the

996
00:38:23,034 --> 00:38:24,625
journey just like everybody else.

997
00:38:24,625 --> 00:38:32,450
Just like, are you saying that we're in
the process of becoming so good movie.

998
00:38:32,450 --> 00:38:32,830
Hey, man.

999
00:38:32,830 --> 00:38:40,395
All right.

1000
00:38:40,395 --> 00:38:47,360
So who, if you could pick any actor to
play you in that movie, who would it be?

1001
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:48,461
For me, it's Jeremy Renner.

1002
00:38:48,461 --> 00:38:49,694
Cause people say we look the same.

1003
00:38:49,694 --> 00:38:50,334
Really?

1004
00:38:50,334 --> 00:38:50,554
Okay.

1005
00:38:50,554 --> 00:38:53,716
So when I think about who looks like me, I
don't quite know.

1006
00:38:53,716 --> 00:38:54,036
Okay.

1007
00:38:54,036 --> 00:38:55,236
But there's, there's a couple of people.

1008
00:38:55,236 --> 00:38:55,897
Okay.

1009
00:38:55,897 --> 00:39:00,178
Depending on the type of vibe we want to
put out with the movie, I'm going with

1010
00:39:00,178 --> 00:39:03,459
Ryan Reynolds, okay, or John Cena.

1011
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:05,080
I know, I know, bro.

1012
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:05,400
I know.

1013
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,481
Come on, dude.

1014
00:39:07,481 --> 00:39:07,861
I know.

1015
00:39:07,861 --> 00:39:09,682
And that's why I would.

1016
00:39:09,682 --> 00:39:11,583
So would you not want them to be in our
movie?

1017
00:39:11,583 --> 00:39:12,964
You know what I mean?

1018
00:39:12,964 --> 00:39:13,684
That's what I'm saying.

1019
00:39:13,684 --> 00:39:13,924
Okay.

1020
00:39:13,924 --> 00:39:15,574
My second option is John Cena.

1021
00:39:15,574 --> 00:39:16,614
Yeah.

1022
00:39:16,614 --> 00:39:17,954
I mean, you look just like him.

1023
00:39:18,374 --> 00:39:19,855
It's mostly the shoulders and the biceps.

1024
00:39:19,855 --> 00:39:20,175
I love it.

1025
00:39:20,175 --> 00:39:31,958
Um, and then the third person, it's going
to be your eyeball.

1026
00:39:31,958 --> 00:39:34,939
Jackie Chan, Jackie Chan.

1027
00:39:34,999 --> 00:39:36,219
You can't have Jackie Chan play.

1028
00:39:36,219 --> 00:39:37,319
You're not Asian.

1029
00:39:41,601 --> 00:39:42,081
Yeah, man.

1030
00:39:42,081 --> 00:39:43,141
That's racist.

1031
00:39:44,662 --> 00:39:45,082
That's funny.

1032
00:39:45,082 --> 00:39:45,362
All right.

1033
00:39:45,362 --> 00:39:49,423
So we kind of, we kind of went through
like, all right, like all the different

1034
00:39:49,423 --> 00:39:51,803
things that affect belief and belief
systems.

1035
00:39:51,803 --> 00:39:53,764
Let's get into how we increase belief.

1036
00:39:53,764 --> 00:39:55,284
And I want to start this off.

1037
00:39:55,444 --> 00:40:01,706
And, um, probably about a month and a half
ago, I learned the proper way to do

1038
00:40:01,706 --> 00:40:02,827
affirmations.

1039
00:40:02,827 --> 00:40:05,747
So I want to walk through this because
what you said, there's two things that you

1040
00:40:05,747 --> 00:40:10,509
said early on, primarily, they both led
into like, um, this self-deprecating

1041
00:40:10,509 --> 00:40:13,789
discussion and thoughts about yourself or
words that you said yourself.

1042
00:40:13,906 --> 00:40:17,268
So, number one thing that you can do to
kind of get over that is something that I

1043
00:40:17,268 --> 00:40:19,475
give as a practice tool to a lot of
people.

1044
00:40:19,475 --> 00:40:22,697
that I mentor is if you have all these
self-deprecating thoughts, get into the

1045
00:40:22,697 --> 00:40:24,899
habit of doing a mind dump journal, right?

1046
00:40:24,899 --> 00:40:28,102
Whenever you're emotional or whatever it's
going on in your life, just mind dump,

1047
00:40:28,102 --> 00:40:31,505
like whatever words, it doesn't even have
to be sentences, just write the words.

1048
00:40:31,686 --> 00:40:34,688
And you know, a lot of the times these
people come back, it's like, Hey, like I

1049
00:40:34,688 --> 00:40:35,669
was writing all these bad things.

1050
00:40:35,669 --> 00:40:38,972
I'm like, okay, well, how did you feel
when you wrote the things that like you're

1051
00:40:38,972 --> 00:40:40,287
writing about how you feel about yourself?

1052
00:40:40,287 --> 00:40:41,228
it by yourself?

1053
00:40:41,228 --> 00:40:44,069
They're like, oh, well, I started looking
at it, and it's like, you'll start from me

1054
00:40:44,069 --> 00:40:45,369
to you'll need it.

1055
00:40:45,549 --> 00:40:45,829
Right?

1056
00:40:45,829 --> 00:40:48,430
You get to say, I'm writing this, and he
says, okay, we'll now try to read it out

1057
00:40:48,430 --> 00:40:49,170
loud.

1058
00:40:49,204 --> 00:40:52,287
And when you try to read these things that
you're writing down about yourself, if you

1059
00:40:52,287 --> 00:40:54,949
can even write it, cause I went through
that process, I couldn't even write these

1060
00:40:54,949 --> 00:40:55,569
things about myself.

1061
00:40:55,569 --> 00:40:58,011
Cause I'm like, dude, as you're writing
it, I'm like, it's not true.

1062
00:40:58,011 --> 00:40:59,092
It's not who I am.

1063
00:40:59,092 --> 00:40:59,212
Right.

1064
00:40:59,212 --> 00:41:00,853
And that's the whole idea of the exercise.

1065
00:41:00,853 --> 00:41:03,996
So the second one is the affirmations, how
to actually train your brain.

1066
00:41:04,136 --> 00:41:06,156
And I've said it on the podcast before
about how

1067
00:41:06,156 --> 00:41:10,197
how I'm against affirmations because of
how most of mainstream media or mainstream

1068
00:41:10,197 --> 00:41:11,498
people talk about it.

1069
00:41:11,498 --> 00:41:16,394
So a new way to kind of discuss how to do
affirmations, and this comes from the book

1070
00:41:16,394 --> 00:41:17,355
the miracle morning.

1071
00:41:17,355 --> 00:41:17,655
Okay.

1072
00:41:17,655 --> 00:41:19,836
TJ taught this to me and it's been a game
changer.

1073
00:41:19,897 --> 00:41:21,858
So it's a three step process with
affirmations.

1074
00:41:21,858 --> 00:41:24,801
The first one is going to be the what,
right?

1075
00:41:24,801 --> 00:41:28,604
So whatever it is that you're, you're
wanting to do it's I'm committed to blank.

1076
00:41:28,604 --> 00:41:31,106
No matter what, there is no other option,
right?

1077
00:41:31,106 --> 00:41:34,628
So I'm committed to, you know, becoming
the best leader I could possibly be no

1078
00:41:34,628 --> 00:41:36,286
matter what, there is no other option.

1079
00:41:36,286 --> 00:41:37,928
Second piece is the block.

1080
00:41:37,948 --> 00:41:41,996
I am committed to becoming the best leader
because blank fills the blanks.

1081
00:41:41,996 --> 00:41:42,616
right?

1082
00:41:42,616 --> 00:41:44,677
Then the third part was really important
to how right?

1083
00:41:44,677 --> 00:41:47,899
This is the action stuff to ensure that I
am committed to this action.

1084
00:41:47,899 --> 00:41:50,360
I am blank and you list out the actions.

1085
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:54,062
And that's something that write that down
one time and then read that every single

1086
00:41:54,062 --> 00:41:54,482
day.

1087
00:41:54,482 --> 00:41:54,902
Right.

1088
00:41:54,902 --> 00:41:58,684
And then we can go down the Tesla route of
the three, six nine, but, uh, read that at

1089
00:41:58,684 --> 00:41:59,744
least one time every day.

1090
00:41:59,744 --> 00:42:02,553
I've been doing that on my drive in, in
the morning, just reciting that.

1091
00:42:02,553 --> 00:42:05,754
Really what it's done to me is it's
focused on things in the day.

1092
00:42:05,754 --> 00:42:08,215
I know I'm not committed to doing that.

1093
00:42:08,215 --> 00:42:13,757
I can easily go through this thing over
here because it's on my plate.

1094
00:42:13,757 --> 00:42:14,657
But no, I'm committed to it.

1095
00:42:14,657 --> 00:42:16,358
I'm going to take care of this for a few
days.

1096
00:42:16,358 --> 00:42:18,339
So just another way to do affirmation is
that comes from a book from New York.

1097
00:42:18,339 --> 00:42:19,799
I think that's a really good breakdown.

1098
00:42:19,799 --> 00:42:21,660
And it's funny because I've actually
listened to a podcast.

1099
00:42:21,660 --> 00:42:24,621
I haven't read that book yet, but I've
listened to a podcast from the guy, the

1100
00:42:24,621 --> 00:42:25,622
author of it.

1101
00:42:26,002 --> 00:42:30,524
And it was, I forgot who he was talking
to, but it was such a beautiful, it might

1102
00:42:30,524 --> 00:42:32,044
have been Ed Milett actually.

1103
00:42:32,714 --> 00:42:34,534
Um, but there's a.

1104
00:42:34,534 --> 00:42:35,294
Um, but there's, Hey, call me.

1105
00:42:35,294 --> 00:42:38,655
He want to go on the podcast and say,
you're going to have to wait.

1106
00:42:38,655 --> 00:42:38,935
Yeah.

1107
00:42:38,935 --> 00:42:39,855
I'm like, Hey, not yet, bro.

1108
00:42:39,855 --> 00:42:40,236
I'll pencil you in.

1109
00:42:40,236 --> 00:42:41,096
I have my people call your people.

1110
00:42:41,096 --> 00:42:41,196
Yeah.

1111
00:42:41,196 --> 00:42:41,776
You're my people.

1112
00:42:41,776 --> 00:42:42,796
Um, but no, I think there's no more power
to that.

1113
00:42:42,796 --> 00:42:47,037
Because again, like I've been talking
about walking that path and it's like, if

1114
00:42:47,037 --> 00:42:49,638
you can make it as clear as possible, it
helps a little bit.

1115
00:42:49,818 --> 00:42:50,378
No one.

1116
00:42:50,378 --> 00:43:02,447
If you look at the book.

1117
00:43:02,447 --> 00:43:04,835
like the law of attraction, it talks about
that.

1118
00:43:04,835 --> 00:43:07,596
Now it doesn't go down into the what, how,
and why.

1119
00:43:07,596 --> 00:43:10,798
But what it talks about is when you're
going into affirmations or ten things,

1120
00:43:10,798 --> 00:43:11,458
they act with you.

1121
00:43:11,458 --> 00:43:14,299
You can't be like, I am a millionaire.

1122
00:43:15,140 --> 00:43:16,181
I am this right now.

1123
00:43:16,181 --> 00:43:16,901
I'm the best.

1124
00:43:16,901 --> 00:43:19,282
I am the process of becoming this.

1125
00:43:19,282 --> 00:43:21,544
Or hey, I am working towards becoming
this.

1126
00:43:21,544 --> 00:43:25,306
And just that little shift of words, it's
like subconsciously your brain knows

1127
00:43:25,306 --> 00:43:26,646
what's true and what's not.

1128
00:43:27,187 --> 00:43:28,355
And it's like you can

1129
00:43:28,355 --> 00:43:32,569
again, shift the way you put those words
down or write those affirmations, it can.

1130
00:43:32,569 --> 00:43:36,330
clear up so many things and make it more
believable and true and going after it.

1131
00:43:36,330 --> 00:43:39,932
Right now with one thing that I want to
kind of recommend doing is, you know, and

1132
00:43:39,932 --> 00:43:43,413
we've talked about meditation,
visualization and all these things, but

1133
00:43:43,413 --> 00:43:47,815
when you take something like affirmations,
write it down every day or read it over

1134
00:43:47,815 --> 00:43:49,735
every day and commit to that.

1135
00:43:49,816 --> 00:43:49,996
Right?

1136
00:43:49,996 --> 00:43:53,937
Like don't look seven, eight years down
the line, just focus on that day, but how

1137
00:43:53,937 --> 00:43:55,438
you start to take control of it.

1138
00:43:55,438 --> 00:43:58,619
And by the way, when you do start taking
control of it, there's never a moment

1139
00:43:58,619 --> 00:44:00,800
where you wake up and it's just good.

1140
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:01,625
It's there.

1141
00:44:01,625 --> 00:44:04,426
There's never going to be a moment where
you practice something well enough and all

1142
00:44:04,426 --> 00:44:06,266
of a sudden it's like, haha, I got it.

1143
00:44:06,266 --> 00:44:07,487
I'm a master.

1144
00:44:07,907 --> 00:44:09,348
It never happens, right?

1145
00:44:09,348 --> 00:44:11,248
If you don't train it, you lose it.

1146
00:44:11,248 --> 00:44:12,009
It's like a muscle.

1147
00:44:12,009 --> 00:44:14,770
So the more you can do it, the longer you
can do it, the better it will get.

1148
00:44:14,770 --> 00:44:15,010
Right.

1149
00:44:15,010 --> 00:44:17,491
The little reference of the 30, 60, 90
kind of thing.

1150
00:44:17,491 --> 00:44:22,033
But I think if you can start that and if
you can give yourself a whole year and you

1151
00:44:22,033 --> 00:44:25,334
can dedicate, now I'm not saying you got
to be perfect and win every day, but when

1152
00:44:25,334 --> 00:44:28,756
50% more or when 50% of those days are
shit.

1153
00:44:28,756 --> 00:44:31,553
If you can win 60, 70 or 80, you're going
to get a better result.

1154
00:44:31,553 --> 00:44:35,935
But if you can commit to a year and even
just do that alone, like not adding in

1155
00:44:35,935 --> 00:44:38,397
meditation, visualization, which I highly
recommend doing too, right.

1156
00:44:38,397 --> 00:44:42,199
And reading and doing all these different
things, but just that alone, watch how

1157
00:44:42,199 --> 00:44:43,479
your life changes.

1158
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:46,881
Because again, when you get into now
energy and all these different things, if

1159
00:44:46,881 --> 00:44:51,664
you're constantly referencing that type of
affirmation and you're constantly focusing

1160
00:44:51,664 --> 00:44:53,505
on it, your mind starts to open.

1161
00:44:53,505 --> 00:44:57,087
And all of a sudden you start to see these
opportunities, these doors that were

1162
00:44:57,087 --> 00:44:57,588
always there.

1163
00:44:57,588 --> 00:44:59,328
You just never saw that they were there.

1164
00:44:59,497 --> 00:45:02,659
And so I think it's important to like what
you're saying, dude, it's, you got to stay

1165
00:45:02,659 --> 00:45:03,440
committed to doing it.

1166
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:05,041
It sounds fun and great.

1167
00:45:05,041 --> 00:45:06,662
It's not going to be easy.

1168
00:45:06,762 --> 00:45:09,444
And it might not be easy for two weeks,
three weeks, four weeks.

1169
00:45:09,444 --> 00:45:12,346
It's going to be a challenge, but the more
that you do it, the better you get.

1170
00:45:12,346 --> 00:45:12,546
Right.

1171
00:45:12,546 --> 00:45:14,608
For you, it's easier to hop in those
things because guess what?

1172
00:45:14,608 --> 00:45:16,829
You've been doing this for how many years
now, right?

1173
00:45:16,829 --> 00:45:19,931
Like, so it's, it's a lot easier for you
to catch onto those things.

1174
00:45:20,172 --> 00:45:22,614
Just like when you're an athlete, it's a
lot easier to go pick up that football

1175
00:45:22,614 --> 00:45:25,956
again and throw it, it might be rusty, but
you still have a lot of that muscle

1176
00:45:25,956 --> 00:45:26,656
memory.

1177
00:45:26,740 --> 00:45:29,862
So because you've done the work, I think
for you, that's why you see that impact a

1178
00:45:29,862 --> 00:45:31,263
little bit faster.

1179
00:45:31,263 --> 00:45:34,765
So I just want to set that home for people
when, when you're going in and starting

1180
00:45:34,765 --> 00:45:37,868
journaling and starting these
affirmations, no, it's not going to be

1181
00:45:37,868 --> 00:45:38,648
fast.

1182
00:45:38,648 --> 00:45:42,651
It doesn't happen quick and don't compare
yourself to other people too, because it's

1183
00:45:42,651 --> 00:45:43,812
different, right?

1184
00:45:43,812 --> 00:45:46,314
Then where you're at with the thought
process, where you're at with your life,

1185
00:45:46,314 --> 00:45:47,494
it takes time.

1186
00:45:47,494 --> 00:45:50,617
So I just want to say, give it time with
this.

1187
00:45:50,617 --> 00:45:50,897
Right.

1188
00:45:50,897 --> 00:45:51,543
And guess what?

1189
00:45:51,543 --> 00:45:55,892
in seven, six, eight weeks, watch how
things start to shift.

1190
00:45:55,892 --> 00:45:58,173
seven, six, eight weeks, watch how things
start to shift.

1191
00:45:58,173 --> 00:46:02,035
Seven, six, eight, you know, seven, six,
eight, nine, thirteen, eleven.

1192
00:46:05,997 --> 00:46:07,698
Let's see a birth certificate.

1193
00:46:08,579 --> 00:46:11,640
You're like that, you're like that kid in
the lovely word sees it's got a beard.

1194
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:14,542
You're like, all right, let's see this
birth certificate real quick.

1195
00:46:14,542 --> 00:46:16,883
Well, now that point, it's a really solid
point, right?

1196
00:46:16,883 --> 00:46:20,545
And just to paint a picture of why I can
step into these things is because I have

1197
00:46:20,545 --> 00:46:21,666
the belief that.

1198
00:46:21,666 --> 00:46:24,866
in the past when I've added something
positive that was different that I

1199
00:46:24,866 --> 00:46:28,067
thought, I didn't believe it at the point,
but I thought, hey, this is going to make

1200
00:46:28,067 --> 00:46:28,987
a difference.

1201
00:46:29,028 --> 00:46:31,708
And then in hindsight, looking back and
having the belief that, hey, it did make a

1202
00:46:31,708 --> 00:46:32,588
difference.

1203
00:46:32,629 --> 00:46:32,749
Right?

1204
00:46:32,749 --> 00:46:35,309
So again, it's changing the story that you
share yourself and it's looking at your

1205
00:46:35,309 --> 00:46:40,071
past experiences and it's giving a new
meaning to them or like having the faith

1206
00:46:40,071 --> 00:46:42,291
really like, hey, I'm going to change
this.

1207
00:46:42,291 --> 00:46:45,652
And it's something I put on my Instagram
quite often is like, if you want to change

1208
00:46:45,652 --> 00:46:49,293
your life, you have to change what you do
on a daily basis, something.

1209
00:46:49,293 --> 00:46:51,094
It doesn't have to be your whole day.

1210
00:46:51,094 --> 00:46:54,095
But if you want to change your life, you
need to change something on a day to day

1211
00:46:54,095 --> 00:46:56,296
basis, otherwise nothing is going to
change.

1212
00:46:56,296 --> 00:46:56,536
Right?

1213
00:46:56,536 --> 00:47:00,458
So do this and then understand like, okay,
I'm going to step out and I'm going to

1214
00:47:00,458 --> 00:47:02,098
start journaling and hope that it works.

1215
00:47:02,098 --> 00:47:02,498
And guess what?

1216
00:47:02,498 --> 00:47:06,380
It might take you six, nine, eight weeks,
whatever you just said to understand and

1217
00:47:06,380 --> 00:47:09,742
look back and have that hindsight of like,
all right, which is the point we made

1218
00:47:09,742 --> 00:47:11,502
multiple podcasts ago of auditing.

1219
00:47:11,502 --> 00:47:12,983
It's like, all right, well, what has
changed?

1220
00:47:12,983 --> 00:47:13,763
What is changing?

1221
00:47:13,763 --> 00:47:14,063
Okay.

1222
00:47:14,063 --> 00:47:16,264
Well, my outlook is better, more positive.

1223
00:47:16,264 --> 00:47:19,045
There's more like more things flowing to
me.

1224
00:47:19,054 --> 00:47:29,799
more positive, more things flow in the
same way.

1225
00:47:29,799 --> 00:47:31,500
So it's a combination of those things, but
the belief isn't gonna be there.

1226
00:47:31,500 --> 00:47:33,361
It's gotta offer a place, knowing that
hey, it's too positive, trust me dude,

1227
00:47:33,361 --> 00:47:35,202
they're telling me to do this and then
looking back and doing it.

1228
00:47:35,202 --> 00:47:35,782
Thousand percent.

1229
00:47:35,782 --> 00:47:38,023
There's an example, I was actually self
reflecting a little bit on just life

1230
00:47:38,023 --> 00:47:38,263
yesterday.

1231
00:47:38,263 --> 00:47:43,305
And there's a dude, like a friend of mine,
and I kinda forgot what kinda big of a

1232
00:47:43,305 --> 00:47:45,235
impact he had on me on the start of this
journey,

1233
00:47:45,235 --> 00:47:48,198
you know, to your point, whenever I first
started.

1234
00:47:48,388 --> 00:47:52,911
just trying to get out of this belief that
I had and just starting to see what is

1235
00:47:52,911 --> 00:47:54,152
possible in life, right?

1236
00:47:54,152 --> 00:47:57,894
And what I can do and what I can achieve
and that I can have these how this house,

1237
00:47:57,894 --> 00:47:59,775
this car, you know, this life.

1238
00:47:59,976 --> 00:48:03,118
And, you know, it was it was a struggle at
first because it felt different, right?

1239
00:48:03,118 --> 00:48:05,579
It was challenging a lot of the things
that I thought before.

1240
00:48:05,879 --> 00:48:10,522
But along with that, too, it was so new
that I kind of felt crazy doing it or

1241
00:48:10,522 --> 00:48:11,803
weird, right?

1242
00:48:11,803 --> 00:48:14,365
And within a month or two of doing it.

1243
00:48:14,365 --> 00:48:18,126
so one thing I used to do was I'll go to
my gym at my college.

1244
00:48:18,126 --> 00:48:18,366
right?

1245
00:48:18,366 --> 00:48:22,247
Where like our basketball court and I
would do a lot of my soccer stuff there.

1246
00:48:22,587 --> 00:48:25,048
And I would always see this guy who played
on the basketball team.

1247
00:48:25,048 --> 00:48:26,528
He's a friend of mine right now.

1248
00:48:26,648 --> 00:48:28,188
His name is Josh Johnson.

1249
00:48:28,449 --> 00:48:29,449
Awesome, dude.

1250
00:48:29,849 --> 00:48:31,189
It is, it is a pretty solid name.

1251
00:48:31,189 --> 00:48:35,831
I'm pretty, I had a feeling you would like
it, which is also ironic that your name is

1252
00:48:35,831 --> 00:48:37,331
Josh, but just hear me out with this.

1253
00:48:37,331 --> 00:48:38,131
Okay.

1254
00:48:38,131 --> 00:48:39,672
So I remember I started this journey.

1255
00:48:39,672 --> 00:48:40,532
I started journaling.

1256
00:48:40,532 --> 00:48:42,435
I started doing, you know, meditation.

1257
00:48:42,435 --> 00:48:46,037
you know writing down my goals because I
don't know if you guys remember but

1258
00:48:46,161 --> 00:48:49,062
whenever I got that athlete mindset book,
right, it was around that time where

1259
00:48:49,062 --> 00:48:50,283
things started to pick up.

1260
00:48:50,563 --> 00:48:55,564
So I started practicing and, uh, there was
one day me and him just like, you can,

1261
00:48:55,564 --> 00:48:59,165
there was a mutual respect that you, but
we never had a conversation yet because I

1262
00:48:59,165 --> 00:49:03,646
would be in there at 6 AM, 7 AM, 5 AM,
come in early, multiple times training and

1263
00:49:03,646 --> 00:49:07,167
every single time I was there, he was
there every single time.

1264
00:49:07,167 --> 00:49:07,708
5 AM.

1265
00:49:07,708 --> 00:49:11,200
And I would see him do his drills, work
his ass off and then go over

1266
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:14,641
just go book and write stuff down and I
was just like, interesting.

1267
00:49:14,641 --> 00:49:15,210
I was like.

1268
00:49:15,210 --> 00:49:18,711
I don't know why but I'm like, I'm like
there's something here.

1269
00:49:18,711 --> 00:49:21,472
I was like, so I just one day I'm like,
Hey bro, like what's up dog, you know,

1270
00:49:21,472 --> 00:49:24,192
like saying, you know, and we had a small
conversation.

1271
00:49:24,412 --> 00:49:29,414
And within that small conversation, dude,
everything that I was doing, he was doing.

1272
00:49:29,654 --> 00:49:32,815
And that was the first time in my life
where I was like, Holy shit, dude, I'm

1273
00:49:32,815 --> 00:49:35,276
not, I'm not alone in this.

1274
00:49:35,276 --> 00:49:38,121
You know, this is, it's interesting that
this moment

1275
00:49:38,121 --> 00:49:41,603
happened at this time because it removed
the creepiness for me.

1276
00:49:41,603 --> 00:49:45,145
And I felt like there's someone out there
who's doing it from a different view.

1277
00:49:45,372 --> 00:49:47,532
I was like, Whoa, I was like, is this a
sign?

1278
00:49:47,532 --> 00:49:48,613
Is this something?

1279
00:49:48,613 --> 00:49:49,873
I'm not too sure.

1280
00:49:49,973 --> 00:49:54,175
Fast forward to now, me and him have had
conversations about meditation, all this

1281
00:49:54,175 --> 00:49:57,477
stuff you and I have been talking about,
like, when it was still fresh in my mind,

1282
00:49:57,477 --> 00:49:58,617
I started talking to him about it.

1283
00:49:58,617 --> 00:50:00,658
And he was already thinking those things
too.

1284
00:50:00,658 --> 00:50:03,899
And that was the first conversation I had
with a person that was into self

1285
00:50:03,899 --> 00:50:06,351
development at that age, same age as me.

1286
00:50:06,351 --> 00:50:08,893
me, in a different sport, and it was just
kind of mind-blowing.

1287
00:50:08,893 --> 00:50:10,634
And I know it doesn't seem like a big
deal.

1288
00:50:10,634 --> 00:50:11,535
It's a huge deal.

1289
00:50:11,535 --> 00:50:13,157
But to me it is, right?

1290
00:50:13,157 --> 00:50:14,372
Because it confirmed a lot.

1291
00:50:14,372 --> 00:50:14,872
me.

1292
00:50:14,872 --> 00:50:17,373
But now fast forward, it's like I'm still
close with him.

1293
00:50:17,373 --> 00:50:20,034
You know, he's still going out chasing his
dream and I love it.

1294
00:50:20,034 --> 00:50:23,575
And dude, he's been along that journey and
he played a pivotal role for me at that

1295
00:50:23,575 --> 00:50:24,836
time to keep me going.

1296
00:50:24,836 --> 00:50:27,997
But you know, and it could be a sign that
your name is Josh too, right?

1297
00:50:27,997 --> 00:50:29,077
Like, I don't know.

1298
00:50:29,218 --> 00:50:34,300
But I go back to that because again, just
from trying and doing these things, even

1299
00:50:34,300 --> 00:50:36,520
just that small piece kept me going.

1300
00:50:36,664 --> 00:50:40,767
And the reason I bring that up, those
small pieces will happen in your life.

1301
00:50:40,767 --> 00:50:43,498
You just gotta be aware and self-aware of
those things.

1302
00:50:43,498 --> 00:50:44,939
because he was there the whole time.

1303
00:50:44,939 --> 00:50:46,919
I wasn't aware because I wasn't doing
those things.

1304
00:50:46,919 --> 00:50:48,080
The door wasn't open.

1305
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:48,240
Right.

1306
00:50:48,240 --> 00:50:52,221
And I know that's kind of a different
example, but that could work in any other

1307
00:50:52,221 --> 00:50:52,761
way too.

1308
00:50:52,761 --> 00:50:55,422
It doesn't have to be just meeting a
specific person.

1309
00:50:55,422 --> 00:50:56,862
It could mean coming across a book.

1310
00:50:56,862 --> 00:51:00,243
It can mean listening, watching a movie
and seeing something like there's all

1311
00:51:00,243 --> 00:51:03,564
these different pieces that can help
validate what we're doing, if that makes

1312
00:51:03,564 --> 00:51:04,244
sense.

1313
00:51:04,244 --> 00:51:04,944
You know,

1314
00:51:04,973 --> 00:51:05,213
sense.

1315
00:51:05,213 --> 00:51:05,313
Yeah.

1316
00:51:05,313 --> 00:51:09,556
So I just wanted to hear that because, he
played a big role in combining the

1317
00:51:09,556 --> 00:51:12,257
thoughts and the direction I was going
with my life.

1318
00:51:12,257 --> 00:51:13,257
You know what I mean?

1319
00:51:16,685 --> 00:51:28,673
Yep.

1320
00:51:28,673 --> 00:51:29,180
For sure.

1321
00:51:29,180 --> 00:51:29,980
that don't get it.

1322
00:51:29,980 --> 00:51:31,001
It's just that it's different.

1323
00:51:31,001 --> 00:51:33,282
Like we're literally we're on a different
wavelength.

1324
00:51:33,322 --> 00:51:34,963
You know, it's like I appreciate your
respect to you.

1325
00:51:34,963 --> 00:51:38,299
But like me and you have these amazing
conversations for a reason.

1326
00:51:38,299 --> 00:51:38,619
For sure.

1327
00:51:38,619 --> 00:51:44,902
And it's like, you didn't just one day,
you're like, hey, let's have these amazing

1328
00:51:44,902 --> 00:51:45,783
conversations about energy and crazy shit.

1329
00:51:45,783 --> 00:51:46,343
It just started happening.

1330
00:51:46,343 --> 00:51:48,304
Dude, and I don't even remember how.

1331
00:51:48,304 --> 00:51:49,385
Like, I really don't.

1332
00:51:49,385 --> 00:51:53,587
Because it was like, I wish I could go
backwards and look at it now, you know,

1333
00:51:53,587 --> 00:51:56,368
dude, because it's funny, I've had so many
people when I bring up this podcast,

1334
00:51:56,368 --> 00:51:58,189
they're like, dude, I didn't even know you
and Josh were that close.

1335
00:51:58,189 --> 00:51:59,290
I was like, really?

1336
00:51:59,290 --> 00:52:01,071
I was like, dude, that's like one of my
best friends, dude.

1337
00:52:01,071 --> 00:52:02,652
I was like, you didn't know that?

1338
00:52:02,892 --> 00:52:03,792
But again, it's because

1339
00:52:03,792 --> 00:52:06,057
it's because even though we have

1340
00:52:06,057 --> 00:52:11,861
quick conversations or don't spend hours
and hours talking, we cover so much

1341
00:52:11,882 --> 00:52:15,164
information and talk about crazy shit like
this in the short amount of time, but it

1342
00:52:15,164 --> 00:52:16,885
was like, it was a build up.

1343
00:52:16,885 --> 00:52:17,886
You know what I mean?

1344
00:52:18,126 --> 00:52:21,729
But to your point, it's energy attracts
energy and what you put out is what you

1345
00:52:21,729 --> 00:52:22,749
get back.

1346
00:52:22,849 --> 00:52:25,447
And it's kind of crazy that this is where
we're at in this life.

1347
00:52:25,447 --> 00:52:25,767
in this life.

1348
00:52:25,767 --> 00:52:28,788
And I think it's funny too, because I'm
trying to think back to like the initial

1349
00:52:28,788 --> 00:52:29,788
spark too.

1350
00:52:29,788 --> 00:52:31,168
And I can't recall it.

1351
00:52:31,168 --> 00:52:34,849
But one thing I can tell you with 100%
certainty that you and I have never had

1352
00:52:34,849 --> 00:52:35,354
small talk.

1353
00:52:35,354 --> 00:52:36,555
this from when I never had to.

1354
00:52:36,555 --> 00:52:36,675
Never?

1355
00:52:36,675 --> 00:52:37,735
That's actually so true, bro.

1356
00:52:37,735 --> 00:52:40,336
We've never been like, oh, I see it.

1357
00:52:40,336 --> 00:52:40,696
That's so true.

1358
00:52:40,696 --> 00:52:41,116
I love this weather.

1359
00:52:41,116 --> 00:52:43,917
Like, it's always been like, it's good.

1360
00:52:43,917 --> 00:52:47,558
That's a mind blowing thing because you
and I have had conversations for like two

1361
00:52:47,558 --> 00:52:50,539
minutes and it's not, it's never been
something like, oh, hey man, how's

1362
00:52:50,539 --> 00:52:51,539
everything?

1363
00:52:51,539 --> 00:52:53,319
Like it's, oh, it's like, dude, I saw this
thing.

1364
00:52:53,319 --> 00:52:54,820
And dude, you gotta, always, you gotta
check this out.

1365
00:52:54,820 --> 00:52:55,640
You gotta check this out.

1366
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:56,463
So I gotta check this out.

1367
00:52:56,463 --> 00:52:57,383
on TikTok.

1368
00:52:58,009 --> 00:53:00,410
Dude, okay, so I've been listening to this
pastor and I'm like, all right, here we

1369
00:53:00,410 --> 00:53:00,570
go.

1370
00:53:00,570 --> 00:53:01,490
Let's go.

1371
00:53:02,211 --> 00:53:09,674
Dude, that's wild.

1372
00:53:09,674 --> 00:53:12,175
Yeah, especially when you got the
algorithm of you, dude.

1373
00:53:12,175 --> 00:53:13,369
You have an insane algorithm.

1374
00:53:13,369 --> 00:53:14,210
talking to TJ about that.

1375
00:53:14,210 --> 00:53:16,432
He just downloaded and he's like, dude,
how do you get your algorithm?

1376
00:53:16,432 --> 00:53:19,355
I'm like, let me, let me tell you a
grasshopper.

1377
00:53:21,137 --> 00:53:22,138
I don't even know how it works, man.

1378
00:53:22,138 --> 00:53:22,879
It's all energy.

1379
00:53:22,879 --> 00:53:25,161
Just attracted it to me.

1380
00:53:25,161 --> 00:53:25,881
It is.

1381
00:53:25,954 --> 00:53:29,335
Guys, I want to kind of throw something in
here as a litmus test for belief, right?

1382
00:53:29,335 --> 00:53:32,596
So you might be listening to this and you
might be like, oh, hey, I have a high

1383
00:53:32,596 --> 00:53:33,737
level of belief.

1384
00:53:33,737 --> 00:53:37,218
But the litmus test is, and you can kind
of throw in on this too, because it's very

1385
00:53:37,218 --> 00:53:37,539
basic.

1386
00:53:37,539 --> 00:53:41,300
What I'm going to say is do you have a
positive outlook or a negative outlook?

1387
00:53:41,900 --> 00:53:43,841
You know, because if you have a negative
outlook, you're always going to be telling

1388
00:53:43,841 --> 00:53:45,142
yourself why you can't.

1389
00:53:45,342 --> 00:53:46,803
And that belief immediately follows that.

1390
00:53:46,803 --> 00:53:48,023
It's again, it's energy.

1391
00:53:48,023 --> 00:53:49,704
You're now vibrating at a low energy.

1392
00:53:49,704 --> 00:53:52,985
You are going to attract things to you and
that only tanks your belief from a low

1393
00:53:52,985 --> 00:53:54,165
energy standpoint.

1394
00:53:54,248 --> 00:53:57,152
Whereas it's obviously having a higher
expectation, right?

1395
00:53:57,152 --> 00:53:59,074
What if this goes for the low energy?

1396
00:53:59,074 --> 00:54:00,836
Your beliefs don't imagine the public.

1397
00:54:10,477 --> 00:54:12,131
you agree

1398
00:54:12,131 --> 00:54:14,672
figure out whether it's positive or
negative, I think it's easy to tell

1399
00:54:14,672 --> 00:54:17,754
yourself you're not negative and you're
being real or like, nah, man, I'm just

1400
00:54:17,754 --> 00:54:19,535
being realistic, you know?

1401
00:54:19,535 --> 00:54:23,276
And I think that's also a problem because
when you do that,

1402
00:54:23,470 --> 00:54:33,940
What you're telling yourself is you really
believe that you can't have these things

1403
00:54:33,940 --> 00:54:34,741
and this is not possible, but guess what?

1404
00:54:34,741 --> 00:54:35,101
It never happened.

1405
00:54:35,101 --> 00:54:36,202
But again, the worst part is we don't see
that negative.

1406
00:54:36,202 --> 00:54:38,024
We think we're trying to be real.

1407
00:54:38,024 --> 00:54:38,725
Dude, I want to go so deep on that.

1408
00:54:38,725 --> 00:54:39,145
What is real?

1409
00:54:39,145 --> 00:54:41,628
Now, that's an even greater question.

1410
00:54:41,628 --> 00:54:41,868
What's real?

1411
00:54:41,868 --> 00:54:42,448
Whatever we believe is real.

1412
00:54:42,448 --> 00:54:42,629
Kind of.

1413
00:54:42,629 --> 00:54:46,673
I was reading about a paradox yesterday,
and I forget what it was called because I

1414
00:54:46,673 --> 00:54:47,893
just dove into it.

1415
00:54:48,066 --> 00:54:52,128
But it's talking about like, there's
actually no physical way for us to know

1416
00:54:52,128 --> 00:55:00,532
that anything outside of us actually even
exists.

1417
00:55:00,532 --> 00:55:05,615
Now this is Howard three, do you get, I'm
like, bro, do you know, are you even real?

1418
00:55:06,396 --> 00:55:07,416
How do I know that you exist?

1419
00:55:07,416 --> 00:55:08,777
Tell me, tell me, you're my best friend.

1420
00:55:08,777 --> 00:55:09,897
Tell me how I know.

1421
00:55:11,201 --> 00:55:14,448
But it's so fucking good though, man,
because it's a good point.

1422
00:55:14,448 --> 00:55:15,870
It's like, what is real?

1423
00:55:16,273 --> 00:55:18,030
But that's also the beauty of it.

1424
00:55:18,030 --> 00:55:19,430
real to me is totally different for you.

1425
00:55:19,430 --> 00:55:20,851
You're right.

1426
00:55:20,851 --> 00:55:21,271
You know what I mean?

1427
00:55:21,271 --> 00:55:22,432
For the most part, absolutely.

1428
00:55:22,432 --> 00:55:24,573
Because again, it goes back to what we
talked about a few weeks ago.

1429
00:55:24,573 --> 00:55:26,673
I don't even think we talked about this in
the podcast.

1430
00:55:26,673 --> 00:55:30,055
But for me, I know, like, all right, when
I leave here, I got to go to soccer

1431
00:55:30,055 --> 00:55:30,415
practice.

1432
00:55:30,415 --> 00:55:31,295
I got to go to volleyball.

1433
00:55:31,295 --> 00:55:31,756
I got this.

1434
00:55:31,756 --> 00:55:32,136
I got this.

1435
00:55:32,136 --> 00:55:32,656
I got this.

1436
00:55:32,656 --> 00:55:33,376
Right?

1437
00:55:33,916 --> 00:55:36,578
I could paint a picture in my mind of what
you're going to go do, but how do I even

1438
00:55:36,578 --> 00:55:37,998
know you exist when we're not together?

1439
00:55:37,998 --> 00:55:39,399
That's a really good point.

1440
00:55:39,399 --> 00:55:39,919
You know what I'm saying?

1441
00:55:39,919 --> 00:55:40,719
Yeah, you have no idea.

1442
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:43,340
This is only the beginning.

1443
00:55:43,340 --> 00:55:44,481
Yeah, like I know the real Dino.

1444
00:55:44,481 --> 00:55:44,901
No, I don't.

1445
00:55:44,901 --> 00:55:46,242
You could be leaving here and...

1446
00:55:46,242 --> 00:55:49,744
going and committing mass crimes somewhere
like Batman or saving, saving lives.

1447
00:55:49,744 --> 00:55:50,765
You know what I'm saying?

1448
00:55:53,548 --> 00:55:56,030
But that's again, it's a perception and
perspective.

1449
00:55:56,030 --> 00:55:59,633
Like we paint this picture of people and
these things and these situations in life.

1450
00:55:59,633 --> 00:56:00,574
But how do we even freaking know?

1451
00:56:00,574 --> 00:56:02,315
You don't.

1452
00:56:02,315 --> 00:56:03,175
You don't.

1453
00:56:05,758 --> 00:56:07,760
You literally get to create whatever you
want.

1454
00:56:07,760 --> 00:56:08,901
That's the moral of the story.

1455
00:56:08,901 --> 00:56:10,782
You can create it, right?

1456
00:56:10,782 --> 00:56:14,625
Like I can create a story for your life
and who you are and

1457
00:56:14,737 --> 00:56:16,159
energetically, you know, you guys are.

1458
00:56:16,159 --> 00:56:16,540
For sure.

1459
00:56:16,540 --> 00:56:18,763
But the whole idea is like I can create
this for you, right?

1460
00:56:18,763 --> 00:56:20,726
You know, it's going to lead you to the
other things, but how do I actually do

1461
00:56:20,726 --> 00:56:21,326
that?

1462
00:56:21,367 --> 00:56:21,868
You don't.

1463
00:56:21,868 --> 00:56:22,148
Right?

1464
00:56:22,148 --> 00:56:24,151
So, again, think that into your own life.

1465
00:56:24,151 --> 00:56:27,396
It's like, all right, well, this, and this
could happen, but how do I know that?

1466
00:56:27,396 --> 00:56:28,096
Mm-hmm.

1467
00:56:28,349 --> 00:56:28,489
Right?

1468
00:56:28,489 --> 00:56:30,030
I'm going to go create whatever I want.

1469
00:56:30,030 --> 00:56:32,371
Because if I can create the story of your
life, what you leave here, I can create

1470
00:56:32,371 --> 00:56:32,731
anything.

1471
00:56:32,731 --> 00:56:33,271
You know what I'm saying?

1472
00:56:33,271 --> 00:56:33,811
I want to switch that, dude.

1473
00:56:33,811 --> 00:56:34,851
I want to follow up with this.

1474
00:56:34,851 --> 00:56:39,833
But it's also how you can remove
expectations.

1475
00:56:39,833 --> 00:56:39,933
Yeah.

1476
00:56:39,933 --> 00:56:43,073
Because with social media, we just teach
people where...

1477
00:56:43,101 --> 00:56:49,002
27, 28, younger, millionaires, successful,
you're like, oh, they must have grinded 24

1478
00:56:49,002 --> 00:56:50,123
hours a day.

1479
00:56:50,403 --> 00:56:52,223
That's what we think.

1480
00:56:52,543 --> 00:56:53,704
That we're painting that story.

1481
00:56:53,704 --> 00:56:54,904
But how accurate is it?

1482
00:56:54,904 --> 00:56:56,384
It's not always that accurate.

1483
00:56:56,529 --> 00:56:58,770
But you know what other stories we never
talk about though?

1484
00:56:58,770 --> 00:57:03,313
Is the story that would help us confirm
more of our own beliefs in the way of like

1485
00:57:03,313 --> 00:57:04,033
a positive route.

1486
00:57:04,033 --> 00:57:04,273
Right?

1487
00:57:04,273 --> 00:57:07,215
So it's like, when we look at these people
who are playing five and we're like, oh,

1488
00:57:07,215 --> 00:57:09,896
29, I can't do what he does.

1489
00:57:09,996 --> 00:57:12,497
What about the guy who's started the
enterprise?

1490
00:57:12,698 --> 00:57:15,255
you know, what about that guy who started
a business at 55?

1491
00:57:15,255 --> 00:57:18,177
KFC was started when you were 75.

1492
00:57:18,177 --> 00:57:19,417
We don't talk about that.

1493
00:57:19,417 --> 00:57:20,958
We never talk about that.

1494
00:57:20,958 --> 00:57:23,939
But that's the problem with our reality.

1495
00:57:23,940 --> 00:57:28,762
It's we go into what we see, but then we
kind of fill in the gaps ourselves.

1496
00:57:28,762 --> 00:57:29,363
And guess what?

1497
00:57:29,363 --> 00:57:30,463
Those gaps aren't always right.

1498
00:57:30,463 --> 00:57:31,004
Yeah.

1499
00:57:31,004 --> 00:57:32,044
Most of the time they're not.

1500
00:57:32,044 --> 00:57:32,604
Yeah.

1501
00:57:32,604 --> 00:57:36,747
But to your point, it's like, we don't
know those things, but then we like try to

1502
00:57:36,747 --> 00:57:38,428
make, uh, make it real.

1503
00:57:38,428 --> 00:57:40,689
We try to make it like, oh, this is
reality.

1504
00:57:40,689 --> 00:57:41,926
But you, this is also what happens.

1505
00:57:41,926 --> 00:57:45,728
with a lot of people and why a lot of
people struggle to communicate with other

1506
00:57:45,728 --> 00:57:47,537
people is because they have this
perception

1507
00:57:47,537 --> 00:57:49,338
of like, oh, Josh hates me.

1508
00:57:49,338 --> 00:57:50,038
Why?

1509
00:57:50,038 --> 00:57:51,759
Well, he didn't say hi to me.

1510
00:57:51,759 --> 00:57:52,780
I'm like, bro, what?

1511
00:57:54,541 --> 00:57:56,902
So what if he has to go on at home?

1512
00:57:56,902 --> 00:57:59,484
What if he just got told with a word about
it and he's hired?

1513
00:57:59,484 --> 00:58:01,625
What if he's focused on this project yet?

1514
00:58:01,625 --> 00:58:04,066
But it's like, we go to the thing that we
just like, this is it.

1515
00:58:04,066 --> 00:58:05,307
This is it.

1516
00:58:05,307 --> 00:58:06,148
There's no other option.

1517
00:58:06,148 --> 00:58:06,668
Bro, how?

1518
00:58:06,668 --> 00:58:07,328
Yeah.

1519
00:58:07,929 --> 00:58:09,866
It's that story that spins in your own
mind.

1520
00:58:09,866 --> 00:58:12,768
Happened the other day here, I was super
like distressed at work, had a lot of

1521
00:58:12,768 --> 00:58:13,568
stuff to do.

1522
00:58:13,568 --> 00:58:14,689
Wasn't upset, wasn't angry.

1523
00:58:14,689 --> 00:58:16,851
I was in a positive mindset, but I was
just in go mode.

1524
00:58:16,851 --> 00:58:18,672
Like I'm, I'm a grinder, right?

1525
00:58:18,672 --> 00:58:21,855
So I got into go mode and I wasn't my
super positive, fun self with Nick, who

1526
00:58:21,855 --> 00:58:25,377
sits behind me, handsome Nick, for those
of you that know him, sits behind me.

1527
00:58:25,377 --> 00:58:26,518
And he's like, he came up midday.

1528
00:58:26,518 --> 00:58:27,579
He's like, dude, are you mad at me?

1529
00:58:27,579 --> 00:58:29,440
I'm like, no, he's like, you barely talked
to me today.

1530
00:58:29,440 --> 00:58:30,201
You know what I mean?

1531
00:58:30,201 --> 00:58:31,802
I'm like, nah, dude, I'm just freaking
grinding over here.

1532
00:58:31,802 --> 00:58:35,405
And like to him, you know, and I do have a
resting bitch face when I work.

1533
00:58:35,405 --> 00:58:36,745
I have to confirm that.

1534
00:58:38,272 --> 00:58:39,033
Yeah.

1535
00:58:39,555 --> 00:58:41,045
But again, it's important to understand
that.

1536
00:58:41,045 --> 00:58:44,887
that like your presence can literally
dictate the energy of other people.

1537
00:58:44,887 --> 00:58:48,410
So to that point, something I wanna throw
in there is, like we've all been around

1538
00:58:48,410 --> 00:58:53,353
these people that, you know, we look out
to as like a super positive person or a

1539
00:58:53,353 --> 00:58:54,294
good influence.

1540
00:58:54,294 --> 00:58:57,736
And really a lot of what dictates that is
their presence in your life and how they

1541
00:58:57,736 --> 00:59:00,738
speak into your life and how they interact
when they're with you, right?

1542
00:59:00,738 --> 00:59:03,860
So if you wanna be that person that pours
belief in other people, just interact

1543
00:59:03,860 --> 00:59:05,041
positively with people.

1544
00:59:05,041 --> 00:59:06,461
Tell them that you're proud of them.

1545
00:59:06,624 --> 00:59:09,767
asked them to encourage you to write small
talk doesn't exist.

1546
00:59:09,767 --> 00:59:12,489
me if I get into a small talk conversation
with you I'm like, dude, what are the

1547
00:59:12,489 --> 00:59:13,550
positive things going on in your life?

1548
00:59:13,550 --> 00:59:15,270
What kind of goals are you working
towards?

1549
00:59:15,330 --> 00:59:17,852
Not like hey, oh, yeah, it's beautiful out
there today.

1550
00:59:17,852 --> 00:59:20,610
Like yeah, I know I was out there too, you
know

1551
00:59:20,610 --> 00:59:25,332
Yeah, it's like what value does this add
to me like I rather sit there and do to

1552
00:59:25,332 --> 00:59:29,173
your point I think this is also something
that's so beneficial to life is when you

1553
00:59:29,173 --> 00:59:32,034
can sit there and it's like dude Even if I
meet you in the first five minutes, like I

1554
00:59:32,034 --> 00:59:35,196
want to know what your goals are why
you're doing what you're doing How'd you

1555
00:59:35,196 --> 00:59:35,536
get there?

1556
00:59:35,536 --> 00:59:36,596
It's like bro.

1557
00:59:36,596 --> 00:59:37,603
How'd you figure that out?

1558
00:59:37,603 --> 00:59:37,963
Yeah.

1559
00:59:37,963 --> 00:59:42,667
You know, like I remember dude, we went to
a rock wedding in Arizona and I met some

1560
00:59:42,667 --> 00:59:45,490
of the stars and like my first thing, the
guys were calling me about how they do

1561
00:59:45,490 --> 00:59:46,890
rock and all this stuff.

1562
00:59:46,891 --> 00:59:48,712
I'm like over here like, dude, what do you
guys do now?

1563
00:59:48,712 --> 00:59:49,753
Like what is your life like now?

1564
00:59:49,753 --> 00:59:50,394
How many kids do you have?

1565
00:59:50,394 --> 00:59:50,974
How'd you get there?

1566
00:59:50,974 --> 00:59:51,535
You know what I mean?

1567
00:59:51,535 --> 00:59:52,835
Like how's it like?

1568
00:59:53,076 --> 00:59:53,716
How do babies have it?

1569
00:59:53,716 --> 00:59:54,017
Yeah, yeah.

1570
00:59:54,017 --> 00:59:56,219
I'm very interested in rock and all that
stuff.

1571
00:59:56,219 --> 01:00:00,342
I'm like, oh, I'm interested in rock and
all that stuff.

1572
01:00:00,342 --> 01:00:00,802
This is a fun place.

1573
01:00:00,802 --> 01:00:01,823
Oh geez.

1574
01:00:01,823 --> 01:00:04,045
But dude, it's like going deeper, right?

1575
01:00:04,045 --> 01:00:04,762
But.

1576
01:00:04,762 --> 01:00:07,680
I think to your point, too, it's also that
you have to be

1577
01:00:07,680 --> 01:00:11,363
for others, what you wish you would, or
what others would do for you.

1578
01:00:11,363 --> 01:00:12,704
Right, and that's how you have to operate.

1579
01:00:12,704 --> 01:00:16,687
For me, that's a big piece that keeps me
going, because I know what I wish I would

1580
01:00:16,687 --> 01:00:16,968
have.

1581
01:00:16,968 --> 01:00:19,049
I know what I wish I would have.

1582
01:00:19,049 --> 01:00:21,031
So I try to be that for other people.

1583
01:00:21,031 --> 01:00:24,174
And because of doing that, I don't do it
for myself.

1584
01:00:24,174 --> 01:00:28,077
And I think because I don't do it for
myself, it allows me to see the value I

1585
01:00:28,077 --> 01:00:31,320
give to others, but that is also what
fills my cup.

1586
01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:33,443
And when I do that, naturally I can see
the value.

1587
01:00:33,443 --> 01:00:35,094
pieces start to fall in line.

1588
01:00:35,094 --> 01:00:36,135
and everything works out.

1589
01:00:36,135 --> 01:00:37,996
That's where my mind goes.

1590
01:00:37,996 --> 01:00:42,339
But it goes because I know I'm doing the
right, excuse me.

1591
01:00:42,339 --> 01:00:43,019
Yeah, boss.

1592
01:00:43,019 --> 01:00:44,200
Thank you.

1593
01:00:44,200 --> 01:00:45,980
But I know I'm doing the right things.

1594
01:00:46,181 --> 01:00:48,902
Right, so, and again, I think it goes back
and forth.

1595
01:00:48,902 --> 01:00:51,904
But I think you have to look at it from
that view, just kind of like your

1596
01:00:51,904 --> 01:00:52,384
perception.

1597
01:00:52,384 --> 01:00:53,785
It's like you gotta put yourself in their
shoes.

1598
01:00:53,785 --> 01:00:57,227
We've also gotta be the person that you
wish you would be.

1599
01:00:57,367 --> 01:00:57,467
Yeah.

1600
01:00:57,467 --> 01:00:58,468
Or you wish you were a hat.

1601
01:00:58,468 --> 01:00:58,808
Yeah.

1602
01:00:58,808 --> 01:01:00,738
Right, so, I think that puts a big role in
that too.

1603
01:01:00,738 --> 01:01:04,500
I understand you, but this is a really big
thing.

1604
01:01:05,012 --> 01:01:08,455
that there's like, there's going to be
days when, and moments that like, you

1605
01:01:08,455 --> 01:01:09,736
don't believe, right?

1606
01:01:09,736 --> 01:01:12,819
Like going back to the affirmation things
with the leadership thing, um, ended the

1607
01:01:12,819 --> 01:01:15,180
day yesterday, had a really awesome day.

1608
01:01:15,180 --> 01:01:18,463
Um, you know, I'm a leader here at first
form on the leadership team.

1609
01:01:18,463 --> 01:01:23,767
Had a very positive discussion about like,
just my role and expectations of me and a

1610
01:01:23,767 --> 01:01:28,752
couple other guys here, but it like, also
tanked my belief at the same time because

1611
01:01:28,752 --> 01:01:31,353
of like how much further that I have to
go.

1612
01:01:31,404 --> 01:01:33,764
And I had that moment of like,

1613
01:01:34,112 --> 01:01:35,533
I'm not like those guys.

1614
01:01:35,533 --> 01:01:37,054
Like, and, but guess what?

1615
01:01:37,054 --> 01:01:39,296
On my ride home, I still did my
affirmations.

1616
01:01:39,296 --> 01:01:40,077
Why?

1617
01:01:40,137 --> 01:01:43,780
Maybe they weren't my most high belief
affirmations because I know that my words

1618
01:01:43,780 --> 01:01:47,143
matter and those thoughts that I had of,
Hey, I got a long way to go.

1619
01:01:47,143 --> 01:01:49,064
Words are going to trump thoughts every
time.

1620
01:01:49,105 --> 01:01:51,627
So to Dino's point earlier, I'm just going
to say it again.

1621
01:01:51,627 --> 01:01:54,168
You got to get out of your head and you
got to speak.

1622
01:01:54,489 --> 01:01:55,269
Right.

1623
01:01:55,330 --> 01:01:58,593
And you got to write and you got to just
get it out because when it's right around

1624
01:01:58,593 --> 01:01:59,333
in your head.

1625
01:01:59,333 --> 01:01:59,953
Um,

1626
01:01:59,992 --> 01:02:03,873
just to take this to a spiritual place,
the devil has controlled your mind.

1627
01:02:04,274 --> 01:02:05,891
And he's gonna think all kinds of things.

1628
01:02:05,891 --> 01:02:07,272
pictures and it's gonna tank belief.

1629
01:02:07,272 --> 01:02:10,092
So if you're somebody that struggles with
that, try to actually get out of your

1630
01:02:10,092 --> 01:02:12,253
mind, journal, speak these things, and
speak what you want, not what is.

1631
01:02:12,253 --> 01:02:12,573
I love that.

1632
01:02:12,573 --> 01:02:13,213
And I'll add to that story.

1633
01:02:13,213 --> 01:02:16,534
I don't think you lose belief for a person
out there.

1634
01:02:16,534 --> 01:02:21,035
I think it's just concealed.

1635
01:02:21,035 --> 01:02:21,996
It's a little bit smaller.

1636
01:02:21,996 --> 01:02:29,052
It's not as strong, but I don't think that
ever goes with that.

1637
01:02:29,052 --> 01:02:32,614
Right, and I think it's important that you
keep doing those things, you know, but

1638
01:02:32,614 --> 01:02:36,096
even with that too It's like hey Maybe you
might be for you might have this long road

1639
01:02:36,096 --> 01:02:39,758
to go But a different perspective that I
can I could even just pick out of that is

1640
01:02:39,758 --> 01:02:43,320
like well What if the skills you have now
and who you are?

1641
01:02:43,320 --> 01:02:45,902
Maybe you're not gonna be like those
people But maybe there's a need for a

1642
01:02:45,902 --> 01:02:48,884
person like yourself right now I'm not
saying you have all the skills that you

1643
01:02:48,884 --> 01:02:50,728
need to do exactly

1644
01:02:50,728 --> 01:02:53,709
you know, maybe take something to a
further level yet because there's still so

1645
01:02:53,709 --> 01:02:54,769
much knowledge to

1646
01:02:54,872 --> 01:02:58,095
But what if your style is still very
important and actually has an impact that

1647
01:02:58,095 --> 01:02:59,256
you just don't see yet?

1648
01:02:59,256 --> 01:03:02,498
Right, now I'm sure you've thought about
that already, but it's like, again, it's

1649
01:03:02,498 --> 01:03:04,900
quick to see that thought and be like,
damn dude, I'm not there.

1650
01:03:04,900 --> 01:03:06,642
I don't know if I'll ever be there, blah,
blah.

1651
01:03:06,642 --> 01:03:09,024
But it's like, hold on, no, I have good
skills.

1652
01:03:09,024 --> 01:03:11,606
This is the things I need to work on, but
this is what I'm really good at, right?

1653
01:03:11,606 --> 01:03:14,789
And I think it's also important to go back
to the things that, not that you're

1654
01:03:14,789 --> 01:03:17,591
comfortable with, but the things that you
know you do really well.

1655
01:03:17,591 --> 01:03:19,803
And then even if there's things that you
need to work on,

1656
01:03:19,803 --> 01:03:23,456
it's like, all right, I do this really
well, and I got you're doing the work.

1657
01:03:23,456 --> 01:03:26,839
subconsciously or consciously, whatever,
but I can do the same thing for here.

1658
01:03:26,839 --> 01:03:28,180
Now, how can I combine those two?

1659
01:03:28,180 --> 01:03:29,150
I hope that makes sense.

1660
01:03:29,150 --> 01:03:29,891
Oh, a hundred percent does.

1661
01:03:29,891 --> 01:03:31,052
And that's honestly what happened.

1662
01:03:31,052 --> 01:03:35,936
Like I immediately went into like a
retrospect of like, you know what, like

1663
01:03:36,697 --> 01:03:40,260
the, the disbelief came from the gap and
the skills that I don't have to your point

1664
01:03:40,260 --> 01:03:43,243
is like, I like, cause I was being
compared to like people that run billion

1665
01:03:43,243 --> 01:03:47,546
dollar companies and it's like, all right,
well, if they did that, a, I know it's

1666
01:03:47,546 --> 01:03:51,560
possible B I know that me developing the
skills and

1667
01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:54,883
through that whole process, I believe that
I can develop other skills and those

1668
01:03:54,883 --> 01:03:59,167
skills that I develop on my own, I can
make them a lot easier.

1669
01:03:59,167 --> 01:04:04,752
So it wasn't really necessarily a disease,
it was just like a fear.

1670
01:04:04,752 --> 01:04:09,416
I know how hard it was to get a cure and
it was just like that, I was just wrecked

1671
01:04:09,416 --> 01:04:11,238
according to the time.

1672
01:04:11,238 --> 01:04:13,296
So I left it on a great topic.

1673
01:04:13,296 --> 01:04:14,962
from a lot of action.

1674
01:04:14,962 --> 01:04:18,183
And looking back in retrospect, knowing
that, hey, like I believe that I can

1675
01:04:18,183 --> 01:04:20,644
improve and that all these things that
I've done got me to where I am.

1676
01:04:20,644 --> 01:04:23,705
And anything I do from here on forward is
going to get me to where I want to go.

1677
01:04:23,825 --> 01:04:25,566
So it's a high level of belief.

1678
01:04:25,566 --> 01:04:28,567
And really what I want to kind of say
there is because to Dino's point, there

1679
01:04:28,567 --> 01:04:31,188
are layers of, of thoughts, right?

1680
01:04:31,188 --> 01:04:32,929
It's what's your prevailing thought?

1681
01:04:32,929 --> 01:04:34,710
What is the core thought that you have?

1682
01:04:34,710 --> 01:04:36,791
Is it a positive or is it a negative?

1683
01:04:36,791 --> 01:04:39,932
Because yeah, we all deal with the
negative belief happens all the time,

1684
01:04:39,932 --> 01:04:40,092
right?

1685
01:04:40,092 --> 01:04:42,973
It's all around us, but what do you bounce
back to?

1686
01:04:42,973 --> 01:04:43,951
What's your bedrock?

1687
01:04:43,951 --> 01:04:44,091
not.

1688
01:04:44,091 --> 01:04:45,892
I don't know about that.

1689
01:04:45,892 --> 01:04:47,232
But what are you about to ask me just
because I'm not?

1690
01:04:47,232 --> 01:04:47,372
Mm-hmm.

1691
01:04:47,372 --> 01:04:47,913
No, I can't react like that.

1692
01:04:47,913 --> 01:04:48,053
Mm-hmm.

1693
01:04:48,053 --> 01:04:48,393
I love that, dude.

1694
01:04:48,393 --> 01:04:49,873
It's going back to that core.

1695
01:04:49,873 --> 01:04:51,334
And I think you said it perfectly.

1696
01:04:51,334 --> 01:04:54,496
You know, for me, man, and I don't know
how long we've been going.

1697
01:04:54,496 --> 01:04:55,516
I think we've been going for a while.

1698
01:04:55,516 --> 01:04:56,376
I like it.

1699
01:04:56,757 --> 01:04:59,858
The last thing I want to touch on it as
far as like even for myself,

1700
01:05:00,066 --> 01:05:03,307
and I'm sure you've heard before, but I've
always had like a type of perfectionist

1701
01:05:03,307 --> 01:05:05,687
mindset and I don't even want to say I've
always had.

1702
01:05:06,048 --> 01:05:08,668
I believe that you have to be perfect.

1703
01:05:08,668 --> 01:05:12,723
And because of that, I feel like, even if
I do things really, really well.

1704
01:05:12,723 --> 01:05:15,824
the one thing I mess up on that's the
thing I end up focusing on you know and

1705
01:05:15,824 --> 01:05:20,286
it's still I still carry that over to this
day like it's it doesn't just leave But it

1706
01:05:20,286 --> 01:05:23,367
gets I get better at controlling it Right
and it's like dude.

1707
01:05:23,367 --> 01:05:26,628
That's something I struggle with because
it's like you know as I'm telling as we're

1708
01:05:26,628 --> 01:05:28,873
talking to you guys And talking about like
hey, you just got to win

1709
01:05:28,873 --> 01:05:30,834
you know, more days than you used.

1710
01:05:30,835 --> 01:05:32,816
Dude, for me, I feel like I'm not perfect.

1711
01:05:32,816 --> 01:05:33,837
I'm not winning.

1712
01:05:33,837 --> 01:05:36,098
You know, and that was a tough thing for
me to break.

1713
01:05:36,098 --> 01:05:38,300
And on again, I still have those moments.

1714
01:05:38,300 --> 01:05:38,500
Right?

1715
01:05:38,500 --> 01:05:40,761
But I go back to that too because...

1716
01:05:40,761 --> 01:05:42,102
you know, it's again, it's a process.

1717
01:05:42,102 --> 01:05:44,984
It's the journey of it, dude, you know,
and it's like, we're all humans, you're

1718
01:05:44,984 --> 01:05:47,645
all going to go through these even those
guys who run billion dollar companies,

1719
01:05:47,645 --> 01:05:50,407
guess what, they're having the same
thoughts you and I are having right now.

1720
01:05:50,407 --> 01:05:53,209
But again, we try to fill in the gaps, and
we assume that they're perfect.

1721
01:05:53,209 --> 01:05:54,550
So we got to be perfect.

1722
01:05:54,550 --> 01:05:57,492
You know, one of the best blessings that
my mom and my dad used to tell me is like,

1723
01:05:57,492 --> 01:05:58,081
dude,

1724
01:05:58,081 --> 01:06:02,004
you watch professional soccer players
every single Saturday, Sunday, and wake up

1725
01:06:02,004 --> 01:06:03,024
in the morning.

1726
01:06:03,065 --> 01:06:04,666
How many times have they missed a goal?

1727
01:06:04,666 --> 01:06:06,867
I'm like, well, fuck, they actually missed
a lot.

1728
01:06:07,088 --> 01:06:09,029
How much more money did they make from
you?

1729
01:06:09,220 --> 01:06:10,160
millions?

1730
01:06:10,160 --> 01:06:12,901
And I'm like, damn, dude, I miss at a high
school game.

1731
01:06:12,901 --> 01:06:14,702
This dude misses and he gets paid 100
million.

1732
01:06:14,702 --> 01:06:16,202
I'm I think I'm OK.

1733
01:06:16,422 --> 01:06:16,582
Right.

1734
01:06:16,582 --> 01:06:18,703
But again, you know, for me, that was
always a challenge.

1735
01:06:18,703 --> 01:06:21,764
But I share that because it's like it
never just goes away.

1736
01:06:21,764 --> 01:06:24,451
You just get really good at taking control
of it.

1737
01:06:24,451 --> 01:06:27,452
Right, and it's like for you, you're
always a guy who wants more and wants to

1738
01:06:27,452 --> 01:06:30,613
do better because you get grind, grinder,
right?

1739
01:06:30,613 --> 01:06:31,230
Hustler.

1740
01:06:31,230 --> 01:06:32,631
put it I think Hustler sounds better.

1741
01:06:32,631 --> 01:06:33,351
Sorry.

1742
01:06:33,572 --> 01:06:34,713
Not even gonna go there with that one.

1743
01:06:34,713 --> 01:06:35,834
Okay, Hustler.

1744
01:06:35,834 --> 01:06:40,417
But I won't tell Kim.

1745
01:06:40,818 --> 01:06:44,001
But but I think it's one of those things
where like even for you, you still have

1746
01:06:44,001 --> 01:06:44,721
those moments too.

1747
01:06:44,721 --> 01:06:47,143
But again, you got good at controlling
because guess what?

1748
01:06:47,143 --> 01:06:48,384
How did you feel when you got home?

1749
01:06:48,384 --> 01:06:50,966
You probably felt 10 times better than
when you left this.

1750
01:06:51,206 --> 01:06:54,168
And I think that's the important piece is
never you're

1751
01:06:54,276 --> 01:06:57,018
piece is, never, understand that those
things, never just go away, just get that

1752
01:06:57,018 --> 01:06:57,399
out of control.

1753
01:06:57,399 --> 01:06:57,799
Yeah, 100%.

1754
01:06:57,799 --> 01:07:00,381
And to that point, like the whole
perfectionist mindset,

1755
01:07:00,938 --> 01:07:05,522
I think it's okay to have that mindset,
but also have the understanding and the

1756
01:07:05,522 --> 01:07:10,387
knowledge that, hey, it's okay to have
that mindset because that is drawing me to

1757
01:07:10,387 --> 01:07:11,708
this point, right?

1758
01:07:11,708 --> 01:07:16,112
So if perfection is a hundred percent,
well, hey, 90% is still pretty damn good.

1759
01:07:16,112 --> 01:07:19,736
And if you don't have that perfection
mindset, maybe your peak is 75, but then

1760
01:07:19,736 --> 01:07:21,197
you're operating at 60.

1761
01:07:21,397 --> 01:07:21,918
You know what I mean?

1762
01:07:21,918 --> 01:07:24,400
So it's the energy that's drawing you
forward.

1763
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:25,961
What is the expectation?

1764
01:07:26,038 --> 01:07:28,959
because if it's a really high level of
space, it's kind of just a cheesy thing,

1765
01:07:28,959 --> 01:07:31,241
but like, hey, shoot for the moon, you'll
land among the stars, right?

1766
01:07:31,241 --> 01:07:32,542
I don't think it's true at all.

1767
01:07:32,542 --> 01:07:33,743
I think it's fucking true.

1768
01:07:33,743 --> 01:07:34,543
Yeah, but it is.

1769
01:07:34,543 --> 01:07:36,505
And Coach Brian talked about this.

1770
01:07:36,505 --> 01:07:40,387
He's like, dude, I change perfection
knowing that it's not real, because I know

1771
01:07:40,387 --> 01:07:43,950
other people look at it and they are a
thing and they're not willing to even work

1772
01:07:43,950 --> 01:07:44,650
or try to go for that.

1773
01:07:44,650 --> 01:07:48,293
He's like, so I'm gonna go for that,
knowing it's not attainable, but because I

1774
01:07:48,293 --> 01:07:51,815
go for that, I'm gonna get closer than
anybody else can and I'm gonna be the best

1775
01:07:51,815 --> 01:07:52,435
that I can.

1776
01:07:52,435 --> 01:07:52,896
Exactly.

1777
01:07:52,896 --> 01:07:55,637
Well, you can do that with life and that's
your point, that's what you're saying.

1778
01:07:55,806 --> 01:07:59,839
is, dude, if you shoot like 75%, you're
not gonna hit you're gonna go 60.

1779
01:07:59,839 --> 01:08:00,039
go for it.

1780
01:08:00,039 --> 01:08:05,982
But if you shoot for 120, knowing that
it's not possible, you're gonna probably

1781
01:08:05,982 --> 01:08:06,882
drop the hand top.

1782
01:08:06,882 --> 01:08:07,322
Guess what?

1783
01:08:07,322 --> 01:08:09,143
Cover a lot more ground than if you set
the bottle all the way.

1784
01:08:09,143 --> 01:08:12,945
Yep, it's the expectation you place in
yourself and the sense of urgency, right?

1785
01:08:12,945 --> 01:08:16,406
But it's also knowing that, hey, don't
beat yourself up because it's not

1786
01:08:16,406 --> 01:08:18,186
realistic, you know what I mean?

1787
01:08:18,307 --> 01:08:19,227
And again, what's real?

1788
01:08:19,227 --> 01:08:21,768
But at the same time, it's like, if you
know you can't be perfect, but you're

1789
01:08:21,768 --> 01:08:24,289
still shooting for it, you're not gonna be
beating yourself up on a day-to-day basis,

1790
01:08:24,289 --> 01:08:25,309
because guess what?

1791
01:08:28,228 --> 01:08:29,187
That was a question I wanted to ask you.

1792
01:08:29,187 --> 01:08:30,488
to ask you, could you brought that up?

1793
01:08:30,488 --> 01:08:31,828
What is a win for you every day?

1794
01:08:31,828 --> 01:08:33,229
Like, what does a winning day look like?

1795
01:08:33,229 --> 01:08:34,309
That's a good question.

1796
01:08:34,309 --> 01:08:35,930
I think for me, so I can go back to it.

1797
01:08:35,930 --> 01:08:40,912
I've gotten really good with like my
morning routine, my habits.

1798
01:08:40,912 --> 01:08:43,893
But I still look at that as a component,
right?

1799
01:08:43,893 --> 01:08:48,095
Because how I look at it is like, if I can
do those small things, even though I know

1800
01:08:48,095 --> 01:08:51,597
I'm going to have it or I know how to do
it, where I've done it for so long.

1801
01:08:51,597 --> 01:08:53,798
If I start my day off with a win.

1802
01:08:54,363 --> 01:08:54,622
game?

1803
01:08:54,622 --> 01:08:56,804
writing a hack, right, momentum, right?

1804
01:08:56,804 --> 01:08:59,806
And then the next way I look at it is, all
right, how do I add value to someone

1805
01:08:59,806 --> 01:09:01,347
either in the building or my team?

1806
01:09:01,347 --> 01:09:02,828
How do I make something today?

1807
01:09:02,828 --> 01:09:07,171
Right, so I try to categorize it in all
different ways of how I can win, you know?

1808
01:09:07,172 --> 01:09:11,035
And the first thing that I do is like, if
I can wake up early, just like I normally

1809
01:09:11,035 --> 01:09:15,018
do, and get my stuff done, even again,
even though I do it so often, I look at

1810
01:09:15,018 --> 01:09:17,560
that as a win, because, you know,
something coming from a perfectionist

1811
01:09:17,560 --> 01:09:19,801
mindset, like a lot of us do.

1812
01:09:20,255 --> 01:09:22,556
I would normally look at that as like,
well, that's just what I'm supposed to do.

1813
01:09:22,556 --> 01:09:23,196
And it's like, sure.

1814
01:09:23,196 --> 01:09:24,177
Yes, it is.

1815
01:09:24,177 --> 01:09:26,999
But why don't I give myself a little bit
of grace and be like, oh yeah, you did

1816
01:09:26,999 --> 01:09:28,260
that bar act and what's the next thing?

1817
01:09:28,260 --> 01:09:29,982
Because that's building my mental.

1818
01:09:29,982 --> 01:09:32,524
Right, so my first one of the day is
always my college.

1819
01:09:32,524 --> 01:09:33,685
It's always my morning class.

1820
01:09:33,685 --> 01:09:34,525
It's always that thing.

1821
01:09:34,525 --> 01:09:37,688
And if I can do that, even if it's not
perfect, I'm like, I got it done, cool,

1822
01:09:37,688 --> 01:09:39,269
what's the next one I'm looking for?

1823
01:09:39,269 --> 01:09:40,951
And the other one is the people.

1824
01:09:40,951 --> 01:09:42,352
I'm like, how do I add value to people?

1825
01:09:42,352 --> 01:09:43,633
I'm a people person.

1826
01:09:43,633 --> 01:09:47,616
I understand that if I can lead back to
the goal, I think that is the key to me

1827
01:09:47,616 --> 01:09:49,217
accessing more in my life.

1828
01:09:49,217 --> 01:09:50,999
right, because that energy piece, right?

1829
01:09:50,999 --> 01:09:54,100
So if I could do it without the
expectation of getting something back.

1830
01:09:54,321 --> 01:09:56,663
I know I'm doing the right thing and I
know I like to work out the way it's

1831
01:09:56,663 --> 01:09:57,444
supposed to be.

1832
01:09:57,444 --> 01:10:00,126
So I always look for ways, how do I make
someone's day?

1833
01:10:00,126 --> 01:10:01,406
Where can I add value?

1834
01:10:01,406 --> 01:10:02,967
Where can I help someone?

1835
01:10:03,308 --> 01:10:04,789
Where can I see someone smile?

1836
01:10:04,789 --> 01:10:07,231
And it's not just like one person, I'm
like, all right, cool, I made Josh's day,

1837
01:10:07,231 --> 01:10:08,892
now I'm going back, but fuck everybody.

1838
01:10:08,892 --> 01:10:09,392
You know what I mean?

1839
01:10:09,392 --> 01:10:12,594
It's like, okay, how many times can I do
this to do this in a day?

1840
01:10:12,795 --> 01:10:15,777
And then depending on how the day goes,
obviously, you know, we all have different

1841
01:10:15,777 --> 01:10:16,577
jobs.

1842
01:10:16,633 --> 01:10:17,493
different requirements.

1843
01:10:17,493 --> 01:10:19,374
But what I look at is like, all right, how
well did I do?

1844
01:10:19,374 --> 01:10:20,735
Did I not do well?

1845
01:10:20,735 --> 01:10:21,815
No, did I mess something up?

1846
01:10:21,815 --> 01:10:24,136
Okay, now what can I do to correct that?

1847
01:10:24,166 --> 01:10:27,808
Because to me, you know, it's hard to look
at the things that you do wrong.

1848
01:10:27,808 --> 01:10:32,371
So I try to see where I can improve in a
way where it's not beating myself up so

1849
01:10:32,371 --> 01:10:35,512
that I can correct it even if it is a
conversation with someone or if it's

1850
01:10:35,512 --> 01:10:37,934
something that attacks that I didn't do
correctly.

1851
01:10:37,934 --> 01:10:41,856
Because if I could retroactively look back
at that or be aware of that and break it

1852
01:10:41,856 --> 01:10:44,537
down and be like, okay, hey, what could
have I done differently?

1853
01:10:44,803 --> 01:10:48,426
I'm making more wins because that is the
process of winning, right?

1854
01:10:48,426 --> 01:10:51,728
If I lose or do something wrong, I'm
taking it in a positive way and looking at

1855
01:10:51,728 --> 01:10:52,945
how I can fix it.

1856
01:10:52,945 --> 01:10:53,125
Right?

1857
01:10:53,125 --> 01:10:56,106
Like before, if you would have told me,
like, hey, you have to watch a game video,

1858
01:10:56,106 --> 01:10:57,527
you know, after you're done with the game.

1859
01:10:57,527 --> 01:10:58,527
I wouldn't want to do that.

1860
01:10:58,527 --> 01:11:01,068
Like, I'm like, I don't want to see all
the things I made wrong.

1861
01:11:01,068 --> 01:11:01,969
I don't want to know about it.

1862
01:11:01,969 --> 01:11:04,029
Like, I just want to forget it and do
wrong.

1863
01:11:04,250 --> 01:11:07,871
Well, for me, I'll be able to
retroactively look at those things.

1864
01:11:07,871 --> 01:11:08,531
Yep.

1865
01:11:08,531 --> 01:11:08,752
Right?

1866
01:11:08,752 --> 01:11:10,752
So I hope that kind of helps with
answering your question.

1867
01:11:10,752 --> 01:11:13,465
But like, for me, I look at it in any
single way that I can.

1868
01:11:13,465 --> 01:11:16,708
make someone's day or do something of
value to the world.

1869
01:11:16,708 --> 01:11:20,751
And again, I try to look even as something
so small as saying, hi, I'm like, what

1870
01:11:20,751 --> 01:11:22,792
bigger purpose could I had an impact on?

1871
01:11:23,041 --> 01:11:26,684
Outside of just making you smile and
making you laugh or giving you a few

1872
01:11:26,684 --> 01:11:27,884
seconds of like, oh, okay, cool.

1873
01:11:27,884 --> 01:11:29,866
I needed that, right?

1874
01:11:29,866 --> 01:11:31,487
I'm like, what is the bigger purpose on
that?

1875
01:11:31,487 --> 01:11:34,189
Because to me, then it takes that small
win into something bigger.

1876
01:11:34,189 --> 01:11:35,070
How would that make sense?

1877
01:11:35,070 --> 01:11:37,812
Really, it's a win when you say hi to
somebody because they're like, damn, Ryan

1878
01:11:37,812 --> 01:11:38,653
Reynolds just said hi to me.

1879
01:11:38,653 --> 01:11:39,973
Really?

1880
01:11:40,138 --> 01:11:41,459
Hey bro, I'll take that one.

1881
01:11:41,459 --> 01:11:42,680
I'll take that one.

1882
01:11:44,042 --> 01:11:45,153
I need an extra hundred pounds, dog.

1883
01:11:45,153 --> 01:11:45,913
that comment.

1884
01:11:45,913 --> 01:11:49,136
Dude, I would say for me, it's literally
almost identical to yours.

1885
01:11:49,136 --> 01:11:53,899
Okay, what I would add to that for my
winning day is was I present where I was?

1886
01:11:53,899 --> 01:11:55,339
Was I where my feet were?

1887
01:11:55,360 --> 01:11:58,942
That's something as a father, somebody
that's very ambitious with his career and

1888
01:11:58,942 --> 01:12:03,545
like just personal physical fitness and
all that, is like, was I where I was,

1889
01:12:03,545 --> 01:12:03,766
right?

1890
01:12:03,766 --> 01:12:04,886
Was I working with my kids?

1891
01:12:04,886 --> 01:12:06,867
Cause that's a loss, like immediately.

1892
01:12:07,448 --> 01:12:08,749
So I look at it that way.

1893
01:12:08,749 --> 01:12:10,009
And then the second thing,

1894
01:12:10,422 --> 01:12:15,343
is a successful audit of my day, similar
to you, but I audit my conversations,

1895
01:12:15,343 --> 01:12:15,523
right?

1896
01:12:15,523 --> 01:12:17,483
It's like, hey, what could I have done
here?

1897
01:12:17,504 --> 01:12:21,485
And did I give 100% to that conversation
and 100% of the value that I knew I could

1898
01:12:21,485 --> 01:12:22,165
give, right?

1899
01:12:22,165 --> 01:12:25,066
Or did I hold something back, which I
mean, I can't remember the last time I've

1900
01:12:25,066 --> 01:12:25,886
done that.

1901
01:12:25,886 --> 01:12:28,687
So yeah, very, very similar to yours
though.

1902
01:12:28,687 --> 01:12:29,127
Value, bro.

1903
01:12:29,127 --> 01:12:29,227
Yeah.

1904
01:12:29,227 --> 01:12:30,767
It's crazy how we're a lot alike when it
comes to this.

1905
01:12:30,767 --> 01:12:32,768
Yeah, 100%.

1906
01:12:32,768 --> 01:12:33,488
I think there's a secret to that.

1907
01:12:33,488 --> 01:12:37,289
You know, not even, but I think there's-
Success leaves clues.

1908
01:12:37,289 --> 01:12:37,823
Yeah, 100%.

1909
01:12:37,823 --> 01:12:38,383
100%.

1910
01:12:38,583 --> 01:12:39,664
I think that's the best way to put it.

1911
01:12:39,664 --> 01:12:40,665
It really does.

1912
01:12:40,665 --> 01:12:45,349
You know, but I think the more that you
can do that and also with this, too,

1913
01:12:45,349 --> 01:12:47,391
there's never going to be a time where
everything is perfect.

1914
01:12:47,391 --> 01:12:48,552
You're not going to win everything.

1915
01:12:48,552 --> 01:12:51,854
Like even in your days, as good as it can
go, there's going to be a loss.

1916
01:12:52,435 --> 01:12:54,486
And don't sit on those losses and.

1917
01:12:54,486 --> 01:12:55,906
Focus on the wins.

1918
01:12:55,926 --> 01:12:58,287
Look at the losses and look in the long
run.

1919
01:12:58,287 --> 01:13:01,328
Right, but even to your point, dude, as
president as you can be, as much

1920
01:13:01,328 --> 01:13:04,929
reflection as you do, I bet you there's
always a loss that you can pick out of

1921
01:13:04,929 --> 01:13:05,609
your day.

1922
01:13:05,609 --> 01:13:07,069
I bet you there's always something you can
get.

1923
01:13:07,069 --> 01:13:08,161
Well, I definitely could have done that,

1924
01:13:08,161 --> 01:13:09,481
better, like always.

1925
01:13:09,801 --> 01:13:11,902
But again, there's a lot of things that
you do well.

1926
01:13:12,182 --> 01:13:16,103
The reason I bring that up is because
again, cause I'm a perfectionist or hate

1927
01:13:16,103 --> 01:13:20,024
saying even I am because it's confirming
or telling me that this is why I am.

1928
01:13:20,344 --> 01:13:21,781
These thoughts that I believe

1929
01:13:21,781 --> 01:13:24,902
or this mindset that i thought you got to
kind of work through is just being

1930
01:13:24,902 --> 01:13:30,404
perfectionist it's not real right and i
think when you can realize that it gives

1931
01:13:30,404 --> 01:13:33,625
you a little bit more grace to keep going
on that momentum because i think a lot of

1932
01:13:33,625 --> 01:13:36,285
the momentum gets killed when you're not
perfect

1933
01:13:36,431 --> 01:13:41,273
So that would be my two cents into that, I
would say.

1934
01:13:41,273 --> 01:13:42,053
Love it.

1935
01:13:47,375 --> 01:13:47,775
You think so?

1936
01:13:47,775 --> 01:13:48,336
All right.

1937
01:13:48,336 --> 01:13:49,564
I'll go with that, dude.

1938
01:13:49,564 --> 01:13:52,665
That was just, I wasn't in the right head
space because the wifi kept seeing like

1939
01:13:52,665 --> 01:13:53,185
bull crap.

1940
01:13:53,185 --> 01:13:54,926
So I think this one was amazing.

1941
01:13:54,926 --> 01:13:57,687
Everything happens for a very, very good
purpose.

1942
01:13:57,687 --> 01:14:01,709
And, uh, we definitely made this one
better, but guys clean takeaways for this

1943
01:14:01,709 --> 01:14:02,698
one are.

1944
01:14:02,698 --> 01:14:03,738
You got to expect more.

1945
01:14:03,738 --> 01:14:05,139
You got to have a more positive mindset.

1946
01:14:05,139 --> 01:14:08,341
You got to take an audit of what is
affecting your beliefs.

1947
01:14:08,341 --> 01:14:10,743
And you got to make a conscious decision
to believe differently.

1948
01:14:10,743 --> 01:14:11,243
Right.

1949
01:14:11,243 --> 01:14:11,503
Yes.

1950
01:14:11,503 --> 01:14:12,744
It's really that simple.

1951
01:14:12,744 --> 01:14:12,884
Right.

1952
01:14:12,884 --> 01:14:15,366
And then you get into action,
understanding that you don't have that

1953
01:14:15,366 --> 01:14:17,707
belief to take action, the belief will
come right.

1954
01:14:17,707 --> 01:14:21,169
As long as you are looking at what is and
not what was.

1955
01:14:21,350 --> 01:14:21,630
Right.

1956
01:14:21,630 --> 01:14:24,692
So books that we referenced was the
miracle morning, and then I'm going to

1957
01:14:24,692 --> 01:14:26,053
throw up that Lex Friedman post.

1958
01:14:26,053 --> 01:14:27,301
So you got to make sure I grabbed that.

1959
01:14:27,301 --> 01:14:27,922
absolutely.

1960
01:14:27,922 --> 01:14:30,224
Guys, I hope you have an amazing, amazing
weekend.

1961
01:14:30,224 --> 01:14:31,925
I appreciate all of you listening.

1962
01:14:31,925 --> 01:14:35,608
As always, if you took anything of value
away from the show, please share it.

1963
01:14:35,789 --> 01:14:38,831
Our main mission here is not to monetize
this and make it killing, because

1964
01:14:38,831 --> 01:14:41,974
obviously we don't, we just want to have
value to the world and change people's

1965
01:14:41,974 --> 01:14:43,836
lives and help people understand that you
can be better.

1966
01:14:43,836 --> 01:14:44,774
Oh yeah, thank you.

1967
01:14:44,774 --> 01:14:45,234
decision to be.

1968
01:14:45,234 --> 01:14:47,535
Love it, and we'll go back to the health
side of things today in our viral clip,

1969
01:14:47,535 --> 01:14:55,337
please if you guys have any questions, do
not hesitate for a minute or two to take a

1970
01:14:55,337 --> 01:14:55,457
nerd.

1971
01:14:55,457 --> 01:14:57,086
I also don't hesitate to talk to us

1972
01:14:57,086 --> 01:15:00,749
of helping or doing as much as we can to
add value to the world.

1973
01:15:00,749 --> 01:15:02,371
So thank you guys.

1974
01:15:02,371 --> 01:15:05,513
We appreciate you like comment, subscribe.

1975
01:15:05,513 --> 01:15:06,554
I think that's a thing.

1976
01:15:06,554 --> 01:15:06,854
I don't know.

1977
01:15:06,854 --> 01:15:07,695
I heard that from YouTube.

1978
01:15:07,695 --> 01:15:09,516
So do all that stuff.

1979
01:15:09,517 --> 01:15:12,839
Help spread the message, share it to
someone who can take value from this.

1980
01:15:12,879 --> 01:15:14,540
And yeah, that's all I got, man.

1981
01:15:14,972 --> 01:15:16,002
Talk to you guys next time.

1982
01:15:16,002 --> 01:15:16,791
Peace!