1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,125 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,125 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,875 --> 01:00:11,250 Okay, good morning and welcome to Friday. 4 01:00:11,583 --> 01:00:12,833 We did it yet again. 5 01:00:13,125 --> 01:00:14,000 Well done you. 6 01:00:14,458 --> 01:00:16,166 And if you are over this 7 01:00:16,166 --> 01:00:17,458 week, like some of us are, 8 01:00:17,458 --> 01:00:18,166 it's been a weird one. 9 01:00:18,666 --> 01:00:21,916 Good news, today is National Escape Day. 10 01:00:22,208 --> 01:00:24,291 Well, no, it's not about running away. 11 01:00:24,500 --> 01:00:26,041 Today is about escaping from 12 01:00:26,041 --> 01:00:27,416 and breaking those patterns 13 01:00:27,583 --> 01:00:29,250 that quietly drain you. 14 01:00:29,750 --> 01:00:30,583 Well, let's do some of 15 01:00:30,583 --> 01:00:31,583 the opposite of draining. 16 01:00:31,833 --> 01:00:33,458 Let's pour in some knowledge. 17 01:00:33,708 --> 01:00:34,958 The answer to yesterday's 18 01:00:34,958 --> 01:00:36,916 trivia question, the harp. 19 01:00:37,250 --> 01:00:38,000 The musical instrument 20 01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:39,208 that is the national symbol 21 01:00:39,208 --> 01:00:41,000 of Ireland is the harp. 22 01:00:41,541 --> 01:00:42,750 And now the essential 23 01:00:42,750 --> 01:00:44,500 vitamins in your morning cereal. 24 01:00:44,500 --> 01:00:45,625 Today's quote is from 25 01:00:45,625 --> 01:00:47,625 birthday boy turning 52 today, 26 01:00:48,291 --> 01:00:49,958 Christian Bale, who said, quote, 27 01:00:50,250 --> 01:00:52,125 "If you believe in yourself and have 28 01:00:52,125 --> 01:00:53,500 dedication and pride 29 01:00:53,833 --> 01:00:54,708 "and you never quit, 30 01:00:55,125 --> 01:00:56,041 you will be a winner." 31 01:00:56,333 --> 01:00:56,791 End quote. 32 01:00:57,375 --> 01:00:58,958 Now go win that football game. 33 01:00:59,708 --> 01:01:01,291 Doesn't that sound like a halftime speech 34 01:01:01,291 --> 01:01:02,166 from a football coach? 35 01:01:02,750 --> 01:01:03,833 Well, this is simple 36 01:01:03,833 --> 01:01:05,208 and hard at the same time. 37 01:01:05,583 --> 01:01:06,916 Achieving success, it's 38 01:01:06,916 --> 01:01:08,500 not solely based on talent, 39 01:01:08,500 --> 01:01:10,458 but on a combination of 40 01:01:10,458 --> 01:01:12,125 self-belief, hard work, 41 01:01:12,583 --> 01:01:13,875 and most importantly, 42 01:01:14,875 --> 01:01:16,375 extreme perseverance. 43 01:01:16,750 --> 01:01:17,500 So keep at it. 44 01:01:17,958 --> 01:01:19,958 Well, let's hear from the experts now. 45 01:01:20,125 --> 01:01:21,125 It's time to pour in 46 01:01:21,125 --> 01:01:22,208 some of the let them theory 47 01:01:22,208 --> 01:01:23,083 by Mel Robbins. 48 01:01:23,708 --> 01:01:25,291 And today we are starting 49 01:01:25,291 --> 01:01:27,875 chapter 17, an introduction to it, 50 01:01:28,833 --> 01:01:31,250 "Provides Support the Right Way." 51 01:01:31,625 --> 01:01:33,958 Now in this chapter, Mel is reframing 52 01:01:33,958 --> 01:01:35,666 what support actually looks like. 53 01:01:36,041 --> 01:01:37,708 She explains that many of us confuse 54 01:01:37,708 --> 01:01:39,458 support with rescuing. 55 01:01:40,208 --> 01:01:42,250 And while rescuing feels helpful, 56 01:01:42,250 --> 01:01:42,916 it often creates 57 01:01:42,916 --> 01:01:44,875 dependence instead of strength. 58 01:01:45,458 --> 01:01:46,583 So Mel writes, quote, 59 01:01:46,833 --> 01:01:47,583 "Supporting someone doesn't 60 01:01:47,583 --> 01:01:48,958 mean fixing their problems. 61 01:01:49,333 --> 01:01:51,416 "It means trusting them to solve them." 62 01:01:51,416 --> 01:01:51,833 End quote. 63 01:01:52,375 --> 01:01:54,000 Now that distinction, it's huge. 64 01:01:54,500 --> 01:01:56,250 When we step in too quickly, 65 01:01:56,375 --> 01:01:59,291 we rob others of confidence and growth. 66 01:01:59,875 --> 01:02:01,125 So she explains that healthy 67 01:02:01,125 --> 01:02:03,041 support is rooted in respect. 68 01:02:03,625 --> 01:02:05,500 It listens without controlling. 69 01:02:05,500 --> 01:02:07,041 It encourages without enabling. 70 01:02:07,750 --> 01:02:09,208 And most importantly, it 71 01:02:09,208 --> 01:02:10,833 allows people to experience 72 01:02:11,208 --> 01:02:13,875 the natural outcomes of their choices. 73 01:02:14,583 --> 01:02:16,166 Now, Mel also highlights how 74 01:02:16,166 --> 01:02:17,500 over-supporting others 75 01:02:17,916 --> 01:02:18,708 often comes at the 76 01:02:18,708 --> 01:02:20,208 cost of our own energy, 77 01:02:20,583 --> 01:02:22,250 our own boundaries, our own wellbeing. 78 01:02:23,041 --> 01:02:24,000 True support doesn't 79 01:02:24,000 --> 01:02:25,500 require self-sacrifice. 80 01:02:26,041 --> 01:02:28,500 It requires presence and restraint. 81 01:02:29,083 --> 01:02:29,750 All right, that's plenty 82 01:02:29,750 --> 01:02:30,958 to chew on for you today. 83 01:02:30,958 --> 01:02:33,083 So here is your Friday takeaway. 84 01:02:33,708 --> 01:02:34,916 Real support empowers 85 01:02:34,916 --> 01:02:36,916 people to stand on their own. 86 01:02:37,583 --> 01:02:39,500 So today, remember, escape 87 01:02:39,500 --> 01:02:41,583 today doesn't mean leaving. 88 01:02:41,583 --> 01:02:43,875 It means choosing healthier habits. 89 01:02:44,500 --> 01:02:45,833 All right, it is time for the prize 90 01:02:45,833 --> 01:02:47,291 from the bottom of the cereal box. 91 01:02:47,666 --> 01:02:49,041 The morning cereal should 92 01:02:49,041 --> 01:02:50,083 be a question of the day. 93 01:02:50,416 --> 01:02:51,666 And they are harder on 94 01:02:51,666 --> 01:02:53,875 Friday, so prepare yourself. 95 01:02:53,875 --> 01:02:54,500 Here it is. 96 01:02:55,250 --> 01:02:58,291 What craft involves cutting out images 97 01:02:58,791 --> 01:03:01,125 and varnishing them onto an object? 98 01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:03,083 All right, all right. 99 01:03:03,291 --> 01:03:04,375 Hey, have a great 100 01:03:04,375 --> 01:03:05,791 weekend getting back out there 101 01:03:05,791 --> 01:03:07,666 to the sports field, to the sidelines, 102 01:03:08,000 --> 01:03:09,500 stay warm, stay safe. 103 01:03:10,041 --> 01:03:11,000 And thanks for listening 104 01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:12,166 to Morning Cereal this week. 105 01:03:12,500 --> 01:03:14,375 We will see you back here on Monday 106 01:03:14,541 --> 01:03:16,125 for the trivia answer and 107 01:03:16,125 --> 01:03:17,916 more sugar for the soul. 108 01:03:18,208 --> 01:03:20,625 And until then, have a fantastic day. 109 01:03:21,916 --> 01:03:23,458 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 110 01:03:23,666 --> 01:03:25,000 to the Morning Cereal podcast 111 01:03:25,208 --> 01:03:27,000 on the One Life Live It channel. 112 01:03:27,500 --> 01:03:29,125 You can find more episodes and videos 113 01:03:29,125 --> 01:03:30,208 by visiting our YouTube 114 01:03:30,208 --> 01:03:31,500 channel and the website 115 01:03:31,625 --> 01:03:34,500 at seaningless and at seaningless.com, 116 01:03:34,750 --> 01:03:35,583 where you can also 117 01:03:35,583 --> 01:03:37,000 follow our other podcasts, 118 01:03:37,375 --> 01:03:39,291 the Mr. and Mrs. Inglis podcast and the 119 01:03:39,291 --> 01:03:40,250 Life Happens podcast. 120 01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:43,208 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 121 01:03:43,208 --> 01:03:45,166 into everyday issues, self-improvement, 122 01:03:45,166 --> 01:03:46,750 and well-being, business and finance, 123 01:03:47,208 --> 01:03:48,958 and we welcome special guests too. 124 01:03:49,416 --> 01:03:50,500 So join us, it'll be a 125 01:03:50,500 --> 01:03:51,500 good time, I promise. 126 01:03:52,083 --> 01:03:53,166 Thanks again for listening. 127 01:03:53,333 --> 01:03:54,875 Have a fantastic day and 128 01:03:54,875 --> 01:03:55,375 we'll see you tomorrow.