1 01:00:00,500 --> 01:00:03,166 Good morning and welcome 2 01:00:03,166 --> 01:00:04,708 to your morning cereal. 3 01:00:08,958 --> 01:00:10,958 All right, good morning everyone and 4 01:00:10,958 --> 01:00:12,291 welcome to Wednesday. 5 01:00:12,583 --> 01:00:13,666 Welcome to the midweek. 6 01:00:13,958 --> 01:00:15,750 Everybody loves that milestone. 7 01:00:16,166 --> 01:00:18,416 And if you are a pet lover, 8 01:00:18,500 --> 01:00:20,708 you're going to love today's special day. 9 01:00:21,166 --> 01:00:23,833 Today is national dress up your pet day. 10 01:00:24,208 --> 01:00:25,791 You gotta love those small 11 01:00:25,791 --> 01:00:27,458 knife wielding dogs, right? 12 01:00:27,541 --> 01:00:28,625 I actually saw one on a 13 01:00:28,625 --> 01:00:30,166 soccer field just last year. 14 01:00:30,875 --> 01:00:34,000 And yesterday's trivia answer is keratin. 15 01:00:34,666 --> 01:00:36,208 Hair is made of keratin. 16 01:00:36,958 --> 01:00:37,875 And now the essential 17 01:00:37,875 --> 01:00:39,750 vitamins in your morning cereal. 18 01:00:39,791 --> 01:00:41,041 Today's quote is from 19 01:00:41,041 --> 01:00:43,958 birthday boy, Jason Bateman, 20 01:00:43,958 --> 01:00:45,000 who said, quote, "You 21 01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:46,375 learn a lot about yourself 22 01:00:46,708 --> 01:00:48,208 by failing," end quote. 23 01:00:48,500 --> 01:00:49,750 Now the smart list 24 01:00:49,750 --> 01:00:51,166 wonder here, he's right. 25 01:00:51,666 --> 01:00:52,708 Setbacks and mistakes, 26 01:00:53,125 --> 01:00:54,708 they can offer profound 27 01:00:54,708 --> 01:00:56,041 insights into your character, 28 01:00:56,500 --> 01:00:57,416 into your resilience 29 01:00:57,416 --> 01:00:59,250 and your true priorities 30 01:00:59,666 --> 01:01:02,000 in a way that often success cannot. 31 01:01:02,791 --> 01:01:03,500 All right, I know 32 01:01:03,500 --> 01:01:04,500 you've heard enough from me, 33 01:01:04,500 --> 01:01:06,250 so let's pour in the let 34 01:01:06,250 --> 01:01:08,291 them theory by Mel Robbins. 35 01:01:08,875 --> 01:01:12,250 And today we begin the ABC loop 36 01:01:12,250 --> 01:01:14,250 sub-chapter part one. 37 01:01:14,250 --> 01:01:15,833 It's called the ground rules. 38 01:01:16,250 --> 01:01:19,125 And here Robbins introduces the ABC loop 39 01:01:19,125 --> 01:01:20,458 as a practical framework 40 01:01:20,583 --> 01:01:23,083 for navigating conflict without control. 41 01:01:23,583 --> 01:01:25,250 Now the foundation of this loop, 42 01:01:25,375 --> 01:01:26,375 it begins with one 43 01:01:26,375 --> 01:01:27,541 essential truth, quote, 44 01:01:27,833 --> 01:01:29,625 "You cannot change people, 45 01:01:29,625 --> 01:01:30,666 but you can change how 46 01:01:30,666 --> 01:01:32,125 you show up," end quote. 47 01:01:32,500 --> 01:01:33,291 You've heard that one before. 48 01:01:33,875 --> 01:01:35,500 The ground rules are about 49 01:01:35,583 --> 01:01:37,541 emotional restraint and awareness. 50 01:01:38,083 --> 01:01:39,041 Now Robbins explains 51 01:01:39,041 --> 01:01:41,250 that most conflict escalates 52 01:01:41,333 --> 01:01:44,000 because we react before we understand. 53 01:01:44,541 --> 01:01:46,041 Our brains rush to judgment, 54 01:01:46,083 --> 01:01:47,333 filling in intent 55 01:01:47,333 --> 01:01:49,208 that may not even exist. 56 01:01:49,666 --> 01:01:50,416 She writes, quote, 57 01:01:50,416 --> 01:01:51,750 "Your assumptions feel true, 58 01:01:51,750 --> 01:01:53,333 but that doesn't mean that they are 59 01:01:53,333 --> 01:01:54,625 accurate," end quote. 60 01:01:55,125 --> 01:01:56,791 So this chapter, it asks 61 01:01:56,791 --> 01:01:58,791 you to pause just long enough 62 01:01:59,250 --> 01:02:00,708 to question your story. 63 01:02:01,250 --> 01:02:02,958 Instead of assuming someone is careless, 64 01:02:02,958 --> 01:02:04,291 disrespectful, or difficult, 65 01:02:04,958 --> 01:02:06,208 Robbins encourages curiosity. 66 01:02:07,166 --> 01:02:09,125 Why might they be acting this way? 67 01:02:09,208 --> 01:02:10,666 Why don't they know yet? 68 01:02:11,083 --> 01:02:13,125 The ABC loop starts with 69 01:02:13,125 --> 01:02:14,625 discipline, not silence, 70 01:02:14,958 --> 01:02:16,750 but intentional response. 71 01:02:16,750 --> 01:02:18,333 When you slow down your reaction, 72 01:02:18,333 --> 01:02:19,833 you create space for clarity. 73 01:02:20,375 --> 01:02:21,625 Robbins reminds us that, quote, 74 01:02:21,625 --> 01:02:23,041 "When you regulate yourself, 75 01:02:23,083 --> 01:02:24,916 you lower the emotional temperature 76 01:02:25,416 --> 01:02:27,500 of every interaction," end quote. 77 01:02:28,000 --> 01:02:29,541 So this section isn't about letting 78 01:02:29,541 --> 01:02:30,500 people off the hook. 79 01:02:30,958 --> 01:02:32,541 It's about staying grounded, 80 01:02:32,541 --> 01:02:34,083 so conversations don't 81 01:02:34,083 --> 01:02:36,000 spiral into emotional chaos. 82 01:02:36,541 --> 01:02:38,000 You maintain influence, 83 01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:39,000 you maintain dignity 84 01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:41,041 and control over yourself. 85 01:02:41,541 --> 01:02:43,416 All right, here's your hump day takeaway. 86 01:02:44,333 --> 01:02:46,500 Awareness comes before change, 87 01:02:46,958 --> 01:02:49,375 and calm creates clarity. 88 01:02:49,875 --> 01:02:51,708 So on this hump day indeed, 89 01:02:51,958 --> 01:02:53,791 whether it's people or pets, 90 01:02:54,208 --> 01:02:56,125 not everything needs fixing. 91 01:02:56,541 --> 01:02:57,375 Sometimes it just needs 92 01:02:57,375 --> 01:02:58,291 a little bit of space. 93 01:02:58,916 --> 01:03:00,375 All right, now the prize from 94 01:03:00,375 --> 01:03:01,666 the bottom of the cereal box, 95 01:03:01,666 --> 01:03:02,666 the morning cereal 96 01:03:02,666 --> 01:03:04,750 trivia question of the day. 97 01:03:05,333 --> 01:03:08,791 From what continent do bananas originate? 98 01:03:09,750 --> 01:03:11,291 All right, well, you got it 99 01:03:11,291 --> 01:03:12,625 narrowed down to seven probably. 100 01:03:13,375 --> 01:03:14,958 We will see you back here tomorrow 101 01:03:14,958 --> 01:03:16,375 for the answer to that and 102 01:03:16,375 --> 01:03:17,875 more sugar for your soul. 103 01:03:18,375 --> 01:03:21,416 And until then, have a fantastic day. 104 01:03:22,625 --> 01:03:24,166 Don't forget to follow and subscribe 105 01:03:24,166 --> 01:03:25,541 to the Morning Cereal podcast 106 01:03:25,916 --> 01:03:27,666 on the One Life Live It channel. 107 01:03:28,208 --> 01:03:29,833 You can find more episodes and videos 108 01:03:29,833 --> 01:03:31,333 by visiting our YouTube channel 109 01:03:31,500 --> 01:03:33,625 and the website at seanenglishless 110 01:03:33,833 --> 01:03:35,208 and at seanenglishless.com, 111 01:03:35,458 --> 01:03:36,291 where you can also 112 01:03:36,291 --> 01:03:37,708 follow our other podcast, 113 01:03:38,041 --> 01:03:39,250 the Mr. and Mrs. English podcast 114 01:03:39,791 --> 01:03:40,958 and the Life Happens podcast. 115 01:03:41,750 --> 01:03:43,916 And these other podcasts will dive deeper 116 01:03:43,916 --> 01:03:44,833 into everyday issues, 117 01:03:45,083 --> 01:03:46,375 self-improvement and well-being, 118 01:03:46,583 --> 01:03:48,375 business and finance, and we 119 01:03:48,375 --> 01:03:49,625 welcome special guests too. 120 01:03:50,083 --> 01:03:50,875 So join us. 121 01:03:50,916 --> 01:03:52,208 It will be a good time, I promise. 122 01:03:52,916 --> 01:03:53,750 Thanks again for listening. 123 01:03:54,000 --> 01:03:55,541 Have a fantastic day and 124 01:03:55,541 --> 01:03:56,083 we'll see you tomorrow.