When you learn you're bisexual at age 5, especially in a homophobic world, people impose a very particular brand on comp-het on you. When you're with women, they act like it isn't real. When you're with men, they act like you've "finally figured it out." And when your parents refuse to acknowledge a full HALF of your identity, it can lead to a lot of problems. This is Laura's story of coming out... and coming out... and coming out...
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00:00 Hook
0:01:10 Theme Song
0:01:45 Intro/Welcome!
0:02:52 I knew at 5
0:07:15 Bullying
0:10:16 Social Pressure to Hide
0:13:17 Middle School dating
0:15:57 Coming Out Attempt 1
0:17:47 Mild acceptance
0:19:16 Coming Out Attempt 2
0:20:25 In the closet--fumbling
0:22:00 Problematic lesbianism
0:24:15 How men are / FBoy phase
0:25:43 Psychadelics & introspection
0:28:27 Dating men
0:28:59 Coming out attempts 3 & 4
0:31:28 Final attempt
0:33:23 No contact = freedom
0:35:09 Recurring Homophobia
0:36:19 You never stop coming out
0:37:37 Kept in a Box
0:39:07 Takeaway / Love
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Laura knew she was bisexual from a VERY early age. At 5, she knew she liked girls. At 6, she knew she liked boys. But society doesn't really accept bisexual people, and bi people are often erased or told to "choose a side," (another version of experiencing comphet) where people will choose one or the other sides of your identity and choose to ignore the rest of it. Straight people want you to be straight. Gay people want you to be gay. And depending on who you're dating, certain friends may pay less attention to you. Parents may reject you or refuse to listen to you or acknowledge your feelings at all.
This is Laura's story of coming out as Bisexual... to her friends, and her family, over time. And then doing it again. And again. And again. Because some people just don't listen.